{"id":9571,"date":"2012-03-23T12:01:00","date_gmt":"2012-03-23T17:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sites-stage.familylife.com\/flministries\/?p=9571"},"modified":"2012-03-23T12:01:00","modified_gmt":"2012-03-23T17:01:00","slug":"media-entertainment-and-your-family","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/articles\/topics\/life-issues\/challenges\/media-and-entertainment\/media-entertainment-and-your-family\/","title":{"rendered":"Media Entertainment and Your Family"},"content":{"rendered":"
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It really doesn\u2019t matter what the media culprits are. Men often struggle with the sports monster and, increasingly, the personal computer. Just how many great match-up basketball games do we need to watch between Small Potatoes U and Obscurity Tech? Are we surfing the Internet so much that our hand is looking like a claw from gripping the mouse?<\/p>\n

Women may be more inclined to invest too much time in television dramas, entertainment talk shows, novels, and special-interest magazines.<\/p>\n

We need convictions and a personal, proactive plan for handling media wisely. Then we can move on to help our teens make their own solid choices.<\/p>\n

1. We have the responsibility and right to screen and set limits to all forms of media consumed by our family.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a suggestion: Make it clear that as long as your child resides in your home, the parents will have the right to screen\u2014and bar\u2014all media consumed by anyone in the family. Ideally, you will be involved in helping choose the media in the first place. As your child gets older, however, he will begin making many of his own decisions. Brace yourself. Some of those decisions will not be good ones. That\u2019s why if some media item that violates the family\u2019s standards sneaks into your home, you should retain the right to eliminate its use.<\/p>\n

Such a stand will not be easy. But if you have a baseline policy like this, you will have a chance to keep your head above water when the waves of media hit.<\/p>\n

2. Use of media by parents must set a high standard for media use by children.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If we sit on the couch watching so much television that our nickname is Spud, we can\u2019t expect to easily confine our 12-year-old\u2019s viewing to a few selected PBS specials each week.<\/p>\n

It would be good if every family in America adopted its own media use policy. Ask, \u201dJust what and how much media are we going to devour inside the four walls of our home?\u201d<\/p>\n

Americans devote, on average, 15 of 40 free time hours per week watching television. That compares to 6.7 hours socializing, 2.8 hours reading, and 2.2 hours engaging in outdoor recreation.(1) That\u2019s a lot of time spent in a passive activity. Important, meaningful activities, such as physical exercise, prayer and Bible study, hobbies, volunteer work at church or in the community, and so on, will never be enjoyed while we vegetate.<\/p>\n

3. Media consumption must not replace relationship building.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Perhaps the saddest outcome of having your time eroded by waves of media is that key relationships are shortchanged. Although sitting next to your spouse or child while watching one TV sitcom after another may seem like an intimate encounter, normally this is just communal \u201ccouch potato-ing.\u201d Not much relating occurs while the mesmerizing tube does most of the talking.<\/p>\n

With media issues, you will have a daily opportunity to observe and be involved in your child\u2019s choices and habits. Since you share involvement in a certain amount of media use (watching TV, going to a concert, viewing a video, etc.), this gives you an ongoing opportunity to ask questions and discuss content. Make good use of these training times.<\/p>\n

And don\u2019t forget to ask our favorite question: \u201cHave you been looking at or listening to something that\u2019s not good for you?\u201d<\/p>\n

Here are some ideas for guiding your child\u2019s media entertainment choices:<\/p>\n

Listen to his music<\/em>.<\/strong> On a regular basis, ask your child to play you a song or two from a favorite music group. Keep tuned in not only to what your child enjoys in music, but form your own impressions of the group and the lyrics of their songs.<\/p>\n

Be proactive in selecting reading material<\/em>.<\/strong> Visit a public library. Explain to a librarian your standards for books your child might read, then have the librarian suggest possible authors and types of books. Check out two titles. Give your child some things to be looking for that might signal objectionable content. Each of you read one of the books and report back. Discuss what you found.<\/p>\n

Do some interactive media together<\/em>.<\/strong> Get on the Internet with your child and do some surfing. Show your child how to navigate toward acceptable materials and away from questionable Web sites. While still on the computer, play with your child some of the computer or video games that he enjoys<\/em>. Discuss any messages or themes that are portrayed as you play the game.<\/p>\n

Play the media Decide in Advance game<\/em>.<\/strong> You can play some great Decide in Advance games related to media. Try some of these:<\/p>\n