{"id":307413,"date":"2022-02-19T08:05:35","date_gmt":"2022-02-19T13:05:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/the-benefits-of-resolving-conflict-2\/"},"modified":"2025-01-15T13:13:12","modified_gmt":"2025-01-15T18:13:12","slug":"the-benefits-of-resolving-conflict-2","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-this-week\/the-benefits-of-resolving-conflict-2\/","title":{"rendered":"The Benefits of Resolving Conflict"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">All healthy relationships experience conflict. Marriages and friendships all have to navigate personal differences. Ann Wilson explains how to know whether to overlook a conflict or to address it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>All healthy relationships experience conflict. Marriages and friendships all have to navigate personal differences.  Ann Wilson explains how to know whether to overlook a conflict or to address it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294950,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"audio","audio_file":"https:\/\/d2c17sq0nj1f7e.cloudfront.net\/flw2022-02-19.mp3","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:28:00","filesize":"25.64M","filesize_raw":"26882615","date_recorded":"2022-02-19 08:05:35","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2850,2806],"tags":[7038],"podcast_series":[],"cwp_profile":[3554],"series":[10388],"class_list":["post-307413","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-character-development","category-spiritual-development","tag-joyful-parent","cwp_profile-ann-wilson","series-familylife-this-week"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/10\/FLTW-Podcast-Cover-2-1400x1400-1-300x300-1.jpg?w=300","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/10\/FLTW-Podcast-Cover-2-1400x1400-1-300x300-1.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/dts.podtrac.com\/redirect.mp3\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/307413\/the-benefits-of-resolving-conflict-2","player_link":"https:\/\/dts.podtrac.com\/redirect.mp3\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/307413\/the-benefits-of-resolving-conflict-2","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-this-week","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"f7ukwi4MSd\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-this-week\/the-benefits-of-resolving-conflict-2\/\">The Benefits of Resolving Conflict<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-this-week\/the-benefits-of-resolving-conflict-2\/embed\/#?secret=f7ukwi4MSd\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;The Benefits of Resolving Conflict&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"f7ukwi4MSd\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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I'm Michelle Hill. There's a song that has been playing around in my mind, and I started doing some research on it. I found who all has sung this song: Louis Armstrong, Ella Fitzgerald, Bing Crosby, Billie Holiday, Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers, and many, many more.<\/p>\n<p>Before I share what the song is about, I want to introduce our guest today. Ann Wilson is sitting across the table from me. Welcome, Ann; I'm <em>so excited<\/em> to have you here.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Thanks, Michelle. Now, I'm like sitting on the edge of my seat, like, \u201cWhat is the song?\u201d [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I just want to quickly introduce you to our listeners\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Okay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u2014in case they don't know who you are. You and your husband Dave are speakers at our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. You've been a part of <em>The Art of Parenting<\/em> and the <em>Art of Marriage<\/em>. Now, I've just heard the slight rumor that you are taking over the airwaves a little bit, here, at FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, gosh! Doesn't that sound intimidating? [Laughter] I don't know if we're taking over <em>anything<\/em>; but we're going to be a <em>part<\/em> of that, yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Ann and Dave Wilson are hosts, along with Bob Lepine, of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. We are excited to be rolling that out. In fact, if you were listening to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> this week, you heard Ann and Dave talk about their story and, also, Dennis Rainey handing over the reins to you guys.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I know, and it's a big deal for Dave and I. We\u2019re very humbled by it. Who can replace Dennis Rainey?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> No one! Dennis and Barbara are heroes of ours. They've mentored us; we've looked up to them. Honestly, for us, it was the first marriage that we looked at and we thought, \u201cWe want a marriage like that.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Because it's centered on Jesus.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> And we'd never seen that before, growing up; because we didn't grow up in homes that were really Christ-following homes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I want to make mention that Dave is one of the co-founders and pastors at Kensington Church in Detroit. It's just a tiny, little church; right?\u2014of like fourteen thousand people or such. [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014which is <em>crazy<\/em>, because we started out with forty of us;\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Oh, wow!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014and most of those were our children. [Laughter] So this is a God-thing that has grown that church\u2014it\u2019s not us\u2014believe me.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> That's really cool.<\/p>\n<p>Okay, so I\u2019ve got to get back to the song that Louis Armstrong, and Ella Fitzgerald, and Bing Crosby, and Rosemary Clooney, and Billie Holiday, and all of these greats\u2014Fred Astaire\u2014that they helped to bring to the forefront and make popular. It's a song that talks about disagreements. It's\/do you remember one of those songs?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Come on, give me like a hint. What\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> How about: \u201cI say potato; you say potato [emphasis on syllables change].\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, <em>yes<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u201cI say tomato; you say tomato [emphasis on syllables change].\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014\u201ctomato,\u201d <em>yes<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u201cLet's call the whole thing off!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And it seems to me that we are in a day and time, where it is easy to just call the whole thing off over just such a\u2014what we would say\u2014a petty argument or petty differences. That's what I really want to talk to you today about is conflict, because I\u2019ve heard that\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014because I'm good at it?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u2014you know how to do conflict! [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I have conflict; I don't know if I'm good at doing it. We do have quite a bit of conflict in our lives as people.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right; we do. I know that you and Dave talk a lot with young couples\u2014and also older couples\u2014and really coach them through conflict. Conflict resolution skills are such an important skill, not only in marriage, but in life in general.<\/p>\n<p>Today, I really wanted to sort of talk about singles and conflict, because\u2014as I was listening to the <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> programs that you and Dave were on this week\u2014I kept thinking, \u201cSingles need these skills too.\u201d So, as we just jump into this, can you explain conflict to us? What is conflict?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think it\u2014I don't know if it's easy to explain\u2014but we've all <em>lived<\/em> it. It's when you have that\/that passion: \u201cThis is what you believe,\u201d \u201cThis is what you think.\u201d And when somebody doesn't agree with you, how do you deal with that?\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014you know\u2014and if they want to go in a totally different direction. Every single person has faced that from the time they're tiny.<\/p>\n<p>But for us, I think this has been so important; because we were <em>so<\/em> bad at it. I'm one of those people that's like, \u201cLet's deal with this!\u201d And others are like, \u201cI really don't want to deal with it,\u201d\u2014I was married to <em>that<\/em> person. And I see that in kids; I see that in some of my friends that are single\/married\u2014it doesn't even matter what phase of life you're in\u2014we <em>all<\/em> face conflict.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Well, what I see is\u2014I am the adult I am today from the home that raised me.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, yes!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> And in our household, I had a father who was not afraid of conflict. He\u2019s an attorney, so he's <em>not<\/em> afraid of conflict at all [Laughter]; but my mom was a little bit afraid of conflict. I noticed what that did and how that built me, and I don't like conflict!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, I was going to ask: \u201cWho are <em>you<\/em>?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I would rather <em>run<\/em> from it. I avoid it\u2014and I keep going\u2014\u201cI'll just pray about it,\u201d \u201cI'll just pray about it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> What does that mean?\u2014like you'll just pray about it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> God is going to work in my heart and in that other person's heart, and we can just not ever have to talk about it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, wouldn't that be awesome? [Laughter] Wouldn\u2019t that be nice?<\/p>\n<p>For me, I'm a <em>winner<\/em>. I was raised in a home where we would just talk about it; we would <em>fight<\/em> about it. We would verbally put it all on the table\u2014and there was a security in that we loved each other, and it was okay to voice what you felt\u2014you would be loved no matter what. So I thought, \u201cThis is the perfect way to do it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><em>But<\/em> the bad part of a winner is you will bring in all of your evidence, and you will <em>prove<\/em> that you were right\u2014probably your dad could have done this\u2014I don't think ours was as sophisticated as what a lawyer would do, because we could be mean.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> And the bad thing that a winner can do is they can be verbally cruel\u2014not always; I wasn't that\u2014but a winner will do anything they need to win the battle\/to win the argument. They will say anything and bring in evidence to prove they're right; that's a winner's mentality.<\/p>\n<p>I had that with Dave\u2014I don't think I was cruel\u2014but I was like, \u201cLet's talk about this!\u201d And my tone would get big, and I would get <em>fierce<\/em>. I think that scared my husband to death because he grew up in a home, where there was alcohol; there was abuse. When voices would start escalating, then abuse would come into the picture. So Dave saw any kind of conflict as bad, and he would run out of the room and hide with his sister.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> So what would he be? You're a \u201cwinner\u201d; so what's he called?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes, Dave would be a withdrawer.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Okay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> So he withdraws from the situation. Someone that withdraws can withdraw physically, but they can also withdraw <em>emotionally<\/em> and just shut down. We would be in this argument; and I'm like, \u201cOkay; alright! Here we go!\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> And he would just\u2014boom\u2014shut down, which made me even more mad\u2014so I am like getting up with him, walking out of the room with him. [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I think I've heard you guys talk about this! [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, my gosh, Michelle! I would say things to him like, \u201cCome back and fight like a man, you chicken!\u201d\u2014[Laughter]\u2014and now, he's <em>running<\/em>. [Laughter] That was <em>not<\/em> a good way to approach that. So that's one: you've got the winner; you've got the withdrawer.<\/p>\n<p>Then you have one that's called the yielder. That person will just <em>yield<\/em> for the sake of the relationship, meaning they may not agree with what's happening, but they'll yield; because they'll think, \u201cIt's not that big of a deal. I may not agree with them, but I'm just going to yield for the sake of the relationship.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And the last one is the resolver. They'll just do what it takes to sit down and resolve the conflict, no matter what. I wish I could say that that would be the way we would <em>always<\/em> approach it, but it's not. And I think, sometimes, we have to bring a third party in when we can't resolve things.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Now, the resolver: is that the type of style that we all <em>need<\/em> to be?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes, I think. I don't know if it's a style as much as a resolution, of like, \u201cThis is who we're going to become: we're going to become people of peace, who will pursue resolution no matter what.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Now, can that happen in every single relationship? I'm not sure that it can, because you have to have two people that are willing to go there.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p>We need take a break; but I want to continue <em>this<\/em> conversation, and I want to talk some practicalities. We'll be back in two minutes.<\/p>\n<p>[Radio Station Spot Break]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Welcome back to <em>FamilyLife This Week<\/em>. I'm Michelle Hill, and I'm in the studio with Ann Wilson. Thank you so much, again, for joining me and helping to clarify some things on conflict; because I always have conflict with Keith Lynch.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Ohh!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I always have conflict with my boss and co-worker.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Is he a really hard person to deal with?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> [Whispering] He really is. [Laughter] So you're helping <em>me<\/em> understand how to work with my co-worker.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I like it!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> So I thank you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> You\u2019re welcome.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Before the break, we talked about the different styles of conflict\u2014of those who are winners\u2014you are a winner; your husband Dave is a withdrawer.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I'm a yielder. I want to win!\u2014like bring out a board game, and I am as competitive as you get\u2014[Laughter]\u2014but when I have to really sit down and talk about relationships, that's when I'm going to yield to make peace.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I'm going to stuff it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, I think that's the difference. A yielder is a good thing\u2014unless you stuff it\u2014and it just kind of\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Oh!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Here's when you know you stuff it\u2014later, it will boil over\u2014but if I can yield and let it go, that's a <em>good<\/em> resolution to the conflict.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> However, if I yield\u2014but it continues to come back up over and over\u2014I need to talk about it. That's when it gets hard; right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Is it ever too long\/have I ever waited too long before I need to bring it back up?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think, if it comes back up and it has continued, I think you go back to that person and say, \u201cYou know, I thought I could let this go, but it continues to come back up,\u201d and resolve it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes. That brings us to the last type\u2014and that's the resolver\u2014and that's where we all want to be; don\u2019t we?\u2014right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Ah, but that takes <em>work<\/em> to get there!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> It does take work, but it's <em>so<\/em> worth it; I think that's the thing. Every time I have a conflict with a friend\u2014every time\u2014maybe it's with my kids, or with Dave, or a co-worker\u2014my attitude is this: \u201cIf we can get through this, we're going to be better; we're going to be <em>deeper<\/em>; we're going to be closer than we ever have been\u201d; because isn't that true about a relationship?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> That\u2019s true.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> If you go through something together, and you get on the other side of it, you feel like: \u201cWell, I know you better; I know what makes you tick,\u201d and \u201cI know that you've forgiven me\u201d\u2014or maybe [you\u2019ve] hurt [me], and I've forgiven you\u2014but man, we're closer now.\u201d I think that's always my perspective in looking at the future; because it's kind of like, \u201cAm I ready to go <em>through<\/em> this?!\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right; and well, then comes the trust.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> And almost\u2014there's this extra layer of bonding that happens\u2014where you're bonded to that person.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; right. I think we guard our hearts; you know? Especially, if you\u2019ve been hurt in the past, we tend to guard our hearts and not want to go there with a person; because we're <em>afraid<\/em> of how they'll handle our hearts.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> That's true in every relationship when we've been hurt. This is going to sound so crazy, but I remember teaching this Bible study with the Detroit Lions\u2019 wives. You know, in a lot of relationships, there's trust broken. There are hearts that have been hardened. There are a lot of hurts in all kinds of relationships. There are girlfriends and wives [of football players] in the room.<\/p>\n<p>I actually brought out a heart; I got one\u2014this is so gross!\u2014I got one from the store.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u2014like a real one?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Not a real person's heart, but it was like a chicken heart\/a turkey heart. Have you ever seen those?\u2014you know, when\u2014this is so <em>weird<\/em>. [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I put it on the table; and I said, \u201cWhen your heart has been hurt, what do you want to do?\u201d Then I took this little cagey thing, and I put it around. I said, \u201cYou want to cage your heart. You want to protect it; you want to guard it from being wounded again.\u201d And I said, \u201cI think we all\u2014that's just a natural tendency that we do to protect ourselves\u2014it\u2019s called self-protection. The <em>sad<\/em> thing is that people no longer get your heart.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I said, \u201cWouldn't it be cool if we could put that heart in Jesus\u2019 hand, and we ask Him to protect it? We say, \u2018Jesus, I give You my heart first; and I'm going to be safe with my heart in Your hands, but I'm going to always keep it there. Then I'm going to give it to people, knowing that I'm going to give it; but it's always in Your hand <em>first<\/em>, because You're the protector of my soul. You're the One who loves me. You're the One that sees me. You're the One that's cheering for me: \u201cGo there; go there in this relationship.\u201d\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u2014which is just a <em>great<\/em> reminder\u2014because, for <em>me<\/em>, when I enter conflict, I am scared to<em> death <\/em>of either being hurt again or of losing parts of that relationship that I'm in conflict with. If I walk in, going, \u201cBut Jesus, <em>You're<\/em> holding me; You are holding my heart. I need to trust in You for parts of that conversation or for <em>all<\/em> of that conversation.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think a great step would be for people to think, \u201cWhy am I so scared? What happened in the past?\u201d Because I honestly think we all carry baggage from our past into the present, especially in conflict. \u201cWhat has happened in the past that's making you so fearful of the present-day situation?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Then the next question is: \u201cHave I dealt with that past hurt and pain?\u201d You know, \u201cHave I offered Jesus my heart? Have I forgiven that person? Have I walked through that, and am I <em>free<\/em> from it?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I think, so often, we're carrying this ball and chain of hurt from the past. Jesus says, \u201cI want to set the captive free!\u201d He's talking about our soul and our spirit; but I think, emotionally, He wants to set us free so that we're the people that He created to be; free in relationships too.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes, so that we are <em>truly<\/em> living.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes! Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> So we are <em>whole<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes, and we're not <em>fearful<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Now, I'm going to say, of course, we need to put boundaries in our lives for people that aren't healthy or people that continually hurt us. We're going to keep them a little more at a distance, but we're going to still love them. We're just going to make sure that there are parts of us\/that they're not going to get all of us.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right. Okay, I want to get a little bit practical now. Help us understand how we enter some of those conversations. Like my cube-mate loves tomato soup, and boils the tomato soup in the microwave every day at noon; and it's driving me insane!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Are you saying that it splatters all over the microwave?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> No, the smell! [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, so you're wondering, \u201cDo I let that go?\u201d or \u201cDo I talk about it?\u201d \u201cDo I <em>yield<\/em> it?\u201d\u2014right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right, exactly!\u2014for the sake of the relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I mean, we can go on and on\u2014you know, friends who like to fix problems or something\u2014how do you enter those conversations when, in some ways, it feels like it might be a petty thing; but it is something that is sort of weighing on you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; I think the question is: \u201cDoes it continue to bother <em>you<\/em>?\u201d And so, if it's like five days in row, the tomato soup smell is just like, \u201cI can hardly do this! I might need to move! [Laughter] You know, then you think\u2014here's one of the things I would do\u2014go to God first, and talk to God about it first: \u201cGod, should I bring this up?\u201d\u2014and then, I think the next thing is: \u201c<em>How<\/em> do we bring it up?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Exactly! <em>How<\/em>?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right; you don't bring it up in an accusatory tone. If we come at it like: \u201cYou are driving me crazy!\u201d\u2014[Laughter]\u2014you know, it's just like we put people on the defense so quickly.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> This is where I think there are just simple, practical tools: when you bring it up in a loving way, and you start it with, \u201cI'm feeling\u2026\u201d These are just simple things that a counselor will teach us, but there are tools that we don't have in our pockets. So that could be the first one: \u201cThis is what I'm feeling lately\u2026\u201d\u2014that's what I mean.<\/p>\n<p>I would bring it up like: \u201cThis is going to sound like the <em>dumbest<\/em> thing to you, and it probably is dumb\u2014but that smell of the tomato soup\u2014I'm feeling sick. I don't want to bring it up, because it seems so petty\u2014I'm sorry for that\u2014but this is what I'm feeling.\u201d Then you can ask the question, \u201cDo you think that's so dumb?\u201d\u2014which, now, [they\u2019re] like, \u201cOh, gosh!\u201d; you know?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think you bring it up before it becomes so big.<\/p>\n<p>Dave and I were in a situation, where I had asked him a simple little thing: \u201cHey, hon, I'm going to do this speaking engagement in a month; and the headlight\u2019s out in the car. I'm wondering if you could fix it before I go on this trip? It's a five-hour drive.\u201d He said, \u201cAbsolutely! I'm going to fix that for you.\u201d Days keep going by, and Dave hasn't fixed the light. So every day\u2014not every day, but once week\u2014I would say, \u201cHey, don't forget about the headlight\/to fix that headlight.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Well, it's the day before I am leaving. In the meantime, Michelle, I am doing all these things to get ready for this trip <em>for him<\/em>\u2014[Laughter]\u2014like I'm making all these meals; I'm getting things ready; I'm doing all this stuff\u2014we had kids that were little at the time. I'm making all these special notes for him, [with] Scripture. Then I say, \u201cHey, I'm leaving tomorrow, and you haven't fixed the headlight.\u201d I'm trying to be really nice\u2014right?\u2014you know, the way I'm saying it and all that stuff.<\/p>\n<p>He pulls into the driveway\u2014and I have my suitcase in the driveway\u2014this is the day of. He had promised me that he was going to fix it on the way home from meetings. He gets in the driveway, and I put my bag in and give him a kiss. I'm like, \u201cHey, you fixed the headlight; right?\u201d He goes, \u201cOh, Ann! I <em>totally<\/em> forgot.\u201d And I looked at him, like, \u201cAre you kidding me?!\u2014like seriously?\u201d [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p>Because what does this say to me, as a woman?\u2014like, \u201cI don't care about you\u201d; you know?\u2014and so I am so hot! I get in the car, and I can see him. He's chasing me down the street. He's yelling, \u201cAnn! Wait, wait, wait! I'm going to follow you to Kmart<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>! I'm going to change the light there.\u201d I am so mad, Michelle\u2014[Laughter]\u2014that here's what happens\u2014I'm on my way, driving; and I start venting out loud: \u201cI do <em>everything<\/em> around here!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And this is what I'm going to say with conflict: <em>Think about what you're thinking about.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> So often, what's going on in our heads\u2014we\u2019re <em>piling<\/em> up things, man\u2014you know?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> This is where it starts: in our heads. I'm like:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI do<em> everything <\/em>around here!\u201d\u2014and take that thought, and I stuff it.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe doesn't do <em>anything<\/em> for me!\u201d\u2014I take that thought, and I stuff it.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe doesn't even <em>think<\/em> about me during the day, because he's so busy with <em>his<\/em> life\u2014because it's so important\u2014and my life is nothing!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And by the time I'm driving a mile down the road, I am stuffed full of the angriest, meanest thoughts. And here's what I feel in that minute: all of a sudden, I feel like God is saying, \u201cAnn, take all that out. What are you doing?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You know what I do, Michelle?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> What?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I turn on the radio as loud as it can go, because I don't want to hear God. I want to just <em>bask<\/em> in my stuffing; you know?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right, because that feels <em>so much<\/em> better!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> And I feel like I'm <em>right<\/em>. And sometimes, it just feels good to be right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes; right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> And so we're just kind of\u2014do you know what that stuffing is?\u2014it\u2019s ammunition for later.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I don't think we realize the potential and the danger of what is going on in our minds and our hearts.<\/p>\n<p>So we get to Kmart, and Dave runs in. I'm sitting in the car; I say, \u201cGod, I don't want to take this out, because he <em>deserves<\/em> all of my wrath,\u201d\u2014and it doesn't matter\u2014and I feel like God is saying, \u201cJust give it to Me. Give it to Me <em>first<\/em>,\u201d\u2014so I'm telling God everything. I <em>love<\/em> that God can take that.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I say, \u201cGod, do You <em>see<\/em> what's happening?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I think this is another piece of conflict: \u201cWas the issue the headlight?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> No.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> No! I didn\u2019t care about the headlight. What did it communicate? I think that's another part of conflict: \u201cWhat's the <em>deeper<\/em> issue? What are you<em> really <\/em>mad about?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>For me, it was\u2014this is my pet issue that continues to carousel in my life\u2014with Dave, with friends, with co-workers\u2014is that it hurts me most when I'm not seen, or valued, or made a priority. That's a wound that I have from growing up; because I felt like, in my home, I wasn't seen, or valued, or made a priority; so that always triggers me as an adult.<\/p>\n<p>I confess that to God, like, \u201cGod, I feel like he doesn't see me\u2014I feel like he doesn't care; I feel like I'm not a priority\u2014and I give all of that to You. I lay it on the throne to You, God.\u201d Then when Dave came to that window, he goes, \u201cOkay, so are we okay?\u201d [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p>I said, \u201cI'm okay.\u201d And he was so relieved, like, \u201cOkay, good! She's not going to throw all of her ammunition on me\u201d; [Laughter] you know? \u201cShe's not going to bullet me!\u201d But I said, \u201cI still need to talk about it, because I need to talk about what it made me <em>feel<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>If it had been <em>me<\/em>, in my first response, I would have <em>lambasted<\/em> him with all of my anger\/all of my hurt.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> But because I had taken it to God first\u2014and of course, this doesn't always turn out picture-perfect\u2014but because I had taken it to God first, it allowed me to go <em>deeper<\/em> into what I was really feeling. So instead of talking about him not taking care of me, or meeting my needs, or fixing the headlights, it was more of: \u201cI think I have a wound in my past that I feel like I'm not a priority.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cAnd it hurts me, and it makes me feel unseen and lost.\u201d Dave can respond to that in a better way than [me saying]: \u201cYou're an idiot!\u201d and \u201cWhy aren't you helping me more?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes; well, and it sounds so much like the humility that you had in your heart\u2014to go back and talk to him\u2014very similar to the humility that you just coached me through in the beginning of a conversation of tomato soup\u2014or roommate or whatever\u2014going and saying, \u201cHey, this might seem to <em>you<\/em> like it's a small thing; but this is how I <em>feel<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u201cAnd it may sound like totally crazy, but this is what is inside of me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Ann, thank you so much for joining me today. I am <em>excited<\/em> to have you on our team, here, at FamilyLife.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I\u2019m excited to get to know <em>you<\/em> better!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> It will be <em>good<\/em>; yes, me too.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann: <\/strong>Girl power!<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes! [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p>Well, I feel like we've <em>barely<\/em> scratched the surface of looking at conflict\u2014and maybe I'll have to have Ann back on\u2014what do you think? I'm really looking forward to Ann and Dave Wilson being a part of our team and being hosts, along with Bob Lepine, on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. You may have heard that announcement this past week, but Ann and Dave will officially take over as hosts, along with Bob Lepine, coming up on March 4, [2019]. If you would like to hear the interviews on their book, <em>Vertical Marriage<\/em>, go to our website, FamilyLifeThisWeek.com; that's FamilyLifeThisWeek.com.<\/p>\n<p>Next week, Christopher Yuan is going to join me. Christopher is a professor at Moody Bible Institute and has done quite a bit of research around relationships. We'll be chatting about singleness, but it will be a <em>different<\/em> kind of conversation than what you've probably heard before. So whether you're single\u2014or married and <em>know<\/em> some singles\u2014you\u2019ll want to join in on the conversation next weekend.<\/p>\n<p>Hey, thanks for listening! I want to thank the president of <em>FamilyLife<\/em>, David Robbins, along with the co-founder of <em>FamilyLife<\/em> and my friend, Dennis Rainey. Dennis, thank you\u2014to you and Barbara\u2014for the incredible, rich legacy that you've left for all of us. I want to thank the station partners around the country. 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I'm Michelle Hill. There's a song that has been playing around in my mind, and I started doing some research on it. I found who all has sung this song: Louis Armstrong, Ella Fitzgerald, Bing Crosby, Billie Holiday, Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers, and many, many more.<\/p>\n<p>Before I share what the song is about, I want to introduce our guest today. Ann Wilson is sitting across the table from me. Welcome, Ann; I'm <em>so excited<\/em> to have you here.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Thanks, Michelle. Now, I'm like sitting on the edge of my seat, like, \u201cWhat is the song?\u201d [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I just want to quickly introduce you to our listeners\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Okay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u2014in case they don't know who you are. You and your husband Dave are speakers at our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. You've been a part of <em>The Art of Parenting<\/em> and the <em>Art of Marriage<\/em>. Now, I've just heard the slight rumor that you are taking over the airwaves a little bit, here, at FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, gosh! Doesn't that sound intimidating? [Laughter] I don't know if we're taking over <em>anything<\/em>; but we're going to be a <em>part<\/em> of that, yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Ann and Dave Wilson are hosts, along with Bob Lepine, of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. We are excited to be rolling that out. In fact, if you were listening to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> this week, you heard Ann and Dave talk about their story and, also, Dennis Rainey handing over the reins to you guys.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I know, and it's a big deal for Dave and I. We\u2019re very humbled by it. Who can replace Dennis Rainey?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> No one! Dennis and Barbara are heroes of ours. They've mentored us; we've looked up to them. Honestly, for us, it was the first marriage that we looked at and we thought, \u201cWe want a marriage like that.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Because it's centered on Jesus.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> And we'd never seen that before, growing up; because we didn't grow up in homes that were really Christ-following homes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I want to make mention that Dave is one of the co-founders and pastors at Kensington Church in Detroit. It's just a tiny, little church; right?\u2014of like fourteen thousand people or such. [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014which is <em>crazy<\/em>, because we started out with forty of us;\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Oh, wow!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014and most of those were our children. [Laughter] So this is a God-thing that has grown that church\u2014it\u2019s not us\u2014believe me.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> That's really cool.<\/p>\n<p>Okay, so I\u2019ve got to get back to the song that Louis Armstrong, and Ella Fitzgerald, and Bing Crosby, and Rosemary Clooney, and Billie Holiday, and all of these greats\u2014Fred Astaire\u2014that they helped to bring to the forefront and make popular. It's a song that talks about disagreements. It's\/do you remember one of those songs?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Come on, give me like a hint. What\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> How about: \u201cI say potato; you say potato [emphasis on syllables change].\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, <em>yes<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u201cI say tomato; you say tomato [emphasis on syllables change].\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014\u201ctomato,\u201d <em>yes<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u201cLet's call the whole thing off!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And it seems to me that we are in a day and time, where it is easy to just call the whole thing off over just such a\u2014what we would say\u2014a petty argument or petty differences. That's what I really want to talk to you today about is conflict, because I\u2019ve heard that\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014because I'm good at it?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u2014you know how to do conflict! [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I have conflict; I don't know if I'm good at doing it. We do have quite a bit of conflict in our lives as people.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right; we do. I know that you and Dave talk a lot with young couples\u2014and also older couples\u2014and really coach them through conflict. Conflict resolution skills are such an important skill, not only in marriage, but in life in general.<\/p>\n<p>Today, I really wanted to sort of talk about singles and conflict, because\u2014as I was listening to the <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> programs that you and Dave were on this week\u2014I kept thinking, \u201cSingles need these skills too.\u201d So, as we just jump into this, can you explain conflict to us? What is conflict?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think it\u2014I don't know if it's easy to explain\u2014but we've all <em>lived<\/em> it. It's when you have that\/that passion: \u201cThis is what you believe,\u201d \u201cThis is what you think.\u201d And when somebody doesn't agree with you, how do you deal with that?\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014you know\u2014and if they want to go in a totally different direction. Every single person has faced that from the time they're tiny.<\/p>\n<p>But for us, I think this has been so important; because we were <em>so<\/em> bad at it. I'm one of those people that's like, \u201cLet's deal with this!\u201d And others are like, \u201cI really don't want to deal with it,\u201d\u2014I was married to <em>that<\/em> person. And I see that in kids; I see that in some of my friends that are single\/married\u2014it doesn't even matter what phase of life you're in\u2014we <em>all<\/em> face conflict.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Well, what I see is\u2014I am the adult I am today from the home that raised me.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, yes!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> And in our household, I had a father who was not afraid of conflict. He\u2019s an attorney, so he's <em>not<\/em> afraid of conflict at all [Laughter]; but my mom was a little bit afraid of conflict. I noticed what that did and how that built me, and I don't like conflict!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, I was going to ask: \u201cWho are <em>you<\/em>?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I would rather <em>run<\/em> from it. I avoid it\u2014and I keep going\u2014\u201cI'll just pray about it,\u201d \u201cI'll just pray about it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> What does that mean?\u2014like you'll just pray about it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> God is going to work in my heart and in that other person's heart, and we can just not ever have to talk about it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, wouldn't that be awesome? [Laughter] Wouldn\u2019t that be nice?<\/p>\n<p>For me, I'm a <em>winner<\/em>. I was raised in a home where we would just talk about it; we would <em>fight<\/em> about it. We would verbally put it all on the table\u2014and there was a security in that we loved each other, and it was okay to voice what you felt\u2014you would be loved no matter what. So I thought, \u201cThis is the perfect way to do it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><em>But<\/em> the bad part of a winner is you will bring in all of your evidence, and you will <em>prove<\/em> that you were right\u2014probably your dad could have done this\u2014I don't think ours was as sophisticated as what a lawyer would do, because we could be mean.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> And the bad thing that a winner can do is they can be verbally cruel\u2014not always; I wasn't that\u2014but a winner will do anything they need to win the battle\/to win the argument. They will say anything and bring in evidence to prove they're right; that's a winner's mentality.<\/p>\n<p>I had that with Dave\u2014I don't think I was cruel\u2014but I was like, \u201cLet's talk about this!\u201d And my tone would get big, and I would get <em>fierce<\/em>. I think that scared my husband to death because he grew up in a home, where there was alcohol; there was abuse. When voices would start escalating, then abuse would come into the picture. So Dave saw any kind of conflict as bad, and he would run out of the room and hide with his sister.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> So what would he be? You're a \u201cwinner\u201d; so what's he called?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes, Dave would be a withdrawer.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Okay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> So he withdraws from the situation. Someone that withdraws can withdraw physically, but they can also withdraw <em>emotionally<\/em> and just shut down. We would be in this argument; and I'm like, \u201cOkay; alright! Here we go!\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> And he would just\u2014boom\u2014shut down, which made me even more mad\u2014so I am like getting up with him, walking out of the room with him. [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I think I've heard you guys talk about this! [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, my gosh, Michelle! I would say things to him like, \u201cCome back and fight like a man, you chicken!\u201d\u2014[Laughter]\u2014and now, he's <em>running<\/em>. [Laughter] That was <em>not<\/em> a good way to approach that. So that's one: you've got the winner; you've got the withdrawer.<\/p>\n<p>Then you have one that's called the yielder. That person will just <em>yield<\/em> for the sake of the relationship, meaning they may not agree with what's happening, but they'll yield; because they'll think, \u201cIt's not that big of a deal. I may not agree with them, but I'm just going to yield for the sake of the relationship.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And the last one is the resolver. They'll just do what it takes to sit down and resolve the conflict, no matter what. I wish I could say that that would be the way we would <em>always<\/em> approach it, but it's not. And I think, sometimes, we have to bring a third party in when we can't resolve things.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Now, the resolver: is that the type of style that we all <em>need<\/em> to be?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes, I think. I don't know if it's a style as much as a resolution, of like, \u201cThis is who we're going to become: we're going to become people of peace, who will pursue resolution no matter what.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Now, can that happen in every single relationship? I'm not sure that it can, because you have to have two people that are willing to go there.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p>We need take a break; but I want to continue <em>this<\/em> conversation, and I want to talk some practicalities. We'll be back in two minutes.<\/p>\n<p>[Radio Station Spot Break]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Welcome back to <em>FamilyLife This Week<\/em>. I'm Michelle Hill, and I'm in the studio with Ann Wilson. Thank you so much, again, for joining me and helping to clarify some things on conflict; because I always have conflict with Keith Lynch.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Ohh!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I always have conflict with my boss and co-worker.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Is he a really hard person to deal with?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> [Whispering] He really is. [Laughter] So you're helping <em>me<\/em> understand how to work with my co-worker.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I like it!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> So I thank you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> You\u2019re welcome.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Before the break, we talked about the different styles of conflict\u2014of those who are winners\u2014you are a winner; your husband Dave is a withdrawer.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I'm a yielder. I want to win!\u2014like bring out a board game, and I am as competitive as you get\u2014[Laughter]\u2014but when I have to really sit down and talk about relationships, that's when I'm going to yield to make peace.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I'm going to stuff it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, I think that's the difference. A yielder is a good thing\u2014unless you stuff it\u2014and it just kind of\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Oh!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Here's when you know you stuff it\u2014later, it will boil over\u2014but if I can yield and let it go, that's a <em>good<\/em> resolution to the conflict.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> However, if I yield\u2014but it continues to come back up over and over\u2014I need to talk about it. That's when it gets hard; right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Is it ever too long\/have I ever waited too long before I need to bring it back up?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think, if it comes back up and it has continued, I think you go back to that person and say, \u201cYou know, I thought I could let this go, but it continues to come back up,\u201d and resolve it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes. That brings us to the last type\u2014and that's the resolver\u2014and that's where we all want to be; don\u2019t we?\u2014right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Ah, but that takes <em>work<\/em> to get there!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> It does take work, but it's <em>so<\/em> worth it; I think that's the thing. Every time I have a conflict with a friend\u2014every time\u2014maybe it's with my kids, or with Dave, or a co-worker\u2014my attitude is this: \u201cIf we can get through this, we're going to be better; we're going to be <em>deeper<\/em>; we're going to be closer than we ever have been\u201d; because isn't that true about a relationship?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> That\u2019s true.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> If you go through something together, and you get on the other side of it, you feel like: \u201cWell, I know you better; I know what makes you tick,\u201d and \u201cI know that you've forgiven me\u201d\u2014or maybe [you\u2019ve] hurt [me], and I've forgiven you\u2014but man, we're closer now.\u201d I think that's always my perspective in looking at the future; because it's kind of like, \u201cAm I ready to go <em>through<\/em> this?!\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right; and well, then comes the trust.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> And almost\u2014there's this extra layer of bonding that happens\u2014where you're bonded to that person.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; right. I think we guard our hearts; you know? Especially, if you\u2019ve been hurt in the past, we tend to guard our hearts and not want to go there with a person; because we're <em>afraid<\/em> of how they'll handle our hearts.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> That's true in every relationship when we've been hurt. This is going to sound so crazy, but I remember teaching this Bible study with the Detroit Lions\u2019 wives. You know, in a lot of relationships, there's trust broken. There are hearts that have been hardened. There are a lot of hurts in all kinds of relationships. There are girlfriends and wives [of football players] in the room.<\/p>\n<p>I actually brought out a heart; I got one\u2014this is so gross!\u2014I got one from the store.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u2014like a real one?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Not a real person's heart, but it was like a chicken heart\/a turkey heart. Have you ever seen those?\u2014you know, when\u2014this is so <em>weird<\/em>. [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I put it on the table; and I said, \u201cWhen your heart has been hurt, what do you want to do?\u201d Then I took this little cagey thing, and I put it around. I said, \u201cYou want to cage your heart. You want to protect it; you want to guard it from being wounded again.\u201d And I said, \u201cI think we all\u2014that's just a natural tendency that we do to protect ourselves\u2014it\u2019s called self-protection. The <em>sad<\/em> thing is that people no longer get your heart.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I said, \u201cWouldn't it be cool if we could put that heart in Jesus\u2019 hand, and we ask Him to protect it? We say, \u2018Jesus, I give You my heart first; and I'm going to be safe with my heart in Your hands, but I'm going to always keep it there. Then I'm going to give it to people, knowing that I'm going to give it; but it's always in Your hand <em>first<\/em>, because You're the protector of my soul. You're the One who loves me. You're the One that sees me. You're the One that's cheering for me: \u201cGo there; go there in this relationship.\u201d\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u2014which is just a <em>great<\/em> reminder\u2014because, for <em>me<\/em>, when I enter conflict, I am scared to<em> death <\/em>of either being hurt again or of losing parts of that relationship that I'm in conflict with. If I walk in, going, \u201cBut Jesus, <em>You're<\/em> holding me; You are holding my heart. I need to trust in You for parts of that conversation or for <em>all<\/em> of that conversation.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think a great step would be for people to think, \u201cWhy am I so scared? What happened in the past?\u201d Because I honestly think we all carry baggage from our past into the present, especially in conflict. \u201cWhat has happened in the past that's making you so fearful of the present-day situation?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Then the next question is: \u201cHave I dealt with that past hurt and pain?\u201d You know, \u201cHave I offered Jesus my heart? Have I forgiven that person? Have I walked through that, and am I <em>free<\/em> from it?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I think, so often, we're carrying this ball and chain of hurt from the past. Jesus says, \u201cI want to set the captive free!\u201d He's talking about our soul and our spirit; but I think, emotionally, He wants to set us free so that we're the people that He created to be; free in relationships too.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes, so that we are <em>truly<\/em> living.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes! Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> So we are <em>whole<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes, and we're not <em>fearful<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Now, I'm going to say, of course, we need to put boundaries in our lives for people that aren't healthy or people that continually hurt us. We're going to keep them a little more at a distance, but we're going to still love them. We're just going to make sure that there are parts of us\/that they're not going to get all of us.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right. Okay, I want to get a little bit practical now. Help us understand how we enter some of those conversations. Like my cube-mate loves tomato soup, and boils the tomato soup in the microwave every day at noon; and it's driving me insane!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Are you saying that it splatters all over the microwave?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> No, the smell! [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, so you're wondering, \u201cDo I let that go?\u201d or \u201cDo I talk about it?\u201d \u201cDo I <em>yield<\/em> it?\u201d\u2014right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right, exactly!\u2014for the sake of the relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> I mean, we can go on and on\u2014you know, friends who like to fix problems or something\u2014how do you enter those conversations when, in some ways, it feels like it might be a petty thing; but it is something that is sort of weighing on you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; I think the question is: \u201cDoes it continue to bother <em>you<\/em>?\u201d And so, if it's like five days in row, the tomato soup smell is just like, \u201cI can hardly do this! I might need to move! [Laughter] You know, then you think\u2014here's one of the things I would do\u2014go to God first, and talk to God about it first: \u201cGod, should I bring this up?\u201d\u2014and then, I think the next thing is: \u201c<em>How<\/em> do we bring it up?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Exactly! <em>How<\/em>?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right; you don't bring it up in an accusatory tone. If we come at it like: \u201cYou are driving me crazy!\u201d\u2014[Laughter]\u2014you know, it's just like we put people on the defense so quickly.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> This is where I think there are just simple, practical tools: when you bring it up in a loving way, and you start it with, \u201cI'm feeling\u2026\u201d These are just simple things that a counselor will teach us, but there are tools that we don't have in our pockets. So that could be the first one: \u201cThis is what I'm feeling lately\u2026\u201d\u2014that's what I mean.<\/p>\n<p>I would bring it up like: \u201cThis is going to sound like the <em>dumbest<\/em> thing to you, and it probably is dumb\u2014but that smell of the tomato soup\u2014I'm feeling sick. I don't want to bring it up, because it seems so petty\u2014I'm sorry for that\u2014but this is what I'm feeling.\u201d Then you can ask the question, \u201cDo you think that's so dumb?\u201d\u2014which, now, [they\u2019re] like, \u201cOh, gosh!\u201d; you know?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think you bring it up before it becomes so big.<\/p>\n<p>Dave and I were in a situation, where I had asked him a simple little thing: \u201cHey, hon, I'm going to do this speaking engagement in a month; and the headlight\u2019s out in the car. I'm wondering if you could fix it before I go on this trip? It's a five-hour drive.\u201d He said, \u201cAbsolutely! I'm going to fix that for you.\u201d Days keep going by, and Dave hasn't fixed the light. So every day\u2014not every day, but once week\u2014I would say, \u201cHey, don't forget about the headlight\/to fix that headlight.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Well, it's the day before I am leaving. In the meantime, Michelle, I am doing all these things to get ready for this trip <em>for him<\/em>\u2014[Laughter]\u2014like I'm making all these meals; I'm getting things ready; I'm doing all this stuff\u2014we had kids that were little at the time. I'm making all these special notes for him, [with] Scripture. Then I say, \u201cHey, I'm leaving tomorrow, and you haven't fixed the headlight.\u201d I'm trying to be really nice\u2014right?\u2014you know, the way I'm saying it and all that stuff.<\/p>\n<p>He pulls into the driveway\u2014and I have my suitcase in the driveway\u2014this is the day of. He had promised me that he was going to fix it on the way home from meetings. He gets in the driveway, and I put my bag in and give him a kiss. I'm like, \u201cHey, you fixed the headlight; right?\u201d He goes, \u201cOh, Ann! I <em>totally<\/em> forgot.\u201d And I looked at him, like, \u201cAre you kidding me?!\u2014like seriously?\u201d [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p>Because what does this say to me, as a woman?\u2014like, \u201cI don't care about you\u201d; you know?\u2014and so I am so hot! I get in the car, and I can see him. He's chasing me down the street. He's yelling, \u201cAnn! Wait, wait, wait! I'm going to follow you to Kmart<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>! I'm going to change the light there.\u201d I am so mad, Michelle\u2014[Laughter]\u2014that here's what happens\u2014I'm on my way, driving; and I start venting out loud: \u201cI do <em>everything<\/em> around here!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And this is what I'm going to say with conflict: <em>Think about what you're thinking about.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> So often, what's going on in our heads\u2014we\u2019re <em>piling<\/em> up things, man\u2014you know?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> This is where it starts: in our heads. I'm like:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI do<em> everything <\/em>around here!\u201d\u2014and take that thought, and I stuff it.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe doesn't do <em>anything<\/em> for me!\u201d\u2014I take that thought, and I stuff it.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe doesn't even <em>think<\/em> about me during the day, because he's so busy with <em>his<\/em> life\u2014because it's so important\u2014and my life is nothing!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And by the time I'm driving a mile down the road, I am stuffed full of the angriest, meanest thoughts. And here's what I feel in that minute: all of a sudden, I feel like God is saying, \u201cAnn, take all that out. What are you doing?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You know what I do, Michelle?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> What?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I turn on the radio as loud as it can go, because I don't want to hear God. I want to just <em>bask<\/em> in my stuffing; you know?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right, because that feels <em>so much<\/em> better!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> And I feel like I'm <em>right<\/em>. And sometimes, it just feels good to be right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes; right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> And so we're just kind of\u2014do you know what that stuffing is?\u2014it\u2019s ammunition for later.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I don't think we realize the potential and the danger of what is going on in our minds and our hearts.<\/p>\n<p>So we get to Kmart, and Dave runs in. I'm sitting in the car; I say, \u201cGod, I don't want to take this out, because he <em>deserves<\/em> all of my wrath,\u201d\u2014and it doesn't matter\u2014and I feel like God is saying, \u201cJust give it to Me. Give it to Me <em>first<\/em>,\u201d\u2014so I'm telling God everything. I <em>love<\/em> that God can take that.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I say, \u201cGod, do You <em>see<\/em> what's happening?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I think this is another piece of conflict: \u201cWas the issue the headlight?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> No.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> No! I didn\u2019t care about the headlight. What did it communicate? I think that's another part of conflict: \u201cWhat's the <em>deeper<\/em> issue? What are you<em> really <\/em>mad about?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>For me, it was\u2014this is my pet issue that continues to carousel in my life\u2014with Dave, with friends, with co-workers\u2014is that it hurts me most when I'm not seen, or valued, or made a priority. That's a wound that I have from growing up; because I felt like, in my home, I wasn't seen, or valued, or made a priority; so that always triggers me as an adult.<\/p>\n<p>I confess that to God, like, \u201cGod, I feel like he doesn't see me\u2014I feel like he doesn't care; I feel like I'm not a priority\u2014and I give all of that to You. I lay it on the throne to You, God.\u201d Then when Dave came to that window, he goes, \u201cOkay, so are we okay?\u201d [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p>I said, \u201cI'm okay.\u201d And he was so relieved, like, \u201cOkay, good! She's not going to throw all of her ammunition on me\u201d; [Laughter] you know? \u201cShe's not going to bullet me!\u201d But I said, \u201cI still need to talk about it, because I need to talk about what it made me <em>feel<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>If it had been <em>me<\/em>, in my first response, I would have <em>lambasted<\/em> him with all of my anger\/all of my hurt.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> But because I had taken it to God first\u2014and of course, this doesn't always turn out picture-perfect\u2014but because I had taken it to God first, it allowed me to go <em>deeper<\/em> into what I was really feeling. So instead of talking about him not taking care of me, or meeting my needs, or fixing the headlights, it was more of: \u201cI think I have a wound in my past that I feel like I'm not a priority.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cAnd it hurts me, and it makes me feel unseen and lost.\u201d Dave can respond to that in a better way than [me saying]: \u201cYou're an idiot!\u201d and \u201cWhy aren't you helping me more?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes; well, and it sounds so much like the humility that you had in your heart\u2014to go back and talk to him\u2014very similar to the humility that you just coached me through in the beginning of a conversation of tomato soup\u2014or roommate or whatever\u2014going and saying, \u201cHey, this might seem to <em>you<\/em> like it's a small thing; but this is how I <em>feel<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> \u201cAnd it may sound like totally crazy, but this is what is inside of me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Ann, thank you so much for joining me today. I am <em>excited<\/em> to have you on our team, here, at FamilyLife.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I\u2019m excited to get to know <em>you<\/em> better!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> It will be <em>good<\/em>; yes, me too.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann: <\/strong>Girl power!<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Michelle:<\/strong> Yes! [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p>Well, I feel like we've <em>barely<\/em> scratched the surface of looking at conflict\u2014and maybe I'll have to have Ann back on\u2014what do you think? I'm really looking forward to Ann and Dave Wilson being a part of our team and being hosts, along with Bob Lepine, on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. You may have heard that announcement this past week, but Ann and Dave will officially take over as hosts, along with Bob Lepine, coming up on March 4, [2019]. If you would like to hear the interviews on their book, <em>Vertical Marriage<\/em>, go to our website, FamilyLifeThisWeek.com; that's FamilyLifeThisWeek.com.<\/p>\n<p>Next week, Christopher Yuan is going to join me. Christopher is a professor at Moody Bible Institute and has done quite a bit of research around relationships. We'll be chatting about singleness, but it will be a <em>different<\/em> kind of conversation than what you've probably heard before. So whether you're single\u2014or married and <em>know<\/em> some singles\u2014you\u2019ll want to join in on the conversation next weekend.<\/p>\n<p>Hey, thanks for listening! I want to thank the president of <em>FamilyLife<\/em>, David Robbins, along with the co-founder of <em>FamilyLife<\/em> and my friend, Dennis Rainey. Dennis, thank you\u2014to you and Barbara\u2014for the incredible, rich legacy that you've left for all of us. I want to thank the station partners around the country. 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