{"id":8481,"date":"2013-10-08T15:44:00","date_gmt":"2013-10-08T20:44:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sites-stage.familylife.com\/flministries\/?p=8481"},"modified":"2013-10-08T15:44:00","modified_gmt":"2013-10-08T20:44:00","slug":"no-borders-for-homebuilders","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/articles\/topics\/marriage\/marriage-challenges\/military-marriage\/no-borders-for-homebuilders\/","title":{"rendered":"No Borders for HomeBuilders"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Several months before we attended a Weekend to Remember\u00ae<\/sup> marriage conference<\/a>, we received some terrible news. Gary\u2019s best friend (who, like Gary, is in the Air Force) discovered that his wife had cheated on him while he was away for training. He was a strong Christian, and we had thought she was, too.<\/p>\n

Gary\u2019s best friend and his wife, who had been role models for us early in our marriage, eventually divorced. This was not only devastating to them, but also to us. It caused us to realize that no marriage is safe from divorce. It also put a desire in our hearts to help other couples have strong marriages.<\/p>\n

So by the time we attended the Weekend to Remember conference in Tucson, AZ, in June 2006, we wanted to help other couples have strong marriages. At the conference we stopped at a Military Marriage Ministry booth manned by Mike and Linda Montgomery. They introduced us to the four-week military study, Defending the Military Marriage<\/em>\u00a0<\/a>\u00a0(in the HomeBuilders Couples Series\u00ae, FamilyLife\u2019s small-group Bible studies). Wanting to help protect our own marriage while helping other couples, we decided to\u00a0begin a HomeBuilders group\u00a0on our military base.<\/p>\n

When we made that decision we had no idea how God would work through us to touch couples around the world.<\/p>\n

A non-threatening environment<\/strong><\/h2>\n

We returned to our base in Tucson and began leading a group of seven couples through Defending the Military Marriage<\/em>. Only three of the couples attended church regularly.<\/p>\n

We were thankful to not only be able to talk about Christianity in a non-threatening environment, but also to be a part of God\u2019s work in each of those marriages. We saw couples begin to share openly because they cared for their own marriages, and also for the other marriages in the group. We noticed that each couple seemed to grow closer to their spouses and that they developed ongoing friendships with other couples in the group.<\/p>\n

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Gary and Tessie Moore<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

We are also grateful that HomeBuilders has helped us be proactive in our own marriage\u2014we did not want to be a statistic like Gary\u2019s best friend. And we\u2019ve learned not to get our feelings hurt or have negative responses when we share honestly with one another. We now have an atmosphere in our marriage where we are comfortable sharing our frustrations, remembering that God should be our focus.<\/p>\n

An international outreach<\/strong><\/h2>\n

In October 2006 we moved to South Korea, and so did our HomeBuilders ministry. We were fortunate to join an existing network of HomeBuilders leaders there. We\u2019ve led or co-led several studies in the HomeBuilders Couples Series, but Defending the Military Marriage<\/em> remains our favorite study since it has really fit in well with our peers.<\/p>\n

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The Moores took their HomeBuilders ministry with them to South Korea<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

After two years in South Korea, we will soon leave for Germany where we hope to continue HomeBuilders. These studies have helped us remind ourselves and others about important marriage concepts. We\u2019ve also formed valuable relationships; the friends we\u2019ve made through HomeBuilders have been wonderful, especially when we\u2019re thousands of miles away from our families.<\/p>\n

Gary\u2019s best friend\u2019s divorce made us realize how precious marriage is \u2026 and fragile. It\u2019s so easy to take your marriage for granted. That\u2019s why we have tried to take every opportunity to work on our marriage and to help other couples do the same.<\/p>\n

As we\u2019ve gone through HomeBuilders studies with those in the military, we\u2019ve discovered that we are not only protecting our country together, but we are also protecting our marriages.<\/p>\n

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Used with permission. Copyright \u00a9 2008 by FamilyLife. All rights reserved.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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