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Dave and Ann Wilson tell how they learned this principle the hard way in their marriage and family, on \"FamilyLife Today.\"","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2019-09-12.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Thursday, September 12<sup>th<\/sup>. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson; I\u2019m Bob Lepine. The Bible says that life and death are in the power of the tongue. So, have you been using your tongue to promote <em>life<\/em> in your marriage or <em>death<\/em>? We\u2019ll hear more about that today. Stay with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. I heard you guys share a story; in fact, we were at an event together. You were speaking to the audience. I think I\u2019ve heard this story before, but it is such a <em>great<\/em> story. The moral of the story is: \u201cWe\u2019ve got to watch our words, because our words are powerful in our relationship\u201d; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But the story that gets us there\u2014I want our listeners\u2014[Laughter]\u2014to hear this today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> We\u2019re laughing, because it wasn\u2019t\u2014it didn\u2019t end the way I thought it would. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, boy. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> In fact, I\u2019m pretty embarrassed at how it ended. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; you\u2019re going to realize who the true Dave and Ann Wilson are after you listen to this. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This winds up being one of the chapters in your book, <em>Vertical Marriage<\/em>; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We\u2019ll share this with our listeners\u2014they are going to get a chance to hear you tell the story. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI need to, first of all, remind our listeners\u2014if you have any interest, and I hope you do\u2014in coming to one of our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaways this fall, this week is the week to get in touch with us. The reason is because, this week and next week, if you register for the conference, you pay for yourself; and your spouse comes free. It\u2019s half off the regular registration fee for you to attend a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> getaway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> That would get me right there. I mean\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You\u2019re in thrifty mode; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, here\u2019s a chance to get a weekend away together and to save some money doing it. We do this at the beginning of the fall season, just to encourage listeners: \u201cFind a weekend that you can get away; find a location that\u2019s near you or a location that you want to travel to, and <em>invest<\/em> in your marriage\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014to take the time and cordon off a weekend. Everybody ought to be doing that every year, whether it\u2019s a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> or whatever\u2014a weekend away, focused on marriage every year. Don\u2019t you think? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Absolutely. We talk about that in our book, actually; and we have done that every year. I think that\u2019s one of the most important deposits we\u2019ve made in our marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And all you guys, thinking, \u201cIt\u2019s the fall, and I\u2019m going to miss NFL football.\u201d You\u2019ll be home in time for kickoff; trust me. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, it depends what time zone. If you\u2019re on the West Coast\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> That\u2019s true. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014you may miss the early game. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, you can go to FamilyLifeToday.com to find out about the special offer we\u2019re making this week. Register now; save 50 percent and attend an upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, let\u2019s listen as Dave and Ann share one of the epic fails from\u2014[Laughter]\u2014from their marriage relationship. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Recorded Message] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Going into our 25<sup>th<\/sup> wedding anniversary, I had this dream of taking Ann away somewhere; but I\u2019m\u2014if you get to know me, I\u2019m pretty tight with my money. I\u2019m really cheap. I\u2019ve been called a tight wad and other things. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI didn\u2019t tell Ann this\u2014our anniversary is in May\u2014but in October, I started praying\u2014not kidding\u2014every day on my knees, in secret, asking God for a trip south; because we\u2019re in Detroit\u2014for free. [Laughter] I always said, \u201c\u2026for free.\u201d I teach this stuff\u2014you\u2019re supposed to pray specifically; right? So, if you want big things, you\u2019ve got to ask God. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m starting to think, \u201cPlan B\u201d because God\u2019s not coming through; and it\u2019s like January. All of a sudden, I get done preaching one Sunday; and this couple walks up. I\u2019ve never met them: \u201cHey, we\u2019ve been here six years. We\u2019ve wanted to meet you,\u201d\u2014blah, blah, blah\u2014\u201cWe\u2019re getting married this spring and wondered if <em>you<\/em> could do our wedding.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m standing there, at the front of the stage\u2014I\u2019m like, \u201cWell, you know, we have a whole process, and you need to email.\u201d She goes: \u201cWell, I sort of need, at least, an indication now; because it\u2019s in May, and it\u2019s in Mexico. We\u2019ll fly you and your wife down there for free if you\u2019ll do our wedding.\u201d [Laughter] I\u2019m like, \u201cI\u2019m your guy!\u201d I actually kissed the guy on the cheek; and he\u2019s like, \u201cDude!\u201d I\u2019m like: \u201cYou don\u2019t understand! This is a miracle\u201d; right? [Laughter] We ended up at this resort, which is all inclusive, which means they give you these armbands. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Dave is in heaven\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I kept them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014because he\u2019s like, \u201cAnything free,\u201d\u2014just waving his armband around\u2014like, \u201cThis is amazing!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Hey, you walk around; you get a Coke<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>; it\u2019s unbelievable; anything\u2014steak. There\u2014see. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAny way, long story short\u2014we don\u2019t see this couple for like three days. Finally, we bump into Derek and Tiffany. They are sort of perturbed; they\u2019re like, \u201cWhere are you guys?!\u201d We\u2019re like, \u201cWhat?\u201d \u201cWe brought you down here to interact with our unchurched\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014 \u201cwedding party.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cwedding party, thinking you\u2019d have an influence on them.\u201d We\u2019re like, \u201cOh, what a great idea!\u201d\u2014you know? [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> So, we end up going\u2014you know how these resorts have these shows every night\u2014so they\u2019re like, \u201cYou need to come to the shows.\u201d We\u2019re like, \u201cAlright; we\u2019ll go to the shows.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dave:<\/strong> They said, \u201cIt\u2019s the newlywed game tonight.\u201d We go backstage. There are like ten couples; curtains closed. Everybody\u2019s like: \u201cWhat are we doing?\u201d \u201cWe don\u2019t know.\u201d Curtain opens. Emcee walks out, and he goes, \u201cTonight is dance competition night.\u201d Here\u2019s how the dance competition works. They play different music for different styles from all over the world, and they vote you off. We got voted off first, because that\u2019s how bad we are. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen they booed as we were going to our seat; because the emcee said, \u201cWho are you? Just wanted to\u2026\u201d We said, \u201cDave and Ann.\u201d \u201cWhere are you from?\u201d \u201cMichigan,\u201d\u2014they started cheering. Again, we think, \u201cMaybe, now, Midwest people were there and wanted us back in because we\u2019re their rep.\u201d We\u2019re like: \u201cWe\u2019re good. We\u2019re going to sit out!\u201d; but we ended up back in, and we ended up in the final three. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; so, at this point, now, they are saying: \u201cThe final three will dance one at a time,\u201d and \u201cThis time, we will dance to \u201860s music, acrobatic.\u201d What did he say at the end? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Well, I turned to him\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014 \u201cand the winner\u201d\u2014yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I said, \u201cWhat do you mean acrobatic?\u201d He goes, \u201cThe more acrobatic you are, the better chance you have of winning the grand prize.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, he never said what the grand prize was; but we assumed it was another free trip back. [Laughter] I leaned over to Ann\u2014you\u2019ve already heard she\u2019s a gymnast; nobody there knew\u2014but I was, literally, leaning over and go, \u201cIf you end this with a one-armed push-up, we win.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Ann:<\/strong> I was like, \u201cYes!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Because she could do all those flip, aerial, round-off\u2014whatever things\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> At that point, I could. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Music starts, and I\u2019m terrible; so I just go way back here. She is running and [repeated flipping noise]\u2014bam!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Because I\u2019m thinking there is a <em>grand prize<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, yes; we are in now, man. If you\u2019re going to\u2014so she flips. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> The crowd loves it. She goes up and flips. All I did the whole time was like: \u201cGo girl. Go girl.\u201d The crowd is loving it. I\u2019m like, \u201cThis is awesome\u201d; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> So, we end up\u2014we can tell the music is coming to an end; and I\u2019m on one end of the stage, and Dave is on the other. We\u2019re thinking like, \u201cWe need to end this really good.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I\u2019ve got this great idea. I just go like this\u2014big hula-hoop circle with my arms. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I\u2019m like, \u201cWhat does that <em>mean<\/em>?\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I do it again\u2014you know?\u2014because she\u2019s looking. I\u2019m like, \u201cLook!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I thought, \u201cOh, it\u2019s that <em>Dirty Dancing<\/em> movie with Jennifer Gray!\u201d I\u2019m thinking: \u201cHe wants me to dive into his arms. We\u2019ll be down here, but that\u2019s good. He\u2019ll catch me. We\u2019ll spin; we\u2019ll end. We\u2019ll win!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe look at each other, like, \u201cGot it!\u201d I run as hard as I can because, you know, as a gymnast, if you don\u2019t give 100 percent, you could get hurt. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dave:<\/strong> I mean, she is Olympic-vault running\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014[making a running sound] as fast you could be. I\u2019m like, \u201cThis is awesome!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I go up\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014and I turn around; I do my little deal. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> He\u2019s gone; I smash to the floor, barely catching my face. There is this huge thud. The audience is like, \u201cOH!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I never even saw\u2014[Laughter]\u2014I\u2019m not kidding. I was here; I heard this. Then, you know, right in that second, I\u2019m like, \u201cOh, she thought I was going to\u2026\u201d [Laughter] I turn around, and she\u2019s there. The guys that work at the resort are <em>running<\/em> to her, because she\u2019s like\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I am\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014face-planted.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014I\u2019m in so much pain. I am laughing, hysterically, because I\u2019m thinking, \u201cWe are the dumbest people on the planet, and we\u2019re old,\u201d\u2014like: \u201cWhat are we doing?!\u201d But\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> We won first prize. [Laughter] But don\u2019t cheer too loud. You know what first prize was? I\u2019m not kidding\u2014he goes: \u201cHey, hold on. You\u2019ve got two free t-shirts.\u201d [Laughter] It said, \u201cIberostar Resorts,\u201d on them. I paint in those t-shirts, but\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Here\u2019s the other part\u2014I was in so much pain that night\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Don\u2019t even tell them! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014I broke both wrists. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Audience: <\/strong>Ohhh!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Yes! I waited until after I got home; but I was like, \u201cMan, my wrists are <em>killing<\/em> me.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe tell that\u2014[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I don\u2019t know, we just told that for you to get to know us a little bit. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I will say this; I will say this\u2014in marriage\u2014all of you\u2014you\u2019ve been married. Some of you have been married a while, and you know this because you\u2019ve experienced it\u2014your spouse will drop you; isn\u2019t that true?! Your spouse will drop you. I think what we say to people is: \u201cThe hope that we\u2019ve found, and even through FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, is\u2014we never knew this before we became followers of Christ\u2014\u201cGod will never drop us.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt may feel like He\u2019s not there sometimes; but for us, we\u2019ve seen it\u2014He\u2019s always been there. He\u2019s always caught us; He\u2019s there no matter what. I think some people don\u2019t know that. I think that\u2019s why we are so excited to do this; because we get the chance to tell people that God is always there, and He\u2019s always cheering you on, and He will always catch you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> As many of you know, the whole idea of <em>Vertical Marriage<\/em> is based on that concept. Bob Lepine is the reason we wrote the book\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014because he\u2014how many have seen the<em> Art of Marriage<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>? So, you know our ten-year anniversary story, which is vertical\/horizontal. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe funny thing about the <em>Art of Marriage<\/em> is\u2014we have been telling that story at <em>Weekends to Remember<\/em>; and then Bob said, \u201cHey, we\u2019re going to send the video crew up, and we\u2019d like you to tell that story for\u2014we\u2019re doing this thing called the <em>Art of Marriage<\/em>.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cI don\u2019t know what it is.\u201d We\u2019re driving to our church, where this video team was going to meet us at our studio. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> We hadn\u2019t even showered. I turned to Dave and I said, \u201cWhat are we doing today?!\u201d He goes: \u201cI don\u2019t know. We\u2019re doing some story.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I said, \u201cSome little thing for this <em>Art of Marriage<\/em> thing Lepine is doing. Nobody is ever going to see it! It\u2019s no big deal.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> [Raising voice, directed at Bob] That\u2019s what he said, Bob: \u201cNobody will see it!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> That is honestly what I said. I mean, didn\u2019t shower, didn\u2019t shave; and yet, it\u2019s so perfect, because it\u2019s like God takes that dark valley and says, \u201cThat\u2019s where I met you.\u201d The whole point of the story is I realized, that night, when my wife said, \u201cI\u2019ve lost my feelings for you,\u201d\u2014the year we\u2019re starting our church\/ten-year [wedding] anniversary\u2014that I was trying to find life in her; and she\u2019s not going to be able to catch me, and I can\u2019t catch her. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tVertical is basically God reminded me: \u201cIf He isn\u2019t first, you\u2019ll never find life. This is <em>never<\/em> going to do it. She wasn\u2019t made to be your god; I wasn\u2019t made to be hers. It\u2019s only through Christ.\u201d I know you all know that; but that\u2019s the whole idea. Interesting thing is\u2014people are reading it\u2014they don\u2019t know <em>that<\/em>. We\u2019re getting all this feedback\u2014they are like, \u201cI thought I married the wrong person, and you\u2019ve reminded me I\u2019m looking in the wrong place,\u201d\u2014you know, that whole thing. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMany of you know this\u2014and if you don\u2019t, I would say, \u201cMemorize this verse, \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tProverbs 18:21,\u201d\u2014talks about the power of the tongue. It literally says this: \u201cThe tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.\u201d In other words, those who understand it will use it correctly; because here is the thing\u2014power of life and death means you can speak life, acceptance, affirmation, appreciation; we can speak death. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the things that Ann and I were doing, often, in our marriage is\u2014we were speaking <em>death<\/em> and not even realizing it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I feel like I was way worse than you because I really thought that by critiquing and criticizing Dave, it would motivate him and help him. I thought I was helping the Holy Spirit. [Laughter] That was not motivating to him at all. We had been married for quite a while [before] the first time when he said: \u201cI feel like you constantly boo me,\u201d and \u201cI feel like I can\u2019t do anything <em>right<\/em>.\u201d I said, \u201cAre you kidding me?! I am <em>helping<\/em> you\u201d; but I didn\u2019t realize how <em>demotivating<\/em> that was for Dave. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have three sons, and I was doing the same thing by criticizing\/pointing out the things that they were doing wrong, thinking they\u2019d want to be better. When, actually, all it did was make them want to run away from <em>me<\/em>. We really went through a season of learning how to do this. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; I tell you\u2014again, we\u2019re not perfect today; but I watched her\u2014and again, some of you have heard this as well. One of the chapters is called \u201cAll I Hear Is Boo,\u201d and it\u2019s based on a story. When we were speaking to a Mothers of Preschoolers group, and she was asked to speak, she said: \u201cCome. Just come up and speak with me.\u201d I used that story, where I felt like, my whole life, people had been applauding me on a football field or in life; and then I get married, thinking, \u201cShe\u2019s applauding me by choosing me.\u201d Then, I said, \u201cWhen I come home, I feel like all I hear is \u2018BOOO!\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe really did feel like she was helping me; and I was trying to say, \u201cIt doesn\u2019t feel like help.\u201d I remember saying to her, literally, in the car on the ride home: \u201cI know you love me. I do not think you <em>like<\/em> me; because you\u2019re always saying, \u2018You should do this more.\u2019\u201d She was really on me about how I should lead the family spiritually and the boys spiritually\u2014they are all grown, now, with wives and grandkids\u2014but it felt like, \u201cBOOO!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI tell you\u2014I just told Ann: \u201cMen aren\u2019t motivated by boo. Men are motivated by\u2014[clapping\/applause]\u201d\u2014and I guess women are, too.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u201cSpeak life!\u201d Here is all I\u2019m saying\u2014is: \u201cIt didn\u2019t change in a day or a week.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> No; I, when\u2014after we spoke and we had that conversation, I went up to God\u2014I went to God and I said: \u201cFather, is this true? Do I boo Dave?\u201d I felt like He said, \u201cYes.\u201d I felt like\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; He did! [Laughter] I was <em>praying<\/em> she would hear from God,\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I felt like\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014on my knees, every day! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014I was afraid to encourage him because I thought it would <em>enable<\/em> him, thinking, \u201cHe\u2019ll think I\u2019m satisfied\u201d; so I wouldn\u2019t do it. When I asked God that, I said, \u201cGod, what do You want me to do?\u201d I felt like He said, \u201cI want you to cheer for him.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI did a mental check for the next week: \u201cWhat\u2019s in my mind, first of all?\u201d\u2014because what comes out of our mouth first goes here [in the mind]. I realized: \u201cI am always critiquing, and I\u2019m always dissatisfied in my mind first; and then it just spills out of my mouth.\u201d So, man, I went on this quest of like, \u201cI need to change this!\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; here\u2019s what I\u2019m telling you\u2014she is my biggest cheerleader\u2014I am <em>not<\/em> kidding. There is <em>no one<\/em> that cheers me like this woman. Again, it didn\u2019t change in a week or even a year, but over several years; and this is <em>decades<\/em> ago\u2014she started speaking <em>life<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere is the one big idea I wrote down\u2014it\u2019s: \u201cHealthy couples <em>choose <\/em>to speak life to their spouse\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> That\u2019s a big word\u2014\u201cchoose.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014or \u201cHappy couples\u2026\u201d\u2014anyway; but the word is choose. It isn\u2019t, \u201cI <em>feel<\/em> this,\u201d\u2014no; you literally choose with our tongue: \u201cAre we going to speak life or death? Am I going to speak life into him\/into her, or am I going to speak\u2026\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014and our kids. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> We <em>choose<\/em> to do it. Healthy couples\u2014that\u2019s a <em>habit<\/em> that you have to build in; and you have to realize: \u201cThere is the power of life and death. It can destroy them; it can build them up.\u201d All I know is\u2014over time, Ann started to speak life into me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI always try to help, especially, wives understand this respect thing for men. It\u2019s like she would, then, start to say things like this: \u201cYou\u2019re an amazing spiritual leader of our home.\u201d I\u2019m raising my hand because it was like she was saying, \u201cThe bar\u2014you\u2019re way up here.\u201d I remember looking at her like: \u201cShe\u2019s <em>never<\/em> said that! She\u2019s always said, \u2018Why don\u2019t you pray more with the boys? Why don\u2019t you do a family devotion like <em>Dennis Rainey <\/em>does? Why don\u2019t you do all this?!\u2019\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I did say that!\u2014totally! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> She did; she literally did. [Laughter] But here is the thing\u2014she started to speak these words\u2014and I\u2019m not kidding\u2014when she said it, I was like hearing and I\u2019m like, \u201cNo; I\u2019m not.\u201d I honestly didn\u2019t think I was very good, because I wasn\u2019t; but she said this. Here is all I know\u2014she kept speaking life, almost like <em>belief<\/em>\u2014whether it be spiritually, or just as a man, or integrity, or as a hard worker. Here is all I know\u2014I <em>rose up<\/em> to become the man she said I was that I wasn\u2019t. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ve watched this! She did the same thing with our sons. I\u2019ve seen it with other women with their men. It goes both ways\u2014it isn\u2019t just a man thing; this is both ways\u2014respect\/love\u2014it\u2019s both ways. I\u2019ve noticed this\u2014when you speak life, it <em>motivates<\/em> people to become what you\u2019re speaking. When we speak death, it demotivates. I\u2019m just telling you\u2014critical words don\u2019t usually build up\u2014<em>ever<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019ll end with this. Tell the story, because it\u2019s so powerful. We\u2019ll end with this, because it applies to [marriage]; but it applies to your kids as well\u2014about the three sons. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; I think our boys were 18, 16, and 13. I was\u2014and they were in a bad spot, and I was in a bad spot with them. They were in the room, and I was talking to them like, \u201cYOU GUYS NEED TO GET STUFF DONE AROUND HERE!\u201d\u2014Here I am, critiquing; and they are texting each other <em>about<\/em> me. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014in the room. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cMom is crazy right now!\u201d Then I found that out, and I\u2019m like: \u201cOH! YOU GUYS!\u201d I had to get out of the house because I was so offended, because they are laughing like, \u201cYou\u2019re crazy mom!\u201d I go on this walk, and I am <em>venting<\/em> for about three miles about each one of my kids, like: \u201cAre You seeing this?! Are You seeing what\u2019s going on?! There is <em>no<\/em> respect!\u201d I\u2019m going on and on. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI am on mile four, and I\u2019m like: \u201cAlright, the rest of the time, it\u2019s You, God. You need to give me wisdom.\u201d I <em>love<\/em> James 1\u2014I love the practicality of Scripture; because it says, \u201cIf any of you\u201d\u2014and this is about trials, and then it goes into\u2014\u201cBut as you go through trials, if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God who gives\u201d\u2014what?\u2014\u201c<em>generously<\/em>.\u201d So, I\u2019m like, \u201cI need the generosity right now of You, Father!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs I\u2019m going\u2014and I\u2019m like: \u201cI\u2019m not going to say a word until You speak to me about my children\u201d; because I started out with CJ\u2014like: \u2018Are you seeing CJ? I don\u2019t even know what\u2019s happening with him. He is <em>quiet<\/em>. He\u2019s like quirky, and I don\u2019t know where he is spiritually.\u2019\u201d I\u2019m just quiet; and I hear this: \u201cIsn\u2019t CJ one of the most fascinating men you\u2019ve ever met?\u201d I knew this was God because I\u2019m like, \u201c<em>No<\/em>.\u201d [Laughter] Like, \u201cThis\u2014surely, this isn\u2019t God.\u201d This is what came to mind\u2014this is so interesting; I would have never thought of this myself, as I\u2019m hearing God through His Spirit. I felt like He said, \u201cHe\u2019s just like Nathanael, in whom there was no guile.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> When she told me that, I\u2019m like: \u201cThere\u2019s not a better description of CJ. He\u2019s <em>just<\/em> that.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cWe had never thought that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> There\u2019s no pretense in him. Whatever he thinks, he says\u2014maybe, that\u2019s like me\u2014he says it; whatever he thinks. I felt like God was saying: \u201cIsn\u2019t there a beauty to him?\u2014that he doesn\u2019t care what the world thinks? He knows who he is in his own identity.\u201d I was like, \u201cOh, okay; I\u2019ve never seen that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen I was like: \u201cOkay; what about Austin? He\u2019s quiet; he\u2019s artistic. There\u2019s a little moody thing going on.\u201d I felt like He said: \u201cIsn\u2019t he just like King David? He could write psalms of music, and he just has this heart that runs after Me.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cReally?!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>Then I got to our youngest son\u2014I\u2019m like: \u201cCody is out of control. He is <em>so<\/em> strong-willed. He always has a word. He <em>always<\/em> doing this stuff, and I feel like he is running in the wrong crowd right now.\u201d This was the most amazing thing to me about him, because I was most worried about this 13-year-old. It felt like he just wanted to\u2014he wanted to be liked by the world. I remember God saying to me: \u201cCody is my Joshua, and he is a leader among men.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cCody?!\u2014really?!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI felt like He said, \u201cWait until you see how I use each one of your sons in their own unique identity\/in their own unique way and call it out of them because there is greatness.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s so funny, as we just dive in with God\u2014how He speaks to us, and He\u2019s always breathing life into us and our children. He looks at my children, and He looks at Dave and me, and He\u2019s like: \u201cLook at you guys. Look at who I\u2019ve made you to be. <em>Show<\/em> that off, because it\u2019s <em>Me<\/em>.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, again, we\u2019ve been listening to Dave and Ann Wilson share a story at a recent event. You\u2019ve shared that story, obviously, in a number of settings. The response you get from people, who hear you tell that story, is <em>powerful<\/em> because they <em>get<\/em> why this is so important; don\u2019t they? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think so; and I think that I have not done a great job of this, especially at the beginning of our marriage. That\u2019s why I\u2019m so passionate about it; because I\u2019ve seen the difference it has made in our marriage and in our family, too. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And I would say she\u2019s being hard on herself. She is an <em>amazing<\/em> woman, who speaks life. I mean, there were decades in our marriage, where it wasn\u2019t\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, thanks! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014that way. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Thanks for bringing that out. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I mean, it was both ways. It wasn\u2019t just\u2014it was both of us speaking harsh and death words. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> But we want to be, not just with our kids or with each other, but with every person\u2014we want to be a reflection of Christ, which means that we want to speak life. We want to encourage, and affirm, and inspire people to want to be like Jesus. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You guys said it: \u201cLife and death\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cis in the power of the tongue.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Actually, Solomon said that, Bob. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> True; you were quoting him when you said it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to remind listeners about the opportunity they have to join us this fall for an upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway. We\u2019re going to be hosting dozens of these getaways in cities all across the country this fall, and there is <em>nothing<\/em> better you can do for your marriage. Even if you would look at your marriage and say, \u201cOur marriage is great,\u201d well, <em>keep<\/em> it great by investing in your marriage. If you would say, \u201cYes, we could use a little work,\u201d well, get away and <em>do a little work<\/em> on your marriage. We\u2019ll help you through that. If you would say, \u201cOur marriage is in a rough spot,\u201d get some time away to <em>invest<\/em> in your marriage; and let us help you better understand what the Bible has to say about the elements that make for a strong marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGo to FamilyLifeToday.com. If you register this week or next week, you and your spouse will save 50 percent off the regular registration fee for a getaway. It\u2019s the best offer we make all year long. So, if you want to take advantage of this special offer for <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners, go online to FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY, say: \u201cI listen to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. I want to go to one of the getaways. I want to save some money.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, you can do all of that this week when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com; or call us at 1-800-FL-TODAY. We can let you know the dates and locations for the getaways this fall. You pick the right weekend and the right city and then join us for a relaxing, romantic weekend getaway at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>. Again, our website is FamilyLifeToday.com; or call for more information or to register\u20141-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we\u2019re going to talk about how a wife can show respect for her husband, even if she thinks, \u201cI don\u2019t know that he is worthy of respect.\u201d Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins are going to join us to talk about that. I hope you can be with us for that as well. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. 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