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Crabtree emphasizes that parents must mean what they say and be consistent with boundaries.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylife.com\/fl2020-07-23.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Sam Crabtree is a grandfather, who recently was watching his grandchildren while their parents were gone; and before they went to school, Sam let them know about a boundary he was putting in place. After school, they could have a snack until four but not after that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam: <\/strong>Pick them up after school; gave the reminder, \u201cYou can have snacks until four o\u2019 clock; after four o\u2019 clock, no snacks.\u201d Well, four o\u2019 clock comes; no snacks. I\u2019m starting to hear, \u201cI\u2019m hungry.\u201d Then the tone starts to intensify, \u201cI\u2019m hungry! I\u2019m so hungry, Grandpa!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cWell, supper will be in a little bit,\u201d\u2014held the line\u2014\u201cNo snacks till supper.\u201d The next night, only one said, \u201cI\u2019m hungry, Grandpa\u201d; third night, no comments.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Thursday, July 23<sup>rd<\/sup>. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson; I'm Bob Lepine. You can find us online at FamilyLifeToday.com. Are there boundaries in place for your kids at your house, and do you enforce those boundaries? Do they get tested? Of course they do! We\u2019re going to offer some help today on how you can hold the line with your kids. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. I get excited about programs we\u2019re going to do, where I feel like, \u201cOkay, we\u2019re going to help some moms and dads with some real, honest stuff you\u2019re dealing with\u201d; but then I think to myself\u2014I come across a book like the one we\u2019re talking about today and I go\u2014\u201cWhat I really want is to send this to my kids [Laughter] and say, \u2018Start doing this with the grandkids!\u2019\u201d\u2014right? Do you feel the same way?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; I was just going to say: \u201cDo you know what I get excited about?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> What?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Finding out little-known facts about Bob Lepine. I just found out\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> What\u2019d you just find out?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>\u2014in the last minute. Our guest today is from Minnesota; and I didn\u2019t know you were born in Edina, Minnesota.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I was born in Edina, Minnesota, which I understand is kind of like \u201cOld money Minnesota\u201d; is that right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I don\u2019t think it was, in the \u201950s when I was there, because we didn\u2019t have old money; we didn\u2019t have much money. But I understand, when I say \u201cEdina\u201d now, people go, \u201cOh, you\u2019re from that part of town.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; well you\u2019re trying to get away from what I\u2019m going to say, because I just found out Edina stands for\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> It\u2019s an acronym.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014it\u2019s an acronym for Every Day I Need Attention. I thought, \u201cThere it is! Bob Lepine!\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That explains why I\u2019m on radio every day. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Oh, my. I hope they let me fly home. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Our guest is not from Edina, but he is from the Twin Cities. Sam Crabtree is joining us on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Glad to be here; really glad to be here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Sam is an author. He\u2019s the executive pastor at a church in Minnesota called Bethlehem Baptist Church, which, if people have heard of Bethlehem Baptist, it\u2019s probably because you had a pastor for a number of years, who you worked with, who became pretty well-known.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Yes; John Piper brought me there. He was there 30-some years; and now he\u2019s full-time with Desiring God Ministries, and I\u2019m on the board. Just incidentally, we\u2019re also next-door neighbors.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Is that right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, really?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> So we roll our garbage to the curb together. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, and you continue to serve at Bethlehem Baptist, although Dr. Piper matriculated about five years ago and is, as you said, full-time with Desiring God.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Sam\u2019s an author. He\u2019s been here on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> before; and when I saw your new book, I\u2019m thinking, \u201cA grandparent had to write this book.\u201d [Laughter] Your heart here is really to help young couples understand that they can serve their children really well if they will correct them really well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> That\u2019s right. It\u2019s been my heart\u2019s cry to God and my prayer that this would be helpful to parents, not just a book to put on the coffee table, or add to the product line, or something like that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI love Dennis and Barbara Rainey\u2019s book on parenting.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> It emphasizes children as arrows, which is a biblical motif. This book that I\u2019ve written, <em>Parenting with Loving Correction, <\/em>is just a little, tiny subcomponent of parenting; but it aims at making sure those arrows are straight\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> \u2014so that they\u2019ll fly to the mark where you\u2019re intending to aim them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> As you look at young couples today, raising the next generation of children, would you say that, in this area of loving correction, young couples are getting it or that they need some help in this area?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Well, there\u2019s a continuum, as you know; there\u2019s a spectrum. Some young parents are well-trained\u2014maybe by their parents or grandparents, or well-read, or they\u2019ve followed FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>\u2014[Laughter]\u2014and they\u2019re just sharp as a tack on this. Then there are other families that I\u2019ve observed that seem clueless, and I don\u2019t mean to be pejorative or condemning of them. It\u2019s my ache for them that prompted me to want to write this book to try to help them mean what they say when they speak to their children, so they would get it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Those that are clueless, are they just checking out of correction altogether with their kids? Is that what you\u2019re seeing?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Well again, I would hate to generalize and put everybody in the same bucket as to why they would do it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> I think there can be different reasons why people don\u2019t correct their children well. And I don\u2019t mean become dictatorial\/tyrannical\u2014that\u2019s not what I\u2019m talking about here; that is <em>not<\/em> what I\u2019m talking about here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> But they don\u2019t hold a line with their children\u2014maybe because they don\u2019t know how to; maybe because they\u2019re afraid of their children; maybe that they have been influenced to think, \u201cIf I\u2019m too consistent, that equates to harshness and rigidity; and my child will grow up warped, and will hate me, and despise his childhood.\u201d Some parents are just weary\u2014they\u2019re just bushed; they\u2019re tired\u2014it takes energy to correct your children.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> So there can be multiple of reasons why parents don\u2019t do it or won\u2019t do it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> We just spent four days watching our grandkids\u2014a four-year-old girl, two-year-old boy, and a one-year-old boy. You know, we\u2019re grandparents\u2014right?\u2014so when we got on the plane to fly home after four days, my wife looks at me and says: \u201cSo? How are you doing? We haven\u2019t talked in four days!\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I\u2019m telling you, Sam, I remembered\u2014like, \u201cOh, I forgot how all-consuming this was\/that stage is; and \u2018How did I have any time to spend with God? How did I have a marriage?\u2019\u201d Because it really is so demanding when our kids are so little. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think, in this culture, the loving piece\u2014we all want to love our kids\u2014but what about the correction piece? What does that mean, and why is that so important?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Yes. Well, just to identify with the energy part there. [Laughter] I mean, we <em>love<\/em> when our grandkids come; and we love when they go. [Laughter] And we love them dearly!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> I mean, I would guess I don\u2019t pray for anybody more\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Us, too.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> \u2014than for my grandchildren. [Choked up] They\u2019re a high priority.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> How many do you have?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Six. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Wow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Six, from age, soon-to-be-14 on down. They take energy; they do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy daughter-in-law, because of her work, was on a work trip; and her husband was able to go with her. They asked us if we would be the grandparents; and Vicki was not able to be along, because she has a music studio, and she had stuff scheduled in there. I went to be solo grandpa for four days and nights.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Wow!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> How old were the kids at that time?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Well, I\u2019d say they probably were 11 on down, something like that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> So I\u2019m going to get them up in the morning; I\u2019m going to breakfast them; make sure they\u2019re ready for school, have their hair brushed and whatever; and get them off to school\u2014 except for the four-year-old, who was with me all day, Payton\u2014get them after school; after-school snacks; meals; supper; bedtime; Scripture memory\u2014all that stuff\u2014baths; get them to bed.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I am very impressed right now.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I\u2019m exhausted right now! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> That\u2019s the point! Yes; so one of the things that I did\u2014and this is germane, now, to this book, <em>Parenting with Loving Correction<\/em>\u2014is I decided that, while I was there, and while I was the adult who was\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014in charge.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> \u2014going to be responsible for stewarding these four opportunities\u2014when they come home from school, snacks are the order of the day. That\u2019s fine\u2014appropriate snacks\u2014but after four o\u2019 clock, no snacks. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> It\u2019s a new rule at their house. Well, I was fully anticipating that this would meet with some push-back; because it\u2019s a new rule, and besides, they\u2019re hungry. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> So they had multiple reasons to think, \u201cCould we have another king?\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut I established the rule early in the day: \u201cNow, when you get home from school tonight, you can snack. At four o\u2019 clock, no snacks till supper.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> So you prepped them early.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Yes, right. Talk about it\u2014that\u2019s fair. You know, tyrants <em>spring<\/em> rules on people.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right; right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Good legislators prep the people, and have listening meetings, and all that sort of thing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> That\u2019s wisdom.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> I think so. I pick them up after school; gave the reminder: \u201cYou can have snacks till four o\u2019 clock; after four o\u2019 clock, no snacks.\u201d Well, four o\u2019 clock comes; no snacks, and I\u2019m starting to hear, \u201cI\u2019m hungry.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> And then the tone starts to intensify a little bit: \u201cI\u2019m hungry! I\u2019m <em>so<\/em> hungry, Grandpa!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cWell, supper will be in a little bit,\u201d\u2014I held the line\u2014\u201cNo snacks till supper.\u201d The next night, only one said, \u201cI\u2019m hungry, Grandpa\u201d; the third night, no comments. They knew, \u201cWhen supper gets here, we can eat; but at four o\u2019 clock, there\u2019s a cutoff.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, they ate better at supper.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> We enjoyed conversation better at supper. There just was a better family dynamic that \u201cWe\u2019re in this together\u201d; and this rule isn\u2019t hurting anybody. Nobody is becoming malnourished because they can\u2019t graze \u2018til supper. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, my enforcement\u2014I\u2019m on the energy question\u2014you know, that took energy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> I don\u2019t know how many times I had to say: \u201cNope,\u201d \u201cNope, sorry,\u201d \u201cSupper will be in a little bit. It\u2019s on the stove.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat takes energy from parents; and when you\u2019re burning through energy, there\u2019s a grace for it. But the more grace you\u2019re burning through, the more you want to\u2014you know, you can run your engine at high speed a long time; but once in a while you have to stop and change the oil, as it were. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> So it does take energy from parents, but I think the payoff is well worth it; and it was in that particular instance. I think the children win, and the adults win; because by the third night, nobody said a thing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; so you hear that story and you\u2019re like: \u201cOf course! Why wouldn\u2019t any parent do that?\u201d Here\u2019s the question: \u201cWhy don\u2019t parents do that?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Well, I think we\u2019re revisiting some of the rationale mentioned earlier: some are tired; some don\u2019t know that they could do it; some don\u2019t want to invest the energy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I\u2019ll tell you what it was for me, because Mary Ann tended to be the more authoritarian parent in our household; I tend to be the more permissive. I\u2019m the fun dad; she\u2019s the rules mom.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh yes, this is Dave Wilson.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Does it sound familiar to you?\u2014okay.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes, but I\u2019m not resentful at all\u2014[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> <em>Not at all! <\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014always having to be the bad guy. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Honestly, part of\u2014I think what motivated me in this direction was\u2014I think there was some fear in my heart that, if I was too rigid with my kids, I would lose their heart\/that the relationship would somehow deteriorate.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLooking back, I recognize that was more about my fear than it was about what was there in reality. I mean, if I could do the do-over, I would know that\u2014when I say, \u201cNo\u201d; and they say, \u201cYou\u2019re the meanest dad there is,\u201d and get mad and storm out\u2014I haven\u2019t lost them. That\u2019s a momentary childish eruption that doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019re not going to snuggle with me that night; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut as a parent, I was fearful, Sam, of: \u201cI don\u2019t want to be too rigid, because I don\u2019t want my kids growing up, going, \u2018<em>I just hate my dad<\/em>.\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Yes; my experience has been\u2014both with my children and my grandchildren\u2014and those rare episodes; and I\u2019m <em>so grateful<\/em> they were rare\/very rare, where I most sternly had to consistently chasten the child\/punish the child\u2014within 30 minutes, they\u2019re sitting in my lap; and we\u2019re playing a game together.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> And the endearment is there\/the belongingness is there; the past is the past; we\u2019ve buried the hatchet. Yes, I don\u2019t think we need to fear that; but we should hasten to say that correction takes place <em>best<\/em> in an environment where there is <em>lots<\/em> of affirmation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes. The reason <em>loving<\/em> correction is in this is because, unless loving is the atmosphere in which correction\u2019s taking place, you\u2019re going to have problems\u2014if it\u2019s all correction and no loving\u2014right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Yes; in fact, you use the word, \u201cno loving.\u201d \u201cNo\u201d is loving; but if all they get is \u201cno\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cNo this,\u201d \u201cNo that,\u201d \u201cNo never,\u201d \u201cNo, knock it off,\u201d; and there\u2019s not enough yeses\u2014the no\u2019s become very unappetizing. In fact, they\u2019re hard to take anyway\u2014but if the child knows there are lots of yeses: lots of permission; lots of \u201cLet\u2019s do this together\u201d; lots of \u201cLet\u2019s experiment with this\u201d; lots of happiness, and smiling, and laughing\u2014\u201cA spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, I like that in your book, that you talk about rewarding obedience and not disobedience. What\u2019s that look like?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Let me illustrate it. I was at the store, just a couple weeks ago, in line behind a woman with two small children: one of them in the cart, and she has a cart full of stuff. She\u2019s trying to get it on the conveyor belt for the checkout clerk and the child\u2014the little boy\u2014in the cart is having a hissy fit. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI would insert in here: \u201cParents, you can tell the difference in the cry of your children: you know when there\u2019s a hurt\/injured cry\u2014they just pinched their finger\u2014and you know when there\u2019s a tired cry; and so on.\u201d Well, there\u2019s also a defiant, \u201cI want to be in charge,\u201d cry: \u201cI want to have my way!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cI want that candy at the checkout line.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Exactly. Well, apparently, she\u2019d led him to believe somehow\u2014I\u2019d say he was maybe two years old\u2014that she was going to buy some Twizzlers<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, and there they were. They were in the cart, but she hadn\u2019t gotten rid of them yet. He\u2019s <em>demanding<\/em>, and most of the checkout area in the store is aware that this is going on. [Laughter] She\u2019s feeling embarrassed, I\u2019m sure.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, the poor mom is humiliated; yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Right; I\u2019m not on her case about this. You\u2019re asking, \u201cHow does it work?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam: <\/strong>She fishes through the cart, finds the Twizzlers, hands them to the clerk so we can pay for the Twizzlers first. Then she opens the package, while he\u2019s crying; pulls out a Twizzler; and gives it to him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, I would ask, \u201cWhat did she just do?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> She rewarded his disobedience.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> She rewarded his hissy fit!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe principle that God has wired into the universe is that behaviors that are rewarded tend to be repeated. She rewarded his hissy fit\/his demanding cry\u2014actually, his defiance\u2014because she told him, \u201cNo,\u201d several times. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe hands him a Twizzler. I watched. He bit the end off of the Twizzler, held his hand out over the edge of the cart, and dropped it on the floor.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014on purpose.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> \u2014on purpose\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, boy!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> \u2014and demanded another one\u2014a hissy fit\/just a screaming fit. She pulled out another one and gave him another Twizzler. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, she\u2019s paying him to do this!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Instead of rewarding his cooperation, she\u2019s rewarding his hassle factor, if you might call it that. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Did you say anything to her?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> I didn\u2019t; jurisdiction matters\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> \u2014I mean, if it\u2019s your own kid, that\u2019s one thing; and if it\u2019s a stranger in a checkout line\u2014a lot of judgment calls there\u2014I wouldn\u2019t fault somebody if they did say something. There are people, who would handle it, maybe, different than I did, which was just to watch it happen, and then wish her well as she went on her way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> You wrote your book!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> I tried to engage both of the children in conversation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> What I would say to her is that: \u201cIf you want to just placate the child so that you can get done with the shopping and get out of the store, just beware you just made your problem worse. Are you sure you want to pay <em>that <\/em>cost to get out of the store?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe child would not be injured if you just let him cry. He can learn to wait. Isn\u2019t waiting one of the hardest things in life we do, even as adults? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> We so hate to wait; but delayed gratification\u2014that\u2019s part of maturity.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe help our children when they have to wait for some things\u2014not that we intentionally torture them by extending wait periods\u2014but a reasonable wait is, \u201cGet out of the store, and you can have your Twizzler.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Now, would you have, in this situation\u2014say it\u2019s your granddaughter\/grandson, and the same thing\u2019s happening; or it\u2019s your son, years ago\/daughter, years ago\u2014would you have said, \u201cNo, you\u2019re not going to get a Twizzler now\u201d? Or would you have said, \u201cIf you can ask more politely, I\u2019ll give you a Twizzler\u201d?\u2014\u201cIf you stop the crying\/stop the whining, and ask for one more politely,\u201d\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014rewarding the good behavior and not rewarding the bad.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Well, it\u2019s a good question. My answer would vary, based upon how old the child was. I didn\u2019t know this two-year-old in the shopping cart; but with my children, we had the conversation before going to the store; and my daughters <em>loved<\/em> going to the grocery store with me! We would get two carts. For a number of years in our marriage, I would go to the grocery store. Vicki would stay home, and I\u2019d take the girls. It was an adventure: one girl in each cart.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Are you pushing both carts?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> I\u2019m pushing one and pulling the other. [Laughter] As they grew older, I would invite them into decisions I thought they could make. Now, early on, I just would hand them stuff; and then their decision is where to put it in the cart. They\u2019d stack, and restack, and then restack, and re-restack. But later, I\u2019d ask: \u201cWhich kind of soup should we get?\u201d \u201cWhich kind of cereal should we buy?\u201d \u201cDo you think we\u2019re out of lettuce?\u201d\u2014and invite them into the shopping\u2014\u201cThis one costs this much, and this one costs this much. What do you think we should do?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut we had the conversation ahead of time, and they knew that, \u201cIf you are belligerent\u201d\u2014which is different than just being active, or mischievous, or you happen to knock something off the shelf inadvertently, or something like that\u2014\u201cIf there\u2019s a belligerence, we\u2019ll just leave the carts right there; and we\u2019ll get in the car and go home; and you won\u2019t be happy about it.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; you hit on something. We talk about this in the <em>Art of Parenting<\/em><sup>\u00ae <\/sup>video series; it\u2019s what you\u2019re talking about in the book, Sam. For correction to occur, there has to be instruction before there\u2019s correction. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And I see a lot of parents <em>assuming<\/em> that a child is going to know how to behave\u2014not coaching a child, not doing the instructing\u2014not having those huddles in the parking lot, before you go in, and execute the game plan in the store. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you pull in and say: \u201cOkay, here\u2019s what\u2019s going to happen. We\u2019re going to go into the store. It\u2019s going to take us about 20 minutes. You may get bored at some point, but I want this behavior to be like this,\u201d and \u201cIt\u2019ll be a good experience if we get this, and maybe we\u2019ll go to the park this afternoon if it all works out well here; but if it doesn\u2019t go well here, it\u2019s not going to be a good day the rest of the day.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You get them understanding that; and then, in the middle of it, you can say, \u201cRemember what we talked about in the car?\u201d and you can draw on that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> Not only talking in advance in the car, but it can happen in the moment in the store.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> If something happens in the store, you can say: \u201cYou know, you\u2019re not in trouble about it this time; but if you do that again, are we clear? Look at me in the eye now.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sam:<\/strong> \u201cDo you understand? If you do that again, that\u2019s an offense; that\u2019s trouble for you.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; the key here is that there needs to be <em>loving<\/em> correction.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And for this to be loving, you have to have a foundation in place for that correction to occur properly. That\u2019s what is at the heart of what you\u2019ve written about in the book, <em>Parenting with Loving Correction: Practical Help for Raising Your Children<\/em>. We\u2019re making this book available to <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>listeners who can help support the work of this ministry. We\u2019re a listener-supported ministry; your donations are what make this daily program possible. If you can pitch in and help with the ongoing work of <em>FamilyLife Today, <\/em>we\u2019d love to send you a copy of Sam\u2019s book as our thank-you gift for your support. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, the title of the book is <em>Parenting with Loving Correction: Practical Help for Raising Your Children. <\/em>You can request your copy when you donate, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to make your donation. Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com; the number to call is 1-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d Be sure to ask for your copy of Sam Crabtree\u2019s book, <em>Parenting with Loving Correction<\/em>, when you make a donation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then, find out more about FamilyLife\u2019s resource\u2014the <em>Art of Parenting<\/em>, the video series that we have available that\u2019s being used in small group settings\u2014at least, when we\u2019re able to have small group settings, or Zoom classes, or whatever you\u2019re doing to connect with people. The<em> Art of Parenting <\/em>is a <em>great<\/em> resource to help you think about the key issues we face when we\u2019re raising toddlers or raising teenagers. Find out more about the <em>Art of Parenting<\/em> when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne more resource I want to mention to you\u2014we\u2019re aware that a lot of marriages have been facing strain and pressure because of the uncertainties of what is going on in our world and in our lives these days. That stress has put pressure on marriages, so we\u2019ve put together an online resource that is called \u201cTaking Your Marriage from Good to Great.\u201d This includes a couple of online mini-courses: one on resolving conflict in marriage; another one called \u201cLight Bulb Moments for Your Marriage.\u201d There is access to audio teaching from Paul David Tripp, Gary Chapman, Voddie Baucham, Juli Slattery; and some download-ables: a quiz you can take to determine whether you\u2019re a good listener; conversation-starter questions for you and your spouse.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then, there\u2019s an additional incentive to get you to engage with this content. One couple, who signs up for the \u201cTaking Your Marriage from Good to Great\u201dresource\/one couple is going to join us, here at FamilyLife, for an upcoming <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>recording session as our guests. We\u2019ll fly you in; put you up [in a hotel]; and after the recording session, you\u2019ll have dinner that night with Dave and Ann Wilson. We thought maybe that would just give you a little extra incentive to build a stronger marriage. Go to FamilyLifeToday.com for all the information\/all the details. There\u2019s no purchase necessary. Again, the information is available, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we\u2019re going to talk about why it\u2019s so important for parents to, not only set boundaries, but to not capitulate\/not to weaken on those boundaries. Sam Crabtree joins us again tomorrow. I hope you can be back with us for that as well. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. 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