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We do not assume any responsibility or liability for the use or interpretation of this content.\r\n\r\n\u201cTry Harder\u201d Isn\u2019t the Answer: Straight Talk on Performance &amp;amp; Perfectionism in Marriage\r\n\r\nGuest:Portia Collins\r\n\r\nFrom the series:Overcoming Performance and Perfectionism (Day 2 of 2)\r\n\r\nAir date:July 3, 2026\r\n\r\nPortia (00:04):\r\n\r\nMy aim is regardless of what my husband does or does not do, I want to be gracious to him. I want to live in light of the work that the Spirit is doing in my heart. And ultimately, whether he does right or not, that ain't got nothing to do with who God is calling me to be.\r\n\r\nAnn (00:31):\r\n\r\nWelcome to FamilyLife Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I'm Ann Wilson.\r\n\r\nDave (00:38):\r\n\r\nAnd I'm Dave Wilson and you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com. This is FamilyLife Today. \r\n\r\nAll right, Portia. So we found out yesterday you're sort of a gamer. And even Ann wants to ask you about Marvel because she's a Marvel. We go to Iron Man and I come back\u2014\r\n\r\nPortia (01:01):\r\n\r\nDid you know they had a Marvel video game where you could be\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nNo. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nYep. And me and all my\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nCan you choose\u2014\r\n\r\nDave (01:06):\r\n\r\nNo, no, no. We don't want to know this.\r\n\r\nAnn (01:10):\r\n\r\nI totally want to know this.\r\n\r\nDave (01:12):\r\n\r\nI mean, we go to whatever movie, we come home and she has to watch every movie.\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nPrior or after.\r\n\r\nPortia (01:16):\r\n\r\nYes. Right on, man. Okay. But yeah, the game was fun too. So I love Marvel everything.\r\n\r\nDave (01:24):\r\n\r\nAll right. We're not here to talk about Marvel movies.\r\n\r\nAnn (01:26):\r\n\r\nWell, and we're talking to Portia Collins, and your book is called Finding Freedom in Christ, which is an eight-week study of Galatians. Can you just kind of rewind a little bit? Because we heard your whole story previously, so kind of give our audience a little background of how you came to Christ and what was going on because we're all like Galatians, you say, changed your whole life.\r\n\r\nPortia (01:50):\r\n\r\nIt did. It did 100%. As I was saying yesterday, I was a church girl through and through. I knew all the church lingo. I grew up in a little small missionary Baptist church and I'm from Mississippi. Like I said, you hear the Southern accent, but I knew all the religious things, what the church people do, but I didn't really know who Jesus was. And it was right after I graduated college. It started, I would say during my college years but really coming into an understanding of who Christ is and what He does for us right after I graduated college. And one particular night the Lord through a series of circumstances and things, I had just reached a point of brokenness of desperation saying\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn (02:42):\r\n\r\nAnd you had been living like a prodigal kind of life.\r\n\r\nPortia (02:43):\r\n\r\nYes. I was living\u2014yes, yes. Now externally, I looked like the model citizen. I had good grades in college. I graduated summa cum laude. I had a good job, nice car. I got my big girl apartment and all of this looking like the picture of what it is to be a model person. \r\n\r\nAnn (03:05):\r\n\r\nHaving it all together.\r\n\r\nPortia (03:06):\r\n\r\nHaving it all together, but pulling that back, my heart was so far from God, and I was really the god of my own life. And because of that, there were a lot of hard things that I dealt with that my sin ultimately brought me to and that broke me so and really put me\u2014honestly, it perfectly positioned me to a place where I could hear and receive truly who Jesus is. And so this particular night, like I said, I'm dealing with this brokenness, this desperation. I went back to the fundamental thing that I learned as a church girl. Read your Bible and pray. You got to look for the Lord. This seems like a bleak situation. Read your Bible and pray. And so it was this growing habit for me where I would come in once I got off work every night and I would read scripture and I picked Galatians solely off the fact that it was six chapters and I could read it in one sitting.\r\n\r\nAnn (04:05):\r\n\r\nWe relate.\r\n\r\nPortia (04:05):\r\n\r\nYeah, but it was the providence of God and reading that book changed my life. It felt as if this weight had been lifted from me, all of my striving, trying to put out who I am as this perfect person, like that was gone. And then all of the shame that I dealt with from not pursuing Jesus and falling into just radical sin, that was lifted as well. \r\n\r\nAnn (04:36):\r\n\r\nTo the point where you said you were laying on the floor.\r\n\r\nPortia (04:39):\r\n\r\nYes. After I finished reading this book, I was face to the floor weeping.\r\n\r\nDave (04:46):\r\n\r\nI don't know if I've heard anybody else\u2014\r\n\r\nPortia (04:48):\r\n\r\nEver been face to the floor. \r\n\r\nDave (04:50):\r\n\r\nNo, no, no. I've been on the floor. I don't know if I've heard anybody talk about, I read a book of the Bible and in that moment, God showed up. You know what I'm saying? Especially even Galatians. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nI know. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nIt's pretty deep.\r\n\r\nPortia (05:03):\r\n\r\nI know.\r\n\r\nDave (05:03):\r\n\r\nIt's pretty heavy.\r\n\r\nPortia (05:03):\r\n\r\nWho would have ever thought?\r\n\r\nDave (05:06):\r\n\r\nYeah. And Paul, in some ways, the Apostle Paul is sort of criticizing them trying to find life in works, but that's what happened.\r\n\r\nAnn (05:13):\r\n\r\nBut it also makes sense because you're a Bible scholar. You call yourself a Bible nerd.\r\n\r\nPortia (05:18):\r\n\r\nI'm a Bible nerd. \r\n\r\nAnn (05:19):\r\n\r\nAnd so of course that's what took you to your face.\r\n\r\nPortia (05:20):\r\n\r\nGod would use that. And it has become so pivotal. I wrote a Bible study on it. It impacted me so. And even if you know how this came about, there were publishers that wanted me to consider writing something else. And I was like, no, it has to be this because this is where my life changed for real.\r\n\r\nDave (05:41):\r\n\r\nExplain the, I'm a recovering legalist.\r\n\r\nPortia (05:44):\r\n\r\nA recovering legalist. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nWe do our homework. We know you inside out.\r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nA recovering legalist, a recovering perfectionist. \r\n\r\nDave (05:51):\r\n\r\nBecause that's a lot of what Paul's getting at in Galatians.\r\n\r\nPortia (05:52):\r\n\r\n100%. Yes. If we're honest, apart from Christ, we are just wired to want to be those self-sustaining, self\u2014we want to do it. We want to feel like we're the ones doing it. Yeah. We want to earn it. And so that's me. Even now as a woman in ministry, I know there are so many things that I know from reading the Bible that functionally is a war every day, like taking what I know and applying that and allowing God to work in my heart because I want to do a good job. And the problem is not pursuing excellence. The problem is not being a person known for doing a good job. The problem is when we start to root our identities in that and that we think that our place before God is of our own doing and that's not the case. Our standing before God is because of Jesus, period.\r\n\r\n(06:54):\r\n\r\nThere's nothing else that\u2014there's not a comma there or semicolon. It's Jesus and there's nothing else that we add to that. And so for some of us who struggle with identity and we like to be identified by the things we do, we have to come back to books like Galatians and see, listen, there's nothing that you do that changes ultimately how God sees you. Jesus changes how God sees you. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nThat\u2019s so good.\r\n\r\nDave (07:21):\r\n\r\nWell, here's a question I got to ask\u2014you're probably thinking the same thing\u2014is, how do we get that out of our mindset?\u2014this legalistic, rules based, because it's in every one of us, even if you know the Word, and as parents, we can put that on our kids.\r\n\r\nAnn (07:37):\r\n\r\nWell, I was going to say, I put that on you. \u201cDon't you know the Word? What are you doing over there?\u201d And you're right. What are our kids doing?\r\n\r\nDave (07:43):\r\n\r\nShe's not kidding. She does put that on me. But I remember\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn (07:47):\r\n\r\nI think we all do that.\r\n\r\nDave (07:47):\r\n\r\nI remember one time doing a chapel for Detroit Lions and I said to the guys, or I think it was Bible study, I said, \"Let me ask you something. Games on Sunday, from Thursday to Sunday, do you sin?\" They're like, \"Nope.\" \u201cMonday to Wednesday, do you sin?\u201d \u201cYeah.\u201d And I knew the mindset, it's like, \u201cI got to be really good because I want God to bless me on the biggest day of my week, Sunday, my salary, everything.\u201d And so that's in there. It's that works theology that if I do good, I do good. God's going to bless me. If I don't and I'm closer to\u2014that is in there and Paul is destroying that argument.\r\n\r\nPortia (08:20):\r\n\r\nSo it makes me want to go, particularly to a passage where Paul is saying the law came 430 years after the promise, okay? And so he's really teaching us and this is really\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nWhat does that mean? Explain that.\r\n\r\nPortia (08:37):\r\n\r\nOkay. So the promise that was made to Abraham, we always\u2014\"Father Abraham, had many sons.\u201d Okay. And so the Lord promised to Abraham that He would make him into a great nation. Now this promise is honestly far reaching. He wasn't just talking about a whole bunch of people. He was really talking about how He's going to save His people and God's covenant to save His people came 430 years before even one law was written. So if He gave us the promise before the law, then why do we think that we got to keep the law for the promise to be good? He never intended\u2014that was never the purpose of the law. The purpose of the law was to help us and the text calls it a school master. Basically, it was to keep us from going further and further into sin and then it was also to show us we ain't as great as we think we are, because without the law, we wouldn't really know the depths of our sin.\r\n\r\n(09:44):\r\n\r\nWe would gloss over that. And here's the thing, we even see that\u2014I've been reading in my Bible, and I remember you saying you read. So far, we've gotten, now I'm up to Joshua. And so like even now I see those folks didn't know that they were just messing up and just crazy as all get out until the law came. \r\n\r\nAnn (10:04):\r\n\r\nPlease do your own version\u2014\r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\n\u2014of the Bible?\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nPortia (10:06):\r\n\r\nWe talked about this in the Portia standard version. And here's the thing. Even when Moses, he finally starts\u2014there's so much specificity in the law and it's like, how does he even know to talk about\u2014because they were already doing it. So this is a response to what's already happening to say, \"Hey, you should not be doing this.\" That was the purpose of the law to really kind of expose our sin and not to crush us but to turn our faces toward true hope.\r\n\r\nDave (10:40):\r\n\r\nI mean, it's Galatians 3:28 or 24.\r\n\r\nPortia (10:43):\r\n\r\nThank you.\r\n\r\nDave (10:44):\r\n\r\nWell, you're talking about, it says, \"So then, the law was our guardian until Christ came, in order that we might be justified by faith. But now that faith has come, we are no longer under a guardian,\u201d\r\n\r\nPortia (10:55):\r\n\r\nCorrect.\r\n\r\nDave (10:56):\r\n\r\n\u201cfor in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God, through faith.\u201d\r\n\r\nPortia (10:59):\r\n\r\n100%.\r\n\r\nDave (11:00):\r\n\r\nIs that where you get the theme finding freedom?\r\n\r\nPortia (11:03):\r\n\r\n100%.\r\n\r\nDave (11:04):\r\n\r\nExplain this.\r\n\r\nPortia (11:05):\r\n\r\nAnd honestly, it's all through the book. I love the way Paul writes, and you will notice this in most of the epistles that Paul writes. He gives you this rich doctrine at the beginning. He lays out what it is that we should be knowing. He's correcting the era. And then on the back end, he gives us the now what. I always say that the $10 words that I use orthodoxy and then orthopraxy. Okay. He gives us what it is and then he shows what does this look like in practice? \r\n\r\nDave (11:39):\r\n\r\nWhat we know and what we do.\r\n\r\nPortia (11:39):\r\n\r\nRight. What we know and what we do and that's no different here in this book. He's showing us in the beginning part, this is what I want you to know. He's correcting something that they've fallen into error in. He's laying it out, that doctrine. And then when he gets to chapter five and six, he's like, \"Now let me show you what that looks like.\" So the doctrine first sets them free in that it corrects a mentality that has them bound. They think I got to add circumcision to me believing in Christ so that I could be saved. In fact, they had been convinced of that from some other religious folks who thought they knew what they were talking about. He's freeing them of a bad mentality and then he's showing them, now this is what it looks like to walk in freedom on the back end.\r\n\r\n(12:28):\r\n\r\nNot because you're earning something, but this is what happens. If you truly believe in Christ and you've been in dwell with the Spirit, then this is what it looks like to live freely. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nAll right, so\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn (12:39):\r\n\r\nIt\u2019s a lot like Ephesians. \r\n\r\nPortia (12:40):\r\n\r\nYes. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nThis is what we know. This is who He is, and this is\u2014 \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nColossians, all of them, Romans. If you go through and you look, you'll see he gives you that doctrine and then he shows you. So he's giving them a doctrine of, listen, y'all ain't free. What you\u2019re thinking, your mind's abound because you think that you got to supplement your faith. That's wrong. He corrects that and urges them. I want you to think freely. This is what the gospel is. And then he tells them on the back end, now this is what this looks like when you live this out.\r\n\r\nAnn (13:13):\r\n\r\nMom anger happens. The yelling, the snapping, the hiding in the bathroom with cold coffee, but what's really underneath your anger? Mom of four, Janelle Breitenstein shares practical help and biblical hope in a free five-session video series. Start today at FamilyLife.com\/MomAnger.\r\n\r\nDave (13:39):\r\n\r\nSo you're a mom.\r\n\r\nPortia (13:41):\r\n\r\nI am.\r\n\r\nDave (13:41):\r\n\r\nYou're a wife.\r\n\r\nPortia (13:41):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nDave (13:42):\r\n\r\nHow do you play your identity in Christ, finding freedom? Walk us into that. What's that look like in your kitchen, in your family room? \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nAbsolutely. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nAre there areas that it really impacts?\r\n\r\nPortia (13:51):\r\n\r\nYeah. I think the first word that comes to mind is grace. To be married, you need a whole lot of grace. I'll tell my\u2014 \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nWhat was that groan about? \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nIt's hard to give grace. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nI know. I know. But here's the thing. If you understand the grace that has been given to you, it's so hard to withhold that grace. Me and my husband have gone through situations where he has been what I call\u2014this is real Southern, okay\u2014flat-footed wrong. Okay?\u2014wrong.\r\n\r\nAnn (14:26):\r\n\r\nDo you say that to him?\r\n\r\nPortia (14:27):\r\n\r\nI do. You are flat-footed wrong, sir.\r\n\r\nDave (14:32):\r\n\r\nShe's got other words she uses. But I've been flat-footed wrong.\r\n\r\nAnn (14:36):\r\n\r\nI\u2019m writing it down\u2014flat-footed wrong.\r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nI thought we were talking about grace here. What are we doing? \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nI'm going to get to it. I'm going to get to it. He has been absolutely wrong, but I've been able to extend grace to him in those things and that's been informed by the grace that I receive from God. So I think that's the first thing that we see that a book like Galatians\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nWell\u2014\r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nGo ahead. \r\n\r\nAnn (14:57):\r\n\r\nStop right there. So give us a contrast because I'm sure there have been times where you haven't extended grace to him. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nYes. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nSo tell me the difference of what it looks like when you don't extend grace in his demeanor and his countenance compared to when you do extend grace.\r\n\r\nPortia (15:14):\r\n\r\nYeah. He's not receiving anything that I'm saying. And we know that, you knew that. You asked me a rhetorical question.\r\n\r\nAnn (15:22):\r\n\r\nSo when you don't give grace, he's like, \"I'm out.\"\r\n\r\nPortia (15:24):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nAnn (15:25):\r\n\r\nI don't even hear.\r\n\r\nPortia (15:25):\r\n\r\nIt's like immediate shutdown because you're crushed. He's crushed. That's essentially what\u2014when we are graceless, we ultimately crush those that we're engaged. And think about, that would be the same with us. If we didn't have the grace of God, we would be crushed.\r\n\r\nAnn (15:41):\r\n\r\nIt's the law. We can't do it.\r\n\r\nPortia (15:44):\r\n\r\nWe can\u2019t.\r\n\r\nAnn (15:44):\r\n\r\nCan't.\r\n\r\nPortia (15:45):\r\n\r\nAnd here's the thing, that's another thing that Paul says in here. If you're going to try to keep the law, this ain't no, I can pick and choose when and how many laws. There's 600 plus laws that were given. If you want to be a keeper of the law, you got to keep all 600 plus of them.\r\n\r\nAnn (16:01):\r\n\r\nThat's what I mean. It's crushing.\r\n\r\nPortia (16:02):\r\n\r\nIt is a crushing. And this is why the purpose of the law was never given so that we could try to meet it and fulfill it and attain our salvation in that. It was given to expose for us, to see what we needed to see, to see ourselves and how we really aren't that great, but to also see the hope of Christ, what we have.\r\n\r\nDave (16:24):\r\n\r\nI mean, how do we dig out because most marriages, including ours, have been a law based\u2014\r\n\r\nPortia (16:30):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nDave (16:30):\r\n\r\nYou would never say that.\r\n\r\nPortia (16:31):\r\n\r\nYou do this, you know. Yeah.\r\n\r\nDave (16:33):\r\n\r\nBut it's like, \u201cHey, you said you'd be home at six. You're not even close to coming home. This has happened multiple times this month.\u201d\r\n\r\nAnn (16:40):\r\n\r\nOr with our kids.\r\n\r\nDave (16:41):\r\n\r\n\u201cI don't want to give grace. I want you to get home and help me with the kids.\u201d I mean, I'd walk in the house, and she'd throw a kid at me because she all day\u2014and I'm feeling like I\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn (16:51):\r\n\r\nI've worked hard.\r\n\r\nDave (16:53):\r\n\r\nYeah. I mean, and you get stuck, couples get stuck in that. They would never call it law based, but it's, do for me as much as I'm doing for you. And we always see our input more than the other. That's not grace. That's really law. How do you dig out?\r\n\r\nPortia (17:07):\r\n\r\nMy aim is regardless of what my husband does or does not do, I want to be gracious to him. I want to live in light of the work that the Spirit is doing in my heart. And ultimately, whether he does right or not, that ain't got nothing to do with who God is calling me to be, how God is working in my heart. See, sometimes we want to use excuses and we say, \"Well, if he didn't do this, I wouldn't do that.\u201d\r\n\r\nAnn (17:37):\r\n\r\nExactly.\r\n\r\nPortia (17:38):\r\n\r\nAnd that ain't what the Bible says. In fact, when we look in chapter five, Paul says, and this is what\u2014I love to go to this part. Most of us in here probably can name off, really quickly, the fruit of the Spirit, all nine of them. But I always like to tell people, back up a little bit, bump back a little bit because you truly can't understand the beauty and the blessing of the fruit of the Spirit until you see what the works of the flesh are. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nOh yeah, that's good. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nAnd so here's my point that I'm trying to make. If my husband is not going to bring out in me something that ain't already there, let me give you an example. If I'm angry about whatever he's doing, there's a way that I can respond. I can respond with graciousness, with addressing what this is, or I can, as Paul is saying, speak out in fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy.\r\n\r\nDave (18:37):\r\n\r\nDone that.\r\n\r\nPortia (18:37):\r\n\r\nSo the point that I'm trying to make here is if it's a work of the flesh, that means the larger problem is I need to be going before the Lord and dealing with that. My husband ain't bringing out\u2014he's not causing this work of the flesh to pop up.\r\n\r\nAnn (18:53):\r\n\r\nI used to say to Dave, \"You have made me like this.\"\r\n\r\nPortia (18:56):\r\n\r\nYeah. And no, no.\r\n\r\nAnn (18:57):\r\n\r\nAnd you were saying, no, that's not true. That's already there.\r\n\r\nPortia (19:01):\r\n\r\nIt's already there.\r\n\r\nDave (19:03):\r\n\r\nOkay, go to verse 16. You got to tell us because this is how it applies to marriage, parenting, you name it. Walk by the\u2014\r\n\r\nPortia (19:10):\r\n\r\n\u2014Spirit and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.\r\n\r\nDave (19:13):\r\n\r\nSo here's a thousand-dollar question. What's walk by the Spirit? What's that look like?\r\n\r\nPortia (19:18):\r\n\r\nWell, let's jump on down. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nI like this. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nI mean, here's the thing. I could say a lot of things, but ultimately, the most important thing is what he says. And so he says, first of all\u2014I'm going to kind of summarize what we see in 17 through 21. First, he tells us\u2014because he's giving us the blueprint\u2014he is saying, \"Walk by the Spirit and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.\" He's saying, \"If we don't know what that is, let me show you what the desires of the flesh are.\" And he lays that out. He starts saying, \"Hey,\" and we love to read them first couple of ones and then we try to skim over the ones in the middle because we be like, \"Sexual immorality, oh, that's not me. Impurity, not me either. Sensuality, I ain't doing that. I ain't looking.\" But then he goes, \"Idolatry, sorcery, entity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger.\u201d\r\n\r\n(20:08):\r\n\r\nWe like to gloss over those. And you don't know what a fit of anger is. Your husband come in 20 minutes after he said and you just going off. That is a fit of anger. That is a work of the flesh. He's showing us what it looks like. Now, it's like a light clicks. There's an awareness. \u201cOh, this is sinful. This is wrong.\u201d Then he goes on down and he says, \"But the fruit of the Spirit, now this is what it looks like when you are walking in step with the Spirit. \u201cLove, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such thing there is no law.\" And we don't look at this from a performance-based mindset. We look at this as, am I truly walking in step? It's almost like when you're driving your car and you see that check engine light come on.\r\n\r\n(21:00):\r\n\r\nYou don't just keep driving the car. And he's not saying, \"I want you to do more, try harder.\" He's saying, \"If these check engine lights are on, if you see this, then maybe you need to go back to the feet of Jesus.\"\r\n\r\nDave (21:13):\r\n\r\nAnd I think a lot of what marriage is and just Christian life is you don't realize he said fruit. And I've preached this before where it's like, okay, I don't know how apple trees, orange trees work, but I know they don't go, \"I need an orange.\" Grunt. You know what I mean? I call that the grunt Christian living. You just grunt it out. How does a tree produce fruit? They are connected to the root.\r\n\r\nPortia (21:37):\r\n\r\nTo the root. That\u2019s it.\r\n\r\nDave (21:39):\r\n\r\nAnd that's why I think Paul, under amazing inspiration of the Holy Spirit said, no, this is fruit. This is not something you and I can create.\r\n\r\nPortia (21:45):\r\n\r\nExactly.\r\n\r\nDave (21:46):\r\n\r\nIf it's not working in your marriage, it isn't because your spouse, it's you, me are not connected and walking by the Spirit because when you walk by the Spirit, it's a natural byproduct. It will happen. It will happen.\r\n\r\nAnn (21:55):\r\n\r\nAnd I love this dashboard, the light going on because I'm just thinking of being a young mom and having kids and you're just constantly frustrated or angry or you're struggling in your marriage. When I look at all the tension and the anger and the strife that's in my heart, I love that, Portia. You can think, \"Okay, what's going on?\u201d\r\n\r\nPortia (22:17):\r\n\r\nRight. What's going on with me? \r\n\r\nAnn (22:19):\r\n\r\nYeah, and I need to go to Jesus. What would you say? Let's say that dashboard, that light's going off, what would your prayer sound like?\r\n\r\nPortia (22:26):\r\n\r\nJesus, help me. Lord, help me to respond in a way that brings You glory. Help me to respond in a way that reflects the love and the grace that You have for me. And so that's the same prayer that I pray when I'm with my husband, when I'm with my daughter, because listen, an eight-year-old can work your last nerve. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nI know. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nThey are getting aware of their autonomy and they are like\u2014because it's not so much about them as it is about what Jesus is doing in my own heart. \r\n\r\nDave (22:55):\r\n\r\nI mean, what a great sort of final word. And again, when you said that, I thought, oh, I know a verse in Galatians that sort of captures that. It's a very famous one, Galatians 2:20. \u201cIt is no longer I who live\u2014\"\r\n\r\nPortia (23:10):\r\n\r\nAmen.\r\n\r\nDave (23:10):\r\n\r\n\u201c\u2014but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh, I live by faith in the Son of God who loved me and gave Himself for me.\u201d I would also say this, her eight-week Bible study is called Finding Freedom. And you can get it at FamilyLifeToday.com. Just click on the link in the show notes. I hope a lot of people get it because this is literally transformational, not just as a person single, but married and a legacy changing.\r\n\r\nAnn (23:38):\r\n\r\nAnd I really hope, and I know that this is your prayer too, Portia, this will create a hunger for God's Word. It's rich and deep and it changes our lives.\r\n\r\nPortia (23:47):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely.\r\n\r\nDave (23:48):\r\n\r\nI mean, we're driving down the road. I'm not kidding. She's doing her one-year Bible and we'll drive it. I've heard this a thousand times. \u201cI just love God's Word. Could I read it to you?\u201d\r\n\r\nPortia (23:58):\r\n\r\nMe too, Ann.\r\n\r\nDave (24:00):\r\n\r\nI mean, it really is\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn (24:01):\r\n\r\nChanged me.\r\n\r\nPortia (24:03):\r\n\r\nLikewise. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nDave (24:05):\r\n\r\nBefore we're done today, let me just say this. At FamilyLife, we really believe strong families can change the world. And when you become a FamilyLife Partner, you help make that happen.\r\n\r\nAnn (24:15):\r\n\r\nAnd I don't know if you realize this, but your monthly gift helps us equip marriages and families with biblical tools that they can count on.\r\n\r\nDave (24:23):\r\n\r\nNow that's a pretty good deal. And we also want to send you exclusive updates, behind the scenes access, and an invitation to our private partner community, which is pretty cool. So join us and let's reach families and marriages together.\r\n\r\nAnn (24:36):\r\n\r\nAnd you can go to FamilyLifeToday.com and click the donate button to join today.\r\n\r\nDave (24:45):\r\n\r\nFamilyLife Today is a donor-supported production of FamilyLife\u00ae, a Cru\u00ae ministry; 50 years of helping you pursue the relationships that matter most.\r\n\r\nIf you\u2019ve benefited from the FamilyLife Today transcripts, would you consider donating today to help defray the costs of producing them and making them available online?\r\n\r\nCopyright \u00a9 2026 FamilyLife. 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References to conferences, resources, or other special promotions may be obsolete. We do not assume any responsibility or liability for the use or interpretation of this content.\r\n\r\n\u201cTry Harder\u201d Isn\u2019t the Answer: Straight Talk on Performance &amp;amp; Perfectionism in Marriage\r\n\r\nGuest:Portia Collins\r\n\r\nFrom the series:Overcoming Performance and Perfectionism (Day 2 of 2)\r\n\r\nAir date:July 3, 2026\r\n\r\nPortia (00:04):\r\n\r\nMy aim is regardless of what my husband does or does not do, I want to be gracious to him. I want to live in light of the work that the Spirit is doing in my heart. And ultimately, whether he does right or not, that ain't got nothing to do with who God is calling me to be.\r\n\r\nAnn (00:31):\r\n\r\nWelcome to FamilyLife Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I'm Ann Wilson.\r\n\r\nDave (00:38):\r\n\r\nAnd I'm Dave Wilson and you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com. This is FamilyLife Today. \r\n\r\nAll right, Portia. So we found out yesterday you're sort of a gamer. And even Ann wants to ask you about Marvel because she's a Marvel. We go to Iron Man and I come back\u2014\r\n\r\nPortia (01:01):\r\n\r\nDid you know they had a Marvel video game where you could be\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nNo. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nYep. And me and all my\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nCan you choose\u2014\r\n\r\nDave (01:06):\r\n\r\nNo, no, no. We don't want to know this.\r\n\r\nAnn (01:10):\r\n\r\nI totally want to know this.\r\n\r\nDave (01:12):\r\n\r\nI mean, we go to whatever movie, we come home and she has to watch every movie.\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nPrior or after.\r\n\r\nPortia (01:16):\r\n\r\nYes. Right on, man. Okay. But yeah, the game was fun too. So I love Marvel everything.\r\n\r\nDave (01:24):\r\n\r\nAll right. We're not here to talk about Marvel movies.\r\n\r\nAnn (01:26):\r\n\r\nWell, and we're talking to Portia Collins, and your book is called Finding Freedom in Christ, which is an eight-week study of Galatians. Can you just kind of rewind a little bit? Because we heard your whole story previously, so kind of give our audience a little background of how you came to Christ and what was going on because we're all like Galatians, you say, changed your whole life.\r\n\r\nPortia (01:50):\r\n\r\nIt did. It did 100%. As I was saying yesterday, I was a church girl through and through. I knew all the church lingo. I grew up in a little small missionary Baptist church and I'm from Mississippi. Like I said, you hear the Southern accent, but I knew all the religious things, what the church people do, but I didn't really know who Jesus was. And it was right after I graduated college. It started, I would say during my college years but really coming into an understanding of who Christ is and what He does for us right after I graduated college. And one particular night the Lord through a series of circumstances and things, I had just reached a point of brokenness of desperation saying\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn (02:42):\r\n\r\nAnd you had been living like a prodigal kind of life.\r\n\r\nPortia (02:43):\r\n\r\nYes. I was living\u2014yes, yes. Now externally, I looked like the model citizen. I had good grades in college. I graduated summa cum laude. I had a good job, nice car. I got my big girl apartment and all of this looking like the picture of what it is to be a model person. \r\n\r\nAnn (03:05):\r\n\r\nHaving it all together.\r\n\r\nPortia (03:06):\r\n\r\nHaving it all together, but pulling that back, my heart was so far from God, and I was really the god of my own life. And because of that, there were a lot of hard things that I dealt with that my sin ultimately brought me to and that broke me so and really put me\u2014honestly, it perfectly positioned me to a place where I could hear and receive truly who Jesus is. And so this particular night, like I said, I'm dealing with this brokenness, this desperation. I went back to the fundamental thing that I learned as a church girl. Read your Bible and pray. You got to look for the Lord. This seems like a bleak situation. Read your Bible and pray. And so it was this growing habit for me where I would come in once I got off work every night and I would read scripture and I picked Galatians solely off the fact that it was six chapters and I could read it in one sitting.\r\n\r\nAnn (04:05):\r\n\r\nWe relate.\r\n\r\nPortia (04:05):\r\n\r\nYeah, but it was the providence of God and reading that book changed my life. It felt as if this weight had been lifted from me, all of my striving, trying to put out who I am as this perfect person, like that was gone. And then all of the shame that I dealt with from not pursuing Jesus and falling into just radical sin, that was lifted as well. \r\n\r\nAnn (04:36):\r\n\r\nTo the point where you said you were laying on the floor.\r\n\r\nPortia (04:39):\r\n\r\nYes. After I finished reading this book, I was face to the floor weeping.\r\n\r\nDave (04:46):\r\n\r\nI don't know if I've heard anybody else\u2014\r\n\r\nPortia (04:48):\r\n\r\nEver been face to the floor. \r\n\r\nDave (04:50):\r\n\r\nNo, no, no. I've been on the floor. I don't know if I've heard anybody talk about, I read a book of the Bible and in that moment, God showed up. You know what I'm saying? Especially even Galatians. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nI know. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nIt's pretty deep.\r\n\r\nPortia (05:03):\r\n\r\nI know.\r\n\r\nDave (05:03):\r\n\r\nIt's pretty heavy.\r\n\r\nPortia (05:03):\r\n\r\nWho would have ever thought?\r\n\r\nDave (05:06):\r\n\r\nYeah. And Paul, in some ways, the Apostle Paul is sort of criticizing them trying to find life in works, but that's what happened.\r\n\r\nAnn (05:13):\r\n\r\nBut it also makes sense because you're a Bible scholar. You call yourself a Bible nerd.\r\n\r\nPortia (05:18):\r\n\r\nI'm a Bible nerd. \r\n\r\nAnn (05:19):\r\n\r\nAnd so of course that's what took you to your face.\r\n\r\nPortia (05:20):\r\n\r\nGod would use that. And it has become so pivotal. I wrote a Bible study on it. It impacted me so. And even if you know how this came about, there were publishers that wanted me to consider writing something else. And I was like, no, it has to be this because this is where my life changed for real.\r\n\r\nDave (05:41):\r\n\r\nExplain the, I'm a recovering legalist.\r\n\r\nPortia (05:44):\r\n\r\nA recovering legalist. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nWe do our homework. We know you inside out.\r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nA recovering legalist, a recovering perfectionist. \r\n\r\nDave (05:51):\r\n\r\nBecause that's a lot of what Paul's getting at in Galatians.\r\n\r\nPortia (05:52):\r\n\r\n100%. Yes. If we're honest, apart from Christ, we are just wired to want to be those self-sustaining, self\u2014we want to do it. We want to feel like we're the ones doing it. Yeah. We want to earn it. And so that's me. Even now as a woman in ministry, I know there are so many things that I know from reading the Bible that functionally is a war every day, like taking what I know and applying that and allowing God to work in my heart because I want to do a good job. And the problem is not pursuing excellence. The problem is not being a person known for doing a good job. The problem is when we start to root our identities in that and that we think that our place before God is of our own doing and that's not the case. Our standing before God is because of Jesus, period.\r\n\r\n(06:54):\r\n\r\nThere's nothing else that\u2014there's not a comma there or semicolon. It's Jesus and there's nothing else that we add to that. And so for some of us who struggle with identity and we like to be identified by the things we do, we have to come back to books like Galatians and see, listen, there's nothing that you do that changes ultimately how God sees you. Jesus changes how God sees you. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nThat\u2019s so good.\r\n\r\nDave (07:21):\r\n\r\nWell, here's a question I got to ask\u2014you're probably thinking the same thing\u2014is, how do we get that out of our mindset?\u2014this legalistic, rules based, because it's in every one of us, even if you know the Word, and as parents, we can put that on our kids.\r\n\r\nAnn (07:37):\r\n\r\nWell, I was going to say, I put that on you. \u201cDon't you know the Word? What are you doing over there?\u201d And you're right. What are our kids doing?\r\n\r\nDave (07:43):\r\n\r\nShe's not kidding. She does put that on me. But I remember\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn (07:47):\r\n\r\nI think we all do that.\r\n\r\nDave (07:47):\r\n\r\nI remember one time doing a chapel for Detroit Lions and I said to the guys, or I think it was Bible study, I said, \"Let me ask you something. Games on Sunday, from Thursday to Sunday, do you sin?\" They're like, \"Nope.\" \u201cMonday to Wednesday, do you sin?\u201d \u201cYeah.\u201d And I knew the mindset, it's like, \u201cI got to be really good because I want God to bless me on the biggest day of my week, Sunday, my salary, everything.\u201d And so that's in there. It's that works theology that if I do good, I do good. God's going to bless me. If I don't and I'm closer to\u2014that is in there and Paul is destroying that argument.\r\n\r\nPortia (08:20):\r\n\r\nSo it makes me want to go, particularly to a passage where Paul is saying the law came 430 years after the promise, okay? And so he's really teaching us and this is really\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nWhat does that mean? Explain that.\r\n\r\nPortia (08:37):\r\n\r\nOkay. So the promise that was made to Abraham, we always\u2014\"Father Abraham, had many sons.\u201d Okay. And so the Lord promised to Abraham that He would make him into a great nation. Now this promise is honestly far reaching. He wasn't just talking about a whole bunch of people. He was really talking about how He's going to save His people and God's covenant to save His people came 430 years before even one law was written. So if He gave us the promise before the law, then why do we think that we got to keep the law for the promise to be good? He never intended\u2014that was never the purpose of the law. The purpose of the law was to help us and the text calls it a school master. Basically, it was to keep us from going further and further into sin and then it was also to show us we ain't as great as we think we are, because without the law, we wouldn't really know the depths of our sin.\r\n\r\n(09:44):\r\n\r\nWe would gloss over that. And here's the thing, we even see that\u2014I've been reading in my Bible, and I remember you saying you read. So far, we've gotten, now I'm up to Joshua. And so like even now I see those folks didn't know that they were just messing up and just crazy as all get out until the law came. \r\n\r\nAnn (10:04):\r\n\r\nPlease do your own version\u2014\r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\n\u2014of the Bible?\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nPortia (10:06):\r\n\r\nWe talked about this in the Portia standard version. And here's the thing. Even when Moses, he finally starts\u2014there's so much specificity in the law and it's like, how does he even know to talk about\u2014because they were already doing it. So this is a response to what's already happening to say, \"Hey, you should not be doing this.\" That was the purpose of the law to really kind of expose our sin and not to crush us but to turn our faces toward true hope.\r\n\r\nDave (10:40):\r\n\r\nI mean, it's Galatians 3:28 or 24.\r\n\r\nPortia (10:43):\r\n\r\nThank you.\r\n\r\nDave (10:44):\r\n\r\nWell, you're talking about, it says, \"So then, the law was our guardian until Christ came, in order that we might be justified by faith. But now that faith has come, we are no longer under a guardian,\u201d\r\n\r\nPortia (10:55):\r\n\r\nCorrect.\r\n\r\nDave (10:56):\r\n\r\n\u201cfor in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God, through faith.\u201d\r\n\r\nPortia (10:59):\r\n\r\n100%.\r\n\r\nDave (11:00):\r\n\r\nIs that where you get the theme finding freedom?\r\n\r\nPortia (11:03):\r\n\r\n100%.\r\n\r\nDave (11:04):\r\n\r\nExplain this.\r\n\r\nPortia (11:05):\r\n\r\nAnd honestly, it's all through the book. I love the way Paul writes, and you will notice this in most of the epistles that Paul writes. He gives you this rich doctrine at the beginning. He lays out what it is that we should be knowing. He's correcting the era. And then on the back end, he gives us the now what. I always say that the $10 words that I use orthodoxy and then orthopraxy. Okay. He gives us what it is and then he shows what does this look like in practice? \r\n\r\nDave (11:39):\r\n\r\nWhat we know and what we do.\r\n\r\nPortia (11:39):\r\n\r\nRight. What we know and what we do and that's no different here in this book. He's showing us in the beginning part, this is what I want you to know. He's correcting something that they've fallen into error in. He's laying it out, that doctrine. And then when he gets to chapter five and six, he's like, \"Now let me show you what that looks like.\" So the doctrine first sets them free in that it corrects a mentality that has them bound. They think I got to add circumcision to me believing in Christ so that I could be saved. In fact, they had been convinced of that from some other religious folks who thought they knew what they were talking about. He's freeing them of a bad mentality and then he's showing them, now this is what it looks like to walk in freedom on the back end.\r\n\r\n(12:28):\r\n\r\nNot because you're earning something, but this is what happens. If you truly believe in Christ and you've been in dwell with the Spirit, then this is what it looks like to live freely. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nAll right, so\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn (12:39):\r\n\r\nIt\u2019s a lot like Ephesians. \r\n\r\nPortia (12:40):\r\n\r\nYes. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nThis is what we know. This is who He is, and this is\u2014 \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nColossians, all of them, Romans. If you go through and you look, you'll see he gives you that doctrine and then he shows you. So he's giving them a doctrine of, listen, y'all ain't free. What you\u2019re thinking, your mind's abound because you think that you got to supplement your faith. That's wrong. He corrects that and urges them. I want you to think freely. This is what the gospel is. And then he tells them on the back end, now this is what this looks like when you live this out.\r\n\r\nAnn (13:13):\r\n\r\nMom anger happens. The yelling, the snapping, the hiding in the bathroom with cold coffee, but what's really underneath your anger? Mom of four, Janelle Breitenstein shares practical help and biblical hope in a free five-session video series. Start today at FamilyLife.com\/MomAnger.\r\n\r\nDave (13:39):\r\n\r\nSo you're a mom.\r\n\r\nPortia (13:41):\r\n\r\nI am.\r\n\r\nDave (13:41):\r\n\r\nYou're a wife.\r\n\r\nPortia (13:41):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nDave (13:42):\r\n\r\nHow do you play your identity in Christ, finding freedom? Walk us into that. What's that look like in your kitchen, in your family room? \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nAbsolutely. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nAre there areas that it really impacts?\r\n\r\nPortia (13:51):\r\n\r\nYeah. I think the first word that comes to mind is grace. To be married, you need a whole lot of grace. I'll tell my\u2014 \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nWhat was that groan about? \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nIt's hard to give grace. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nI know. I know. But here's the thing. If you understand the grace that has been given to you, it's so hard to withhold that grace. Me and my husband have gone through situations where he has been what I call\u2014this is real Southern, okay\u2014flat-footed wrong. Okay?\u2014wrong.\r\n\r\nAnn (14:26):\r\n\r\nDo you say that to him?\r\n\r\nPortia (14:27):\r\n\r\nI do. You are flat-footed wrong, sir.\r\n\r\nDave (14:32):\r\n\r\nShe's got other words she uses. But I've been flat-footed wrong.\r\n\r\nAnn (14:36):\r\n\r\nI\u2019m writing it down\u2014flat-footed wrong.\r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\nI thought we were talking about grace here. What are we doing? \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nI'm going to get to it. I'm going to get to it. He has been absolutely wrong, but I've been able to extend grace to him in those things and that's been informed by the grace that I receive from God. So I think that's the first thing that we see that a book like Galatians\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nWell\u2014\r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nGo ahead. \r\n\r\nAnn (14:57):\r\n\r\nStop right there. So give us a contrast because I'm sure there have been times where you haven't extended grace to him. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nYes. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nSo tell me the difference of what it looks like when you don't extend grace in his demeanor and his countenance compared to when you do extend grace.\r\n\r\nPortia (15:14):\r\n\r\nYeah. He's not receiving anything that I'm saying. And we know that, you knew that. You asked me a rhetorical question.\r\n\r\nAnn (15:22):\r\n\r\nSo when you don't give grace, he's like, \"I'm out.\"\r\n\r\nPortia (15:24):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nAnn (15:25):\r\n\r\nI don't even hear.\r\n\r\nPortia (15:25):\r\n\r\nIt's like immediate shutdown because you're crushed. He's crushed. That's essentially what\u2014when we are graceless, we ultimately crush those that we're engaged. And think about, that would be the same with us. If we didn't have the grace of God, we would be crushed.\r\n\r\nAnn (15:41):\r\n\r\nIt's the law. We can't do it.\r\n\r\nPortia (15:44):\r\n\r\nWe can\u2019t.\r\n\r\nAnn (15:44):\r\n\r\nCan't.\r\n\r\nPortia (15:45):\r\n\r\nAnd here's the thing, that's another thing that Paul says in here. If you're going to try to keep the law, this ain't no, I can pick and choose when and how many laws. There's 600 plus laws that were given. If you want to be a keeper of the law, you got to keep all 600 plus of them.\r\n\r\nAnn (16:01):\r\n\r\nThat's what I mean. It's crushing.\r\n\r\nPortia (16:02):\r\n\r\nIt is a crushing. And this is why the purpose of the law was never given so that we could try to meet it and fulfill it and attain our salvation in that. It was given to expose for us, to see what we needed to see, to see ourselves and how we really aren't that great, but to also see the hope of Christ, what we have.\r\n\r\nDave (16:24):\r\n\r\nI mean, how do we dig out because most marriages, including ours, have been a law based\u2014\r\n\r\nPortia (16:30):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nDave (16:30):\r\n\r\nYou would never say that.\r\n\r\nPortia (16:31):\r\n\r\nYou do this, you know. Yeah.\r\n\r\nDave (16:33):\r\n\r\nBut it's like, \u201cHey, you said you'd be home at six. You're not even close to coming home. This has happened multiple times this month.\u201d\r\n\r\nAnn (16:40):\r\n\r\nOr with our kids.\r\n\r\nDave (16:41):\r\n\r\n\u201cI don't want to give grace. I want you to get home and help me with the kids.\u201d I mean, I'd walk in the house, and she'd throw a kid at me because she all day\u2014and I'm feeling like I\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn (16:51):\r\n\r\nI've worked hard.\r\n\r\nDave (16:53):\r\n\r\nYeah. I mean, and you get stuck, couples get stuck in that. They would never call it law based, but it's, do for me as much as I'm doing for you. And we always see our input more than the other. That's not grace. That's really law. How do you dig out?\r\n\r\nPortia (17:07):\r\n\r\nMy aim is regardless of what my husband does or does not do, I want to be gracious to him. I want to live in light of the work that the Spirit is doing in my heart. And ultimately, whether he does right or not, that ain't got nothing to do with who God is calling me to be, how God is working in my heart. See, sometimes we want to use excuses and we say, \"Well, if he didn't do this, I wouldn't do that.\u201d\r\n\r\nAnn (17:37):\r\n\r\nExactly.\r\n\r\nPortia (17:38):\r\n\r\nAnd that ain't what the Bible says. In fact, when we look in chapter five, Paul says, and this is what\u2014I love to go to this part. Most of us in here probably can name off, really quickly, the fruit of the Spirit, all nine of them. But I always like to tell people, back up a little bit, bump back a little bit because you truly can't understand the beauty and the blessing of the fruit of the Spirit until you see what the works of the flesh are. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nOh yeah, that's good. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nAnd so here's my point that I'm trying to make. If my husband is not going to bring out in me something that ain't already there, let me give you an example. If I'm angry about whatever he's doing, there's a way that I can respond. I can respond with graciousness, with addressing what this is, or I can, as Paul is saying, speak out in fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy.\r\n\r\nDave (18:37):\r\n\r\nDone that.\r\n\r\nPortia (18:37):\r\n\r\nSo the point that I'm trying to make here is if it's a work of the flesh, that means the larger problem is I need to be going before the Lord and dealing with that. My husband ain't bringing out\u2014he's not causing this work of the flesh to pop up.\r\n\r\nAnn (18:53):\r\n\r\nI used to say to Dave, \"You have made me like this.\"\r\n\r\nPortia (18:56):\r\n\r\nYeah. And no, no.\r\n\r\nAnn (18:57):\r\n\r\nAnd you were saying, no, that's not true. That's already there.\r\n\r\nPortia (19:01):\r\n\r\nIt's already there.\r\n\r\nDave (19:03):\r\n\r\nOkay, go to verse 16. You got to tell us because this is how it applies to marriage, parenting, you name it. Walk by the\u2014\r\n\r\nPortia (19:10):\r\n\r\n\u2014Spirit and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.\r\n\r\nDave (19:13):\r\n\r\nSo here's a thousand-dollar question. What's walk by the Spirit? What's that look like?\r\n\r\nPortia (19:18):\r\n\r\nWell, let's jump on down. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nI like this. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nI mean, here's the thing. I could say a lot of things, but ultimately, the most important thing is what he says. And so he says, first of all\u2014I'm going to kind of summarize what we see in 17 through 21. First, he tells us\u2014because he's giving us the blueprint\u2014he is saying, \"Walk by the Spirit and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.\" He's saying, \"If we don't know what that is, let me show you what the desires of the flesh are.\" And he lays that out. He starts saying, \"Hey,\" and we love to read them first couple of ones and then we try to skim over the ones in the middle because we be like, \"Sexual immorality, oh, that's not me. Impurity, not me either. Sensuality, I ain't doing that. I ain't looking.\" But then he goes, \"Idolatry, sorcery, entity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger.\u201d\r\n\r\n(20:08):\r\n\r\nWe like to gloss over those. And you don't know what a fit of anger is. Your husband come in 20 minutes after he said and you just going off. That is a fit of anger. That is a work of the flesh. He's showing us what it looks like. Now, it's like a light clicks. There's an awareness. \u201cOh, this is sinful. This is wrong.\u201d Then he goes on down and he says, \"But the fruit of the Spirit, now this is what it looks like when you are walking in step with the Spirit. \u201cLove, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such thing there is no law.\" And we don't look at this from a performance-based mindset. We look at this as, am I truly walking in step? It's almost like when you're driving your car and you see that check engine light come on.\r\n\r\n(21:00):\r\n\r\nYou don't just keep driving the car. And he's not saying, \"I want you to do more, try harder.\" He's saying, \"If these check engine lights are on, if you see this, then maybe you need to go back to the feet of Jesus.\"\r\n\r\nDave (21:13):\r\n\r\nAnd I think a lot of what marriage is and just Christian life is you don't realize he said fruit. And I've preached this before where it's like, okay, I don't know how apple trees, orange trees work, but I know they don't go, \"I need an orange.\" Grunt. You know what I mean? I call that the grunt Christian living. You just grunt it out. How does a tree produce fruit? They are connected to the root.\r\n\r\nPortia (21:37):\r\n\r\nTo the root. That\u2019s it.\r\n\r\nDave (21:39):\r\n\r\nAnd that's why I think Paul, under amazing inspiration of the Holy Spirit said, no, this is fruit. This is not something you and I can create.\r\n\r\nPortia (21:45):\r\n\r\nExactly.\r\n\r\nDave (21:46):\r\n\r\nIf it's not working in your marriage, it isn't because your spouse, it's you, me are not connected and walking by the Spirit because when you walk by the Spirit, it's a natural byproduct. It will happen. It will happen.\r\n\r\nAnn (21:55):\r\n\r\nAnd I love this dashboard, the light going on because I'm just thinking of being a young mom and having kids and you're just constantly frustrated or angry or you're struggling in your marriage. When I look at all the tension and the anger and the strife that's in my heart, I love that, Portia. You can think, \"Okay, what's going on?\u201d\r\n\r\nPortia (22:17):\r\n\r\nRight. What's going on with me? \r\n\r\nAnn (22:19):\r\n\r\nYeah, and I need to go to Jesus. What would you say? Let's say that dashboard, that light's going off, what would your prayer sound like?\r\n\r\nPortia (22:26):\r\n\r\nJesus, help me. Lord, help me to respond in a way that brings You glory. Help me to respond in a way that reflects the love and the grace that You have for me. And so that's the same prayer that I pray when I'm with my husband, when I'm with my daughter, because listen, an eight-year-old can work your last nerve. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nI know. \r\n\r\nPortia:\r\n\r\nThey are getting aware of their autonomy and they are like\u2014because it's not so much about them as it is about what Jesus is doing in my own heart. \r\n\r\nDave (22:55):\r\n\r\nI mean, what a great sort of final word. And again, when you said that, I thought, oh, I know a verse in Galatians that sort of captures that. It's a very famous one, Galatians 2:20. \u201cIt is no longer I who live\u2014\"\r\n\r\nPortia (23:10):\r\n\r\nAmen.\r\n\r\nDave (23:10):\r\n\r\n\u201c\u2014but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh, I live by faith in the Son of God who loved me and gave Himself for me.\u201d I would also say this, her eight-week Bible study is called Finding Freedom. And you can get it at FamilyLifeToday.com. Just click on the link in the show notes. I hope a lot of people get it because this is literally transformational, not just as a person single, but married and a legacy changing.\r\n\r\nAnn (23:38):\r\n\r\nAnd I really hope, and I know that this is your prayer too, Portia, this will create a hunger for God's Word. It's rich and deep and it changes our lives.\r\n\r\nPortia (23:47):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely.\r\n\r\nDave (23:48):\r\n\r\nI mean, we're driving down the road. I'm not kidding. She's doing her one-year Bible and we'll drive it. I've heard this a thousand times. \u201cI just love God's Word. Could I read it to you?\u201d\r\n\r\nPortia (23:58):\r\n\r\nMe too, Ann.\r\n\r\nDave (24:00):\r\n\r\nI mean, it really is\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn (24:01):\r\n\r\nChanged me.\r\n\r\nPortia (24:03):\r\n\r\nLikewise. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nDave (24:05):\r\n\r\nBefore we're done today, let me just say this. At FamilyLife, we really believe strong families can change the world. And when you become a FamilyLife Partner, you help make that happen.\r\n\r\nAnn (24:15):\r\n\r\nAnd I don't know if you realize this, but your monthly gift helps us equip marriages and families with biblical tools that they can count on.\r\n\r\nDave (24:23):\r\n\r\nNow that's a pretty good deal. And we also want to send you exclusive updates, behind the scenes access, and an invitation to our private partner community, which is pretty cool. 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