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The second half\u2014she said this\u2014\u201cBut I\u2019ve always thought God must have something really special for you in this life.\u201d I think I was, maybe, five to seven years old; and that <em>stuck<\/em>. I mean, we didn\u2019t even go to church; but I remember thinking, \u201cOh, God must have something special. I wonder what it is.\u201d Those words were so powerful in my life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I\u2019m Ann Wilson. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And I\u2019m Dave Wilson, and you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com or on our FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> app. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And today, we get to talk about the power of words. It\u2019s amazing that you can remember, specifically, those words. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Here is the thing\u2014a lot of us can just flash back to a moment when negative words were spoken to them\u2014do you have any of those? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; I remember a high school teacher saying, \u201cYou\u2019ll never amount to anything,\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014because I was pretty rowdy, and rebellious, and getting in trouble; I didn\u2019t have a dad in my home. They didn\u2019t see anything good in me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe get to talk today about the power of words in life but, especially, in your marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014and in your home. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; I mean, it\u2019s a power that we, literally, have in our hands\/literally, in our mouth. We mentioned, in Part One of this message, a very <em>powerful<\/em> verse in the Bible, we mentioned before, was Proverbs 18:21. Solomon literally says: \u201cThe tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> You know, that makes me think of the story I heard years ago. Remember Roger Staubach, the Dallas Cowboys quarterback? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Of course, I remember him; he was my <em>favorite<\/em> quarterback, growing up. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Of course. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I\u2019m looking out at the engineering booth, and Jim Mitchell has got his arms up; you know. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> He\u2019s a Dallas Cowboys <em>nut<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, I\u2019ll never forget\u2014he went to a prison to do a talk\u2014the prison chaplain sat down with Roger. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s pretty amazing because, before Roger got up [to speak], the chaplain said to all the inmates: \u201cMen, raise your hands to how many of you had dads that told you, \u2018One day, you\u2019ll end up in prison.\u2019\u201d Almost every hand went up. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRoger, when he went back and started talking to that chaplain, he said, \u201cThat was so staggering to me that so many of those men had their fathers say that to them. It\u2019s so sad.\u201d The chaplain said to Roger, \u201cRoger, what did your dad say to you? What were the words that your dad spoke to you?\u201d Roger paused for a second, and then he said, \u201cThat\u2019s so funny you asked. My dad told me, as a young kid, \u2018Roger, one day, you\u2019ll play in the NFL.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat just proof\/like, \u201cOh, our words carry so much <em>weight<\/em>.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> They do\u2014the power of life and death\u2014to build up\/life; to tear down\/death\u2014is in our tongue. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYet, you come into our marriage; and you think, \u201cHow does that apply in a marriage?\u201d We said earlier that: \u201cHappy or healthy couples choose to speak life to their spouse.\u201d That\u2019s a <em>habit<\/em> that you build into your life; and if you study happy and healthy couples, one of the habits that they live out is they are not speaking death words; they are not tearing each other down with their words. They\u2019re not yelling and condemning one another. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat doesn\u2019t mean every single word that comes out of our mouth, but it does mean there is a habit being built. This is something you choose to do, just like a workout. It\u2019s the same thing with your tongue\u2014you have to build a habit to hold the negative words\/the death words and speak out the life words\u2014that\u2019s\/that\u2019s what healthy couples do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Some of you might be thinking, \u201cOh, that\u2019s so weird. That would be so awkward; I\u2019ve never really done that.\u201d Maybe, you start with texting it; you know? Texting it to your kids; texting it to your spouse: things that you see in them\/things that you love about them. That could\u2014like think about your kids receiving that at school\u2014because our kids go out of our homes, and it\u2019s hard. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> How about one life text a day\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Ooh! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014to your spouse and to your kids? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Are you going to do that for me? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> One\u2014I do it all the time, honey\u2014[Laughter]\u2014didn\u2019t you get one already today? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> No. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Now, think about it though. That would be a way to build a habit:\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u201cI\u2019m going to text, at least, one life text\/one encouraging, building-up word of affirmation to my spouse or my kids every single day.\u201d How long would that take?\u2014a minute or less. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI would say it this way: \u201cIf you think something nice, say it twice; if you think something mean, don\u2019t let it be seen.\u201d [Laughter] Are you laughing? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I am. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> So here it is again: \u201cIf you think something nice, say it twice; if you think something mean, don\u2019t let it be seen.\u201d If you are looking at your spouse, and you think something encouraging\/like nice, say it! I\u2019d say, \u201cSay it a couple of times.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Why don\u2019t people?\u2014why don\u2019t we say it to each other? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I don\u2019t know. I literally remember, early in our marriage, when you were getting ready for a date night; and I remember you came out of the room, and I was sitting on the couch. You walked into the family room, and I was sitting there. I remember thinking, \u201cOh my goodness! She is <em>stunning<\/em>.\u201d You looked <em>beautiful<\/em>; you\u2019re all dressed up and ready to go out. Did I say it?\u2014nope. I never even thought about saying it; but I remember thinking, \u201cWow!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, we go on this date\u2014do you remember this?\u2014this probably happened <em>many<\/em> times. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> What I remember was our kids were all little. I wasn\u2019t dressed up\u2014or I didn\u2019t have my hair, or makeup, or anything done\u2014almost never when they were little; so it was a big deal, in those days, if I would get dressed up and put a dress on. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; so we go out. Who knows how our date was? But I remember, as we\u2019re crawling in bed later that night, you said, \u201cHey, did you think I looked nice tonight?\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> That sounds so needy; it\u2019s awful! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I remember you saying that; and of course, I was like, \u201cOh my goodness! Yes, when you walked into the family room, I was sitting there. I just thought to myself, \u2018You are <em>beautiful<\/em> and <em>stunning<\/em>!\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Too late. [Buzzer noise] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I remember you said, \u201cYou didn\u2019t think that.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cNo, no, no; I really did. I thought that.\u201d You go, \u201cNo, you didn\u2019t.\u201d I go, \u201cWhat do you mean I didn\u2019t?\u201d You go, \u201cIf you would have thought that, you would have said it,\u201d\u2014thinking that I had the brains to speak nice things twice. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI mean, I remembering learning, right there; it was like, \u201cWhy didn\u2019t I say it? I have no idea.\u201d But again: \u201cIf you think something nice, say it twice!\u201d I mean, make sure you say it. It isn\u2019t like: \u201cWell, I told her on our wedding day that I love her; I never need to say it again unless it changes,\u201d\u2014no; that needs to be said. You need to speak life, constantly, in your marriage. Don\u2019t keep it to yourself. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, and we\u2019ve learned so much from the Feldhahns\u2014with Shaunti and Jeff\u2014because they\u2019ve talked about\/like just saying, \u201cThank you.\u201d In their books, they talk about that: \u201cSay, \u2018Thank you.\u2019\u201d I remember reading that and thinking, \u201cOkay, I can do that.\u201d I\u2019ll never forget\u2014like you took the trash out\u2014you do that a lot. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I do it <em>all<\/em> the time. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> But I had <em>never<\/em> thanked you before; because I thought, \u201cWell, of course, he should take out this trash. That\u2019s his job. Does anyone thank me for my job? Does anyone thank me for\u2026\u201d But that\u2019s such a <em>wrong<\/em> attitude. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember saying, \u201cThanks, hon, for taking out the garbage.\u201d You\u2019re like, \u201cWhat?!\u201d You were shocked. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I was like taking it out every night after that. I mean, again, you know, life words are motivating. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere\u2019s one way to think about this\u2014I\u2019ll never forget\u2014we were at church a couple of years ago. It\u2019s really cool, when one of your kids says something, and it\u2019s like sort of profound. You\u2019re like, \u201cWow; that\u2019s true and powerful.\u201d Our younger son was on stage preaching\u2014he was my co-pastor at the time\u2014Cody. I remember he made this statement, which I have in my notes; because I literally wrote it down. I remember turning to you and going, \u201cNow, that was a good truth.\u201d He said, \u201cWhen we see our spouse the way Jesus sees them, we say the things Jesus would say to them.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tObviously, he was getting at the point of: \u201cHow does God see you?\u2014and specifically, how does God see your spouse?\u201d When you see\u2014he called it\u2014\u201cPut on God\u2019s goggles.\u201d When you put on God\u2019s goggles\u2014and you see people made in the image of God and they are loved\u2014when you see your spouse the way Jesus sees your spouse, you will speak to your spouse the words Jesus speaks. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you think about it, when you read the Word of God, and you understand what God speaks to us, it\u2019s <em>always<\/em> life words: He encourages; He builds up. So if I saw you the way God sees you, I\u2019m going to speak life, not death. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Wow; that\u2019s really good. I\u2019ll never forget that message, too, with the God goggles; because I thought, \u201cMan, I need to put those on every day to see you the way God does\/to see our kids,\u201d\u2014but not only that\u2014\u201cBut I need to wear them out of the house.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You know what is another great statement?\u2014and I\u2019m telling you\u2014I don\u2019t know where I first heard it; but I\u2019ve heard you say it many times, especially when you are talking to wives about their marriages. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, no; I know what you\u2019re going to say. This is Andy Stanley. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, it is? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Alright; so it says: \u201cYour spouse should be able to tell how much God loves them by the way you talk to them, by the way you treat them, the way you love them\/admire them.\u201d Talk about that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, the first time I heard Andy say that, I remember stopping and thinking\u2014like just that\u2014\u201cYour spouse should be able to know how much God loves them by the way you treat them. If your spouse doesn\u2019t even know Jesus or have a relationship with God\u2014like you should win them\u2014and they should be able to think, \u2018Wow; does God love me that much?\u2014because if He loves me that much, I want to know Him.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTo be honest, the first time I heard, I was just super convicted; because I\u2019m like, \u201cI\u2019m not doing that!\u201d You should be able to know, because my love is so unconditional, like: \u201cThat\u2019s how God loves me.\u201d That\u2019s not easy, and you can\u2019t do it apart from God\u2019s Spirit. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; I said earlier\u2014but it\u2019s really true\u2014you do that for me; you speak life. I mean, I wrote down: \u201cYou constantly\u2014I mean, I\u2019m sure someone\u2019s listening, going, \u201cThis\/this isn\u2019t\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I don\u2019t even feel like I do that. Keep going! This is good! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You do. I wrote down; you, almost daily, say: \u201cYou\u2019re an amazing husband,\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re a <em>great<\/em> dad,\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re a <em>great<\/em> provider,\u201d \u201c\u2026communicator,\u201d \u201c\u2026spiritual leader.\u201d I wrote down, \u201c\u2026romantic\u201d\u2014; but you don\u2019t usually say I\u2019m romantic, because I\u2019m not\u2014I\u2019m not very romantic! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> So you\u2019re saying I don\u2019t lie. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; I mean, honestly, I run home now; because you constantly speak life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Okay; compare that to what it used to be, because I want people to understand what it used to be like. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I mean, many people have heard us\u2014if they\u2019ve read our book, <em>Vertical Marriage<\/em>, or even went through the small group, <em>Vertical Marriage<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>\u2014they saw us talking about this. Again, this is the first 15 years of marriage, probably\u2014that everywhere I go, people cheer me; and I come home, and all I hear is: \u201cBoo!\u201d\u2014you know?\u2014because it felt like you were dissatisfied with me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> When he <em>said<\/em> that to me, I said, \u201cWell, they don\u2019t know you.\u201d How terrible is that?\u2014that I would say that to you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And you felt like booing me was motivating me to become better. All I know\u2014is six months later\/a year later after that\u2014the climate in our home changed; and this has been two\/two-and-a-half decades now, where it felt like the Wilson house has an environment, an aroma, an atmosphere\u2014and I think it is <em>you<\/em> that sets it\u2014of life, of encouragement, of belief\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> That\u2019s so nice of you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014of trust. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I\u2019m going to listen to this over and over again. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Again, it just shows the power\u2014what Solomon said\u2014\u201cLife and death are in the power of the tongue.\u201d It could be texts; it could be a look; it could be, literally, words like that can change your home. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; I remember when, again, Cody our youngest, went to college to play football. You said to me like the night before he was going to go\u2014we were giving him a laptop to take to college\u2014I remember you saying, \u201cHey, you\u2019re really a good writer. You\u2019re an <em>amazing<\/em> writer.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> You are. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I remember going, \u201cNo, I\u2019m not.\u201d I literally said, \u201cNo, I\u2019m not. I\u2019m <em>okay<\/em>, but I\u2019m not good.\u201d \u201cOh, no! You\u2019re really good. It would really be encouraging if you\u2019d write Cody like an email as he goes off to college. You played college football; he\u2019s starting to do that. You should write him something.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember thinking, \u201cI don\u2019t know; I\u2019m not that good.\u201d I just let it go. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, and I was saying that because you are so good at putting your feelings down on paper. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Well, I didn\u2019t think so; but before I went to bed that night, I wrote this email, encouraging him\/saying, \u201cBoy, I remember when I went to Two-a-days in college, and I was way down on the depth chart,\u201d and how hard it was. Anyway, I just tried to inspire him that: \u201cIt\u2019s going to be really hard, but you\u2019ve got what it takes\u201d and sent this email off. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe <em>never<\/em> responds\/doesn\u2019t say, \u201cThank you.\u201d I don\u2019t even know if he got it. I\u2019m like, \u201cDid he get it?\u201d I never heard anything about it, until four years later, when he\u2019s graduating. He sends that email back; and he said, \u201cDad, this was the first email I ever got in college, four years ago. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014on this computer. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; \u201cAnd there were days I wanted to quit; it was really hard. I would read your words, and it would really encourage me. Here I am, four years later. Thank you; this was a powerful email in my life.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cWow! There is Ann again; she\u2019s right!\u201d [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut you know, as he gets ready to go to camp with the Detroit Lions, guess who sends him an email the night before training camp?\u2014me! Because I was like, \u201cWow, you inspired me with words of life to remind me that I can have an impact with my words.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI would have never done it [on my own]. [And] if you would have said\u2014[negative approach] which you probably would have said, 20 years before that [sarcastic voice]: \u201cYou know what? You should write your son an email; you never do that!\u201d\u2014I would have never done it; you know? [Laughter] But you said it in a way\u2014it was packaged\/it was wrapped up in a way that was encouraging\u2014and it encouraged me to do it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, I\u2019m recalling, too\u2014if you get into the teenage years and, sometimes, it\u2019s not always easy to see the greatness, when they are struggling and your relationship is a little strained\u2014I think that CJ was home from college, and then our other two were in high school. It was the summer, and it always take a while to adjust when all the kids are home all of the time in the summer. I think I was complaining to the boys about: \u201cYou guys need to work around here!\u201d \u201cYou need to get things done!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> We\u2019ve said that many, many times. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And as I\u2019m saying this, I think they were playing video games. They all picked up their phones; they started all getting on them. I said, \u201cWhat are you guys doing? Are you listening to me?\u201d They started laughing; they said, \u201cYes, Mom, we\u2019re talking and texting each other about how crazy you are.\u201d So then, I\u2019m just mad. When I get mad like that, now, I just need to leave the room. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was going to go for this walk, and I go on this walk. Probably for the first two to three miles, I am complaining to God about our children; but after about three miles, I had vented everything I could. I said, \u201cSo God, what do You think about this? Don\u2019t You agree with me?\u201d All of a sudden, God just started to download, and these thoughts started coming to my mind. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI started with CJ: \u201cAre you seeing what\u2019s happening with CJ?\u201d This thought came into my mind, \u201cIsn\u2019t he the most fascinating person you\u2019ve ever met?\u201d I was thinking, \u201cWhere did that come from?!\u201d The next thought that came to my mind is: \u201cHe\u2019s just like Nathaniel in whom there is no guile.\u201d I\u2019m just going to tell you right now: \u201cThose thoughts don\u2019t just come to me, especially Nathaniel.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> That <em>describes<\/em> him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> What a <em>perfect<\/em> description of him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Why do you think that describes him? <br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I mean, he\u2019s so\u2014there is no guile; he is just\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> There is no pretense. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> He is. He is wonderful, and you had never noticed him. He would just sneak up on you, and you love the guy. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> He is <em>fascinating<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> He\u2019s kind of quirky; he\u2019s just\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And that is what you heard. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; I had never heard anything like that, so that perked my ears up, like: \u201cWhat? Lord, is that You?\u201d\u2014because God can speak through us; we have the power of the Holy Spirit in us\u2014so I started listening.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat made me go to Austin: \u201cLord, what about Austin?\u201d and \u201cWhat about Cody?\u201d I just started hearing all these beautiful, life-giving words of how He delighted in each of them. I treasured it in my heart. I realized, \u201cI\u2019m not looking at that greatness; I\u2019m not seeing all those good things.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen I came back, I remember going up to my room and even writing all this down; because it was a pretty pivotal moment in my life, and I wrote down all the things that I felt like God said. I started trying to speak that to them. When I would get frustrated and see the negative\u2014because we just all bug each other sometimes\u2014but when I would go back to that, and recall, and remember: \u201cThis is who they are; I need to say those things and draw their greatness out of them.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; I would hope\/an action step from today is that you and we would do this. We would see our spouse, see our kids, see your neighbor the way God sees them. He sees them beautiful, made in His image, valuable, formed by Him in their mother\u2019s womb\u2014Psalm 139\u2014He sees awesomeness in them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I was thinking, \u201cIf you\u2019ve never done this, and you feel like, \u2018Oh, our home does not have that atmosphere,\u2019\u2014pray\/go to God, talk to Him\u2014and then go before your family and say, \u2018You guys, I just want to apologize. I feel like I\u2019ve been nagging everybody. I feel like I\u2019ve been talking about the negative things in all of us, and I\u2019m really asking God to give our family a new perspective on seeing the great in each other.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Then the action step would be: \u201cSpeak it out.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I\u2019ve got an idea. We\u2019ve been encouraging people to\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014text one another. Let\u2019s do it! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right now? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, let\u2019s just take a minute and text a life text\/words of life\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Ooh! Okay! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014to one another. I don\u2019t know what you\u2019re going to say; you don\u2019t know what I\u2019m going to say. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I\u2019ve already got your name in here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Well, let\u2019s text each other; and then we can read it later. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, we\u2019re going to read it out loud? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; why not?\u2014a couple of minutes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Okay! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, as Dave and Ann work on their text messages to one another, let me step in here and remind you that what they\u2019ve talked about today is one of the themes that they address in their book, <em>Vertical Marriage<\/em>: the importance of how we affirm one another\/how we speak life to one another. The book, <em>Vertical Marriage<\/em>, is also available as a small group video series. If you\u2019ve started your small group back up, and you\u2019re looking for a way to invest in your marriages together, consider the <em>Vertical Marriage<\/em> small group series or get a copy of Dave and Ann\u2019s book, <em>Vertical Marriage: <\/em>[<em>The One Secret That Will Change Your Marriage<\/em>]\u2014the little things that make a big difference. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019ve got both the book and the video series in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You can order these resources from us online at FamilyLifeToday.com or call to order at 1-800-FL-TODAY; again, the website, FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-358-6329; that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, what Dave and Ann talked about today is at the heart of what we\u2019re all about, here, at FamilyLife: providing practical biblical help and hope to strengthen your marriage and your family. David Robbins, who is the president of FamilyLife, is here with us. This conversation today has really been on mission for us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>David:<\/strong> Yes; at FamilyLife, we do everything we can to halt the drift toward isolation, that is so often experienced in families, and help people grow toward oneness in relationships that matter most\u2014the relationships like the relationship with God, and their spouse, or their kids\u2014even their neighbors. That is what we are about. Our <em>vision<\/em> is every home a godly home. A godly home is one, where people in that home are growing as disciples of Jesus and making disciples around them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhether it is bringing you the practical, authentic, biblical insight for your family through <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> in your earbuds or through a radio station, whether it\u2019s hosting marriage getaways like <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, and the cruise we do, and many other venues, or providing tools for you to host small groups and mentor others, we believe that families are one of the most untapped resources on the planet to help fulfil the Great Commission and bring good to the world. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just want to say, \u201cThanks for listening; thanks for engaging,\u201d and please feel free to email us with ways we can pray for you. We have a prayer team that loves interceding for people that are part of the family of FamilyLife by engaging with us. Whether it is things you are taking steps of faith in, or areas you are having to trust the Lord in, and different seasons and maybe a hard season in your life, we would <em>love<\/em> to come alongside and pray for you; because we are so grateful for you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; go to our website at FamilyLifeToday.com. There is a link there where you can click and contact us; send us an email and a prayer request. We would love to pray for you. Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com. Thank you, David. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe hope you have a great weekend. Hope you and your family are able to worship together in your local church this weekend, and I hope you can join us back on Monday when we\u2019re going to hear about the significant elevation that Jesus gave to women in the first-century culture. Kristi McLelland will join us to talk about the worth, and the value, and the dignity of women that Jesus restored in His earthly ministry. We hope you can join us for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> A few moments ago, we texted one another; and I just hit send. I just received yours. Did you get mine? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; I\u2019m so excited! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You are? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Do you want to read what I wrote? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes! Okay, don\u2019t read mine. You haven\u2019t read it yet; have you? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> No. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Okay; alright. Here is what you sent to me: \u201cYou are one incredible woman of God. You are the greatest mom and grandmother in the universe. You could not be a better wife and mother. You believe in me and trust me unconditionally, and that makes me a better man. Thank you for choosing to speak life to me and others. You are a picture of Jesus to me. Thank you.\u201d Oh! That\u2019s so <em>nice<\/em>; thanks. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOkay, your turn. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Here is what you wrote to me: \u201cI love and admire who God made you to be. You are a leader I want to follow. You\u2019re funny and laid back but driven at the same time. Everything you do is done with excellence. Our boys admire you and want to hang with you all the time. I didn\u2019t even realize how blessed I was that God brought us together. You are the man! [Laughter] I love doing life with you.\u201d Thank you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> If we did that once a day\u2014whew! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> How hard was that?\u2014that was easy. Yes, speak life <em>today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife; a Cru<sup>\u00ae <\/sup>Ministry. Helping you pursue relationships that matter most. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would you consider <a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/donate\">donating today<\/a> to help defray the costs?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tCopyright <sup>\u00a9<\/sup> 2021 FamilyLife. 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