{"id":306063,"date":"2020-06-02T07:00:05","date_gmt":"2020-06-02T11:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/applauding-the-good\/"},"modified":"2020-06-02T07:00:05","modified_gmt":"2020-06-02T11:00:05","slug":"applauding-the-good","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/applauding-the-good\/","title":{"rendered":"Applauding the Good"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Brandon and Analyn Miller changed their parenting strategy 10 years into the parenting journey. 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Hear what they realized about their kids when they parented to their strengths rather than their weaknesses.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylife.com\/fl2020-06-02.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> As a parent, how much time do you spend fertilizing your kids versus trying to fix them? It\u2019s a lesson that Brandon and Analyn Miller learned with their daughter, Madeline. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> So Madeline handed us this report card at the end of sixth grade, all A\u2019s and a C-minus in math. Being a parent, who was a high-performer in school, my first thought went to: \u201cWhat happened in math? How did that happen?\u201d Being a student of what I have been speaking about, decided, \u201cMaybe I should ask her about the positive grades first.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLiterally, we switched the conversation; we said to our daughter, \u201cYou got an A-plus in reading, Madeline; do you like to read?\u201d Our daughter\u2019s eyes lit up; she went: \u201cDaddy, I love to read. Sometimes, you and Mommy think you\u2019re putting me to bed at night; and I\u2019ll stay up until two in the morning reading books.\u201d I offered her\/I said, \u201cMadeline, I\u2019ll tell you what\u2014this summer, I\u2019m going to <em>hire<\/em> you to read books.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday, June 2<sup>nd<\/sup>. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson; I\u2019m Bob Lepine. You\u2019ll can find us online at FamilyLifeToday.com. Do you know the things your kids are really good at and the things they <em>love<\/em> to do? What are you doing to help <em>fuel<\/em> those passions and abilities? We\u2019ll talk more about that today. Stay with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. One of the challenges I think all of face, as parents, is how we deal with the preconceptions that we bring to parenting about what a good child is supposed to be. [Laughter] Why are you laughing? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I laughed immediately because I can remember having those thoughts. You know, now, I\u2019m a grandparent; but when I realized what my thought was about what my children should be, it was more about how they made <em>me<\/em> look\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I was going to say the same thing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014than them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> It was all about <em>me<\/em>: they would make me <em>look<\/em> better, and people would think better of <em>me<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We\u2019ve got some friends, who are joining us this week, to talk about rethinking our parenting. I\u2019ll just say, again, this is really at the heart of what we talk about in the <em>Art of Parenting<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> video series and the book that Dennis and Barbara Rainey wrote, <em>The Art of Parenting<\/em>; because as moms and dads, we have to rethink our approach to parenting and not just try to follow some recipe. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnalyn and Brandon Miller join us on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Guys, welcome back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Hi; thank you for having us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Thank you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Brandon and Analyn are from Sacramento, California. They are parents of seven kids. Brandon works with businesses and with ministries to help in strength development. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnalyn, if you want to sell your house and you live in Sacramento\u2014right?\u2014they can call you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Call me. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Alright. She\u2019s doing real estate in Sacramento; and in the meantime, they raised three of their seven kids; still have four at home. And I say you\u2019ve raised three of your seven; you\u2019re still parents; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Yes, we are. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; but you have to adjust how you do it once they are married; don\u2019t you? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Very much. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Brandon and Analyn have written a book called <em>Play to Their Strengths<\/em>. You said that this is an approach to parenting that dawned on you, ten years into the journey?\u2014maybe, beyond that. What was your <em>original<\/em> parenting strategy? Do you remember? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> I would say our original parenting strategy, somewhat like we just discussed, was really making our kids make us look good. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> \u2014very performance-oriented. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Performance was\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And did you judge other people\u2019s kids? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> One hundred percent, yes; absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> That was the standard by which you knew if you were a good parent\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Unfortunately. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> \u201cDid your kids behave better than the other kids at the family event or the restaurant?\u201d And you give the sideways glance to: \u201cOh, they don\u2019t know what they are doing, because they must not use as strong a threats as I do to get their child to comport to the behavior you want to see in the restaurant\u201d? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Meanwhile, you\u2019re coaching business leaders and saying, \u201cReally, what you need to do is try to encourage the strengths in your employees and help them play to their strengths in the workplace; and they\u2019ll be better employees.\u201d You went, \u201cOh, maybe, this would apply to parenting.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> \u201cMaybe, I should take this home and apply this with my\u201d\u2014at the time\u2014\u201cemerging teens and little, little ones.\u201d It became, for us, a conversation around: \u201cHow would we make this switch? What would this look like, practically, in our home to create a culture\/a space, where it was okay to play to their strengths without getting caught up in what others would think about us in the process?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014which can be very different because, many times, we hear, \u201cWe need well-rounded kids.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> How would we go from having well-rounded kids to playing to their strengths? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> You know, I think that, as we can even consider the idea of being well-rounded, our idea of that is they\u2019re excelling at school; they are playing a sport; they are doing an art. We want our children to do all of them excellently\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> \u2014and be perfectly-behaved\u2014[Laughter]\u2014in the process. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> \u2014and maintain perfect behavior. When I say that out loud\u2014of course, as we\u2019re all sitting here\u2014we\u2019re going, \u201cThat\u2019s just so unreasonable! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> \u201cHow could we even, you know, expect that or think that of our children?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you look at just beginning to change this culture into looking at what\u2019s right with your children, and looking at the strengths in your children, it does take some time to discover what those things are. I think there [are] going to be opportunities that you are putting in front of them; right? Even as small children\/grade school children, maybe, you let them do\u2014they want to play an instrument or whatnot. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think, for us, one of the things that we\u2014especially when our children want to try new things\u2014our only thing is: \u201cYou know what? If we can provide that for you, and if we can make sure you can get there for those practices and whatnot, we just ask that you finish it.\u201d At the end of it\u2014if they say: \u201cI didn\u2019t enjoy it,\u201d or \u201cI didn\u2019t like all the practice afterwards; it just didn\u2019t energize me,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s okay; you know? But even in the process, our only thing is: \u201cYou\u2019ve got to finish it,\u201d because we don\u2019t want our kids to just <em>learn<\/em> to start and not finish. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> If they try out for the soccer team, they are going to do a season of soccer\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Correct. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014and not quit halfway through. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> And we\u2019ve had that happen to us. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> We have a little guy, who is\u2014he\u2019s a swimmer\u2014and in our summer swim leagues, he breaks 30-year-old records; he is amazing. Each year after the season, we ask him: \u201cDo you want to continue doing this? You\u2019re amazing.\u201d His initial response is: \u201cNo, I don\u2019t like the practices; I\u2019m not into this sport.\u201d Then every year, around the spring, he remembers how much he likes to win and beat people, and says, \u201cI\u2019ll give it another go.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re going to play this out; but my prediction is he will age out, at some point, and decide it\u2019s not for him, even though we could transition him to the year-round competitive club. We could start to really invest; the sport takes a lot of investment with the travel; but we\u2019re metering and monitoring, \u201cIs that really the way to go?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBecause the myth of well-roundness\u2014Dr. Donald Clifton, who is considered the father of strength psychology\u2014so he\u2019s the one who started to ask questions: \u201cWhy does our field of study focus so much on what\u2019s wrong with humans instead of what\u2019s right?\u201d He\u2019s quoted in one of his books as saying, \u201cFor every one strength a person has, you have a thousand weaknesses; so to spend a life trying to solve those things and become who you are not is really a recipe for frustration.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOn behalf of the person\u2014who is either the parent, the child, the manager, the employee\u2014pick your spot of human development, and you\u2019re building a place where we\u2019re going to really struggle. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> What do you say to a parent, that has the child come home from school, with a grade card\u2014because I know we focus on the negative and not the positive\u2014so he\u2019s got four A\u2019s and whatever; and he\u2019s got a D in algebra? Most parents go, \u201cWhy do you have a D here?\u201d\u2014rather than\u2014\u201cOh my goodness! You are <em>so good<\/em> at these other areas.\u201d What do you say to that parent?\u2014because that\u2019s what\u2019s a lot of us do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> So here is the playbook: Madeline handed us this report card at the end of sixth grade. She\u2019s now a sophomore; but at the end of sixth grade, all A\u2019s and a C-minus in math. Being a parent, who was a high-performer in school, my first thought went to: \u201cWhat happened in math? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> \u201cWhat happened?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> \u201cHow did that happen?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> \u201cWhat in the world?!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Being a student of what I have been speaking about, decided, \u201cMaybe, I should ask her about the positive grades first.\u201d Literally, we switched the conversation; we said to our daughter: \u201cYou got an A-plus in reading. Madeline, do you like to read?\u201d Our daughter\u2019s eyes lit up; and she went: \u201cDaddy, I love to read. Sometimes, you and Mommy think you\u2019re putting me to bed at night; and I\u2019ll stay up to two in the morning reading books.\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> \u2014as a sixth grader. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> We said, \u201cWow!\u201d I offered her\/I said, \u201cMadeline, I\u2019ll tell you what\u2014I\u2019m going to <em>hire<\/em> you to read books.\u201d She looked puzzled and quizzical, \u201cReally?\u201d I said, \u201cYes; for every book that\u2019s a hundred pages, you get a dollar. Two hundred pages, you get two; three hundred or more, you get five. As long as you write a book report, turn it in on Mondays, I\u2019ll pay you in cash.\u201d My little girl read, and she read, and she read. What we were doing was\u2014we were playing to the fourth E that we talked about, Energy. When a child plays to their strengths, they build energy; in fact, they reserve it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAt the end of summer, we came back and said, \u201cHey, Maddie, you\u2019ve got to C in math. What do you think about some math tutoring?\u201d Her answer was: \u201cSure; be happy to put some effort there.\u201d If we had reversed it, I guarantee\u2014I asked this question to rooms of people\u2014\u201cWhat do you think would have happened if I started with: \u2018Maddie, this summer, math tutoring,\u2019?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> \u2014<em>all summer long<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> The answer I get from most is: \u201cI would have had eye rolls\u201d; \u201cI would have had the \u2018Wah-wah-wah,\u2019\u201d\u2014it would have gone over that way. What would have started as\u2014but \u201cHere\u2019s the carrot,\u201d \u201cHere\u2019s all the incentive,\u201d\u2014but it probably became very authoritarian: \u201cNo; you must\u2026\u201d\/\u201dYou have to\u2026\u201d This starts to erode that parent\/child relationship around: \u201cAm I really advocating for you to be your best?\u201d or \u201c\u2026to be who I think you need to be to get by?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> The point is that there is energy around our strengths. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> When we do the things that we\u2019re good at, we feel energized; in fact, I think feel a little more empowered even to try to tackle some of the things that we\u2019re not as good at. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Very much. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Thank you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> We call it the Three C\u2019s. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> So when a child plays to their strengths, number one: \u201cYou get more confidence.\u201d You start to feel like, \u201cI\u2019ve got this; I\u2019m in my zone. This is my area of genius.\u201d Two: \u201cCompetence: \u2018I have more room; I can grow here. I <em>believe<\/em> that there is more in my tank.\u2019\u201d And third: \u201cCreative\u201d\u2014because now, in a creative space, now, we\u2019re finding other avenues to get to my answer\u2014versus, when you play to a weakness, what starts to happen is: those three [C\u2019s]start to collapse. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSome call it lizard brain or reptilian. You start to have this anxiety toward: \u201cUH! Can I do it? Do I have what it takes? Am I going to perform because Mom or Dad might be <em>disappointed<\/em> in me?\u201d Disappointment in parenting is <em>very<\/em> difficult for a child to face; because it goes back to that question you said on the last show, which is: \u201cDo they love me?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Is it important for us, as parents, to know how we\u2019re wired\/what are our strengths; because our kids could be opposite of that? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Throughout of our book, we would say parents knowing who they are is probably the most important takeaway we think we wrote about. For a parent entering into that realm, and when you think about bringing home that new child\u2014and I think we were saying it earlier, you\u2019re wanting to flip them over and find instructions\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cWhat do I do now that I\u2019m this parent?\u201d So then this natural apprehension starts to come in: \u201cDo I have what it takes? Could I help this child be who they are supposed to be?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSome people use this term, \u201cFaking it until you make it.\u201d Well, that mentality\u2014if I don\u2019t really come to terms with: \u201cWell, who am I as a parent?\u201d and \u201cWhat will I excel at?\u201d \u201cWhat am I strong in?\u201d\u2014then that leads me to try and compensate in areas where maybe don\u2019t come as natural. We describe this condition in our book that is\/it\u2019s a real challenge: it\u2019s imposter syndrome. It\u2019s presenting a front of who I am, or who I think I\u2019m supposed to be, that matches to my kid; and there is a danger there. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, on the other hand, it\u2019s also the challenge of putting onto my kids who I think I am: \u201cAnd now, you have to be me.\u201d Both of those lead to a separation; so now, we\u2019re not meeting\/we\u2019re not communicating, because we\u2019re\/we don\u2019t even speak the same language\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> \u2014now as we grow. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe feel like: \u201cKnowing who I am,\u201d\u2014is very important\/as equal it is to\u2014\u201cKnow who you are, as my child, so I know how to parent you.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You know, it\u2019s interesting; I\u2019ve always\u2014and you mentioned this in the book\u2014I look at my sons now\u201433, 30, 28\u2014what they are doing, and what they are good at, what their strengths are today\u2014we saw when they were two or three; you know what I mean?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Very much. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You have the quote in there that: \u201cWe, at 26, often are what we were at 3.\u201d As parents, you can see it. Again, it doesn\u2019t mean it <em>has<\/em> to be that; but\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014if you step back and analyze, you see it early; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> We like to say: \u201cYour kids are not meant to be a mystery to you. God really does intend for you to know them.\u201d In Jeremiah, it talks about \u201cBefore I formed you in the womb, I knew you.\u201d God already knows who this child is; so when they come into our world, we have a chance to know what God already knows. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI believe, when we\u2019re genuinely in that discovery mode\/genuinely staying curious and asking questions\u2014not just: \u201cWhy did you do that?\u201d\u2014but: \u201cWho are you?\u201d \u201cWhat makes you unique?\u201d and \u201cWhat am I seeing that I\u2019m probably going to keep seeing throughout your life? What is this strength?\u201d \u201cWhat is this character quality?\u201d \u201cHow do I help shape it for the best possible place, where you\u2019ll express this in love?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Talk about that a little bit; because you mentioned in one of your chapters, \u201cSpeak the truth over your children.\u201d I\u2019m sitting here, thinking: \u201cWell, our three sons are living out who God made them to be. Part of that\u2019s the way God made them. I\u2019m wondering, \u2018How much of that is what we did as parents?\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBecause, we\u2014when we saw that\/especially Ann\u2014just started speaking that out loud to them. I remember saying to CJ, \u201cSomeday, God is going to use your brain the way its wired to really impact the world\u2014so <em>much<\/em> different than my brain.\u201d \u201cAustin, you <em>love<\/em> literature; someday\u2026\u201d; you know. Now, I look today; it\u2019s like, \u201cWow; I can see them doing that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHow much of what we say, as we speak truth over our kids as parents, is that critical? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Oh, it\u2019s\u2014when we think of the opportunity we have to be the voice in our children\u2019s life\/the thing they will remember\u2014there is this idea that, for every five things that you say that are strong, if one of them is negative; or ten that are strong and one negative\u2014they\u2019ll remember the negative more than the positives. Our opportunity to <em>see<\/em> something brilliant, something beautiful, something in its raw form\u2014and start to call it out\u2014is our responsibility and opportunity. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOur fourth child, Michaela\u2014she is, by her siblings own vote, the most strong-willed child in our house. [Laughter] Hands-down, she would win the prize every day; it would go that way. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> We voted too, yes. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Yes, we <em>love<\/em> that tenacity\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> \u2014and that strength; but it is difficult to parent that child who will challenge you every step of the way. We are teaching her a lesson in her teens that we want her to learn agreeableness versus argumentative behavior. We remind her; but what I tell her: \u201cDon\u2019t lose that edge. Don\u2019t lose that place, where you\u2019ll stand up for others, where you will confront injustice, where you will speak things that need to be spoken; because that\u2019s from God. He\u2019s given you that.\u201d We\u2019re just going to learn how to aim it in a way that it doesn\u2019t always feel like an onslaught for her\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> She just doesn\u2019t know how to use it yet. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> \u2014daring to disagree with you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And that\u2019s a significant point: \u201cShe doesn\u2019t know how to use it yet.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> One of the things we talk about at our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaways is that\u2014strengths and weaknesses that we see in our spouse\u2014weaknesses are, oftentimes, strengths that are being overused. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> If we can go to a child\u2014and we see a weakness; and we ask, \u201cWhat\u2019s the hidden strength behind that weakness?\u201d\u2014I\u2019ll give you an example. Let\u2019s say that you have a child or a spouse who has a critical spirit; okay? They\u2019re always criticizing anyone and everyone. Behind that, if you start to look, that child has high standards; they expect things to be done right. They put that on themselves; they put it on other people. It becomes a weakness when they overuse that strength of\u2014\u201cI have high standards,\u201d\u2014and they don\u2019t give any grace to anybody, and they start to apply it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you can help a child, say: \u201cYou know, here is what I\u2019m seeing. You have really high standards; but sometimes, the way that comes out is in a critical spirit. You make other people feel bad. How can we help you maintain that good thing of high standards in your life, and wanting to see people do things right, without becoming critical in the process?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s where you\u2019re helping a child see the hidden strength behind the weakness that\u2019s an acting out behind that strength. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Absolutely; because, if we think about it, our greatest strengths really come from these patterns in our brain that you might call a talent. These are those super-highway neural pathways that you are going to move down them, whether you want\u2014because there is weakness as in not having enough strength to be strong; and then there is weakness, as you said well Bob, that it\u2019s a misused or abused strength\/too much of it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThose are the ones that you, as a parent\u2014depending on what it is, you\u2019re wrangling those\u2014you are working on those. That\u2019s where that authoritative\u2014you can\u2019t let go of the control\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> \u2014you can\u2019t let go of the expectations that your child needs. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat we\u2019ve learned\u2014is the more explicit the expectations are; and the clarity around what you need to meet them; and \u201cAm I really setting you up for success?\u201d\u2014become the hallmark of how household discipline can function; because now, I can correct you in the parameters that fit for who you are\u2014not just a one-size fits all for all of these kids\u2014because you have different ways you\u2019re going to have challenges. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Let me ask you guys, Dave and Ann: \u201cIf we could go back\u2014you knew this at the beginning, and you were doing this at the beginning\u2014you could have a do-over; what would you do differently, raising your three boys, that would have led to more playing to their strengths; do you think?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think we did do it with our youngest and part way with our middle son; but part of it was knowing myself and knowing my strengths and my weaknesses. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014back to what you guys said: \u201cThis is at the heart of the book\u2014to know your own strengths first, as a parent\u201d; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Actually, I\u2019ll never forget listening to Chuck Swindoll talk about, \u201cTrain up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he won\u2019t depart from it.\u201d The whole idea of that Hebrew word meaning, \u201c\u2026according to their bent,\u201d that switched me. That really transformed my thinking, because I started looking for their bent; and then I started <em>speaking<\/em> out what I saw in them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHonestly, I also had to go back to our oldest and apologize. I had to apologize: \u201cI\u2019m sorry that I\u2019ve been trying to make you like me. I\u2019m sorry that I\u2019ve been putting expectations on you that have kind of taken the light out of your eye.\u201d That really did a lot to build us back up, because our kids are so quick to forgive. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat would you say, Dave? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I would say, as I watched Ann\u2014she\u2019s given herself a hard time; she did this; she really did\u2014she taught me to see their strengths. We didn\u2019t call it \u201cplaying to their strengths\u201d\u2014but that\u2019s better language than we had\u2014but it was like: \u201cGod has uniquely designed them, Ephesians 2:10; they are like a work of art.\u201d It\u2019s sort of neat to think, \u201cEverybody sees it.\u201d I mean, their brothers saw their strengths; you see it in other people. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s hard for parents to be that objective; but if you step back and go, \u201cWhat are they?\u201d I\u2019ll never forget\u2014our oldest\/we already said CJ was more technical and analytical\u2014our middle son really loved literature; Ann just built that. Now, he is a literary agent; he\u2019s <em>our<\/em> agent\u2014it\u2019s really cool. Then our youngest was very athletic, and he lit up on a ballfield; it\u2019s all he ever wanted to talk about. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ll never forget\u2014our oldest son, CJ, was on the high school football team that I coached\u2014and he wasn\u2019t the starter, but he contributed and played well. It wasn\u2019t like he was a terrible athlete, but he wasn\u2019t going to be the star. They win the state championship\u2014first time ever in the school\u2019s history\u2014football state championship; right? He gets a ring; it\u2019s awesome; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThree or four years later, the youngest, Cody, is the star\u2014sets every school record, gets a full scholarship to college, ends up playing in the NFL for a real brief period of time\u2014so he\u2019s the star. They are undefeated; number one in the state the whole season, don\u2019t lose a game; get to the semi-finals, get beat. So the best athlete in the family isn\u2019t going to get a ring. I\u2019ll never forget as\u2014and I\u2019m on the field\u2014and we\u2019re just in tears, because we should have won the state championship that year; but not going to happen. I get on the bus, and we go home. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI find out\u2014as Cody gets in his car at the high school, after getting off the bus\u2014CJ, the oldest son, drives over; takes off his ring, and says, \u201cYou deserve this ring more than I do.\u201d [Emotion in voice] It was just such a tender moment because CJ was acknowledging, \u201cYou have the gift; I got the ring.\u201d Cody went, \u201cIt\u2019s your ring.\u201d [Laughter] He\u2019ll never wear it; you know? But it was so beautiful in that moment, as a dad, to say: \u201cYou know, we all see each other\u2019s gifts\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> That\u2019s right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Amen. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cand they\u2019re beautiful. You just celebrate them.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dave:<\/strong> You know, that\u2019s what you\u2019re saying, \u201cPlay to that, and beauty comes out of ashes.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, I don\u2019t know what moms and dads listening needed to hear today; but I think there are moms and dads, who are looking at each other, and going, \u201cOkay; we\u2019ve got some work to do\u201d; and maybe, need to dig a little deeper, and read the book, and understand better how they can understand their own strengths and then play to their kids\u2019 strengths. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGuys, thank you for being here\/for helping coach us on this. Thanks for writing the book. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Analyn:<\/strong> Thank you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brandon:<\/strong> Thank you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I hope a lot of our listeners are going to get a copy of your book. It\u2019s available on our website at FamilyLifeToday.com. Go there to order the book, <em>Play to Their Strengths<\/em>, by Brandon and Analyn Miller. Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com. You can also order by calling 1-800-FL-TODAY. 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