{"id":307298,"date":"2021-11-16T08:02:06","date_gmt":"2021-11-16T13:02:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/parenting-and-gods-love-for-me\/"},"modified":"2021-11-16T08:02:06","modified_gmt":"2021-11-16T13:02:06","slug":"parenting-and-gods-love-for-me","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/parenting-and-gods-love-for-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Parenting and God&#8217;s Love For Me"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>What you truly believe about God&#8217;s love will affect how you parent your kids.  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Crystal Paine addresses our self talk and how to love our kids where they are.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylife.com\/fl2021-11-16.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> I don\u2019t believe that we can love our kids well if we don\u2019t believe we\u2019re loved ourselves. I think it\u2019s easy for us to say, \u201cOh, yes! I know God loves me\u201d; but do you truly believe that in the day in and day out?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I\u2019m Ann Wilson.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And I\u2019m Dave Wilson; and you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com or on our FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> app.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI can remember when we had two teenagers in the house\u2014the other one wasn\u2019t quite a teenager\u2014but I can remember there was this atmosphere with the boys that I felt like, \u201cI\u2019m bugging them a lot,\u201d\u2014like\u2014\u201cThey\u2019re irritated with me a lot.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And they were irritated with me at times.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; and I didn\u2019t know if that was a teenage thing, or I was doing something; so we sat down at the dinner table one night, and I said, \u201cGuys, I would like to really just have you be truthful with me and tell me: \u2018Is there anything that I\u2019m doing that\u2019s really <em>bugging<\/em> you right now?\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd the oldest one, who\u2019s very truthful\/he said, \u201cWell, yes! There are some things that you\u2019re doing that are bugging me.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cOh, okay; let\u2019s hear it.\u201d And he said, \u201cI think it\u2019s so irritating that you\u2019re constantly telling me when to go to bed at night,\u201d\u2014I think he was 15 or 16\u2014he said, \u201cYou\u2019re on me all the time, like: \u2018Is your homework done?\u2019 \u2018You need to get to bed; you have a test tomorrow,\u2019 or \u2018You have practice tomorrow; you need to go to bed.\u2019\u201d He said, \u201cI think I\u2019m old enough that I should be able to determine that myself.\u201d I said, \u201cOkay; that\u2019s legitimate. You\u2019re right; you\u2019re old enough that you can make those choices. What else?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd he said, \u201cI just think it\u2019s the <em>dumbest<\/em> rule that girls can\u2019t be here with me alone when you and dad are gone.\u201d And I said, \u201cOh, okay; well, that\u2019s not changing [Laughter]; but let\u2019s talk about it\u201d; you know?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think that\u2019s a <em>great<\/em> thing to do once in a while, just to talk to your kids about what\u2019s going on if I feel tension between us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, and you know, obviously, one of the hardest things to do is parent. [Laughter] It\u2019s <em>awesome<\/em>; it\u2019s wonderful; it\u2019s really, really hard\u2014conversations like that, you know; the toddler stage\u2014you name it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And you\u2019re constantly analyzing yourself, like, \u201cAm I doing this right? I don\u2019t know!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, and you need help. So we\u2019ve got help in the studio today with Crystal Paine; she\u2019s back with us again. You wrote a book called <em>Love-Centered Parenting. <\/em>We\u2019re really glad to have you back; welcome back to <em>FamilyLife Today. <\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Thank you so much for having me back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> The subtitle of Crystal\u2019s book is: <em>The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014which everybody wants a no-fail guide; you know. I think many people know you as The Money-Saving Mom; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Is that what it is?\u2014MoneySavingMom.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> But you\u2019ve written a book called <em>Money-Making Mom<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Dave wants me to read this; he\u2019s like, \u201cCan you not make some money for us?!\u2014[Laughter]\u2014or <em>save<\/em> some money?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I\u2019m <em>fascinated <\/em>by that, which is awesome. And you\u2019re a <em>New York Times <\/em>best-selling author, so\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> But more importantly, she\u2019s the mom\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014you\u2019re a mom!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014of four kids; and you\u2019re fostering one right now.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Your oldest is 16; your youngest is 1. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> You are doing it, girl! Way to go!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes! I don\u2019t even know how you get time to write. [Laughter] I mean\u2014not only are you a mom, and wife, and children\u2014but you\u2019ve got foster kids, and they\u2019re <em>small<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Way to go!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> God is just <em>so faithful<\/em> when you step out and say, \u201cYes,\u201d to something that He\u2019s calling you to. He takes your five loaves and two fish, and He just expands it far beyond what you could ever dream.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; that\u2019s a great way to say it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we\u2019ve already covered, this week, the story of\u2014as the book opens up, man, you are so <em>honest!<\/em> \u2014you end up with a child, who\u2019s suicidal; you end up in an ER and then counseling. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> So where we\u2019ve already been is\u2014you realized, even through that whole thing\u2014that you were sort of parenting based on what people thought of you\/reputation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And then you have a transformation that takes place\u2014not in a day, but over time\u2014to love-centered parenting; obviously, the title of your book. What is love-centered parenting? We know what reputation-centered parenting is\u2014[Laughter]\u2014I think we\u2019ve all done it!\u2014but what\u2019s love-centered?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> For me, it really had to go back to understanding how much I\u2019m loved by God; because I don\u2019t believe that we can love our kids well if we don\u2019t believe we\u2019re loved ourselves. I think it\u2019s easy for us to say, \u201cOh, yes! I know God loves me\u201d; but do you <em>truly<\/em> believe that in the day in and day out? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen something happens, where you\u2019ve made a mistake, what are your first words to yourself?\u2014\u201cOh, I\u2019m such a failure! I\u2019m <em>always <\/em>failing!\u201d Are you constantly saying things to yourself that are derogatory, that are putting yourself down, that are <em>not <\/em>what God says about you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI realized that I carry around these lies\u2014because that\u2019s what they are\u2014that I believed of not being good enough: that I was a failure; that I was a disappointment to those closest to me. I carried those around, and those became my labels that I wore and that I led with. So in every situation\u2014when I would walk into a room, or how I was parenting, or in my marriage, or in relationships, or in my business\u2014it was all about letting those lies cloud the way that I lived. I wasn\u2019t living as loved. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think it\u2019s really\u2014I think this point is <em>huge<\/em>\u2014to come to an understanding and, even, a realization in thinking through: \u201cWhat do I think? What is my self-talk?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I gave a talk to women one time\u2014because I realized I <em>wasn\u2019t<\/em> the only one who was having this negative [thinking] like: \u201cOh, you shouldn\u2019t have done that! You\u2019re a failure!\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019re dumb,\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019re a <em>bad<\/em> mom,\u201d\u2014I took these sticky notes, and I just wrote these derogatory words; I stuck them all over myself. I said, \u201cI really didn\u2019t realize that this is what I\u2019m thinking all day long.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Other moms were saying, \u201cMe too.\u201d How did you realize this was what was happening in your mind?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Well, it really goes back to when the therapist said to me, \u201cI feel like you\u2019re trying so hard to <em>fix<\/em> your child. What would it look to <em>walk<\/em> with them instead?\u201d And I dug into where that was coming from. I realized it was: I was chasing after affirmation from other people and even from God! I felt like I <em>wasn\u2019t<\/em> enough; that was rooted in the fact that I didn\u2019t believe that I was truly loved. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd I was listening to a podcast\u2014it was the <em>Trim Healthy Mama <\/em>podcast\u2014they had a guest on. She was talking about this negative self-talk; and she said that a question she started asking herself was: \u201cHow would loved-me live?\u201d \u201cHow would loved-me act?\u201d That just <em>really<\/em> hit me; because I knew, in that moment, as I was hearing that: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI don\u2019t believe, truly to the depths of my soul, that I\u2019m loved. I can say it; but in my everyday life, how I\u2019m living, I\u2019m not living from that. So how would it change the way that I walk into a room: that I interact with other people\u2014that I <em>parent<\/em>\u2014if I believed that I am truly and whole-heartedly loved by the Creator of the universe?\u2014because I <em>am<\/em>! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd what does God say about me?\u2014He says I\u2019m redeemed; I\u2019m chosen; I\u2019m beautiful; I\u2019m forgiven; I\u2019m loved! And if I can camp in <em>that<\/em>, I don\u2019t have to be trying to get that from other people.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt completely changes the way that I <em>parent<\/em>; because then, I can just <em>rest<\/em> in God\u2019s love for me, and let His love flow out of me, to my kids; so then, if they\u2019ve made a mistake, I don\u2019t have to be thinking, \u201cOh, my goodness! What is So-and-so going to be thinking?\u201d; or playing it out in fear of how this mistake is going to affect them in the future; or be frustrated with them, because this mistake is going to really mess things up in our life.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLike I talked about, so much of the way that we parent is rooted in our pride, and our fear, and our selfishness; but I can just <em>love them <\/em>in that moment because of how much I am loved. I can let God\u2019s love flow through me to that child, and it really changes the way that I approach my child; because I\u2019m approaching them from this posture of knowing how much I am loved, resting in that love, and then loving them right where they are.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Walk us through that process\u2014because I\u2019m guessing that you didn\u2019t read a couple verses one night and: \u201cOh, I am loved!\u201d\u2014how did you replace the lies? I\u2019m guessing it took a while.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> It did; it was definitely a process. I would say it was a two-year process of, one, realizing that I was believing these lies; because you first have to <em>recognize<\/em> that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> But then, I had to replace them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was this actual process of: I would hear something in my head. A lot of times, I\u2019m doing my makeup or my hair in the morning\u2014and I\u2019d be thinking back and psychoanalyzing some conversation I\u2019d had or something that had happened\u2014and I would hear that: \u201cYou\u2019re a failure,\u201d or \u201cYou really messed that up.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTo call out first, \u201cThat\u2019s a lie!\u201d if I\u2019m believing. Now, maybe I made a mistake; maybe I need to own something. But that doesn\u2019t mean I <em>am <\/em>a mistake. Maybe I did fail in something, but that doesn\u2019t mean that I <em>am<\/em> a failure. So calling out the lie and saying, \u201cThat\u2019s a lie!\u201d I would literally, verbally say, \u201cThat\u2019s a lie.\u201d It might sound cheesy, but I think claiming that so that I am basically saying, \u201cNo! That does not have power over me. That\u2019s a lie!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen: \u201cWhat is the truth?\u201d Let\u2019s say that I had responded in anger toward my child the day before about a situation. Then, the next morning, I\u2019m thinking about it; and I\u2019m just like, \u201cUgh! I\u2019m just <em>failing<\/em> as a mom!\u201d \u201cNo; that\u2019s a lie! What is the truth? \u2018Well, yesterday, I got angry at my child; and I need to go back and ask forgiveness.\u2019 But that doesn\u2019t change the fact that I am <em>loved<\/em> by my Creator; He loves me <em>so much<\/em>! I can trust Him that He has given me everything that I need to love my child well\/to walk with my child well: \u2018I am <em>not failing <\/em>as a parent. I\u2019m going to go ask my child\u2019s forgiveness; I\u2019m going to ask God to forgive me, and I\u2019m going to <em>rest<\/em> in how much I\u2019m loved by Him.\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was a two-year process of recognizing the lies, calling out a lie, and then replacing it with the truth.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Well, what\u2019s really interesting is, you know, when you look at a title like <em>Love-Centered Parenting, <\/em>you <em>think<\/em> it\u2019s about the child: \u201cI\u2019m going to <em>love<\/em> my child.\u201d And you flipped it\u2014it\u2019s so beautiful\u2014it\u2019s like: \u201cNo, no, no\u2014obviously, you\u2019re going to love your child\u2014but you <em>can\u2019t<\/em> unless you experience and overflow the love of God\u201d; right? That\u2019s the whole idea?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes; and I think, so often, we just want to get to the quick fix.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> And really being willing to do the hard, heart work\u2014that\u2019s where the change happens!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> <em>Hard heart.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> That\u2019s good!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Because we can\u2019t, ultimately, change our kids.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> We want to! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> We <em>exhaust<\/em> ourselves, trying to be their Savior and Holy Spirit, but that\u2019s only going to leave us feeling like a failure; because we weren\u2019t called to be their Savior or their Holy Spirit. We <em>can <\/em>focus on changing, and growing, and doing that work to uproot those lies, and then <em>living<\/em> in that freedom toward our kids. I think that that is one of the most powerful things: is them seeing God\u2019s love through us! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBecause think about the example that we\u2019re setting for our kids\u2014if we say, \u201cJesus loves you; Jesus loves me. We\u2019re so loved by God,\u201d\u2014we sing about His love; we read the verses about His love; and then, on a day-to-day basis, our kids hear us speaking all this negativity toward ourselves! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> We\u2019re not setting an example of what it looks like to live as loved.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, in your book, you talk about life-giving choices that we make as love-centered parents. Let\u2019s talk about those a little bit.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And I love it, because I\u2019m a preacher, and they all start with the letter \u201cL\u201d; [Laughter] so it works for me!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; the first one you talk about is \u201cLean in and love.\u201d Is this what you\u2019re talking about?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes; so for me, it\u2019s when there\u2019s a situation that you need to address on the micro-level or the macro-level. We can take these life-giving choices instead of trying to fix our child; because I think that\u2019s <em>so much<\/em> of what we <em>want<\/em> to go to\u2014you know, just that bubble wrapping, that over-protecting,\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> \u2014that fixing our kids\u2014so what <em>can<\/em> we do? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn the book, I talk about: \u201cLean in and love,\u201d \u201cListen well,\u201d \u201cLead with humility,\u201d and \u201cLet go.\u201d All of those four choices are things that [are] not dependent upon our child\u2019s behavior; they\u2019re not dependent upon our child\u2019s choices; they\u2019re not dependent upon the end result. They\u2019re just about our heart and how we walk with our kids. This has <em>really<\/em> changed things for me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd it was interesting, because when I was writing this book, I actually asked on Instagram<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>\u2014I\u2019m The Money Saving Mom on Instagram\u2014and I asked on my Instagram stories for people to fill in the blank: \u201cMy job as a parent is to <em>blank<\/em>.\u201d I got hundreds, and hundreds, and hundreds of responses. I would say that 98-99 percent of the responses are things that, ultimately, you have no control over as a parent. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Like what? Give us some examples.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> So: \u201cMy job, as a parent, is to raise kids, who have strong character,\u201d \u201c\u2026who get great jobs,\u201d and \u201c\u2026who go to heaven.\u201d I mean, when we start thinking about it, a lot of times, that\u2019s how we <em>view<\/em> our job as a parent: is to be their Savior and the Holy Spirit! [Laughter] So no wonder we\u2019re walking around, feeling so exhausted and burdened; because we\u2019re trying to be God in their life. We can\u2019t control! We can set a great example for them; we can talk with them; we can, you know, give them opportunities to learn these things; but we can\u2019t change our kids\u2019 hearts. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor me, it was thinking, \u201cWhat <em>can <\/em>I do?\u201d \u201cWell, I can lean in and love; I can listen well; I can lead with humility; and ultimately, let go.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes\u2014that listening well\u2014I know that when our son was, I think he was 28\u2014when he came back to me; and he said, \u201cMom, I really wish that, when I was in high school, you would have listened to what was going on in my life, deeper in my heart.\u201d I was like, \u201cWhat do you mean?\u201d He said, \u201cI just feel like you were so concerned with what I wasn\u2019t or was doing, in terms of partying, in terms of girls, in terms of who I was hanging out with. I feel like you were lecturing me so much about that; but you weren\u2019t wondering, like, \u2018Why are you so tempted here?\u2019 \u2018What\u2019s going on in your heart that you want to be accepted by anyone?\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember going to bed that night, thinking, \u201cOh, he\u2019s so right,\u201d because I was parenting out of fear. I think, if I had it to do again, I would do that: I would lean in and love, and I would listen well. Now, I don\u2019t know if he would have had the capacity, at that time, to say, \u201cOh, well, my heart is so torn; because I want to be loved by people.\u201d I\u2019m not sure he could have gone there\u2014but I think just to put aside the rules, the regulations, what he was or wasn\u2019t doing appropriately\u2014I wish I would have just connected more with his heart.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; and you know, as I\u2019m looking at\u2014you had ten practical ways to lean in and love\u2014you\u2019ve already said, really, the idea of it\u2014but one of it was just simple: \u201cStop, look, and listen. [Laughter] They don\u2019t need our productivity.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> It\u2019s the fire drill!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes! I mean, \u201cStop, look, and listen.\u201d They don\u2019t need our productivity; they need our presence. That\u2019s what, you know, one of our sons was saying to you; he said it to me as well. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think it\u2019s <em>so easy <\/em>as a parent: you get so busy; you <em>are <\/em>concerned about their behavior\u2014right or wrong, you are; and it\u2019s part of our job\u2014but man, oh man! They really do long just to <em>be<\/em>; right? We\u2019ve sort of got to figure out ways to <em>be<\/em>, sometimes, when they\u2019re teenagers; they\u2019re pulling away. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s like\u2014you know, I remember with my sons\u2014I knew what they were interested in; so if I wanted to spend time with them, all I had to do was connect to that interest: \u201cHey, CJ! You want to go to Best Buy<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>?\u201d \u201cYes!\u201d\u2014you know\u2014\u201cAre you going to buy me something?\u201d\u2014because he was a tech guy; each one was different. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was real easy, as a dad, to pull back\u2014because they were pulling away, which they obviously <em>should<\/em>\u2014but the other side is like: \u201cNo; pursue, pursue, pursue in their sort of world,\u201d because they may not be saying it or showing it, but they really do <em>long<\/em> for your presence; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes; well, I think, you know, when we\u2019re pursuing from a heart of wanting them to know how much we value them, wanting them to know how much we care about them; but it\u2019s not pursuing them to be like: \u201cChecking up on you!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> \u201cAre you doing the right thing?\u201d; you know.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> \u201cAre you following the rules?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> They\u2019ll sniff that out.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> But pursuing them: \u201cI just want to be with you,\u201d \u201cI just want to sit with you.\u201d I think as our kids get older, I\u2019ve just noticed\u2014just going and sitting with them\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> \u2014or like you talked about\u2014\u201cYou know, what\u2019s something\u2026\u201d One of my daughters <em>loves <\/em>to shop. I am <em>not <\/em>a shopper!\u2014I mean, \u201cHello! Money Saving Mom\u2014[Laughter]\u2014that\u2019s not my thing! She loves to go to the mall; and so to just say, \u201cHey, do you want to go to the mall with me?\u201d We didn\u2019t have to buy anything!\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> She\u2019s going to say, \u201cYes.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> \u2014just <em>being <\/em>together. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFood is another thing; when they\u2019re teenagers, it\u2019s like\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> \u2014I feel like <em>any <\/em>time you\u2019re like: \u201cTaco Bell<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>?\u201d Sonic<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>?\u201d\u2014whatever\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> \u2014you know, just say, \u201cHey, do you want to go get something?\u201d It speaks love to them, and so looking for those ways. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo many times, I\u2019m talking to moms, and they\u2019ll say, \u201cI just don\u2019t know how to connect with my child; we have <em>no<\/em> interests that overlap.\u201d Don\u2019t look for the interests that overlap; you <em>go get interested<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014in their world.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> \u2014in what they\u2019re interested in. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m learning how to play \u201cRocket Leap\u201d right now; I\u2019m terrible at it\/<em>terrible<\/em> at it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> What is this?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> It\u2019s a video game\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> \u2014with my son. I\u2019m horrible at it! But his friends now want to play with me, [Laughter] even though I\u2019m so terrible. I think it\u2019s just because it\u2019s like: \u201cOh, this cool thing! Your mom\u2019s going to play with us?\u201d But just to be able to step into his world. Now, when he\u2019s talking about that, I can understand it more. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe were talking about some baseball thing earlier that I actually knew something about. I don\u2019t play baseball; but I watch the YouTube videos with my son, and I learn these things. So then, he can come to me and share something; and I\u2019m like, \u201cOh, yes! I know what you\u2019re talking about,\u201d because, even though it\u2019s not something that is my interest, I\u2019ve become interested in it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt feels like it can take so much time\u2014but even just checking in with them, and stepping into their world, and caring about what they care about\u2014it\u2019s like you\u2019re making these little deposits\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Crystal:<\/strong> \u2014into relationship. Then they start coming to you, and they start telling you things, and just offering up information when you didn\u2019t even ask\/that you didn\u2019t even know anything about; because you\u2019ve set that place where they feel secure with you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; it\u2019s funny\u2014the other day, I don\u2019t know if you remember this [Ann]\u2014something came up in our photos, you know, three years ago\/ten years ago. Remember?\u2014the picture came up of me playing dodgeball\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014with one of my sons in this tournament; I think he was in middle school. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> No, he was in high school.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> He was in high school, but it was early high school. I have a headband on; I\u2019m painted up. I mean, I just look like an old man trying to be [cool]. And you [Ann] were like, \u201cWhat were you doing?\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cThere it is!\u201d\u2014I was doing what Crystal said; I was leaning in and loving him\u2014I mean, really, it was one of those things, where he said, \u201cDad, play with us.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014because he knows you\u2019re really good at it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> There\u2019s a part of\u2014a lot of dads would say, \u201cNo, that\u2019s your thing; you should do it.\u201d And I get it!\u2014there are times where it is their thing\u2014but it was one of those: \u201cNo, this is probably a memory worth pursuing\u201d; and it was!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, it\u2019s interesting, too, as you were talking, Crystal, I thought, just like you, Dave, of the hundreds of rebound basketballs I threw back to my son out in the driveway. We would just talk, and then his friends would come over, and I\u2019m rebounding for all of them. [Laughter] And then we would go out to lunch; and in that lunch time, I remember purposely thinking, \u201cI\u2019m only going to speak life into him. I\u2019m going to tell him how great he is. I\u2019m going to tell him the gifts that he has. I\u2019m going to tell him how I anticipate how God\u2019s going to use him.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was always interesting\u2014as teenagers, I could feel a distance\u2014but after that time of being in their world, and then kind of just speaking life over them, I felt like we were reconnected. And isn\u2019t that what our kids long for? And that\u2019s what <em>we<\/em> long for as parents.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, and I would just say: \u201cMom,\u201d or \u201cDad, go shopping today with your kid,\u201d \u201cGo rebound some balls.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cPlay video games.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u201cGo play dodgeball, video games,\u201d\u2014whatever it is. You know, we\u2019re old enough to know that you\u2019re going to blink, and they\u2019re gone. You really are going to blink and you\u2019re like, \u201c<em>Where<\/em> did the time go?\u201d You have today or this week; I would just say, \u201cGet it done.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s great coaching from Dave and Ann Wilson today, along with our guest, Crystal Paine, talking about our involvement in our kids\u2019 lives. When was the last time you had one-on-one time with one of your children where you weren\u2019t correcting them?\u2014where you were affirming them, encouraging them, cheering them on, asking them questions about their lives. All of us, as parents, need to be making that investment; because as Dave Wilson just said, we blink; and they are gone.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere\u2019s a <em>great<\/em> resource that Crystal Paine has written to help us, as parents, think about how we can intentionally love our kids; it\u2019s a book called <em>Love-Centered Parenting<\/em>. It\u2019s a book we\u2019re making available this week to <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>listeners. Those of you who\u2019d like a copy, if you can help us with a donation to support the ongoing work of this ministry, we\u2019d love to send you a copy of Crystal\u2019s book.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>is here to provide practical biblical help and hope for your marriage and your family. Every day, there are hundreds of thousands of people, who are coming to us, looking for biblical answers to the questions they\u2019re facing, looking for encouragement and fresh hope. And you make that possible for yourself and for others when you support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019re a long-time listener, and you\u2019ve never made a donation, or if it\u2019s been a while since you supported this ministry, reach out to us today. Make a donation online at FamilyLifeToday.com, or call to donate at 1-800-FL-TODAY. Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com; our number is 1-800-358-6329; 1-800-FL-TODAY. Be sure to ask for your copy of Crystal Paine\u2019s book, <em>Love-Centered Parenting, <\/em>when you get in touch with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, Dave and Ann Wilson will continue the conversation with Crystal Paine, talking about what it looks like when our love for our children has to get tough. I mean, that\u2019s part of parenting; right? Sometimes, we\u2019ve got to get tough with them; so what is that tough love supposed to look like? We\u2019ll hear from them tomorrow about that. I hope you can be with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOn behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. 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