{"id":306765,"date":"2021-03-10T07:00:05","date_gmt":"2021-03-10T12:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/killing-spiders-casting-out-fear-from-your-marriage\/"},"modified":"2021-03-10T07:00:05","modified_gmt":"2021-03-10T12:00:05","slug":"killing-spiders-casting-out-fear-from-your-marriage","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/killing-spiders-casting-out-fear-from-your-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Killing Spiders: Casting Out Fear From Your Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Gary Thomas encourages husbands and wives to love their spouses by eliminating the things in their marriage that irritate them. 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Here\u2019s author Gary Thomas.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Gary:<\/strong> What do you want out of your marriage? Do you want to just co-exist? Do you want to just get by and maybe reduce the level of conflict?\u2014but do you really want to be connected as a couple? It really comes down to: \u201cWhat do you want? What do you want out of your marriage?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo often, it\u2019s just a fraud\u2014that we get married to be known and accepted\u2014and then we hide, and we pull back from each other. But the best marriages are the marriages, where each partner says to the other: \u201cYou know what? I am yours.\u201d \u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Wednesday, March 10<sup>th<\/sup>. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson; I'm Bob Lepine. You can find us online at FamilyLifeToday.com. We\u2019re going to hear from Gary Thomas today about things we can do to <em>deepen<\/em> the intimacy in our marriage. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. I\u2019ve had people, over the years, who have asked me\u2014because I\u2019ve been on all ten of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>\u2019s <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage cruises\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Wow!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014so they\u2019ve said, \u201cWhat\u2019s your <em>favorite<\/em> part of the cruise?\u201d That\u2019s hard to pick; because you go to some great ports; you\u2019re on a great ship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You\u2019ve got soft-serve ice cream every day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> That\u2019s what I was going to say! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014every day all day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> There are some people\u2014that is it\u2014whenever you want it. You can go get pizza whenever you want it. In the middle of the night, at three in the morning, you want a pizza?\u2014you can go get pizza. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s all pretty great; but the speakers that we\u2019ve had on the cruise over the years\u2014the chance to hear from the best of the best when it comes to the marriage relationship\u2014that\u2019s what, ten years later, still sticks with you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, the soft-serve is still sticking with me too. [Laughter] <em>But<\/em> those speakers\u2014I mean, we\u2019ve just had such a great lineup. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re talking about this, because we have just opened registration for the 2022 <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise. February, next year, we will be back on the boat, in the water, headed to some great ports. There\u2019s information about the upcoming cruise on our website. If you are interested in going\u2014and who\u2019s not after this past year of being cooped up\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Exactly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I can\u2019t wait to go. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014you can go and register <em>today<\/em>\u2014best opportunity to pick the cabin you want to be in. You save $400 per couple by registering this week. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut I remember\u2014we\u2019ve had <em>so many<\/em> great speakers. Gary Thomas, who wrote the book, <em>Sacred Marriage<\/em>, has been on the cruise with us a couple of times. He did a message, back in 2016, about the elements that go into building intimacy in your marriage. He\u2019s talking, not just about physical intimacy; he\u2019s talking about oneness, which is what we\u2019re all about. It was just such a <em>great<\/em> message. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I hope will happen, as listeners listen to this, two things. I hope they\u2019ll get some fresh insight on how they can grow together as a couple. And I hope they\u2019ll go, \u201cWe\u2019ve got to go on that cruise and be on with you guys next year.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014because this kind of teaching happens every single day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; so we\u2019re going to hear Part One of Gary Thomas\u2019s message on the four keys to becoming a more intimate couple in your marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Previous <em>Love Like You Mean It <\/em>Message]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Gary:<\/strong> The first one I want to talk about is simple: it\u2019s honesty; it\u2019s honesty. If you want to increase the level of intimacy in your marriage, increase the level of honesty. Jeremiah 8:5 warns of those who \u201ccling to deceit.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt is always amazing to me, as a pastor, that we get married so we can share our lives together; and then, we spend most of our lives <em>hiding<\/em> from each other. Well, that creates a great frustration; because we can\u2019t be intimate with somebody we\u2019re lying to.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIntimacy, by definition, is being fully-known and fully-accepted. If we\u2019re not fully-known, we can\u2019t be fully-accepted. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know to men, in particular, this is terrifying to us. Just a little window to the wives\u2014a lot of us guys are just astonished that we got a woman to marry us; right? I mean, we were cut from sports teams by coaches; we were ridiculed by our siblings; we never feel like we measured up. Somehow, we got this woman to marry us; and we\u2019re afraid, if she gets to know us as we really are, she\u2019ll be like the coach who wants to cut us, or the siblings, who said\/or friends, who said we didn\u2019t quite measure up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut men, when we give into that fear, we miss one of the most <em>healing<\/em> aspects of marriage. My wife married a very insecure man, who still deals with a lot of insecurity. I\u2019m three of four kids. I had two older brothers that were\u2014you know, you can\u2019t compete with them\u2014I had the younger sister who was the little princess. We\u2019ve got three boys and you\u2019ve got the princess. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the most healing things for me of all is: Lisa <em>knows <\/em>me, literally, better than anyone else; and she still likes me\/she still respects me. I can\u2019t believe it! I can\u2019t tell you the healing that that brings into my life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, a couple years ago, we were with a couple. I had been away at work all day, and we were meeting a couple at a restaurant. Lisa was the last one to arrive\u2014she had been at our home\u2014she came in. It was November; she kind of just skootches in and gets close to me. The other woman says to her, \u201cWell, are you cold?\u201d She goes, \u201cNo, I just\/I\u2019ve been away from him all day; I really miss him.\u201d I felt like a king! Here we\u2019d been married almost 30 years at the time\u2014had just been apart for one workday\u2014and Lisa was eager to see me. I can\u2019t tell you what that did for my <em>soul<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut here\u2019s the thing\u2014if I know I\u2019m lying to her\u2014instead of that moment making me feel great, it\u2019s going to terrify me\u2014because I\u2019m going to like how it feels\u2014but I\u2019m going to be afraid: \u201cWell, she likes me; because she doesn\u2019t know about \u2018x\u2019 or \u2018y,\u2019\u201d \u201cShe respects me, because she hasn\u2019t found out about \u2018y\u2019 or \u2018z\u2019.\u201d So what am I going to do?\u2014because I don\u2019t want to lose that\u2014I\u2019m going to double down on the deceit; I\u2019m going to build a wall. I\u2019m not going to let her get to know me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMen\u2014if I could just tell you\u2014most wives will tell me one of their <em>greatest<\/em> frustrations in marriage is they feel like their husband just won\u2019t let them in. They feel like: \u201cI never really get to know him. I feel like there\u2019s always something up.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI talked\/this was a tragic situation with a rather young couple, married less than five years. She knew something wasn\u2019t right in her husband\u2019s life. She didn\u2019t know all of his past; he hadn\u2019t been completely honest about before they got married; and he hadn\u2019t dealt with it, even though he was in the ministry. Things weren\u2019t going well. She sat him down; and she looked him in the eyes, and said: \u201cLook, I am the kind of woman who will work through anything\u2014and I mean <em>anything<\/em>\u2014but you\u2019ve just got to be honest with me. I need to know what\u2019s going on in your life.\u201d He knew he was kind of in the spotlight; so he confessed to one of the weakest sins he could think of, leaving a lot of dark still in the dark. When it finally came out\u2014as it will\u2014she was done, and their marriage is over. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe was calling for him to be honest, and he refused. One of the things I understand about what she was saying is: \u201cYou can\u2019t be intimate with a woman you are lying to.\u201d Deception becomes a part of that relationship, and it\u2019s terrifying. But when we have a God of grace\u2014when we know forgiveness\/when we know, as we talked about last night, James 3:2, that \u201cWe all stumble in many ways\u2026\u201d\u2014we have the context to be honest with each other, to accept each other, and to grow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJustin Davis was a pastor, who also had a really tough background; but this has a much happier ending. He got involved in a lot of things\u2014pornography; ended up having an affair with his best friend\u2019s wife\u2014it came out. It took weeks and months for them to really be restored. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut coming out of it\u2014and this is the thing I\u2019d say to the guys\u2014he realized: \u201cDeception has ruined my whole life. It\u2019s ruined my relationship with God. It\u2019s ruined my relationship with myself\/I\u2019m disconnected from myself. I\u2019m disconnected with my wife. I can\u2019t believe I did that to my friend, cheating with his wife,\u201d\u2014I mean, all that he did. He lost his ministry\/everything. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere are the four questions that he now regularly asks himself, because he\u2019s so committed to the truth:\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<ol><li>\n\t\t\t\t\tIs the fear of the consequences of the truth greater than my commitment to tell the truth?\n\t\t\t\t<\/li>\n\t\t\t<\/ol><p>\n\t\t\t\tIsn\u2019t that what makes us lie? We\u2019re afraid of the consequences more than we\u2019re afraid of being dishonest.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe said: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<ol start=\"2\"><li>\n\t\t\t\t\tAm I telling myself the truth?\n\t\t\t\t<\/li>\n\t\t\t<\/ol><p>\n\t\t\t\tWe can lie to ourselves.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<ol start=\"3\"><li>\n\t\t\t\t\tIs there a truth I\u2019ve distorted or am distorting right now?\n\t\t\t\t<\/li>\n\t\t\t<\/ol><p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd finally,\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<ol start=\"4\"><li>\n\t\t\t\t\tIs there something I\u2019ve withheld or am currently withholding from my spouse?\n\t\t\t\t<\/li>\n\t\t\t<\/ol><p>\n\t\t\t\tGet before the Lord this week\u2014you\u2019ve got a great time\/you\u2019ve got some opportunities\u2014and say, \u201cLord, how honest am I being with my spouse?\u201d Understand that whatever is most painful to share with our spouse is something that God probably wants to work on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ll be very honest\u2014I would be much less of a man if I wasn\u2019t worried about my wife finding out about certain things. The danger of giving into that fear and living in deception before your wife is\u2014what Satan says is: \u201cYou know what, Gary? There\u2019s a way you can have\u2014this action, or this sin, or this attitude\u2014and still have your wife and still have her esteem; and that\u2019s lying about it.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJesus said Satan is the father of lies. Lies never serve a marriage; because Jesus says, \u201cI am the Way, the Truth and the Life.\u201d To bring Jesus into our marriage is to bring the <em>Truth<\/em> into our marriage. If you want to increase the level of intimacy in your marriage, increase the level of honesty. It\u2019s tough to get there; it\u2019s scary to get there, but it helps bind us together.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe second thing that will really help us is the blessing mentality\/the blessing mentality. There are really two different dimensions that we can live in. This is a cognitive change, and it\u2019s a hard change. It sounds not that profound; but when it\u2019s practiced, it changes marriage enormously. It comes from Genesis 12:2 when God is saying to Abraham, \u201cI\u2019m blessing you\u201d\u2014why?\u2014\u201cto be a blessing.\u201d That\u2019s the way it works. First John 4:19: \u201cWe love because He first loved us.\u201d The biblical model is that God pours Himself out for us <em>so that<\/em> we pour ourselves out for others. We\u2019re to be a blessing to others. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tEvery day of marriage, I live with one of two questions; these are the two dimensions: \u201cHow can I get my needs met?\u201d or \u201cHow can I bless you?\u201d It\u2019s that simple. Every time we\u2019re in a disagreement, I have a thing: \u201cDo I want to win this argument, or do I want to bless my wife?\u201d Only one of those two motivations will prevail. James 4:1-2 says this: \u201cWhat causes fights and quarrels among you? You want something, but don\u2019t get it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI believe most divorces could be stopped if every couple would wake up every day and their first thought is, \u201cHow do I bless my spouse today?\u201d It just puts everything into focus; it changes the color of the day. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt is just our selfish desire: \u201cHow do I get my needs met today?\u201d \u201cHow do I get my husband to finally do this?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cHow do I finally get my wife to do this?\u201d But if we wake up and say, \u201cHow do I be a blessing to my spouse today?\u201d that involves going to God first, getting the blessing from Him. We need His affirmation; we need His encouragement; we need His empowerment. When we do that, it\u2019s just natural then\u2014or I could say supernatural\u2014that we want to bless others. The more we receive from God, we are just <em>compelled<\/em> to pass it on. That\u2019s the second thing that we do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe third one we\u2019re going to talk about is what I call \u201cKilling spiders\u201d\/killing spiders. I don\u2019t have a problem with spiders, but my wife really does. If I see a spider in the house, it\u2019s dead; I kill it. There are good things about spiders; they actually kill other insects\u2014that can be good\u2014but it freaks Lisa out. If she sees a spider, unexpectedly, she wants me to kill it. Now, because I\u2019m married to Lisa\/because I want to love her and bless her, there are certain spiders I have to kill. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me put this in a relationship metaphor. If Lisa\u2019s dad had been an alcoholic\u2014he surely wasn\u2019t\u2014but if he had, I think I would just kill alcohol use. Theologically, I don\u2019t believe there is an absolute prohibition against alcohol. But if I knew that she had grown up with that in her childhood\u2014every time she smelled it on my breath\/every time I maybe had just a <em>little<\/em> bit too much to drink\u2014she couldn\u2019t help it; she\u2019s a real person with a real past. All those feelings are going to come up from her childhood. To protect her, I don\u2019t want her to have to face that\/I don\u2019t want her to have to overcome that. I can choose: either this on this side, drinking; or I can choose: \u201cDo I want to be close to my wife?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, so many times when I work with couples, they say: \u201cBut I enjoy that. Why do I want to give it up?\u201d Because a connected marriage is so much more fulfilling than a disconnected marriage with hobbies. It really is! That\u2019s what we want; we want a life of intimacy. And to grow closer together, there are certain things we have to kill that might not be morally problematic; but they keep pushing our spouse away. We have to choose: \u201cDo I want to maintain my independence and live in a rather disconnected marriage?\u201d or \u201cAm I willing to kill just about anything to have a life of true intimacy and oneness?\u201d I think, if you could experience intimacy and oneness, you would choose that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf Lisa and I were on our second marriage\u2014we\u2019re not\u2014surely, this is our first one\/our only one\u2014but if her first husband had basically wrecked their marriage with video game playing too much, I think that is something\/it\u2019s a spider I can kill; because I think, every time I pick up that controller, all of that is going to come back from her past: \u201cOh no. Here we go again. I lost my first husband to that.\u201d Maybe I get a little too into the game, and a little too excited, and I forget that maybe two or three hours have passed; I just say: \u201cYou know what? I chose her\/I want to be close to her. This is a spider I need to kill, and I\u2019m going to kill it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe thing is about this\u2014this is something that goes on throughout our life\u2014because different spiders crop up when we\u2019re in different stages of marriage. Lisa and I are rather recent empty nesters. So now, we\u2019re travelling together a whole lot more than we used to when the kids were young and at home. It\u2019s amazing to me\u2014because when we come out of the hotel elevator, or when we go out in the parking garage, Lisa would always turn the wrong way; alright? If the hotel room was right, she would go left. If the rental car is north in the parking lot, she would go south. I kept thinking, \u201cYou\u2019d think she would guess right half of the time\u201d; alright? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut she\u2019s the extrovert. She had all these great conversations, and she wants to recount them to me, and she\u2019s got the energy going, and just talking. She doesn\u2019t have to worry about it, because she knows I paid attention; so it doesn\u2019t even kick into her. I\u2019m letting her out of the elevator first so she\u2019s always the one ahead. I was just kind of laughing about it; because we\u2019d been in this hotel for several days, and she went the wrong way again. I thought, \u201cReally?!\u201d [Laughter] That wasn\u2019t the best way to make her feel close to me, men; alright? I wouldn\u2019t recommend that response; okay? Well, that didn\u2019t work out. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo the next day, she did it again. I just stopped where I was; she went 20\/25 yards away. She looks, and she saw what I was doing. <em>That <\/em>didn\u2019t go so well either; alright? [Laughter] Typical guy\/I said: \u201cWell, what am I supposed to do? If I say something, you say it makes you feel stupid. If I don\u2019t say anything, you think it\u2019s an act of disrespect. I can\u2019t win!\u201d\u2014right?\u2014that\u2019s the guy perspective. She goes: \u201cIt\u2019s easy. Just say, \u2018This way, hon,\u2019\u2014with exactly that tone.\u201d I thought, \u201cAlright.\u201d Next day, I get to try it out. [Laughter] She goes right; I go, \u201cThis way, hon!\u201d She turns around, gives me a gorgeous smile; we laugh; we have a good moment; and we go off down the way; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMen and women, it\u2019s just this\u2014if there\u2019s this life situation that\u2019s pulling the two of you apart\u2014how about if you just say: \u201cThen tell me what spider I need to kill. I don\u2019t want you to feel disrespected; I don\u2019t want you to feel stupid. I honestly don\u2019t know what to do though; I think I\u2019m at an impasse. Show me how to kill this spider.\u201d Then kill that spider. Now, whenever that happens, it draws us closer together rather than pushes us away; because we want to be closer together.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy youngest daughter, Kelsey, has been in three automobile accidents on the freeway; and none of them was her fault. A couple of them were pretty serious. One, her car was completely totaled; and she was shaken forever. It\u2019s not her fault. When you\u2019ve been in car accidents, and they weren\u2019t your fault, it\u2019s not like you can take\u2014I mean, what are you going to do differently if it\u2019s not your fault?\u2014it just happened. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo when she is driving with me, particularly if she\u2019s in the front seat\u2014I\u2019m Grampa Gary\u2014you know, there\u2019s 100 yards between me and the front car. I\u2019m not driving aggressively\/I\u2019m not coming right up on somebody; because she\u2019s a real person with a real past. To honor her, and to protect her, and to love her, I\u2019m going to kill that spider of aggressive driving. She can\u2019t help it; it\u2019s who she is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I\u2019m saying is\u2014your spouse has a real past with real hurts and real fears. It doesn\u2019t matter whether you think they\u2019re silly, or illegitimate, or \u201cYou should just think your way through them.\u201d If they motivate your spouse\u2014and you want to be close to your spouse\u2014you\u2019ve got to kill those spiders that irritate your spouse, because it\u2019s better to be connected than to hold onto those spiders and be disconnected in marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow the fourth one is this\u2014it comes from Proverbs 17:17\u2014I could label it as this: \u201cI Was Born for This\u201d\/\u201cI Was Born for This.\u201d Proverbs 17:17 says this: \u201cA friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, if that\u2019s true for a brother, you could say a spouse is married for adversity; because here\u2019s a challenge:\u00a0We get married because we love this person: they\u2019re beautiful; they\u2019re full of energy; they\u2019re full of life; and we have a good time together. Then, they get sick; or they get discouraged; or they get depressed; or they get addicted; or they have a problem. It\u2019s so easy, spiritually, to say: \u201cBoy! This isn\u2019t very good. I have to put up with this? I didn\u2019t get married for this! Why did I do this?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut if we believe that we were <em>born<\/em> for our spouse\u2019s adversity\u2014whenever they face a challenge\u2014we have in mind, \u201cI was born for this!\u201d This is where we rise to it. Rather than collapsing into resentment, and self-pity, and feeling sorry for ourselves, we feel empathy for our spouse: \u201cI was born for this!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have to have the attitude of a fireman; right? A fireman doesn\u2019t resent it when there\u2019s a fire; does he?\u2014\u201cOh, man! I wanted to finish my meal!\u201d or \u201cI was playing Scrabble<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>!\u201d\u2014he goes out, because that\u2019s what he was trained to do\u2014that\u2019s why he\u2019s given a paycheck\/that\u2019s why he\u2019s there\u2014to put out the fires.\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut in marriage, we think, \u201cNo; we\u2019re there for the good times\u201d; we don\u2019t want to have to put out the fires. But if we have the attitude of Proverbs 17, and we\u2019re saying, whenever it arises, \u201cI was born for this,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s what creates great connectedness with a couple\u2014because when you meet your spouse in their weakness, and need, and hurt, they\u2019re just naturally drawn to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThese are <em>tough<\/em> things; but if you write them down, and if you apply them, they work! They draw us together. They take a lot of courage.\u00a0But you\u2019ve got to ask yourself: \u201cWhat do you want? What do you want out of your marriage? Do you want to just co-exist? Do you want to just get by and maybe reduce the level of conflict?\u2014but do you really want to be connected as a couple?\u201d It really comes down to: \u201cWhat do you want? What do you want out of your marriage?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo often, it\u2019s just a fraud\u2014that we get married to be known and accepted\u2014and then we hide and, spiritually, we become resentful; and we pull back from each other. But the best marriages\/the best marriages are the marriages, where each partner says to the other: \u201cYou know what? I am yours. Before I\u2019m my kids\u2019 mom or dad, before I\u2019m my boss\u2019s employee, before I\u2019m my company\u2019s boss, before I\u2019m my parents\u2019 child, before I\u2019m my hobby\u2019s addict, I belong to you. I\u2019m going to make those choices to stay connected to you. I\u2019m not going to put anything above you.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019re frustrated in a disconnected marriage, the solution isn\u2019t to kill your marriage\u2014that\u2019s what Satan likes\u2014\u201cSee how frustrated you are? See how distant you are? Here\u2019s what you do: \u2018You kill your marriage\/you destroy your family.\u2019\u201d What does Jesus say Satan comes to do in John 10? [Audience response] \u201cSatan, the thief, comes to steal, to kill, and to destroy.\u201d Whenever that\u2019s the solution to your problem, you know who you\u2019re listening to. Jesus told us that is his[Satan\u2019s] motive; that\u2019s his operation; that\u2019s his solution. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut Jesus says, \u201cI have come that you might have life and you might have it abundantly.\u201d God wants us to have life-giving marriages and abundant marriages. In His Word, He\u2019s given us these four things, all out of Scripture, where we can reconnect\/we can direct our hearts to have a more connected marriage. When we do, it becomes <em>so<\/em> powerful.\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou don\u2019t have to destroy your marriage if you feel disconnected. You might love being married if you can get reconnected, and I believe these things will help you do that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, we\u2019ve been listening to a portion of a message from Gary Thomas, the author of the book, <em>Sacred Marriage<\/em>. He\u2019s written so many great books.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, he has.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And he\u2019s a great communicator.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This was just a portion of the message. In fact, I\u2019d encourage listeners: go to our website, FamilyLifeToday.com, and you can download the entire message; because what Gary\u2019s talking about here is what I think couples want but don\u2019t know they want. If you say to a couple, \u201cDo you want oneness in your marriage?\u201d I think they go, \u201cI do, but I\u2019m not exactly sure what that means or what it looks like.\u201d We know we want it; we\u2019re just not sure how to pursue it: \u201cWhat are the elements that go into that?\u201d Gary maps it out for us here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, how about when he said the adversity of your spouse is your calling?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Some of us are thinking, \u201cWhat? What does that mean?\u201d; yes. But he explains it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> He does; again, you can go get this message on our website at FamilyLifeToday.com. While you\u2019re there, check out the 2022 <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise\u2014February of \u201822.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Come with us!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We will be back on board for a <em>great<\/em> getaway. I mean, everybody who has felt cooped up this year\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014I mean, we\u2019re all counting on the fact that it\u2019s going to be masks off and a clean boat. I\u2019ll tell you\u2014it\u2019s starting to fill up; we are hearing from people, who are so, so ready to reserve a stateroom for the 2022 <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise. Right now, between now and March 22<sup>nd<\/sup>, the best opportunity all year for you to reserve a stateroom on the cruise; because we make a special offer to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners in March; we call it Cruise Madness. It\u2019s your opportunity to save some money and reserve your spot for the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise in February of 2022. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you have any questions about what happens if there is another wave of the virus, or you know, call us; and we can talk through all of that with you; okay? 1-800-FL-TODAY is the number. You want to check out more information online; go to FamilyLifeToday.com. There\u2019s a link there that will give you everything you need to know about the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise for February of 2022.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we\u2019re going to hear a <em>powerful<\/em> message about the biblical priority of forgiveness. 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Thomas encourages husbands and wives to love their spouses by eliminating the things in their marriage that irritate them. He describes what it takes to deepen intimacy in marriage.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylife.com\/fl2021-03-10.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>For a marriage to really thrive, couples have to learn how to be transparent\/how to be open and honest with one another. Here\u2019s author Gary Thomas.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Gary:<\/strong> What do you want out of your marriage? Do you want to just co-exist? Do you want to just get by and maybe reduce the level of conflict?\u2014but do you really want to be connected as a couple? It really comes down to: \u201cWhat do you want? What do you want out of your marriage?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo often, it\u2019s just a fraud\u2014that we get married to be known and accepted\u2014and then we hide, and we pull back from each other. But the best marriages are the marriages, where each partner says to the other: \u201cYou know what? I am yours.\u201d \u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Wednesday, March 10<sup>th<\/sup>. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson; I'm Bob Lepine. You can find us online at FamilyLifeToday.com. We\u2019re going to hear from Gary Thomas today about things we can do to <em>deepen<\/em> the intimacy in our marriage. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. I\u2019ve had people, over the years, who have asked me\u2014because I\u2019ve been on all ten of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>\u2019s <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage cruises\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Wow!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014so they\u2019ve said, \u201cWhat\u2019s your <em>favorite<\/em> part of the cruise?\u201d That\u2019s hard to pick; because you go to some great ports; you\u2019re on a great ship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You\u2019ve got soft-serve ice cream every day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> That\u2019s what I was going to say! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014every day all day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> There are some people\u2014that is it\u2014whenever you want it. You can go get pizza whenever you want it. In the middle of the night, at three in the morning, you want a pizza?\u2014you can go get pizza. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s all pretty great; but the speakers that we\u2019ve had on the cruise over the years\u2014the chance to hear from the best of the best when it comes to the marriage relationship\u2014that\u2019s what, ten years later, still sticks with you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, the soft-serve is still sticking with me too. [Laughter] <em>But<\/em> those speakers\u2014I mean, we\u2019ve just had such a great lineup. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re talking about this, because we have just opened registration for the 2022 <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise. February, next year, we will be back on the boat, in the water, headed to some great ports. There\u2019s information about the upcoming cruise on our website. If you are interested in going\u2014and who\u2019s not after this past year of being cooped up\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Exactly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I can\u2019t wait to go. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014you can go and register <em>today<\/em>\u2014best opportunity to pick the cabin you want to be in. You save $400 per couple by registering this week. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut I remember\u2014we\u2019ve had <em>so many<\/em> great speakers. Gary Thomas, who wrote the book, <em>Sacred Marriage<\/em>, has been on the cruise with us a couple of times. He did a message, back in 2016, about the elements that go into building intimacy in your marriage. He\u2019s talking, not just about physical intimacy; he\u2019s talking about oneness, which is what we\u2019re all about. It was just such a <em>great<\/em> message. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I hope will happen, as listeners listen to this, two things. I hope they\u2019ll get some fresh insight on how they can grow together as a couple. And I hope they\u2019ll go, \u201cWe\u2019ve got to go on that cruise and be on with you guys next year.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014because this kind of teaching happens every single day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; so we\u2019re going to hear Part One of Gary Thomas\u2019s message on the four keys to becoming a more intimate couple in your marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Previous <em>Love Like You Mean It <\/em>Message]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Gary:<\/strong> The first one I want to talk about is simple: it\u2019s honesty; it\u2019s honesty. If you want to increase the level of intimacy in your marriage, increase the level of honesty. Jeremiah 8:5 warns of those who \u201ccling to deceit.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt is always amazing to me, as a pastor, that we get married so we can share our lives together; and then, we spend most of our lives <em>hiding<\/em> from each other. Well, that creates a great frustration; because we can\u2019t be intimate with somebody we\u2019re lying to.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIntimacy, by definition, is being fully-known and fully-accepted. If we\u2019re not fully-known, we can\u2019t be fully-accepted. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know to men, in particular, this is terrifying to us. Just a little window to the wives\u2014a lot of us guys are just astonished that we got a woman to marry us; right? I mean, we were cut from sports teams by coaches; we were ridiculed by our siblings; we never feel like we measured up. Somehow, we got this woman to marry us; and we\u2019re afraid, if she gets to know us as we really are, she\u2019ll be like the coach who wants to cut us, or the siblings, who said\/or friends, who said we didn\u2019t quite measure up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut men, when we give into that fear, we miss one of the most <em>healing<\/em> aspects of marriage. My wife married a very insecure man, who still deals with a lot of insecurity. I\u2019m three of four kids. I had two older brothers that were\u2014you know, you can\u2019t compete with them\u2014I had the younger sister who was the little princess. We\u2019ve got three boys and you\u2019ve got the princess. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the most healing things for me of all is: Lisa <em>knows <\/em>me, literally, better than anyone else; and she still likes me\/she still respects me. I can\u2019t believe it! I can\u2019t tell you the healing that that brings into my life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, a couple years ago, we were with a couple. I had been away at work all day, and we were meeting a couple at a restaurant. Lisa was the last one to arrive\u2014she had been at our home\u2014she came in. It was November; she kind of just skootches in and gets close to me. The other woman says to her, \u201cWell, are you cold?\u201d She goes, \u201cNo, I just\/I\u2019ve been away from him all day; I really miss him.\u201d I felt like a king! Here we\u2019d been married almost 30 years at the time\u2014had just been apart for one workday\u2014and Lisa was eager to see me. I can\u2019t tell you what that did for my <em>soul<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut here\u2019s the thing\u2014if I know I\u2019m lying to her\u2014instead of that moment making me feel great, it\u2019s going to terrify me\u2014because I\u2019m going to like how it feels\u2014but I\u2019m going to be afraid: \u201cWell, she likes me; because she doesn\u2019t know about \u2018x\u2019 or \u2018y,\u2019\u201d \u201cShe respects me, because she hasn\u2019t found out about \u2018y\u2019 or \u2018z\u2019.\u201d So what am I going to do?\u2014because I don\u2019t want to lose that\u2014I\u2019m going to double down on the deceit; I\u2019m going to build a wall. I\u2019m not going to let her get to know me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMen\u2014if I could just tell you\u2014most wives will tell me one of their <em>greatest<\/em> frustrations in marriage is they feel like their husband just won\u2019t let them in. They feel like: \u201cI never really get to know him. I feel like there\u2019s always something up.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI talked\/this was a tragic situation with a rather young couple, married less than five years. She knew something wasn\u2019t right in her husband\u2019s life. She didn\u2019t know all of his past; he hadn\u2019t been completely honest about before they got married; and he hadn\u2019t dealt with it, even though he was in the ministry. Things weren\u2019t going well. She sat him down; and she looked him in the eyes, and said: \u201cLook, I am the kind of woman who will work through anything\u2014and I mean <em>anything<\/em>\u2014but you\u2019ve just got to be honest with me. I need to know what\u2019s going on in your life.\u201d He knew he was kind of in the spotlight; so he confessed to one of the weakest sins he could think of, leaving a lot of dark still in the dark. When it finally came out\u2014as it will\u2014she was done, and their marriage is over. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe was calling for him to be honest, and he refused. One of the things I understand about what she was saying is: \u201cYou can\u2019t be intimate with a woman you are lying to.\u201d Deception becomes a part of that relationship, and it\u2019s terrifying. But when we have a God of grace\u2014when we know forgiveness\/when we know, as we talked about last night, James 3:2, that \u201cWe all stumble in many ways\u2026\u201d\u2014we have the context to be honest with each other, to accept each other, and to grow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJustin Davis was a pastor, who also had a really tough background; but this has a much happier ending. He got involved in a lot of things\u2014pornography; ended up having an affair with his best friend\u2019s wife\u2014it came out. It took weeks and months for them to really be restored. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut coming out of it\u2014and this is the thing I\u2019d say to the guys\u2014he realized: \u201cDeception has ruined my whole life. It\u2019s ruined my relationship with God. It\u2019s ruined my relationship with myself\/I\u2019m disconnected from myself. I\u2019m disconnected with my wife. I can\u2019t believe I did that to my friend, cheating with his wife,\u201d\u2014I mean, all that he did. He lost his ministry\/everything. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere are the four questions that he now regularly asks himself, because he\u2019s so committed to the truth:\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<ol><li>\n\t\t\t\t\tIs the fear of the consequences of the truth greater than my commitment to tell the truth?\n\t\t\t\t<\/li>\n\t\t\t<\/ol><p>\n\t\t\t\tIsn\u2019t that what makes us lie? We\u2019re afraid of the consequences more than we\u2019re afraid of being dishonest.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe said: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<ol start=\"2\"><li>\n\t\t\t\t\tAm I telling myself the truth?\n\t\t\t\t<\/li>\n\t\t\t<\/ol><p>\n\t\t\t\tWe can lie to ourselves.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<ol start=\"3\"><li>\n\t\t\t\t\tIs there a truth I\u2019ve distorted or am distorting right now?\n\t\t\t\t<\/li>\n\t\t\t<\/ol><p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd finally,\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<ol start=\"4\"><li>\n\t\t\t\t\tIs there something I\u2019ve withheld or am currently withholding from my spouse?\n\t\t\t\t<\/li>\n\t\t\t<\/ol><p>\n\t\t\t\tGet before the Lord this week\u2014you\u2019ve got a great time\/you\u2019ve got some opportunities\u2014and say, \u201cLord, how honest am I being with my spouse?\u201d Understand that whatever is most painful to share with our spouse is something that God probably wants to work on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ll be very honest\u2014I would be much less of a man if I wasn\u2019t worried about my wife finding out about certain things. The danger of giving into that fear and living in deception before your wife is\u2014what Satan says is: \u201cYou know what, Gary? There\u2019s a way you can have\u2014this action, or this sin, or this attitude\u2014and still have your wife and still have her esteem; and that\u2019s lying about it.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJesus said Satan is the father of lies. Lies never serve a marriage; because Jesus says, \u201cI am the Way, the Truth and the Life.\u201d To bring Jesus into our marriage is to bring the <em>Truth<\/em> into our marriage. If you want to increase the level of intimacy in your marriage, increase the level of honesty. It\u2019s tough to get there; it\u2019s scary to get there, but it helps bind us together.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe second thing that will really help us is the blessing mentality\/the blessing mentality. There are really two different dimensions that we can live in. This is a cognitive change, and it\u2019s a hard change. It sounds not that profound; but when it\u2019s practiced, it changes marriage enormously. It comes from Genesis 12:2 when God is saying to Abraham, \u201cI\u2019m blessing you\u201d\u2014why?\u2014\u201cto be a blessing.\u201d That\u2019s the way it works. First John 4:19: \u201cWe love because He first loved us.\u201d The biblical model is that God pours Himself out for us <em>so that<\/em> we pour ourselves out for others. We\u2019re to be a blessing to others. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tEvery day of marriage, I live with one of two questions; these are the two dimensions: \u201cHow can I get my needs met?\u201d or \u201cHow can I bless you?\u201d It\u2019s that simple. Every time we\u2019re in a disagreement, I have a thing: \u201cDo I want to win this argument, or do I want to bless my wife?\u201d Only one of those two motivations will prevail. James 4:1-2 says this: \u201cWhat causes fights and quarrels among you? You want something, but don\u2019t get it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI believe most divorces could be stopped if every couple would wake up every day and their first thought is, \u201cHow do I bless my spouse today?\u201d It just puts everything into focus; it changes the color of the day. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt is just our selfish desire: \u201cHow do I get my needs met today?\u201d \u201cHow do I get my husband to finally do this?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cHow do I finally get my wife to do this?\u201d But if we wake up and say, \u201cHow do I be a blessing to my spouse today?\u201d that involves going to God first, getting the blessing from Him. We need His affirmation; we need His encouragement; we need His empowerment. When we do that, it\u2019s just natural then\u2014or I could say supernatural\u2014that we want to bless others. The more we receive from God, we are just <em>compelled<\/em> to pass it on. That\u2019s the second thing that we do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe third one we\u2019re going to talk about is what I call \u201cKilling spiders\u201d\/killing spiders. I don\u2019t have a problem with spiders, but my wife really does. If I see a spider in the house, it\u2019s dead; I kill it. There are good things about spiders; they actually kill other insects\u2014that can be good\u2014but it freaks Lisa out. If she sees a spider, unexpectedly, she wants me to kill it. Now, because I\u2019m married to Lisa\/because I want to love her and bless her, there are certain spiders I have to kill. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me put this in a relationship metaphor. If Lisa\u2019s dad had been an alcoholic\u2014he surely wasn\u2019t\u2014but if he had, I think I would just kill alcohol use. Theologically, I don\u2019t believe there is an absolute prohibition against alcohol. But if I knew that she had grown up with that in her childhood\u2014every time she smelled it on my breath\/every time I maybe had just a <em>little<\/em> bit too much to drink\u2014she couldn\u2019t help it; she\u2019s a real person with a real past. All those feelings are going to come up from her childhood. To protect her, I don\u2019t want her to have to face that\/I don\u2019t want her to have to overcome that. I can choose: either this on this side, drinking; or I can choose: \u201cDo I want to be close to my wife?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, so many times when I work with couples, they say: \u201cBut I enjoy that. Why do I want to give it up?\u201d Because a connected marriage is so much more fulfilling than a disconnected marriage with hobbies. It really is! That\u2019s what we want; we want a life of intimacy. And to grow closer together, there are certain things we have to kill that might not be morally problematic; but they keep pushing our spouse away. We have to choose: \u201cDo I want to maintain my independence and live in a rather disconnected marriage?\u201d or \u201cAm I willing to kill just about anything to have a life of true intimacy and oneness?\u201d I think, if you could experience intimacy and oneness, you would choose that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf Lisa and I were on our second marriage\u2014we\u2019re not\u2014surely, this is our first one\/our only one\u2014but if her first husband had basically wrecked their marriage with video game playing too much, I think that is something\/it\u2019s a spider I can kill; because I think, every time I pick up that controller, all of that is going to come back from her past: \u201cOh no. Here we go again. I lost my first husband to that.\u201d Maybe I get a little too into the game, and a little too excited, and I forget that maybe two or three hours have passed; I just say: \u201cYou know what? I chose her\/I want to be close to her. This is a spider I need to kill, and I\u2019m going to kill it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe thing is about this\u2014this is something that goes on throughout our life\u2014because different spiders crop up when we\u2019re in different stages of marriage. Lisa and I are rather recent empty nesters. So now, we\u2019re travelling together a whole lot more than we used to when the kids were young and at home. It\u2019s amazing to me\u2014because when we come out of the hotel elevator, or when we go out in the parking garage, Lisa would always turn the wrong way; alright? If the hotel room was right, she would go left. If the rental car is north in the parking lot, she would go south. I kept thinking, \u201cYou\u2019d think she would guess right half of the time\u201d; alright? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut she\u2019s the extrovert. She had all these great conversations, and she wants to recount them to me, and she\u2019s got the energy going, and just talking. She doesn\u2019t have to worry about it, because she knows I paid attention; so it doesn\u2019t even kick into her. I\u2019m letting her out of the elevator first so she\u2019s always the one ahead. I was just kind of laughing about it; because we\u2019d been in this hotel for several days, and she went the wrong way again. I thought, \u201cReally?!\u201d [Laughter] That wasn\u2019t the best way to make her feel close to me, men; alright? I wouldn\u2019t recommend that response; okay? Well, that didn\u2019t work out. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo the next day, she did it again. I just stopped where I was; she went 20\/25 yards away. She looks, and she saw what I was doing. <em>That <\/em>didn\u2019t go so well either; alright? [Laughter] Typical guy\/I said: \u201cWell, what am I supposed to do? If I say something, you say it makes you feel stupid. If I don\u2019t say anything, you think it\u2019s an act of disrespect. I can\u2019t win!\u201d\u2014right?\u2014that\u2019s the guy perspective. She goes: \u201cIt\u2019s easy. Just say, \u2018This way, hon,\u2019\u2014with exactly that tone.\u201d I thought, \u201cAlright.\u201d Next day, I get to try it out. [Laughter] She goes right; I go, \u201cThis way, hon!\u201d She turns around, gives me a gorgeous smile; we laugh; we have a good moment; and we go off down the way; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMen and women, it\u2019s just this\u2014if there\u2019s this life situation that\u2019s pulling the two of you apart\u2014how about if you just say: \u201cThen tell me what spider I need to kill. I don\u2019t want you to feel disrespected; I don\u2019t want you to feel stupid. I honestly don\u2019t know what to do though; I think I\u2019m at an impasse. Show me how to kill this spider.\u201d Then kill that spider. Now, whenever that happens, it draws us closer together rather than pushes us away; because we want to be closer together.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy youngest daughter, Kelsey, has been in three automobile accidents on the freeway; and none of them was her fault. A couple of them were pretty serious. One, her car was completely totaled; and she was shaken forever. It\u2019s not her fault. When you\u2019ve been in car accidents, and they weren\u2019t your fault, it\u2019s not like you can take\u2014I mean, what are you going to do differently if it\u2019s not your fault?\u2014it just happened. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo when she is driving with me, particularly if she\u2019s in the front seat\u2014I\u2019m Grampa Gary\u2014you know, there\u2019s 100 yards between me and the front car. I\u2019m not driving aggressively\/I\u2019m not coming right up on somebody; because she\u2019s a real person with a real past. To honor her, and to protect her, and to love her, I\u2019m going to kill that spider of aggressive driving. She can\u2019t help it; it\u2019s who she is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I\u2019m saying is\u2014your spouse has a real past with real hurts and real fears. It doesn\u2019t matter whether you think they\u2019re silly, or illegitimate, or \u201cYou should just think your way through them.\u201d If they motivate your spouse\u2014and you want to be close to your spouse\u2014you\u2019ve got to kill those spiders that irritate your spouse, because it\u2019s better to be connected than to hold onto those spiders and be disconnected in marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow the fourth one is this\u2014it comes from Proverbs 17:17\u2014I could label it as this: \u201cI Was Born for This\u201d\/\u201cI Was Born for This.\u201d Proverbs 17:17 says this: \u201cA friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, if that\u2019s true for a brother, you could say a spouse is married for adversity; because here\u2019s a challenge:\u00a0We get married because we love this person: they\u2019re beautiful; they\u2019re full of energy; they\u2019re full of life; and we have a good time together. Then, they get sick; or they get discouraged; or they get depressed; or they get addicted; or they have a problem. It\u2019s so easy, spiritually, to say: \u201cBoy! This isn\u2019t very good. I have to put up with this? I didn\u2019t get married for this! Why did I do this?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut if we believe that we were <em>born<\/em> for our spouse\u2019s adversity\u2014whenever they face a challenge\u2014we have in mind, \u201cI was born for this!\u201d This is where we rise to it. Rather than collapsing into resentment, and self-pity, and feeling sorry for ourselves, we feel empathy for our spouse: \u201cI was born for this!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have to have the attitude of a fireman; right? A fireman doesn\u2019t resent it when there\u2019s a fire; does he?\u2014\u201cOh, man! I wanted to finish my meal!\u201d or \u201cI was playing Scrabble<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>!\u201d\u2014he goes out, because that\u2019s what he was trained to do\u2014that\u2019s why he\u2019s given a paycheck\/that\u2019s why he\u2019s there\u2014to put out the fires.\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut in marriage, we think, \u201cNo; we\u2019re there for the good times\u201d; we don\u2019t want to have to put out the fires. But if we have the attitude of Proverbs 17, and we\u2019re saying, whenever it arises, \u201cI was born for this,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s what creates great connectedness with a couple\u2014because when you meet your spouse in their weakness, and need, and hurt, they\u2019re just naturally drawn to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThese are <em>tough<\/em> things; but if you write them down, and if you apply them, they work! They draw us together. They take a lot of courage.\u00a0But you\u2019ve got to ask yourself: \u201cWhat do you want? What do you want out of your marriage? Do you want to just co-exist? Do you want to just get by and maybe reduce the level of conflict?\u2014but do you really want to be connected as a couple?\u201d It really comes down to: \u201cWhat do you want? What do you want out of your marriage?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo often, it\u2019s just a fraud\u2014that we get married to be known and accepted\u2014and then we hide and, spiritually, we become resentful; and we pull back from each other. But the best marriages\/the best marriages are the marriages, where each partner says to the other: \u201cYou know what? I am yours. Before I\u2019m my kids\u2019 mom or dad, before I\u2019m my boss\u2019s employee, before I\u2019m my company\u2019s boss, before I\u2019m my parents\u2019 child, before I\u2019m my hobby\u2019s addict, I belong to you. I\u2019m going to make those choices to stay connected to you. I\u2019m not going to put anything above you.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019re frustrated in a disconnected marriage, the solution isn\u2019t to kill your marriage\u2014that\u2019s what Satan likes\u2014\u201cSee how frustrated you are? See how distant you are? Here\u2019s what you do: \u2018You kill your marriage\/you destroy your family.\u2019\u201d What does Jesus say Satan comes to do in John 10? [Audience response] \u201cSatan, the thief, comes to steal, to kill, and to destroy.\u201d Whenever that\u2019s the solution to your problem, you know who you\u2019re listening to. Jesus told us that is his[Satan\u2019s] motive; that\u2019s his operation; that\u2019s his solution. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut Jesus says, \u201cI have come that you might have life and you might have it abundantly.\u201d God wants us to have life-giving marriages and abundant marriages. In His Word, He\u2019s given us these four things, all out of Scripture, where we can reconnect\/we can direct our hearts to have a more connected marriage. When we do, it becomes <em>so<\/em> powerful.\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou don\u2019t have to destroy your marriage if you feel disconnected. You might love being married if you can get reconnected, and I believe these things will help you do that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, we\u2019ve been listening to a portion of a message from Gary Thomas, the author of the book, <em>Sacred Marriage<\/em>. He\u2019s written so many great books.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, he has.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And he\u2019s a great communicator.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This was just a portion of the message. In fact, I\u2019d encourage listeners: go to our website, FamilyLifeToday.com, and you can download the entire message; because what Gary\u2019s talking about here is what I think couples want but don\u2019t know they want. If you say to a couple, \u201cDo you want oneness in your marriage?\u201d I think they go, \u201cI do, but I\u2019m not exactly sure what that means or what it looks like.\u201d We know we want it; we\u2019re just not sure how to pursue it: \u201cWhat are the elements that go into that?\u201d Gary maps it out for us here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, how about when he said the adversity of your spouse is your calling?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Some of us are thinking, \u201cWhat? What does that mean?\u201d; yes. But he explains it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> He does; again, you can go get this message on our website at FamilyLifeToday.com. While you\u2019re there, check out the 2022 <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise\u2014February of \u201822.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Come with us!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We will be back on board for a <em>great<\/em> getaway. I mean, everybody who has felt cooped up this year\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014I mean, we\u2019re all counting on the fact that it\u2019s going to be masks off and a clean boat. I\u2019ll tell you\u2014it\u2019s starting to fill up; we are hearing from people, who are so, so ready to reserve a stateroom for the 2022 <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise. Right now, between now and March 22<sup>nd<\/sup>, the best opportunity all year for you to reserve a stateroom on the cruise; because we make a special offer to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners in March; we call it Cruise Madness. It\u2019s your opportunity to save some money and reserve your spot for the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise in February of 2022. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you have any questions about what happens if there is another wave of the virus, or you know, call us; and we can talk through all of that with you; okay? 1-800-FL-TODAY is the number. You want to check out more information online; go to FamilyLifeToday.com. There\u2019s a link there that will give you everything you need to know about the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise for February of 2022.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we\u2019re going to hear a <em>powerful<\/em> message about the biblical priority of forgiveness. 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