{"id":306347,"date":"2020-08-22T07:00:05","date_gmt":"2020-08-22T11:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/teens-and-parents\/"},"modified":"2020-08-22T07:00:05","modified_gmt":"2020-08-22T11:00:05","slug":"teens-and-parents","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-this-week\/teens-and-parents\/","title":{"rendered":"Teens and Parents"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Jaquelle Crowe shares what her parents did right in giving her a strong faith. 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Her dad, Sean Crow, shares how important it is to live a transparent life in front of your children.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylife.com\/flw\/flw2020-08-22.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jaquelle: <\/strong>Putting faith in Christ alone is a big one though, especially for young people; because we are constantly bombarded with this message to have faith in\u00a0ourselves and to follow our <em>own<\/em> heart. A Christian is the only one who actually knows the futility of that\u2014that only by putting faith in Jesus will we have the confidence and assurance to face life and all of its fears.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0The heart is\u2014what is it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJaquelle:\u00a0\u201cThe heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked. Who can understand it?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0I thought she might know that verse.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I thought so too. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTell us about an area of your life, where you\u2019ve struggled and you\u2019ve had to give up your rights, and place your faith in Christ alone.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJaquelle:\u00a0I think a big one for me, as with lots of young women, is just in appearance, and how you look, and how you come across. That\u2019s something that can be controlled in some way, so it can be easy to\u2014it\u2019s hard this language of \u201cputting your faith in\u201d\u2014but putting your hope in\/putting your confidence in\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yes, yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJaquelle:\u00a0\u2014how you look\/how you come across is something that I have definitely struggled with\u2014it\u2019s one of those things I continue to struggle with\u2014but it\u2019s one of those things that you can always come back to, you know, putting your faith in Christ as the center; even though I come away from it, you know, I can come back to it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle:<\/strong> What a great reminder from Jaquelle Crowe as she spoke with Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine just a little bit ago\u2014just that Christ needs to be at the <em>center<\/em> of our identity. Even though she\u2019s talking about the struggles of teens\u2014mom and dad and everyone else\u2014we need to remember that Christ is at the <em>center<\/em> of our identity. Christ is always there. We might not struggle with the same struggles that our teen is struggling with, but we struggle with other things; and we need to remember that Christ is <em>always<\/em> there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHey, we need to take a break! But when we come back, we\u2019re going to hear from Jaquelle\u2019s dad, Sean; and he\u2019s going to share his perspective on raising teens. We\u2019ll be back in two minutes. Stay tuned.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Radio Station Spot Break]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Welcome back to <em>FamilyLife This Week<\/em>. I'm Michelle Hill. We are talking about teens and parenting and growing up, and just all that that looks like. You know, your children learn best from you when you\u2019re transparent about your mess-ups\u2014you know, when you\u2019re modeling a mature Christian life with them\u2014like apologizing to them when you\u2019ve lost your temper. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOf course, when your kids were in kindergarten, all it really took was a little bit of brain power, but a <em>lot <\/em>of energy. You\u2019re learning that, now that they\u2019ve grown up, and they\u2019re in those teenage years, it takes a <em>lot<\/em> more brainpower to raise them. Well, Jaquelle Crowe\u2019s dad, Sean, was also in the studio during her interview with Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine. Dennis and Bob had a chance to pick Sean\u2019s brain. You see, Sean\u2019s a pastor, and they wanted to know how Sean and his wife helped guide their daughter to become a woman of character.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Previous <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>Broadcast]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong> For the most part, what we have done is\u2014we\u2019ve tried to live that out for both of our kids. We want them to see what a person of character looks like. As you said, I\u2019m a pastor. What we often talk about, when it comes to being a pastor, is: \u201cIt\u2019s all about character\u201d. When you look at 1Timothy, Chapter 3, Paul addresses the character of the leader. What we\u2019ve tried to do is\u2014we\u2019ve tried to be an example to our kids of godly character; but also\u2014and probably more importantly\u2014is teach them, from the Word of God, what true godly character looks like.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>And Jaquelle, how would say they\u2019ve impacted your character, just looking back over the past, now, 21 years?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jaquelle:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Well, I think, one big thing\u2014and it\u2019s a big part of being a godly pastor\u2014is the issue of integrity. That\u2019s a big area that I see in both of my parents\u2019 lives. I also see faithfulness in the small things. My dad pastors a pretty small church and has been involved in a lot of just ordinary discipleship, that nobody sees\/nobody knows about, and just faithfully plodding away at obedience. And then just purity is another area that my parents have modeled well and talked to me well about. There are a lot of other areas, but those are just a few.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Here\u2019s the thing about trying to raise kids of character. It can be easy for us, as parents, to want to mold behavior through behavior modification rather than trying to raise kids who, from the heart, have the character of God built into them. Lots of times, as parents, we just want the behavior\u2014we just want our kids acting right\u2014and whatever makes that happen, we\u2019re fine with that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Yes, there\u2019s no question that it\u2019s much easier to focus on the obedience than on the grace. I think, especially for Jaquelle\u2019s mom and I, one of the most difficult parts of parenting has been in the later years. In the earlier years, it\u2019s so easy; because you are focusing a lot on the obedience. Of course, we can\u2019t understand grace unless we understand law. So when they are younger, you focus a lot on the law; but when they get older and, as you talked with her before, when their relationship becomes their own relationship with the Lord, then you\u2019ve got to make sure that they understand grace; and that\u2019s a challenge!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>One of the things that you and Diana did was\u2014you explained who God was, too\u2014and that really is at the heart of the character issue. Once you know who God is, you can become like Him.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Yes, absolutely. If you don\u2019t understand who God is, then how can you understand the gospel? Then you do just end up in moralistic therapeutic deism.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Jaquelle, do you remember recognizing the difference between just doing the right behavior and having it come out of your heart because this was what <em>you<\/em> wanted to do, not just because you wanted to please your parents?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jaquelle:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>I do. I was around a pre-teen when I really kind of like noticed this switch or made this switch for myself. I realized that obedience to God wasn\u2019t something that I did so that I could be saved\/that that\u2019s what being a Christian was all about; but obedience was something I did\u00a0<em>because<\/em>\u00a0I was saved and because I <em>loved<\/em> God <em>so much<\/em>. I wanted to read His Word! I wanted to pray! That should flow out of a heart, just so in love with Jesus and so <em>compelled<\/em> by the beauty of the gospel, that I should want to do that for myself.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>If you look at the fruit of the Spirit in Galatians 5: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness\u2014all of these virtues\u2014we can probably fake that for a season: you know, a couple of days, maybe; if you\u2019re really good, you could go two or three weeks\u2014but when it\u2019s coming from inside of you, not just something you\u2019re trying to fake\u2014and I don\u2019t mean fake in the sense that you\u2019re being a phony; this is you\u2019re just trying to act it out rather than it coming from inside of you\u2014that\u2019s not going to work for a young person or for a grown-up; is it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jaquelle:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>No; absolutely not. I think for young people, especially, we are attracted to authenticity. We want people to be real, and we want to experience something real. That\u2019s why I think we have some of these teenagers who buy\u2014or say they are buying into\u2014a faith that is not real; and then they get out of the home, and they are like, \u201cOh! This wasn\u2019t my faith, so we\u2019re not\/we\u2019re done with this.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s the teenagers, who actually encounter who God is for themselves, that are saved by this authentic faith, that spend the rest of their lives just sold out for this message.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>A good bit of how character, I think, is formed is as parents live out their lives in front of their kids\u2014and as Barbara and I have had to do with our kids\u2014get down on one knee, when they were little, and look eye to eye with them and confess how we just made a mistake and name it. The kids had seen it\/they had seen what had happened and to ask them to forgive us for getting angry, for being short, or for not being the kind of parent we needed to be.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo you recall a time, that you can tell here on the broadcast, when your dad\u2014pastor of the church, who is a great man; I\u2019ve already heard a lot; I\u2019m impressed, personally\u2014but every great man\u2014we all fail. How has he passed on character to you by sharing his failures and letting you in on the interior of his life and where he struggles?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jaquelle:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Oh, I know that I can answer this; because this is something that we\u2019ve talked about a lot. They were not perfect, and they were willing to ask for forgiveness. I can think of a couple of different occasions. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>So give us one. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>I can think of something from\u00a0<em>two<\/em>\u00a0<em>days<\/em>\u00a0ago!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jaquelle:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Okay, what?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>The other morning, when I got up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jaquelle:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Oh, yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Yes! She remembers right away!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jaquelle:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Okay, so he got a message on his phone that just was not a great message. He woke up; he looked at it\u2014it was the first thing\u2014and it immediately set him off. He came downstairs; my mom and I were down there. He just was clearly very frustrated and just spoke harshly about this thing. We were like, \u201cWhoa! You need to go back to bed!\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong> It\u2019s true.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jaquelle:<\/strong> He was just completely off; he did not speak kindly to us. We were just like, \u201cOkay.\u201d Then what?\u2014like half-an-hour later?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\u2014not even.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jaquelle:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Yes; he was like, \u201cYou know what? I was not kind. That was not right. I ask both of you for forgiveness for how I responded to this frustrating message and how I spoke to you.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Sean, we had a guest on\u00a0<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, who said something that was one of those moments, where I went, \u201cThat\u2019s profound!\u201d It has just stuck with me; he said, \u201cMost Christian parents today are teaching their children how to be sin avoiders and sin concealers instead of teaching them how to be sin confessors and sin repenters.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong> Yes, yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> He said, \u201cWe\u2019re raising kids who\u2014the message is: \u2018Stay away from that!\u2019 and \u2018If you do it, and I find out about it, you\u2019re going to be in <em>big<\/em> trouble,\u201d\u2014rather than: \u2018Look, I\u2019m going to fail; you\u2019re going to fail. When we do, here\u2019s how we get right with each other and right with God.\u2019\u201d\u00a0This is something I think moms and dads need to grab onto and go, \u201cWe need to change the atmosphere around here in our home.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Yes, I remember a point in my life, where this became <em>so real<\/em> to me; and it changed everything from that point on. It was a time when Jaquelle\u2019s brother, Travis, indicated that he thought that his mom and I didn\u2019t sin\u2014it was a very young age. For me, that just blew me away; because I didn\u2019t sin in the same way that he sinned. I mean, I think, at that point, he was\u2014I don\u2019t know, five, six, seven\/eight\u2014something like that\u2014from <em>that <\/em>point on, it became very clear to me that I had to make sure my kids knew that I sinned, and that I confessed of sin, and I repented of sin. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBecause we see that from parents\/we see that from pastors\u2014that we think we have to put on this aura that we are perfect\/that we have it all together\u2014and we don\u2019t. We need to be authentic.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>I felt that when I was raising my kids; I felt, \u201cMy job is to model godliness for my kids\u201d; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: \u201c<\/strong>I need to let them <em>always<\/em> see me being godly and <em>never<\/em> see me being ungodly, or they\u2019ll somehow think, \u2018Oh, oh, okay! He\u2019s not as godly as he says he is,\u2019 and they\u2019ll abandon the whole thing.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut a part of godliness is confessing your sin; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong> Yes; right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u201cIf we say we have no sin we lie, but if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from unrighteousness.\u201d Our kids need to learn that; we need to model that for them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jaquelle:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Kids can sniff out hypocrisy very quickly. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean: <\/strong>Yes; yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>You think?! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jaquelle:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>I think so.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>I think you\u2019re right. Barbara and I wanted to make sure our kids, not only knew how to live the Christian life, but also how to handle their failures; because we knew, in their lifetimes, they were going to have to face their failures a whole lot of times; because we faced a bunch ourselves. I think kids need to see, and be coached by parents\u2014not to go sin on purpose so you can model how to do it\u2014but when you do find you have done it, you own it!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sean:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You say, \u201cYou know what? That wasn\u2019t appropriate. I\u00a0<em>did<\/em>\u00a0sin against you. I want you to remember your dad as someone who tried to model a Christ-like life; but at the points when he didn\u2019t, he owned it, and he confessed it, and he asked for forgiveness. And he waited for people to process long enough to grant their forgiveness,\u201d because sometimes the wound we can cause, as parents, can be deep.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Jaquelle, Psalm 127\u00a0says that children are like arrows. You are familiar with this verse; you\u2019ve heard this before; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJaquelle:\u00a0Yes, I am.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0The assignment moms and dads have is to craft that arrow so it will fly toward the right target at the time you release the arrow, which can be a painful release. Sean, just get ready for the pain that will come when that moment\u2014because it sounds like that might be sneaking up on you; okay? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy question is: \u201cHow have your parents helped you develop a missional mindset so that you go, \u2018You know what really matters\/what life is really all about is advancing the kingdom.\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJaquelle:\u00a0Well, I think the biggest thing is\u2014again, that I have seen <em>them<\/em> willing to do that. I alluded before that we made some very big moves\u2014from western Canada to Texas, from Texas to eastern Canada\u2014because my parents were absolutely compelled by obedience. And they were like, \u201cYou know what? As much as we love being near family\/as much as we love our friends here, we believe that Jesus is better. Our lives are not about us, ultimately. Our lives are about doing what God has called us to do.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle:<\/strong> That\u2019s Jaquelle Crowe and her dad, Sean, talking with Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine. Isn\u2019t Jaquelle\u2019s energy, and her zest for life, almost invigorating? You almost feel like you could go for the next\u2014I don\u2019t know\u201424 hours on a high, because you\u2019ve just heard from Jaquelle. You can tell that she is a young woman on purpose. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMaybe that reminds <em>you<\/em> of <em>your<\/em> teenager. You know, moms and dads, parenting is hard work; and you\u2019re probably feeling right now like you only have a few years left. You might be asking questions like, \u201cIs my teen prepared for life?\u201d Well, go to our website, FamilyLifeThisWeek.com. We have some resources for you, including a past broadcast that Dennis and Barbara Rainey talked about preparing your teen for life; again, that\u2019s at our website, FamilyLifeThisWeek.com.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHey, talking about the Raineys, next week we\u2019re going to hear from Dennis and Barbara Rainey. They\u2019re going to share some stories\/stories that we can learn from. You know, Dennis and Barbara encourage wives and husbands to work through the hard times and, well, to laugh through the difficult and also the good times. We\u2019re going to hear some mentoring advice from them; we\u2019re going to learn together. I hope you can join us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHey, thanks for listening! I want to thank the president of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, David Robbins, along with our station partners around the country. A big \u201cThank you!\u201d to our engineer today, Keith Lynch. Thanks to our producer, Marques Holt. 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