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It could be even after we were married, because I\u2019ve got one.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Okay, what\u2019s yours?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I\u2019m Ann Wilson.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> And I\u2019m Dave Wilson, and you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com or on our FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> app.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> I\u2019m thinking of the time we went to watch our youngest son, Cody, play college football in Illinois. You know what I\u2019m talking about; right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> And we\u2019re driving back. You yell at me in the car and say, \u201cYou\u2019re the biggest jerk.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I said, \u201cYou have been the biggest idiot to me the entire day.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, she actually said, \u201cYou have been a jerk to me all day.\u201d The reason was\u2014I was\/I was an absolute angry, impatient\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> The worst part is that we had to do a message at Kensington on stage on marriage the next day.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Oh, man.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> I actually thought, \u201cShe may not even come up with me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> We didn\u2019t even conclude the argument until we were on the stage the next day.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, that was fun; the congregation got to watch.<\/p>\n<p>But anyway, here we are! We\u2019ve got us an expert on dating. JP Pokluda wrote a book\u2014he is a pastor in Waco of Harris Creek Baptist Church\u2014and he wrote a book called <em>Outdated<\/em>. It\u2019s all about how to do dating right.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure, JP, you\u2019ve never had a date fail.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> JP, welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes, so glad to be here with you guys. I <em>love<\/em>\/I love being with you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> I bet you are! You\u2019re like, \u201cWhat did I just step into?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> No; yes, why don\u2019t we go back to that conflict and work through that? [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p>No, I\u2019ve had\/the reason I wrote a book on dating is because I feel and believe I did it all wrong. I did all the wrong ways; I made all the mistakes; I paid all the dummy tax. [Laughter] And then I found the Scripture; and then I learned to trust God; and now, I\u2019ve found life in Him. I\u2019ve tried to write down some best practices.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, the subtitle is <em>Find Love That Lasts When Dating Has Changed<\/em>. It\u2019s so hard to date today. Guys aren\u2019t asking girls out. They feel like girls are always saying, \u201cNo.\u201d There is passivity amongst the men that kind of marks the dating world. You have the whole technology issue of: \u201cHey, should I do dating apps? Should I not?\u201d You have compatibility tests and personality tests.<\/p>\n<p>Yet, we\u2019re\/as we\u2019re look for marriage, marriages aren\u2019t lasting. We are getting married less, or we\u2019re getting married later. People that are going on dates are like: \u201cHow do I know what I know?\u201d and \u201cHow do I find love?\u201d There are just all these angsts. There is just a lot of angst that marks single people today, especially in the church. I believe this book could change the landscape of dating as we know it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> There really aren\u2019t a lot\u2014maybe, I\u2019m uninformed\u2014but a lot of resources to help. I know when we started dating, I never had a conversation with my mom, or my dad, or any mentor to say: \u201cHow do you date?\u201d\/\u201cHow do you date well?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, even biblically, what does it look like for a <em>believer<\/em> to date?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> There are more resources than have ever existed before but not great resources and certainly not biblical resources. You have more technology, more dating apps, matchmakers\/professional matchmakers, things that exist to help you find your <em>perfect person<\/em>\u2014that\u2019s part of the problem, because that\u2019s what people are looking for\u2014and yet, there\u2019s just so much angst out there.<\/p>\n<p>I think this book will be helpful to anybody, who is single\u2014whether you\u2019ve never had a prospect; whether you are in a date\/you\u2019re kind of dating around\/you are dating different people; you\u2019re in a serious relationship; or you\u2019re engaged\u2014I think it\u2019s going to be helpful; or if you are a parent of an adult\/you have adult children that you would love to help in this area of relationships.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, one of the things you said you do\u2014is this every week?\u2014you take questions?<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes; that\u2019s right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> So people email you; they contact you. How does that go?<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes, so I do that on Instagram<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. There is a feature in the stories where you can ask a question. I\u2019ll get over 2,000 questions\/around 2,000 questions every Friday; and I\u2019ll answer about 100 of those, somewhere between 50 to 100 of those.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Well, we\u2019re only going to give you <em>one<\/em> today.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Okay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> We\u2019ve got a caller waiting to talk to you. His name is John; right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>John:<\/strong> Correct.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> John, you out there?<\/p>\n<p><strong>John:<\/strong> I am.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> You\u2019ve got a question for JP; let\u2019s hear it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>John:<\/strong> Yes; JP, I\u2019ll share a little bit of this story before I launch into the question. Last year, living in Dallas, Texas, one of my best friends is dating a godly woman from South Dakota. I\u2019m from South Dakota originally. I just asked this godly woman, that my best friend is dating, \u201cHey, are there any godly women from South Dakota, where I\u2019m from originally, that I missed, and I have overlooked, and I should be pursuing?\u201d She said, \u201cWell, John, there\u2019s this girl\u201d\u2014I\u2019ll just call her Jamie for this story\u2019s sake\u2014\u201cThere is this girl named Jamie that I really think you should pursue.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>After an Instagram DM\u2014which I guess is, maybe, pointing to our culture\u2014me and Jamie swapped numbers. We started texting. In February, my roommate from South Dakota in Dallas said, \u201cHey, my girlfriend is coming down. Would you mind if Jamie comes down that you might meet her for the first time?\u201d She ended up coming down\u2014this is a Thursday, Friday, Saturday\u2014then they were driving back Sunday. It wasn\u2019t just a date, but it was a weekend.<\/p>\n<p>Thursday, after work, I show up with flowers at my coworkers house, which is where these two girls are staying. I mean, she opens the door. We hug\u2014like, it just kicks off from there\u2014we had a great night. I drop her back off for the night. I get back to my roommate that night\/same night as the date. I said, \u201cDude, she\u2019s amazing; but I just don\u2019t think we\u2019re aligned in the same way. She\u2019s got a heart for Haiti, and I just don\u2019t see myself being in Haiti in the near future. She\u2019s living currently in South Dakota, and I\u2019m living currently in Dallas. I just don\u2019t think we are running in the same lane. Though she loves the Lord, and though she is really cool, I just don\u2019t think I\u2019m going to pursue her.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>We went into Friday. Friday, we have a date night as a group. I struggled to make eye contact with her; and the whole night, she is just grabbing for attention in any way and every way. I\u2019m just like so internally conflicted to the point where we\u2019re going to get Krispy Kreme after dinner, just me and her. We get in the car; she goes, \u201cWhat was up with you tonight?\u201d Man, on the way to Krispy Kreme, I just start divulging my heart: \u201cHey, I don\u2019t plan to pursue you. I think you\u2019re amazing.\u201d I\u2019m affirming, and I\u2019m affirming; I\u2019m trying to share a hard truth of like, \u201cBut I don\u2019t think I\u2019m going to pursue you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>At this point, she is in tears; and we\u2019re parked in the Krispy Kreme parking lot. She\u2019s going, \u201cOh, so you do this all the time; huh? You lead a girl on just to break her heart.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cI\u2019m trying to be kind. I\u2019m trying to be loving.\u201d I\u2019m like\u2014after an hour of crying\u2014I\u2019m like, \u201cDo you still want Krispy Kreme?\u201d She\u2019s like, \u201cNo; not really.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The next day\u2014this is where the story really takes a turn\u2014she said, \u201cHey, first night, Thursday night was great because we were in person. Second night was awful, because we were in a group setting.\u201d We had planned to go down to Waco, to Magnolia Market, as a group, on Saturday. She said, \u201cI don\u2019t want to be in a group with you; I just want to be with you, one on one.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m like, \u201cYes; right. I\u2019ve already wrecked this girl\u2019s weekend; if I say, \u2018No,\u2019 to this, what is she going to do?!\u201d We spent 12 hours together on Saturday: we go to brunch; we go hiking; we go to a Goodwill; and a church service on Saturday\u2014all to end that night\u2014she goes, \u201cHey, John, I\u2019ve been a jerk to you all day. All day I just badger you: \u2018You do this to every girl; huh? Who do you think you are working within a ministry? I thought you were a man of God,\u2019\u201d\u2014all of these things. She gets to the end, and we\u2019re at dinner; she goes, \u201cDude, I\u2019ve been a jerk to you.\u201d We just reconcile on the last night, Saturday; but then, we make a commitment to not talk to each other for a week.<\/p>\n<p>She ends up going back to South Dakota, and she calls me. I\u2019m like, \u201cWhat are you doing?! Don\u2019t call me.\u201d I text her, \u201cI thought we weren\u2019t going to talk.\u201d She calls me again, and I ended up just having to remove her number and unfriend her. It just felt so <em>wrong<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>This is my question, JP: \u201cI tried to set healthy expectations, but where did I go wrong?\u201d\u2014that\u2019s the question.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes, man. Thank you for being vulnerable with us. I thought you were going to ask, \u201cShould we have gotten Krispy Kreme or not?\u201d [Laughter] That\u2019s where I thought you were going.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> The answer is always, \u201cYes!\u201d [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> I thought it was going light-hearted; but yes, is there anything\/do you have anything that you wish you had done differently as you replay that story? I mean, is there something that comes to mind that you\u2019ve been kind of sitting on, like, \u201cMan, I really wish I would have done this differently\u2026\u201d?<\/p>\n<p><strong>John:<\/strong> As weird as this sounds, in reflection, I think the one thing I wish I would have done differently is not allow my coworkers to speak as much into the situation as they did.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>John:<\/strong> I remember gathering around a table before she came down. They were all like, \u201cThis would be amazing,\u201d \u201cThis would be amazing,\u201d \u201cThis would be amazing.\u201d I\u2019m just like I\u2019m almost riding this euphoric high of other people\u2019s praise\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> That\u2019s right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>John:<\/strong> \u2014in trying to date in community. I\u2019m like, \u201cCome on down.\u201d I just don\u2019t know if it was the right timing.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes, a few things come to mind. That\u2019s one of them; I think setting that kind of level of expectation and pressure on a date\u2014and that\u2019s why I think we need to hit the pressure release valve\u2014like, \u201cMan, we\u2019re\/it\u2019s just coffee. We\u2019re just hanging out, just a guy and a girl. We don\u2019t know if we\u2019re building a friendship or a marriage. We have no idea, but I hope it\u2019s one of those two.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Could you imagine\/like what if God never made our hearts to be broken? What if He didn\u2019t create our hearts to be broken in the way that they are through relationships that He meant for us to stay friends until we had some idea that this might be marriage? I think that\u2019s more biblically aligned than the way that we date today. I think that\u2019s probably the first thing: is just the expectations and the pressure that was placed on the weekend.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> So should he have said that?\u2014\u201cHey, let\u2019s just make this clear of what this weekend is going to be about.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes, yes; \u201cThis is two friends hanging out. That\u2019s what this is. I think, by the end of two friends hanging out, we might determine if we want to try to date long distance; but right now, here is where we are at.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Then, too, I think the second that you\u2014that whole love must be sincere, Romans 12:9\u2014that when you had those thoughts, \u201cI don\u2019t know what to do because we have the entire weekend,\u201d I think, at that point, you could just be really honest. I always think honesty\u2014you can say all the things in a kind way\u2014hold onto that; say all the things in a kind way. So whatever you are thinking, you\u2019re like\u2014she senses something is off\u2014say, \u201cHey, as we go into today, I want you to know what I\u2019m thinking and how I\u2019m feeling. I\u2019d still love to spend time with you. What I don\u2019t want to do is lead you on. Here is my fear\u2026\u201d Just begin to have those conversations as early as you possibly can.<\/p>\n<p>The third one is almost a contradiction to that a little bit\u2014is also you can think, \u201cLike I don\u2019t know; I don\u2019t know if one time with a person is going to be enough for me to determine whether I should spend the rest of my life with them or not. I don\u2019t feel like we are aligned, but I can still go at this with a little bit more curiosity.\u201d But you can\u2019t do that if you go back to the first thing I said\u2014if there is that much pressure on the relationship\u2014where it is like, \u201cOh, I\u2019ve got to figure out if this is <em>the one<\/em> or not.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Those are some thoughts. Then I also think there is a red flag when she says, \u201cHey, I don\u2019t want to hang out with you in a group; I want to hang out with you, one on one.\u201d My sense is that\u2019s some control kicking in. She\u2019s still clinging to: \u201cNo, I\u2019m still hoping.\u201d Even in the way that you described the\u2014\u201cI can\u2019t believe you always do this. You do this with all these girls?\u201d\u2014that\u2019s a game. I think that is her being playful and a defense mechanism on her part.<\/p>\n<p>I just\/that we learn to date the wrong way. Love must be sincere; let\u2019s not play games. Let\u2019s just turn our thoughts into words and be honest with each other.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Here is another question in terms of honesty. Let\u2019s say you\u2019re pursuing one another toward marriage. It looks like you are, maybe, going to get married. How honest should you be with your future spouse about your sexual past or big mistakes you\u2019ve made in the past? Do you just leave them in the past, or do you bring complete honesty? Is there a balance?<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> It\u2019s a big question; I get asked a lot: \u201cWhen?\u201d and \u201cHow much should I share?\u201d On the <em>when<\/em>, it\u2019s what you said when you believe this is going toward marriage\u2014right?\u2014you want to begin to have those conversations. You want to share everything they want to know. In regards to saying all the things, another thought that I had is you want to know yourself. If you\u2019re a little bit of an emotional roller coaster, I think it\u2019s unloving to pull somebody through all of those ups and downs. Like if your feelings are changing like the wind blows, take some time to figure out, \u201cOkay, what do I <em>really<\/em> feel?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t want to be, like at the beginning of the date, like: \u201cHey, I don\u2019t think I like you anymore,\u201d \u201cYou know what? I think I was wrong; actually, I think I\u2019m in love with you. Do you want to marry me?\u201d \u201cNo, hold on; I don\u2019t think we should ever see each other.\u201d Push pause; take a deep breath and figure out, \u201cOkay, how do I feel?\u201d Sometimes, we don\u2019t <em>know<\/em>; we just need space to really figure out, \u201cHow do I feel?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Then I\u2019ll say something a little bit controversial to that is: \u201cHow important is how you feel?\u201d That\u2019s where you\/I think you want to have some amount of logic that trumps even the way that we feel; because feelings are real, but they are not always reliable. Sometimes, they lead us in the wrong directions; so just know and understand: \u201cHey, how important are my feelings?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, speaking of that, when we talk about: \u201cDon\u2019t give your heart away too soon,\u201d I think people are like: \u201cWhat does that mean? What do you think that looks like? Should I protect my heart? Should I give my heart away?\u201d I mean, that was a big thing in the \u201890s, maybe.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes, I do think there\u2019s a danger of emotional promiscuity; and so promiscuity doesn\u2019t have to be physical. It can be the late-night \u201cme-too\u2019s,\u201d long, lingering intimate conversations that begin to pull your heart a direction.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s similar to the question that John asked earlier, where it just sounded like, after that first date, like she was all the way there, like, \u201cMan, this is great; I can\u2019t believe this is so real.\u201d It\u2019s because of all those expectations that others have placed on that \u201crelationship.\u201d I say relationship in quotes because it was one date; right? I do think we just want to <em>watch<\/em> that.<\/p>\n<p>What I see a lot in dating couples today\u2014and even friendships\u2014is people are playing married. You get the late-night text at 11:30: \u201cGood night, sweetie; I love you\u201d; just two friends talking, but they are meeting an emotional need that they were never meant to meet. So be careful; don\u2019t play married. Let marriage be marriage; let dating be dating; and let singleness be singleness. Everything for a season is a gift; be aware what gift you are in.<\/p>\n<p>I would just say of those three, guys, dating is the least fun. Like marriage is a lot of fun; it\u2019s amazing\u2014your ministry strengthens\/you can go and be together and strengthen ministry; have children; you can have sex; you experience intimacy\u2014marriage is a lot of fun.<\/p>\n<p>Singleness is a lot of fun. You can, in an uninhibited way, build the kingdom. You can go places. If I\u2019m like, \u201cHey, I\u2019ve got a helicopter outside, and I\u2019m looking for people who can go into Syria and build the church for the next year; all of your needs are going to be met, but you have to go within an hour,\u201d who could I take? Mostly single people\u2014a lot of married people would be like, \u201cWell, I\u2019ve got soccer practice on Thursday,\u201d\u2014singleness can be fun.<\/p>\n<p>Dating is like marriage without the benefits; it\u2019s the interview. Like no one wants to stay in the job interview; you want to get the job. That\u2019s why I say: \u201cDate with a purpose; date with intentionality; and date for as short as you possibly can.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> One thing we haven\u2019t talked about and would love to hear your perspective\u2014and you mention it in the book toward the end\u2014is just the whole purity\/sexual purity part of dating and how to do it God\u2019s way. How would you speak to a single person about that?<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> People will ask\/the way the question can come at times is: \u201cHow far is too far?\u201d You know, we try to break this down: \u201cWell, what kind of sex can I have? Is sexting wrong? Kissing? Can we make out? What is okay?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I would say, \u201cUnderstand that you were\/male and female were made to come together and that God invented sex. It was His creation; it is good; He invented it. He made it what it is, but He put it in a place in the covenant of marriage. Outside of that marriage, it\u2019s dangerous.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t think\/a lot of single people don\u2019t realize that what they are doing is just foreplay. Their body is preparing for sex, but then it doesn\u2019t get to go there; that door is closed. That is unloving\/that\u2019s one of the most unloving things that you could do for someone. Yet, we do that with someone that we say we \u201clove.\u201d That\u2019s where I would say the line is: \u201cWhen your body begins to prepare for sex, you\u2019ve gone too far. You want to stay away from that line.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Paul says, in 1 Corinthians 7, \u201cIt\u2019s better to marry than to burn with passion.\u201d You want to get married; right?\u2014that\u2019s the: \u201cDon\u2019t marry someone who doesn\u2019t love Jesus,\u201d\u2014all of the things that we\u2019ve talked about\u2014but know that sex and intimacy is for marriage. I would recommend\/1 Corinthians 6 says: \u201cFlee sexual immorality. All the sins that a person commits are outside the body; but whoever sins sexually sins against their own body.\u201d He says, \u201cOur bodies are the temples of the Holy Spirit.\u201d So as you run toward Jesus, you are running <em>from<\/em> sexually immorality. So run toward Jesus; if you have that there, it solves <em>so<\/em> many problems that you can make.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> So talk to the person that has just done it all wrong\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014like even physical intimacy; they\u2019ve done it all wrong. What\u2019s their hope?<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> So I\u2019m talking to me. I\u2019m talking to me, circa 2000 and 2001. I would just say, \u201cThat\u2019s the beauty of the grace of the gospel. God is no longer holding our sins against us. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ. God delights to show mercy. He enjoys showing us mercy.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>As you repent\u2014and what repenting is: turning from your sin and turning toward God\u2014He can heal you. There is also confession. James 5:16 says that there is a healing that comes through confessing to other believers and with prayer. But continue to pursue Christ. Surround yourself with other believers. You continue to confess; continue to pray regularly. Remove access from toxic behavior, from toxic people, from websites, from social media sites that trip you up; remove access to them.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou\u2019re going to be fine; you\u2019re going to be okay,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s what I would tell you. It starts with Jesus. Look to Jesus, confess your sins, embrace the message of the gospel\u2014that He has paid for your sins\u2014that\u2019s what the gospel is; the gospel is not for the perfect person. Jesus is a Savior. In His job description, He is really, really good at saving sinners. So if you\u2019re a sinner and you turn to Him, Jesus is enough.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> I would just conclude with\u2014I\u2019m sitting here beside Ann, 40 years married, three kids, six grandkids, 40 years of ministry\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014from day one of our marriage, the reason we are sitting here, beside each other, is we actually did the dating process God\u2019s way.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Again, not perfectly; but man, oh, man, it was like everything that you\u2019ve written about in your book, we didn\u2019t have yet.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Thank God it\u2019s out there now for someone to get.<\/p>\n<p>It was God\u2019s Word applied to our relationship; and here we sit. Again, we\u2019re not\u2014it\u2019s not like a guarantee you\u2019re going to have the marriage and ministry we have\u2014but because we did it His way, we sit here with a legacy we would have never been able to produce on ourselves; God did that.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I would add this, too, Dave\u2014is even if you didn\u2019t start like that\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014it\u2019s never too late.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> That\u2019s our story.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> We started wrong; but when I\u2019m with you guys, I think the mistake that your listeners will make is: \u201cOh, that\u2019s good for them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> \u201cThat\u2019s not available for me.\u201d I would just say, \u201cIt is!\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> It is for <em>all<\/em> of us.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> You can do what they did; and I mean, now, books are written about it. There are radio shows about the\u2014it\u2019s a renowned love\u2014because it was built on Christ. Monica and I did everything wrong\u2014and I mean just about everything wrong\u2014but when Christ came in, and we began to build our marriage on Christ\u2014we have scars\/like there are hurts there\u2014but what we have is something beautiful, now, too.<\/p>\n<p>If you desire marriage, that\u2019s available to you; but also finding that in your singleness, and a complete life in singleness, is also available to you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bob:<\/strong> Ultimately, our contentment is not found in our circumstances. The Apostle Paul in Philippians 4 said, \u201cI\u2019ve learned the secret of being content whether I have plenty or whether I have want, whether I am free or in prison.\u201d He could have said, \u201cI\u2019ve found the secret of contentment, whether I am single or married.\u201d The secret of contentment is our relationship with Christ and finding our strength and hope in Him.<\/p>\n<p>Dave and Ann Wilson have been talking today to Jonathan Pokluda, the author of a book called <em>Outdated<\/em>. We\u2019ve got Jonathan\u2019s book in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You can go online at FamilyLifeToday.com to get a copy.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe, you are married; but you know somebody who is single or dating. Maybe, you want to go through a book like this with your teenager or pass it on to your college-age son or daughter\/a young adult you know. In fact, there is a young man at our church, who I gave this book to a few weeks back; and he has thanked me for his copy. You can order Jonathan Pokluda\u2019s book, <em>Outdated<\/em>. Go to FamilyLifeToday.com to order it or call 1-800-358-6329; 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I know that most of us, who have been listening to Dave and Ann Wilson\u2019s conversation with Jonathan Pokluda today, are not in a season where we\u2019re dating; but we probably know somebody who is. David Robbins, who is the president of FamilyLife, is here with me. David, even if this is not the season we\u2019re in, we have an opportunity to help someone, who is in this season\/help them avoid the minefields; right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>David:<\/strong> Absolutely. One of the things I <em>love<\/em> about the conversation is that it believes in the next generation. It calls forth the next generation, just like Psalm 145 says, \u201cOne generation commends Your works to another. They tell of Your mighty acts\u2026\u201d so that the gospel continues go forth, generation after generation. My own son, Ford\u2014his most recent book that I gave him was <em>Outdated<\/em> by JP\u2014because it set such a great foundation.<\/p>\n<p>I just feel like we need to be thinking about\u2014whether it is your own teenagers, or grandkids that you have; whether it is someone at work that\u2019s in the dating scene\u2014\u201cHow can you believe in them? How can you invest in them? How can you pour your life into them?\u201d and \u201cHow can you pray for them?\u2014and have the conversations to keep helping them navigate the unique season they are in.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I just want to encourage you, right now, to whomever came to mind, when I was thinking about either a teenager or a young adult in your life, take a moment as we close and pray for them right now.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; and then maybe just send them a note, an email, a text, and say, \u201cI want you to know I was thinking about you this week. I prayed for you; I know you\u2019re in a <em>challenging<\/em> season.\u201d Maybe, get them a copy of JP\u2019s book, <em>Outdated<\/em>, and give that to them as a gift. Speak into their lives and point them toward Christ. That\u2019s a good word, David. Thank you for that.<\/p>\n<p>We hope you have a great weekend. 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How honest should I be about my past with my future spouse?... Jonathan \"JP\" Pokluda addresses questions along the path to a promise.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylife.com\/fl2021-07-09.pdf","transcript_content":"<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Okay; tell me if you can remember a really, really, really bad date with me.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> No.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> No?!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> No.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> I\u2019m not talking about before we were married. It could be even after we were married, because I\u2019ve got one.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Okay, what\u2019s yours?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I\u2019m Ann Wilson.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> And I\u2019m Dave Wilson, and you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com or on our FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> app.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> I\u2019m thinking of the time we went to watch our youngest son, Cody, play college football in Illinois. You know what I\u2019m talking about; right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> And we\u2019re driving back. You yell at me in the car and say, \u201cYou\u2019re the biggest jerk.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I said, \u201cYou have been the biggest idiot to me the entire day.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, she actually said, \u201cYou have been a jerk to me all day.\u201d The reason was\u2014I was\/I was an absolute angry, impatient\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> The worst part is that we had to do a message at Kensington on stage on marriage the next day.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Oh, man.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> I actually thought, \u201cShe may not even come up with me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> We didn\u2019t even conclude the argument until we were on the stage the next day.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, that was fun; the congregation got to watch.<\/p>\n<p>But anyway, here we are! We\u2019ve got us an expert on dating. JP Pokluda wrote a book\u2014he is a pastor in Waco of Harris Creek Baptist Church\u2014and he wrote a book called <em>Outdated<\/em>. It\u2019s all about how to do dating right.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure, JP, you\u2019ve never had a date fail.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> JP, welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes, so glad to be here with you guys. I <em>love<\/em>\/I love being with you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> I bet you are! You\u2019re like, \u201cWhat did I just step into?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> No; yes, why don\u2019t we go back to that conflict and work through that? [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p>No, I\u2019ve had\/the reason I wrote a book on dating is because I feel and believe I did it all wrong. I did all the wrong ways; I made all the mistakes; I paid all the dummy tax. [Laughter] And then I found the Scripture; and then I learned to trust God; and now, I\u2019ve found life in Him. I\u2019ve tried to write down some best practices.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, the subtitle is <em>Find Love That Lasts When Dating Has Changed<\/em>. It\u2019s so hard to date today. Guys aren\u2019t asking girls out. They feel like girls are always saying, \u201cNo.\u201d There is passivity amongst the men that kind of marks the dating world. You have the whole technology issue of: \u201cHey, should I do dating apps? Should I not?\u201d You have compatibility tests and personality tests.<\/p>\n<p>Yet, we\u2019re\/as we\u2019re look for marriage, marriages aren\u2019t lasting. We are getting married less, or we\u2019re getting married later. People that are going on dates are like: \u201cHow do I know what I know?\u201d and \u201cHow do I find love?\u201d There are just all these angsts. There is just a lot of angst that marks single people today, especially in the church. I believe this book could change the landscape of dating as we know it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> There really aren\u2019t a lot\u2014maybe, I\u2019m uninformed\u2014but a lot of resources to help. I know when we started dating, I never had a conversation with my mom, or my dad, or any mentor to say: \u201cHow do you date?\u201d\/\u201cHow do you date well?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, even biblically, what does it look like for a <em>believer<\/em> to date?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> There are more resources than have ever existed before but not great resources and certainly not biblical resources. You have more technology, more dating apps, matchmakers\/professional matchmakers, things that exist to help you find your <em>perfect person<\/em>\u2014that\u2019s part of the problem, because that\u2019s what people are looking for\u2014and yet, there\u2019s just so much angst out there.<\/p>\n<p>I think this book will be helpful to anybody, who is single\u2014whether you\u2019ve never had a prospect; whether you are in a date\/you\u2019re kind of dating around\/you are dating different people; you\u2019re in a serious relationship; or you\u2019re engaged\u2014I think it\u2019s going to be helpful; or if you are a parent of an adult\/you have adult children that you would love to help in this area of relationships.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, one of the things you said you do\u2014is this every week?\u2014you take questions?<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes; that\u2019s right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> So people email you; they contact you. How does that go?<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes, so I do that on Instagram<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. There is a feature in the stories where you can ask a question. I\u2019ll get over 2,000 questions\/around 2,000 questions every Friday; and I\u2019ll answer about 100 of those, somewhere between 50 to 100 of those.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Well, we\u2019re only going to give you <em>one<\/em> today.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Okay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> We\u2019ve got a caller waiting to talk to you. His name is John; right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>John:<\/strong> Correct.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> John, you out there?<\/p>\n<p><strong>John:<\/strong> I am.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> You\u2019ve got a question for JP; let\u2019s hear it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>John:<\/strong> Yes; JP, I\u2019ll share a little bit of this story before I launch into the question. Last year, living in Dallas, Texas, one of my best friends is dating a godly woman from South Dakota. I\u2019m from South Dakota originally. I just asked this godly woman, that my best friend is dating, \u201cHey, are there any godly women from South Dakota, where I\u2019m from originally, that I missed, and I have overlooked, and I should be pursuing?\u201d She said, \u201cWell, John, there\u2019s this girl\u201d\u2014I\u2019ll just call her Jamie for this story\u2019s sake\u2014\u201cThere is this girl named Jamie that I really think you should pursue.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>After an Instagram DM\u2014which I guess is, maybe, pointing to our culture\u2014me and Jamie swapped numbers. We started texting. In February, my roommate from South Dakota in Dallas said, \u201cHey, my girlfriend is coming down. Would you mind if Jamie comes down that you might meet her for the first time?\u201d She ended up coming down\u2014this is a Thursday, Friday, Saturday\u2014then they were driving back Sunday. It wasn\u2019t just a date, but it was a weekend.<\/p>\n<p>Thursday, after work, I show up with flowers at my coworkers house, which is where these two girls are staying. I mean, she opens the door. We hug\u2014like, it just kicks off from there\u2014we had a great night. I drop her back off for the night. I get back to my roommate that night\/same night as the date. I said, \u201cDude, she\u2019s amazing; but I just don\u2019t think we\u2019re aligned in the same way. She\u2019s got a heart for Haiti, and I just don\u2019t see myself being in Haiti in the near future. She\u2019s living currently in South Dakota, and I\u2019m living currently in Dallas. I just don\u2019t think we are running in the same lane. Though she loves the Lord, and though she is really cool, I just don\u2019t think I\u2019m going to pursue her.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>We went into Friday. Friday, we have a date night as a group. I struggled to make eye contact with her; and the whole night, she is just grabbing for attention in any way and every way. I\u2019m just like so internally conflicted to the point where we\u2019re going to get Krispy Kreme after dinner, just me and her. We get in the car; she goes, \u201cWhat was up with you tonight?\u201d Man, on the way to Krispy Kreme, I just start divulging my heart: \u201cHey, I don\u2019t plan to pursue you. I think you\u2019re amazing.\u201d I\u2019m affirming, and I\u2019m affirming; I\u2019m trying to share a hard truth of like, \u201cBut I don\u2019t think I\u2019m going to pursue you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>At this point, she is in tears; and we\u2019re parked in the Krispy Kreme parking lot. She\u2019s going, \u201cOh, so you do this all the time; huh? You lead a girl on just to break her heart.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cI\u2019m trying to be kind. I\u2019m trying to be loving.\u201d I\u2019m like\u2014after an hour of crying\u2014I\u2019m like, \u201cDo you still want Krispy Kreme?\u201d She\u2019s like, \u201cNo; not really.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The next day\u2014this is where the story really takes a turn\u2014she said, \u201cHey, first night, Thursday night was great because we were in person. Second night was awful, because we were in a group setting.\u201d We had planned to go down to Waco, to Magnolia Market, as a group, on Saturday. She said, \u201cI don\u2019t want to be in a group with you; I just want to be with you, one on one.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m like, \u201cYes; right. I\u2019ve already wrecked this girl\u2019s weekend; if I say, \u2018No,\u2019 to this, what is she going to do?!\u201d We spent 12 hours together on Saturday: we go to brunch; we go hiking; we go to a Goodwill; and a church service on Saturday\u2014all to end that night\u2014she goes, \u201cHey, John, I\u2019ve been a jerk to you all day. All day I just badger you: \u2018You do this to every girl; huh? Who do you think you are working within a ministry? I thought you were a man of God,\u2019\u201d\u2014all of these things. She gets to the end, and we\u2019re at dinner; she goes, \u201cDude, I\u2019ve been a jerk to you.\u201d We just reconcile on the last night, Saturday; but then, we make a commitment to not talk to each other for a week.<\/p>\n<p>She ends up going back to South Dakota, and she calls me. I\u2019m like, \u201cWhat are you doing?! Don\u2019t call me.\u201d I text her, \u201cI thought we weren\u2019t going to talk.\u201d She calls me again, and I ended up just having to remove her number and unfriend her. It just felt so <em>wrong<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>This is my question, JP: \u201cI tried to set healthy expectations, but where did I go wrong?\u201d\u2014that\u2019s the question.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes, man. Thank you for being vulnerable with us. I thought you were going to ask, \u201cShould we have gotten Krispy Kreme or not?\u201d [Laughter] That\u2019s where I thought you were going.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> The answer is always, \u201cYes!\u201d [Laughter]<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> I thought it was going light-hearted; but yes, is there anything\/do you have anything that you wish you had done differently as you replay that story? I mean, is there something that comes to mind that you\u2019ve been kind of sitting on, like, \u201cMan, I really wish I would have done this differently\u2026\u201d?<\/p>\n<p><strong>John:<\/strong> As weird as this sounds, in reflection, I think the one thing I wish I would have done differently is not allow my coworkers to speak as much into the situation as they did.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>John:<\/strong> I remember gathering around a table before she came down. 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What if He didn\u2019t create our hearts to be broken in the way that they are through relationships that He meant for us to stay friends until we had some idea that this might be marriage? I think that\u2019s more biblically aligned than the way that we date today. I think that\u2019s probably the first thing: is just the expectations and the pressure that was placed on the weekend.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> So should he have said that?\u2014\u201cHey, let\u2019s just make this clear of what this weekend is going to be about.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes, yes; \u201cThis is two friends hanging out. That\u2019s what this is. I think, by the end of two friends hanging out, we might determine if we want to try to date long distance; but right now, here is where we are at.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Then, too, I think the second that you\u2014that whole love must be sincere, Romans 12:9\u2014that when you had those thoughts, \u201cI don\u2019t know what to do because we have the entire weekend,\u201d I think, at that point, you could just be really honest. I always think honesty\u2014you can say all the things in a kind way\u2014hold onto that; say all the things in a kind way. So whatever you are thinking, you\u2019re like\u2014she senses something is off\u2014say, \u201cHey, as we go into today, I want you to know what I\u2019m thinking and how I\u2019m feeling. I\u2019d still love to spend time with you. What I don\u2019t want to do is lead you on. Here is my fear\u2026\u201d Just begin to have those conversations as early as you possibly can.<\/p>\n<p>The third one is almost a contradiction to that a little bit\u2014is also you can think, \u201cLike I don\u2019t know; I don\u2019t know if one time with a person is going to be enough for me to determine whether I should spend the rest of my life with them or not. I don\u2019t feel like we are aligned, but I can still go at this with a little bit more curiosity.\u201d But you can\u2019t do that if you go back to the first thing I said\u2014if there is that much pressure on the relationship\u2014where it is like, \u201cOh, I\u2019ve got to figure out if this is <em>the one<\/em> or not.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Those are some thoughts. Then I also think there is a red flag when she says, \u201cHey, I don\u2019t want to hang out with you in a group; I want to hang out with you, one on one.\u201d My sense is that\u2019s some control kicking in. She\u2019s still clinging to: \u201cNo, I\u2019m still hoping.\u201d Even in the way that you described the\u2014\u201cI can\u2019t believe you always do this. You do this with all these girls?\u201d\u2014that\u2019s a game. I think that is her being playful and a defense mechanism on her part.<\/p>\n<p>I just\/that we learn to date the wrong way. Love must be sincere; let\u2019s not play games. Let\u2019s just turn our thoughts into words and be honest with each other.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Here is another question in terms of honesty. Let\u2019s say you\u2019re pursuing one another toward marriage. It looks like you are, maybe, going to get married. How honest should you be with your future spouse about your sexual past or big mistakes you\u2019ve made in the past? Do you just leave them in the past, or do you bring complete honesty? Is there a balance?<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> It\u2019s a big question; I get asked a lot: \u201cWhen?\u201d and \u201cHow much should I share?\u201d On the <em>when<\/em>, it\u2019s what you said when you believe this is going toward marriage\u2014right?\u2014you want to begin to have those conversations. You want to share everything they want to know. In regards to saying all the things, another thought that I had is you want to know yourself. If you\u2019re a little bit of an emotional roller coaster, I think it\u2019s unloving to pull somebody through all of those ups and downs. Like if your feelings are changing like the wind blows, take some time to figure out, \u201cOkay, what do I <em>really<\/em> feel?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t want to be, like at the beginning of the date, like: \u201cHey, I don\u2019t think I like you anymore,\u201d \u201cYou know what? I think I was wrong; actually, I think I\u2019m in love with you. Do you want to marry me?\u201d \u201cNo, hold on; I don\u2019t think we should ever see each other.\u201d Push pause; take a deep breath and figure out, \u201cOkay, how do I feel?\u201d Sometimes, we don\u2019t <em>know<\/em>; we just need space to really figure out, \u201cHow do I feel?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Then I\u2019ll say something a little bit controversial to that is: \u201cHow important is how you feel?\u201d That\u2019s where you\/I think you want to have some amount of logic that trumps even the way that we feel; because feelings are real, but they are not always reliable. Sometimes, they lead us in the wrong directions; so just know and understand: \u201cHey, how important are my feelings?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, speaking of that, when we talk about: \u201cDon\u2019t give your heart away too soon,\u201d I think people are like: \u201cWhat does that mean? What do you think that looks like? Should I protect my heart? Should I give my heart away?\u201d I mean, that was a big thing in the \u201890s, maybe.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes, I do think there\u2019s a danger of emotional promiscuity; and so promiscuity doesn\u2019t have to be physical. It can be the late-night \u201cme-too\u2019s,\u201d long, lingering intimate conversations that begin to pull your heart a direction.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s similar to the question that John asked earlier, where it just sounded like, after that first date, like she was all the way there, like, \u201cMan, this is great; I can\u2019t believe this is so real.\u201d It\u2019s because of all those expectations that others have placed on that \u201crelationship.\u201d I say relationship in quotes because it was one date; right? I do think we just want to <em>watch<\/em> that.<\/p>\n<p>What I see a lot in dating couples today\u2014and even friendships\u2014is people are playing married. You get the late-night text at 11:30: \u201cGood night, sweetie; I love you\u201d; just two friends talking, but they are meeting an emotional need that they were never meant to meet. So be careful; don\u2019t play married. Let marriage be marriage; let dating be dating; and let singleness be singleness. Everything for a season is a gift; be aware what gift you are in.<\/p>\n<p>I would just say of those three, guys, dating is the least fun. Like marriage is a lot of fun; it\u2019s amazing\u2014your ministry strengthens\/you can go and be together and strengthen ministry; have children; you can have sex; you experience intimacy\u2014marriage is a lot of fun.<\/p>\n<p>Singleness is a lot of fun. You can, in an uninhibited way, build the kingdom. You can go places. If I\u2019m like, \u201cHey, I\u2019ve got a helicopter outside, and I\u2019m looking for people who can go into Syria and build the church for the next year; all of your needs are going to be met, but you have to go within an hour,\u201d who could I take? Mostly single people\u2014a lot of married people would be like, \u201cWell, I\u2019ve got soccer practice on Thursday,\u201d\u2014singleness can be fun.<\/p>\n<p>Dating is like marriage without the benefits; it\u2019s the interview. Like no one wants to stay in the job interview; you want to get the job. That\u2019s why I say: \u201cDate with a purpose; date with intentionality; and date for as short as you possibly can.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> One thing we haven\u2019t talked about and would love to hear your perspective\u2014and you mention it in the book toward the end\u2014is just the whole purity\/sexual purity part of dating and how to do it God\u2019s way. How would you speak to a single person about that?<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> People will ask\/the way the question can come at times is: \u201cHow far is too far?\u201d You know, we try to break this down: \u201cWell, what kind of sex can I have? Is sexting wrong? Kissing? Can we make out? What is okay?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I would say, \u201cUnderstand that you were\/male and female were made to come together and that God invented sex. It was His creation; it is good; He invented it. He made it what it is, but He put it in a place in the covenant of marriage. Outside of that marriage, it\u2019s dangerous.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t think\/a lot of single people don\u2019t realize that what they are doing is just foreplay. Their body is preparing for sex, but then it doesn\u2019t get to go there; that door is closed. That is unloving\/that\u2019s one of the most unloving things that you could do for someone. Yet, we do that with someone that we say we \u201clove.\u201d That\u2019s where I would say the line is: \u201cWhen your body begins to prepare for sex, you\u2019ve gone too far. You want to stay away from that line.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Paul says, in 1 Corinthians 7, \u201cIt\u2019s better to marry than to burn with passion.\u201d You want to get married; right?\u2014that\u2019s the: \u201cDon\u2019t marry someone who doesn\u2019t love Jesus,\u201d\u2014all of the things that we\u2019ve talked about\u2014but know that sex and intimacy is for marriage. I would recommend\/1 Corinthians 6 says: \u201cFlee sexual immorality. All the sins that a person commits are outside the body; but whoever sins sexually sins against their own body.\u201d He says, \u201cOur bodies are the temples of the Holy Spirit.\u201d So as you run toward Jesus, you are running <em>from<\/em> sexually immorality. So run toward Jesus; if you have that there, it solves <em>so<\/em> many problems that you can make.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> So talk to the person that has just done it all wrong\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014like even physical intimacy; they\u2019ve done it all wrong. What\u2019s their hope?<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> So I\u2019m talking to me. I\u2019m talking to me, circa 2000 and 2001. I would just say, \u201cThat\u2019s the beauty of the grace of the gospel. God is no longer holding our sins against us. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ. God delights to show mercy. He enjoys showing us mercy.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>As you repent\u2014and what repenting is: turning from your sin and turning toward God\u2014He can heal you. There is also confession. James 5:16 says that there is a healing that comes through confessing to other believers and with prayer. But continue to pursue Christ. Surround yourself with other believers. You continue to confess; continue to pray regularly. Remove access from toxic behavior, from toxic people, from websites, from social media sites that trip you up; remove access to them.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou\u2019re going to be fine; you\u2019re going to be okay,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s what I would tell you. It starts with Jesus. Look to Jesus, confess your sins, embrace the message of the gospel\u2014that He has paid for your sins\u2014that\u2019s what the gospel is; the gospel is not for the perfect person. Jesus is a Savior. In His job description, He is really, really good at saving sinners. So if you\u2019re a sinner and you turn to Him, Jesus is enough.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> I would just conclude with\u2014I\u2019m sitting here beside Ann, 40 years married, three kids, six grandkids, 40 years of ministry\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014from day one of our marriage, the reason we are sitting here, beside each other, is we actually did the dating process God\u2019s way.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Again, not perfectly; but man, oh, man, it was like everything that you\u2019ve written about in your book, we didn\u2019t have yet.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Thank God it\u2019s out there now for someone to get.<\/p>\n<p>It was God\u2019s Word applied to our relationship; and here we sit. Again, we\u2019re not\u2014it\u2019s not like a guarantee you\u2019re going to have the marriage and ministry we have\u2014but because we did it His way, we sit here with a legacy we would have never been able to produce on ourselves; God did that.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I would add this, too, Dave\u2014is even if you didn\u2019t start like that\u2014<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014it\u2019s never too late.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> That\u2019s our story.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> We started wrong; but when I\u2019m with you guys, I think the mistake that your listeners will make is: \u201cOh, that\u2019s good for them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> \u201cThat\u2019s not available for me.\u201d I would just say, \u201cIt is!\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> It is for <em>all<\/em> of us.<\/p>\n<p><strong>JP:<\/strong> You can do what they did; and I mean, now, books are written about it. There are radio shows about the\u2014it\u2019s a renowned love\u2014because it was built on Christ. Monica and I did everything wrong\u2014and I mean just about everything wrong\u2014but when Christ came in, and we began to build our marriage on Christ\u2014we have scars\/like there are hurts there\u2014but what we have is something beautiful, now, too.<\/p>\n<p>If you desire marriage, that\u2019s available to you; but also finding that in your singleness, and a complete life in singleness, is also available to you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bob:<\/strong> Ultimately, our contentment is not found in our circumstances. The Apostle Paul in Philippians 4 said, \u201cI\u2019ve learned the secret of being content whether I have plenty or whether I have want, whether I am free or in prison.\u201d He could have said, \u201cI\u2019ve found the secret of contentment, whether I am single or married.\u201d The secret of contentment is our relationship with Christ and finding our strength and hope in Him.<\/p>\n<p>Dave and Ann Wilson have been talking today to Jonathan Pokluda, the author of a book called <em>Outdated<\/em>. We\u2019ve got Jonathan\u2019s book in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You can go online at FamilyLifeToday.com to get a copy.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe, you are married; but you know somebody who is single or dating. Maybe, you want to go through a book like this with your teenager or pass it on to your college-age son or daughter\/a young adult you know. In fact, there is a young man at our church, who I gave this book to a few weeks back; and he has thanked me for his copy. You can order Jonathan Pokluda\u2019s book, <em>Outdated<\/em>. Go to FamilyLifeToday.com to order it or call 1-800-358-6329; 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I know that most of us, who have been listening to Dave and Ann Wilson\u2019s conversation with Jonathan Pokluda today, are not in a season where we\u2019re dating; but we probably know somebody who is. David Robbins, who is the president of FamilyLife, is here with me. David, even if this is not the season we\u2019re in, we have an opportunity to help someone, who is in this season\/help them avoid the minefields; right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>David:<\/strong> Absolutely. One of the things I <em>love<\/em> about the conversation is that it believes in the next generation. It calls forth the next generation, just like Psalm 145 says, \u201cOne generation commends Your works to another. They tell of Your mighty acts\u2026\u201d so that the gospel continues go forth, generation after generation. My own son, Ford\u2014his most recent book that I gave him was <em>Outdated<\/em> by JP\u2014because it set such a great foundation.<\/p>\n<p>I just feel like we need to be thinking about\u2014whether it is your own teenagers, or grandkids that you have; whether it is someone at work that\u2019s in the dating scene\u2014\u201cHow can you believe in them? How can you invest in them? How can you pour your life into them?\u201d and \u201cHow can you pray for them?\u2014and have the conversations to keep helping them navigate the unique season they are in.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I just want to encourage you, right now, to whomever came to mind, when I was thinking about either a teenager or a young adult in your life, take a moment as we close and pray for them right now.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; and then maybe just send them a note, an email, a text, and say, \u201cI want you to know I was thinking about you this week. I prayed for you; I know you\u2019re in a <em>challenging<\/em> season.\u201d Maybe, get them a copy of JP\u2019s book, <em>Outdated<\/em>, and give that to them as a gift. Speak into their lives and point them toward Christ. That\u2019s a good word, David. Thank you for that.<\/p>\n<p>We hope you have a great weekend. Hope you and your family are able to worship together with your local church this weekend, and I hope you can join us back on Monday when Dave and Ann Wilson will talk with Arlene Pellicane about how parents can help manage their children\u2019s screen time and why that\u2019s so important as your kids are growing up; that all happens Monday. I hope you can be with us for that.<\/p>\n<p>On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. Have a great weekend. We will see you Monday for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife; a Cru<sup>\u00ae <\/sup>Ministry.<\/p>\n<p>Helping you pursue the relationships that matter most.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>We are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. 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