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We do not assume any responsibility or liability for the use or interpretation of this content.\r\n\r\nJennie Allen: On Finding Your People\r\n\r\nGuest:Jennie Allen\r\n\r\nFrom the series:Jennie Allen: On Finding Your People (Day 3 of 3)\r\n\r\nAir date:July 10, 2026\r\n\r\nAnn (00:04):\r\n\r\nTell me a time when you felt really lonely.\r\n\r\nDave (00:08):\r\n\r\nGoing through succession after 30 years of leading a church. I felt lonely. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nInteresting. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nThat felt like I was walking down a tunnel alone. It was dark. You and my family was with me and I was alone.\r\n\r\nAnn (00:25):\r\n\r\nWhere were your friends?\r\n\r\nDave (00:26):\r\n\r\nIt was interesting. It didn't feel like they were there. I mean, my closest friends\u2014the couples that we do life with, we've done for 30 plus years\u2014they were with me. Everybody else was on the outside, not understanding how hard it was.\r\n\r\nAnn (00:46):\r\n\r\nWelcome to FamilyLife Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I'm Ann Wilson.\r\n\r\nDave (00:52):\r\n\r\nAnd I'm Dave Wilson and you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com. This is FamilyLife Today. \r\n\r\nI've always said the greatest gift in my life, behind Jesus and you, is the couples we've done life with for 30 years, raised our kids together. I think I did all their kids' weddings, officiated. It was hard work, but it's the best gift we've ever done. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nIt's been really fun. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nAnd so we're talking about that today, about find your people, and we sit here going, \"Wow, we found our people.\"\r\n\r\nAnn (01:29):\r\n\r\nBut Dave, so many people\u2014 \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nSo many don't. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\n\u2014haven't, and they're lonely. Sometimes you really don't even know you're lonely till you hit something that, as you're saying, you've gone through something that you feel devastated; and you don't even know how to get out, and you don't have people.\r\n\r\nDave (01:44):\r\n\r\nYeah. So Jennie Allen is back again at FamilyLife Today to talk about Find Your People. Jennie, welcome back.\r\n\r\nJennie (01:49):\r\n\r\nIt's so good to be here.\r\n\r\nDave (01:50):\r\n\r\nNow, you're smiling because you\u2019ve found your people. You wrote a book that says, \u201cThis is how God made us. We have to find our people.\u201d But we've talked for a couple days now. It's really hard.\r\n\r\nAnn (02:03):\r\n\r\nWell, let me ask you, Jennie\u2014you're an author, you're speaker, you're a mom, you're a wife\u2014what has been the loneliest time for you?\r\n\r\nJennie (02:11):\r\n\r\nMoving to Dallas was a moment. I mean, we moved our whole family. We had a senior in high school at the time, which there was a lot of reasons for this move; and it was hard, but he was on board. We had a sophomore in high school, and then we had a middle schooler, and an elementary school age kid. That whole first year really revolved around getting them set up and settled. And I was meeting people, but you don't feel known. It was just starting over, and it was scary and hard. We had to do all the awkward things you have to do to make friends.\r\n\r\nAnn (02:44):\r\n\r\nI feel like, as I talk to women, there's two phases, too, that can be really difficult. One is when you have young children\u2014and whether you're working, and then you come home, and you're just pouring into your kids\u2014or maybe you're a stay-at-home mom, and your friends are working.\r\n\r\nDave (02:58):\r\n\r\nAnd you're complaining because your husband's not helping enough.\r\n\r\nAnn (03:00):\r\n\r\nExactly. Your marriage is just struggling, because that's a really hard time in your life. Another hard stage, that I'm talking to women my age, they're empty nesters and whereas before, their kids were in school so they had all these people\u2014their friends parents, sporting events, all these different things, they're meeting people\u2014now, they're not meeting as many people; or they've moved into a new community, and they don't know any people. So let's kind of hit those two things a little bit.\r\n\r\nJennie (03:26):\r\n\r\nSure. One thing I talk about in the book a lot is that the idea of a village should be more than your two to five best friends. It should actually be a whole group of people that are helping you live life, and raise kids, and do all these seasons together. That village should\u2014they're not going to be your daily friends\u2014but they're going to be in and out of your life: it's Sunday school teachers; it's friends that your kids play sports with; it's neighbors. It's all of these people that are just in our life anyway, and might be different ages and life stages and all of that, but provide, hopefully, what village living has provided for people for generations, which is help, right? And I think we all need it. And so to the mom that feels really isolated, I would say first of all, just make friends with people that don't have kids.\r\n\r\n(04:12):\r\n\r\nSo singles, those were some of my best friends in that time. They would come over after I'd put my kids down, and my husband was gone, and we'd get to hang out. They were flexible enough to be able to drop by when my kids were napping or when they were asleep. And then I would say make friends with people that are older than you, that will come over and like say, \"Hey, let me tell you\u2014\"\r\n\r\n(04:29):\r\n\r\n\u2014give you perspective that this season is not the end all, be all, like, \u201cThis is what's going to happen,\u201d and \u201cHere's how I handled this,\u201d and \u201cHere's what I did.\" Those people are necessary in your life. We call them mentors or disciple-makers sometimes; but whatever you call them, you just need people that have done this life stage before you. And then I would say get creative with your friends. So one thing I did with my friends when we had young kids, was every Sunday, we would cook for each other. We would deliver meals and see each other when we would deliver our meals to each other.\r\n\r\nAnn (04:56):\r\n\r\nThat's so sweet. So you did that every Sunday?\r\n\r\nJennie (04:59):\r\n\r\nYeah, we would cook together. Yeah. Another thing I've seen people do is meet at Costco, meet at Target, meet at somewhere there's a playground, go to a park together, like push your strollers. I also want to say for those people that are just starting their life, do not be like Monica and Chandler on Friends, where they have their twins, and they move out to the suburbs. If you are having babies, and you're thinking \u201cWe need a yard,\u201d \u201cWe need all these things,\u201d \u201cWe need the perfect house,\u201d all that, be sure you're not leaving the communal system that you actually need to raise your kids. I would say be careful to take a job that pays more and leave your family. Be careful in that season, make choices that maybe bring you conveniences but take you away from people. Certainly not everyone's going to go move, because they read this book; but I do hope it brings into context: you know what? I need neighbors and I need people that know what's going on, and that I can borrow things from, and take walks with, and be in each other's life.\r\n\r\nAnn (05:54):\r\n\r\nWhich is so contrary because many times we make that move because of money. We have a better job status, kind of climbing the ladder like, \u201cOf course we're going to do it.\u201d \r\n\r\nDave (06:04):\r\n\r\nWell, I mean, I've literally sat with men, who asked for my advice on a job change\u2014often, a city change\/state\u2014and this, what you just said, Jennie, is way down on the priority list. They think it's not that important.\r\n\r\nJennie (06:19):\r\n\r\nThe number one priority of your life should be the relationships in your life. There's nothing else that lasts forever. It's God and His people, like that's it. This is going to go into eternity with us. There's not a better investment of your life, and you need it to live. We are just so arrogant in America that we think we can live without connection and we\u2019re not. We\u2019re not doing it.\r\n\r\nDave (06:38):\r\n\r\nBut Jennie, the job that I'm being offered\u2014\r\n\r\nJennie (06:39):\r\n\r\nI don\u2019t care.\r\n\r\nDave (06:42):\r\n\r\n\u2014is double the salary.\r\n\r\nJennie:\r\n\r\nTake half the salary and live in a neighborhood with five friends that have less means than you; and that's the neighborhood they can afford. Make choices around this. This should be the guiding force of our life, because it's the richest part of life; it's the most meaningful part of life; and it's the most essential part of life.\r\n\r\nDave (06:59):\r\n\r\nSo you've got that community; you're never leaving.\r\n\r\nJennie (07:04):\r\n\r\nPeople are going to have to move. I mean, I hear a lot from military families, right? And I just had to redo it in Dallas, and our move was to move closer to family. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nThere you go. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nShe did do it. \r\n\r\nJennie:\r\n\r\nI did, but certainly we left a lot of good friends and had to start over. But you can build it anywhere you go. But I think it should be at the top of the list of the choices we're making and why we're making them. Sure, take the better job, but you better get busy right when you get there. And for military families, what I say is you can do all this. Be vulnerable, find accountability. You can do all the things that I say to do in the book, but you just got to do it faster than other people because you're going to be off to the next place.\r\n\r\n(07:39):\r\n\r\nAnd then you've got to pick the friends that you keep with you. I have a great group of friends in proximity to me. They are the ones that pull me out of bed when I'm really, really down and they know I need to go out; and like they will come over and be like \u201cGet dressed and let's go.\u201d So I have those friends that can get in my face and like are my day-to-day friends. But that other group serves a purpose, too; and they are deep, rich friends too. And none of them live\u2014well, one of them lives in Dallas, but most of them don't. And so we're doing and practicing depth, long distance. You can do that, praise God, now through technology. That's not enough. You also need someone that's in your day-to-day business in your life.\r\n\r\nDave (08:14):\r\n\r\nI tell you what, one of our best friends that lived two blocks from us\u2014they literally lived about 20 miles away\u2014they moved to be near us, and we raised our kids together.\r\n\r\nAnn (08:27):\r\n\r\nWhich I thought that was amazing that they did that. \r\n\r\nJennie:\r\n\r\nThat's very radical. Everybody listening is like, \"That's crazy.\"\r\n\r\nDave (08:33):\r\n\r\nYeah, it was crazy. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nIt was amazing.\r\n\r\nJennie (08:35):\r\n\r\nTell me it wasn't the best decision they ever made.\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nIt was the best.\r\n\r\nDave (08:38):\r\n\r\nIt was incredible.\r\n\r\nAnn (08:39):\r\n\r\nWe walked, my friend and I, we walked probably four days a week and this is a good thing too. We ended up praying and fasting, one day a week, for each other's kids. We became sisters.\r\n\r\nDave (08:51):\r\n\r\nAnd he was my brother and I mean, we've known each other decades and I'm not kidding about five, six years ago, I don't know what it was. We get a text, our guys group, \"Hey, anybody want our snowblower?\" We're like, \"Why?\" \u201cWe\u2019re moving.\u201d \"What do you mean you're moving? You tell us by asking if we want your snowblower.\u201d We all went crazy. \"What do you mean you're moving?\u201d\r\n\r\nAnn (09:12):\r\n\r\nWe were so mad.\r\n\r\nDave (09:13):\r\n\r\nAnd they did. They moved to be near their daughters, which is awesome. And they wanted to be there with their grandkids.\r\n\r\nAnn (09:18):\r\n\r\nAnd we kind of had it out a little bit because they also said,\" You guys, you're gone all the time now. You are constantly on the road. \r\n\r\nDave (09:25):\r\n\r\nWe're traveling, doing marriage stuff, writing books.\r\n\r\nAnn (09:28):\r\n\r\nAnd their kids\/two daughters moved away.\r\n\r\nDave (09:30):\r\n\r\nBut they're listening right now, Rob and Michelle, and they're like\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn (09:32):\r\n\r\nBecause they listen all the time.\r\n\r\nDave (09:33):\r\n\r\nIt was so hard, because it's everything you're saying. They were our people.\r\n\r\nJennie (09:38):\r\n\r\nRight. And everybody, probably, listening has heard this before, but God's got to be the center of your relational activity or you're going to be a real drain on your friends. That is very important. And it's important thing not to miss that principle because ultimately, people will die. People will move. Our hope is not ultimately in people.\r\n\r\nAnn (09:57):\r\n\r\nThey do not meet all of our needs.\r\n\r\nJennie (09:59):\r\n\r\nNo. And they will certainly be transient. I'm just suggesting what you all just said, which is that was a radical thing. That shouldn't be radical. We should make choices like that all the time and the church should be making choices like that all the time\u2014that we choose to be near family, we choose to be near good friends. We make that a priority in our lives. Will you be able to hang on to them forever? No. And will there be a sense of they won't ever meet all your needs? Absolutely. And that's why it's so precious about having godly friendships, where you're all going, \"You know what? My needs are getting met with God; and I, out of obedience, want this to be part of my life in following Him. And so we're going to do that together, but we're not asking each other to be each other's end all be all because we have a God that is the best of friend, right?\u201d\r\n\r\n(10:43):\r\n\r\nI mean, it says Jesus is the best of friends. And so we get to walk with Him and have a relationship with Him and then that bleed into our relationship.\r\n\r\nDave (10:50):\r\n\r\nAnd at the same time, even though they're in Atlanta, now we just have to work harder. \r\n\r\nJennie:\r\n\r\nThat's right. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nIt isn't like we're done. \r\n\r\nJennie:\r\n\r\nYou don't lose that. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nIt\u2019s like, \u201cYou got to come back and see us. We're going to go see you.\u201d It's going to be work. We're in a Zoom. It's harder work. They're not a couple blocks away, but you still have to do it because your people are your people.\r\n\r\nAnn (11:07):\r\n\r\nWhat I've realized with her being gone, with Michelle being gone, is she's my therapy person. You're talking, you're sharing, you're kind of doing life with somebody and you're working out things as you're talking. I'm realizing like, \u201cOh, I'm not doing that as much anymore with someone,\u201d and I need that because it helps me when I can say, \u201cDave is really bugging me right now.\u201d\r\n\r\nJennie (11:29):\r\n\r\nIt's why proximity is the first thing. Now you don't have to have it, but man, didn't that make a special friendship because you were walking four times a week. So everybody listening that feels lonely, look at your neighbors. Maybe you have them, but maybe you don't, and maybe you do need to make a shift. And I know that sounds radical and crazy, but people move for crazier reasons. Let's just say that. And this is a priority. And so I think finding those people that it's easy to see in the years that your kids are young. I told my daughter the other day, they're talking about setting up their life and what's that going to look like? And I said, \"Listen, pick a street. If y'all are going to be the first ones to have kids and then basically you make friends with all your neighbors and just start getting everybody's phone numbers because be the person that creates it.\u201d\r\n\r\n(12:06):\r\n\r\nAnd so maybe that's your street. Maybe you stay exactly where you are, but you start getting people's phone numbers and saying, \"Hey, if you ever move, talk to me first and sell it to a friend.\" There's ways you can do this without moving, but I do think proximity does matter.\r\n\r\nAnn (12:23):\r\n\r\nAs a mom, have you ever lost your temper and thought, \u201cWow, how did that escalate so fast?\u201d Because mom anger usually isn't just about the spilled milk or sibling arguments and that gets you angry, but there's often something deeper going on.\r\n\r\nDave (12:40):\r\n\r\nWe have been there and guess what? We've got a five session video series from author and mom of four, Janelle Breitenstein. And let me tell you, she gets real. She gets real about her life and her anger and her own struggles with anger and what God has taught her through them. And let me tell you, you're going to discover practical tools, biblical encouragement, and you'll get insight into the fears and triggers fueling your reactions.\r\n\r\nAnn (13:04):\r\n\r\nIt's so good. So you can sign up today at FamilyLife.com\/MomAnger. Again, that's FamilyLife.com\/MomAnger.\r\n\r\nDave (13:19):\r\n\r\nWe interviewed a pastor from Missouri, Don Everts, and he talked about chronic loneliness. He had an interesting perspective. We'd love to play this clip and just let you respond. So I want to know what you think of what Don had to say.\r\n\r\nDon Everts - clip (13:35):\r\n\r\nIn our research, it came out that so a quarter of people in the United States that live alone, live by themselves. A number of people say that no one comes over to their house, ever. So in the medical field, they talk about there's a chronic loneliness is sweeping the country. And the interesting thing is, in the medical literature, they prefer to call it depression, but the doctors are like, \"It's chronic loneliness. You have no one in your life and humans aren't meant to live that way.\" So just to knock on someone's door, just to say hi, in our current context, it does not take much to be heroic.\r\n\r\nJennie (14:17):\r\n\r\nWow. Yes. I'm so glad for people like Don that are doing that research. I interviewed a guy that probably has a similar focus on loneliness right now. It was absolutely depressing. Because this is the disease of our day, but we're not able to really quantify it or talk about it because we haven't made it an acceptable thing to struggle with. And I think people feel a lot of shame. If you say depression, that's kind of more of something you can't control, but loneliness feels like something you could.\r\n\r\n(14:45):\r\n\r\nAnd so there's a lot of shame around it. But also, it's\u2014praise God\u2014it's something that we can change, right? It's something that I believe right now my job is to trumpet this in the church, to the church and say, \"Hey, I don't think we've been doing this as well as we could, and I think we could do it better.\" And then they start to go, \"You know what? I'm going to live differently. I'm going to start to know my neighbors. I'm going to start to have people over for dinner. I'm going to notice that single person that I've never noticed that's across the street that I don't even see very often and invite them over.\" One of my good friends, she's gotten to know the single person across the street that is in his 80s and he's very cranky and the street really doesn't like him because he's always complaining about things.\r\n\r\n(15:21):\r\n\r\nAnd she was like, \"You know what? He needs God. I'm going to love him and pursue him.\" She takes him flowers all the time, takes him food all the time, invited him over for his birthday and said, \"Bring any of your friends you want.\" He brought one friend, and the two of them sat there and told stories for a long time. He complained the whole time about things; and the friend was hitting him, and saying like, \"Stop complaining. This is so lovely. I can't believe you got invited over here. You need to be nicer.\" And yet, she is determined to make that man fall in love with their family and then hopefully fall in love with God, right? We've just got to be people that notice. We have the answers. We have a relationship with God, and we have, hopefully, local churches where there's some sense of connection, even if it's not a village like existence. We have those connections and that potential.\r\n\r\n(16:06):\r\n\r\nAnd so how do we invite people into it? How do we pursue it and prioritize it in such a way that we look different? Because contagious Christianity begins with contagious community. When you see people loving each other well\u2014and Jesus said that; that's not my words, that's His. He said, \"They will know you by your love for one another.\u201d That's how everybody would know \u201cYou're one of mine.\u201d We're not great at that, but I think we could get better. In the middle of this research, I pulled aside one of my friends that was moving from a group with roommates to an apartment by herself. I, with tears, said, \u201cI do not know if that's the best idea.\" And I know some people listening live alone, and some people can\u2014that is just their lot right now\u2014but I would challenge every presupposition to that because I believe it is not good for man to be alone.\r\n\r\n(16:49):\r\n\r\nGod said that. And so what does it look like to maybe take\u2014one of my friends, what she did as a single\u2014she still wanted to live alone, but she moved into a little complex with other people that she knew. So she has a town home, and she got to know all her neighbors, and they have cookouts at night, and they all spend time in their little courtyard together. She made a choice about where she would live alone, that she wouldn't be alone. I just think we've got to make choices; that we have to realize there is nothing worse for our health and science has proven it. I can show you the statistics; it's in the book\u2014that smoking, overeating, lack of exercise, none of that is more dangerous than loneliness. Loneliness is the worst thing for our health. And so if you just do it, because it's not good for you, that matters.\r\n\r\nDave (17:28):\r\n\r\nI mean, you said that\u2014I have a part of a book from John Ortberg, years ago, that he wrote\u2014did you ever see this?\u2014he said, people who had\u2014this is a study done, just what you said. People who had bad health habits\u2014smoking, poor eating, obesity, alcohol\u2014but strong social ties lived significantly longer than people who had great health habits but were isolated.\r\n\r\nAnn (17:51):\r\n\r\nYeah, listen to this.\r\n\r\nDave (17:51):\r\n\r\nThis commentary; in other words, it's better to eat Twinkies with good friends than to eat broccoli alone. Another study in the Journal of American Medical Association, 276 volunteers were infected with a virus that produces the common cold. The study found that people with strong emotional connections did four times better fighting off illness than those who were more isolated. These people were less susceptible to colds, had less virus, produced significantly less mucus than relationally isolated subjects. He said, \"I'm not making this up. They produced less mucus. That means it's literally true. Unfriendly people are snottier than friendly people.\u201d So anyway, I mean, it's just a cute way to say it, but here's what I'm hearing. As you listen to themes that God brings into the church and the Christian community, you start to notice\u2014a few years ago, I'm like, \"Wow, every worship song that I love is about identity right now.\" It's like who we are in Christ, which was beautiful.\r\n\r\n(18:46):\r\n\r\nAnd you notice another one, another one, sermons as I was preaching, I think this is something God's bringing to us right now. \r\n\r\nJennie:\r\n\r\nI hope so. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nMe too.\r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nBecause we need it.\r\n\r\nJennie (18:55):\r\n\r\nWe need it, and we're all aware we need it.\r\n\r\nAnn (18:57):\r\n\r\nOne of the things you said, Jennie, was you and your friends\u2014this is kind of beginning to get to know each other\u2014you did your, I call it a timeline. You told your life story in about 20 minutes. That's something that we've been doing too and it's a great way to start. I did that with my friend Michelle. We would just go out to dinner and I would say, \"Tell me your story.\" And there's something about revealing who you are and what you've gone through that makes you really see the person. And in that, like we've done that recently with a new group of friends, where they just told their story. As we listened\u2014this is kind of a small group of couples\u2014and as we listened, then what we did was we spoke life into them after they shared it; and even empathize with their hard points.\r\n\r\n(19:40):\r\n\r\nAnd in that timeline, in like 20 minutes, you're sharing your highs but you're sharing your lows. And so to say like, \"Wow, I can't imagine how hard that was for you to experience that,\" and \u201cThanks for going deep, and revealing kind of those pains and struggles and the hurts in your life.\u201d It was amazing, wasn't it, Dave? The guys did it too.\r\n\r\nDave (20:00):\r\n\r\nYeah, but it's scary.\r\n\r\nAnn (20:01):\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nDave (20:02):\r\n\r\nA lot of people hear that and they're like, \"Whoa, I'm not going there.\"\r\n\r\nJennie (20:05):\r\n\r\nYou're actually describing one of the things I share in the book, which is the science says that what we want from people. We actually don't want answers; we don't want to be fixed. That is not what we want. We want to be seen, soothed and safe. That right there is excellent marriage advice. If you're listening, and you're like, \"We have a hard marriage\"\u2014if you just make your spouse feel seen, soothed and safe, that goes so far.\r\n\r\n(20:31):\r\n\r\nMost people think what they want, and what they want to give, is answers. We want to fix people. When someone says something hard, we're like, \"But da, da, da.\" We're immediately giving the positive. And I've learned, from counseling, someone is sharing something with me, not because they need me to fix it, but they're probably sharing it with me because they don't want to be alone in it. And so when we can be with people in difficulty\u2014it's why the Bible says, \u201cMourn with those who mourn,\u201d right? There's a gift in just being with someone that is in their struggles and in their disappointments. I mean, one of the best pieces of advice I've ever gotten, and will give till I die, is when someone shares something with you, to do what your friend did\u2014to listen, to say what you hear back, and to say, \"I'm so sorry.\"\r\n\r\nDave (21:18):\r\n\r\nHey, men\u2014\r\n\r\nJennie (21:19):\r\n\r\nJust that.\r\n\r\nDave (21:20):\r\n\r\n\u2014men, are you listening right now? Because I've blown that so many times. \r\n\r\nAnn (21:24):\r\n\r\nI do it, too, Dave. I try to fix.\r\n\r\nDave (21:25):\r\n\r\nI mean, one time, Jennie\u2014we've said this here before, and we probably won't even keep this on the broadcast, but a long time\u2014and I'll keep it really short\u2014she was\u2014kids were little\u2014sharing with me how hard it was that day.\r\n\r\nAnn (21:37):\r\n\r\nI had a bad day, parenting. \r\n\r\nDave (21:38):\r\n\r\nI literally go upstairs\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn (21:39):\r\n\r\nWait, wait, wait. I have to tell Jennie. So I'm sharing all that. Dave goes, \u201cI'll be right back.\u201d He goes upstairs; he comes down with a little piece of paper and I thought, \"He wrote me a love note.\" \r\n\r\nJennie (21:48):\r\n\r\nHe's thankful.\r\n\r\nAnn (21:49):\r\n\r\nYes, he's going to share all the things he loves. \r\n\r\nDave (21:51):\r\n\r\nBut you guys already know.\r\n\r\nAnn (21:51):\r\n\r\nYeah. And so it's numbered one to ten and I'm thinking, \"Oh, these are the ten reasons why I'm a good mom.\" And so I pick it up and I look at him like, \"Thank you.\" And I read it out loud. \u201cNumber one,\u201d and I look at him, \"Get more organized.\"\r\n\r\nJennie (22:06):\r\n\r\nOh.\r\n\r\nAnn (22:07):\r\n\r\nI'm like, \u201cWait, wait, what?\u201d And number two is \u201cUse your time more wisely.\u201d \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nI mean, that's enough. That's enough. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nI said, \u201cWhat is this?!\u201d\r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nThat's enough. You don't need to read the rest. There were 10 of those. There were 10 of those.\r\n\r\nAnn (22:16):\r\n\r\nAnd so you know what I did? I rip it up like, \"You think this? \" And he goes, \"I prayed about this.\" I said, \"You did not pray about\u2014this from Satan.\" \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nShe yells at me. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nAnd I ripped it up and threw it in his face.\r\n\r\nDave (22:27):\r\n\r\nShe threw it in my face, but I mean, again, 40 years ago, what did I ask her? I'm like, \"That's not what you want. She told me just what you said. I want to be seen, soothed,\"\u2014what was the third one? \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nSafe. \r\n\r\nJennie (22:38):\r\n\r\nSafe.\r\n\r\nDave (22:39):\r\n\r\nSafe. Yeah. She didn't use those words, but that's exactly what I'm like, \"Really? What's that look like?\" And I think we missed that.\r\n\r\nJennie (22:45):\r\n\r\nThe book I wrote before this was called Get Of Your Head, and I did all this research\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn (22:48):\r\n\r\nWhich was really great.\r\n\r\nJennie (22:49):\r\n\r\nOh, thanks. I did all this research on the brain. Our brains, by God, were built this way. We actually were built not to need information. We were built needing connection. It was why this was the next book that I had to write; because when I did all the work on the brain, I realized, this is the greatest healing tool we have. This is the greatest gift we have on earth, right? It's God first, but on earth it's God through people. And so I think that is the way He built us\u2014was to require each other, to belong to each other. That is how He built us. And so it is actually built into our brains. Guys, that need some science behind it\u2014because I know what you're thinking because I think it too\u2014how does that help?\r\n\r\nAnn (23:27):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nJennie (23:27):\r\n\r\nYour brain decompresses, all the little pathways reopen when you feel understood, and seen, and known; and there's something in your brain that begins to heal. And so that's why, for trauma, you go to therapy because\u2014not so that you can get fixed and hear advice\u2014but so that you can process that story, and feel, in a safe environment, and feel soothed and seen and understood. That is why therapy works. It's a relationship where you get to talk about the hurts that you've had. So it's worth it, guys\u2014that are out there\u2014diminishing this plan.\r\n\r\nDave (24:00):\r\n\r\nMan, what a great day with Jennie Allen. Again, her book is called Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World.\r\n\r\nAnn (24:07):\r\n\r\nAnd you can get your copy by clicking the link in the show notes at FamilyLifeToday.com.\r\n\r\nDave (24:13):\r\n\r\nOur financial partners are the heartbeat of this ministry. And when you join this monthly giving community, you're not just donating, you're building something eternal.\r\n\r\nAnn (24:23):\r\n\r\nAnd we'd be so honored to have you on the journey with us. We really would. 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References to conferences, resources, or other special promotions may be obsolete. We do not assume any responsibility or liability for the use or interpretation of this content.\r\n\r\nJennie Allen: On Finding Your People\r\n\r\nGuest:Jennie Allen\r\n\r\nFrom the series:Jennie Allen: On Finding Your People (Day 3 of 3)\r\n\r\nAir date:July 10, 2026\r\n\r\nAnn (00:04):\r\n\r\nTell me a time when you felt really lonely.\r\n\r\nDave (00:08):\r\n\r\nGoing through succession after 30 years of leading a church. I felt lonely. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nInteresting. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nThat felt like I was walking down a tunnel alone. It was dark. You and my family was with me and I was alone.\r\n\r\nAnn (00:25):\r\n\r\nWhere were your friends?\r\n\r\nDave (00:26):\r\n\r\nIt was interesting. It didn't feel like they were there. I mean, my closest friends\u2014the couples that we do life with, we've done for 30 plus years\u2014they were with me. Everybody else was on the outside, not understanding how hard it was.\r\n\r\nAnn (00:46):\r\n\r\nWelcome to FamilyLife Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I'm Ann Wilson.\r\n\r\nDave (00:52):\r\n\r\nAnd I'm Dave Wilson and you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com. This is FamilyLife Today. \r\n\r\nI've always said the greatest gift in my life, behind Jesus and you, is the couples we've done life with for 30 years, raised our kids together. I think I did all their kids' weddings, officiated. It was hard work, but it's the best gift we've ever done. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nIt's been really fun. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nAnd so we're talking about that today, about find your people, and we sit here going, \"Wow, we found our people.\"\r\n\r\nAnn (01:29):\r\n\r\nBut Dave, so many people\u2014 \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nSo many don't. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\n\u2014haven't, and they're lonely. Sometimes you really don't even know you're lonely till you hit something that, as you're saying, you've gone through something that you feel devastated; and you don't even know how to get out, and you don't have people.\r\n\r\nDave (01:44):\r\n\r\nYeah. So Jennie Allen is back again at FamilyLife Today to talk about Find Your People. Jennie, welcome back.\r\n\r\nJennie (01:49):\r\n\r\nIt's so good to be here.\r\n\r\nDave (01:50):\r\n\r\nNow, you're smiling because you\u2019ve found your people. You wrote a book that says, \u201cThis is how God made us. We have to find our people.\u201d But we've talked for a couple days now. It's really hard.\r\n\r\nAnn (02:03):\r\n\r\nWell, let me ask you, Jennie\u2014you're an author, you're speaker, you're a mom, you're a wife\u2014what has been the loneliest time for you?\r\n\r\nJennie (02:11):\r\n\r\nMoving to Dallas was a moment. I mean, we moved our whole family. We had a senior in high school at the time, which there was a lot of reasons for this move; and it was hard, but he was on board. We had a sophomore in high school, and then we had a middle schooler, and an elementary school age kid. That whole first year really revolved around getting them set up and settled. And I was meeting people, but you don't feel known. It was just starting over, and it was scary and hard. We had to do all the awkward things you have to do to make friends.\r\n\r\nAnn (02:44):\r\n\r\nI feel like, as I talk to women, there's two phases, too, that can be really difficult. One is when you have young children\u2014and whether you're working, and then you come home, and you're just pouring into your kids\u2014or maybe you're a stay-at-home mom, and your friends are working.\r\n\r\nDave (02:58):\r\n\r\nAnd you're complaining because your husband's not helping enough.\r\n\r\nAnn (03:00):\r\n\r\nExactly. Your marriage is just struggling, because that's a really hard time in your life. Another hard stage, that I'm talking to women my age, they're empty nesters and whereas before, their kids were in school so they had all these people\u2014their friends parents, sporting events, all these different things, they're meeting people\u2014now, they're not meeting as many people; or they've moved into a new community, and they don't know any people. So let's kind of hit those two things a little bit.\r\n\r\nJennie (03:26):\r\n\r\nSure. One thing I talk about in the book a lot is that the idea of a village should be more than your two to five best friends. It should actually be a whole group of people that are helping you live life, and raise kids, and do all these seasons together. That village should\u2014they're not going to be your daily friends\u2014but they're going to be in and out of your life: it's Sunday school teachers; it's friends that your kids play sports with; it's neighbors. It's all of these people that are just in our life anyway, and might be different ages and life stages and all of that, but provide, hopefully, what village living has provided for people for generations, which is help, right? And I think we all need it. And so to the mom that feels really isolated, I would say first of all, just make friends with people that don't have kids.\r\n\r\n(04:12):\r\n\r\nSo singles, those were some of my best friends in that time. They would come over after I'd put my kids down, and my husband was gone, and we'd get to hang out. They were flexible enough to be able to drop by when my kids were napping or when they were asleep. And then I would say make friends with people that are older than you, that will come over and like say, \"Hey, let me tell you\u2014\"\r\n\r\n(04:29):\r\n\r\n\u2014give you perspective that this season is not the end all, be all, like, \u201cThis is what's going to happen,\u201d and \u201cHere's how I handled this,\u201d and \u201cHere's what I did.\" Those people are necessary in your life. We call them mentors or disciple-makers sometimes; but whatever you call them, you just need people that have done this life stage before you. And then I would say get creative with your friends. So one thing I did with my friends when we had young kids, was every Sunday, we would cook for each other. We would deliver meals and see each other when we would deliver our meals to each other.\r\n\r\nAnn (04:56):\r\n\r\nThat's so sweet. So you did that every Sunday?\r\n\r\nJennie (04:59):\r\n\r\nYeah, we would cook together. Yeah. Another thing I've seen people do is meet at Costco, meet at Target, meet at somewhere there's a playground, go to a park together, like push your strollers. I also want to say for those people that are just starting their life, do not be like Monica and Chandler on Friends, where they have their twins, and they move out to the suburbs. If you are having babies, and you're thinking \u201cWe need a yard,\u201d \u201cWe need all these things,\u201d \u201cWe need the perfect house,\u201d all that, be sure you're not leaving the communal system that you actually need to raise your kids. I would say be careful to take a job that pays more and leave your family. Be careful in that season, make choices that maybe bring you conveniences but take you away from people. Certainly not everyone's going to go move, because they read this book; but I do hope it brings into context: you know what? I need neighbors and I need people that know what's going on, and that I can borrow things from, and take walks with, and be in each other's life.\r\n\r\nAnn (05:54):\r\n\r\nWhich is so contrary because many times we make that move because of money. We have a better job status, kind of climbing the ladder like, \u201cOf course we're going to do it.\u201d \r\n\r\nDave (06:04):\r\n\r\nWell, I mean, I've literally sat with men, who asked for my advice on a job change\u2014often, a city change\/state\u2014and this, what you just said, Jennie, is way down on the priority list. They think it's not that important.\r\n\r\nJennie (06:19):\r\n\r\nThe number one priority of your life should be the relationships in your life. There's nothing else that lasts forever. It's God and His people, like that's it. This is going to go into eternity with us. There's not a better investment of your life, and you need it to live. We are just so arrogant in America that we think we can live without connection and we\u2019re not. We\u2019re not doing it.\r\n\r\nDave (06:38):\r\n\r\nBut Jennie, the job that I'm being offered\u2014\r\n\r\nJennie (06:39):\r\n\r\nI don\u2019t care.\r\n\r\nDave (06:42):\r\n\r\n\u2014is double the salary.\r\n\r\nJennie:\r\n\r\nTake half the salary and live in a neighborhood with five friends that have less means than you; and that's the neighborhood they can afford. Make choices around this. This should be the guiding force of our life, because it's the richest part of life; it's the most meaningful part of life; and it's the most essential part of life.\r\n\r\nDave (06:59):\r\n\r\nSo you've got that community; you're never leaving.\r\n\r\nJennie (07:04):\r\n\r\nPeople are going to have to move. I mean, I hear a lot from military families, right? And I just had to redo it in Dallas, and our move was to move closer to family. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nThere you go. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nShe did do it. \r\n\r\nJennie:\r\n\r\nI did, but certainly we left a lot of good friends and had to start over. But you can build it anywhere you go. But I think it should be at the top of the list of the choices we're making and why we're making them. Sure, take the better job, but you better get busy right when you get there. And for military families, what I say is you can do all this. Be vulnerable, find accountability. You can do all the things that I say to do in the book, but you just got to do it faster than other people because you're going to be off to the next place.\r\n\r\n(07:39):\r\n\r\nAnd then you've got to pick the friends that you keep with you. I have a great group of friends in proximity to me. They are the ones that pull me out of bed when I'm really, really down and they know I need to go out; and like they will come over and be like \u201cGet dressed and let's go.\u201d So I have those friends that can get in my face and like are my day-to-day friends. But that other group serves a purpose, too; and they are deep, rich friends too. And none of them live\u2014well, one of them lives in Dallas, but most of them don't. And so we're doing and practicing depth, long distance. You can do that, praise God, now through technology. That's not enough. You also need someone that's in your day-to-day business in your life.\r\n\r\nDave (08:14):\r\n\r\nI tell you what, one of our best friends that lived two blocks from us\u2014they literally lived about 20 miles away\u2014they moved to be near us, and we raised our kids together.\r\n\r\nAnn (08:27):\r\n\r\nWhich I thought that was amazing that they did that. \r\n\r\nJennie:\r\n\r\nThat's very radical. Everybody listening is like, \"That's crazy.\"\r\n\r\nDave (08:33):\r\n\r\nYeah, it was crazy. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nIt was amazing.\r\n\r\nJennie (08:35):\r\n\r\nTell me it wasn't the best decision they ever made.\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nIt was the best.\r\n\r\nDave (08:38):\r\n\r\nIt was incredible.\r\n\r\nAnn (08:39):\r\n\r\nWe walked, my friend and I, we walked probably four days a week and this is a good thing too. We ended up praying and fasting, one day a week, for each other's kids. We became sisters.\r\n\r\nDave (08:51):\r\n\r\nAnd he was my brother and I mean, we've known each other decades and I'm not kidding about five, six years ago, I don't know what it was. We get a text, our guys group, \"Hey, anybody want our snowblower?\" We're like, \"Why?\" \u201cWe\u2019re moving.\u201d \"What do you mean you're moving? You tell us by asking if we want your snowblower.\u201d We all went crazy. \"What do you mean you're moving?\u201d\r\n\r\nAnn (09:12):\r\n\r\nWe were so mad.\r\n\r\nDave (09:13):\r\n\r\nAnd they did. They moved to be near their daughters, which is awesome. And they wanted to be there with their grandkids.\r\n\r\nAnn (09:18):\r\n\r\nAnd we kind of had it out a little bit because they also said,\" You guys, you're gone all the time now. You are constantly on the road. \r\n\r\nDave (09:25):\r\n\r\nWe're traveling, doing marriage stuff, writing books.\r\n\r\nAnn (09:28):\r\n\r\nAnd their kids\/two daughters moved away.\r\n\r\nDave (09:30):\r\n\r\nBut they're listening right now, Rob and Michelle, and they're like\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn (09:32):\r\n\r\nBecause they listen all the time.\r\n\r\nDave (09:33):\r\n\r\nIt was so hard, because it's everything you're saying. They were our people.\r\n\r\nJennie (09:38):\r\n\r\nRight. And everybody, probably, listening has heard this before, but God's got to be the center of your relational activity or you're going to be a real drain on your friends. That is very important. And it's important thing not to miss that principle because ultimately, people will die. People will move. Our hope is not ultimately in people.\r\n\r\nAnn (09:57):\r\n\r\nThey do not meet all of our needs.\r\n\r\nJennie (09:59):\r\n\r\nNo. And they will certainly be transient. I'm just suggesting what you all just said, which is that was a radical thing. That shouldn't be radical. We should make choices like that all the time and the church should be making choices like that all the time\u2014that we choose to be near family, we choose to be near good friends. We make that a priority in our lives. Will you be able to hang on to them forever? No. And will there be a sense of they won't ever meet all your needs? Absolutely. And that's why it's so precious about having godly friendships, where you're all going, \"You know what? My needs are getting met with God; and I, out of obedience, want this to be part of my life in following Him. And so we're going to do that together, but we're not asking each other to be each other's end all be all because we have a God that is the best of friend, right?\u201d\r\n\r\n(10:43):\r\n\r\nI mean, it says Jesus is the best of friends. And so we get to walk with Him and have a relationship with Him and then that bleed into our relationship.\r\n\r\nDave (10:50):\r\n\r\nAnd at the same time, even though they're in Atlanta, now we just have to work harder. \r\n\r\nJennie:\r\n\r\nThat's right. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nIt isn't like we're done. \r\n\r\nJennie:\r\n\r\nYou don't lose that. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nIt\u2019s like, \u201cYou got to come back and see us. We're going to go see you.\u201d It's going to be work. We're in a Zoom. It's harder work. They're not a couple blocks away, but you still have to do it because your people are your people.\r\n\r\nAnn (11:07):\r\n\r\nWhat I've realized with her being gone, with Michelle being gone, is she's my therapy person. You're talking, you're sharing, you're kind of doing life with somebody and you're working out things as you're talking. I'm realizing like, \u201cOh, I'm not doing that as much anymore with someone,\u201d and I need that because it helps me when I can say, \u201cDave is really bugging me right now.\u201d\r\n\r\nJennie (11:29):\r\n\r\nIt's why proximity is the first thing. Now you don't have to have it, but man, didn't that make a special friendship because you were walking four times a week. So everybody listening that feels lonely, look at your neighbors. Maybe you have them, but maybe you don't, and maybe you do need to make a shift. And I know that sounds radical and crazy, but people move for crazier reasons. Let's just say that. And this is a priority. And so I think finding those people that it's easy to see in the years that your kids are young. I told my daughter the other day, they're talking about setting up their life and what's that going to look like? And I said, \"Listen, pick a street. If y'all are going to be the first ones to have kids and then basically you make friends with all your neighbors and just start getting everybody's phone numbers because be the person that creates it.\u201d\r\n\r\n(12:06):\r\n\r\nAnd so maybe that's your street. Maybe you stay exactly where you are, but you start getting people's phone numbers and saying, \"Hey, if you ever move, talk to me first and sell it to a friend.\" There's ways you can do this without moving, but I do think proximity does matter.\r\n\r\nAnn (12:23):\r\n\r\nAs a mom, have you ever lost your temper and thought, \u201cWow, how did that escalate so fast?\u201d Because mom anger usually isn't just about the spilled milk or sibling arguments and that gets you angry, but there's often something deeper going on.\r\n\r\nDave (12:40):\r\n\r\nWe have been there and guess what? We've got a five session video series from author and mom of four, Janelle Breitenstein. And let me tell you, she gets real. She gets real about her life and her anger and her own struggles with anger and what God has taught her through them. And let me tell you, you're going to discover practical tools, biblical encouragement, and you'll get insight into the fears and triggers fueling your reactions.\r\n\r\nAnn (13:04):\r\n\r\nIt's so good. So you can sign up today at FamilyLife.com\/MomAnger. Again, that's FamilyLife.com\/MomAnger.\r\n\r\nDave (13:19):\r\n\r\nWe interviewed a pastor from Missouri, Don Everts, and he talked about chronic loneliness. He had an interesting perspective. We'd love to play this clip and just let you respond. So I want to know what you think of what Don had to say.\r\n\r\nDon Everts - clip (13:35):\r\n\r\nIn our research, it came out that so a quarter of people in the United States that live alone, live by themselves. A number of people say that no one comes over to their house, ever. So in the medical field, they talk about there's a chronic loneliness is sweeping the country. And the interesting thing is, in the medical literature, they prefer to call it depression, but the doctors are like, \"It's chronic loneliness. You have no one in your life and humans aren't meant to live that way.\" So just to knock on someone's door, just to say hi, in our current context, it does not take much to be heroic.\r\n\r\nJennie (14:17):\r\n\r\nWow. Yes. I'm so glad for people like Don that are doing that research. I interviewed a guy that probably has a similar focus on loneliness right now. It was absolutely depressing. Because this is the disease of our day, but we're not able to really quantify it or talk about it because we haven't made it an acceptable thing to struggle with. And I think people feel a lot of shame. If you say depression, that's kind of more of something you can't control, but loneliness feels like something you could.\r\n\r\n(14:45):\r\n\r\nAnd so there's a lot of shame around it. But also, it's\u2014praise God\u2014it's something that we can change, right? It's something that I believe right now my job is to trumpet this in the church, to the church and say, \"Hey, I don't think we've been doing this as well as we could, and I think we could do it better.\" And then they start to go, \"You know what? I'm going to live differently. I'm going to start to know my neighbors. I'm going to start to have people over for dinner. I'm going to notice that single person that I've never noticed that's across the street that I don't even see very often and invite them over.\" One of my good friends, she's gotten to know the single person across the street that is in his 80s and he's very cranky and the street really doesn't like him because he's always complaining about things.\r\n\r\n(15:21):\r\n\r\nAnd she was like, \"You know what? He needs God. I'm going to love him and pursue him.\" She takes him flowers all the time, takes him food all the time, invited him over for his birthday and said, \"Bring any of your friends you want.\" He brought one friend, and the two of them sat there and told stories for a long time. He complained the whole time about things; and the friend was hitting him, and saying like, \"Stop complaining. This is so lovely. I can't believe you got invited over here. You need to be nicer.\" And yet, she is determined to make that man fall in love with their family and then hopefully fall in love with God, right? We've just got to be people that notice. We have the answers. We have a relationship with God, and we have, hopefully, local churches where there's some sense of connection, even if it's not a village like existence. We have those connections and that potential.\r\n\r\n(16:06):\r\n\r\nAnd so how do we invite people into it? How do we pursue it and prioritize it in such a way that we look different? Because contagious Christianity begins with contagious community. When you see people loving each other well\u2014and Jesus said that; that's not my words, that's His. He said, \"They will know you by your love for one another.\u201d That's how everybody would know \u201cYou're one of mine.\u201d We're not great at that, but I think we could get better. In the middle of this research, I pulled aside one of my friends that was moving from a group with roommates to an apartment by herself. I, with tears, said, \u201cI do not know if that's the best idea.\" And I know some people listening live alone, and some people can\u2014that is just their lot right now\u2014but I would challenge every presupposition to that because I believe it is not good for man to be alone.\r\n\r\n(16:49):\r\n\r\nGod said that. And so what does it look like to maybe take\u2014one of my friends, what she did as a single\u2014she still wanted to live alone, but she moved into a little complex with other people that she knew. So she has a town home, and she got to know all her neighbors, and they have cookouts at night, and they all spend time in their little courtyard together. She made a choice about where she would live alone, that she wouldn't be alone. I just think we've got to make choices; that we have to realize there is nothing worse for our health and science has proven it. I can show you the statistics; it's in the book\u2014that smoking, overeating, lack of exercise, none of that is more dangerous than loneliness. Loneliness is the worst thing for our health. And so if you just do it, because it's not good for you, that matters.\r\n\r\nDave (17:28):\r\n\r\nI mean, you said that\u2014I have a part of a book from John Ortberg, years ago, that he wrote\u2014did you ever see this?\u2014he said, people who had\u2014this is a study done, just what you said. People who had bad health habits\u2014smoking, poor eating, obesity, alcohol\u2014but strong social ties lived significantly longer than people who had great health habits but were isolated.\r\n\r\nAnn (17:51):\r\n\r\nYeah, listen to this.\r\n\r\nDave (17:51):\r\n\r\nThis commentary; in other words, it's better to eat Twinkies with good friends than to eat broccoli alone. Another study in the Journal of American Medical Association, 276 volunteers were infected with a virus that produces the common cold. The study found that people with strong emotional connections did four times better fighting off illness than those who were more isolated. These people were less susceptible to colds, had less virus, produced significantly less mucus than relationally isolated subjects. He said, \"I'm not making this up. They produced less mucus. That means it's literally true. Unfriendly people are snottier than friendly people.\u201d So anyway, I mean, it's just a cute way to say it, but here's what I'm hearing. As you listen to themes that God brings into the church and the Christian community, you start to notice\u2014a few years ago, I'm like, \"Wow, every worship song that I love is about identity right now.\" It's like who we are in Christ, which was beautiful.\r\n\r\n(18:46):\r\n\r\nAnd you notice another one, another one, sermons as I was preaching, I think this is something God's bringing to us right now. \r\n\r\nJennie:\r\n\r\nI hope so. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nMe too.\r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nBecause we need it.\r\n\r\nJennie (18:55):\r\n\r\nWe need it, and we're all aware we need it.\r\n\r\nAnn (18:57):\r\n\r\nOne of the things you said, Jennie, was you and your friends\u2014this is kind of beginning to get to know each other\u2014you did your, I call it a timeline. You told your life story in about 20 minutes. That's something that we've been doing too and it's a great way to start. I did that with my friend Michelle. We would just go out to dinner and I would say, \"Tell me your story.\" And there's something about revealing who you are and what you've gone through that makes you really see the person. And in that, like we've done that recently with a new group of friends, where they just told their story. As we listened\u2014this is kind of a small group of couples\u2014and as we listened, then what we did was we spoke life into them after they shared it; and even empathize with their hard points.\r\n\r\n(19:40):\r\n\r\nAnd in that timeline, in like 20 minutes, you're sharing your highs but you're sharing your lows. And so to say like, \"Wow, I can't imagine how hard that was for you to experience that,\" and \u201cThanks for going deep, and revealing kind of those pains and struggles and the hurts in your life.\u201d It was amazing, wasn't it, Dave? The guys did it too.\r\n\r\nDave (20:00):\r\n\r\nYeah, but it's scary.\r\n\r\nAnn (20:01):\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nDave (20:02):\r\n\r\nA lot of people hear that and they're like, \"Whoa, I'm not going there.\"\r\n\r\nJennie (20:05):\r\n\r\nYou're actually describing one of the things I share in the book, which is the science says that what we want from people. We actually don't want answers; we don't want to be fixed. That is not what we want. We want to be seen, soothed and safe. That right there is excellent marriage advice. If you're listening, and you're like, \"We have a hard marriage\"\u2014if you just make your spouse feel seen, soothed and safe, that goes so far.\r\n\r\n(20:31):\r\n\r\nMost people think what they want, and what they want to give, is answers. We want to fix people. When someone says something hard, we're like, \"But da, da, da.\" We're immediately giving the positive. And I've learned, from counseling, someone is sharing something with me, not because they need me to fix it, but they're probably sharing it with me because they don't want to be alone in it. And so when we can be with people in difficulty\u2014it's why the Bible says, \u201cMourn with those who mourn,\u201d right? There's a gift in just being with someone that is in their struggles and in their disappointments. I mean, one of the best pieces of advice I've ever gotten, and will give till I die, is when someone shares something with you, to do what your friend did\u2014to listen, to say what you hear back, and to say, \"I'm so sorry.\"\r\n\r\nDave (21:18):\r\n\r\nHey, men\u2014\r\n\r\nJennie (21:19):\r\n\r\nJust that.\r\n\r\nDave (21:20):\r\n\r\n\u2014men, are you listening right now? Because I've blown that so many times. \r\n\r\nAnn (21:24):\r\n\r\nI do it, too, Dave. I try to fix.\r\n\r\nDave (21:25):\r\n\r\nI mean, one time, Jennie\u2014we've said this here before, and we probably won't even keep this on the broadcast, but a long time\u2014and I'll keep it really short\u2014she was\u2014kids were little\u2014sharing with me how hard it was that day.\r\n\r\nAnn (21:37):\r\n\r\nI had a bad day, parenting. \r\n\r\nDave (21:38):\r\n\r\nI literally go upstairs\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn (21:39):\r\n\r\nWait, wait, wait. I have to tell Jennie. So I'm sharing all that. Dave goes, \u201cI'll be right back.\u201d He goes upstairs; he comes down with a little piece of paper and I thought, \"He wrote me a love note.\" \r\n\r\nJennie (21:48):\r\n\r\nHe's thankful.\r\n\r\nAnn (21:49):\r\n\r\nYes, he's going to share all the things he loves. \r\n\r\nDave (21:51):\r\n\r\nBut you guys already know.\r\n\r\nAnn (21:51):\r\n\r\nYeah. And so it's numbered one to ten and I'm thinking, \"Oh, these are the ten reasons why I'm a good mom.\" And so I pick it up and I look at him like, \"Thank you.\" And I read it out loud. \u201cNumber one,\u201d and I look at him, \"Get more organized.\"\r\n\r\nJennie (22:06):\r\n\r\nOh.\r\n\r\nAnn (22:07):\r\n\r\nI'm like, \u201cWait, wait, what?\u201d And number two is \u201cUse your time more wisely.\u201d \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nI mean, that's enough. That's enough. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nI said, \u201cWhat is this?!\u201d\r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nThat's enough. You don't need to read the rest. There were 10 of those. There were 10 of those.\r\n\r\nAnn (22:16):\r\n\r\nAnd so you know what I did? I rip it up like, \"You think this? \" And he goes, \"I prayed about this.\" I said, \"You did not pray about\u2014this from Satan.\" \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nShe yells at me. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nAnd I ripped it up and threw it in his face.\r\n\r\nDave (22:27):\r\n\r\nShe threw it in my face, but I mean, again, 40 years ago, what did I ask her? I'm like, \"That's not what you want. She told me just what you said. I want to be seen, soothed,\"\u2014what was the third one? \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nSafe. \r\n\r\nJennie (22:38):\r\n\r\nSafe.\r\n\r\nDave (22:39):\r\n\r\nSafe. Yeah. She didn't use those words, but that's exactly what I'm like, \"Really? What's that look like?\" And I think we missed that.\r\n\r\nJennie (22:45):\r\n\r\nThe book I wrote before this was called Get Of Your Head, and I did all this research\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn (22:48):\r\n\r\nWhich was really great.\r\n\r\nJennie (22:49):\r\n\r\nOh, thanks. I did all this research on the brain. Our brains, by God, were built this way. We actually were built not to need information. We were built needing connection. It was why this was the next book that I had to write; because when I did all the work on the brain, I realized, this is the greatest healing tool we have. This is the greatest gift we have on earth, right? It's God first, but on earth it's God through people. And so I think that is the way He built us\u2014was to require each other, to belong to each other. That is how He built us. And so it is actually built into our brains. Guys, that need some science behind it\u2014because I know what you're thinking because I think it too\u2014how does that help?\r\n\r\nAnn (23:27):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nJennie (23:27):\r\n\r\nYour brain decompresses, all the little pathways reopen when you feel understood, and seen, and known; and there's something in your brain that begins to heal. And so that's why, for trauma, you go to therapy because\u2014not so that you can get fixed and hear advice\u2014but so that you can process that story, and feel, in a safe environment, and feel soothed and seen and understood. That is why therapy works. It's a relationship where you get to talk about the hurts that you've had. So it's worth it, guys\u2014that are out there\u2014diminishing this plan.\r\n\r\nDave (24:00):\r\n\r\nMan, what a great day with Jennie Allen. Again, her book is called Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World.\r\n\r\nAnn (24:07):\r\n\r\nAnd you can get your copy by clicking the link in the show notes at FamilyLifeToday.com.\r\n\r\nDave (24:13):\r\n\r\nOur financial partners are the heartbeat of this ministry. And when you join this monthly giving community, you're not just donating, you're building something eternal.\r\n\r\nAnn (24:23):\r\n\r\nAnd we'd be so honored to have you on the journey with us. We really would. 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