{"id":305588,"date":"2019-12-06T06:00:05","date_gmt":"2019-12-06T11:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/calming-angry-kids\/"},"modified":"2019-12-06T06:00:05","modified_gmt":"2019-12-06T11:00:05","slug":"calming-angry-kids","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/calming-angry-kids\/","title":{"rendered":"Calming Angry Kids"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Does your childhood, or previous relationships, ever creep into your current ones? 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Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson; I\u2019m Bob Lepine. How can we calm angry kids? Is there anything we can do in the middle of the meltdown? Ron Deal talks with Tricia Goyer about that today. Stay with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. Looking back at the last year, here at FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, one of the things that we\u2019ve been really excited about is the launch of the FamilyLife Podcast Network. I mention that because we\u2019re going to hear an excerpt today from Ron Deal\u2019s <em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em> podcast. We recognize that we have an opportunity to do some specialized programming for folks, like the <em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em> program, and make it available as a podcast. We\u2019ve had <em>lots<\/em> of people who are subscribing to this\/downloading this\u2014pretty exciting. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe need to say, \u201cThank you,\u201d to the listeners who make things like the podcast network possible\u2014those of you, who have donated this year. Your donations are what make these kinds of things possible. Of course, I\u2019m mentioning that because we are looking ahead to next year and some of things we\u2019re hoping to do next year. What listeners do during the month of December will determine how much we are able to do in the year ahead. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> We have a lot of things that we want to do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; I think it\u2019s exciting to think there are a lot of people that give. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are some who haven\u2019t given yet; so I would say to you, if you\u2019ve never given, \u201cI don\u2019t know if you understand; but your gift makes what you\u2019re listening to, right now, possible.\u201d I would say, \u201cJoin the team.\u201d There is an army of people that say, \u201cI\u2019m all in,\u201d\u2014and that doesn\u2019t mean: \u201cI\u2019m just going to listen and be a spectator,\u201d\u2014but: \u201cI\u2019m going to be a player; and I\u2019m going to be on the team. That means I\u2019m going to sacrificially give as well.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI would invite you to join that team. It\u2019s a team that\u2019s changing the world! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> When you give right now, your donation is going to be matched, dollar for dollar, because we\u2019ve had some friends of the ministry, who have said, \u201cThis is so important; we will match every donation, during the month of December, up to a total of \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t$2.5 million.\u201d So, any listener who gives whatever they are able to give\u2014that\u2019s automatically doubled because of this matching-gift opportunity. If you can give now, you make what\u2019s going to happen in 2020 possible. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGo to FamilyLifeToday.com to donate, or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to make a yearend donation. We look forward to hearing from you. If your donation is $50 or more, we want to send you, as a thank-you gift, a new devotional for couples that FamilyLife has put together called <em>The Story of Us<\/em>. Again, give online at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to give. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, today, we\u2019re going to hear, as I said, a portion of one of our new podcasts, <em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em>, with Ron Deal. Ron was talking with author, Tricia Goyer, who has written a book called <em>Calming Angry Kids<\/em>. Tricia grew up in a blended family. She and her husband John have adopted seven kids; they\u2019ve got <em>ten total<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Wow. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> She and Ron had a conversation about what you do when your kids get angry. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[<em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em> Podcast]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> All of us get angry. I think one of the things\u2014especially, if we are dealing with a child, who is being disobedient or angry\u2014one of the things that I\u2019ve learned since then is that those responses will happen\u2014like our heart will start pounding, our fist will tense up, and we\u2019ll feel the anger\u2014like our body is made to respond that way\u2014but we don\u2019t have to express it. We can send up a prayer; we can take a deep breath; we can open our fist; we don\u2019t have to express anger. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI never thought I had an anger problem. I was always like the really chill mom until I had these angry kids in my face. Then I found my voice raising and my, \u201cYou get back here!\u201d It was that I learned: \u201cI don\u2019t have to express anger myself; I don\u2019t have to yell at them. I can act in a calm way.\u201d When I act in a calm way, then I can model for them what it looks like to be angry and to respond in calmness. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> I really appreciate it. In your book, you talk about that; it came full circle. You found yourself, as an adult, beginning to have some anger problems. You never thought you\u2019d be there; but all of a sudden, all this stuff was modeled for you that you saw just kind of came out of you. I think that is pretty common. I guess what I hear you saying is: \u201cYes; it happens, and we are responsible to try to learn how not to respond that way.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Absolutely. I think before, with my biological kids, we raised them; we had a loving home; we weren\u2019t angry; they didn\u2019t respond in anger. I never had to be tested in that area until I had someone in my face, pushing all my buttons\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u2014you know? Then it\u2019s like, all of a sudden, it was like: \u201cOkay; this is the real test. This is: \u2018How do I respond to this teenager when she turns and says, \u201cWhatever!\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m running away,\u201d\u2019\u201d\u2014you know, all these types of things. It\u2019s like: \u201cI can\u2019t control them with my body, physically. I can\u2019t control them with my words. I can\u2019t <em>talk<\/em> her into obeying,\u201d so I found my voice raising, and raising, and raising. Then I realized, \u201cThat doesn\u2019t control them either.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> That\u2019s good. So, pushed your buttons\u2014I heard you say that. What kind of buttons was\/is that for you? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Oh, they would yell at me; they would say stuff like: \u201cYou love your other kids more,\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019re just adopting us to get attention.\u201d I\u2019m like: \u201cReally? I wouldn\u2019t be going into all this just to get attention.\u201d [Laughter] Or: \u201cYou just want to write a book about us.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cWell, eventually, I probably will write a book about you.\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> At least, you\u2019re honest. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> But yes; that\u2019s not the sole purpose. By the way, those little guilt trips that kids throw us, those are pretty common; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> They are. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> I think there is some real parallels here; yes, I know your situation. For our listener, Tricia\u2019s situation is adopted kids; but it can be similar with biological kids\/your own children and stepchildren. Sometimes, they don\u2019t always perceive well our motivations; and here they were, accusing you of having selfish motivations. You\u2019re going: \u201cNo; no; no; I\u2019m pure in heart. I don\u2019t know why you can\u2019t see that.\u201d But that hit your buttons, and that would set you off. You would find yourself getting angry. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> I think, with them, they had so many people in their past, who said: \u201cI love you. I\u2019m not going to abandon you.\u201d They had a failed adoption right before us; and their biological parents, who said: \u201cI promise I\u2019ll get better. I\u2019m going to come back. You\u2019re going to come home with me.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor me to say: \u201cI promise you\u2019re in our forever family. We\u2019re never going to hurt you,\u201d\u2014it\u2019s like they\u2019ve heard this a hundred times\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Wow! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u2014from all these different people. Suddenly\u2014and I really\u2014looking back now\u2014we\u2019ve gone to therapy, which has been wonderful for all of us. They were just wanting to be bad enough so that we would finally let them go back to foster care so they didn\u2019t have to put down that wall. I think that wall was around their hearts, and they were afraid to lower the wall. They were afraid to be vulnerable; they were afraid to let us in. So, they are just going to push, and push, and push, to push us out of the way so we\u2019d send them back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Yes; you know\u2014man, that is so important\u2014because I think all of us struggle with: \u201cIs God going to send me away? I\u2019ve sinned again. He\u2019s got to be getting tired of this.\u201d I mean, I\u2019ve had those thoughts. I don\u2019t know about you; but I think it\u2019s fairly easy for us to have that same sort of fear about even how we relate to God. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOf course, they would assume that: \u201cEveryone else sends me away. This is the story of my life. You\u2019re going to do the same thing.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes; that\u2019s so good. I think, even after [having] our adopted kids, I was still like trying to keep the house perfectly clean and having well-behaved kids. They\u2019d act out some place; I didn\u2019t want to explain myself, because I didn\u2019t want to look like a bad mom. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember one evening, in the laundry room, just being so overwhelmed because we\u2019ve added seven kids\u2014I mean, that\u2019s a lot of laundry; that\u2019s a lot\/a lot of work\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Wow. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u2014and just being like, \u201cI can\u2019t keep up!\u201d I felt like God\u2014like His still, small voice saying, \u201cI love you just as much, if you have a pile of laundry, as if you kept this house perfectly clean.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cOkay!\u201d It was almost like that continual reminder to me\u2014like: \u201cI don\u2019t have to perform. I don\u2019t have to be perfect. Even with these kids, I\u2019m going to mess up, and I have messed up; but God still loves me.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Isn\u2019t that ironic?\u2014that you\u2019re kind of having the same thoughts about God and your relationship that they are having with <em>you<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> \u2014and their relationship with you? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> And I\u2019ll share that with them, like: \u201cI have these feelings too, and I want to perform. This is what I\u2019ve had God telling me.\u201d It\u2019s\u2014I think, especially with the older girls, I\u2019m able to have those conversations with them more and more. They are able to talk to me about, \u201cI had a really bad dream last night that you and Daddy dropped us off at the DHS office.\u201d I mean, they are still struggling with that; but we have, at least, those conversations now where we can talk about that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Wait a minute, because I think there\u2019s a real tool in there. You get vulnerable about your fears, concerns, worries\/stuff going on between you and God as a way of articulating to them\u2014what?\u2014\u201cHey; Mom\u2019s not perfect either\u201d? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> That opens them up to be vulnerable with you\u2014and their fears and concerns, even as it relates to you. It\u2019s easy to talk about my fear as it relates to somebody else not in the room; but \u201cMom, this is about you and me.\u201d They are even sharing those with you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> That\u2019s <em>powerful<\/em>, because you are using that fear and that concern as a tool to move you closer to the heart of your child and to show them that they are safe to do the same with you. I\u2019ve got to tell you: \u201cThat is awesome.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes; and I think the more I apologize\/the more I explain my own worries and fears, then it is\u2014it is just giving them a welcome mat to do the same with me. It usually\u2014that conversation will usually continue with them sharing something they are struggling with. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> I will throw in a caveat for the blended family couples listening right now. Try this; I think, in general, it\u2019s a good strategy: \u201cYou be vulnerable first.\u201d It kind of helps kids, later, be vulnerable with you. They may not do it immediately. It may take them quite a bit of time, depending on how big their walls are and how thick they are; but at least, it moves them in that direction. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are exceptions though. I think a stepparent could try that and discover that it backfires for whatever reason\u2014that a child uses it against you\u2014share something to the other household, for example, and tries to create difficulty. So, please hear that with a \u201cTry it and see,\u201d kind of suggestion, along with it; but I think, in general, the principle is really true: \u201cWhen we go first, it makes it easier for them to follow.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, we\u2019ve been listening to an excerpt from Ron Deal\u2019s <em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em> podcast about how to respond, as parents, when kids get angry. Any of your kids get angry? Did they have\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Never, Bob. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014tantrums? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Our kids were perfect; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Sat at the table with their arms folded? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, yes; there was plenty of anger. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think I was worse than the kids just because moms are tired. We\u2019re not getting much sleep, but I think every family has kids that get angry; don\u2019t they?! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We had kids that would get frustrated about things in life\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014and who would\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Sure. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014express their anger\/their frustration. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you got angry, did you double back with the kids and say, \u201cMom blew it here\u201d? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; and I would be in bed at night, kicking myself. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Speaking of kicking, Bob, she kicked a hole in the <em>wall<\/em> one day. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh! I was frustrated. We were doing homework, and I have a son that has ADD. We had gone over the same spelling word <em>50 times<\/em>, and he was like not paying attention. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Sounds like an excuse for getting angry. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> So, I was <em>so angry<\/em>. I just kind of clinched my fist like, \u201cCome on!\u201d I kicked the wall, and my foot went through the wall. I was tempted to say: \u201cDon\u2019t tell Dave\/Don\u2019t tell Dad\u201d; but I didn\u2019t. But I did go up and get some wallpaper, and I covered that hole. [Laughter] The second he walked back into the house, the kids all ran to Dave and said, \u201cDad, we had no idea how strong Mom was!\u201d [Laughter] Yes; that was one of those nights that I was lying in bed, kicking myself and being so upset. Yes; I think it\u2019s really important to go back and apologize. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Ron and Tricia, in this podcast, had a chance to talk about how you can start to understand what\u2019s behind your kid\u2019s anger; and when you get to the heart of it, that helps you defuse what\u2019s going on. In fact, let\u2019s listen to their conversation about that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[<em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em> Podcast]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> So, in your book, <em>Calming Angry Kids<\/em>, on a bad night, you write in your journal: \u201cI am hurt by my daughter\u2019s rejection. I give so much; and to have it rejected hurts. I feel abandoned and not good enough,\u201d\u2014this is you talking\u2014\u201cI can\u2019t fix this. I can\u2019t fix her. I worry about the other kids. I want to be loved by her, and I want to love her. I\u2019m tired of being hurt. I feel angry to sacrifice so much; and instead of gratitude, I get defiance and rejection in return.\u201d That\u2019s real; that\u2019s raw. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Then after beginning to try to see her through God\u2019s eyes, your heart softened; and you wrote this\u2014I don\u2019t know how much time has taken place between these two; but what a contrast\u2014you write this: \u201cShe is afraid of being hurt. She\u2019s given so much to others, and her heart is battered. She has been abandoned. She\u2019s been told she\u2019s not good enough. She couldn\u2019t fix anything about her family or where she lived. She wants to love me and be loved by me; but she\u2019s afraid. No matter what she gets, she\u2019s scared it will be taken away. She wants to reject me before she is rejected.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTalk about what happened in <em>you<\/em> between \u201cA\u201d and \u201cB.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u2014a lot of crying. [Laughter] It was like four o\u2019clock in the morning, sitting on the couch, feeling like: \u201cI don\u2019t know what to do here. I don\u2019t know what to do with her. I don\u2019t know how I\u2019m going to deal with the day.\u201d I mean, every day was conflict. Every day was some type of getting rejected, some kind of her saying something to me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tReally, it was just pouring out to God. Then it was just sitting there, with my Bible, asking Him to change me\u2014to change me to be able to love her. It was probably a couple hours\u2019 time of crying and praying. Then I started looking at what I was saying through how God saw her, as this little girl. I mean, she was five years old when she was first put into foster care; she was eleven years old when we first met her. That\u2019s a lot of years\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> It is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u2014and a lot of rejection. Even with her biological parents, a lot of rejection as a little girl. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Wow. So, that heart shift took place for you, and I think that probably set the tone for you, then, to learn some practical things about managing your anger and responding to kids about their anger. Let\u2019s just get practical for a minute; okay? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Okay. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Here are some things that you feel like you had to learn. You talk about understanding the brain and strong emotional reactions, and then dealing with your own anger, and trying to manage how you respond and calming down as being a vital part of that. Do you mind just talking around those real quick? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes; absolutely. Well, when\u2014one thing a therapist told me\u2014when kids are emotional, their thinking brain is turned off. I would be trying to explain the right way to act and \u201cWe shouldn\u2019t act this way,\u201d and \u201cThis is how you\u2019re making me feel,\u201d\u2014which is not even getting through at all. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRealizing I need to give them time to calm down. They would be trying to go to their room\/go into separate\u2014I\u2019d be like following: \u201cNo; you need to respect me. We need to talk about this.\u201d Realizing, they do need time to calm down; and afterwards, we could talk about it. I think, so many times, we want to solve it in the moment. Sometimes, it would be the next day, where I felt like we had a good enough relationship, where we could talk about what happened yesterday. We didn\u2019t need to solve everything, even that day, but we can put it off when we are both in a better state of mind to talk about what happened. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> You talked about a couple other practical things: changing your thoughts about them, confessing your own inadequacies, and not taking the bait. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Absolutely. I think one of the things about not taking the bait is, when I get emotional\/when I am angry, suddenly, it\u2019s not about them; it\u2019s about <em>me<\/em>. They may be doing something wrong\u2014they might have just hit their sibling\u2014and I\u2019m trying to discipline them. They are angry. If I get angry, then, suddenly, it\u2019s like: \u201cYou\u2019re mean. You are yelling at me.\u201d Then, suddenly, it\u2019s not about them and their issue; it\u2019s about <em>me<\/em>; and then I have to go apologize later. Again, it\u2019s not about their issue. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tReally, the therapist said, \u201cWhen you stay calm, you win.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> One of the other things you write about is ignoring the behavior; okay? I\u2019m just going to throw in an objection and play devil\u2019s advocate right on the outset of this\u2014and go: \u201cOkay; wait a minute. When they get out of line\u2014acting disrespectful; they are calling me names\/whatever it is that they are doing\u2014anger; outbursts; hurt sibling; taking it out on somebody; \u2018It\u2019s unfair, taking it out on me,\u2019\u2014whatever that is\u2014I\u2019ve heard a lot of stepdads go, \u2018I can take a little disrespect; but when my stepchild starts disrespecting their mother, that\u2019s when I\u2019m like totally getting up in their face.\u2019 How do you ignore the behavior when it rises up something strong within you?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Well, we have a story that goes with this. We had one child, in particular, that every night at bedtime, she would bring something up; she would act out. It was like all the other kids were going to bed; and we\u2019d spend the next hour dealing with this child\u2014dealing with what she just said\/dealing with how she acted. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tEnded up talking to the therapist; and they were saying: \u201cWell, she\u2019s getting a lot of individual attention from both you and your husband every night. She gets a whole hour of your time as you sit down and deal with this with her.\u201d The therapist said, \u201cWhen she acts out, whatever it is, completely ignore it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJohn and I were in the kitchen. You could see into the living room from our kitchen. She starts acting up\u2014and I don\u2019t even remember what\u2014it would be the littlest things that she would get angry about, and we\u2019d have to deal with. That night, we just sat, talking to each other, pretending like she wasn\u2019t even there. Pretty soon, she\u2019s not getting attention. We\u2019re talking about: \u201cOh, what should we do for dinner tomorrow?\u201d and \u201cHow was your day at work?\u201d\u2014just talking to each other. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>Then she goes and gets a lighter and starts lighting all the candles in the house. She\u2019s like: \u201cOh, what if I drop this? The house will catch on fire. Can you get the other kids out?\u201d We\u2019re completely pretending like it\u2019s not happening. So, then she realizes that\u2019s not working. She goes\u2014and I had just gotten a bunch of homeschool books in\/a whole box of brand-new books\u2014I hear rip; rip. My heart is pounding in my chest. I\u2019m like\u2014I tell my husband [whispering]: \u201cI can\u2019t do this. I cannot do this.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> She\u2019s escalating her\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> She is escalating her behavior\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> \u2014trying to pull you in. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u2014trying to pull me in. Finally, we\u2019re just like, \u201cWell, we\u2019re going to bed.\u201d We just leave her\u2014don\u2019t even look into the room, where she\u2019s at. She\u2019s in the dining room at this point. Go to bed; and we\u2019re on the other side of the room, just like listening to see what\u2019s going\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Panic: \u201cDo we call the police now?!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cor the fire department?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> After a couple of minutes, we hear her <em>stomping<\/em> upstairs; because that didn\u2019t work either. The next day, I went in. She had been actually ripping up binder paper. She hadn\u2019t actually ripped up the homeschool books; but she made it sound like it. She\u2019s like, \u201cOh, science book,\u201d\u2014rip, rip. She never did that again. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe next night, when it was time to go to bed, she went up to bed. At first, I was like\u2014it totally\u2014I don\u2019t know if it would work every time; but for that situation, she was getting so much attention from us at bedtime for acting out\u2014when we finally didn\u2019t give her that attention\u2014then she\u2019s like, \u201cOkay; that didn\u2019t work.\u201d She just went to bed. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> One of the things that couples\u2014along with this, if you\u2019re listening and you\u2019re going: \u201cAlright; really. I need to give that a try,\u201d\u2014as soon as you can, compliment something. As soon as you can, move in with attention around something that is going <em>well<\/em>; and sometimes, it\u2019s just the absence of a negative\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> \u2014you know, it\u2019s like: \u201cYou know, I noticed you didn\u2019t pick on your sister tonight before bedtime. What\u2019s that all about? That\u2019s pretty cool. Thank you for doing that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019re combining the not-attention for the negative with now something good for something in the right direction. No foolproof solution in any parenting strategy with any one kid; alright?\u2014let me just throw that disclaimer out to our listeners\u2014but it\u2019s worth a shot. That\u2019s a really good one. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> It\u2019s amazing\u2014as soon as you start complimenting one kid, the other kids are like: \u201cWhat can I do?! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> I know. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u201cI\u2019m going to go get my pajamas on, too,\u201d \u201cI\u2019m going to brush my teeth, too.\u201d They are like <em>all<\/em> running to get that compliment. I\u2019m like: \u201cWow! Our words are powerful.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, again, we\u2019ve been listening to a conversation Ron Deal had with author, Tricia Goyer, who has written a book called <em>Calming Angry Kids<\/em>. It\u2019s part of the <em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em> series of podcasts; and you can hear the entire conversation with Ron and Tricia when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com and download it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the things they talk about\u2014Tricia, later in life, had an opportunity to meet, for the first time, her biological father. She talked with Ron about the excitement of that and then the letdown that happened, which is sometimes the case in those situations. Again, you can download the entire podcast when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI thought what they were saying there about positive reinforcement is really important. It\u2019s not just that, as parents, we are always correcting our kids when they do it wrong; but cheering them on when they get something right. That\u2019s powerful; isn\u2019t it? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It is so easy to find them doing some wrong. You\u2019ve got to work at it\u2014you know?\u2014to find them doing something right and cheerleading\/applauding. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think it really takes prayer and asking God to point out and show us the things that they are doing well and right and, then, to get into a habit pattern of doing that and seeing it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; again, I\u2019m hoping our listeners will listen to the entire conversation between Ron and Tricia\u2014hear the other things that they had to talk about. If listeners are interested in a copy of Tricia\u2019s book, which is called <em>Calming Angry Kids<\/em>, where she talks about how to understand what\u2019s going on in a child\u2019s brain\u2014teaching a child how to handle frustration without outbursts and establishing a standard of respect for your home\u2014go to FamilyLifeToday.com to order the book, or you can call to order at 1-800-FL-TODAY. <br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, our website is FamilyLifeToday.com. You can call to order the book, <em>Calming Angry Kids<\/em>. The number is 1-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd when you get in touch with us, don\u2019t forget\u2014we talked about this earlier\u2014there is a significant opportunity available to FamilyLife this month. 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We recognize that we have an opportunity to do some specialized programming for folks, like the <em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em> program, and make it available as a podcast. We\u2019ve had <em>lots<\/em> of people who are subscribing to this\/downloading this\u2014pretty exciting. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe need to say, \u201cThank you,\u201d to the listeners who make things like the podcast network possible\u2014those of you, who have donated this year. Your donations are what make these kinds of things possible. Of course, I\u2019m mentioning that because we are looking ahead to next year and some of things we\u2019re hoping to do next year. What listeners do during the month of December will determine how much we are able to do in the year ahead. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> We have a lot of things that we want to do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; I think it\u2019s exciting to think there are a lot of people that give. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are some who haven\u2019t given yet; so I would say to you, if you\u2019ve never given, \u201cI don\u2019t know if you understand; but your gift makes what you\u2019re listening to, right now, possible.\u201d I would say, \u201cJoin the team.\u201d There is an army of people that say, \u201cI\u2019m all in,\u201d\u2014and that doesn\u2019t mean: \u201cI\u2019m just going to listen and be a spectator,\u201d\u2014but: \u201cI\u2019m going to be a player; and I\u2019m going to be on the team. That means I\u2019m going to sacrificially give as well.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI would invite you to join that team. It\u2019s a team that\u2019s changing the world! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> When you give right now, your donation is going to be matched, dollar for dollar, because we\u2019ve had some friends of the ministry, who have said, \u201cThis is so important; we will match every donation, during the month of December, up to a total of \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t$2.5 million.\u201d So, any listener who gives whatever they are able to give\u2014that\u2019s automatically doubled because of this matching-gift opportunity. If you can give now, you make what\u2019s going to happen in 2020 possible. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGo to FamilyLifeToday.com to donate, or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to make a yearend donation. We look forward to hearing from you. If your donation is $50 or more, we want to send you, as a thank-you gift, a new devotional for couples that FamilyLife has put together called <em>The Story of Us<\/em>. Again, give online at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to give. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, today, we\u2019re going to hear, as I said, a portion of one of our new podcasts, <em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em>, with Ron Deal. Ron was talking with author, Tricia Goyer, who has written a book called <em>Calming Angry Kids<\/em>. Tricia grew up in a blended family. She and her husband John have adopted seven kids; they\u2019ve got <em>ten total<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Wow. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> She and Ron had a conversation about what you do when your kids get angry. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[<em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em> Podcast]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> All of us get angry. 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I can act in a calm way.\u201d When I act in a calm way, then I can model for them what it looks like to be angry and to respond in calmness. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> I really appreciate it. In your book, you talk about that; it came full circle. You found yourself, as an adult, beginning to have some anger problems. You never thought you\u2019d be there; but all of a sudden, all this stuff was modeled for you that you saw just kind of came out of you. I think that is pretty common. I guess what I hear you saying is: \u201cYes; it happens, and we are responsible to try to learn how not to respond that way.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Absolutely. I think before, with my biological kids, we raised them; we had a loving home; we weren\u2019t angry; they didn\u2019t respond in anger. I never had to be tested in that area until I had someone in my face, pushing all my buttons\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u2014you know? Then it\u2019s like, all of a sudden, it was like: \u201cOkay; this is the real test. This is: \u2018How do I respond to this teenager when she turns and says, \u201cWhatever!\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m running away,\u201d\u2019\u201d\u2014you know, all these types of things. It\u2019s like: \u201cI can\u2019t control them with my body, physically. I can\u2019t control them with my words. I can\u2019t <em>talk<\/em> her into obeying,\u201d so I found my voice raising, and raising, and raising. Then I realized, \u201cThat doesn\u2019t control them either.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> That\u2019s good. So, pushed your buttons\u2014I heard you say that. What kind of buttons was\/is that for you? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Oh, they would yell at me; they would say stuff like: \u201cYou love your other kids more,\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019re just adopting us to get attention.\u201d I\u2019m like: \u201cReally? I wouldn\u2019t be going into all this just to get attention.\u201d [Laughter] Or: \u201cYou just want to write a book about us.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cWell, eventually, I probably will write a book about you.\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> At least, you\u2019re honest. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> But yes; that\u2019s not the sole purpose. By the way, those little guilt trips that kids throw us, those are pretty common; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> They are. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> I think there is some real parallels here; yes, I know your situation. For our listener, Tricia\u2019s situation is adopted kids; but it can be similar with biological kids\/your own children and stepchildren. Sometimes, they don\u2019t always perceive well our motivations; and here they were, accusing you of having selfish motivations. You\u2019re going: \u201cNo; no; no; I\u2019m pure in heart. I don\u2019t know why you can\u2019t see that.\u201d But that hit your buttons, and that would set you off. You would find yourself getting angry. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> I think, with them, they had so many people in their past, who said: \u201cI love you. I\u2019m not going to abandon you.\u201d They had a failed adoption right before us; and their biological parents, who said: \u201cI promise I\u2019ll get better. I\u2019m going to come back. You\u2019re going to come home with me.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor me to say: \u201cI promise you\u2019re in our forever family. We\u2019re never going to hurt you,\u201d\u2014it\u2019s like they\u2019ve heard this a hundred times\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Wow! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u2014from all these different people. Suddenly\u2014and I really\u2014looking back now\u2014we\u2019ve gone to therapy, which has been wonderful for all of us. They were just wanting to be bad enough so that we would finally let them go back to foster care so they didn\u2019t have to put down that wall. I think that wall was around their hearts, and they were afraid to lower the wall. They were afraid to be vulnerable; they were afraid to let us in. So, they are just going to push, and push, and push, to push us out of the way so we\u2019d send them back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Yes; you know\u2014man, that is so important\u2014because I think all of us struggle with: \u201cIs God going to send me away? I\u2019ve sinned again. He\u2019s got to be getting tired of this.\u201d I mean, I\u2019ve had those thoughts. I don\u2019t know about you; but I think it\u2019s fairly easy for us to have that same sort of fear about even how we relate to God. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOf course, they would assume that: \u201cEveryone else sends me away. This is the story of my life. You\u2019re going to do the same thing.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes; that\u2019s so good. I think, even after [having] our adopted kids, I was still like trying to keep the house perfectly clean and having well-behaved kids. They\u2019d act out some place; I didn\u2019t want to explain myself, because I didn\u2019t want to look like a bad mom. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember one evening, in the laundry room, just being so overwhelmed because we\u2019ve added seven kids\u2014I mean, that\u2019s a lot of laundry; that\u2019s a lot\/a lot of work\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Wow. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u2014and just being like, \u201cI can\u2019t keep up!\u201d I felt like God\u2014like His still, small voice saying, \u201cI love you just as much, if you have a pile of laundry, as if you kept this house perfectly clean.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cOkay!\u201d It was almost like that continual reminder to me\u2014like: \u201cI don\u2019t have to perform. I don\u2019t have to be perfect. Even with these kids, I\u2019m going to mess up, and I have messed up; but God still loves me.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Isn\u2019t that ironic?\u2014that you\u2019re kind of having the same thoughts about God and your relationship that they are having with <em>you<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> \u2014and their relationship with you? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> And I\u2019ll share that with them, like: \u201cI have these feelings too, and I want to perform. This is what I\u2019ve had God telling me.\u201d It\u2019s\u2014I think, especially with the older girls, I\u2019m able to have those conversations with them more and more. They are able to talk to me about, \u201cI had a really bad dream last night that you and Daddy dropped us off at the DHS office.\u201d I mean, they are still struggling with that; but we have, at least, those conversations now where we can talk about that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Wait a minute, because I think there\u2019s a real tool in there. You get vulnerable about your fears, concerns, worries\/stuff going on between you and God as a way of articulating to them\u2014what?\u2014\u201cHey; Mom\u2019s not perfect either\u201d? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> That opens them up to be vulnerable with you\u2014and their fears and concerns, even as it relates to you. It\u2019s easy to talk about my fear as it relates to somebody else not in the room; but \u201cMom, this is about you and me.\u201d They are even sharing those with you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> That\u2019s <em>powerful<\/em>, because you are using that fear and that concern as a tool to move you closer to the heart of your child and to show them that they are safe to do the same with you. I\u2019ve got to tell you: \u201cThat is awesome.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes; and I think the more I apologize\/the more I explain my own worries and fears, then it is\u2014it is just giving them a welcome mat to do the same with me. It usually\u2014that conversation will usually continue with them sharing something they are struggling with. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> I will throw in a caveat for the blended family couples listening right now. Try this; I think, in general, it\u2019s a good strategy: \u201cYou be vulnerable first.\u201d It kind of helps kids, later, be vulnerable with you. They may not do it immediately. It may take them quite a bit of time, depending on how big their walls are and how thick they are; but at least, it moves them in that direction. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are exceptions though. I think a stepparent could try that and discover that it backfires for whatever reason\u2014that a child uses it against you\u2014share something to the other household, for example, and tries to create difficulty. So, please hear that with a \u201cTry it and see,\u201d kind of suggestion, along with it; but I think, in general, the principle is really true: \u201cWhen we go first, it makes it easier for them to follow.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, we\u2019ve been listening to an excerpt from Ron Deal\u2019s <em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em> podcast about how to respond, as parents, when kids get angry. Any of your kids get angry? Did they have\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Never, Bob. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014tantrums? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Our kids were perfect; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Sat at the table with their arms folded? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, yes; there was plenty of anger. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think I was worse than the kids just because moms are tired. We\u2019re not getting much sleep, but I think every family has kids that get angry; don\u2019t they?! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We had kids that would get frustrated about things in life\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014and who would\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Sure. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014express their anger\/their frustration. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you got angry, did you double back with the kids and say, \u201cMom blew it here\u201d? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; and I would be in bed at night, kicking myself. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Speaking of kicking, Bob, she kicked a hole in the <em>wall<\/em> one day. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh! I was frustrated. We were doing homework, and I have a son that has ADD. We had gone over the same spelling word <em>50 times<\/em>, and he was like not paying attention. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Sounds like an excuse for getting angry. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> So, I was <em>so angry<\/em>. I just kind of clinched my fist like, \u201cCome on!\u201d I kicked the wall, and my foot went through the wall. I was tempted to say: \u201cDon\u2019t tell Dave\/Don\u2019t tell Dad\u201d; but I didn\u2019t. But I did go up and get some wallpaper, and I covered that hole. [Laughter] The second he walked back into the house, the kids all ran to Dave and said, \u201cDad, we had no idea how strong Mom was!\u201d [Laughter] Yes; that was one of those nights that I was lying in bed, kicking myself and being so upset. Yes; I think it\u2019s really important to go back and apologize. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Ron and Tricia, in this podcast, had a chance to talk about how you can start to understand what\u2019s behind your kid\u2019s anger; and when you get to the heart of it, that helps you defuse what\u2019s going on. In fact, let\u2019s listen to their conversation about that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[<em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em> Podcast]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> So, in your book, <em>Calming Angry Kids<\/em>, on a bad night, you write in your journal: \u201cI am hurt by my daughter\u2019s rejection. I give so much; and to have it rejected hurts. I feel abandoned and not good enough,\u201d\u2014this is you talking\u2014\u201cI can\u2019t fix this. I can\u2019t fix her. I worry about the other kids. I want to be loved by her, and I want to love her. I\u2019m tired of being hurt. I feel angry to sacrifice so much; and instead of gratitude, I get defiance and rejection in return.\u201d That\u2019s real; that\u2019s raw. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Then after beginning to try to see her through God\u2019s eyes, your heart softened; and you wrote this\u2014I don\u2019t know how much time has taken place between these two; but what a contrast\u2014you write this: \u201cShe is afraid of being hurt. She\u2019s given so much to others, and her heart is battered. She has been abandoned. She\u2019s been told she\u2019s not good enough. She couldn\u2019t fix anything about her family or where she lived. She wants to love me and be loved by me; but she\u2019s afraid. No matter what she gets, she\u2019s scared it will be taken away. She wants to reject me before she is rejected.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTalk about what happened in <em>you<\/em> between \u201cA\u201d and \u201cB.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u2014a lot of crying. [Laughter] It was like four o\u2019clock in the morning, sitting on the couch, feeling like: \u201cI don\u2019t know what to do here. I don\u2019t know what to do with her. I don\u2019t know how I\u2019m going to deal with the day.\u201d I mean, every day was conflict. Every day was some type of getting rejected, some kind of her saying something to me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tReally, it was just pouring out to God. Then it was just sitting there, with my Bible, asking Him to change me\u2014to change me to be able to love her. It was probably a couple hours\u2019 time of crying and praying. Then I started looking at what I was saying through how God saw her, as this little girl. I mean, she was five years old when she was first put into foster care; she was eleven years old when we first met her. That\u2019s a lot of years\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> It is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u2014and a lot of rejection. Even with her biological parents, a lot of rejection as a little girl. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Wow. So, that heart shift took place for you, and I think that probably set the tone for you, then, to learn some practical things about managing your anger and responding to kids about their anger. Let\u2019s just get practical for a minute; okay? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Okay. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Here are some things that you feel like you had to learn. You talk about understanding the brain and strong emotional reactions, and then dealing with your own anger, and trying to manage how you respond and calming down as being a vital part of that. Do you mind just talking around those real quick? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Yes; absolutely. Well, when\u2014one thing a therapist told me\u2014when kids are emotional, their thinking brain is turned off. I would be trying to explain the right way to act and \u201cWe shouldn\u2019t act this way,\u201d and \u201cThis is how you\u2019re making me feel,\u201d\u2014which is not even getting through at all. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRealizing I need to give them time to calm down. They would be trying to go to their room\/go into separate\u2014I\u2019d be like following: \u201cNo; you need to respect me. We need to talk about this.\u201d Realizing, they do need time to calm down; and afterwards, we could talk about it. I think, so many times, we want to solve it in the moment. Sometimes, it would be the next day, where I felt like we had a good enough relationship, where we could talk about what happened yesterday. We didn\u2019t need to solve everything, even that day, but we can put it off when we are both in a better state of mind to talk about what happened. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> You talked about a couple other practical things: changing your thoughts about them, confessing your own inadequacies, and not taking the bait. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Absolutely. I think one of the things about not taking the bait is, when I get emotional\/when I am angry, suddenly, it\u2019s not about them; it\u2019s about <em>me<\/em>. They may be doing something wrong\u2014they might have just hit their sibling\u2014and I\u2019m trying to discipline them. They are angry. If I get angry, then, suddenly, it\u2019s like: \u201cYou\u2019re mean. You are yelling at me.\u201d Then, suddenly, it\u2019s not about them and their issue; it\u2019s about <em>me<\/em>; and then I have to go apologize later. Again, it\u2019s not about their issue. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tReally, the therapist said, \u201cWhen you stay calm, you win.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> One of the other things you write about is ignoring the behavior; okay? I\u2019m just going to throw in an objection and play devil\u2019s advocate right on the outset of this\u2014and go: \u201cOkay; wait a minute. When they get out of line\u2014acting disrespectful; they are calling me names\/whatever it is that they are doing\u2014anger; outbursts; hurt sibling; taking it out on somebody; \u2018It\u2019s unfair, taking it out on me,\u2019\u2014whatever that is\u2014I\u2019ve heard a lot of stepdads go, \u2018I can take a little disrespect; but when my stepchild starts disrespecting their mother, that\u2019s when I\u2019m like totally getting up in their face.\u2019 How do you ignore the behavior when it rises up something strong within you?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Well, we have a story that goes with this. We had one child, in particular, that every night at bedtime, she would bring something up; she would act out. It was like all the other kids were going to bed; and we\u2019d spend the next hour dealing with this child\u2014dealing with what she just said\/dealing with how she acted. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tEnded up talking to the therapist; and they were saying: \u201cWell, she\u2019s getting a lot of individual attention from both you and your husband every night. She gets a whole hour of your time as you sit down and deal with this with her.\u201d The therapist said, \u201cWhen she acts out, whatever it is, completely ignore it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJohn and I were in the kitchen. You could see into the living room from our kitchen. She starts acting up\u2014and I don\u2019t even remember what\u2014it would be the littlest things that she would get angry about, and we\u2019d have to deal with. That night, we just sat, talking to each other, pretending like she wasn\u2019t even there. Pretty soon, she\u2019s not getting attention. We\u2019re talking about: \u201cOh, what should we do for dinner tomorrow?\u201d and \u201cHow was your day at work?\u201d\u2014just talking to each other. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>Then she goes and gets a lighter and starts lighting all the candles in the house. She\u2019s like: \u201cOh, what if I drop this? The house will catch on fire. Can you get the other kids out?\u201d We\u2019re completely pretending like it\u2019s not happening. So, then she realizes that\u2019s not working. She goes\u2014and I had just gotten a bunch of homeschool books in\/a whole box of brand-new books\u2014I hear rip; rip. My heart is pounding in my chest. I\u2019m like\u2014I tell my husband [whispering]: \u201cI can\u2019t do this. I cannot do this.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> She\u2019s escalating her\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> She is escalating her behavior\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> \u2014trying to pull you in. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u2014trying to pull me in. Finally, we\u2019re just like, \u201cWell, we\u2019re going to bed.\u201d We just leave her\u2014don\u2019t even look into the room, where she\u2019s at. She\u2019s in the dining room at this point. Go to bed; and we\u2019re on the other side of the room, just like listening to see what\u2019s going\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Panic: \u201cDo we call the police now?!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cor the fire department?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> After a couple of minutes, we hear her <em>stomping<\/em> upstairs; because that didn\u2019t work either. The next day, I went in. She had been actually ripping up binder paper. She hadn\u2019t actually ripped up the homeschool books; but she made it sound like it. She\u2019s like, \u201cOh, science book,\u201d\u2014rip, rip. She never did that again. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe next night, when it was time to go to bed, she went up to bed. At first, I was like\u2014it totally\u2014I don\u2019t know if it would work every time; but for that situation, she was getting so much attention from us at bedtime for acting out\u2014when we finally didn\u2019t give her that attention\u2014then she\u2019s like, \u201cOkay; that didn\u2019t work.\u201d She just went to bed. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> One of the things that couples\u2014along with this, if you\u2019re listening and you\u2019re going: \u201cAlright; really. I need to give that a try,\u201d\u2014as soon as you can, compliment something. As soon as you can, move in with attention around something that is going <em>well<\/em>; and sometimes, it\u2019s just the absence of a negative\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> \u2014you know, it\u2019s like: \u201cYou know, I noticed you didn\u2019t pick on your sister tonight before bedtime. What\u2019s that all about? That\u2019s pretty cool. Thank you for doing that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019re combining the not-attention for the negative with now something good for something in the right direction. No foolproof solution in any parenting strategy with any one kid; alright?\u2014let me just throw that disclaimer out to our listeners\u2014but it\u2019s worth a shot. That\u2019s a really good one. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> It\u2019s amazing\u2014as soon as you start complimenting one kid, the other kids are like: \u201cWhat can I do?! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> I know. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tricia:<\/strong> \u201cI\u2019m going to go get my pajamas on, too,\u201d \u201cI\u2019m going to brush my teeth, too.\u201d They are like <em>all<\/em> running to get that compliment. I\u2019m like: \u201cWow! Our words are powerful.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, again, we\u2019ve been listening to a conversation Ron Deal had with author, Tricia Goyer, who has written a book called <em>Calming Angry Kids<\/em>. It\u2019s part of the <em>FamilyLife Blended<\/em> series of podcasts; and you can hear the entire conversation with Ron and Tricia when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com and download it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the things they talk about\u2014Tricia, later in life, had an opportunity to meet, for the first time, her biological father. She talked with Ron about the excitement of that and then the letdown that happened, which is sometimes the case in those situations. Again, you can download the entire podcast when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI thought what they were saying there about positive reinforcement is really important. It\u2019s not just that, as parents, we are always correcting our kids when they do it wrong; but cheering them on when they get something right. That\u2019s powerful; isn\u2019t it? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It is so easy to find them doing some wrong. You\u2019ve got to work at it\u2014you know?\u2014to find them doing something right and cheerleading\/applauding. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think it really takes prayer and asking God to point out and show us the things that they are doing well and right and, then, to get into a habit pattern of doing that and seeing it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; again, I\u2019m hoping our listeners will listen to the entire conversation between Ron and Tricia\u2014hear the other things that they had to talk about. If listeners are interested in a copy of Tricia\u2019s book, which is called <em>Calming Angry Kids<\/em>, where she talks about how to understand what\u2019s going on in a child\u2019s brain\u2014teaching a child how to handle frustration without outbursts and establishing a standard of respect for your home\u2014go to FamilyLifeToday.com to order the book, or you can call to order at 1-800-FL-TODAY. <br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, our website is FamilyLifeToday.com. You can call to order the book, <em>Calming Angry Kids<\/em>. The number is 1-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd when you get in touch with us, don\u2019t forget\u2014we talked about this earlier\u2014there is a significant opportunity available to FamilyLife this month. 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