{"id":318576,"date":"2026-09-10T06:10:26","date_gmt":"2026-09-10T10:10:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/but-they-dont-deserve-it\/"},"modified":"2026-09-10T06:10:27","modified_gmt":"2026-09-10T10:10:27","slug":"but-they-dont-deserve-it","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/but-they-dont-deserve-it\/","title":{"rendered":"But They Don&#8217;t Deserve It"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Your marriage ended. But your anger, betrayal, and hurt didn\u2019t get the memo. Cheryl Shumake joins Dave and Ann Wilson to talk honestly about forgiveness after divorce\u2014what it means, what it doesn\u2019t, and why refusing to release the debt can keep old wounds alive. Is forgiveness possible when what happened was genuinely wrong? 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This transcript is provided for your personal use and general information purposes only. References to conferences, resources, or other special promotions may be obsolete. We do not assume any responsibility or liability for the use or interpretation of this content.\r\n\r\n\u201cBut They Don\u2019t Deserve It\u201d: Forgiveness after Divorce\r\n\r\nGuest:Cheryl Shumake\r\n\r\nFrom the series:Loving When It\u2019s Complicated: Divorce, Forgiveness &amp;amp; Stepparenting (Day 1 of 2)\r\n\r\nAir date:September 10, 2026\r\n\r\nCheryl (00:05):\r\n\r\nOne of the first, I think, and most important things that you can do is work on forgiveness, because if you don't, you are going to hamper your healing. So work on forgiving the person. That doesn't necessarily mean reconciliation, but it does mean that you release them from a legitimate debt that they owe you.\r\n\r\nDave (00:31):\r\n\r\nWelcome to FamilyLife Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I'm Dave Wilson. \r\n\r\nAnn (00:37):\r\n\r\nAnd I'm Ann Wilson. You can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com. This is FamilyLife Today.\r\n\r\nDave (00:50):\r\n\r\nSo we have a fellow Michigander\u2014\r\n\r\nCheryl (00:52):\r\n\r\nYes. \r\n\r\nDave (00:54):\r\n\r\n\u2014in the studio. Cheryl Shumake is with us. And Cheryl, this doesn't happen a lot. \r\n\r\nCheryl (00:57):\r\n\r\nOh really?\r\n\r\nDave (00:57):\r\n\r\nI don't know how many times we've had somebody from Michigan on our show.\r\n\r\nAnn (01:00):\r\n\r\nIt\u2019s not often. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nThat's a shame.\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nBut it's a shame because\u2014 \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nWe're such good people. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nThe greatness, the greatness in Michigan.\r\n\r\nCheryl (01:07):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely.\r\n\r\nDave (01:07):\r\n\r\nBut I don't know if you know our background. We're from another place a little south of there.\r\n\r\nCheryl (01:12):\r\n\r\nOh, so you're adopted Michiganders. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nYeah, we are. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nYes, we welcome you.\r\n\r\nDave (01:16):\r\n\r\nTell our listeners and watchers a little bit about yourself. What do you do in Michigan?\r\n\r\nCheryl (01:21):\r\n\r\nThat is such a broad question. What do I do in Michigan?\r\n\r\nDave (01:22):\r\n\r\nDid you grow up there?\r\n\r\nCheryl (01:23):\r\n\r\nI did. I am a born and reared Detroiter. I went to Eastern Michigan University, met my former husband there, was married to him for about 17 years, had one daughter. \r\n\r\nDave (01:33):\r\n\r\nDid you get married right out of college?\r\n\r\nCheryl (01:35):\r\n\r\nI got married while I was in college. I got married my junior year of college. I got saved, began following hard after Jesus, and really believed that this was God's will, that we were going ahead and get married. We were married for 17 years. About six years into that marriage, we had my daughter. She's 33 now. Unfortunately, that marriage ended in divorce. Very, very hard time. But I say now that I would do it again for how I learned God. I learned him as Father, as friend, as provider, as husband in a way that I didn't know before. \r\n\r\nAnn (02:06):\r\n\r\nDo you think it was the pain and just the unknown? What led you to go deeper with Jesus at that time?\r\n\r\nCheryl (02:11):\r\n\r\nYeah, it was the uncertainty. It was the pain for sure. And I've got my solace at the feet of the Master. And I learned peace in no-way out circumstances. I learned how to trust God in ways that I had never had to depend upon Him before. It was a pivotal moment in my walk with God. And like I said, I would not change it except for the pain that my daughter went through. But I know that God has a plan for that as well because He doesn't waste a thing.\r\n\r\nAnn (02:41):\r\n\r\nHow old was she?\r\n\r\nCheryl (02:42):\r\n\r\nWhen it started, she was 10, 11 years old. And when the divorce was final, she was, I want to say 12, 13, 12 years old. And unfortunately, her father passed away two years later. Their relationship kind of disintegrated and they never got the opportunity to reconcile, but the last words they spoke to each other were, \"I love you.\" So I'm very grateful to the Lord that that happened.\r\n\r\nAnn (03:08):\r\n\r\nWe could spend the whole time talking about that whole thing.\r\n\r\nCheryl (03:10):\r\n\r\nWe could.\r\n\r\nAnn (03:11):\r\n\r\nBecause there's so many people that have gone through divorce. They didn't want it. They didn't expect it.\r\n\r\nCheryl (03:16):\r\n\r\nNo one stands at the altar saying, \"Oh, 17, 20, 25, 5 years from now, I'm going to be in a courthouse dissolving this marriage.\" No one does that. We all enter that space with a great deal of hope and plans and all of those things. I learned how to grieve, but I learned how to grieve with the Lord.\r\n\r\nDave (03:32):\r\n\r\nNow, your daughter, what you said was 10?\r\n\r\nCheryl (03:34):\r\n\r\nShe was 10 at the time.\r\n\r\nDave (03:35):\r\n\r\nBecause I went through it when I was seven.\r\n\r\nCheryl (03:37):\r\n\r\nDid you?\r\n\r\nDave (03:38):\r\n\r\nAnd my question to you is, did you talk with your daughter? Because my mom, we never talked. And again, that was our family. Never was a conversation with me. I mean, later when I was probably 19, 20, I'm like, \"Mom, can we talk about the divorce?\" Because I think that's something that has to happen. Did you feel like you and your daughter needed to? Did you?\r\n\r\nCheryl (03:58):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely, we did.\r\n\r\nDave (03:58):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nCheryl (03:59):\r\n\r\nI didn't give her the details. I never spoke badly about her father to her. There was another person involved. She knew that actually before I did because she had met the person. \r\n\r\nAnn (04:11):\r\n\r\nThat is a lot like you Dave.\r\n\r\nCheryl (04:12):\r\n\r\nYeah. But what I did do was give her space to talk, to have a conversation, to express herself, to say she's angry, always redirecting her to respect her father. And I also got her into counseling as well. That was huge for me, for her to have a space other than me, to maybe talk about something that's a little bit more sensitive that she thought might hurt me if she said it. Maybe some things that she saw that maybe I had done. I wanted her to have a safe space for that as well. So therapy was key and definitely having conversations with her, allowing her to lead that too. I didn't want to force conversations on her. Just wanted to watch and let her lead conversations and give the space for her.\r\n\r\nAnn (04:57):\r\n\r\nWow. And Cheryl, I'm just going to say, I think a lot of parents don't know what to do in those circumstances.\r\n\r\nDave (05:03):\r\n\r\nYou just coached them up.\r\n\r\nAnn (05:04):\r\n\r\nYou totally coached them up. And I also sit there and think, man, there's so many listeners that are walking through that right now. So for the fact that you're sharing that with us, is there anything you wish you would have done looking back? Anything different? Because the things that you shared are pretty pivotal.\r\n\r\nCheryl (05:22):\r\n\r\nIt was such a long time ago. It's hard for me to pinpoint something. I'm sure if I were closer to that time, I could snap something up immediately. One thing that I can think of is at some point I had to stop speaking with my former spouse because it was so combative that I had to go, not no contact, but contact through email and text messaging. Texting was fairly new then. I wish I had done that sooner.\r\n\r\nAnn (05:48):\r\n\r\nBecause of the emotions.\r\n\r\nCheryl (05:49):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely. I'm defending myself. I'm reacting to the anger that's coming at me. At some point, I had to stop and say, \"Okay, God, this is not helping. This is not honoring to You. It's not honoring to him. He is still a follower of yours. He's still your son. And it's not helping my daughter. One of us has got to grow up. And if I'm noticing it, then that's me. I'm the one that has to grow up.\"\r\n\r\nDave (06:12):\r\n\r\nWalk us from there to you got remarried.\r\n\r\nCheryl (06:15):\r\n\r\nI did. I got remarried. \r\n\r\nDave (06:18):\r\n\r\nWas that years?\r\n\r\nCheryl (06:19):\r\n\r\nThere were a few years. \r\n\r\nAnn (06:20):\r\n\r\nSo you were a single mom.\r\n\r\nCheryl (06:21):\r\n\r\nSo I was a single mom. But yeah, so I was not looking to get remarried at all. This was the first time in my adult\u2014I was a we before I was a me.\r\n\r\n(06:31):\r\n\r\nAnd so now I'm having the opportunity to be a me and I was loving it. There was peace in my home. I was traveling. I'd gone back to school. There were so many things that I was experiencing. It was wonderful. I was driving down the street and I just heard a question and pressed upon my heart, \"If I were to bless you with a husband, what do you want?\" And I started going down a list and I said, \"Well, Lord, that's you.\" I'm praying. \"Lord, that's you. So I don't need anybody. You, me and Kayla, we are cool. Do not introduce anybody into this space, please and thank you.\" And what I heard next was \u201cI may bless you with a husband, but nobody will ever love you the way I love you.\u201d So I just kind of sank into the love of God, right?\r\n\r\n(07:11):\r\n\r\nJust a sweet, sweet time. And I was not dating. My daughter was 13 at the time. I didn't want to introduce a man into our lives. I had made the decision that if I were ever to date, it probably wouldn't happen until she was in college and out of the home. I had all of these plans and God had something different in mind. So here comes a friend. Jonathan actually was my friend in high school and in college. He attended my first wedding as a guest. And he calls me. The last time we had spoken, I was pregnant with Kayla, and he had just gotten married. And he calls me out of the blue and he's like, \"Hey, here's a blast from the past. You want to get together?\" We never dated, nothing like that. We were more brother-sister relationship than anything else. A year and a half later, we got married.\r\n\r\n(07:58):\r\n\r\nYeah, we've been married now for 18 years. And I have never known love the way I know it today. I always say that Jonathan is a real husband. He's a cultivator. He cultivates the ground of our home and I get to flourish. What I mean is that he creates a space in our home. We talk, we communicate, we are friends. There's room for me to grow. There's room for him to grow as well. There's acceptance in that growth that we shift with one another. We may not understand what the other person is growing through, but we have made a commitment to be there. And that brings a level of safety that allows you to flourish. That I know that this person, that my person is here for me. I can flourish. I feel safe enough to try different things, to explore my personality in ways maybe I didn't.\r\n\r\n(08:53):\r\n\r\nI cried in my husband's arms for the first time after I was married to Jonathan. I never had that opportunity before. Always had to be the strong one. I was allowed to be soft with him. And that's what I mean. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nThat feels good. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nYeah, that feels very good to be able to do that.\r\n\r\nDave (09:08):\r\n\r\nI mean, I'm sitting here talking to two women, two wives. What makes a wife feel like she can flourish from her man? I mean, you said a lot of it. Is there anything you would add?\r\n\r\nAnn (09:17):\r\n\r\nEverything that Cheryl said. And the first time I heard that word flourish in marriage was with Tony Evans.\r\n\r\nCheryl (09:22):\r\n\r\nOh yeah.\r\n\r\nAnn (09:23):\r\n\r\nI remember him talking about people around your table, your family should flourish under your care.\r\n\r\nCheryl (09:29):\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nAnn (09:30):\r\n\r\nAnd man, that struck me like I want that for our family. I feel like you do do that, Dave. I think you give space for people to be who they are. You're safe, you're dependable, trustworthy, and all of that creates security.\r\n\r\nCheryl (09:43):\r\n\r\nIt does.\r\n\r\nAnn (09:44):\r\n\r\nAnd so as a woman especially, and you aren't afraid of my strength, my bigness, my feistiness, but you're also like\u2014and in fact, you applaud it. You're happy that I'm strong. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nYeah. I love it. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nNot when it gets out of hand and it's directed at you.\r\n\r\nDave (10:03):\r\n\r\nSometimes it gets out of hand.\r\n\r\nAnn (10:06):\r\n\r\nBut I think you create\u2014and you still do it in our home\u2014the safety, joy. People can be who God made them to be. We can be vulnerable.\r\n\r\nCheryl (10:16):\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nAnn (10:17):\r\n\r\nAnd I can tell you everything and you're not insecure. I think that's a big thing.\r\n\r\nCheryl (10:21):\r\n\r\nThat's a huge thing.\r\n\r\nAnn (10:23):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nSomewhere between the schedule, the responsibilities, and the routine, it's easy to forget why you enjoy being together. Weekend to Remember\u00ae gives you that time back, away from everything competing for your attention, focused only on each other.\r\n\r\nDave (10:44):\r\n\r\nAnd right now through September 21st, registrations are 50% off. Two for the price of one. Just visit FamilyLifeToday.com and click on the banner at the top of the page and find your date and location. You know what I mean? You can pick whatever weekend you want, wherever you want. And you get the deal by just using the promo code Save50. That's save five zero.\r\n\r\nOkay. Now I got two wives in the room. How do you help your husbands flourish?\r\n\r\nCheryl (11:16):\r\n\r\nWe might be the wrong persons to ask. It might be you need to answer that question. Yeah, that's true.\r\n\r\nDave (11:21):\r\n\r\nWhat comes to your mind first as wives do you think, man, I want him to flourish so I want to what?\r\n\r\nCheryl (11:27):\r\n\r\nOne of the things that comes to my mind that I hope that I do for Jonathan is I show him a great deal of admiration and respect. I appreciate what he does. And I let him know, I really appreciate who you are and I appreciate what you do. We have a culture of politeness in our family just by virtue of who we are. So even something as simple as please and thank you. Excuse me. Just honoring who he is as an individual I think is very, very helpful to him flourishing. Admiring him is very helpful to him, flourishing. Applauding him much like he applauds me is very helpful. I am not a bowler. I don't want\u2014my eyes glaze over when I see bowlers and bowling and all the things. Jonathan is an avid bowler. He loves it. So I applaud that. Oh honey, your average is going up.\r\n\r\n(12:17):\r\n\r\nThat's wonderful. I don't know what it took to do that, but I'm grateful for it. So just the little things. The same thing he would do for a friend. Man, we treat our friends so well. Why don't we treat our spouses as well or better than we treat our friends?\r\n\r\nAnn (12:34):\r\n\r\nI had a friend once say to me like, \"I don't want to have to figure out how should I say this to my husband? I just want to say it.\" And I said, \"Well, you don't do that with a friend or even a coworker. You're thinking through and praying through, how should I present this?\" I said, \"So this is your lifetime partner who you love and care for more than anybody. So why wouldn't you take even more time to care about how you communicate to them?\" And I would agree. And the word flourish, I love that word. Sometimes I think of it as a vine. There's a Psalm that talks about how we flourish like a vine.\r\n\r\nCheryl (13:07):\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nAnn (13:07):\r\n\r\nBut I think for men, I think of support. I think for me, Dave, all the things that Cheryl just said, that thank you, that admiration, the respect, being careful with how I communicate. I'm going to speak the truth, but I need to do it in a way that's still respectful. All those things. Would you add anything to that?\r\n\r\nDave (13:28):\r\n\r\nNo, I mean, that's it. I mean, when a man feels believed in, admired, to use that word, that's big. But on the other side, I know there are wives listening and go, \"Yeah, but my man's not respectable.\" \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\n\u2014admirable or is respectful. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nAnd I honestly don't admire some things. So how do you coach them to say, \"There's truth that needs to be said as well. What's that look like?\" I mean, I don't want to take this conversation somewhere else, but I'm thinking there's some wives listening\u2014\r\n\r\nCheryl (13:53):\r\n\r\nThere's such a good opportunity to speak to the wives that are listening.\r\n\r\nDave (13:56):\r\n\r\nSo how would you help them with that guy?\r\n\r\nCheryl (13:59):\r\n\r\nOne of the things that I would say is admire the things that are admirable and speak to the things that are not. And you speak to those things with love and humility, just like the Word tells us, that we are to bear the infirmities of the weak, but we're to do these things in humility because we're going to be taken over as well. I always try to remember that Jonathan and I are on the same team. So one of the things that I pray is, \u201cGod, what's the win-win here? What's the most helpful thing?\u201d I remember one time Jonathan had done something. I had felt especially disrespected.\r\n\r\n(14:30):\r\n\r\nAnd I had about 10 seconds to either blow up or make a decision to approach this as if\u2014invite him to the table for the conversation versus blowing up and building resistance in him. So I took a moment, went and prayed, and then I waited. I waited until we were in bed together and I approached it from communicating my intention first because we judge ourselves based upon our intentions, but other people judge us based upon our impact on them. So I had to communicate my intentions first so that the impact would be lessened, right? So he would receive it well. So what I said to him was, \"Listen, I know your heart towards me. I know that you love me. I know these things to be true, but this thing happened and I felt disrespected by that. Can you help me understand what happened? Can you help me unpack this?\" And he apologized immediately.\r\n\r\n(15:25):\r\n\r\n\u201cI didn't realize that this was the impact on you. I'm so sorry.\u201d\r\n\r\nAnn (15:28):\r\n\r\nNow you're hearing his intent.\r\n\r\nCheryl (15:30):\r\n\r\nNow I'm hearing his intent, right? Because I've invited him to the table so that we can reach the win-win together. I'm hearing his intent. And he said, \"And this will never happen again.\" And it has never happened again. That was probably early. It was pretty early on in our marriage. I want to say within the first three years or so. So I would say communicate your intention first. Remember that you're on the same team. You're looking for the win-win and that God is fighting for you. He's fighting for both of you as well. You want to fight with the Holy Spirit, not against the Holy Spirit. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nSo good. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nAnd approach him in humility.\r\n\r\nAnn (16:04):\r\n\r\nYour wisdom in how you approached him is masterful and it's Holy Spirit driven.\r\n\r\nDave (16:10):\r\n\r\nI mean, help me understand. That's a great way to phrase it.\r\n\r\nAnn (16:14):\r\n\r\nBecause what happens when we don't approach it that way, let's say that you just didn't communicate anything. The devil can get a foothold. And so then you start wearing this cloak of resentment. And that's where it gets really tricky where the enemy can kind of just whisper like, \"He must not love you.\"\r\n\r\nCheryl (16:32):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely.\r\n\r\nAnn (16:33):\r\n\r\nAnd if you have any wounds from the past or triggers, things, it's just like poking it. And I think it's so important to go to God to ask him, \"How do I do this? How do I approach it? How can I communicate?\" That was so wise. And as I'm listening to you, Cheryl, I'm like, \"It seems like you both learned a lot from your first marriages.\"\r\n\r\nCheryl (16:56):\r\n\r\nWe did. We learned a lot from the failures, previously. Absolutely.\r\n\r\nAnn (16:59):\r\n\r\nI think that's hopeful because our listeners, we have so many that have gone through divorce. You're not just saying it, you're doing it. You both learned some things of, if we had to do it over again, let's put in some new applications of what we can do.\r\n\r\nCheryl (17:14):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely. Let's put in some new applications. Let's not repeat the mistakes of the past. I think both of us, prior to getting remarried, we had done a lot of individual healing ourselves. That was very helpful. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nIs that important?\r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nAbsolutely important. I've watched my former spouse jumped into\u2014he was married a month after our divorce and you could see some of the lack of healing in how his relationship with our daughter ended, how that was impacted and how it imploded. My husband and I, we individually, of course, without knowing that we would eventually reconnect and be married, we just did the work. We did some hard work. And after we got married, we continue to do hard\u2014today we still do the hard work. I am not responsible for Jonathan's emotions. I can't manage him. I can only manage my own emotions. I can only manage my own impact beyond the tip of this nose.\r\n\r\n(18:17):\r\n\r\nThis is where control is at the tip of my nose. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nThat\u2019s so good.\r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nI can't control anything outside of that. So that's where I have to put in the work. That's where most of my prayer needs to be focused. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nMe too. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nRight. Oh my goodness. \r\n\r\nAnn (18:30):\r\n\r\nFor all of us as women, our job is us.\r\n\r\nCheryl (18:33):\r\n\r\nOur job is us. That's good. I like that. Our job is us. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nIt's true for men too. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nIt's true for men too. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nNot just women. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nOkay, we won\u2019t leave you out. You\u2019re outnumbered. I'm sorry.\r\n\r\nAnn (18:41):\r\n\r\nAs a woman, I can go into control. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nAbsolutely. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nWhen I'm unhappy, I'm going to control the situation and I'm going to make you do or say or be what I think you should be. And that is when things get really ugly.\r\n\r\nCheryl (18:54):\r\n\r\nYeah. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nIf there's a listener, a woman, or a man, that's gone through a divorce and you say, \u201cDo the work,\u201d what's the work? What do they need to do before\u2014they don't know if they're getting remarried, but before they get remarried, for sure, the next year, five years, ten years, what's the work?\r\n\r\nCheryl (19:13):\r\n\r\nOne of the first, I think, and most important things that you can do is work on forgiveness, for real. Because if you don't, you are going to hamper your healing. You're going to hold onto a fence. A root of bitterness can well up in your life. That is going to impact everything. Offense does not stay with you. It rolls over into every other area of your life. So work on forgiving the person. That doesn't necessarily mean reconciliation, but it does mean that you release them from a legitimate debt that they owe you.\r\n\r\nDave (19:46):\r\n\r\nWhat did that look like for you? Because I heard what you said. There was another woman.\r\n\r\nCheryl (19:51):\r\n\r\nYeah. Yes.\r\n\r\nDave (19:52):\r\n\r\nSo that's hard.\r\n\r\nAnn (19:53):\r\n\r\nBetrayal's hard.\r\n\r\nCheryl (19:54):\r\n\r\nBetrayal is hard. But man, I had an amazing community around me that helped me process through that. I wasn't spiritually bypassing it. I was going to God. I was doing a lot of David prayers, a lot of lamenting like Jeremiah, like, \"Okay, God, this hurts, this stinks, this is wrong. What are we going to do about this? I am angry about this. I don't like this. Will You help me?\" One of the things that I found when I went to the Lord and just poured out my heart\u2014I'm almost like a beggar, right? I'm just pouring out my heart. I need you, Father\u2014is that He supplied Himself and He blanketed me in so much peace. There is peace to be had when we pour our hurt and pain. He can handle the weight of our hurt and our pain and our tears, our tragedies, the failings as much as He handles the weight of our worship.\r\n\r\n(20:44):\r\n\r\nHe can do both. So we can do both and give both to Him. That is so important to do that. I would also say talk to a therapist as well because we want to do the work so that when offense comes in the future\u2014if we are remarried or just in relationship with people\u2014we're not re-triggered or re-traumatized and we're not acting out of unhealed wounds. So go and talk to someone. Work through those things. And two other things that I would say actually that probably are surprising. The third is rest. Get some rest. You just went through a whole upheaval of your life. That is huge. Give yourself the grace of pacing yourself. You don't have to rush to be okay. Just rest.\r\n\r\nAnn (21:30):\r\n\r\nHow do you do that? I have three kids and now I'm a single mom. How do I do that?\r\n\r\nCheryl (21:35):\r\n\r\nYou can be functional and still rest in God. I can function and still find moments where I, \u201cGod, I'm giving You my day. I'm just relying upon you. I'm giving you the fact that I have three kids. Would you carve out some moments for me to just have peace where I am not on, where I'm not mom, where I'm not having, where I'm not dad\u201d\u2014there are a lot of single dads out there\u2014\"where I'm not having to do something in the moment. Would you carve out that space for me?\u201d One of the best things I think that we can do is invite the power, the presence, and the intention of God into our daily lives. Just ask Him. He will supply. It's His delight to give us the Kingdom, His rule and reign in every area of our lives. And that includes the hard spaces as well.\r\n\r\n(22:25):\r\n\r\nThe fourth thing that I would say is have fun. Get together with some friends who make you laugh, have lots of fun, cultivate joy in your life, take up a hobby you've always wanted to and squeeze out a moment. I know you're busy, you're tired sometimes, but squeeze out a moment to squeeze out some joy in your life. That will help you heal as well.\r\n\r\nAnn (22:49):\r\n\r\nOne of the things I was thinking as you talk about that rest piece is, I mean, when your kids are young, it's hard to find rest. And I wouldn't be afraid to put a movie in and have your kids watch the movie. But here's the thing that you need to do because we're all so tempted. Our kids are watching a movie. I have a moment. And so what do we do? We either do all of these chores or these things around the house, or we sit and we scroll on our phones. I would say if you put your kids in front of the TV, which we all do that, get some time with Jesus, pull out your Bible and tell Him. I love that you keep saying pour your heart out to God. Tell Him all the things that you're hearing because He hears those prayers and He will fill you up more than any scrolling will ever do.\r\n\r\n(23:38):\r\n\r\nI know it feels good to get some dishes done or whatever, but that time with Jesus is critical.\r\n\r\nCheryl (23:45):\r\n\r\nIf your mom is living, invite your mom over. \r\n\r\nAnn (23:48):\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nCheryl (23:48):\r\n\r\nShe will likely do the dishes and watch the kids.\r\n\r\nAnn (23:51):\r\n\r\nShe might even play with them or whatever but spend some time with Jesus.\r\n\r\nCheryl (23:53):\r\n\r\nAnd spend some time with Jesus. Yes. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nI love that.\r\n\r\nDave (23:57):\r\n\r\nYeah. And I would add, because I was the son, talk to your kids\u2014\r\n\r\nCheryl (24:01):\r\n\r\nTalk to your kids.\r\n\r\nDave (24:02):\r\n\r\n\u2014about what's happening.\r\n\r\nCheryl (24:04):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nDave (24:04):\r\n\r\nHelp them verbalize with their feeling. What a great day with Cheryl. And by the way, her book is called Waiting to Be Wanted: A Stepmom's Guide to Loving Before Being Loved. And you can get at FamilyLifeToday.com. Just click on the link in the show notes. And guess what? We got her back tomorrow.\r\n\r\nAnn (24:19):\r\n\r\nWe want to hear from you. You can leave us a voice message with your questions, concerns, praise reports, or whatever. All you have to do is go to speakpipe.com\/FamilyLifeToday. Again, that's speakpipe.com\/FamilyLifeToday or get the link in the show notes.\r\n\r\nDave (24:45):\r\n\r\nFamilyLife Today is a donor-supported production of FamilyLife\u00ae, a Cru\u00ae  ministry; 50 years of helping you pursue the relationships that matter most.\r\n\r\nIf you\u2019ve benefited from the FamilyLife Today transcripts, would you consider donating today to help defray the costs of producing them and making them available online?\r\n\r\nCopyright \u00a9 2026 FamilyLife. 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This transcript is provided for your personal use and general information purposes only. References to conferences, resources, or other special promotions may be obsolete. We do not assume any responsibility or liability for the use or interpretation of this content.\r\n\r\n\u201cBut They Don\u2019t Deserve It\u201d: Forgiveness after Divorce\r\n\r\nGuest:Cheryl Shumake\r\n\r\nFrom the series:Loving When It\u2019s Complicated: Divorce, Forgiveness &amp;amp; Stepparenting (Day 1 of 2)\r\n\r\nAir date:September 10, 2026\r\n\r\nCheryl (00:05):\r\n\r\nOne of the first, I think, and most important things that you can do is work on forgiveness, because if you don't, you are going to hamper your healing. So work on forgiving the person. That doesn't necessarily mean reconciliation, but it does mean that you release them from a legitimate debt that they owe you.\r\n\r\nDave (00:31):\r\n\r\nWelcome to FamilyLife Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I'm Dave Wilson. \r\n\r\nAnn (00:37):\r\n\r\nAnd I'm Ann Wilson. You can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com. This is FamilyLife Today.\r\n\r\nDave (00:50):\r\n\r\nSo we have a fellow Michigander\u2014\r\n\r\nCheryl (00:52):\r\n\r\nYes. \r\n\r\nDave (00:54):\r\n\r\n\u2014in the studio. Cheryl Shumake is with us. And Cheryl, this doesn't happen a lot. \r\n\r\nCheryl (00:57):\r\n\r\nOh really?\r\n\r\nDave (00:57):\r\n\r\nI don't know how many times we've had somebody from Michigan on our show.\r\n\r\nAnn (01:00):\r\n\r\nIt\u2019s not often. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nThat's a shame.\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nBut it's a shame because\u2014 \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nWe're such good people. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nThe greatness, the greatness in Michigan.\r\n\r\nCheryl (01:07):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely.\r\n\r\nDave (01:07):\r\n\r\nBut I don't know if you know our background. We're from another place a little south of there.\r\n\r\nCheryl (01:12):\r\n\r\nOh, so you're adopted Michiganders. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nYeah, we are. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nYes, we welcome you.\r\n\r\nDave (01:16):\r\n\r\nTell our listeners and watchers a little bit about yourself. What do you do in Michigan?\r\n\r\nCheryl (01:21):\r\n\r\nThat is such a broad question. What do I do in Michigan?\r\n\r\nDave (01:22):\r\n\r\nDid you grow up there?\r\n\r\nCheryl (01:23):\r\n\r\nI did. I am a born and reared Detroiter. I went to Eastern Michigan University, met my former husband there, was married to him for about 17 years, had one daughter. \r\n\r\nDave (01:33):\r\n\r\nDid you get married right out of college?\r\n\r\nCheryl (01:35):\r\n\r\nI got married while I was in college. I got married my junior year of college. I got saved, began following hard after Jesus, and really believed that this was God's will, that we were going ahead and get married. We were married for 17 years. About six years into that marriage, we had my daughter. She's 33 now. Unfortunately, that marriage ended in divorce. Very, very hard time. But I say now that I would do it again for how I learned God. I learned him as Father, as friend, as provider, as husband in a way that I didn't know before. \r\n\r\nAnn (02:06):\r\n\r\nDo you think it was the pain and just the unknown? What led you to go deeper with Jesus at that time?\r\n\r\nCheryl (02:11):\r\n\r\nYeah, it was the uncertainty. It was the pain for sure. And I've got my solace at the feet of the Master. And I learned peace in no-way out circumstances. I learned how to trust God in ways that I had never had to depend upon Him before. It was a pivotal moment in my walk with God. And like I said, I would not change it except for the pain that my daughter went through. But I know that God has a plan for that as well because He doesn't waste a thing.\r\n\r\nAnn (02:41):\r\n\r\nHow old was she?\r\n\r\nCheryl (02:42):\r\n\r\nWhen it started, she was 10, 11 years old. And when the divorce was final, she was, I want to say 12, 13, 12 years old. And unfortunately, her father passed away two years later. Their relationship kind of disintegrated and they never got the opportunity to reconcile, but the last words they spoke to each other were, \"I love you.\" So I'm very grateful to the Lord that that happened.\r\n\r\nAnn (03:08):\r\n\r\nWe could spend the whole time talking about that whole thing.\r\n\r\nCheryl (03:10):\r\n\r\nWe could.\r\n\r\nAnn (03:11):\r\n\r\nBecause there's so many people that have gone through divorce. They didn't want it. They didn't expect it.\r\n\r\nCheryl (03:16):\r\n\r\nNo one stands at the altar saying, \"Oh, 17, 20, 25, 5 years from now, I'm going to be in a courthouse dissolving this marriage.\" No one does that. We all enter that space with a great deal of hope and plans and all of those things. I learned how to grieve, but I learned how to grieve with the Lord.\r\n\r\nDave (03:32):\r\n\r\nNow, your daughter, what you said was 10?\r\n\r\nCheryl (03:34):\r\n\r\nShe was 10 at the time.\r\n\r\nDave (03:35):\r\n\r\nBecause I went through it when I was seven.\r\n\r\nCheryl (03:37):\r\n\r\nDid you?\r\n\r\nDave (03:38):\r\n\r\nAnd my question to you is, did you talk with your daughter? Because my mom, we never talked. And again, that was our family. Never was a conversation with me. I mean, later when I was probably 19, 20, I'm like, \"Mom, can we talk about the divorce?\" Because I think that's something that has to happen. Did you feel like you and your daughter needed to? Did you?\r\n\r\nCheryl (03:58):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely, we did.\r\n\r\nDave (03:58):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nCheryl (03:59):\r\n\r\nI didn't give her the details. I never spoke badly about her father to her. There was another person involved. She knew that actually before I did because she had met the person. \r\n\r\nAnn (04:11):\r\n\r\nThat is a lot like you Dave.\r\n\r\nCheryl (04:12):\r\n\r\nYeah. But what I did do was give her space to talk, to have a conversation, to express herself, to say she's angry, always redirecting her to respect her father. And I also got her into counseling as well. That was huge for me, for her to have a space other than me, to maybe talk about something that's a little bit more sensitive that she thought might hurt me if she said it. Maybe some things that she saw that maybe I had done. I wanted her to have a safe space for that as well. So therapy was key and definitely having conversations with her, allowing her to lead that too. I didn't want to force conversations on her. Just wanted to watch and let her lead conversations and give the space for her.\r\n\r\nAnn (04:57):\r\n\r\nWow. And Cheryl, I'm just going to say, I think a lot of parents don't know what to do in those circumstances.\r\n\r\nDave (05:03):\r\n\r\nYou just coached them up.\r\n\r\nAnn (05:04):\r\n\r\nYou totally coached them up. And I also sit there and think, man, there's so many listeners that are walking through that right now. So for the fact that you're sharing that with us, is there anything you wish you would have done looking back? Anything different? Because the things that you shared are pretty pivotal.\r\n\r\nCheryl (05:22):\r\n\r\nIt was such a long time ago. It's hard for me to pinpoint something. I'm sure if I were closer to that time, I could snap something up immediately. One thing that I can think of is at some point I had to stop speaking with my former spouse because it was so combative that I had to go, not no contact, but contact through email and text messaging. Texting was fairly new then. I wish I had done that sooner.\r\n\r\nAnn (05:48):\r\n\r\nBecause of the emotions.\r\n\r\nCheryl (05:49):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely. I'm defending myself. I'm reacting to the anger that's coming at me. At some point, I had to stop and say, \"Okay, God, this is not helping. This is not honoring to You. It's not honoring to him. He is still a follower of yours. He's still your son. And it's not helping my daughter. One of us has got to grow up. And if I'm noticing it, then that's me. I'm the one that has to grow up.\"\r\n\r\nDave (06:12):\r\n\r\nWalk us from there to you got remarried.\r\n\r\nCheryl (06:15):\r\n\r\nI did. I got remarried. \r\n\r\nDave (06:18):\r\n\r\nWas that years?\r\n\r\nCheryl (06:19):\r\n\r\nThere were a few years. \r\n\r\nAnn (06:20):\r\n\r\nSo you were a single mom.\r\n\r\nCheryl (06:21):\r\n\r\nSo I was a single mom. But yeah, so I was not looking to get remarried at all. This was the first time in my adult\u2014I was a we before I was a me.\r\n\r\n(06:31):\r\n\r\nAnd so now I'm having the opportunity to be a me and I was loving it. There was peace in my home. I was traveling. I'd gone back to school. There were so many things that I was experiencing. It was wonderful. I was driving down the street and I just heard a question and pressed upon my heart, \"If I were to bless you with a husband, what do you want?\" And I started going down a list and I said, \"Well, Lord, that's you.\" I'm praying. \"Lord, that's you. So I don't need anybody. You, me and Kayla, we are cool. Do not introduce anybody into this space, please and thank you.\" And what I heard next was \u201cI may bless you with a husband, but nobody will ever love you the way I love you.\u201d So I just kind of sank into the love of God, right?\r\n\r\n(07:11):\r\n\r\nJust a sweet, sweet time. And I was not dating. My daughter was 13 at the time. I didn't want to introduce a man into our lives. I had made the decision that if I were ever to date, it probably wouldn't happen until she was in college and out of the home. I had all of these plans and God had something different in mind. So here comes a friend. Jonathan actually was my friend in high school and in college. He attended my first wedding as a guest. And he calls me. The last time we had spoken, I was pregnant with Kayla, and he had just gotten married. And he calls me out of the blue and he's like, \"Hey, here's a blast from the past. You want to get together?\" We never dated, nothing like that. We were more brother-sister relationship than anything else. A year and a half later, we got married.\r\n\r\n(07:58):\r\n\r\nYeah, we've been married now for 18 years. And I have never known love the way I know it today. I always say that Jonathan is a real husband. He's a cultivator. He cultivates the ground of our home and I get to flourish. What I mean is that he creates a space in our home. We talk, we communicate, we are friends. There's room for me to grow. There's room for him to grow as well. There's acceptance in that growth that we shift with one another. We may not understand what the other person is growing through, but we have made a commitment to be there. And that brings a level of safety that allows you to flourish. That I know that this person, that my person is here for me. I can flourish. I feel safe enough to try different things, to explore my personality in ways maybe I didn't.\r\n\r\n(08:53):\r\n\r\nI cried in my husband's arms for the first time after I was married to Jonathan. I never had that opportunity before. Always had to be the strong one. I was allowed to be soft with him. And that's what I mean. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nThat feels good. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nYeah, that feels very good to be able to do that.\r\n\r\nDave (09:08):\r\n\r\nI mean, I'm sitting here talking to two women, two wives. What makes a wife feel like she can flourish from her man? I mean, you said a lot of it. Is there anything you would add?\r\n\r\nAnn (09:17):\r\n\r\nEverything that Cheryl said. And the first time I heard that word flourish in marriage was with Tony Evans.\r\n\r\nCheryl (09:22):\r\n\r\nOh yeah.\r\n\r\nAnn (09:23):\r\n\r\nI remember him talking about people around your table, your family should flourish under your care.\r\n\r\nCheryl (09:29):\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nAnn (09:30):\r\n\r\nAnd man, that struck me like I want that for our family. I feel like you do do that, Dave. I think you give space for people to be who they are. You're safe, you're dependable, trustworthy, and all of that creates security.\r\n\r\nCheryl (09:43):\r\n\r\nIt does.\r\n\r\nAnn (09:44):\r\n\r\nAnd so as a woman especially, and you aren't afraid of my strength, my bigness, my feistiness, but you're also like\u2014and in fact, you applaud it. You're happy that I'm strong. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nYeah. I love it. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nNot when it gets out of hand and it's directed at you.\r\n\r\nDave (10:03):\r\n\r\nSometimes it gets out of hand.\r\n\r\nAnn (10:06):\r\n\r\nBut I think you create\u2014and you still do it in our home\u2014the safety, joy. People can be who God made them to be. We can be vulnerable.\r\n\r\nCheryl (10:16):\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nAnn (10:17):\r\n\r\nAnd I can tell you everything and you're not insecure. I think that's a big thing.\r\n\r\nCheryl (10:21):\r\n\r\nThat's a huge thing.\r\n\r\nAnn (10:23):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nSomewhere between the schedule, the responsibilities, and the routine, it's easy to forget why you enjoy being together. Weekend to Remember\u00ae gives you that time back, away from everything competing for your attention, focused only on each other.\r\n\r\nDave (10:44):\r\n\r\nAnd right now through September 21st, registrations are 50% off. Two for the price of one. Just visit FamilyLifeToday.com and click on the banner at the top of the page and find your date and location. You know what I mean? You can pick whatever weekend you want, wherever you want. And you get the deal by just using the promo code Save50. That's save five zero.\r\n\r\nOkay. Now I got two wives in the room. How do you help your husbands flourish?\r\n\r\nCheryl (11:16):\r\n\r\nWe might be the wrong persons to ask. It might be you need to answer that question. Yeah, that's true.\r\n\r\nDave (11:21):\r\n\r\nWhat comes to your mind first as wives do you think, man, I want him to flourish so I want to what?\r\n\r\nCheryl (11:27):\r\n\r\nOne of the things that comes to my mind that I hope that I do for Jonathan is I show him a great deal of admiration and respect. I appreciate what he does. And I let him know, I really appreciate who you are and I appreciate what you do. We have a culture of politeness in our family just by virtue of who we are. So even something as simple as please and thank you. Excuse me. Just honoring who he is as an individual I think is very, very helpful to him flourishing. Admiring him is very helpful to him, flourishing. Applauding him much like he applauds me is very helpful. I am not a bowler. I don't want\u2014my eyes glaze over when I see bowlers and bowling and all the things. Jonathan is an avid bowler. He loves it. So I applaud that. Oh honey, your average is going up.\r\n\r\n(12:17):\r\n\r\nThat's wonderful. I don't know what it took to do that, but I'm grateful for it. So just the little things. The same thing he would do for a friend. Man, we treat our friends so well. Why don't we treat our spouses as well or better than we treat our friends?\r\n\r\nAnn (12:34):\r\n\r\nI had a friend once say to me like, \"I don't want to have to figure out how should I say this to my husband? I just want to say it.\" And I said, \"Well, you don't do that with a friend or even a coworker. You're thinking through and praying through, how should I present this?\" I said, \"So this is your lifetime partner who you love and care for more than anybody. So why wouldn't you take even more time to care about how you communicate to them?\" And I would agree. And the word flourish, I love that word. Sometimes I think of it as a vine. There's a Psalm that talks about how we flourish like a vine.\r\n\r\nCheryl (13:07):\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nAnn (13:07):\r\n\r\nBut I think for men, I think of support. I think for me, Dave, all the things that Cheryl just said, that thank you, that admiration, the respect, being careful with how I communicate. I'm going to speak the truth, but I need to do it in a way that's still respectful. All those things. Would you add anything to that?\r\n\r\nDave (13:28):\r\n\r\nNo, I mean, that's it. I mean, when a man feels believed in, admired, to use that word, that's big. But on the other side, I know there are wives listening and go, \"Yeah, but my man's not respectable.\" \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\n\u2014admirable or is respectful. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nAnd I honestly don't admire some things. So how do you coach them to say, \"There's truth that needs to be said as well. What's that look like?\" I mean, I don't want to take this conversation somewhere else, but I'm thinking there's some wives listening\u2014\r\n\r\nCheryl (13:53):\r\n\r\nThere's such a good opportunity to speak to the wives that are listening.\r\n\r\nDave (13:56):\r\n\r\nSo how would you help them with that guy?\r\n\r\nCheryl (13:59):\r\n\r\nOne of the things that I would say is admire the things that are admirable and speak to the things that are not. And you speak to those things with love and humility, just like the Word tells us, that we are to bear the infirmities of the weak, but we're to do these things in humility because we're going to be taken over as well. I always try to remember that Jonathan and I are on the same team. So one of the things that I pray is, \u201cGod, what's the win-win here? What's the most helpful thing?\u201d I remember one time Jonathan had done something. I had felt especially disrespected.\r\n\r\n(14:30):\r\n\r\nAnd I had about 10 seconds to either blow up or make a decision to approach this as if\u2014invite him to the table for the conversation versus blowing up and building resistance in him. So I took a moment, went and prayed, and then I waited. I waited until we were in bed together and I approached it from communicating my intention first because we judge ourselves based upon our intentions, but other people judge us based upon our impact on them. So I had to communicate my intentions first so that the impact would be lessened, right? So he would receive it well. So what I said to him was, \"Listen, I know your heart towards me. I know that you love me. I know these things to be true, but this thing happened and I felt disrespected by that. Can you help me understand what happened? Can you help me unpack this?\" And he apologized immediately.\r\n\r\n(15:25):\r\n\r\n\u201cI didn't realize that this was the impact on you. I'm so sorry.\u201d\r\n\r\nAnn (15:28):\r\n\r\nNow you're hearing his intent.\r\n\r\nCheryl (15:30):\r\n\r\nNow I'm hearing his intent, right? Because I've invited him to the table so that we can reach the win-win together. I'm hearing his intent. And he said, \"And this will never happen again.\" And it has never happened again. That was probably early. It was pretty early on in our marriage. I want to say within the first three years or so. So I would say communicate your intention first. Remember that you're on the same team. You're looking for the win-win and that God is fighting for you. He's fighting for both of you as well. You want to fight with the Holy Spirit, not against the Holy Spirit. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nSo good. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nAnd approach him in humility.\r\n\r\nAnn (16:04):\r\n\r\nYour wisdom in how you approached him is masterful and it's Holy Spirit driven.\r\n\r\nDave (16:10):\r\n\r\nI mean, help me understand. That's a great way to phrase it.\r\n\r\nAnn (16:14):\r\n\r\nBecause what happens when we don't approach it that way, let's say that you just didn't communicate anything. The devil can get a foothold. And so then you start wearing this cloak of resentment. And that's where it gets really tricky where the enemy can kind of just whisper like, \"He must not love you.\"\r\n\r\nCheryl (16:32):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely.\r\n\r\nAnn (16:33):\r\n\r\nAnd if you have any wounds from the past or triggers, things, it's just like poking it. And I think it's so important to go to God to ask him, \"How do I do this? How do I approach it? How can I communicate?\" That was so wise. And as I'm listening to you, Cheryl, I'm like, \"It seems like you both learned a lot from your first marriages.\"\r\n\r\nCheryl (16:56):\r\n\r\nWe did. We learned a lot from the failures, previously. Absolutely.\r\n\r\nAnn (16:59):\r\n\r\nI think that's hopeful because our listeners, we have so many that have gone through divorce. You're not just saying it, you're doing it. You both learned some things of, if we had to do it over again, let's put in some new applications of what we can do.\r\n\r\nCheryl (17:14):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely. Let's put in some new applications. Let's not repeat the mistakes of the past. I think both of us, prior to getting remarried, we had done a lot of individual healing ourselves. That was very helpful. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nIs that important?\r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nAbsolutely important. I've watched my former spouse jumped into\u2014he was married a month after our divorce and you could see some of the lack of healing in how his relationship with our daughter ended, how that was impacted and how it imploded. My husband and I, we individually, of course, without knowing that we would eventually reconnect and be married, we just did the work. We did some hard work. And after we got married, we continue to do hard\u2014today we still do the hard work. I am not responsible for Jonathan's emotions. I can't manage him. I can only manage my own emotions. I can only manage my own impact beyond the tip of this nose.\r\n\r\n(18:17):\r\n\r\nThis is where control is at the tip of my nose. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nThat\u2019s so good.\r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nI can't control anything outside of that. So that's where I have to put in the work. That's where most of my prayer needs to be focused. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nMe too. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nRight. Oh my goodness. \r\n\r\nAnn (18:30):\r\n\r\nFor all of us as women, our job is us.\r\n\r\nCheryl (18:33):\r\n\r\nOur job is us. That's good. I like that. Our job is us. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nIt's true for men too. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nIt's true for men too. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nNot just women. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nOkay, we won\u2019t leave you out. You\u2019re outnumbered. I'm sorry.\r\n\r\nAnn (18:41):\r\n\r\nAs a woman, I can go into control. \r\n\r\nCheryl:\r\n\r\nAbsolutely. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nWhen I'm unhappy, I'm going to control the situation and I'm going to make you do or say or be what I think you should be. And that is when things get really ugly.\r\n\r\nCheryl (18:54):\r\n\r\nYeah. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nIf there's a listener, a woman, or a man, that's gone through a divorce and you say, \u201cDo the work,\u201d what's the work? What do they need to do before\u2014they don't know if they're getting remarried, but before they get remarried, for sure, the next year, five years, ten years, what's the work?\r\n\r\nCheryl (19:13):\r\n\r\nOne of the first, I think, and most important things that you can do is work on forgiveness, for real. Because if you don't, you are going to hamper your healing. You're going to hold onto a fence. A root of bitterness can well up in your life. That is going to impact everything. Offense does not stay with you. It rolls over into every other area of your life. So work on forgiving the person. That doesn't necessarily mean reconciliation, but it does mean that you release them from a legitimate debt that they owe you.\r\n\r\nDave (19:46):\r\n\r\nWhat did that look like for you? Because I heard what you said. There was another woman.\r\n\r\nCheryl (19:51):\r\n\r\nYeah. Yes.\r\n\r\nDave (19:52):\r\n\r\nSo that's hard.\r\n\r\nAnn (19:53):\r\n\r\nBetrayal's hard.\r\n\r\nCheryl (19:54):\r\n\r\nBetrayal is hard. But man, I had an amazing community around me that helped me process through that. I wasn't spiritually bypassing it. I was going to God. I was doing a lot of David prayers, a lot of lamenting like Jeremiah, like, \"Okay, God, this hurts, this stinks, this is wrong. What are we going to do about this? I am angry about this. I don't like this. Will You help me?\" One of the things that I found when I went to the Lord and just poured out my heart\u2014I'm almost like a beggar, right? I'm just pouring out my heart. I need you, Father\u2014is that He supplied Himself and He blanketed me in so much peace. There is peace to be had when we pour our hurt and pain. He can handle the weight of our hurt and our pain and our tears, our tragedies, the failings as much as He handles the weight of our worship.\r\n\r\n(20:44):\r\n\r\nHe can do both. So we can do both and give both to Him. That is so important to do that. I would also say talk to a therapist as well because we want to do the work so that when offense comes in the future\u2014if we are remarried or just in relationship with people\u2014we're not re-triggered or re-traumatized and we're not acting out of unhealed wounds. So go and talk to someone. Work through those things. And two other things that I would say actually that probably are surprising. The third is rest. Get some rest. You just went through a whole upheaval of your life. That is huge. Give yourself the grace of pacing yourself. You don't have to rush to be okay. Just rest.\r\n\r\nAnn (21:30):\r\n\r\nHow do you do that? I have three kids and now I'm a single mom. How do I do that?\r\n\r\nCheryl (21:35):\r\n\r\nYou can be functional and still rest in God. I can function and still find moments where I, \u201cGod, I'm giving You my day. I'm just relying upon you. I'm giving you the fact that I have three kids. Would you carve out some moments for me to just have peace where I am not on, where I'm not mom, where I'm not having, where I'm not dad\u201d\u2014there are a lot of single dads out there\u2014\"where I'm not having to do something in the moment. Would you carve out that space for me?\u201d One of the best things I think that we can do is invite the power, the presence, and the intention of God into our daily lives. Just ask Him. He will supply. It's His delight to give us the Kingdom, His rule and reign in every area of our lives. And that includes the hard spaces as well.\r\n\r\n(22:25):\r\n\r\nThe fourth thing that I would say is have fun. Get together with some friends who make you laugh, have lots of fun, cultivate joy in your life, take up a hobby you've always wanted to and squeeze out a moment. I know you're busy, you're tired sometimes, but squeeze out a moment to squeeze out some joy in your life. That will help you heal as well.\r\n\r\nAnn (22:49):\r\n\r\nOne of the things I was thinking as you talk about that rest piece is, I mean, when your kids are young, it's hard to find rest. And I wouldn't be afraid to put a movie in and have your kids watch the movie. But here's the thing that you need to do because we're all so tempted. Our kids are watching a movie. I have a moment. And so what do we do? We either do all of these chores or these things around the house, or we sit and we scroll on our phones. I would say if you put your kids in front of the TV, which we all do that, get some time with Jesus, pull out your Bible and tell Him. I love that you keep saying pour your heart out to God. Tell Him all the things that you're hearing because He hears those prayers and He will fill you up more than any scrolling will ever do.\r\n\r\n(23:38):\r\n\r\nI know it feels good to get some dishes done or whatever, but that time with Jesus is critical.\r\n\r\nCheryl (23:45):\r\n\r\nIf your mom is living, invite your mom over. \r\n\r\nAnn (23:48):\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nCheryl (23:48):\r\n\r\nShe will likely do the dishes and watch the kids.\r\n\r\nAnn (23:51):\r\n\r\nShe might even play with them or whatever but spend some time with Jesus.\r\n\r\nCheryl (23:53):\r\n\r\nAnd spend some time with Jesus. Yes. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nI love that.\r\n\r\nDave (23:57):\r\n\r\nYeah. And I would add, because I was the son, talk to your kids\u2014\r\n\r\nCheryl (24:01):\r\n\r\nTalk to your kids.\r\n\r\nDave (24:02):\r\n\r\n\u2014about what's happening.\r\n\r\nCheryl (24:04):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nDave (24:04):\r\n\r\nHelp them verbalize with their feeling. What a great day with Cheryl. And by the way, her book is called Waiting to Be Wanted: A Stepmom's Guide to Loving Before Being Loved. And you can get at FamilyLifeToday.com. Just click on the link in the show notes. And guess what? We got her back tomorrow.\r\n\r\nAnn (24:19):\r\n\r\nWe want to hear from you. You can leave us a voice message with your questions, concerns, praise reports, or whatever. All you have to do is go to speakpipe.com\/FamilyLifeToday. Again, that's speakpipe.com\/FamilyLifeToday or get the link in the show notes.\r\n\r\nDave (24:45):\r\n\r\nFamilyLife Today is a donor-supported production of FamilyLife\u00ae, a Cru\u00ae  ministry; 50 years of helping you pursue the relationships that matter most.\r\n\r\nIf you\u2019ve benefited from the FamilyLife Today transcripts, would you consider donating today to help defray the costs of producing them and making them available online?\r\n\r\nCopyright \u00a9 2026 FamilyLife. 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