{"id":8781,"date":"2012-04-18T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2012-04-18T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sites-stage.familylife.com\/flministries\/?p=8781"},"modified":"2012-04-18T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2012-04-18T00:00:00","slug":"teaching-your-child-excellence-through-household-chores","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/articles\/topics\/parenting\/foundations\/character-development\/teaching-your-child-excellence-through-household-chores\/","title":{"rendered":"Teaching Your Child Excellence Through Household Chores"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Our children have approached their simple household chores with all the enthusiasm normally expressed for a root canal. This is just another training opportunity for a parent, but you need to be consistent and persistent. Following are some guidelines.<\/p>\n

Develop a reward\/penalty system for chores that are done on time with excellence<\/em>. A chore that our boys loved to hate was hauling the trash every Monday to the end of the driveway. This was a significant task; we usually had six to 10 cans, and our driveway is pretty long.<\/p>\n

Benjamin and Samuel weren\u2019t getting the job done consistently, so we decided to make their responsibility a bit more clear. We assigned one boy per month to handle this chore, and if he didn\u2019t do it, money was taken from his monthly allowance.<\/p>\n

And on top of that, if the cans were not back at the house by sunset on Monday night, a fine of 50 cents per can was assessed. That could involve some serious change\u2014sometimes more than three dollars from an allowance that wasn\u2019t very large to begin with.<\/p>\n

Once we instituted the fines system, the trash hauling improved rapidly, although we had to keep the penalty policy on the books for years in order to maintain the excellent service.<\/p>\n

This penalty reflected our philosophy that a punishment must involve some pain. But prepare yourself for strong reactions. We\u2019ve heard things from our children like \u201cThat\u2019s cheap\u201d and \u201cThat\u2019s unfair.\u201d (They will try to make you feel a rung lower than Hitler.) Our response: \u201cYou\u2019re making the choice. It\u2019s your choice whether to comply or not to comply. Now obey.\u201d<\/p>\n

Another key point to remember is, Make sure your child knows how to do a job<\/em>. You must show him, step-by-step, what to do and what standards he should meet.<\/p>\n

Inspect what he has done<\/em>. We have accomplished most of this training in the kitchen. I have actually made a joke of this when I take the Rainey brood to \u201cMr. Rogers\u2019 Neighborhood.\u201d I begin softly speaking to them as though I am Mr. Rogers. They hate it.<\/p>\n

\u201cOkay now, boys and girls, we\u2019re now going to talk about what a clean kitchen looks like,\u201d I say. Sometimes, after my inspection, because a pot was not done or plates were lying around, they have to come back three or four times to the neighborhood to finish the task. What torture for any self-respecting teen!<\/p>\n

Honestly, the young Raineys historically have not done very well with chores. We\u2019ve often felt like failures as parents in this area, but they must have learned something along the way.<\/p>\n

On the upside of the ledger, however, our children have been excellent workers outside of the home when they have become babysitters or take their first jobs. Go figure! All we can conclude is that our perpetual training has somehow worked, even if we don\u2019t always see the results in our own home.<\/p>\n

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Adapted from<\/em> Parenting Today\u2019s Adolescent: Helping Your Child Avoid the Traps of the Preteen and Teen Years<\/a>. Copyright 1998 by Dennis and Barbara Rainey. Used by permission of Thomas Nelson, Inc., Publishers.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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