{"id":306786,"date":"2021-03-23T07:00:05","date_gmt":"2021-03-23T11:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/the-kindness-revolution\/"},"modified":"2021-03-23T07:00:05","modified_gmt":"2021-03-23T11:00:05","slug":"the-kindness-revolution","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/the-kindness-revolution\/","title":{"rendered":"The Kindness Revolution"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What character qualities mark your life? 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Nicole Philliips talks about the positive physical and emotional effects that a life of kindness produces.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylife.com\/fl2021-03-23.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Nicole Phillips considers herself a kindness advocate. She believes kindness is contagious, but that doesn\u2019t mean she\u2019s always kind herself.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> My son was supposed to clean up the entry way of our house. There were lots of shoes, and lots of backpacks, and lots of jackets and I said, \u201cI need this cleaned.\u201d I walked in the door and I tripped over the shoes and the backpacks. I just let it go\u2014I said, \u201c<em>I told you you were supposed to clean this up!<\/em>\u201d Charlie\u2019s friend says, \u201cWell, I guess kindness isn\u2019t always contagious.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, oh, oh!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday March 23<sup>rd<\/sup>. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson. I'm Bob Lepine. You can find us online at FamilyLifeToday.com. Is there anything we can do to cultivate a heart of kindness so that, when we are provoked, kindness comes out instead of an eruption? We\u2019re going to talk with Nicole Phillips about that today. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. We\u2019re talking this week about kindness. You\u2019ve described your wife as the kindest person you know, but you said it wasn\u2019t always that way?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, do we really have to go here? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, here\u2019s what I want to know\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Hey, all that matters is she is the kindest person I know, that\u2019s all that matters. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cWas that\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It doesn\u2019t matter! The past is the past. I was not kind\u2014she was not kind. We struggled in the early years of marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> But I\u2019m telling you, I live with a positive, life-speaking woman. It is the greatest gift\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> It\u2019s a miracle that Jesus decided to do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014God has ever given me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cWas it evolutionary?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I wish she could say the same thing! She\u2019s supposed to be saying, right now, And I live with a positive husband.\u201d [Laughter] But you notice she\u2019s not saying that!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u201cWas it evolutionary?\u201d Did you slowly convert to kindness, or was there an \u201cAha\u201d moment for you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes, I think there were two things that happened. One was my very best friend and sister died. Before she died\u2014this is kind of this crazy thing\u2014I remember being in the hospital room\u2014I\u2019m going to get emotional talking about this\u2014we sat on the bed, and we told each other everything we loved about each other, like I said, \u201cYou have the most amazing skin. I wish I had that skin!\u201d She said, \u201cI wish I had your hair\u2014I always wanted your hair.\u201d That sounds so weird, but we just blessed each other with our words. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAfter she was gone, I thought, \u201cI\u2019m <em>so<\/em> glad I told her <em>everything<\/em> that was good in her. I spoke it out and I reminded her of that.\u201d After she was gone, I thought, \u201cI\u2019m going to do that from now on\u201d because I realized I had thought a lot of good things about people, and I didn\u2019t share them because of my own insecurity. I felt like I was in competition with people\u2014especially other women. Like, \u201cWell, I don\u2019t want them to get a one-up on me!\u201d\u2014so I would keep these things inside when I saw how amazing these people were. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAfter she was gone, I thought, \u201cI\u2019m not going to hold onto that anymore; I\u2019m going to speak life into people.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And I tell you what, you want her walking in your room, because that\u2019s what she does, she lights up a room!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> There are times when I\u2019m like, \u201cOkay honey, you don\u2019t have to speak all of these great things to that stranger over there, who you don\u2019t even know!\u201d But you can just see that stranger or a good friend\u2014their whole countenance changes because they feel blessed.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, I feel like God created every single one of us so He sees the greatness He put into us. But the world continues to just beat us down and we forget and we start believing lies about ourselves. If Jesus walked into the room, He would remind us, \u201cThis is who I made you to be.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We have got\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I\u2019ve got Ann\u2019s, you know,\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> <em>My friend! <\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014her counterpart right here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Nicole Phillips is joining us on <em>FamilyLife Today. <\/em>Welcome. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Oh, I could just sit here and listen to Ann talk all day, [Laughter] I don\u2019t have anything to say. Let\u2019s listen to her!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> No, no. You are so good, Nicole.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Nicole is an author; she\u2019s a speaker; she\u2019s a former TV journalist\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014and \u201cMs. Wisconsin,\u201d did you say?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> In 1927, yes. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Not quite.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> She writes a syndicated\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> But that means you\u2019re a Badger!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Oh, I was a Badger!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Okay.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> She writes a syndicated newspaper column called \u201cKindness Is Contagious,\u201d and has written a book by that name, and another book called <em>The Negativity Remedy.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou had a kindness revolution, we talked about it. If people want a kindness revolution, they need to go to the mall in Fargo\u2014go to Dino-Land\u2014[Laughter] because that\u2019s the place\u2014kind of the mecca\u2014where all of this kindness stuff happens. I was just curious, when you had this\u2014kind of epiphany\u2014and we talked about it earlier this week\u2014did your husband\u2014did Saul, the basketball coach\u2014notice, \u2018something\u2019s different about Nicole\u2019?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> He didn\u2019t notice at the moment of the epiphany, when I came home\u2014because I\u2019ve been known to\u2014I\u2019m an Enneagram 7, you might say\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Okay.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> \u2014so I\u2019ve been noted to come home once in a while and\u2014Ann and Dave, you\u2019re 7s; aren\u2019t you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Both! We both are 7s.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Both of you; oh, no!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I know; I know.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Basically, what that means is like, \u201cI can\u2019t <em>wait <\/em>for the next thing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yep.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> I\u2019m excited about whatever\u2019s coming next! So I have been known to come home and be excited about my latest big idea.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> My husband\u2014when I started writing the \u201cKindness Is Contagious\u201d column, said, \u201cI give it six months.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Whoa!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> And he\u2019s <em>very <\/em>supportive of me, but he said, \u201cI give it six months.\u201d I said, \u201cWhat!?\u201d He was teasing me and he said, \u201cWithin six months, you\u2019re either going to\u2014people are either going to stop sending you their stories of kindness, or you\u2019re just going to get bored of it.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> You\u2019ll be on to your next thing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> \u2014and you\u2019ll be onto your next thing. I\u2014as a wife\u2014always want to make sure I prove my husband wrong. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes!\u2014right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> [Laughing] <em>Yes! <\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> It\u2019s been ten years, and I\u2019m still writing that column!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You\u2019re proving him wrong! But did he see you start to be a different person as you were interacting, and thinking, and focusing on kindness?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> He did; he did! And it wasn\u2019t all good, Bob, it really wasn\u2019t. What happened was my behavior started to change. I got to know Jesus and I maybe became a little too serious in my walk with God and lost some of my fun because I felt that was what God wanted from me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> How did that affect your marriage?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> I used to be the girl who would love to drink a lot, and I would lose control. On one particular time\u2014after all of this kindness revolution started in me\u2014my husband and I went out and I publicly embarrassed him. We came home and the next morning, I woke up. He came into our bedroom and he very gently said to me, \u201cYou owe me an apology.\u201d I just said, \u201cI know, I\u2019m sorry.\u201d He turned around, and he walked out.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI rolled over in the fetal position, and I just started to cry. I just begged God to take it away, like, \u201cTake away my need to drink!\u201d And in that moment, I said, \u201cOkay, if You really have a purpose for my life, then I give it to You. I surrender.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut then, I had to get out of my bed and say to my husband, \u201cI\u2019ve decided I\u2019m not going to drink anymore.\u201d You know, we really enjoyed our time, sitting on the couch, having Roman Cokes together. That was a fun time for us to connect, so we had to learn <em>new <\/em>ways to connect. It took a little while for us to kind of find our new ground\u2014find our new stability in that. But the fun thing is that he has seen what that has meant to our household. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> There are no tantrums in our household\u2014at least by mom. And even the way that I spoke\u2014you know, I guess God got ahold of me\u2014and all these little behaviors kind of fell in line. I wasn\u2019t gossiping, I wasn\u2019t complaining. I never\u2014I totally stopped complaining about<em> him<\/em>. You would not hear me say something negative about my husband\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> \u2014to a friend or someone else\u2014and I stopped nagging <em>him<\/em>!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> That\u2019s huge!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> It <em>is <\/em>huge!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And I bet your husband noticed that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> He noticed! He noticed. But then, it was interesting\u2014because, as a basketball coach\u2014he has a lot of players that he deals with and that he mentors all the time. God has been really sweet about helping those players who, maybe, are dealing with depression, or dealing with substance abuse, or dealing with negativity in general, or the way they see the world. My husband has been able to pull now from our collective experience, and breathe life into these players.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen he comes home and tells me about something sweet he did, or you know, just a little random act of kindness he did for somebody else, it just blesses my soul.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So he did not pull back from your new religious impulse. As you were talking about Bible studies, or Jesus, or wanting to go to church\u2014he was not put off by that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> He may have been a little put off by it, because I was so vocal\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> \u2014even to strangers, you know\u2014or whatever. [Laughter] Like I\u2019m absolutely like, let\u2019s go up and tell somebody, \u201cI <em>love <\/em>your smile! You just light up the world with that smile!\u201d He did have to deal with that sort of thing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> But I think that he did grow quickly along with me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s great.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Well, it\u2019s interesting\u2014when you think about when you were drinking before\u2014it put you in an altered state.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And then you put in your book the things that happen with kindness that create a high. Talk about that a little bit. That\u2019s almost scientific\u2014but physically, what happens to the body when endorphins and those kinds of things that happen are a replacement. It\u2019s like you found a different drug\u2014a very sober, great drug\u2014that obviously helped you and helped your family\u2014talk about that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> I get so excited when God\u2019s Word and science line up! When they become like intertwined\u2014that just gets me so excited! I knew what I felt with all of these things\u2014I knew that God says, \u201cIt\u2019s more blessed to give than to receive,\u201d and all of these great things that happen to us. Even like, feed the hungry, help those in trouble, and your light will shine from the darkness, and the darkness will be as bright as noon. Okay, so your world is going to light up if you focus on kindness! I love that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut when I started really researching kindness, I wanted to know how to speak to people who didn\u2019t know God and hadn\u2019t read the Word\u2014because I really felt like it wasn\u2019t just for those who follow Jesus\u2014it was for everyone. What I found out was that science backs up what Jesus says. There are four \u201cfeel good\u201d chemicals that are released into our bodies when we are involved in kindness: endorphins, serotonin, dopamine, and oxytocin. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat means it\u2019s a pain relief, an anti-depressant, and anti-anxiety\u2014it\u2019s the feeling of being rewarded\u2014it\u2019s the feeling of a warm hug. That\u2019s what all of those hormones do. And they\u2019re not just released in the body of the giver, they\u2019re released in the body of anyone giving, receiving, or witnessing an act of kindness.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> That\u2019s amazing!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> God knew there was this secret pathway that we could go down called \u201ckindness.\u201d We didn\u2019t know what was going to happen when we got there\u2014maybe sometimes we\u2019re rejected, and maybe sometimes we\u2019re not\u2014but He said, \u201cJust walk down this secret pathway, and I\u2019m going to meet you there.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Which explains your tingling sensation when you walked out of Dino-Land. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes! Yes; there\u2019s a physiological reason <em>why<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> \u2014because it is a drug; it is.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And it\u2019s also the Holy Spirit, confirming and speaking to you, like, \u201cThis was something special.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But here\u2019s my question\u2014what happens when you are proactively being kind to somebody, and the recipient does not receive your kindness? You go up and want to do something special. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI mean, you came in here today, as we were getting ready to talk with you\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes, she brought all of us presents!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014yes, we\u2019ve got gifts right here\u2014you manifested kindness at the get-go. What if I had gotten my gift from you and gone, \u201cMeh, thanks.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cThis is dumb.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes. \u201cThis is\u2014\u201d Doesn\u2019t that short-circuit those endorphins you\u2019re getting?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Well, I think I might have a little bit of a competitive spirit because for me, [Laughter] that just means, \u201cGame on!\u201d Like, if I walk in, and Bob says, \u201cUgh,\u201d like, grunts at me, then I\u2019m going to be like, \u201cBob, did you get to eat breakfast today?\u201d \u201cHow was last night? Did you get a good night\u2019s sleep?\u201d I would just go at you again, and again, and again. Kill them with kindness; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You would full-court press on the kindness.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Full-court press on the kindness, yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And I\u2019m also thinking, \u201cOh, that person\u2019s wounded. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cSomething has happened that\u2019s created a scar.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And then I have that same inkling to go, \u201cI want to get at that scar.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cI want to help heal that scar!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I even think\u2014and maybe this is just me\u2014even if they don\u2019t respond to it, they will later.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It\u2019s like later, when you walk away, they\u2019re going to\u2014you cannot like kindness when it\u2019s done to you; you know?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But here\u2019s the reason I\u2019m asking: there are some spouses, who are listening,\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014who are going, \u201cI have tried to pour kindness all over our marriage\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014and my wife or my husband is just a stone\u2014non-responsive\u2014so I give up!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u201cI tried kindness, and it has not worked in our marriage.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And then the question is\u2014so you\u2019re saying, just amp it up\u2014and that\u2019s supposed to be the breakthrough in my marriage? Is that what you think?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Well, I think it goes back to \u201churt people hurt people.\u201d We need to look at that. We need to understand that, sometimes, that spouse might need something we can\u2019t give them. They might need some therapy\u2014they might need something that is beyond what we can give them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> The woundedness that you\u2019re talking about. What\u2019s the wound there?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes, right; right. Then, if you are with a spouse, who says, \u201cThat\u2019s not my jam. I\u2019m not getting therapy, figure it out,\u201d I think that, if there are children involved in that, they are going to see, and they are going to pull from your goodness. You know, we can\u2019t change people. Absolutely, I can\u2019t change anyone! I don\u2019t pray for someone\u2019s heart to be changed, I pray that my heart would be changed toward that person.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think that our kids will notice that. Simple things\u2014like I\u2019ll say to my kids, when I hear them picking on each other\u2014and they giggle now, but it\u2019s been years that we\u2019ve been doing this\u2014I\u2019ll say, \u201cWhat does the world do to you?\u201d And then, one of them will say, \u201cUgh. The world brings you down!\u201d I say, \u201cThat\u2019s right! So what do we do for each other in this house?\u201d And they\u2019ll say, \u201cWe bring each other up!\u201d I\u2019ll say, \u201cThat\u2019s right! We lift each other up.\u201d So even conversations like that\u2014I think the coldest heart can respond to that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Here\u2019s the biblical principle at work\u2014and we\u2019ve talked about this for years at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaway. 1 Peter 3 says we are not to return evil for evil, but instead give a blessing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014instead.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> In fact, the passage says if you want a long life and good days, you will give a blessing to others\u2014you will make that your intentionality. And giving the blessing is not contingent on how somebody responds in receiving it. Your job is to <em>keep <\/em>giving the blessing and see how the power of that blessing\u2014over time\u2014begins to heal some of the woundedness in that other person.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And here\u2019s one of the amazing things I found in your book\u2014which I\u2019ve seen in my own life\u2014that when you give a blessing or you\u2019re kind to someone, whether they deserve it or not, guess who gets the blessing? And it\u2019s in the passage as well\u2014in 1 Peter 3 it says <em>we <\/em>receive a blessing!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You know, you even say in the book, it\u2019s like, if you want to grow spiritually, be kind! It\u2019s like, \u201cWhat?\u201d I\u2019m looking over at Bob, as he\u2019s saying this and he\u2019s got the little \u201ckindness\u201d sticker on his shirt. I\u2019m just laughing! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> I gave everybody little stickers, and Bob took it off and put it on his shirt\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I like it!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> \u2014like \u201cI voted\u201d or something.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014like \u201cI voted\u201d; yes! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> But that is the thing! You think, \u201cOkay, I\u2019m not happy. I\u2019m struggling. I\u2019m stuck,\u201d\u2014maybe spiritually, maybe in my marriage\u2014\u201cWhat I need is somebody to be kind to me. Somebody needs to see where I am and help me, and reach out to me.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat could be true, but the truth is\u2014and this is almost like when Jesus says, \u201cIf you want to find your life, lose it,\u201d\u2014it\u2019s almost like, \u201cWhat?! How do I find my life in giving it away? How do I find life in being kind to somebody?\u2014maybe even my spouse that doesn\u2019t deserve it.\u201d Try it! Just try it. You\u2019re going to find that Jesus\u2019 words are true. You\u2019re going to find life in giving yours away. You\u2019re going to find kindness when you are kind.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And the first time it happens\u2014and the person is grumpy back at you\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014do what Nicole does and double down and say, \u201cOkay, I\u2019m coming at it bigger next time! We\u2019ll see what happens here.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> But here\u2019s the thing, <em>really<\/em> important not to talk badly about that person, even if you think it, because what you focus on is what you will notice\u2014that will become bigger in your life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen a friend will tell me, \u201cUgh! I was as this restaurant, and this waiter did this\u2014\u201d or they\u2019ll say to me, \u201cOh, my husband! He was supposed to do this, and he didn\u2019t do this!\u201d I\u2019ll say to them, \u201cOkay, now you\u2019ve told me\u2014now, you\u2019ve gotten it out. Do not repeat that again.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014because it creates a neural pathway in your brain that you walk down every day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> We have to create this <em>new<\/em> pathway because man, I walked that old pathway a long time and that path was <em>really<\/em> wide because every day I would go into the negative.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And I think that\u2019s easy\u2014especially, for young moms, who are trying to figure it out\u2014you\u2019re like, \u201cMy husband\u2019s doing nothing, and I\u2019m doing everything.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Bob, you\u2019ve heard me say\u2014think about this, when we\u2019re talking about the old Ann and the new Ann\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014the before-kindness Ann and the after-kindness Ann\u2014and this has been decades now, but when she started being kind\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHer thought process was she used to only see the negative, and I had a ton of negative! It was justified when she called it out. She started to see the positive, and when she started speaking that\u2014and I\u2019ve said this a <em>thousand times<\/em> all over the country\u2014when she started speaking kindness to me\u2014 \u201cYou\u2019re a good man,\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re a good husband,\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re a phenomenal dad!\u201d\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014I literally said, \u201cNo, I\u2019m not!\u201d I was like what Bob was saying, \u201cNo, I\u2019m not. You can try to say I am, but I know you don\u2019t believe that. You\u2019ve <em>never <\/em>said this before. So what\u2014you\u2019re writing a book, and you\u2019re going to try that out on me now?\u201d [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAll I know is, over time, when she started to say that, I started to think, \u201cShe really thinks that. She really thinks I\u2019m a good man. I\u2019m not a good man, but I want to be a good man.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was like she was saying I was something I wasn\u2019t yet, but I wanted to become what she was saying I was. I think I started to be transformed by her words, because she actually chose not to see the negative.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And that wasn\u2019t my motivation, \u201c<em>I\u2019m going to change him with my words.\u201d<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> No, but it worked that way. And I\u2019m not saying it works that way with everybody, but I do think it sort of works that way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> It does!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> People respond to kindness if you just wear them down with it enough.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> \u2014or you respond to the way you look at them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I think there have got to be listeners, who are thinking, \u201cOkay, I\u2019m busted! I am default negative.\u201d They would acknowledge that, when they see something happening, their first thought is not positive. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> It\u2019s: \u201cUh-uh.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right; Debbie Downer; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And you wrote <em>The Negativity Remedy <\/em>with that person in mind to say there\u2019s a way out of your persistent, stubborn negativity\u2014because you were there! That was you a decade ago; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> That was me a decade ago! I was an alcoholic, a drinker and smoker, an overeater, angry at my husband. When I got my eyes off of myself, and put them onto the needs of others, or just kindness in general\u2014noticing when people were being kind to me or when I had the opportunity to be kind to someone else\u2014it changed! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere was a college professor, who had a piece of paper. It was white and in the middle, was this black circle filled in. He had all of his assembly hall of students look at this picture and write down what they saw. Every single person wrote down something about that black dot\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cA hole into another universe,\u201d\u2014you know or whatever it was, however creative they wanted to be. The fact of the matter was you looked at the black dot. The professor said, \u201cWhat else is on the page?\u201d Uhhhh. The white space.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nicole:<\/strong> So when you\u2019re looking at your husband, and you are seeing his flaws, guess what? Well, all of those flaws are in me\u2014I know they are! I\u2019m grateful that my husband sees the white space around me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe book is called <em>The Negativity Remedy. <\/em>In it, you\u2019re going to read about taking every thought captive and about renewing your mind\u2014all of these biblical ideas\u2014and yet, this is a book you can easily give to somebody, who doesn\u2019t go to church often. In fact, we\u2019re making this book available this week to <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>listeners\u2014to those of you who can support the ministry of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> with a donation\u2014the book is our way of saying, Thank You for your partnership with us in this ministry. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tEveryday, <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>is connecting with hundreds of thousands of people around the world\u2014via radio, via our podcasts, on our mobile app, our website\u2014all of the different channels through which <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>is available. You\u2019re helping us effectively develop godly marriages and families when you support this ministry. In fact, that\u2019s what your donation is actually going to\u2014it\u2019s going to strengthen the marriages and families of people in your community and people throughout the world. So thanks in advance, for your financial support of this ministry. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019d love to send you a copy of Nicole Phillips\u2019 book, <em>The Negativity Remedy: Unlocking More Joy, Less Stress, and Better Relationships Through Kindness. <\/em>The book is our Thank You gift to you when you donate to <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>online, at FamilyLifeToday.com or when you call to donate at 1-800-358-6329. That\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBy the way, this weekend, we have our very first <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> getaway in more than a year! I mean, this is crazy\u2014but it was a year ago that we had to cancel <em>Weekends to Remember<\/em> for the rest of the spring, and then throughout the fall, because of COVID. This weekend in Branson, Missouri, we have a socially-distanced, sold-out <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> event happening. We\u2019re excited to have these events starting to open back up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have a few more events scheduled throughout the spring. You can go to our website, FamilyLifeToday.com, for more information about where these events are being held and about the precautions we are still taking in light of the pandemic. But we\u2019re excited to have <em>Weekends to Remember<\/em> beginning to happen again! Pray for the couples who will be at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> this weekend. If you need more information about where you can attend one of the upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> events, go to FamilyLifeToday.com for more information.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we hope you can join us, again, tomorrow when we\u2019re going to continue talking about kindness. Nicole Phillips will be back with us, and we\u2019ll talk about just how transformative a commitment to kindness can be for a marriage and a family, and honestly, how transformative it could be for our whole culture. I mean, think about that!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI hope you can join us, again, tomorrow. I want to thank our engineer, Keith Lynch. We got some help from our friend, Bruce Goff and our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru<sup>\u00ae <\/sup>Ministry. Help for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. 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