{"id":317491,"date":"2026-01-15T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2026-01-15T13:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/submissive-wives-oppressed-or-beautiful-brittany-gray-and-ari-todd\/"},"modified":"2026-01-16T02:37:27","modified_gmt":"2026-01-16T07:37:27","slug":"submissive-wives-oppressed-or-beautiful-brittany-gray-and-ari-todd","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/submissive-wives-oppressed-or-beautiful-brittany-gray-and-ari-todd\/","title":{"rendered":"Submissive Wives: Oppressed, or Beautiful? Brittany Gray and Ari Todd"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019s girls\u2019 day on FamilyLife Today, and Ann Wilson pulls back the curtain on the word so many women side-eye: submission. With wit, warmth, and surprising joy, pastors&#8217; wives Ari Todd and Brittany Gray reframe this God-first posture that fuels unity, honors strength, and brings real flourishing. 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References to conferences, resources, or other special promotions may be obsolete. We do not assume any responsibility or liability for the use or interpretation of this content.\r\n\r\nSubmissive Wives: Oppressed, or Beautiful?\r\n\r\nGuests:Brittany Gray and Ari Todd\r\n\r\nFrom the series:Submission (Day 1 of 2)\r\n\r\nAir date:January 15, 2026\r\n\r\nDave (00:00):\r\n\r\nOkay. I know you've heard us talk about Weekend to Remember a lot, and how it can change your life, your marriage, and your legacy. But really, even though we plan out so much of it, Weekend to Remember can be what you make it.\r\n\r\nAnn (00:15):\r\n\r\nSo whether you go with hopes to redeem your marriage because you're struggling, or maybe just for maintaining or even just a weekend away together, the conversations between you and your spouse, they can change everything about your weekend and your marriage for years to come.\r\n\r\nDave (00:31):\r\n\r\nAnd even your legacy. And that's why we're so excited to let you know that right now through January 26th, registrations are half price. So this is your chance to be together and intentionally focus on your marriage for half the cost.\r\n\r\nAnn (00:46):\r\n\r\nSo don't wait. Head to FamilyLifeToday.com now and register for your getaway. That\u2019s FamilyLifeToday.com.\r\n\r\nArianysis (00:58):\r\n\r\nI am not saying that women need to submit to men. That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is that God has orchestrated within the marriage for women to submit to their own husbands. So that is, I think that's really important to understand that we're not just giving a blanket statement here of women just need to submit to all men.\r\n\r\nAnn (01:25):\r\n\r\nWelcome to FamilyLife Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I'm Ann Wilson.\r\n\r\nDave (01:32):\r\n\r\nAnd I'm Dave Wilson. And you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com. This is FamilyLife Today.\r\n\r\nAnn (01:41):\r\n\r\nSo today's going to be a different kind of day. I'm going to be without Dave and it's going to be a girl's day. I have Brittany Gray with me and Arianysis Todd, and we are going to be talking about submission. So let's jump in. Okay, so we're going to talk about something today that can create a lot of feelings. So let me address you as a listener or a viewer. When you hear the word submission, what comes to your heart and mind?\r\n\r\n(02:11):\r\n\r\nWhat are your feelings about the word? Because that's what I mean. That's where we're going today. We're going to talk about, what is submission? Is it hard? Is it easy? What's the Bible say? And I'm just going to be truthful. This has been a hard topic for me, and I have two women that you have heard before. They've been on FamilyLife Today before and I love them. They're full of joy, they're full of wisdom, they're fun. But one of the reasons we asked them to be on was because I'll just address you two. You display incredible joy about this topic and you're like, \u201cThis is so great, submission.\u201d I'm like, \u201cWait, what did you say? This is so great.\u201d I'm like, \u201cOh my.\u201d We need to get your perspective. So tell us who you are, what you do.\r\n\r\nArianysis (03:02):\r\n\r\nYeah, so my name is Arianysis Todd. Most people call me either Ari or Ecs. I'm married to Isaac Blake Todd; he's pastor at New Creation Fellowship. And yeah, I'm a mother. I have my baby girl Lilianys, and she's 15 months and just been really enjoying this season.\r\n\r\nAnn (03:25):\r\n\r\nThat's so fun. And Ecs, when you were here just not too long ago when this topic came up, it didn't really come up, but you did say when you met your husband, \u201cThe only person I can submit to is my father.\u201d But then you said, \u201cAnd I thought I could submit to this man,\u201d and I was like, \u201cWait, wait, wait, what?\u201d So okay, Brittany, introduce yourself.\r\n\r\nBrittany (03:52):\r\n\r\nYes, my name's Brittany Gray. My husband is Rechab Gray. He is also a pastor at New Creation Fellowship in Orlando, Florida. We have four kiddos, ages four to 15, teens and preschoolers. We have very different journeys of our backgrounds, very different means of getting to where we are but yeah, we are both joyful in submitting to the Lord and submitting to our husbands.\r\n\r\nAnn (04:19):\r\n\r\nAnd you're really good friends.\r\n\r\nBrittany (04:20):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nArianysis (04:21):\r\n\r\nYeah. That's my sister.\r\n\r\nBrittany (04:22):\r\n\r\nMany years of friendship, many years of hardships together that brought us closer to each other. So yeah, she's been through life with us. I'm getting emotional already. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nI love it, yes! \r\n\r\nBrittany:\r\n\r\nShe's been a sister to me, a mother to my children, and we've been friends for many years.\r\n\r\nAnn (04:41):\r\n\r\nAnd you have both walked through some really hard things, both of you and you've been there for each other.\r\n\r\nBrittany (04:47):\r\n\r\nAnd we've been through it together and come out the other side with the Lord gracing both of us with so much love.\r\n\r\nAnn (04:54):\r\n\r\nWell, let's get into, I'll share my story first of this submission thing. I didn't grow up in the church and I'm a strong\u2014my parents always emphasize leadership, and that was part of who I am. When I take a spiritual gift test now, my number one gift is leadership. And so then I give my life to Jesus, and I heard this word submission and I'm like, \u201cHuh, I wonder what that means.\u201d And we all have different ideas of what it means based on what we've heard; maybe Bible teaching, maybe some people being really mad about it. But I was very open, I just want to follow Jesus. I want to do whatever He's called me to be. And if submission is a word that I need to understand and grow in, I'm all about that.\r\n\r\n(05:44):\r\n\r\nBut then I started getting into some teaching that I was like, \u201cWait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Does that mean I don't have a voice? Does that mean when it says to be quiet?\u201d And I'm like, \u201cWait, I'm not quiet. I'm not gentle. I'm big and strong.\u201d Here's what I thought, \u201cOh, I'm not going to fit in that mold at the church.\u201d And so then when we went to seminary\u2014Dave and I both went to seminary because we knew we want to follow Jesus our whole lives\u2014I said to Dave, \u201cYou're not going to become a pastor, right?\u201d \r\n\r\nArianysis:\r\n\r\nWow. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nBecause I'm thinking, I cannot fit into that mold, dude. I think you're going to be amazing if you decide to do that, but you're going to have this crazy, rebellious, strong wife, and people are going to be like, \u201cWait, what is she?\u201d and \u201cShe needs to quiet down and get herself under control\u201d and to be \u201csubmissive\u201d because I don't think I had a great understanding of what it was. But now as I've come to learn and grow and understand God's Word, and even what Paul meant as he's talking about this in Ephesians, I have a bet and I think that's where we want to go. So tell me your journeys in this whole area.\r\n\r\nArianysis (06:59):\r\n\r\nSo yes, when I say that there's a man after God's heart, a man of integrity that is my father. And so it wasn't difficult to submit to him.\r\n\r\nAnn (07:06):\r\n\r\nWhat did it look like for you as a young girl? You're watching him, what are the traits that you saw that you think \u201cThat is amazing\u201d?\r\n\r\nArianysis (07:13):\r\n\r\nYeah, so I'm telling you, I could not get away with anything, with anything. One, he was like, \u201cThe guy that you're talking to at school, he's going to offer you weed in a couple of weeks, so just be careful.\u201d And I was like, \u201cWhat guy? What are you talking about?\u201d And literally that's what happened. And I mean, listen, the Lord, that's all I can say, the Lord. That's what it was like growing up with my father and also having a mother who is also prayerful. And so whenever I was going through my rebellious stages or I was giving them issues or anything, the way that I saw my parents fight for me was on their knees at two in the morning, at three in the morning praying and crying out to the Lord.\r\n\r\nAnn (07:53):\r\n\r\nAnd you trusted them?\r\n\r\nArianysis (07:54):\r\n\r\nI did.\r\n\r\nAnn (07:55):\r\n\r\nOkay, Brittany, let's hear your side of everything.\r\n\r\nBrittany (07:58):\r\n\r\nI grew up completely opposite. My family was not; we were not a family of believers. We had a family history of strong women in our household. So there was also a history of very abusive men in our families. So the women had to be strong in order to keep going\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\n\u2014to protect themselves.\r\n\r\nBrittanny:\r\n\r\n\u2014to protect themselves, to hold the family together. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nWere your parents married? \r\n\r\nBrittany (08:22):\r\n\r\nMy parents were married; still are married.\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nOkay.\r\n\r\nBrittany (08:23):\r\n\r\nYes, yes. It's been 40 years for them.\r\n\r\nAnn (08:24):\r\n\r\nDid your mom lead? Did you feel like your mom was the leader of the family?\r\n\r\nBrittany (08:30):\r\n\r\nI would say yes. I would say she was and is the leader of the family. And I saw the benefits of that. I saw when I was growing up, I saw she could hold it down. She still can. We had a well-oiled machine of our home. Growing up I was just like, \u201cThis is how the machine works.\u201d \r\n\r\nAnn (08:49):\r\n\r\nSo when was the first time you were exposed to\u2014you became a Christian.\r\n\r\nBrittany (08:52):\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nAnn (08:52):\r\n\r\nAnd then when this idea of submission and the Word, you\u2019re starting to learn the Word. Rechab is a man of the Word. He knows the Word. \r\n\r\nArianysis:\r\n\r\nYes. He's very much so. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nWhat were your feelings about it? What were your thoughts?\r\n\r\nBrittany (09:02):\r\n\r\nYeah, so I found out about submission through going to church. So I became a believer ironically through Rechab, my husband. He brought me to Christ, but he quickly\u2014I don't want to say left me alone, but he let me have time to be discipled. So just through discipleship, hearing this word submission, hearing submit to your husbands, at first, I was like, \u201cYeah, that's not going to work for me. That's not how I was raised.\u201d \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nSo you and I are kind of alike that way? \r\n\r\nBrittany:\r\n\r\nYes, very much so. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\n\u201cYeah, that sounds good but uh-uh.\u201d \r\n\r\nBrittany:\r\n\r\nYeah. And honestly, that's what's so interesting as you talked about leadership skills. I wouldn't say my gifting is leadership.\r\n\r\n(09:41):\r\n\r\nBut I am more of a servant person where I'm a doer. I just want to say, I don't even know what that is. I\u2019m just a doer. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nYou're getting everything done. \r\n\r\nBrittany:\r\n\r\nI'm getting it done. So to me, yeah, coming into submission, it's like, \u201cYou're going to stop me from doing what I'm doing. I'm doing everything good. Why would I stop?\u201d And this was before Rechab and I were even dating, before we were even talking about that. And I remember my friend Kendall Washington, she came and talked to me about it, and I was like, \u201cWhy would you want to do that? You're like me. Why would you want to do that?\u201d And she was like, \u201cDo you know the relief that you will feel when you don't have to do everything? You don't have to make all the decisions. You have a covering and protection over you, someone that is not just supporting you, but they're guarding you.\u201d And I was like, \u201cOh, okay.\u201d \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nThose are interesting words. \r\n\r\nBrittany:\r\n\r\nI like those words. Yeah, I like those words. So that was like I said before I even met Rechab. So then when I did meet Rechab, that was one of the first examples. His family was the first example I saw of a submissive wife.\r\n\r\nAnn (10:50):\r\n\r\nWhat did that look like?\u2014in a good way?\r\n\r\nBrittany (10:52):\r\n\r\nI knew Rechab before Christ.\r\n\r\n(10:54):\r\n\r\nAnd I saw everything that she was submissive, and I saw it in a negative light. So I saw all the negative things of she serves her husband, she makes a plate for him. She goes out of her way to show him honor. I was just like, \u201cThis is so extra. That is not good.\u201d And it was insane becoming a Christian and seeing she's doing all the things I'm reading about now. It was eye opening of like, \u201cThis is what a submissive woman looks like.\u201d And Tricia Gray, my mother-in-law, she is an amazing leader. She\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nEce, you know her?\r\n\r\nArianysis (11:33):\r\n\r\nYes, she's amazing. I love her.\r\n\r\nBrittany (11:35):\r\n\r\nShe is amazing. She has amazing leadership skills, amazing teaching skills. She could run the world. She has all that it takes to just lead in everything. So when I saw her practice, that act of submission to her husband, where\u2014from the outset, I could see his flaws. I was like, \u201cI know exactly what my father-in-law's doing wrong. Why isn't she pointing that out?\u201d And just to see her willingly take that role of submission to him was like, \u201cOkay, this can be done and it can be beautiful.\u201d\r\n\r\nAnn (12:08):\r\n\r\nAnd she wasn't losing part of herself?\r\n\r\nBrittany (12:10):\r\n\r\nShe wasn't. \r\n\r\nAnn (12:11):\r\n\r\nOr her voice?\r\n\r\nBrittany (12:12):\r\n\r\nShe was a prayer woman as well. She still is. She's a woman of prayer as well. So I think as I've gone through these years, I've seen her, she's not losing her voice vocally. She's taking it to prayer. Everything that she has to say, she's not, \u201cOh no, I can't say it.\u201d She's taking it to the Lord.\r\n\r\nAnn (12:28):\r\n\r\nI don't think I learned that for 30 years in my marriage.\r\n\r\nBrittany (12:31):\r\n\r\nYes, and it's just like your heart doesn't want to do that because \u201cI just want everyone around me to hear what I have to say and do what I have to.\u201d But for her to just hold it in her heart and take it to the Lord. And sometimes those things are brought to others and sometimes she brings things to us of revelations she's had in prayer. But just seeing that model was just absolutely life-changing for me.\r\n\r\nAnn (12:59):\r\n\r\nHey, I think what we're talking about is great. And as you're listening, if there's something on today's episode that you're just clicking with, we want you to know that you're not alone because every single marriage has its fair share of highs but also lows.\r\n\r\nDave (13:16):\r\n\r\nAnd if you're like us, you're wondering \u201cWhere do we get help?\u201d \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nExactly. \r\n\r\nDave:\r\n\r\n\u201cWhere can we go to get help?\u201d Well, first of all, you're getting help right now and we're thankful that you're listening. But we also want to share one of our favorite resources. It's a free guide that's filled with helpful marriage wisdom from real life couples who've been where you are. And you can grab your free copy, free copy today at FamilyLife.com\/MarriageHelp. That's FamilyLife.com\/MarriageHelp.\r\n\r\nAnn (13:46):\r\n\r\nWell, let's open the Word and talk about what the Bible says submission is. And you guys both have your Bibles out. \r\n\r\nArianysis:\r\n\r\nI do. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nSo this is an Ephesians, which I love the book of Ephesians because Paul's writing this book and it's a circulating book that went around the area. But those first three chapters are theology in Ephesians. So he's saying this is who you are, this is who God is. But then those last three chapters of Ephesians are practical living. And if we know who we are and who God is, then this is what it will look like as we live it out. So when Paul gets into Ephesians 5, we're getting into the practical side. So will one of you read Ephesians and kind of those roles of a husband and a wife?\r\n\r\nArianysis (14:30):\r\n\r\n\u201cLook carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.\u201d \r\n\r\n\u201cWives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.\u201d\r\n\r\n(15:44):\r\n\r\n\u201cIn the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.\u201d\r\n\r\nAnn (16:22):\r\n\r\nAll right, let's break it down. Not that we're going to break it down theologically, but I think one of the things that has always attracted all of us here at FamilyLife about you two is that you're strong, vibrant, alive women who carry joy, power, wisdom, and it's like you're thriving. And so you're living this out of what you just read in Ephesians and you're thriving in your homes and under this leadership and under this area of submission. And as I'm reading that, here's what I'm thinking, \u201cThe poor men.\u201d Do you think that? Because we have one little verse and they have a lot that they're supposed to live out. So what are your thoughts as we read through this?\r\n\r\nArianysis (17:09):\r\n\r\nWhat I think, what's so beautiful about this, to your point where you were saying that in the beginning it talks, it's like all this theology, and then it gets to the practicals at the later chapters. And it's like Paul, in the beginning of Ephesians is showing us how God has perfectly united us through the work of Christ, the reconciling work of Christ on the cross, meaning regardless of you being Jew or Gentile that we are, he says the mystery is that we are co-heirs, that Gentiles are co-heirs with Jews and he breaks down how God broke down the dividing wall of hostility. And he tells us who we were and now who we are and what he did and how he had predestined this from the beginning. And so in light of all of that, he says, this is how I want the body of Christ to live this out. This is what it looks like to be perfectly united. And so I think that when we think of unity or when we think of it being united, we can often think of equality, but we can mistake diversity for inequality. Do you know what I'm saying?\r\n\r\nAnn (18:13):\r\n\r\nYeah.\r\n\r\nArianysis (18:14):\r\n\r\nBut the reality is that unity can't exist unless there's diversity. There's no such thing because if not, it's uniformity, right?\r\n\r\nAnn (18:22):\r\n\r\nYeah. And we are all one in Christ Jesus.\r\n\r\nArianysis (18:24):\r\n\r\nExactly. And so if we are all one, if we are united in Christ, then therefore diversity exists within that unity. And so here God is saying, here's where the diversity is and this is how it's played out. Men, you have this role, women, this is your role. This is what I'm asking you to do. I'm asking you to live not as unwise, but as wise, submitting to one another, in addressing one another in songs and hymns and thankfulness in our hearts and praise. And that is lived out in a marriage, wives submitting to your own husbands. Because what it's not\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn (19:02):\r\n\r\nYou keep emphasizing that: own husband.\r\n\r\nArianysis (19:04):\r\n\r\nYeah, because I'm not saying that women need to submit to men. That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is that God has orchestrated within the marriage for women to submit to their own husbands. So that is, I think that's really important to understand that we're not just giving a blanket statement here of women just need to submit to all men. That's what you have, no voice, dah, dah, dah. That's not what the apostle Paul is saying. It\u2019s saying that within your home, in order for it to reflect\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn (19:36):\r\n\r\nAnd to flourish.\r\n\r\nArianysis (19:37):\r\n\r\n\u2014to flourish. The way that something flourishes, it's when it reflects the nature of God. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nYes, yes.\r\n\r\nArianysis:\r\n\r\nSo that's what we see in the Garden of Eden, right? God in His diversity, in perfect unity because that's how we can say that God is love, right? Because there's diversity within the Godhead. So then He then creates creation which reflects the Godhead, the diversity with plants, animals, all of that. And then as He creates men and women who are reflection of the image of God, it also reflects His diversity and unity that's in there. And that's love, right.\r\n\r\nBrittany:\r\n\r\nThat\u2019s beautiful.\r\n\r\nAnn (20:11):\r\n\r\nI love that because it's also of Jesus submitting to the Father.\r\n\r\nBrittany:\r\n\r\nAbsolutely. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nWas Jesus less than? No.\r\n\r\nArianysis (20:18):\r\n\r\nAnd so think about that within the Godhead where love exists, where we say God is love. And the reason why we can say that God is love is because there's diversity within the Godhead because they love each other. Part of that diversity is that the Son submits to the Father. And I think that oftentimes we think of Jesus submitting to the Father as something that he does in his earthly ministry. But actively right now, Jesus is submitting to His father in heaven seated at the right hand of the Father because Jesus doesn't return until the Father tells Him to. And so submission exists within love. So when I look at this text, I'm just seeing God's heart for us to reflect Him, to reflect His nature.\r\n\r\nAnn (20:58):\r\n\r\nWell, and I think too, as some listeners are kind of going through this, they're thinking through it. They could be thinking, \u201cWell, Jesus could submit to the Father because He knew Him well and trusted Him. I don't know if I really even know my husband or if I trust him.\u201d There's always going to be a pushback. And I think too, it would be good to talk about what submission is not. I like that you even said it's to your own husband. That's significant. What else? What are you thinking, Brittany? I can tell that something's going around in your head.\r\n\r\nBrittany (21:33):\r\n\r\nYeah, I think it's so perfect we're together because she hit on your own husbands. My emphasis is as to the Lord. It doesn't say submit to your own husbands because they're really great guys and you trust them.\r\n\r\nAnn (21:47):\r\n\r\nThere it is.\r\n\r\nBrittany (21:48):\r\n\r\nAnd so as to the Lord means you're submitting as to the Lord, and you are trusting in the Lord firstly before anything. And so submission is not just action you're doing like what you said, what do we want to do?\r\n\r\nAnn (22:03):\r\n\r\nThat's a good way to say it.\r\n\r\nBrittany (22:04):\r\n\r\nSubmission is your posture. Are you submitting to the Lord in all that you do? My favorite example in the scripture is Hannah. I've just talked about that.\r\n\r\nAnn (22:13):\r\n\r\nYes.\r\n\r\nBrittany (22:15):\r\n\r\nAnd the scriptures, it doesn't say she's submissive as a wife, but she was really submissive.\r\n\r\nAnn (22:19):\r\n\r\nRemind our listeners who Hannah is in the Bible.\r\n\r\nBrittany (22:21):\r\n\r\nSo yes, Hannah is in 1 Samuel. She is the mother of Samuel, the prophet. Hannah's only mentioned in those two scriptures, and she was without child. And she prayed to the Lord fervently for a son. So much so that the priest thought she was drunk because she prayed so fervently for this child. \r\n\r\nAnn (22:42):\r\n\r\nShe was wailing and crying. \r\n\r\nBrittany (22:44):\r\n\r\nWailing and crying. \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nHe's thinking \u201cShe's crazy drunk right now.\u201d \r\n\r\nBrittany:\r\n\r\nYes, crazy drunk. He was like, \u201cGet out of here. You're drunk lady.\u201d And as she confessed, \u201cI'm praying for this son.\u201d Eli said, \u201cYour promise is given to you.\u201d And so she ended up having a son. I think the significant thing for me in that that connects to this is that she prayed to the Lord, \u201cIf you give me the son, I will give him back to you.\u201d And that wasn't a commandment in the scriptures. You can't look back and say, \u201cOh yeah, if you pray to God for a son, you must give him back to me.\u201d That was out of her posture of love to the Lord. \r\n\r\nArianysis:\r\n\r\nThat's so good. \r\n\r\nBrittany:\r\n\r\nThat was out of her heart. \r\n\r\nAnn (23:20):\r\n\r\nCan you imagine giving your child that you've been praying for years and now you're going to give him to this older man?\u2014who's not a good father, by the way. \r\n\r\nBrittany:\r\n\r\nYes, yes. As he showed with his other children.\r\n\r\nAnn (23:31):\r\n\r\nThat heart.\r\n\r\nBrittany (23:31):\r\n\r\nYeah, his other children were not\u2014 \r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nBut her posture of her heart, which she wasn't giving him to Eli. She's giving him to God.\r\n\r\nBrittany (23:37):\r\n\r\nAbsolutely. Absolutely. And so just seeing that as she's serving as to the Lord and so much flourished from that.\r\n\r\n(23:48):\r\n\r\nHer giving of Samuel blessed the generation, the entire generation. I mean, he was a prophet. He has two books named after him. He was a prophet for many generations\u2014\r\n\r\nAnn:\r\n\r\nHe impacted the\u2014David and Saul. \r\n\r\nBrittany:\r\n\r\nAnd David and Saul. He was there through all of that for his many years. And he served the Lord and he submitted to the Lord for those many years. Being a prophet in that time was not simple and easy. You're not going around saying, \u201cEverybody's going to do good. You're going to have a great time.\u201d But he was pouring his heart out before the Lord himself saying, \u201cLord, please, we don't need a king. Just tell them to figure things out.\u201d And God was like, \u201cI'm going to give them what they want, and I'm going to let them see what they really want in having a king.\u201d So just seeing her submission to the Lord is also a reflection of how that picture of flourishing amongst the nations can even come.\r\n\r\nAnn (24:33):\r\n\r\nI love that. This has been such a great conversation and we're going to continue this conversation on submission tomorrow. \r\n\r\nFamilyLife Today is a donor-supported production of FamilyLife\u00ae, a Cru\u00ae Ministry. \r\n\r\nHelping you pursue the relationships that matter most.\r\n\r\nIf you\u2019ve benefited from the FamilyLife Today transcripts, would you consider donating today to help defray the costs of producing them and making them available online?\r\n\r\nCopyright \u00a9 2026 FamilyLife. 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