{"id":48559,"date":"2021-02-01T15:48:00","date_gmt":"2021-02-01T21:48:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/?p=48559"},"modified":"2021-02-01T15:48:00","modified_gmt":"2021-02-01T21:48:00","slug":"how-to-ruin-your-sex-life-in-10-easy-steps","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/articles\/topics\/marriage\/staying-married\/romance-and-sex\/how-to-ruin-your-sex-life-in-10-easy-steps\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Ruin Your Sex Life in 10 Easy Steps"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Your sex life can be uncomfortable for married couples to talk about. Quite frankly, it\u2019s uncomfortable to write<\/em> about as well!<\/p>\n

But haven\u2019t you found that the hard-to-talk-about stuff is what really needs discussion?<\/p>\n

In our current culture, there\u2019s a lot of conversation centered on having a \u201cgreat\u201d sex life. Pick up any copy of Cosmopolitan<\/em>, GQ<\/em>, or similar magazines, and you can read all the different ways you could be having sex, where you should be having sex, and even more ways to \u201cspice up\u201d your sex life. (I\u2019m not even sure everything they mention is legal in all 50 states.)<\/p>\n

But one thing these articles rarely touch on is how easy it is to ruin<\/em> your sex life.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s true. While we have to put some effort into maintaining a great married sex life (or even a good one), it takes little energy, time, or even thought to take your bedroom romps from great to nonexistent.<\/p>\n

In fact, you could be ruining your sexual intimacy right now and have no idea. Scary, huh?<\/p>\n

How to ruin your sex life<\/h2>\n

Here are 10 easy ways to ruin your sex life. No crazy tricks, literally zero effort required. And please, feel free to embrace the sarcasm.<\/p>\n

1. Let the kids sleep in the middle.<\/h3>\n

Not just during the occasional thunderstorm. I mean any time those sweet little faces want to snuggle up with mom and dad for the night.<\/p>\n

Besides, you did purchase the king-size bed. You\u2019ll find a time\/place for sex later. You said \u201cI do\u201d forever, but the kids are only little for so long, right?<\/p>\n

2. Forget foreplay.<\/h3>\n

You\u2019ve already given her the look. The one that says with no uncertainty that it\u2019s time to head to the bedroom.<\/p>\n

Yes, she was in the middle of washing the dishes, but you\u2019re ready to go. Your spouse should be, too. Isn\u2019t that foreplay? Besides, it\u2019s already 10:30 p.m. and the alarm\u2019s set for 5 a.m. Who has time for this?<\/p>\n

3. Prioritize your hobbies above your spouse (and your sex life).<\/h3>\n

After all the hours you put in at work (or home with the kids), you deserve time to yourself on the weekends. You\u2019re not saying video games\/golf\/girls night is more important than time with your spouse, it\u2019s just more relaxing. And you need regular time doing these things to be a better partner, anyway.<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t engage in conversation with your spouse.<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s been a long day, and it takes too much energy to engage in lengthy discussion. Please, can we just relax and turn the TV on already? Better yet, escape into social media. Knowing what\u2019s going on in everyone else\u2019s lives helps distract you from your own.<\/p>\n

5. Use pornography.<\/h3>\n

At least you aren\u2019t having an actual affair. Sometimes pornography even helps get you in the mood, right? At least that\u2019s what you\u2019ve heard.<\/p>\n

If videos aren\u2019t your thing, ladies, grab the latest copy of one of the Shades of Grey <\/em>books. Word porn works well to rev up your sex life, too. I think…<\/p>\n

Can sex in Christian marriage be spectacular? See our online course!<\/i><\/span> <\/a> <\/div> <\/div>\n

6. Fantasize about someone else.<\/h3>\n

He\u2019ll never know you\u2019re really thinking about Justin Timberlake. Unless you accidentally say his name. (Make a mental note about that.)<\/p>\n

Fellas, as long as you don\u2019t tell your wife you\u2019re thinking about the waitress from the other night, no harm done. Surely, all these fantasies are a harmless way to escape the issues at home. Again, at least you aren\u2019t having an affair.<\/p>\n

7. Flirt openly.<\/h3>\n

With anyone other than your spouse, that is. But it\u2019s not really<\/em> flirting if you have no intentions to actually have an affair, right? It\u2019s fun and harmless. Besides, it feels good to know someone thinks you\u2019re witty and interesting.<\/p>\n

8. Criticize or nag your spouse.<\/h3>\n

Seriously, what does she do all day? Not laundry, apparently. She always asks what you\u2019re thinking, so tell her.<\/p>\n

And you\u2019ve repeatedly told him you need some help around the house. So it should be no surprise you just yelled \u201cHelp me!\u201d at him for the fifth time today.<\/p>\n

9. Don\u2019t take on your spouse\u2019s burdens.<\/h3>\n

Sure, they might be overwhelmed, depressed, or stressed out\u2014so much that maybe even your sex life is suffering. So are you. You have plenty on your own plate, thank you very much.<\/p>\n

10. Don\u2019t talk about your sexual relationship.<\/h3>\n

Ever. It\u2019s awkward. Some things are just best left unsaid. As long as you\u2019re having sex sometimes <\/em>you\u2019re doing okay, right?<\/p>\n

Right?<\/p>\n

Obviously we don\u2019t actually recommend doing anything to ruin your sexual intimacy in marriage. So be sure to read \u201c10 Surprisingly Effective Ways to Improve Your Sex Life<\/a>.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n

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