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For that matter, as you\u2019re seeking to raise your kids to follow Christ, where do you go for wisdom or for counsel? Here\u2019s Chap Bettis.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> I heard someone say, \u201cStop googling Google<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, and start googling the church.\u201d You know, you\u2019ve got older people in the church who will be happy to share some thoughts, where you\u2019re saying, \u201cHey, how did you handle this when your kids were younger? How are you handling it now?\u201d Why do we believe that, on this most important task, we should know how to do it without any help?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday, January 12<sup>th<\/sup>. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson; I'm Bob Lepine. You can find us online at FamilyLifeToday.com. All of us, as parents, need help as we raise our kids. The question is: \u201cWhere do we go for help?\u201d We\u2019ll talk more about that today. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. I read this quote from Spurgeon that I just found myself going, \u201cI needed to be reminded of that again.\u201d He said, \u201cIf our children lose the crown of life, it will be small consolation that they have won laurels of literature and art,\u201d\u2014or sports\u2014[Laughter]\u2014I\u2019m just throwing that in for you; he didn\u2019t say \u201csports\u201d; but the point, as parents, we have to remember to keep the main thing the main thing. I remember Tim Kimmel\u2014our friend, Tim Kimmel\u2014years ago, saying,\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cA lot of parents are thinking, \u2018I want my kid to get into a good college, have good grades, make good friends, get a good job.\u2019\u201d He realized we\u2019re putting our ladder against the wrong wall if we think that\u2019s what\u2019s most important.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, interestingly, Bob, I was sitting with a group of pastors\u2019 wives years ago; and we were talking about parenting. I said, \u201cWhat do you want? What do you want for your kids?\u201d I was really interested in their answers. You know, I was surprised; because almost all of them said, \u201cI just want my kids to be happy.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And I\u2019m thinking, \u201cI don\u2019t want my kids to be happy! I want them to be warriors! I want them to mark their generation for Christ!\u201d A lot of times, that happens when they\u2019re <em>not<\/em> happy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think that\u2019s just a good question of: \u201cWhat <em>are<\/em> we aiming for?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, and I read that same quote; because I know what book we\u2019re talking about. [Laughter] I read it probably about the same time you did. I was challenged because, you know, I\u2019m a pastor; but I\u2019m a coach. When I watch my kids play sports\u2014and one made it all the way to the Detroit Lions\u2019 locker room\u2014I thought that was it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u201cHow could it be any greater than having Cody locker beside Calvin Johnson? This is it!\u201d And when he\u2019s out of the NFL, and pastoring with me, God hit me and said\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cNo.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cThis is so much better!\u201d Not that your son or daughter has to be in the ministry with you, but I had the opportunity to do that. It reminded me of that quote; it\u2019s like, \u201cThis is what really matters\u2014making disciples who make disciples.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Third John 4 says, \u201cThere\u2019s no greater joy than to know that our kids are walking in the truth\u201d; and John\u2019s talking about his spiritual children\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014but how much more for our biological children?\u2014\u201cno greater joy\u201d! And there\u2019s no greater <em>pain<\/em> for a parent than when your kids <em>aren\u2019t<\/em> walking in the truth. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tChap Bettis is joining us on <em>FamilyLife Today. <\/em>Chap, welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Thank you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Chap is an author\/a speaker. He\u2019s got a book called <em>The Disciple-Making Parent<\/em>,that we\u2019re talking about this week, and a number of other resources. In fact, you\u2019ve got a website called TheDiscipleMakingParent.com. You are committed to helping moms and dads understand the priority of discipleship and understand how to accomplish that as they raise their kids.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> The Spurgeon quote is one you\u2019ve included in your book. You talk in your book about some of the myths parents have about parenting. I thought this was really good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, yes! They\u2019re\u2014I mean, you mention three myths. You know, they sort of come off of some of the stats you quote in there, which are sort of scary that: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t60 percent, or almost 60 percent, of kids that were in church every week of their life, when they hit the age of 29, they are not even going to church. As parents, we see those kinds of things; we\u2019re like, \u201cOh, my goodness! What do I need to do to be a disciple-making parent?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI love where you\u2019re like, \u201cWell, here\u2019s the myths that we all have\u2026\u201d I\u2019d love to have you talk about them; I\u2019ll read them, and you talk about them. The first one was: \u201cMyth Number One: The perfect environment will guarantee that my children follow the Lord.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Well, that\u2019s just not true; period. [Laughter] You know, what was wrong with the garden that Adam and Eve turned away? What did Jesus do wrong with Judas? You know, sin comes on the hard drive of our kids\u2019 hearts; you know? And yet, we try to get the perfect environment.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Every parent\u2014Mary Ann and I felt this way; I think Mary Ann more than me\u2014it was like, \u201cGive me the recipe.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, absolutely!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u201cI will follow this recipe to the letter, because nothing matters more than my kids being where they [need to be]. So just tell me what to do.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cand not to do.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; \u201cIf I need to stand on my head for 30 minutes per day,\u201d [Laughter] You know, \u201cIf I need to read them the Bible for 15 minutes at night,\u201d \u201cShould it be 15 or 20, which one works?\u201d\u2014every parent is looking for that formula. There\u2019s <em>no<\/em> formula; is there?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Well, that\u2019s the thing. In the introduction, I talk about this as a playbook or a guidebook.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> This is an <em>active <\/em>process. You\u2019re actively coaching: you\u2019ve got different dynamics in your marriage or if you\u2019re a single parent; you\u2019ve got different dynamics of family and of church; of their personality themselves. It\u2019s an active, hands-on process, where you\u2019re using discernment. There is no formula; it\u2019s not like baking a cake.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; \u201cMyth Number Two: The ultimate goal of my Christian life is to have my children follow the Lord.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Well, that\u2019s a good thing; it is a <em>really <\/em>good thing, but it can\u2019t be a god thing\u2014it can\u2019t be our idol.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I read that one and I thought, \u201cBut that feels right!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> That does feel right!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u201cThat is my goal, to have my kids\u2026\u201d\u2014I mean, if this really matters, shouldn\u2019t that be the biggest thing?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> But then, they\u2019re actually controlling my walk with the Lord. You know, my joy is in the Lord, not in my circumstances. If we have a teenage meltdown, well, then I\u2019m down in the dumps because: \u201cOh, no! My child\u2019s not going to walk with the Lord!\u201d Or if they\u2019re an older prodigal, it\u2019s <em>incredibly<\/em> painful; but it\u2019s not the ultimate thing. I\u2019m going to follow the Lord no matter what. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJonathan Edwards\u2014that was one of his resolutions: \u201cResolved: I will follow the Lord, even if no one else does.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, you talked about it\u2019s easy to let our kid become an idol. Talk about that, because I see that all of the time. It\u2019s just easy to fall into that without being aware. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> We live in a child-centered culture. I think that is the hardest way Christians have to be different. My son played baseball. I was complimenting another dad on, you know, his son, who was really, really good. He said to me\u2014he thanked me\u2014and then he said: \u201cAfter all, what else is there?\u201d I thought [sarcastically], \u201cYeah; this is it; this is it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd yet, for us, we want our children to see that we serve the Lord. I mean, I\u2019ve said it this way, \u201cI will die for you, but I will not live for you,\u201d \u2014you know?\u2014\u201cI would give my life, but I\u2019m going to honor the Lord. I live for something bigger than you.\u201d Putting our children at the center of our universe\u2014that\u2019s <em>way too heavy<\/em> of a responsibility.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> You know, like it just changes the dynamic of the family now, where they\u2019re controlling them and, as we were talking about before, if they\u2019re upset, \u201cOh, my world is out of whack!\u201d \u201cWell, no!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Part of being a good parent is sometimes your children don\u2019t like you, and that\u2019s okay! In a similar way, to say, \u201cYou know, my children are not going to control my life. I want to serve them and serve them in a way of maturity,\u201d\u2014which sometimes brings hard times\u2014\u201cbut, ultimately, I serve the Lord.\u201d And then, if I\u2019m married, then my spouse is second in importance.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And it\u2019s really easy\u2014I know we\u2019ve all done it\u2014to let your children determine your happiness based on how they\u2019re <em>doing<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh!\u2014especially for moms; I don\u2019t know about dads\u2014but this can <em>rule<\/em> my emotions.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It can rule, I think, dads as well; I don\u2019t know if it\u2019s different for moms. I know for me\u2014and I\u2019ve seen this often\u2014you know, when your child is young, you\u2019re going to church; you\u2019re teaching them all the stuff; you\u2019re reading Bible verses at night; you\u2019re playing all the great music; and their faith seems strong\u2014they receive it, and they\u2019re awesome!\u2014and then they become teenagers. [Laughter] They start asking questions and, maybe, they start sneaking off and doing things.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014or say, \u201cI <em>hate <\/em>going to church!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And your dad\u2019s the pastor! [Laughter] That\u2019s awkward. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Or they start partying, drinking, or whatever. Then, as a Christian parent, you think, \u201cI failed,\u201d\u2014it\u2019s your idol\u2014because idols determine your happiness, and you\u2019re seeking life in that. I think parents, at that moment, think, \u201cI\u2019ve failed; the future is going to even get worse.\u201d I always say, \u201cDon\u2019t judge your parenting when they\u2019re teenagers. Wait until they\u2019re 30.\u201d And now, I have a 34-year-old; so I say, \u201cWait \u2018til they\u2019re 40!\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut do you know what I\u2019m saying? We used to sometimes get in a little bit of an argument [Ann and Dave], because I would say, \u201cI want them and expect them to fail.\u201d Well, I don\u2019t <em>want <\/em>that; but you know, it isn\u2019t the worst thing in the world if they get drunk. Again, I\u2019m not\u2014you <em>never<\/em> want that to happen\u2014but I\u2019m like, \u201cMaybe God\u2019s going to use that to get to the disciple that we\u2019re trying to raise ten years from now\/five years from now. This could be a pivotal moment. It\u2019s okay!\u201d We get to be a part of them understanding what they did, sin-wise. Five years from now, they\u2019re going to be at college or whatever, and we\u2019re not going to know. At least, now, they\u2019re still under our roof; we can help walk them through the journey out of that valley.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; the reality is your child\u2019s sin nature is going to emerge in some way\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014in their life. It could emerge as pride and self-righteousness.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> It could emerge as thinking, \u201cI\u2019m doing it all right; therefore, I\u2019m one of the good people\u201d; right? We have to be aware that, just as our sin oozes out of us, your child\u2019s sin is going to pop out of them. If it pops out as they got drunk one night\u2014nobody wants that, like you said\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014but if it pops out that they think they\u2019re \u201cMiss Perfect,\u201d that\u2019s as much of a problem. This is part of disciple-making; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Well, yes; and if I can speak to both of those things, it\u2019s especially moms who are so invested in their kids\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> \u2014to say, \u201cMy identity is <em>not<\/em> tied up with my kids. My identity is in Christ; and I want to be a faithful parent\u2014not a perfect parent\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cnot even dependent upon the outcome!\u201d Our kids\u2019 salvation is not by works; so it\u2019s not by <em>their<\/em> works, and it\u2019s not by <em>our<\/em> works. We can\u2019t have the perfect environment. Sin comes on the hard drive of our kids; so yes, especially the identity.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then, Dave, what you were speaking about, with coming out in the teen years, I include in the book\/in one of the chapters on prayer\u2014just praying that secret sin would come out, but that\u2019s God\u2019s grace!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Because you would rather them get caught stealing at 14 than 24\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> \u2014when you can deal with it and talk about it\u2014sometimes, I\u2019ve seen where that\u2019s the time to say, \u201cHey, are you really following the Lord or not?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Hopefully, the church is giving\/parents are giving each other grace, and saying, \u201cYou\u2019ve been faithful; and this is good, that the sin nature is coming out.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> That gets into your third myth, which is, \u201cIt\u2019s all up to me.\u201d You know, as a parent, you think, \u201cIt\u2019s all on me.\u201d Your answer to that is you need a body\/you need a community. Talk about that a little bit; because I think sometimes, in the church, we can almost hide; because we think our kids need to be perfect, and everybody else\u2019s kids are, because we\u2019re all church people.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> We\u2019re afraid of judgment. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> We just sort of hide, and we become isolated; because we don\u2019t want to walk in and say: \u201cHey, I\u2019m really struggling,\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u201cMy kid\u2019s really struggling.\u201d We just want to say: \u201cBut the church is there to say, \u2018How can we come alongside you?\u2019\u201d; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Yes, yes. Well, we could go all the way back to \u201cMake disciples.\u201d The command is surrounded by two promises: \u201cAll authority has been given to Me,\u201d and \u201cI am with you always,\u201d\u2014so the Holy Spirit\u2014\u201cLord, show me,\u201d \u201cGive us wisdom.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPart of that wisdom comes from the church body. I heard someone say, \u201cStop googling Google, and start googling the church.\u201d You know, you\u2019ve got older people in the church, who will be happy to share some thoughts; but they\u2019re afraid of telling you things, because they don\u2019t want to appear judgmental\u2014you know, like the old church lady, who\u2019s going around condemning.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou have to be humble; and find other people, where you\u2019re saying, \u201cHey, how did you handle this when your kids were younger? How are you handling it now?\u201d Why do we believe that, on this most important task, we should know how to do it without any help?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It\u2019s interesting to think of how your kids will learn from the people you\u2019ve connect them to at the church as well. I love the story in the book, where your daughter says, \u201cI want to become like\u2026\u201d; and you were thinking\u2014tell that story.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Well, it was just spontaneous. We had a <em>great<\/em> church community. What I love about the disciple-making parentis\u2014it was watching other families, who had these same thoughts and who were of the same bent\u2014as we were working together. You know, you\u2019re pouring your life into your kids. Then, finally, they get old enough, and they\u2019re starting to be self-aware, and they say\u2014I think it was my oldest daughter\u2014she said: \u201cOh, Dad, you know who I want to be like when I grow up?\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cYes, your mom and dad; right?\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe said, \u201cMr. Knessetal [spelling uncertain] and Mrs. Wright\u2014they\u2019re just so joyful.\u201d I was like, \u201cUgggghh, okay.\u201d [Laughter] No; actually, that\u2019s really good! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> That\u2019s really good that we\u2019re in a community. As a six-year-old, she\u2019s observing. I think that\u2019s part of the issue to realize: is the people\/our friends are influencing our kids; so we want to be around people who love the Lord; and also, I am a person who is influencing your child.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I remember, when our three sons were very little, Ann and I started praying for mentors in their life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Because we knew, as they grew older, they were going to receive truth better, sometimes, from somebody else than just mom and dad.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> And they see all of the mess in your\/our house.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Exactly!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I remember we just started praying\u2014and had <em>no<\/em> idea\u2014\u201cIs God going to answer this? Who could it be?\u201d And I\u2019m sitting here now\u2014with a 34-year-old, 31-year-old, 29-year-old\u2014and I\u2019m like, \u201cOh, my goodness! God provided Frank; God provided Ryan; God provided Rob.\u201d You know, it\u2019s really interesting\u2014Frank was an attorney in our church. He started leading a small group for our oldest son, CJ, when he was in middle school; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> He was 11.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, 11 years old; they still connect! And they\u2019re all, you know, married men now. I\u2019m like, \u201cLook at what God did with Frank!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember one time, Cody was in a group\u2014my youngest\u2014in high school; and they were all down in our basement. You know, Rob\u2019s leading that group. I just thought, \u201cThis is awesome!\u201d Then I thought, \u201cI wonder what they\u2019re doing down there?\u201d I opened the door, and I didn\u2019t want to go down; but I just stuck my ear down the stairwell. I hear them talking\u2014these middle school boys\u2014about sexual temptation. I\u2019m like, \u201cMan, that is <em>awesome<\/em> that somebody else is talking to them about that! [Laughter] No, I did! I just smiled, and said, \u201cThank God for Rob, stepping into the really tough issues that middle school boys are asking questions about and giving them the Word of God.\u201d It wasn\u2019t me\u2014not that I don\u2019t need to do that as well\u2014but what a gift, you know, the church can be to helping you raise disciples!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Chap, take us into <em>your<\/em> family. What does that look like? What does it look like with you and your wife, over the years, as you\u2019ve discipled your kids?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Well, I think I\u2019d back up and say one of the things that I hear from parents, even church-going parents, is: \u201cI can\u2019t do this. I don\u2019t know what to do!\u201d You know, if you look at the life of Jesus: Jesus taught the crowds, and He made disciples; He healed the sick, and He made disciples; you know, He went to a wedding, and He\u2019s making disciples. This is integrated into our life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s not like, \u201cOkay, we have to do this intense program for three weeks or thirty weeks,\u201d or whatever. It\u2019s just part of life, where\u2014as I\u2019m doing life, as I\u2019m taking care of my house, going out for a trip, as I\u2019m taking care of the in-laws, or whatever\u2014I\u2019m also making disciples; I\u2019m thinking about that. They are routines that are part of my life; I\u2019m thinking about that: \u201cHow is the gospel being passed?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think, if you look at the life of Jesus, there were five things\u2014I\u2019ve sort of narrowed it down to five: model, love, teach, serve, and pray.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Those are good!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> He models it; we\u2019ve already talked about that before: \u201cAre our kids seeing me read my Bible?\u201d\u2014so positively\u2014\u201cAre they seeing me read my Bible?\u201d \u201cAre we going to church?\u201d And like we talked about earlier: \u201cDo they hear me talking about Jesus?\u201d\u2014so positively modeling. I think that\u2019s a big thing, thinking about that for my wife and me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then loving\u2014model love: \u201cIs there love in our home?\u201d You know, our home is meant to display the Trinity. Fundamentally, the question: \u201cIs there joy in our home? Are we reflecting the joy of the Trinity?\u201d\u2014not all the time; not perfectly; I know you know\u2014\u201cBut is that our goal?\u201d \u201cAre we emotionally-connected?\u201d One thing I did to stay emotionally-connected\u2014try to stay emotionally-connected as a busy pastor\u2014was I would take my kids out on donut dates. I think that\u2019s just a very practical thing\/a big win for dads\/busy dads\u2014you know, 45 minutes\/5 bucks.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I love that you have a little letter that your 22-year-old daughter wrote. This is what she said: \u201cI can remember clearly the excitement of my eight-year-old self when it was my turn to go out with Dad. Every few weeks we would drive to a donut shop right down the road. Not only did I get to stuff my mouth with colorful sprinkles and strawberry milk, but I got Dad all to myself. He would ask questions like who my best friends were or my favorite subject in school. All of my answers were written down in a maroon journal that was just for my dates with Dad. This was a sweet and cherished tradition that carried on for many years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was teary, reading that, thinking, \u201cAs a young girl, this showed so much that \u2018You\u2019re important to me. I want to know you, and I want to know about your life.\u2019\u201d I bet that relationship with that daughter and all of your kids is still close, because you took the time. You were intentional to be with them, and to even write it down; that\u2019s genius!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> It continues. And then, obviously, my wife has done that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd guys\u2014it\u2019s somewhat different\u2014guys like to be shoulder to shoulder, you know, rather than face to face sometimes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, it\u2019s not a date; it\u2019s a hang out: \u201cLet\u2019s go hang.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Yes; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> What we did\u2014I called it Manhood Training\u201d with the boys\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014we\u2019d go out on Saturday morning for a biscuit or something. I\u2019d say, \u201cThis is Manhood Training.\u201d We would talk about: \u201cHow does a boy become a man? \u2014what does that mean?\u201d That was part of how we tried to do it with our boys; so yes, dates with the girls and\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I did it, too, with our boys.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Part of, I think, what you\u2019re also doing is\u2014you\u2019re making deposits\u2014because then there are times when there are withdrawals. There were a couple of guy dates\u2014sort of \u201cCome to Jesus\u201d dates\u2014[Laughter]\u2014\u201cWe need to talk about how you\u2019re acting and why it\u2019s not okay.\u201d But what was cool was that the context was already there; so it wasn\u2019t like you were invading their room: \u201cOkay; we need to talk about this, so we\u2019re going to have a serious talk.\u201d There was a time and a space to say, \u201cThis is important; here\u2019s some correction.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And I think it\u2019s key to also say, when they become teenagers, that often ends for mom and dad because they\u2019re pulling away. We think, \u201cOh, they don\u2019t want to be with us.\u201d The opposite is true.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> They <em>are <\/em>pulling away; they <em>should <\/em>pull away; they\u2019re becoming adults. But we have to pursue; because that time is <em>still<\/em> precious to them, even though they may never say it out loud. It\u2019s critical!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And your disciple-making responsibilities don\u2019t end when they hit 12.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So you have to be adapting and changing. You\u2019ve got to have a book like Chap\u2019s book to help you navigate through these years. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tChap, thanks for being with us and for taking us into this content. This is so good!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> My joy!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; well, we have got Chap\u2019s book available in our <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>Resource Center. You can go to FamilyLifeToday.com and look for the book, <em>The Disciple-Making Parent. <\/em>In fact, if you are interested in the audio book, Chap is going to make that available to all of our listeners for free. You can go to FamilyLifeToday.com for information on how you can download a copy of <em>The Disciple-Making Parent<\/em> audio book for free. Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019d like to order the paper book, it\u2019s available for order online as well. Go to FamilyLifeToday.com, or call us at 1-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBy the way, let me also mention FamilyLife\u2019s <em>Art of Parenting<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>video series. This series is a <em>great<\/em> course for you and others to go through together and talk about the essential components of raising healthy, strong, godly kids. Information about the<em> Art of Parenting <\/em>is available online as well. Go to FamilyLifeToday.com; or if you have any questions, call us at 1-800-FL-TODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, during the challenges all of us have faced over the last 12 months, here at FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, we have become freshly aware of just how significant you are as friends of this ministry, especially those of you who support this ministry as donors. David Robbins, the president of FamilyLife, is here with us today. David, we recognize now, more than ever, just how critical and how important our FamilyLife donors are.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>David:<\/strong> Yes; as you look back at this yearend, I just want to express my gratitude. There are seasons in life where you feel how extremely dependent you are, whether that\u2019s personally in my own home with Meg and our kids and walking through 2020, or whether that\u2019s as a ministry at FamilyLife. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan, we were at a point, at the end of the year, where we really did need the family and partners to come alongside us to continue ministry in the ways that, really, we love providing in providing biblical help and hope to marriages and families. You came through! We are so grateful for the ways that you have partnered with us and allowed us to be set up in this new year to keep ministry going strong and to keep ministry going strong at a time when it\u2019s still <em>really <\/em>needed in the home. Just once again, thank you so much!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes, we do appreciate you; and we look forward to the ongoing partnership in 2021.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we hope you can join us, again, tomorrow. We\u2019re going to talk about introverts: how significant introverts are, how powerful they are, and what they can do to leverage how God made them to have an impact on our world. Holley Gerth joins us to talk about that tomorrow. We hope you can join us for that as well. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru<sup>\u00ae <\/sup>Ministry. Help for today. 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I read this quote from Spurgeon that I just found myself going, \u201cI needed to be reminded of that again.\u201d He said, \u201cIf our children lose the crown of life, it will be small consolation that they have won laurels of literature and art,\u201d\u2014or sports\u2014[Laughter]\u2014I\u2019m just throwing that in for you; he didn\u2019t say \u201csports\u201d; but the point, as parents, we have to remember to keep the main thing the main thing. 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You know, I was surprised; because almost all of them said, \u201cI just want my kids to be happy.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And I\u2019m thinking, \u201cI don\u2019t want my kids to be happy! I want them to be warriors! I want them to mark their generation for Christ!\u201d A lot of times, that happens when they\u2019re <em>not<\/em> happy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think that\u2019s just a good question of: \u201cWhat <em>are<\/em> we aiming for?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, and I read that same quote; because I know what book we\u2019re talking about. [Laughter] I read it probably about the same time you did. I was challenged because, you know, I\u2019m a pastor; but I\u2019m a coach. When I watch my kids play sports\u2014and one made it all the way to the Detroit Lions\u2019 locker room\u2014I thought that was it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u201cHow could it be any greater than having Cody locker beside Calvin Johnson? This is it!\u201d And when he\u2019s out of the NFL, and pastoring with me, God hit me and said\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cNo.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cThis is so much better!\u201d Not that your son or daughter has to be in the ministry with you, but I had the opportunity to do that. It reminded me of that quote; it\u2019s like, \u201cThis is what really matters\u2014making disciples who make disciples.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Third John 4 says, \u201cThere\u2019s no greater joy than to know that our kids are walking in the truth\u201d; and John\u2019s talking about his spiritual children\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014but how much more for our biological children?\u2014\u201cno greater joy\u201d! And there\u2019s no greater <em>pain<\/em> for a parent than when your kids <em>aren\u2019t<\/em> walking in the truth. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tChap Bettis is joining us on <em>FamilyLife Today. <\/em>Chap, welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Thank you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Chap is an author\/a speaker. He\u2019s got a book called <em>The Disciple-Making Parent<\/em>,that we\u2019re talking about this week, and a number of other resources. In fact, you\u2019ve got a website called TheDiscipleMakingParent.com. You are committed to helping moms and dads understand the priority of discipleship and understand how to accomplish that as they raise their kids.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> The Spurgeon quote is one you\u2019ve included in your book. You talk in your book about some of the myths parents have about parenting. I thought this was really good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, yes! They\u2019re\u2014I mean, you mention three myths. You know, they sort of come off of some of the stats you quote in there, which are sort of scary that: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t60 percent, or almost 60 percent, of kids that were in church every week of their life, when they hit the age of 29, they are not even going to church. As parents, we see those kinds of things; we\u2019re like, \u201cOh, my goodness! What do I need to do to be a disciple-making parent?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI love where you\u2019re like, \u201cWell, here\u2019s the myths that we all have\u2026\u201d I\u2019d love to have you talk about them; I\u2019ll read them, and you talk about them. The first one was: \u201cMyth Number One: The perfect environment will guarantee that my children follow the Lord.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Well, that\u2019s just not true; period. [Laughter] You know, what was wrong with the garden that Adam and Eve turned away? What did Jesus do wrong with Judas? You know, sin comes on the hard drive of our kids\u2019 hearts; you know? And yet, we try to get the perfect environment.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Every parent\u2014Mary Ann and I felt this way; I think Mary Ann more than me\u2014it was like, \u201cGive me the recipe.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, absolutely!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u201cI will follow this recipe to the letter, because nothing matters more than my kids being where they [need to be]. So just tell me what to do.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cand not to do.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; \u201cIf I need to stand on my head for 30 minutes per day,\u201d [Laughter] You know, \u201cIf I need to read them the Bible for 15 minutes at night,\u201d \u201cShould it be 15 or 20, which one works?\u201d\u2014every parent is looking for that formula. There\u2019s <em>no<\/em> formula; is there?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Well, that\u2019s the thing. In the introduction, I talk about this as a playbook or a guidebook.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> This is an <em>active <\/em>process. You\u2019re actively coaching: you\u2019ve got different dynamics in your marriage or if you\u2019re a single parent; you\u2019ve got different dynamics of family and of church; of their personality themselves. It\u2019s an active, hands-on process, where you\u2019re using discernment. There is no formula; it\u2019s not like baking a cake.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; \u201cMyth Number Two: The ultimate goal of my Christian life is to have my children follow the Lord.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Well, that\u2019s a good thing; it is a <em>really <\/em>good thing, but it can\u2019t be a god thing\u2014it can\u2019t be our idol.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I read that one and I thought, \u201cBut that feels right!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> That does feel right!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u201cThat is my goal, to have my kids\u2026\u201d\u2014I mean, if this really matters, shouldn\u2019t that be the biggest thing?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> But then, they\u2019re actually controlling my walk with the Lord. You know, my joy is in the Lord, not in my circumstances. If we have a teenage meltdown, well, then I\u2019m down in the dumps because: \u201cOh, no! My child\u2019s not going to walk with the Lord!\u201d Or if they\u2019re an older prodigal, it\u2019s <em>incredibly<\/em> painful; but it\u2019s not the ultimate thing. I\u2019m going to follow the Lord no matter what. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJonathan Edwards\u2014that was one of his resolutions: \u201cResolved: I will follow the Lord, even if no one else does.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, you talked about it\u2019s easy to let our kid become an idol. Talk about that, because I see that all of the time. It\u2019s just easy to fall into that without being aware. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> We live in a child-centered culture. I think that is the hardest way Christians have to be different. My son played baseball. I was complimenting another dad on, you know, his son, who was really, really good. He said to me\u2014he thanked me\u2014and then he said: \u201cAfter all, what else is there?\u201d I thought [sarcastically], \u201cYeah; this is it; this is it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd yet, for us, we want our children to see that we serve the Lord. I mean, I\u2019ve said it this way, \u201cI will die for you, but I will not live for you,\u201d \u2014you know?\u2014\u201cI would give my life, but I\u2019m going to honor the Lord. I live for something bigger than you.\u201d Putting our children at the center of our universe\u2014that\u2019s <em>way too heavy<\/em> of a responsibility.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> You know, like it just changes the dynamic of the family now, where they\u2019re controlling them and, as we were talking about before, if they\u2019re upset, \u201cOh, my world is out of whack!\u201d \u201cWell, no!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Part of being a good parent is sometimes your children don\u2019t like you, and that\u2019s okay! In a similar way, to say, \u201cYou know, my children are not going to control my life. I want to serve them and serve them in a way of maturity,\u201d\u2014which sometimes brings hard times\u2014\u201cbut, ultimately, I serve the Lord.\u201d And then, if I\u2019m married, then my spouse is second in importance.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And it\u2019s really easy\u2014I know we\u2019ve all done it\u2014to let your children determine your happiness based on how they\u2019re <em>doing<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh!\u2014especially for moms; I don\u2019t know about dads\u2014but this can <em>rule<\/em> my emotions.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It can rule, I think, dads as well; I don\u2019t know if it\u2019s different for moms. I know for me\u2014and I\u2019ve seen this often\u2014you know, when your child is young, you\u2019re going to church; you\u2019re teaching them all the stuff; you\u2019re reading Bible verses at night; you\u2019re playing all the great music; and their faith seems strong\u2014they receive it, and they\u2019re awesome!\u2014and then they become teenagers. [Laughter] They start asking questions and, maybe, they start sneaking off and doing things.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014or say, \u201cI <em>hate <\/em>going to church!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And your dad\u2019s the pastor! [Laughter] That\u2019s awkward. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Or they start partying, drinking, or whatever. Then, as a Christian parent, you think, \u201cI failed,\u201d\u2014it\u2019s your idol\u2014because idols determine your happiness, and you\u2019re seeking life in that. I think parents, at that moment, think, \u201cI\u2019ve failed; the future is going to even get worse.\u201d I always say, \u201cDon\u2019t judge your parenting when they\u2019re teenagers. Wait until they\u2019re 30.\u201d And now, I have a 34-year-old; so I say, \u201cWait \u2018til they\u2019re 40!\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut do you know what I\u2019m saying? We used to sometimes get in a little bit of an argument [Ann and Dave], because I would say, \u201cI want them and expect them to fail.\u201d Well, I don\u2019t <em>want <\/em>that; but you know, it isn\u2019t the worst thing in the world if they get drunk. Again, I\u2019m not\u2014you <em>never<\/em> want that to happen\u2014but I\u2019m like, \u201cMaybe God\u2019s going to use that to get to the disciple that we\u2019re trying to raise ten years from now\/five years from now. This could be a pivotal moment. It\u2019s okay!\u201d We get to be a part of them understanding what they did, sin-wise. Five years from now, they\u2019re going to be at college or whatever, and we\u2019re not going to know. At least, now, they\u2019re still under our roof; we can help walk them through the journey out of that valley.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; the reality is your child\u2019s sin nature is going to emerge in some way\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014in their life. It could emerge as pride and self-righteousness.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> It could emerge as thinking, \u201cI\u2019m doing it all right; therefore, I\u2019m one of the good people\u201d; right? We have to be aware that, just as our sin oozes out of us, your child\u2019s sin is going to pop out of them. If it pops out as they got drunk one night\u2014nobody wants that, like you said\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014but if it pops out that they think they\u2019re \u201cMiss Perfect,\u201d that\u2019s as much of a problem. This is part of disciple-making; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Well, yes; and if I can speak to both of those things, it\u2019s especially moms who are so invested in their kids\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> \u2014to say, \u201cMy identity is <em>not<\/em> tied up with my kids. My identity is in Christ; and I want to be a faithful parent\u2014not a perfect parent\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cnot even dependent upon the outcome!\u201d Our kids\u2019 salvation is not by works; so it\u2019s not by <em>their<\/em> works, and it\u2019s not by <em>our<\/em> works. We can\u2019t have the perfect environment. Sin comes on the hard drive of our kids; so yes, especially the identity.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then, Dave, what you were speaking about, with coming out in the teen years, I include in the book\/in one of the chapters on prayer\u2014just praying that secret sin would come out, but that\u2019s God\u2019s grace!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Because you would rather them get caught stealing at 14 than 24\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> \u2014when you can deal with it and talk about it\u2014sometimes, I\u2019ve seen where that\u2019s the time to say, \u201cHey, are you really following the Lord or not?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Hopefully, the church is giving\/parents are giving each other grace, and saying, \u201cYou\u2019ve been faithful; and this is good, that the sin nature is coming out.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> That gets into your third myth, which is, \u201cIt\u2019s all up to me.\u201d You know, as a parent, you think, \u201cIt\u2019s all on me.\u201d Your answer to that is you need a body\/you need a community. Talk about that a little bit; because I think sometimes, in the church, we can almost hide; because we think our kids need to be perfect, and everybody else\u2019s kids are, because we\u2019re all church people.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> We\u2019re afraid of judgment. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> We just sort of hide, and we become isolated; because we don\u2019t want to walk in and say: \u201cHey, I\u2019m really struggling,\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u201cMy kid\u2019s really struggling.\u201d We just want to say: \u201cBut the church is there to say, \u2018How can we come alongside you?\u2019\u201d; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Yes, yes. Well, we could go all the way back to \u201cMake disciples.\u201d The command is surrounded by two promises: \u201cAll authority has been given to Me,\u201d and \u201cI am with you always,\u201d\u2014so the Holy Spirit\u2014\u201cLord, show me,\u201d \u201cGive us wisdom.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPart of that wisdom comes from the church body. I heard someone say, \u201cStop googling Google, and start googling the church.\u201d You know, you\u2019ve got older people in the church, who will be happy to share some thoughts; but they\u2019re afraid of telling you things, because they don\u2019t want to appear judgmental\u2014you know, like the old church lady, who\u2019s going around condemning.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou have to be humble; and find other people, where you\u2019re saying, \u201cHey, how did you handle this when your kids were younger? How are you handling it now?\u201d Why do we believe that, on this most important task, we should know how to do it without any help?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It\u2019s interesting to think of how your kids will learn from the people you\u2019ve connect them to at the church as well. I love the story in the book, where your daughter says, \u201cI want to become like\u2026\u201d; and you were thinking\u2014tell that story.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Well, it was just spontaneous. We had a <em>great<\/em> church community. What I love about the disciple-making parentis\u2014it was watching other families, who had these same thoughts and who were of the same bent\u2014as we were working together. You know, you\u2019re pouring your life into your kids. Then, finally, they get old enough, and they\u2019re starting to be self-aware, and they say\u2014I think it was my oldest daughter\u2014she said: \u201cOh, Dad, you know who I want to be like when I grow up?\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cYes, your mom and dad; right?\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe said, \u201cMr. Knessetal [spelling uncertain] and Mrs. Wright\u2014they\u2019re just so joyful.\u201d I was like, \u201cUgggghh, okay.\u201d [Laughter] No; actually, that\u2019s really good! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> That\u2019s really good that we\u2019re in a community. As a six-year-old, she\u2019s observing. I think that\u2019s part of the issue to realize: is the people\/our friends are influencing our kids; so we want to be around people who love the Lord; and also, I am a person who is influencing your child.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I remember, when our three sons were very little, Ann and I started praying for mentors in their life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Because we knew, as they grew older, they were going to receive truth better, sometimes, from somebody else than just mom and dad.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> And they see all of the mess in your\/our house.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Exactly!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I remember we just started praying\u2014and had <em>no<\/em> idea\u2014\u201cIs God going to answer this? Who could it be?\u201d And I\u2019m sitting here now\u2014with a 34-year-old, 31-year-old, 29-year-old\u2014and I\u2019m like, \u201cOh, my goodness! God provided Frank; God provided Ryan; God provided Rob.\u201d You know, it\u2019s really interesting\u2014Frank was an attorney in our church. He started leading a small group for our oldest son, CJ, when he was in middle school; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> He was 11.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, 11 years old; they still connect! And they\u2019re all, you know, married men now. I\u2019m like, \u201cLook at what God did with Frank!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember one time, Cody was in a group\u2014my youngest\u2014in high school; and they were all down in our basement. You know, Rob\u2019s leading that group. I just thought, \u201cThis is awesome!\u201d Then I thought, \u201cI wonder what they\u2019re doing down there?\u201d I opened the door, and I didn\u2019t want to go down; but I just stuck my ear down the stairwell. I hear them talking\u2014these middle school boys\u2014about sexual temptation. I\u2019m like, \u201cMan, that is <em>awesome<\/em> that somebody else is talking to them about that! [Laughter] No, I did! I just smiled, and said, \u201cThank God for Rob, stepping into the really tough issues that middle school boys are asking questions about and giving them the Word of God.\u201d It wasn\u2019t me\u2014not that I don\u2019t need to do that as well\u2014but what a gift, you know, the church can be to helping you raise disciples!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Chap, take us into <em>your<\/em> family. What does that look like? What does it look like with you and your wife, over the years, as you\u2019ve discipled your kids?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Well, I think I\u2019d back up and say one of the things that I hear from parents, even church-going parents, is: \u201cI can\u2019t do this. I don\u2019t know what to do!\u201d You know, if you look at the life of Jesus: Jesus taught the crowds, and He made disciples; He healed the sick, and He made disciples; you know, He went to a wedding, and He\u2019s making disciples. This is integrated into our life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s not like, \u201cOkay, we have to do this intense program for three weeks or thirty weeks,\u201d or whatever. It\u2019s just part of life, where\u2014as I\u2019m doing life, as I\u2019m taking care of my house, going out for a trip, as I\u2019m taking care of the in-laws, or whatever\u2014I\u2019m also making disciples; I\u2019m thinking about that. They are routines that are part of my life; I\u2019m thinking about that: \u201cHow is the gospel being passed?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think, if you look at the life of Jesus, there were five things\u2014I\u2019ve sort of narrowed it down to five: model, love, teach, serve, and pray.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Those are good!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> He models it; we\u2019ve already talked about that before: \u201cAre our kids seeing me read my Bible?\u201d\u2014so positively\u2014\u201cAre they seeing me read my Bible?\u201d \u201cAre we going to church?\u201d And like we talked about earlier: \u201cDo they hear me talking about Jesus?\u201d\u2014so positively modeling. I think that\u2019s a big thing, thinking about that for my wife and me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then loving\u2014model love: \u201cIs there love in our home?\u201d You know, our home is meant to display the Trinity. Fundamentally, the question: \u201cIs there joy in our home? Are we reflecting the joy of the Trinity?\u201d\u2014not all the time; not perfectly; I know you know\u2014\u201cBut is that our goal?\u201d \u201cAre we emotionally-connected?\u201d One thing I did to stay emotionally-connected\u2014try to stay emotionally-connected as a busy pastor\u2014was I would take my kids out on donut dates. I think that\u2019s just a very practical thing\/a big win for dads\/busy dads\u2014you know, 45 minutes\/5 bucks.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I love that you have a little letter that your 22-year-old daughter wrote. This is what she said: \u201cI can remember clearly the excitement of my eight-year-old self when it was my turn to go out with Dad. Every few weeks we would drive to a donut shop right down the road. Not only did I get to stuff my mouth with colorful sprinkles and strawberry milk, but I got Dad all to myself. He would ask questions like who my best friends were or my favorite subject in school. All of my answers were written down in a maroon journal that was just for my dates with Dad. This was a sweet and cherished tradition that carried on for many years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was teary, reading that, thinking, \u201cAs a young girl, this showed so much that \u2018You\u2019re important to me. I want to know you, and I want to know about your life.\u2019\u201d I bet that relationship with that daughter and all of your kids is still close, because you took the time. You were intentional to be with them, and to even write it down; that\u2019s genius!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> It continues. And then, obviously, my wife has done that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd guys\u2014it\u2019s somewhat different\u2014guys like to be shoulder to shoulder, you know, rather than face to face sometimes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes, it\u2019s not a date; it\u2019s a hang out: \u201cLet\u2019s go hang.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Yes; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> What we did\u2014I called it Manhood Training\u201d with the boys\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014we\u2019d go out on Saturday morning for a biscuit or something. I\u2019d say, \u201cThis is Manhood Training.\u201d We would talk about: \u201cHow does a boy become a man? \u2014what does that mean?\u201d That was part of how we tried to do it with our boys; so yes, dates with the girls and\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I did it, too, with our boys.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> Part of, I think, what you\u2019re also doing is\u2014you\u2019re making deposits\u2014because then there are times when there are withdrawals. There were a couple of guy dates\u2014sort of \u201cCome to Jesus\u201d dates\u2014[Laughter]\u2014\u201cWe need to talk about how you\u2019re acting and why it\u2019s not okay.\u201d But what was cool was that the context was already there; so it wasn\u2019t like you were invading their room: \u201cOkay; we need to talk about this, so we\u2019re going to have a serious talk.\u201d There was a time and a space to say, \u201cThis is important; here\u2019s some correction.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And I think it\u2019s key to also say, when they become teenagers, that often ends for mom and dad because they\u2019re pulling away. We think, \u201cOh, they don\u2019t want to be with us.\u201d The opposite is true.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> They <em>are <\/em>pulling away; they <em>should <\/em>pull away; they\u2019re becoming adults. But we have to pursue; because that time is <em>still<\/em> precious to them, even though they may never say it out loud. It\u2019s critical!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And your disciple-making responsibilities don\u2019t end when they hit 12.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So you have to be adapting and changing. You\u2019ve got to have a book like Chap\u2019s book to help you navigate through these years. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tChap, thanks for being with us and for taking us into this content. This is so good!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Chap:<\/strong> My joy!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; well, we have got Chap\u2019s book available in our <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>Resource Center. You can go to FamilyLifeToday.com and look for the book, <em>The Disciple-Making Parent. <\/em>In fact, if you are interested in the audio book, Chap is going to make that available to all of our listeners for free. You can go to FamilyLifeToday.com for information on how you can download a copy of <em>The Disciple-Making Parent<\/em> audio book for free. Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019d like to order the paper book, it\u2019s available for order online as well. Go to FamilyLifeToday.com, or call us at 1-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBy the way, let me also mention FamilyLife\u2019s <em>Art of Parenting<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>video series. This series is a <em>great<\/em> course for you and others to go through together and talk about the essential components of raising healthy, strong, godly kids. Information about the<em> Art of Parenting <\/em>is available online as well. Go to FamilyLifeToday.com; or if you have any questions, call us at 1-800-FL-TODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, during the challenges all of us have faced over the last 12 months, here at FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, we have become freshly aware of just how significant you are as friends of this ministry, especially those of you who support this ministry as donors. David Robbins, the president of FamilyLife, is here with us today. David, we recognize now, more than ever, just how critical and how important our FamilyLife donors are.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>David:<\/strong> Yes; as you look back at this yearend, I just want to express my gratitude. There are seasons in life where you feel how extremely dependent you are, whether that\u2019s personally in my own home with Meg and our kids and walking through 2020, or whether that\u2019s as a ministry at FamilyLife. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan, we were at a point, at the end of the year, where we really did need the family and partners to come alongside us to continue ministry in the ways that, really, we love providing in providing biblical help and hope to marriages and families. You came through! We are so grateful for the ways that you have partnered with us and allowed us to be set up in this new year to keep ministry going strong and to keep ministry going strong at a time when it\u2019s still <em>really <\/em>needed in the home. Just once again, thank you so much!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes, we do appreciate you; and we look forward to the ongoing partnership in 2021.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we hope you can join us, again, tomorrow. We\u2019re going to talk about introverts: how significant introverts are, how powerful they are, and what they can do to leverage how God made them to have an impact on our world. Holley Gerth joins us to talk about that tomorrow. We hope you can join us for that as well. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru<sup>\u00ae <\/sup>Ministry. Help for today. 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