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Dave and Ann Wilson talk about honoring God first, so that we might then honor others.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylife.com\/fl2021-11-23.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> So every family has priorities\u2014like even like a vibe or an atmosphere\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014in their home. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014in their home; yes\u2014everyone. It\u2019s interesting to think: \u201cOkay, what is the vibe or what matters to the Wilson home?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014like: \u201cWhat are their values?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; \u201cWhat do we live for?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWelcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I\u2019m Ann Wilson.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And I\u2019m Dave Wilson, and you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com or on our FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> app.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Do you remember when we asked our kids? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I remember when <em>I<\/em> asked them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> By the way, this is a great way to find out, if you have kids that are middle school or teenagers,\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Even elementary school kids could answer this; like a first grader could answer this. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, you asked them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes, and this was pretty common for me. I would ask our kids\/I just was always curious: \u201cOoh, I wonder what they think about this topic\u201d; or the day that I asked them, I thought, \u201cNow, I want my friends in my accountability group to ask their kids the same question.\u201d Here is the question: \u201cWhat do you think is important to the Wilson family? What are our values? What do you feel like, \u2018This is what we live for\u2019?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> What were we <em>thinking<\/em> they were going to say? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I wanted them to say, \u201cJesus!\u201d I wanted them to say, \u201cOh, man, we\u2019re focused on the lost; we want to disciple people,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s what I\u2019m thinking\u2014\u201cOh, yes; they are going to say it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> The scary thing is they answered it pretty quickly; it wasn\u2019t even like they had to think. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> So quickly, like horribly; and here is the answer: \u201cSports.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u201cSports.\u201d [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> That is <em>embarrassing<\/em>; I\u2019m blaming <em>you<\/em> for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I was just going to say, \u201cThat\u2019s <em>your<\/em> fault. I don\u2019t know <em>where<\/em> they got that idea.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, yes! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> So why do you think they said that, actually? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I mean, we have three sons\u2014they were all in sports\u2014and I think, time-wise, that was taking most of our time; we\u2019d go from one event to the other event. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut after they [answered] that question, I remember being in bed that night, thinking, \u201cWe need to change that; [Laughter] we need to change that.\u201d I don\u2019t want to <em>force<\/em> an answer upon them, but our kids usually have a vibe of like: \u201cThis is who we are,\u201d and \u201cThis is what we are about.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Obviously, some of that was their dad was the chaplain for an NFL football team\u2014a really good NFL football team\u2014[Laughter]\u2014the Detroit Lions. I think some of that was the fact that I was around the sports world a lot; and maybe,\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And you love it; you\u2019re playing sports all the time. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I was going to say, \u201cMaybe, I played a little too much sports.\u201d Then, like you said, they were involved from peewee football, and baseball, and basketball all the way up through high school. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> They said some other things, too; they said, \u201cWell, not just sports.\u201d They had some <em>good<\/em> answers as well. I think one of the things\u2014they did talk about Jesus\u2014and they talked about having fun; that was a priority. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I think it\u2019s a great question for every family to ask:\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cWhat do you think we\u2019re about?\u201d\u2014even more importantly\u2014\u201cWhat do we <em>want<\/em> to be about?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Exactly. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u201cWhat do we <em>want<\/em> to be about? What are we hoping to create in terms of\u2026\u201d You\u2019re an atmosphere mom; you try to create a <em>culture<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> We, as moms, create that whether we know it or not; we create an atmosphere in our home. The question is: \u201cWhat is it?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> What did you want? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I wanted Jesus to be a part of everything that we did\u2014and not in a legalistic way\u2014but in a relationship way, where we are about Him: we talk about Him, and we want people to know Him. God\u2019s Word: I think that was really important to us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMost of that is <em>caught<\/em> rather than taught. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; so one of the things we thought we would talk about today is a word that, when we were first married, we heard a teacher named Gary Smalley, who wrote a book called <em>The Blessing<\/em>; remember that? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I mean, back in the \u201880s, he wrote a book with John Trent, called <em>The Blessing<\/em>, where he looked at: \u201cWhat was the blessing that a Hebrew father would give to his firstborn?\u201d He walked through the elements of that. There was term in that book that we\u2019ve <em>never<\/em> forgotten called \u201chonor.\u201d So we wanted <em>honor<\/em>: to honor God, to honor each other in our family, and even to honor our neighbors. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe were hoping that\u2019s what our kids would say: \u201cThis family is about honoring God and honoring others,\u201d\u2014which is the most important commandment. When Jesus was asked: \u201cRabbi, of all the commandments which is the most important?\u201d He literally quoted Deuteronomy 6; and He said, \u201cLove the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind;\u201d\u2014and He added\u2014\u201cand love your neighbor as yourself.\u201d That was sort of our bar; it\u2019s like: \u201cMan, if our home could be a home that honored God, and honored each other, and honored others, that would be an aroma; that would be a mission worth hitting.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And I\u2019m just going to say, \u201cIn our culture today, that\u2019s something that is missing it feels like. We misunderstand one another. I feel like we have a hard time hearing others; let alone honoring them.\u201d So let\u2019s talk about this: \u201cHow can we do it?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Well, I\u2019m going to read you from Smalley\u2019s book, <em>The Blessing<\/em>, of how he described honor; and then let\u2019s talk about how we applied that or tried to apply that in our own home. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe said:\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe first idea contained in the Hebrew word for \u201cbless\u201d is that of bowing the knee. Bowing before someone is a graphic picture of valuing that person. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI thought this was just insightful. He said: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMost Americans have never actually seen one person bow before another; but in Biblical times, and in many cultures today, you bow before someone of great value: a king, a queen, a prophet, someone considered important and of high worth. When you bless someone, you are really saying, \u201cI choose to treat you as someone incredibly valuable in my life.\u201d Of course, we say, \u201cBless the Lord.\u201d We are saying that, as well: \u201cLord, You are incredibly valuable; You are worthy of our bowing our knee before You.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAlong with this first picture comes a second biblical word picture. The word for \u201cbless\u201d and a similar word for \u201chonor\u201d also carries the idea of adding weight or value to someone. Literally, it\u2019s a picture of adding coins to a scale. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSmalley ends by saying this: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet\u2019s put these two pictures together now to gain a sharper focus on what it means to bless or honor someone. You are basically saying, \u201cYou are of such great value to me, I choose to add to your life.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan, when you look at that sort of definition of honor\u2014I\u2019ll <em>never<\/em> forget; and, again, this was almost 40 years ago when we heard this teaching\u2014it\u2019s this idea of honor is to bow the knee. Again, in our culture, we don\u2019t walk around, bowing the knee; but it is to attach high value to another person. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe actually do that in our culture. We call a judge \u201cthe Honorable Judge.\u201d It\u2019s not something that we attach to somebody, because we love them or even like them; it\u2019s a position, and so they get honor. It\u2019s this sense of\u2014obviously, we don\u2019t literally walk around bending the knee\/bowing\u2014but think about this. I\u2019ll never forget Smalley saying this; it\u2019s like: \u201cWhen you honor someone\u2014when you bend the knee, when you attach value to somebody\u2014it\u2019s almost like your jaw drops; it\u2019s like, \u2018Ah! I\u2019m in the presence of somebody extremely valuable.\u2019 That\u2019s just a normal reaction: your jaw drops, and you sort of have this \u2018Ah!\u2019 sense\u201d; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes, my picture is of a wedding day\u2014because of our wedding\u2014but also seeing our three sons get married. They each had that posture, and also their expression on their face of the jaw drop, like, \u201cYou are <em>amazing<\/em>.\u201d You could just <em>see<\/em> the love, and honor, and blessing oozing out of them. But then, you get married. [Laughter] And you start to see your spouse\u2019s flaws, and you see the weaknesses. Sometimes, it\u2019s hard to bend the knee and to honor someone. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Well, it\u2019s interesting: when you propose, you usually bend the knee. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dave:<\/strong> You get down on one knee. It would be interesting to think about a marriage being\/attaching high value every day, which we don\u2019t often do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ll never forget\u2014that I was at our church\u2014and I had just finished a sermon. We had some Detroit Lion players come that day, because we were talking about what we would do in our Bible study. After the sermon, this guy walks up to me; and as he is walking up to me, he literally <em>gasped<\/em>, right as he got up to me, like, \u201cAh!\u201d I was like, \u201c<em>Wow<\/em>; this dude thinks like I\u2019m really <em>important<\/em>.\u201d I looked at him like, \u201cWhy are you acting like, \u2018Ah!\u2019?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> You\u2019re saying this didn\u2019t happen at church often? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, <em>never<\/em> happened. [Laughter] But I felt like, \u201cWow; he sees me.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe gets close, and it\u2019s like, \u201cAhh!\u201d And then I turn around, and standing behind me is\/one of our football players was standing behind me. He wasn\u2019t showing honor to me; he was\u2014literally, his jaw dropped; he gasped\u2014because he considers an NFL player highly valuable. We do that in our culture; we value certain positions and different people\/celebrities.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut anyway, the whole idea of: \u201cWhat would it look like in our homes if we honored God, our family members, and our neighbor the same way?\u201d So that was one of the things we tried to do in our home. Let\u2019s talk about this: \u201cHow did we honor God in our home? What would you say we did?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think the most important thing was that we have always\u2014and still do\u2014we honor Him with the sacrifice of our lives. I\u2019m thinking of Romans 12:1-2. That we really have laid our lives on the altar of Him, to say, \u201cGod, I give You <em>everything<\/em>.\u201d I think our kids have heard us say it; I think they\u2019ve heard us pray it. That\u2019s the <em>first<\/em> thing. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI would even ask our listeners: \u201cHave you done that? Have you surrendered <em>everything<\/em> in your life to Him?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; I mean, the first priority in life is: \u201cHonor God,\u201d\u2014before even your spouse, before your kids, before anything in your life\u2014it\u2019s like: \u201cHe is number one.\u201d That\u2019s what going vertical, in <em>Vertical Marriage<\/em>, is about\/is the priority of setting God as the One who gets our highest honor. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I\u2019m not sure I could honor you that well if I did not honor God first, because He gives me the ability to see you through His eyes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, we\u2019ve talked about it many times here. Deuteronomy 6 is a picture of what honor looks like; he says: \u201cHear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.\u201d He is writing that to parents. I think as parents\u2014and as a husband and wife\u2014that\u2019s where we start; it\u2019s like: \u201cWe can\u2019t pass this on to our kids if we don\u2019t first possess it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know, in our home\u2014starting the first day we got married\u2014we set a routine, which we were doing even before we got married, of saying, \u201cThe first thing I\u2019m going to do every day is sit with God. I\u2019m going to dig into His Word and start there.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Talk about that practice in your own life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, I was thinking about when we first got married; and we both had these great times with God. And then we had kids; I was thinking, \u201cI don\u2019t even know how to do this anymore.\u201d I do remember thinking, \u201cI\u2019m just going to have to figure out what this looks like with little kids all around me.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOur kids got up pretty early. I\u2019m not a morning person, so it was hard for me to get up in the morning. But when they were little, what I would end up doing was like, \u201cHey, guys, I\u2019m going to have my time with Jesus now.\u201d I would have my Bible out; and sometimes, I would even read it out loud. I gave them little notebooks themselves they could scribble in or play. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI didn\u2019t get the time that I wanted\/that I used to get\u2014that I have now\u2014but I think it\u2019s good for our kids to see that that is a regular rhythm in our lives\/that time with God is important. Now, I think all my kids know; and they\u2019ve seen my Bible on the table, because I go through it every year. Man, that is my <em>sustenance<\/em>; it\u2019s my <em>food<\/em>; it\u2019s what gets me through every day: is God\u2019s Word. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I know, when I came to Christ in college, that was the first thing my discipler\/my mentor taught me was daily time in the Word. I remember him saying to me\u2014who, really, I didn\u2019t grow up much in the church\u2014but he says, \u201cA man of God is a man of God\u2019s Word.\u201d It\u2019s been a <em>daily<\/em> discipline of my life to spend time in His Word. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnother part for me that helps me honor God is worship music\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Me too. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014either listening to it or\u2014you [Ann] know me; I\u2019m going to grab my guitar and sing it. I remember, during COVID, I was up in our little studio. I grabbed my guitar, and I\u2019m singing. And you come <em>running<\/em> up the stairs, like, \u201cOh, is this what we\u2019re doing right now?!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cAre we worshipping? Let\u2019s do this!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I mean, there is nobody else in the house; I was sort of having my private little time with God. [Laughter] You know, you come running in there; and we start singing. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, it\u2019s that foundation that I think, as husbands and wives\u2014and often, as moms and dads\u2014we push that aside, not because we don\u2019t want to do it, but our life gets so hectic. It\u2019s like it\u2019s [worship time] written in pencil on our calendar rather than pen; the kids or the schedules can become so urgent that we <em>miss<\/em> the most important. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> You know, what I\u2019ve been a little bit convicted of lately\u2014is that it tells you on your phone\u2014it tells me on my phone how much screen time I\u2019ve had for the week. Is anyone else depressed by that number when they see it? If you haven\u2019t checked it, you need to check it; because it will say: \u201cSeven hours.\u201d I\u2019m thinking, \u201cWhen have I spent seven hours with God? Just in a day, what would that look like?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Mine only says four hours; yours says seven hours? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> You are 6:20. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Well, here is the thing\u2014I read the Bible, often, on YouVersion on my phone\u2014so all of those hours are: I\u2019m in the Word. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, no! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> That\u2019s what I\u2019m doing. No; I wish it was; I wish it was. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> But you do\u2014do that\u2014and I think, today, we have some really easy tools to make it easier to listen to the Word. Even if you are driving, you can <em>listen<\/em> to the Word in your car. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; you know, we\u2019ve talked about this before; but when our oldest son, CJ, was born, I started that Friday fast to pray all day and fast from food on Fridays for the boys, and their wives, and [our] grandkids\u2014even that routine\u2014as a way to say, \u201cEvery week, I honor God first. I bend the knee to say, \u2018You, God, are the most <em>valuable<\/em> person and relationship in my whole life.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think, I would say to a dad listening right now: \u201cThat is the way to lead and walk with God.\u201d It\u2019s got to show up on your calendar. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> There is one more thing that you do that I really like. You have <em>always<\/em> been really good at memorizing Scripture; I think you started doing it in college\u2014so did I\u2014I just don\u2019t remember it the way you do. I remember our boys always saying, \u201cDad knows so much Scripture,\u201d because you had it memorized. I could tell that they thought that was <em>amazing<\/em>. I used to say, \u201cOh, yes; he <em>knows<\/em> so much.\u201d They were kind of impressed by that; but I <em>love<\/em> that you memorize that. I did, too; but you could memorize it way quicker than I could. I think that\u2019s important to have God\u2019s Word on our hearts. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I\u2019ve often felt like\u2014and I\u2019ve even asked NFL players\u2014\u201cWhat would happen if you didn\u2019t know the playbook?\u201d Every guy looks at me, like: \u201cI\u2019m cut; I\u2019m cut that day. If I walked into a meeting, or I walked into a season, and I didn\u2019t know a play call\/I didn\u2019t know what my responsibility was, because I hadn\u2019t studied my book,\u201d\u2014they just look at you like\u2014\u201cThis is what every NFL player\u201d\u2014any athlete in any sport has to know\u2014\u201cyou have to know the playbook, or you can\u2019t be in the game. You won\u2019t be on this team anymore.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI thought, \u201cMan, if we are going to honor God with our lives, and we don\u2019t know His Word, it\u2019s <em>greater<\/em> than a playbook; it\u2019s <em>more<\/em> than a playbook. It is <em>His<\/em> Word that reveals who He is, who we are, and what He has called us to do.\u201d Memorizing that is an extension of: \u201cI am going to honor Him first and then live that out.\u201d It\u2019s one thing to be hearers of the Word and another to be doers. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ve shared on here before\u2014but remember the story of when one of [our] sons was asked about his faith\u2014what I had done to stoke that in him\u2014like: \u201cHey, what did your dad do to create that fire that we see in you?\u201d Long story short\u2014I don\u2019t need to go into the details\u2014but hearing him say, \u201cThe only thing I remember my dad doing is he lived it.\u201d When I was thinking he would remember Bible studies or trips we took, all he did was say, \u201cI watched him be a man of God.\u201d I thought, \u201c<em>That\u2019s<\/em> what our kids are looking for; they are watching us 24\/7.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, it\u2019s not a legalistic thing to say, \u201cI\u2019m going to get in the Word every morning because [reluctantly] I have to.\u201d It\u2019s because [eagerness] I <em>have<\/em> to\/<em>I want to<\/em>. If I have to get up early, before the kids are up, at 4 am\u2014I\u2019m kidding; maybe, 5 am\u2014[Laughter]\u2014I\u2019m going to get up early. I\u2019m going to do whatever it takes to make sure my connection with God is saying, \u201cYou are the most valuable person\/relationship in my life.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Let me just add a quick little footnote to this. I\u2019ve had a lot of women ask me: \u201cWhat can I do to get my husband to be more spiritually hungry?\u201d or \u201c\u2026spend time in the Word?\u201d or \u201c\u2026disciple our children?\u201d I can\u2019t tell you how often I have women coming up and asking me those questions. I can tell you it <em>doesn\u2019t<\/em> work; it <em>doesn\u2019t<\/em> work when you compare your husband to someone else. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, you never did that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I did it all the time. [Laughter] Or when you slide a book over to them\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, you never did that. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I\u2019m telling you all the things <em>not<\/em> to do, because I did them. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think for you to pray. Let his walk be his walk; but model\u2014you\u2019re not modeling for him to do it, because you are doing it as a form of manipulation\u2014but just love Jesus; talk to Him about it. He hears every prayer that you are praying. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Your walk with God inspired me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Your critique [Laughter]\u2014and putting a book by the toilet; because you knew I\u2019d sit there and read it\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014because you didn\u2019t. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014<em>never<\/em> worked; it didn\u2019t inspire at all.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut man, when I would walk in the kitchen and see you on the deck, on your knees with your hands up, praising God; when I\u2019d walk through and see you outlining, again, in your one-year Bible, it just made me go\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Does that mean I can read the Bible out loud to you when I want? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, you do it every time we get in the car. [Laughter] You did it <em>yesterday<\/em> when we were driving here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I did it this <em>morning<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, this morning; that\u2019s when it was! She\u2019s going to read her one-year Bible out loud; you <em>love<\/em> to do that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut I mean, I would just say to the wives listening: \u201cThat is motivating to us, as men, to watch your walk with God\u2014not in a condemning way, but in an inspiring way\u2014inspires us.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> How would you encourage men? Do you think that is important? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I know, for me and every man I know, we want to do better in this area; but the bottom line is I need His power; I need His presence; I need His peace. The only way you get that is to meet with Him\u2014honor Him first; bend the knee <em>first<\/em> to God\u2014and that will create an atmosphere of honor in your home. It starts with mom and dad. For me, it starts with <em>me<\/em>\u2014and if it is not happening in me, good luck that it is going to flow into the family\u2014but if it is happening in me, there is a great chance that it is going to flow and create an environment and a home of honor. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat would it be like, if the neighbor kids came over to our home\u2014because they couldn\u2019t even explain why\u2014they just felt honored; they felt valuable; they felt seen? That\u2019s what honor does. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think it\u2019s where our homes become a <em>magnet<\/em> to everyone who walks in: that they feel loved; they feel seen; they feel heard; and they feel honored. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I\u2019m thinking that, maybe, some of us need to post in our home Romans 12:10, which says, \u201cOutdo one another in showing honor.\u201d I mean, how would our homes be different if that was the goal if, as parents and as siblings, we and our children were working to <em>outdo<\/em> one another in showing honor to each other? It\u2019s such a powerful concept that Dave and Ann Wilson have been talking about today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDave mentioned a book called <em>The Blessing: Giving the Gift of Unconditional Love and Acceptance<\/em>. It\u2019s a book we\u2019ve got in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You might want to consider this as a book to read together\u2014as a family or as moms and dads\u2014to think about how you can bless your children and how honor can be more a part of your family dynamic. Go to FamilyLifeToday.com for more information on the book, <em>The Blessing<\/em>. You can order it from us online at FamilyLifeToday.com, or call to order at 1-800-FL-TODAY; that\u2019s 1-800-358-6329; 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, I\u2019m thinking of all of the special days that are happening in the next week. I mean, Thanksgiving is this week; and then, for a lot of shoppers, Black Friday is a big day. I think, isn\u2019t Saturday Small Business Saturday, where you support that? Then Monday is Cyber Monday; and next Tuesday is Giving Tuesday, where you take a few minutes and think about ministries\/organizations that have had a meaningful impact in your life and you make a donation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, here at FamilyLife, we want to make it easy for you to do your Giving Tuesday giving <em>now<\/em>. If FamilyLife is one of those ministries\/organizations that God has used in your life, and you have been thinking about a Giving Tuesday gift, you can actually make your Giving Tuesday gift today. Whatever donation you make today is going to count toward the Giving Tuesday total. In addition, whatever donation you make today is going to be matched, dollar for dollar, thanks to a matching gift that has been made available to us by some friends of this ministry. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019ll say, \u201cThank you for your donation,\u201d by sending you a copy of Dane Ortlund\u2019s new devotional from the book of Psalms, 150 daily devotions from the book of Psalms. The devotional is called <em>In the Lord I Take Refuge<\/em>. Along with that, we will send you a deck of playing cards; each playing card has a conversation starter on it so that, while you are playing cards, you can also spark some creative conversation as a family. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo if you\u2019d like to do your Giving Tuesday giving now, go to FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014you can give online\u2014call 1-800-FL-TODAY to donate. Again, your gift will be matched. We\u2019ll send you the devotional book and the playing cards as our way of saying, \u201cThank you.\u201d We want you to know we are thankful for you, and we look forward to hearing from you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, Dave and Ann Wilson are going to talk about how honor in a home is a lot like a thermostat. It really sets the emotional temperature of our homes. They\u2019ll continue the conversation about honor tomorrow; I hope you can be with us for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOn behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. 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