Meet Matt and Kari Perkins, widowed parents who blended a family of seven after deep loss. They know you don’t “get over” loss—you grow with it. Find honest hope for grieving parents and blended families as you form a future without erasing the past.
188: Growing up Blended: Micah Scharchburg
Grew up in a blended family? New houses, new rules, new “normal” every few years. Ron Deal talks with Barna’s Micah Scharchburg about growing up in chaos—and how to parent without passing the past onto your kids.
About the Podcast
FamilyLife Blended® provides timeless wisdom and practical help and hope for blended families and those who love them. Join Ron L. Deal, LMFT, LPC as he and his guests discuss a wide variety of marriage, family, and relationship topics related to blended families.
Latest Episodes
Blended family life is messy—old fears, exes, money stress, kid loyalties. Ron Deal and Gayla Grace name the “ghosts” haunting stepfamilies—and why you pull back when you want to lean in.
Vaneetha Risner knows the raw grief of unwanted divorce and betrayal. She gets church shame, lost identity, lingering triggers. Yet God has turned lament into deeper trust. This was never the plan, but it has forged faith. And it offers hope for yours.
When did “family time” become everyone scrolling in the same room? Ron Deal and Arlene Pellicane reveal how to manage screentime and raise screen-wise kids who look up, laugh, and live offline. Real connection still beats the algorithm every time.
Through “memory lane,” fire-pit talks, and birthday cakes at graves, podcasters Justin & Kelly Walker show how grief triggers, alongside laughter and love, collide in a blended family of nine.
After a scandalous start to their blended marriage, Ines Franklin and her husband Jim discovered God’s grace turns broken stories into masterpieces. With raw honesty–and pulling from the richness of the beatitudes in the Bible–Ines explains core ingredients to flourishing in blended family life, with heaps of practical takeaways. What began in shame ends with 5 kids, 10 grandkids, and redemption that shouts hope.
Overwhelmed by blended-family brokenness? Ron Deal and Wynand Jacobs dive into messy, unpolished realities, using kintsugi as a metaphor. They explore God’s power to reform shame into beauty, grief into testimony, and mistakes into stories that shine.
Blended family Christmas got you juggling joy, stress & edgy emotions? Podcast hosts and blended marriage coaches Mike & Kim Anderson drop truth & tools for your stepfamily’s holiday, helping you trade pain and chaos for peace and connection.
God’s plan threw an unplanned pregnancy into their blended family. Jay and Tammy Daughtry unpack their Day-One big feelings, a discovered grace to cover shame, and their faith-fueled healing. Discover a blueprint for turning chaos into hope.
Five kids. Two parenting styles. One rocky first Christmas. Scott and Deana Thayer share how faith, grit, and their “95/5” rule turned chaos into connection—helping blended families find hope, healing, and love that lasts through every messy moment.
Could three simple questions transform your marriage? Dr. Gary Chapman shares raw stories, faith-fueled wisdom, and keys to a successful marriage in ways messy, real, and full of hope. Love deeper, fight fair, and grow stronger—one step at a time.
Divorce hurts. But for kids, it can feel like their world’s split in two. Summer Butler shares her story and a workbook that helps kids process emotions, set boundaries, and handle life between two homes—leveraging drawing, writing, and real talk.
What helps a blended family bond after loss? Should you force togetherness—or let it grow? Author Rob Bugh, wife Rhonda, and their adult kids unpack grief, grace, awkward blended holidays, and healing in an honest, hopeful look at rebuilding family.
When a child loses a parent, grief doesn’t end for them. And when they join a stepfamily, we need to come alongside with love and support as parents & stepparents and honor their pain and memories. Ron Deal talks with Diane Fromme about best ways to help.
A neurodivergent marriage includes at least one partner with a neurodevelopmental condition like autism or ADHD. Ron Deal speaks with Dr. Stephanie & Dan Holmes on the challenges of their neurodivurgent marriage, how to recognize it, & strategies to cope.
Ron Deal speaks with Gayla Grace about her new book, Beautifully Blended: 101 Devotions to Encourage Couples in Blended Families. The book offers support & advice with relatable anecdotes, along with a devotion, prayer, & Bible reading for each day.
In-law relationships can be tenuous, especially those with ex-spouses. Ron Deal speaks with Dave & Ashley Willis about building bridges, not battlegrounds, through healthy boundaries and grace-filled conversations that prevent powerlessness.
Ron Deal and Gayla Grace answer questions from Blended & Blessed: how do I cope with feeling torn between my kids and my spouse; how do I talk to my teen who doesn’t want me to remarry; how do we manage the common ghosts of marriage past, and much more.

