{"id":307440,"date":"2022-03-18T08:02:09","date_gmt":"2022-03-18T12:02:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/the-intentional-father-choosing-time-together\/"},"modified":"2022-03-18T08:02:09","modified_gmt":"2022-03-18T12:02:09","slug":"the-intentional-father-choosing-time-together","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/the-intentional-father-choosing-time-together\/","title":{"rendered":"The Intentional Father: Choosing Time Together"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Amidst the urgent &#8212; &amp; the pull of passivity &#8212; how do dads carve out time together with kids? 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How do I develop his character? What do I want him to <em>know<\/em>? How do I want to make him a wise man?\u201d\u2014and then\u2014\u201cWhat do I want him to be able to <em>do<\/em>? Like, what real world <em>skills<\/em> do I want this kid to have?\u201d If I don\u2019t do this for him, who is going to do this for him? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I\u2019m Ann Wilson.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And I\u2019m Dave Wilson, and you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com or on our FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> app.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen our boys all turned 13, you took each of them out individually with a group of your guy friends; and you had your guy friends speak into their lives. What was that like? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Well, I mean each trip was me alone with my son, and then the guy part was usually a surprise. It was really funny\u2014I don\u2019t know if we shared this here before\u2014but our third son, Cody\u2014when I was getting ready to do the trip with Cody, he says\u2014do you [Ann] remember this?\u2014he goes, \u201cDad, whatever you did with CJ and Austin, they told me it really wasn\u2019t any good. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cIt was lame.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u201cCan you do something different?\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cWhat?! What are you talking about?! It was the most epic journey of their life!\u201d He said, \u201cNo, the trip was incredible; the actual <em>material<\/em> that you used was dated.\u201d I won\u2019t tell you what I was using at the time; but when I heard that, I\u2019m like, \u201cOh.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo you know what I did with my last one? We were going to the AFC Championship game\u2014the Steelers against the Patriots in Pittsburgh\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014which was perfect for him because he is a sports guy. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, it fit him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> You did a different trip for each one.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It fit him. One of my former Detroit Lions, played for the Steelers, got us tickets. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnyway, I put together a list of topics we were going to talk about; I was just winging it now. I\u2019m not going to do what I did with them. I hand him this sheet of paper. We get in the car. We are going to be in the car six hours; I said, \u201cCody, we\u2019re going to talk about every one of these, any order you want. Just pick it, and we\u2019ll talk about it. Let\u2019s talk about it. These are things men need to talk about.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ll never forget. He looks over at me\u2014he looks down at the sheet\u2014he goes, \u201cWe\u2019re going to talk about women\u2019s body parts?\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cYes, we\u2019re going to talk about\u2026\u201d I mean, it was just anything and everything. It was an <em>incredible<\/em> trip, because we talked about stuff men need to talk about. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn some ways, Ann, when you asked me that, it\u2019s like, \u201cYes,\u201d because I <em>never<\/em> had that experience with my dad; so I wanted to try and create something that would be totally different with <em>my<\/em> sons. You\u2019d have to ask them what they thought of that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere we are today, talking about manhood stuff again, with Jon Tyson, who is\u2014you know, you\u2019re the manliest man I think I\u2019ve ever met, Jon\u2014[Laughter]\u2014you know, I\u2019m looking over at you, saying\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Nobody has EVER said that to me before! [Laughter] I\u2019m 44 years old\u2014that\u2019s a first\u2014and it\u2019s <em>not<\/em> true, so thank you. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cBoy, he\u2019s a very\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I don\u2019t even know what that <em>means<\/em>. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I looked over at you, and you started smiling; like, \u201cI don\u2019t think he has heard that.\u201d Here is what I meant by that. When you think \u201cmanly man,\u201d you think this <em>rugged<\/em>\u2014I don\u2019t know\u2014macho. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, back in the day, that was your picture. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, you sort of thought of The Rock [Dwayne D. Johnson]; you know? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Yes, I mean, I think he still is a manly man\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> He is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> \u2014the gold standard, perhaps. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> But when I think, \u201cmanly man,\u201d I think a man can encapsulate what God instilled a man to be. I mean that, Jon\u2014I look at you, as we had lunch, and even as we\u2019ve done these shows together\u2014it\u2019s like, \u201cYou capture what I believe God said a man of God should be.\u201d With that, I say, \u201cWelcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Oh, that\u2019s so kind; I really appreciate that. How do I get back on the show? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tChristy, darling, did you hear that? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; make sure she listens to that. Of course, you are talking about your wife Christy and your son Nate and your daughter\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Haley. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014Haley\u201421 and 18. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I\u2019ve got to ask you: \u201cWhat\u2019s it like being an empty-nester?\u201d I mean, it\u2019s <em>new<\/em> to you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Am I allowed to say \u201cincredible\u201d?\u2014I don\u2019t know if that\u2019s disrespectful\u2014it\u2019s incredible. I think, when my son left\u2014he left to do a gap year\u2014we got up early, and he got an Uber. We live in the middle of Manhattan; none of us are driving to the airport: \u201cWhat are you talking about?\u201d [Laughter] The Uber shows and off he goes. Everything in my heart was like, \u201cGo into the world, young man. Get after it. The safety net under your life is <em>huge<\/em>. Just go!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then I\u2019m hugging my daughter about a month ago; and she literally says to me, \u201cWe need more time; we need more time. I need more wisdom from you. There hasn\u2019t been enough.\u201d Then I hug her, and she walks off. I was like, \u201cI\u2019m still not over that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I\u2019m still carrying that in my heart\u2014my little baby girl\u2014she\u2019s <em>amazing<\/em>. She\u2019s studying nursing. She\u2019s a giver\u2014she [cares]; she\u2019s such a tender heart\u2014been raised in the middle of the craziness of New York and is like pure in heart. I mean\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> But it\u2019s cool, Jon\u2014even as you say that, though\u2014I think every listener has just leaned in to think, \u201cI want to listen to a guy whose daughter would say that about him and whose son\u201d\u2014like what you just said about your son: \u201cGo into the world,\u201d because you feel confident; because you feel like you\u2019ve probably equipped him with the best that you could do. And that\u2019s what you mean, Dave, about being a man of God. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, I mean, I called it being a manly man; but that is what I <em>mean<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> If by manly man you mean like a chubby, out-of-shape rugby player\u2014sort of a manly man\u2014it\u2019s like: \u201cThank you!\u201d [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You\u2019ve got it! [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s interesting the way you started\u2014because it\u2019s in your book, <em>The Intentional Father: A Practical Guide to Raise Sons of Courage and Character<\/em>\u2014but obviously, you haven\u2019t just done sons; you\u2019ve got a daughter as well. You\u2019ve done, obviously, rites of passage ceremonies; walk us through this, because you started this at age 13. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> What\u2019s the passage sort of look like? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I mean, to be clear, I had the whole thing in my mind, I think. You know, one of my favorite authors\u2014I realized when I was reading him\u2014I was like, \u201cOh, he does this literary technique called bookending.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I didn\u2019t know you read my stuff. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Yes, thank you. It\u2019s really, really helpful. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOpen with half a story, and then leave you in suspense the whole time; and then close with that story. It\u2019s like: \u201cI\u2019m going to bookend this trip with my son. It\u2019s going to start with him running into the ocean, off the coast of New York; it\u2019s going to end with him running into the ocean off the coast of Spain at the end of this 500-mile walk called the Camino de Santiago. I was like, \u201cEverything is going to happen between those two baptisms. The first baptism is the baptism into the journey, and the second one is the baptism into manhood.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, alright. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> It started with\/I had formed a little cohort of friends with sons, who were my son\u2019s age. We basically\u2014I mapped this out\u2014I presented this sort of overview of our time together in a PDF vision document. I said, \u201cI think I\u2019ve got something for us to take our sons through for the next few years.\u201d I sort of tried to cast some vision for them. I\u2019m like, \u201cHow many of you are in?\u201d They\u2019re like, \u201cWe\u2019re all in!\u201d I had this little tribe\u2014like group of dads\/group of sons\u2014I <em>hyped<\/em> this up for my son. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m still meeting with him every week\u2014just doing hang-out time\u2014that sort of thing. I was like\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Talk about that just for a second. Like what do you mean you are hanging out with him? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> So, it\u2019s like, basically\u2014I got this idea from Covey. People talk about the book, <em>The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People<\/em>. He wrote a book called <em>The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families<\/em>, which is, to this day, one of the best books on families I have ever read. His chapter was: \u201cYou give your kids time, and they set the agenda\u201d; so I would say to my kids, \u201cWe will do anything you want in this time we are having together, but I am so committed to you and having a great relationship with you. We\u2019ve got to prioritize this time. It\u2019s whatever you want to do. You want to go skateboarding; we\u2019ll skateboard. <em>You<\/em> set the agenda: \u2018If I could do anything with my dad, I would do this.\u2019 I\u2019ll show up; I\u2019ll fund it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen I started to tell him: \u201cHey, man, when you hit 13, it\u2019s about to get <em>real<\/em>. You\u2019re going to enter into this journey into manhood. And men in every generation have done this\u2014it\u2019s been lost\u2014but we have recovered it. It\u2019s going to be very <em>hard<\/em> for you. I mean, I think you\u2019ve got what it takes; but we\u2019re going to test that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe would be like, \u201cWhat are you talking about? What are you talking about?\u201d Then we took them down to the beach; we actually went to Coney Island, which is still a pretty amazing place in New York City. We took them out there, and then we took them down to the beach. We had this ceremony, gave them this speech, talked about this formational process, how it was done in other cultures. Then had them strip down to their swim trunks and run into the ocean: \u201cThis is a baptism of your birth into manhood.\u201d Then we spent the rest of the night like talking with them about it and hanging out at Coney Island. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>I wanted it to have a content component, like: \u201cHere is a vision speech.\u201d I wanted it to feel solemn\u2014in some sense, healthy intimidation\u2014like a little bit of the fear of God. Then I wanted it to be something really enjoyable that they would remember: \u201cDo you remember that night, late summer, right at dusk, where they took us out?\u201d I wanted them to have sort of like a rich, aesthetic experience, you know, connected to it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> At 21, does he recall that in that way? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Yes; if he doesn\u2019t recall it, he has a video of it; I\u2019ve got photos of all of it. He <em>does<\/em> remember that. He will say things like\u2014you know, his recollection now is funny\u2014he\u2019ll be like, \u201cOh, that was really interesting. I didn\u2019t quite comprehend how serious you were about all of that. It seemed pretty vague, but I was grateful for it. That was a great night,\u201d\u2014lots of those sorts of things. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And then, what happened after? Because I think a lot of men\u2014at least, in my generation\u2014from Robert Lewis and other authors, gave us some pictures and visions of what ceremonies could look like. I\u2019m not sure I\u2019m exactly right, but a lot of us did the ceremony and then that was it. It was like after the ceremony, it was like there was a period of time or years until the next ceremony; but it wasn\u2019t always something in between. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think that\u2019s because a lot of dads just didn\u2019t know <em>what<\/em> to do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right; so what did you do in between? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I basically\u2014two things\u2014one getting back to the big-picture idea. I basically spent a lot of time thinking; and I basically said this: \u201cWhen my son leaves our house\u201d\u2014which he is going to do in five or six years\u2014\u201cWho do I want him to be? How do I develop his character? What do I want him to <em>know<\/em>? How do I make him a wise man?\u201d\u2014and then\u2014\u201cWhat do I want him to be able to <em>do<\/em>? What real world <em>skills<\/em> do I want this kid to have?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen I basically reversed engineered to when he was 13; and basically, built out a calendar. The calendar was like: \u201cOkay, this month, we\u2019re going to talk about this,\u201d \u201cThis month, we\u2019re going to talk about this,\u201d \u201cI think this might take two months\u201d; then I\u2019ll do that for two months. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI basically did a big-picture brainstorming and then reverse engineering; and then filled in daily events, weekly events. I had a little daily connection, which we just called The Primal Path. I told dads, \u201cIt can be as simple as this\u2014it can be\u2014\u2018Here is a section of Scripture\u2026\u2019 \u2018Here is a quote from a godly guy, and here is one question I want you to think about today.\u2019\u201d You can do that in ten minutes in the morning; but the <em>compound<\/em> effect of ten minutes a day for five years can be <em>radically<\/em> transformative. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Jon, what is so impressive to me about this is you are a pastor of a large church. You\u2019ve got a lot going on. People are pulling you in every direction. I think a lot of dads feel like that, like, \u201cMan, my life is so busy. I\u2019m building my career.\u201d Yet, you carved out that time because it was a priority to you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I loved my son, like, \u201cI love this kid.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I was like, \u201cIf I don\u2019t do this for him, who is going to do this for him? He\u2019s just going to do this on Google.\u201d I saw a day of my son, at 25, just saying, \u201cDad, why <em>didn\u2019t<\/em> you? What was so important in the church that you couldn\u2019t?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tA lot of this was based on a <em>very<\/em> painful conversation I have had, about a decade earlier, with my best mate. He had said to me\u2014like he grew up in a home, where his dad had a small business\u2014and his dad, every night, was <em>never<\/em> around; because he was always at the small business. He said, \u201cIt wasn\u2019t until I was older, and went into business and understood how business works, that I realized that, what my dad did every night, he could have paid an accountant to do it for $10 in 5 minutes; but I lost my childhood, because he didn\u2019t do that.\u201d Then he listed out the specific things his dad\/he said, \u201cMy dad traded those little widgets for my teenage years.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just remember thinking, \u201cI\u2019m <em>not<\/em> going to do that to my kid. I will not let the crisis of my people rob this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to form my son.\u201d I went into it with that conversation ringing in my ears. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYes, it was a lot of work. I want to say this: \u201cListen, if you want to break generational cycles, it\u2019s going to be intense; but do you know what is more intense?\u2014not breaking them and spending the next 40 years frustrated at the same stuff.\u201d\u00a0 So like you pick your pain point\u2014pick your price pain point\u2014and I was like, \u201cI\u2019m never going to get this chance again; I\u2019ve got to prioritize this.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>I\u2019ll say two things: number one, what I did in a typical day looked very, very small compared to what a lot of other dads did. You wouldn\u2019t look at my life and say, \u201cYou are doing something radically different.\u201d It was like, \u201cHey, you use your mornings; you do \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t30 minutes differently\u201d; about 5 years in, that\u2019s <em>hundreds<\/em> of hours; and it was like: \u201cYou\u2019ve built a different life.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to say that to <em>encourage<\/em> people: \u201cDon\u2019t look at the big picture and be overwhelmed. Look at the <em>daily<\/em> opportunity and do what you can,\u201d and \u201cSmall moments of intentionality can have a life-changing impact if they are done consistently.\u201d That was the goal, basically: \u201cThread the needle between large events,\u201d \u201cThread the needle: put content in there\u201d; you know? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You know, I\u2019m just sitting here, listening, going, \u201cThere is a dad listening right now who doesn\u2019t even realize God just spoke to him; because He is using Jon Tyson right now, a person, to tell his story. He just spoke to this dad, who said, \u2018I have been selling my life to a widget or to a dollar, and my son or my daughter is sitting right across the table. I\u2019m not at that table because I\u2019m at work.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m just telling you, dude, this was a moment God just spoke and said, \u201cYou have a chance right now.\u201d If you have a five-year-old, ten-year-old, twelve-year-old, thirteen-year-old, fifteen-year-old in your home\u2014I\u2019m an older dad, who says, \u201cThey are going to be gone when you blink. So make the move right now. Say, \u2018Okay, you know what? I\u2019m not going to miss the next five years. I\u2019m going to do what Jon\u2026\u2019\u201d\u2014pick up Jon\u2019s book and just follow the pathway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut man, you just modeled for so many\u2014I\u2019m just sitting here, thinking, \u201cMan, if I was a young dad again, I would do it differently; because of what you\u2019ve said.\u201d You did it that way\u2014again, you didn\u2019t do it perfectly\u2014but you modeled for us, and you\u2019ve written it all down in your book. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTalk about this\u2014as you walk through 13\u2014you\u2019ve got those 5 years. What made you think you needed a gap year with your son? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Well, it was getting back to what we talked about in the first episode: this concept of the crucible\u2014the testing\u2014the ordeal. I knew, as a youth pastor, how many kids went straight from youth group to college and spent the first three months doing everything within their power to experience all of the freedoms that were suppressed through moralism the previous six years. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I\u2019m not slamming those young kids. I\u2019m like, \u201cThere is flawed design experience here. What do you <em>think<\/em> is going to happen?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhy do the Mormons send their kids on a two-year thing? Do you want to know why?\u2014to form them into Mormons. There are other organizations that do this. Christian church doesn\u2019t seem to do it. I was like, \u201cOkay, I would have given anything\u2014anything\u2014to have a year to explore the world, to see other cultures, to feel God\u2019s heart.\u201d Plus, I said, \u201cLook, I want to irreparably break my son\u2019s heart for the global poor; and I don\u2019t want him to be an entitled American, which is what like happens if you grow up in America. I want him to like see if the stuff he has learned works in real life.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy son had a few character flaws\u2014like <em>nagging<\/em> character flaws I could <em>not<\/em> get out of him\u2014I just <em>couldn\u2019t<\/em> get out of him. The process of formation starts in your mind; then your attitude changes; then you do it; and then it becomes a culture. I could <em>never<\/em> get it past his mind and attitude\u2014like he always liked it\/agreed with it\u2014but never would do it. Well, you throw him into a group of people, [where] he is living in super proximate engagements with for a year; and two weeks in, he\u2019s like, \u201cDad, you\u2019re completely right. I\u2019m getting that stuff out of my life; I do <em>not<\/em> want to be that guy in the group.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy son\u2014the number one thing\u2014like Nate\u2014I don\u2019t think he would mind me sharing this\u2014he was a complainer; he was a whiner. When everything was going great, it was great; but when it wasn\u2019t going good, he just would whine. He left my house a whiner; and he came back from that trip, and he\u2019s like fundamentally a different person\u2014my son almost <em>never<\/em> complains; he just handles it\u2014I\u2019m like, \u201cWhat happened?\u201d He goes, \u201cI watched myself, like almost out of my body, be the whiner and was like, \u2018You are not going out like that!\u2019\u201d So now, he just like handles stuff. He\u2019s like, \u201cLet me just load that on my back and get it done. I don\u2019t want to be that guy that complains.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat was formed in the gap years. All of my efforts, all of my intentionality, could not do what two weeks of a trip with peers did. Do you know what I mean? It\u2019s amazing. So, yes, I wanted him to see what was in him. I wanted to test it. I wanted him to see God\u2019s kingdom outside of the US context. He went with an organization called the World Race, like YWAM sort of a thing; and he just came back transformed. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>One of the weaknesses that I think these organizations do is sometimes they don\u2019t have a reintegration. These kids are living in the book of Acts. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> They have peak teenage energy, around peers, and then they dump them back in America; and say\/and the kids often are like: \u201cWas that even real? Was that just group manipulation?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI said, \u201cI want to close this out by doing a process with my son\u2014like: \u201cI want to do this walk with him,\u201d\u2014which is the backend, called the Camino de Santiago\u2014\u201cLet\u2019s just hike for 33 days across Spain together.\u201d Pilgrims have been doing this for 1,000 years; it\u2019s like an embodiment of our journey together. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And your church let you do this? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I mean, yes, they did let me do this. I mean, I\u2019ve probably undertaken vacation over the years rather than abuse my vacation time; but they\u2019re excited. I mean, they\u2019ll\/like they\u2019ll\u2014like modeling this\u2014you want a pastor spending time with his kids like this. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> And there is nothing to do on this walk but talk; it\u2019s like six hours a day of walking. It\u2019s just like you talk about it all. I had questions prepared for every day to sort of recap what we\u2019d gone over during this journey together; I had some stuff about his trip: \u201cWhat did you learn?\u201d \u201cWhat did you learn about God?\u201d \u201cWhat did you learn about self?\u201d \u201cWhat did you learn about how life works?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAt the end of that trip, we went into this cove in Spain in a town called Finisterre, which is where the pilgrims traditionally hiked this journey; and they left something to show: \u201cThe journey is over.\u201d They used to burn out on the beach; but now they changed the rules, where you can\u2019t set stuff on fire; but it was like, \u201cYou\u2019re going to leave your childhood behind on this beach. You\u2019re going to walk into this water, and you are going to come out; and I will recognize you as a man.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe had this ceremony. I have all these letters written by friends who\u2019ve walked with him. I read this over him. I go through everything I can think of that I love about him, and then he runs into the ocean and like comes out. I just scream out: \u201cBehold a man emerges from the ocean!\u201d It was wild, and then that\u2019s basically how we sort of finished it out. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt started in New York, as a 13-year-old, and ended in Spain as a 19-year-old with 1,000 beautiful moments of pain and heartache, joy and struggle in between. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Let me just say, \u201cThat makes me cry.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Because I think, as we look at our culture\/we look at what is happening with our teens today\u2014our young men and women suffering with severe depression, anxiety, suicide\u2014to hear that\/to envision your son coming out of the water and you saying that to him; it\u2019s what we all long for as parents. We want our kids to feel like: \u201cGod has made you; He has prepared you; He has equipped you; and He has something <em>great<\/em> for you\u201d; because God is saying that to us: \u201cI\u2019ve made you on purpose for a purpose.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think most of us and a lot of our kids\u2014I would say a lot of us and <em>most<\/em> of our kids\u2014have no idea what that is. So they are trying to find their life and fulfillment through what the culture says will bring them joy and life. What you did is you equipped your son and said: \u201cThis is who you are,\u201d and \u201cThis is what God has placed in you, and I can\u2019t <em>wait<\/em> to see.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And in some ways, it\u2019s\u2014you said this is what every parent longs for\u2014it\u2019s what every son and daughter longs for. I mean, it reminded me of the baptism of Jesus when God spoke. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> That\u2019s what I modeled the whole thing off, man. I was like, \u201cI want the <em>loudest<\/em> voice in my son\u2019s life to be that voice of affirmation: \u2018My dad is <em>for<\/em> me.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I mean, that is <em>awesome<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere is one last question: \u201cAny regrets?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Any regrets? Aw, I\u2019ve got regrets. I think, if I could give you one regret\u2014I travel quite a bit\u2014I would still do this: we would get up; we would do it on FaceTime<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>; we\u2019d do it on Skype<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. I was very, very consistent; but I would trade a few of those trips to be back in the home and do it in person. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> It was like I was still intentional, still connected; but I was like I ached for a few more mornings in person. I was there the <em>majority<\/em> of the time; but still, some of those are like, \u201cI would do anything to get that time back.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, and I have a feeling there are men listening that are going to be sitting at a table with their son <em>and<\/em> daughter because of this program. You\u2019ve changed some dads. Thanks, Jon. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Yes, what an honor; thanks for having me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shelby:<\/strong> So many times, as parents, we can give so much of our effort and time to our jobs, to the other things that are clamoring for our attention; and our kids can suffer because we\u2019re not intentional with them. We go through\u2014day in and day out, weeks, days, months, even years\u2014just kind of surviving and not giving them our intentionality\/our best. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPastor Jon Tyson has been talking with Dave and Ann Wilson, reminding us about carving out intentional time with our kids. A little amount of time a day can compound <em>significantly<\/em> over the years. It makes all the difference when it comes to investing in our children\u2014making our kids a priority, not being passive\u2014being intentional with them, and watching God work through us to make their lives flourish as a result of our faithfulness to Him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPastor Jon Tyson has written a book called <em>The Intentional Father<\/em>. He lays out a clear path for fathers and sons that includes specific activities, rites of passage, and significant marking moments. If you log onto FamilyLifeToday.com and make a donation of any amount to this ministry, we would love to send you a copy of Jon\u2019s book, <em>The Intentional Father<\/em>, as our thank-you to you for investing in the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Again, you can log onto FamilyLifeToday.com and make a donation of any amount. We will send you, as a thank-you, a copy of Jon Tyson\u2019s <em>The Intentional Father<\/em>; or you can give us a call at 1-800-358-6329; that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>Now, we hope you have a good weekend. There are a significant amount of <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> conferences that are happening. Couples are getting together in places like Omaha, Nebraska; the Poconos in Pennsylvania; in Boise, Idaho. We\u2019d love it if you would pray for them and the marriages that can be healed and rekindled this coming weekend in our various <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> locations. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf this content today from Pastor Tyson, or any of the FamilyLife programs have been helpful for you, we\u2019d love for you to share today\u2019s podcast with a friend or a family member. 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I\u2019m Ann Wilson.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And I\u2019m Dave Wilson, and you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com or on our FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> app.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen our boys all turned 13, you took each of them out individually with a group of your guy friends; and you had your guy friends speak into their lives. What was that like? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Well, I mean each trip was me alone with my son, and then the guy part was usually a surprise. It was really funny\u2014I don\u2019t know if we shared this here before\u2014but our third son, Cody\u2014when I was getting ready to do the trip with Cody, he says\u2014do you [Ann] remember this?\u2014he goes, \u201cDad, whatever you did with CJ and Austin, they told me it really wasn\u2019t any good. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cIt was lame.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u201cCan you do something different?\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cWhat?! What are you talking about?! It was the most epic journey of their life!\u201d He said, \u201cNo, the trip was incredible; the actual <em>material<\/em> that you used was dated.\u201d I won\u2019t tell you what I was using at the time; but when I heard that, I\u2019m like, \u201cOh.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo you know what I did with my last one? 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These are things men need to talk about.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ll never forget. He looks over at me\u2014he looks down at the sheet\u2014he goes, \u201cWe\u2019re going to talk about women\u2019s body parts?\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cYes, we\u2019re going to talk about\u2026\u201d I mean, it was just anything and everything. It was an <em>incredible<\/em> trip, because we talked about stuff men need to talk about. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn some ways, Ann, when you asked me that, it\u2019s like, \u201cYes,\u201d because I <em>never<\/em> had that experience with my dad; so I wanted to try and create something that would be totally different with <em>my<\/em> sons. You\u2019d have to ask them what they thought of that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere we are today, talking about manhood stuff again, with Jon Tyson, who is\u2014you know, you\u2019re the manliest man I think I\u2019ve ever met, Jon\u2014[Laughter]\u2014you know, I\u2019m looking over at you, saying\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Nobody has EVER said that to me before! [Laughter] I\u2019m 44 years old\u2014that\u2019s a first\u2014and it\u2019s <em>not<\/em> true, so thank you. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cBoy, he\u2019s a very\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I don\u2019t even know what that <em>means<\/em>. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I looked over at you, and you started smiling; like, \u201cI don\u2019t think he has heard that.\u201d Here is what I meant by that. When you think \u201cmanly man,\u201d you think this <em>rugged<\/em>\u2014I don\u2019t know\u2014macho. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, back in the day, that was your picture. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, you sort of thought of The Rock [Dwayne D. Johnson]; you know? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Yes, I mean, I think he still is a manly man\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> He is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> \u2014the gold standard, perhaps. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> But when I think, \u201cmanly man,\u201d I think a man can encapsulate what God instilled a man to be. I mean that, Jon\u2014I look at you, as we had lunch, and even as we\u2019ve done these shows together\u2014it\u2019s like, \u201cYou capture what I believe God said a man of God should be.\u201d With that, I say, \u201cWelcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Oh, that\u2019s so kind; I really appreciate that. How do I get back on the show? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tChristy, darling, did you hear that? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; make sure she listens to that. Of course, you are talking about your wife Christy and your son Nate and your daughter\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Haley. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014Haley\u201421 and 18. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I\u2019ve got to ask you: \u201cWhat\u2019s it like being an empty-nester?\u201d I mean, it\u2019s <em>new<\/em> to you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Am I allowed to say \u201cincredible\u201d?\u2014I don\u2019t know if that\u2019s disrespectful\u2014it\u2019s incredible. I think, when my son left\u2014he left to do a gap year\u2014we got up early, and he got an Uber. We live in the middle of Manhattan; none of us are driving to the airport: \u201cWhat are you talking about?\u201d [Laughter] The Uber shows and off he goes. Everything in my heart was like, \u201cGo into the world, young man. Get after it. The safety net under your life is <em>huge<\/em>. Just go!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then I\u2019m hugging my daughter about a month ago; and she literally says to me, \u201cWe need more time; we need more time. I need more wisdom from you. There hasn\u2019t been enough.\u201d Then I hug her, and she walks off. I was like, \u201cI\u2019m still not over that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I\u2019m still carrying that in my heart\u2014my little baby girl\u2014she\u2019s <em>amazing<\/em>. She\u2019s studying nursing. She\u2019s a giver\u2014she [cares]; she\u2019s such a tender heart\u2014been raised in the middle of the craziness of New York and is like pure in heart. I mean\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> But it\u2019s cool, Jon\u2014even as you say that, though\u2014I think every listener has just leaned in to think, \u201cI want to listen to a guy whose daughter would say that about him and whose son\u201d\u2014like what you just said about your son: \u201cGo into the world,\u201d because you feel confident; because you feel like you\u2019ve probably equipped him with the best that you could do. And that\u2019s what you mean, Dave, about being a man of God. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, I mean, I called it being a manly man; but that is what I <em>mean<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> If by manly man you mean like a chubby, out-of-shape rugby player\u2014sort of a manly man\u2014it\u2019s like: \u201cThank you!\u201d [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You\u2019ve got it! [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s interesting the way you started\u2014because it\u2019s in your book, <em>The Intentional Father: A Practical Guide to Raise Sons of Courage and Character<\/em>\u2014but obviously, you haven\u2019t just done sons; you\u2019ve got a daughter as well. You\u2019ve done, obviously, rites of passage ceremonies; walk us through this, because you started this at age 13. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> What\u2019s the passage sort of look like? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I mean, to be clear, I had the whole thing in my mind, I think. You know, one of my favorite authors\u2014I realized when I was reading him\u2014I was like, \u201cOh, he does this literary technique called bookending.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I didn\u2019t know you read my stuff. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Yes, thank you. It\u2019s really, really helpful. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOpen with half a story, and then leave you in suspense the whole time; and then close with that story. It\u2019s like: \u201cI\u2019m going to bookend this trip with my son. It\u2019s going to start with him running into the ocean, off the coast of New York; it\u2019s going to end with him running into the ocean off the coast of Spain at the end of this 500-mile walk called the Camino de Santiago. I was like, \u201cEverything is going to happen between those two baptisms. The first baptism is the baptism into the journey, and the second one is the baptism into manhood.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, alright. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> It started with\/I had formed a little cohort of friends with sons, who were my son\u2019s age. We basically\u2014I mapped this out\u2014I presented this sort of overview of our time together in a PDF vision document. I said, \u201cI think I\u2019ve got something for us to take our sons through for the next few years.\u201d I sort of tried to cast some vision for them. I\u2019m like, \u201cHow many of you are in?\u201d They\u2019re like, \u201cWe\u2019re all in!\u201d I had this little tribe\u2014like group of dads\/group of sons\u2014I <em>hyped<\/em> this up for my son. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m still meeting with him every week\u2014just doing hang-out time\u2014that sort of thing. I was like\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Talk about that just for a second. Like what do you mean you are hanging out with him? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> So, it\u2019s like, basically\u2014I got this idea from Covey. People talk about the book, <em>The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People<\/em>. He wrote a book called <em>The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families<\/em>, which is, to this day, one of the best books on families I have ever read. His chapter was: \u201cYou give your kids time, and they set the agenda\u201d; so I would say to my kids, \u201cWe will do anything you want in this time we are having together, but I am so committed to you and having a great relationship with you. We\u2019ve got to prioritize this time. It\u2019s whatever you want to do. You want to go skateboarding; we\u2019ll skateboard. <em>You<\/em> set the agenda: \u2018If I could do anything with my dad, I would do this.\u2019 I\u2019ll show up; I\u2019ll fund it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen I started to tell him: \u201cHey, man, when you hit 13, it\u2019s about to get <em>real<\/em>. You\u2019re going to enter into this journey into manhood. And men in every generation have done this\u2014it\u2019s been lost\u2014but we have recovered it. It\u2019s going to be very <em>hard<\/em> for you. I mean, I think you\u2019ve got what it takes; but we\u2019re going to test that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe would be like, \u201cWhat are you talking about? What are you talking about?\u201d Then we took them down to the beach; we actually went to Coney Island, which is still a pretty amazing place in New York City. We took them out there, and then we took them down to the beach. We had this ceremony, gave them this speech, talked about this formational process, how it was done in other cultures. Then had them strip down to their swim trunks and run into the ocean: \u201cThis is a baptism of your birth into manhood.\u201d Then we spent the rest of the night like talking with them about it and hanging out at Coney Island. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>I wanted it to have a content component, like: \u201cHere is a vision speech.\u201d I wanted it to feel solemn\u2014in some sense, healthy intimidation\u2014like a little bit of the fear of God. Then I wanted it to be something really enjoyable that they would remember: \u201cDo you remember that night, late summer, right at dusk, where they took us out?\u201d I wanted them to have sort of like a rich, aesthetic experience, you know, connected to it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> At 21, does he recall that in that way? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Yes; if he doesn\u2019t recall it, he has a video of it; I\u2019ve got photos of all of it. He <em>does<\/em> remember that. He will say things like\u2014you know, his recollection now is funny\u2014he\u2019ll be like, \u201cOh, that was really interesting. I didn\u2019t quite comprehend how serious you were about all of that. It seemed pretty vague, but I was grateful for it. That was a great night,\u201d\u2014lots of those sorts of things. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And then, what happened after? Because I think a lot of men\u2014at least, in my generation\u2014from Robert Lewis and other authors, gave us some pictures and visions of what ceremonies could look like. I\u2019m not sure I\u2019m exactly right, but a lot of us did the ceremony and then that was it. It was like after the ceremony, it was like there was a period of time or years until the next ceremony; but it wasn\u2019t always something in between. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think that\u2019s because a lot of dads just didn\u2019t know <em>what<\/em> to do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right; so what did you do in between? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I basically\u2014two things\u2014one getting back to the big-picture idea. I basically spent a lot of time thinking; and I basically said this: \u201cWhen my son leaves our house\u201d\u2014which he is going to do in five or six years\u2014\u201cWho do I want him to be? How do I develop his character? What do I want him to <em>know<\/em>? How do I make him a wise man?\u201d\u2014and then\u2014\u201cWhat do I want him to be able to <em>do<\/em>? What real world <em>skills<\/em> do I want this kid to have?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen I basically reversed engineered to when he was 13; and basically, built out a calendar. The calendar was like: \u201cOkay, this month, we\u2019re going to talk about this,\u201d \u201cThis month, we\u2019re going to talk about this,\u201d \u201cI think this might take two months\u201d; then I\u2019ll do that for two months. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI basically did a big-picture brainstorming and then reverse engineering; and then filled in daily events, weekly events. I had a little daily connection, which we just called The Primal Path. I told dads, \u201cIt can be as simple as this\u2014it can be\u2014\u2018Here is a section of Scripture\u2026\u2019 \u2018Here is a quote from a godly guy, and here is one question I want you to think about today.\u2019\u201d You can do that in ten minutes in the morning; but the <em>compound<\/em> effect of ten minutes a day for five years can be <em>radically<\/em> transformative. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Jon, what is so impressive to me about this is you are a pastor of a large church. You\u2019ve got a lot going on. People are pulling you in every direction. I think a lot of dads feel like that, like, \u201cMan, my life is so busy. I\u2019m building my career.\u201d Yet, you carved out that time because it was a priority to you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I loved my son, like, \u201cI love this kid.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I was like, \u201cIf I don\u2019t do this for him, who is going to do this for him? He\u2019s just going to do this on Google.\u201d I saw a day of my son, at 25, just saying, \u201cDad, why <em>didn\u2019t<\/em> you? What was so important in the church that you couldn\u2019t?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tA lot of this was based on a <em>very<\/em> painful conversation I have had, about a decade earlier, with my best mate. He had said to me\u2014like he grew up in a home, where his dad had a small business\u2014and his dad, every night, was <em>never<\/em> around; because he was always at the small business. He said, \u201cIt wasn\u2019t until I was older, and went into business and understood how business works, that I realized that, what my dad did every night, he could have paid an accountant to do it for $10 in 5 minutes; but I lost my childhood, because he didn\u2019t do that.\u201d Then he listed out the specific things his dad\/he said, \u201cMy dad traded those little widgets for my teenage years.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just remember thinking, \u201cI\u2019m <em>not<\/em> going to do that to my kid. I will not let the crisis of my people rob this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to form my son.\u201d I went into it with that conversation ringing in my ears. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYes, it was a lot of work. I want to say this: \u201cListen, if you want to break generational cycles, it\u2019s going to be intense; but do you know what is more intense?\u2014not breaking them and spending the next 40 years frustrated at the same stuff.\u201d\u00a0 So like you pick your pain point\u2014pick your price pain point\u2014and I was like, \u201cI\u2019m never going to get this chance again; I\u2019ve got to prioritize this.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>I\u2019ll say two things: number one, what I did in a typical day looked very, very small compared to what a lot of other dads did. You wouldn\u2019t look at my life and say, \u201cYou are doing something radically different.\u201d It was like, \u201cHey, you use your mornings; you do \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t30 minutes differently\u201d; about 5 years in, that\u2019s <em>hundreds<\/em> of hours; and it was like: \u201cYou\u2019ve built a different life.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to say that to <em>encourage<\/em> people: \u201cDon\u2019t look at the big picture and be overwhelmed. Look at the <em>daily<\/em> opportunity and do what you can,\u201d and \u201cSmall moments of intentionality can have a life-changing impact if they are done consistently.\u201d That was the goal, basically: \u201cThread the needle between large events,\u201d \u201cThread the needle: put content in there\u201d; you know? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You know, I\u2019m just sitting here, listening, going, \u201cThere is a dad listening right now who doesn\u2019t even realize God just spoke to him; because He is using Jon Tyson right now, a person, to tell his story. He just spoke to this dad, who said, \u2018I have been selling my life to a widget or to a dollar, and my son or my daughter is sitting right across the table. I\u2019m not at that table because I\u2019m at work.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m just telling you, dude, this was a moment God just spoke and said, \u201cYou have a chance right now.\u201d If you have a five-year-old, ten-year-old, twelve-year-old, thirteen-year-old, fifteen-year-old in your home\u2014I\u2019m an older dad, who says, \u201cThey are going to be gone when you blink. So make the move right now. Say, \u2018Okay, you know what? I\u2019m not going to miss the next five years. I\u2019m going to do what Jon\u2026\u2019\u201d\u2014pick up Jon\u2019s book and just follow the pathway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut man, you just modeled for so many\u2014I\u2019m just sitting here, thinking, \u201cMan, if I was a young dad again, I would do it differently; because of what you\u2019ve said.\u201d You did it that way\u2014again, you didn\u2019t do it perfectly\u2014but you modeled for us, and you\u2019ve written it all down in your book. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTalk about this\u2014as you walk through 13\u2014you\u2019ve got those 5 years. What made you think you needed a gap year with your son? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Well, it was getting back to what we talked about in the first episode: this concept of the crucible\u2014the testing\u2014the ordeal. I knew, as a youth pastor, how many kids went straight from youth group to college and spent the first three months doing everything within their power to experience all of the freedoms that were suppressed through moralism the previous six years. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I\u2019m not slamming those young kids. I\u2019m like, \u201cThere is flawed design experience here. What do you <em>think<\/em> is going to happen?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhy do the Mormons send their kids on a two-year thing? Do you want to know why?\u2014to form them into Mormons. There are other organizations that do this. Christian church doesn\u2019t seem to do it. I was like, \u201cOkay, I would have given anything\u2014anything\u2014to have a year to explore the world, to see other cultures, to feel God\u2019s heart.\u201d Plus, I said, \u201cLook, I want to irreparably break my son\u2019s heart for the global poor; and I don\u2019t want him to be an entitled American, which is what like happens if you grow up in America. I want him to like see if the stuff he has learned works in real life.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy son had a few character flaws\u2014like <em>nagging<\/em> character flaws I could <em>not<\/em> get out of him\u2014I just <em>couldn\u2019t<\/em> get out of him. The process of formation starts in your mind; then your attitude changes; then you do it; and then it becomes a culture. I could <em>never<\/em> get it past his mind and attitude\u2014like he always liked it\/agreed with it\u2014but never would do it. Well, you throw him into a group of people, [where] he is living in super proximate engagements with for a year; and two weeks in, he\u2019s like, \u201cDad, you\u2019re completely right. I\u2019m getting that stuff out of my life; I do <em>not<\/em> want to be that guy in the group.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy son\u2014the number one thing\u2014like Nate\u2014I don\u2019t think he would mind me sharing this\u2014he was a complainer; he was a whiner. When everything was going great, it was great; but when it wasn\u2019t going good, he just would whine. He left my house a whiner; and he came back from that trip, and he\u2019s like fundamentally a different person\u2014my son almost <em>never<\/em> complains; he just handles it\u2014I\u2019m like, \u201cWhat happened?\u201d He goes, \u201cI watched myself, like almost out of my body, be the whiner and was like, \u2018You are not going out like that!\u2019\u201d So now, he just like handles stuff. He\u2019s like, \u201cLet me just load that on my back and get it done. I don\u2019t want to be that guy that complains.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat was formed in the gap years. All of my efforts, all of my intentionality, could not do what two weeks of a trip with peers did. Do you know what I mean? It\u2019s amazing. So, yes, I wanted him to see what was in him. I wanted to test it. I wanted him to see God\u2019s kingdom outside of the US context. He went with an organization called the World Race, like YWAM sort of a thing; and he just came back transformed. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>One of the weaknesses that I think these organizations do is sometimes they don\u2019t have a reintegration. These kids are living in the book of Acts. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> They have peak teenage energy, around peers, and then they dump them back in America; and say\/and the kids often are like: \u201cWas that even real? Was that just group manipulation?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI said, \u201cI want to close this out by doing a process with my son\u2014like: \u201cI want to do this walk with him,\u201d\u2014which is the backend, called the Camino de Santiago\u2014\u201cLet\u2019s just hike for 33 days across Spain together.\u201d Pilgrims have been doing this for 1,000 years; it\u2019s like an embodiment of our journey together. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And your church let you do this? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> I mean, yes, they did let me do this. I mean, I\u2019ve probably undertaken vacation over the years rather than abuse my vacation time; but they\u2019re excited. I mean, they\u2019ll\/like they\u2019ll\u2014like modeling this\u2014you want a pastor spending time with his kids like this. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> And there is nothing to do on this walk but talk; it\u2019s like six hours a day of walking. It\u2019s just like you talk about it all. I had questions prepared for every day to sort of recap what we\u2019d gone over during this journey together; I had some stuff about his trip: \u201cWhat did you learn?\u201d \u201cWhat did you learn about God?\u201d \u201cWhat did you learn about self?\u201d \u201cWhat did you learn about how life works?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAt the end of that trip, we went into this cove in Spain in a town called Finisterre, which is where the pilgrims traditionally hiked this journey; and they left something to show: \u201cThe journey is over.\u201d They used to burn out on the beach; but now they changed the rules, where you can\u2019t set stuff on fire; but it was like, \u201cYou\u2019re going to leave your childhood behind on this beach. You\u2019re going to walk into this water, and you are going to come out; and I will recognize you as a man.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe had this ceremony. I have all these letters written by friends who\u2019ve walked with him. I read this over him. I go through everything I can think of that I love about him, and then he runs into the ocean and like comes out. I just scream out: \u201cBehold a man emerges from the ocean!\u201d It was wild, and then that\u2019s basically how we sort of finished it out. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt started in New York, as a 13-year-old, and ended in Spain as a 19-year-old with 1,000 beautiful moments of pain and heartache, joy and struggle in between. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Let me just say, \u201cThat makes me cry.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Because I think, as we look at our culture\/we look at what is happening with our teens today\u2014our young men and women suffering with severe depression, anxiety, suicide\u2014to hear that\/to envision your son coming out of the water and you saying that to him; it\u2019s what we all long for as parents. We want our kids to feel like: \u201cGod has made you; He has prepared you; He has equipped you; and He has something <em>great<\/em> for you\u201d; because God is saying that to us: \u201cI\u2019ve made you on purpose for a purpose.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think most of us and a lot of our kids\u2014I would say a lot of us and <em>most<\/em> of our kids\u2014have no idea what that is. So they are trying to find their life and fulfillment through what the culture says will bring them joy and life. What you did is you equipped your son and said: \u201cThis is who you are,\u201d and \u201cThis is what God has placed in you, and I can\u2019t <em>wait<\/em> to see.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And in some ways, it\u2019s\u2014you said this is what every parent longs for\u2014it\u2019s what every son and daughter longs for. I mean, it reminded me of the baptism of Jesus when God spoke. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> That\u2019s what I modeled the whole thing off, man. I was like, \u201cI want the <em>loudest<\/em> voice in my son\u2019s life to be that voice of affirmation: \u2018My dad is <em>for<\/em> me.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I mean, that is <em>awesome<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere is one last question: \u201cAny regrets?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Any regrets? Aw, I\u2019ve got regrets. I think, if I could give you one regret\u2014I travel quite a bit\u2014I would still do this: we would get up; we would do it on FaceTime<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>; we\u2019d do it on Skype<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. I was very, very consistent; but I would trade a few of those trips to be back in the home and do it in person. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> It was like I was still intentional, still connected; but I was like I ached for a few more mornings in person. I was there the <em>majority<\/em> of the time; but still, some of those are like, \u201cI would do anything to get that time back.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, and I have a feeling there are men listening that are going to be sitting at a table with their son <em>and<\/em> daughter because of this program. You\u2019ve changed some dads. Thanks, Jon. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon:<\/strong> Yes, what an honor; thanks for having me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shelby:<\/strong> So many times, as parents, we can give so much of our effort and time to our jobs, to the other things that are clamoring for our attention; and our kids can suffer because we\u2019re not intentional with them. We go through\u2014day in and day out, weeks, days, months, even years\u2014just kind of surviving and not giving them our intentionality\/our best. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPastor Jon Tyson has been talking with Dave and Ann Wilson, reminding us about carving out intentional time with our kids. A little amount of time a day can compound <em>significantly<\/em> over the years. It makes all the difference when it comes to investing in our children\u2014making our kids a priority, not being passive\u2014being intentional with them, and watching God work through us to make their lives flourish as a result of our faithfulness to Him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPastor Jon Tyson has written a book called <em>The Intentional Father<\/em>. He lays out a clear path for fathers and sons that includes specific activities, rites of passage, and significant marking moments. If you log onto FamilyLifeToday.com and make a donation of any amount to this ministry, we would love to send you a copy of Jon\u2019s book, <em>The Intentional Father<\/em>, as our thank-you to you for investing in the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Again, you can log onto FamilyLifeToday.com and make a donation of any amount. We will send you, as a thank-you, a copy of Jon Tyson\u2019s <em>The Intentional Father<\/em>; or you can give us a call at 1-800-358-6329; that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>Now, we hope you have a good weekend. There are a significant amount of <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> conferences that are happening. Couples are getting together in places like Omaha, Nebraska; the Poconos in Pennsylvania; in Boise, Idaho. We\u2019d love it if you would pray for them and the marriages that can be healed and rekindled this coming weekend in our various <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> locations. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf this content today from Pastor Tyson, or any of the FamilyLife programs have been helpful for you, we\u2019d love for you to share today\u2019s podcast with a friend or a family member. 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