{"id":305093,"date":"2019-06-19T06:00:04","date_gmt":"2019-06-19T10:00:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/you-complete-me\/"},"modified":"2019-06-19T06:00:04","modified_gmt":"2019-06-19T10:00:04","slug":"you-complete-me","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/you-complete-me\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;You Complete Me&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>According to Bob Lepine, marriages often begin with the misguided idea that &#8220;She&#8217;s here to complete me.&#8221; Bob Lepine describes what he calls the &#8220;Three Phases of Marriage.&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2019-06-19.mp3","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:24:55","filesize":"22.81M","filesize_raw":"23923160","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2809,2820,2862],"tags":[4449,4094,4034,5109,6657],"podcast_series":[8283],"cwp_profile":[3142],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-305093","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-commitment","category-lifelong-marriages","category-understanding-differences","tag-biblical-view-of-marriage","tag-early-years-of-marriage","tag-newlyweds","tag-selfishness","tag-three-phases-of-marriage","podcast_series-the-three-phases-of-marriage","cwp_profile-bob-lepine","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/305093\/you-complete-me","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/305093\/you-complete-me","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"uWI2FSVEqY\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/you-complete-me\/\">&#8220;You Complete Me&#8221;<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/you-complete-me\/embed\/#?secret=uWI2FSVEqY\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;&#8220;You Complete Me&#8221;&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"uWI2FSVEqY\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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If you don\u2019t, maybe it\u2019s time to pause and rethink what marriage is supposed to be all about.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Wednesday, June 19<sup>th<\/sup>. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson; I'm Bob Lepine. Every marriage goes through phases, and our understanding of marriage ought to grow as those phases progress. We\u2019ll talk more about that today. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us on the Wednesday edition. I brought a tape of <em>me<\/em> today. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>I was going to say, \u201cToday\u2019s an exciting day for Bob Lepine!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>I\u2019m actually really excited, because listeners don\u2019t always get to hear you deliver a message. You\u2019re wonderful; you\u2019re a great communicator\u2014they\u2019re in for a treat.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>Yes; I was thinking the same thing. You\u2019re the host\u2014you\u2019re always setting up somebody else. We\u2019re going to set you up: \u201cBob Lepine can bring it\u2014and this is in his wheelhouse, talking about marriage and family and, especially, marriage.\u201d And it\u2019s personal; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>It is. This is from the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage cruise, back in February. I had the opportunity\/the honor to be the closing speaker on the last night of the cruise.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>That\u2019s a big honor!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>It is a big honor.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I was humbled that I got that opportunity. It had been a <em>great<\/em> week\u2014you guys know.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is a pretty special event. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ve actually been surprised at how much ministry happens on board this cruise; because when we started it, honestly, I thought, \u201cIt\u2019ll be great\u2014it\u2019ll be a cruise, and there\u2019ll be some great messages;\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Yes; \u201cIt\u2019ll be fun.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes\u2014\u201cand we\u2019ll get to think about marriage a little bit, and that\u2019s good.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>But honestly, there are some profound things that are happening in the lives of couples in their marriages. There are some couples, who have come on the cruise every year\u2014and I\u2019m always surprised that they come\u2014and they [different couples each year] go, \u201cYes; this is kind of our last hurrah.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I go, \u201cWhy are you coming on a <em>cruise<\/em> if that\u2019s where you are in your marriage?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>\u2014because it\u2019s <em>life-changing<\/em>; it can be life-changing for <em>so<\/em> many couples.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>And, you know, the cruises we are on\u2014we talk to couples, whose marriage was <em>saved<\/em> on that boat\u2014it was a <em>miraculous<\/em> deal.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Speaking of the cruises you\u2019ve been on, you\u2019re going to be on the 2020 cruise.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>We sure are!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Looking forward to having you guys. Dennis and Barbara Rainey are going to be with us; we have Charlie and Kirstie Dates joining us; we have Dr. Gary Chapman\u2014a great lineup of artists who are going to be with us and comedians\u2014it\u2019s just a <em>fun<\/em> event. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere I am, talking about how exciting it is, and it\u2019s almost sold out. I mean, we expect, by the end of this month, we will not have any cabins left. We\u2019re about 90 percent sold out right now, so we just thought we ought to let our listeners know: \u201cIf you want to join us, Valentine\u2019s week, 2020, on the tenth anniversary <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage cruise, you\u2019d better sign up now.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, our team agreed that, for <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners, if you\u2019ll sign up this week, there\u2019s a special offer. You can save $300 per couple off your stateroom, and they\u2019re throwing in some additional perks as well. If you\u2019d like to join us, now\u2019s the time to make that decision. You can find out more about the cruise at FamilyLifeToday.com, or you can call to book your stateroom\u2014the number is 1-800-FL-TODAY. We can answer any questions you have, as well, when you call 1-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, the message I shared\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Yes; what are you speaking on? What\u2019s this first thing we\u2019re going to listen to?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, we were talking, all week, about the different issues that couples have in marriage. I just felt\u2014here\u2019s how it kind of came about\u2014I was reading Romans 12. Romans 12, you know, starts off with this idea\u2014based on everything that Paul has said in the first 11 chapters\u2014he says: \u201cI\u2019ve just explained the gospel to you, I\u2019ve explained what God\u2019s done for us\/what Jesus has done to unite us again with the Father,\u201d and then he says, \u201cBased on all of that, I urge you, in response to that, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s an interesting concept, because it\u2019s a contradiction in terms. A sacrifice is something that is dead.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Right; this is living.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cI want you to be dead but alive,\u201d\u2014so\u2014\u201cBe a <em>living<\/em> sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God. This is your reasonable service of worship,\u201d he says. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was just chewing on that; and I thought, \u201cSo what does that look like in marriage?\u201d If you say, \u201cI\u2019m going to be dead to me and alive to God in my marriage,\u201d what does that look like? I started thinking about the whole trajectory of our marriage; and I thought: \u201cI\u2019ve gone through phases in my thinking about that,\u201d and \u201cI think those phases have gotten better,\u201d\u2014you know\u2014\u201cI don\u2019t think I was better ten years ago; I think we\u2019re better today than we were ten years ago.\u201d<br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>You\u2019re learning a lot.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>We\u2019re just going to take folks on that journey this week and let them hear about what I refer to as the three phases of the marriage journey that we\u2019ve been on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Recorded Message]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to tell you tonight the story of my marriage\/our marriage together, which is coming up\u2014we\u2019re at about the 40-year mark\u2014this spring we\u2019ll celebrate 40 years of marriage. [Applause] Thank you. We\u2019ve had some archeologists, who have been able to unearth some rare pictures. [Laughter] This is what it looked like, back 40 years ago, when Mary Ann and I were coming out of the church together. This was about 10:30 in the morning, walking out, having become man and wife.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, a few hours later, my groomsmen decided that they would go ahead and dress down, at least, halfway down. [Laughter] You can\u2019t tell\u2014we were going to zoom in, but Mary Ann is holding a cup from Braum\u2019s ice cream. You Midwesterners know what Braum\u2019s ice cream is; so yes. I mean, we went all out with Braum\u2019s ice cream for our wedding; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe got married. The week we got married was the week that Peaches &amp; Herb were number one on the charts with [singing], \u201cReunited, and it feels so good.\" Yes; thank you very much. [Laughter] It was appropriate, because we\u2019d broken up before we got married; so, you know, we were kind of reunited. Then, two weeks later, Peaches &amp; Herb got set aside by Donna Summer singing <em>Hot Stuff<\/em>. I thought, \u201cThis is just going to track our marriage all the way through,\u201d\u2014right?\u2014[Laughter]\u2014\u201cThe pop charts are just going to keep tracking our marriage relationship.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe began marriage with, what I think of now as, Phase One of a marriage relationship. I\u2019m guessing that about 99.7 percent of all marriages start in this Phase One of a marriage. It\u2019s what I call the I-love-being-in-love-with-you phase, where you just want to be together all the time; because you just <em>love<\/em> being together, and you just can\u2019t wait to see\u2014you remember this phase? Remember when you felt this way?\u2014it was so magical; you think, \u201cThis is what our relationship is going to be like, now, for the rest of our lives.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember the day I heard the song on the radio that said, \u201cEvery day with you, girl, is sweeter than the day before.\u201d I thought, \u201cYes; that\u2019s not always true,\u201d\u2014you remember? [Laughter] Because you start off, thinking, \u201cIt\u2019s just going to get better and better,\u201d and then, you hit a few bumps; and you go, \u201cOkay; it\u2019s not just the magic I thought it would always be.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPhase One is kind of that high romance\u2014it\u2019s the romantic phase of a relationship. It\u2019s a <em>great<\/em> phase; it\u2019s a <em>wonderful<\/em> phase\u2014it\u2019s the phase where you just love being in love with one another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe <em>problem<\/em> with Phase One is, not that you have romantic feelings toward one another\u2014that\u2019s a <em>good<\/em> thing; that\u2019s by God\u2019s <em>design<\/em>\u2014He made it that way. The problem with Phase One is when you think that\u2019s the foundation for a strong, healthy marriage\u2014when you think, \u201cOur romantic feelings, and our passion, and our delight in being together\u2014we can build on top of that.\u201d That\u2019s sandy soil; you can\u2019t build on that\u2014it\u2019ll go down when you do that\u2014that\u2019s a <em>bad<\/em> foundation. Passion and delight are not solid; they won\u2019t bear the weight of marriage over the years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ll make a couple of observations about this romantic Phase One. First of all, as I said, romantic feelings are a <em>good<\/em> thing in marriage. It\u2019s better to have them than not to have them; right? I mean, if the two of you are married, and you don\u2019t have any feelings\u2014any spark\/any delight in being together\u2014that\u2019s going to be hard. So, it\u2019s a <em>good<\/em> thing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, it\u2019s part of God\u2019s design. If you\u2019ve read the Song of Solomon in the Bible, you know how it starts? This is the beginning: \u201cLet him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth, for your love is better than wine.\u201d It goes <em>racier<\/em> from there; okay? I mean, there\u2019s a naked picnic in Song of Solomon. [Laughter] Some of you are going: \u201cLet\u2019s go read the Bible together, right now, honey. [Laughter] We should have some time in God\u2019s Word\u2014I\u2019m feeling.\u201d [Laughter] I mean, when I read that\u2014we used to say, \u201cHubba, hubba, hubba!\u201d\u2014you remember hubba? So that\u2019s what I was thinking: \u201cThat\u2019s where a good marriage starts. That\u2019s okay; it\u2019s a good thing. The problem is that it can\u2019t bear the weight.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere\u2019s the second observation, though: \u201cIf you don\u2019t tend to the romantic side of your relationship, it will die. Without attention, your feelings are going to die.\u201d The romantic side of a relationship\u2014again, when we got married, we thought, \u201cThis doesn\u2019t need any attention, because it just happens spontaneously and naturally.\u201d During the dating years, that\u2019s how it felt; then, you get married [for a while] and you go, \u201cIt\u2019s not as easy or natural as it used to be.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, it\u2019s like a garden. If you have a garden and you want it to flourish, you have to pull the weeds and you have to tend to it. You don\u2019t get the flower buds unless you take care of the garden with water, and fertilizer, and pulling the weeds; there has to be some cultivation going on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe key is that, again, romance and passion can\u2019t be the main course. They can be the dessert, and dessert is a good thing; right?\u2014but you can\u2019t build a <em>diet<\/em> around key lime pie, as I\u2019ve tried. Ladies and gentlemen, I\u2019ve done my best. You remember meeting James Drake; right?\u2014the Beastmaster guy; right? I\u2019m the <em>Feastmaster<\/em> guy; right? [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m on a\u2014there\u2019s a longitudinal study that is being done <em>with me<\/em>. The longitudinal study is to see, if you just eat lots of key lime pie and\u2014we have a sign here that says, \u201cWe love Bob and key lime pie,\u201d\u2014thank you; God bless you all; thank you. [Cheers] So this longitudinal study: \u201cIf you just eat sugar and simple carbs, can you actually have a bodybuilder\u2019s physique?\u201d Now, the results are not completely in yet. [Laughter] We\u2019re going to keep this going for awhile and see, but it\u2019s not looking good\u2014I\u2019ll just tell you that much; okay?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you want to have a Beastmaster body, you have to have the proteins; and you have to watch your diet. If you want to have a well-cultivated marriage garden, you have to pull the weeds. You can\u2019t build it on the dessert of marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know who this person is\u2014anybody know who this person is right here? Put the picture up; can we? Raise your hand if you know who that person is. Okay; I just want to see if there are any guys who have raised their hand. If there are guys, who\u2019ve raised their hand, just turn in your man card right now; okay, bro? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOkay; so who knows who this is?\u2014who is this?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Audience: <\/strong>Marie Kondo. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Marie Kondo. Okay; so some of you know Marie Kondo. She is the star of the new Netflix series, which is called <em>Tidying Up with Marie Kondo<\/em>. She has written the bestselling book, which is called <em>The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up<\/em>; right? That\u2019s the book I want to read to put me to sleep at night: <em>The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up<\/em>. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019ve watched any of the show, or if you\u2019ve read any of the book, you know that key to the way Marie thinks about your house and your closet is: \u201cDoes it\u201d\u2014what?\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Audience: <\/strong>\u201cSpark joy.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014\u201cspark joy?\u201d Those of you who have watched it\u2014here\u2019s how this works for Marie. I watched an episode; okay?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe gets this couple, and they put all of their clothes on the bed\u2014they clean out their closet, and all of their clothes are on the bed. Have you seen this?\u2014right? So the pile of clothes\u2014big pile. She says: \u201cNow, what you do is\u2014you come and you take a piece of clothing. You look at it; and you ask the question, \u2018Does it spark joy?\u2019 If that shirt sparks joy, you keep it; if it doesn\u2019t spark joy, you get rid of it. But you can\u2019t just get rid of it; you have to <em>thank it<\/em> for how it has served you and, then, you have to gently set it in the pile that\u2019s going to the thrift shop.\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI thought this was a comedy\u2014I was laughing; right? [Laughter] \u201cDoes your undershirt spark joy?\u201d I\u2019m going, \u201cWho writes this stuff?!\u201d\u2014it was amazing!\u2014okay? So this is Marie.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, this is the problem\u2014a lot of people today are taking the Marie Kondo approach to marriage. Think about this\u2014they\u2019re holding up their marriage and saying, \u201cDoes my marriage still spark joy for me?\u201d If it doesn\u2019t, you thank it for its service and you put it in the pile that goes to the thrift shop! That\u2019s <em>not<\/em> the way that this is supposed to work! You can\u2019t declutter your marriage because it doesn\u2019t spark joy. Genesis 2 did not say, \u201cFor this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and they\u2019ll spark joy with each other,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s not what it says.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, look\u2014I hope you\u2019ve had some sparks of joy over the last week. I hope time together\u2014I hope just being with other people, and getting to see sights and the sunshine, and all of that\u2014I hope that sparked joy. I hope\u2014and I\u2019m not just talking about romance and sex\u2014although, I hope there have been some Wednesday nights for you here, too; alright? [Laughter] Because this is a part of God\u2019s good design and His good gift, but it can\u2019t be that that\u2019s what you say is the foundation here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe big problem is\u2014when you take a sparks-of-joy approach to marriage, it puts <em>your<\/em> happiness as the centerpiece of what\u2019s supposed to be making your marriage work. When you\u2019re asking this question\/when you\u2019re saying to yourself, \u201cDoes my marriage spark joy in me?\u201d what you\u2019re really saying is: \u201cAm I happy?\u201d \u201cAm I satisfied?\u201d and who\u2019s at the center of <em>that<\/em> equation?\u2014you are!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you ask yourself: \u201cHow\u2019s my marriage doing? Does this marriage <em>please<\/em> me? Does this marriage make <em>me<\/em> happy?\u201d that\u2019s an okay question to be asking, because God did design marriage for there to be some level of mutual joy and happiness; but at the center of that question is <em>you<\/em>, and that\u2019s where the problem is. If success in marriage or anything is defined by whether it pleases <em>you<\/em> or makes you happy, there\u2019s a problem\u2014we call that being self-centered; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI came to realize, in the early stages of my marriage to Mary Ann\u2014I began to realize: \u201cHere\u2019s the problem with this. I was looking at Mary Ann, and she would spark joy in me. I would say, you know, \u2018I love you\u2019; and what I really meant was: \u2018I love feeling sparks of joy. As long as you keep providing sparks of joy, I love you\u2014not because of you\u2014but because of the joy sparks\u2019; right? It wasn\u2019t really about me loving her; it was about me loving <em>me<\/em>.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s really the observation I came away with. When I\u2019m saying, \u201cDoes my marriage please me?\u201d then that says, \u201cI love you as long as you please <em>me<\/em>.\u201d I realized, \u201cI love you,\u201d really means, \u201cI love <em>me<\/em>.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, listen to me here\u2014some of you have never moved out of this phase in your marriage. Some of you, the most dominant question you\u2019re asking in your marriage, day in and day out, is: \u201cAm I pleased with this marriage? Does this marriage make me happy?\u201d If that\u2019s the fundamental question that you\u2019re asking, you\u2019re trying to build your marriage on the wrong foundation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThree questions you can ask yourself, as we think about this Phase One of marriage: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNumber one: \u201cWhen you say, \u2018I love my spouse,\u2019 do you really mean, \u2018I love the sparks when he or she provides them\u2019? Is it really me I love, or is it this other person I love? Do I love what I <em>get<\/em> or do I love the person?\u201d\u2014that\u2019s question number one.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tQuestion number two: \u201cWhen I think about the health of our marriage, do I gravitate toward the question, \u2018How does this make me feel?\u2019 Do I think that a strong marriage is built on a foundation of dessert?\u2014right? Do I have the wrong foundation?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen the third question is\u2014keep in mind, sparks of joy are an important part of a marriage; they can\u2019t be the foundation\u2014but if your marriage hasn\u2019t sparked joy in awhile, ask yourself the question: \u201cWhat could we do that would bring some sparks of joy? What are some things that could bring that back into a marriage?\u201d\u2014because it needs to be a part of your marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere\u2019s the point: it needs to be a part; it can\u2019t be the foundation. You can\u2019t build on it; it has to be the <em>dessert<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOkay; so that brought me to Phase Two. I can\u2019t tell you the time or the place\u2014there wasn\u2019t a circumstance\u2014I don\u2019t have a story of when I woke up and realized, \u201cOh, I shouldn\u2019t be building my marriage on self-centered, self-feeling kinds of stuff.\u201d But I did start reading my Bible, and I started reading verses like this\u2014Philippians 2 says: \u201cDo nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others as more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.\u201d I read that and thought: \u201cOkay; if I apply that to marriage, then I should be considering Mary Ann as more important than me. I shouldn\u2019t just be looking out for my own interests; I should be looking out for <em>her<\/em> interests as well.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen I read in Romans 12, where it says, \u201cLove one another with brotherly affection; outdo one another in showing honor.\u201d \u201cOkay; my job is to <em>outdo<\/em> her in showing honor to her.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen I got to Ephesians 5\u2014and you know, guys, where it says, \u201cHusbands, love your wives as Christ loves the church and gave Himself up for her,\u201d\u2014and I thought: \u201cOkay; so I get the picture here. I\u2019m to <em>die<\/em> to self. I\u2019m not to be asking the question, \u2018Does this please me?\u2019 I should be asking the question: \u2018Does this please her?\u2019 \u2018Am I doing what God wants me to do for <em>her<\/em>?\u2019 \u2018Am I dying to self and living for <em>her<\/em>?\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis is Phase Two. I think of this as the Spouse-First Phase of a marriage relationship, where you start putting your spouse first. Hear me\u2014the Bible does speak to this\u2014it says you are supposed to honor one another; you are supposed to die to self; you are supposed to do nothing from selfishness\u2014so this is a part of what the Bible teaches; but it\u2019s not the whole truth. There\u2019s a problem in Phase Two, when you go from saying, \u201cAm I happy?\u201d to saying, \u201cIs my spouse happy?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, follow me here\u2014if you\u2019re in Phase One, and you keep asking, \u201cAm I happy?\u201d it\u2019s a good next step to get to a place, where you\u2019re saying, \u201cNo; I should be thinking about my spouse instead.\u201d That\u2019s <em>growth<\/em>; that <em>progress<\/em>\u2014you\u2019re moving in the right direction; you just haven\u2019t arrived when you get to Phase Two.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, we\u2019ve been listening to a message from the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise. It feels like we need cliffhanger music here; you know?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>I know.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cWill Bob make it to Phase Three? [Laughter] Does he find where he\u2019s supposed to get to in marriage?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think all of us can look back and say, \u201cYes; we started marriage with that kind of a self-focus.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>What percentage of people do you think start like that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Oh, it has to be in the 90s.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>That\u2019s what I\u2019m thinking\u201490 percent somewhere.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>Yes; it has to be. I remember\u2014it\u2019s sort of funny; long story short\u2014I ended up playing in a golf outing or a charity. I ended up with these three people that I didn\u2019t know; and two of them were married\u2014not to each other\u2014but their spouses were working the tournament. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLong story short, this lady comes up to me on the tenth hole and she says, \u201cJohn over here said that you\u2019re a marriage expert.\u201d I go, \u201cWhat are you talking about?\u201d \u201cI guess you speak about marriage, and you write and\u2026\u201d I go, \u201cI\u2019m not a marriage expert.\u201d She goes, \u201cAnyway, I have a question for you.\u201d She goes, \u201cI\u2019m in my second marriage.\u201d She goes, \u201cWhat\u2019s the problem with marriage?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, I\u2019m standing on this\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014the tenth hole.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>\u2014green; right? I don\u2019t know this lady. I have a minute to answer this question, maybe. I look at her and I go, \u201cWell, I can answer that with one word: \u2018selfishness.\u2019\u201d She looks at me and she goes: \u201cYou are <em>so<\/em> right! My first husband was <em>so<\/em> selfish!\u201d [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can\u2019t make this stuff up! I just looked at her and I go, \u201cI\u2019m not talking about your first husband.\u201d I took my finger and I said, \u201cI\u2019m talking about <em>you<\/em>,\u201d and then I turned the finger toward me and I said, \u201cI\u2019m talking about <em>me<\/em>.\u201d At that point, she was like, \u201cYou\u2019re selfish, too?\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cWe\u2019re <em>all<\/em> selfish, and we bring that into our marriage.\u201d That\u2019s what you were getting at!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>I mean, that first phase is like\u2014you want to be selfless; but man, it\u2019s in there; and we\u2019re just selfish.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Well, what I\u2019m intrigued about is\u2014you say, \u201cTake the focus off of yourself and please your spouse.\u201d Most people would think: \u201cGoodness, just to do <em>that<\/em>, alone, is this feat,\u201d and \u201cNow, you\u2019re saying there\u2019s <em>more<\/em>.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; getting to Phase Two is a significant next step, like we said.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>But it\u2019s not the end of the journey. If you get stuck in Phase Two, there can be problems when you say, \u201cIt\u2019s all about my spouse,\u201d just like there are problems if you say, \u201cIt\u2019s all about me.\u201d We\u2019re going to hear more about that tomorrow. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe should mention, here, that the 2020 <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise, as we said earlier, is almost sold out. If you\u2019d like to join us, Valentine\u2019s week, February 11<sup>th<\/sup> through the 17<sup>th<\/sup>, find out more about the cruise when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com; call to register at 1-800-FL-TODAY. If you register this week, as a <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listener, you\u2019ll save $300 per couple off the cost of your cabin\/your stateroom; and there are some additional perks thrown in. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe expect the cruise will be completely sold out by the end of June, so this is our \u201cCountdown to Sellout.\u201d We\u2019d love to have you join us. Again, find out more when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com; or call if you have any questions about the cruise or if you\u2019re ready to register: 1-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-FL-TODAY. Get in touch with us and book your cabin for the 2020 <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> tenth anniversary cruise. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid Robbins, who\u2019s the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, is here with me. I know one of the things that excites you about this cruise is that couples, not only have a great time, but they <em>leave<\/em> the cruise with kind of a fresh wind in their sails to carry help and hope back to their friends and their neighbors.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>David: <\/strong>Yes; you get together for this long\u2014and God\u2019s working in your own marriage, and you\u2019re getting poured into, and when transformation happens\u2014you can\u2019t help but begin to let others know about the things that [you\u2019re] learning. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI <em>love<\/em> it when we get back stories and comments from people, who have gone on the cruise and they said, \u201cHey, I got off the boat; and I started sharing with my neighbors\u201d or \u201c\u2026my small group the things that they were learning.\u201d All of a sudden, it\u2019s birthed all sorts of conversations and impact that those couples have been having. We <em>love<\/em> seeing people go from isolation to impact.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; they leave the cruise and start <em>Art of Marriage<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> groups, or <em>Art of Parenting<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> groups, or they start recommending <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> podcasts to friends\u2014whatever it is. And all of that because they just had an amazing week, where God poured into them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, if you join us on the cruise this year, we\u2019d love to have you. Information\u2019s available at FamilyLifeToday.com. You can call to book your cabin at 1-800-FL-TODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we\u2019re going to hear about the ultimate destination we should be headed to in our marriage. If it\u2019s not all about pleasing <em>me<\/em> or all about pleasing <em>you<\/em>, what is it all about? We\u2019ll hear about that tomorrow. I hope you can join us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. We will see you back tomorrow for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru<sup>\u00ae <\/sup>Ministry. Help for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would you consider <a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/donate\">donating today<\/a> to help defray the costs?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tCopyright <sup>\u00a9<\/sup> 2019 FamilyLife. 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If you don\u2019t, maybe it\u2019s time to pause and rethink what marriage is supposed to be all about.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Wednesday, June 19<sup>th<\/sup>. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson; I'm Bob Lepine. Every marriage goes through phases, and our understanding of marriage ought to grow as those phases progress. We\u2019ll talk more about that today. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us on the Wednesday edition. I brought a tape of <em>me<\/em> today. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>I was going to say, \u201cToday\u2019s an exciting day for Bob Lepine!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>I\u2019m actually really excited, because listeners don\u2019t always get to hear you deliver a message. You\u2019re wonderful; you\u2019re a great communicator\u2014they\u2019re in for a treat.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>Yes; I was thinking the same thing. You\u2019re the host\u2014you\u2019re always setting up somebody else. We\u2019re going to set you up: \u201cBob Lepine can bring it\u2014and this is in his wheelhouse, talking about marriage and family and, especially, marriage.\u201d And it\u2019s personal; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>It is. This is from the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage cruise, back in February. I had the opportunity\/the honor to be the closing speaker on the last night of the cruise.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>That\u2019s a big honor!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>It is a big honor.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I was humbled that I got that opportunity. 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Dennis and Barbara Rainey are going to be with us; we have Charlie and Kirstie Dates joining us; we have Dr. Gary Chapman\u2014a great lineup of artists who are going to be with us and comedians\u2014it\u2019s just a <em>fun<\/em> event. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere I am, talking about how exciting it is, and it\u2019s almost sold out. I mean, we expect, by the end of this month, we will not have any cabins left. We\u2019re about 90 percent sold out right now, so we just thought we ought to let our listeners know: \u201cIf you want to join us, Valentine\u2019s week, 2020, on the tenth anniversary <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage cruise, you\u2019d better sign up now.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, our team agreed that, for <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners, if you\u2019ll sign up this week, there\u2019s a special offer. You can save $300 per couple off your stateroom, and they\u2019re throwing in some additional perks as well. If you\u2019d like to join us, now\u2019s the time to make that decision. You can find out more about the cruise at FamilyLifeToday.com, or you can call to book your stateroom\u2014the number is 1-800-FL-TODAY. We can answer any questions you have, as well, when you call 1-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, the message I shared\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Yes; what are you speaking on? What\u2019s this first thing we\u2019re going to listen to?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, we were talking, all week, about the different issues that couples have in marriage. I just felt\u2014here\u2019s how it kind of came about\u2014I was reading Romans 12. Romans 12, you know, starts off with this idea\u2014based on everything that Paul has said in the first 11 chapters\u2014he says: \u201cI\u2019ve just explained the gospel to you, I\u2019ve explained what God\u2019s done for us\/what Jesus has done to unite us again with the Father,\u201d and then he says, \u201cBased on all of that, I urge you, in response to that, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s an interesting concept, because it\u2019s a contradiction in terms. A sacrifice is something that is dead.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Right; this is living.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cI want you to be dead but alive,\u201d\u2014so\u2014\u201cBe a <em>living<\/em> sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God. This is your reasonable service of worship,\u201d he says. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was just chewing on that; and I thought, \u201cSo what does that look like in marriage?\u201d If you say, \u201cI\u2019m going to be dead to me and alive to God in my marriage,\u201d what does that look like? I started thinking about the whole trajectory of our marriage; and I thought: \u201cI\u2019ve gone through phases in my thinking about that,\u201d and \u201cI think those phases have gotten better,\u201d\u2014you know\u2014\u201cI don\u2019t think I was better ten years ago; I think we\u2019re better today than we were ten years ago.\u201d<br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>You\u2019re learning a lot.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>We\u2019re just going to take folks on that journey this week and let them hear about what I refer to as the three phases of the marriage journey that we\u2019ve been on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Recorded Message]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to tell you tonight the story of my marriage\/our marriage together, which is coming up\u2014we\u2019re at about the 40-year mark\u2014this spring we\u2019ll celebrate 40 years of marriage. [Applause] Thank you. We\u2019ve had some archeologists, who have been able to unearth some rare pictures. [Laughter] This is what it looked like, back 40 years ago, when Mary Ann and I were coming out of the church together. This was about 10:30 in the morning, walking out, having become man and wife.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, a few hours later, my groomsmen decided that they would go ahead and dress down, at least, halfway down. [Laughter] You can\u2019t tell\u2014we were going to zoom in, but Mary Ann is holding a cup from Braum\u2019s ice cream. You Midwesterners know what Braum\u2019s ice cream is; so yes. I mean, we went all out with Braum\u2019s ice cream for our wedding; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe got married. The week we got married was the week that Peaches &amp; Herb were number one on the charts with [singing], \u201cReunited, and it feels so good.\" Yes; thank you very much. [Laughter] It was appropriate, because we\u2019d broken up before we got married; so, you know, we were kind of reunited. Then, two weeks later, Peaches &amp; Herb got set aside by Donna Summer singing <em>Hot Stuff<\/em>. I thought, \u201cThis is just going to track our marriage all the way through,\u201d\u2014right?\u2014[Laughter]\u2014\u201cThe pop charts are just going to keep tracking our marriage relationship.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe began marriage with, what I think of now as, Phase One of a marriage relationship. I\u2019m guessing that about 99.7 percent of all marriages start in this Phase One of a marriage. It\u2019s what I call the I-love-being-in-love-with-you phase, where you just want to be together all the time; because you just <em>love<\/em> being together, and you just can\u2019t wait to see\u2014you remember this phase? Remember when you felt this way?\u2014it was so magical; you think, \u201cThis is what our relationship is going to be like, now, for the rest of our lives.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember the day I heard the song on the radio that said, \u201cEvery day with you, girl, is sweeter than the day before.\u201d I thought, \u201cYes; that\u2019s not always true,\u201d\u2014you remember? [Laughter] Because you start off, thinking, \u201cIt\u2019s just going to get better and better,\u201d and then, you hit a few bumps; and you go, \u201cOkay; it\u2019s not just the magic I thought it would always be.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPhase One is kind of that high romance\u2014it\u2019s the romantic phase of a relationship. It\u2019s a <em>great<\/em> phase; it\u2019s a <em>wonderful<\/em> phase\u2014it\u2019s the phase where you just love being in love with one another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe <em>problem<\/em> with Phase One is, not that you have romantic feelings toward one another\u2014that\u2019s a <em>good<\/em> thing; that\u2019s by God\u2019s <em>design<\/em>\u2014He made it that way. The problem with Phase One is when you think that\u2019s the foundation for a strong, healthy marriage\u2014when you think, \u201cOur romantic feelings, and our passion, and our delight in being together\u2014we can build on top of that.\u201d That\u2019s sandy soil; you can\u2019t build on that\u2014it\u2019ll go down when you do that\u2014that\u2019s a <em>bad<\/em> foundation. Passion and delight are not solid; they won\u2019t bear the weight of marriage over the years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ll make a couple of observations about this romantic Phase One. First of all, as I said, romantic feelings are a <em>good<\/em> thing in marriage. It\u2019s better to have them than not to have them; right? I mean, if the two of you are married, and you don\u2019t have any feelings\u2014any spark\/any delight in being together\u2014that\u2019s going to be hard. So, it\u2019s a <em>good<\/em> thing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, it\u2019s part of God\u2019s design. If you\u2019ve read the Song of Solomon in the Bible, you know how it starts? This is the beginning: \u201cLet him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth, for your love is better than wine.\u201d It goes <em>racier<\/em> from there; okay? I mean, there\u2019s a naked picnic in Song of Solomon. [Laughter] Some of you are going: \u201cLet\u2019s go read the Bible together, right now, honey. [Laughter] We should have some time in God\u2019s Word\u2014I\u2019m feeling.\u201d [Laughter] I mean, when I read that\u2014we used to say, \u201cHubba, hubba, hubba!\u201d\u2014you remember hubba? So that\u2019s what I was thinking: \u201cThat\u2019s where a good marriage starts. That\u2019s okay; it\u2019s a good thing. The problem is that it can\u2019t bear the weight.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere\u2019s the second observation, though: \u201cIf you don\u2019t tend to the romantic side of your relationship, it will die. Without attention, your feelings are going to die.\u201d The romantic side of a relationship\u2014again, when we got married, we thought, \u201cThis doesn\u2019t need any attention, because it just happens spontaneously and naturally.\u201d During the dating years, that\u2019s how it felt; then, you get married [for a while] and you go, \u201cIt\u2019s not as easy or natural as it used to be.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, it\u2019s like a garden. If you have a garden and you want it to flourish, you have to pull the weeds and you have to tend to it. You don\u2019t get the flower buds unless you take care of the garden with water, and fertilizer, and pulling the weeds; there has to be some cultivation going on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe key is that, again, romance and passion can\u2019t be the main course. They can be the dessert, and dessert is a good thing; right?\u2014but you can\u2019t build a <em>diet<\/em> around key lime pie, as I\u2019ve tried. Ladies and gentlemen, I\u2019ve done my best. You remember meeting James Drake; right?\u2014the Beastmaster guy; right? I\u2019m the <em>Feastmaster<\/em> guy; right? [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m on a\u2014there\u2019s a longitudinal study that is being done <em>with me<\/em>. The longitudinal study is to see, if you just eat lots of key lime pie and\u2014we have a sign here that says, \u201cWe love Bob and key lime pie,\u201d\u2014thank you; God bless you all; thank you. [Cheers] So this longitudinal study: \u201cIf you just eat sugar and simple carbs, can you actually have a bodybuilder\u2019s physique?\u201d Now, the results are not completely in yet. [Laughter] We\u2019re going to keep this going for awhile and see, but it\u2019s not looking good\u2014I\u2019ll just tell you that much; okay?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you want to have a Beastmaster body, you have to have the proteins; and you have to watch your diet. If you want to have a well-cultivated marriage garden, you have to pull the weeds. You can\u2019t build it on the dessert of marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know who this person is\u2014anybody know who this person is right here? Put the picture up; can we? Raise your hand if you know who that person is. Okay; I just want to see if there are any guys who have raised their hand. If there are guys, who\u2019ve raised their hand, just turn in your man card right now; okay, bro? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOkay; so who knows who this is?\u2014who is this?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Audience: <\/strong>Marie Kondo. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Marie Kondo. Okay; so some of you know Marie Kondo. She is the star of the new Netflix series, which is called <em>Tidying Up with Marie Kondo<\/em>. She has written the bestselling book, which is called <em>The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up<\/em>; right? That\u2019s the book I want to read to put me to sleep at night: <em>The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up<\/em>. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019ve watched any of the show, or if you\u2019ve read any of the book, you know that key to the way Marie thinks about your house and your closet is: \u201cDoes it\u201d\u2014what?\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Audience: <\/strong>\u201cSpark joy.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014\u201cspark joy?\u201d Those of you who have watched it\u2014here\u2019s how this works for Marie. I watched an episode; okay?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe gets this couple, and they put all of their clothes on the bed\u2014they clean out their closet, and all of their clothes are on the bed. Have you seen this?\u2014right? So the pile of clothes\u2014big pile. She says: \u201cNow, what you do is\u2014you come and you take a piece of clothing. You look at it; and you ask the question, \u2018Does it spark joy?\u2019 If that shirt sparks joy, you keep it; if it doesn\u2019t spark joy, you get rid of it. But you can\u2019t just get rid of it; you have to <em>thank it<\/em> for how it has served you and, then, you have to gently set it in the pile that\u2019s going to the thrift shop.\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI thought this was a comedy\u2014I was laughing; right? [Laughter] \u201cDoes your undershirt spark joy?\u201d I\u2019m going, \u201cWho writes this stuff?!\u201d\u2014it was amazing!\u2014okay? So this is Marie.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, this is the problem\u2014a lot of people today are taking the Marie Kondo approach to marriage. Think about this\u2014they\u2019re holding up their marriage and saying, \u201cDoes my marriage still spark joy for me?\u201d If it doesn\u2019t, you thank it for its service and you put it in the pile that goes to the thrift shop! That\u2019s <em>not<\/em> the way that this is supposed to work! You can\u2019t declutter your marriage because it doesn\u2019t spark joy. Genesis 2 did not say, \u201cFor this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and they\u2019ll spark joy with each other,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s not what it says.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, look\u2014I hope you\u2019ve had some sparks of joy over the last week. I hope time together\u2014I hope just being with other people, and getting to see sights and the sunshine, and all of that\u2014I hope that sparked joy. I hope\u2014and I\u2019m not just talking about romance and sex\u2014although, I hope there have been some Wednesday nights for you here, too; alright? [Laughter] Because this is a part of God\u2019s good design and His good gift, but it can\u2019t be that that\u2019s what you say is the foundation here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe big problem is\u2014when you take a sparks-of-joy approach to marriage, it puts <em>your<\/em> happiness as the centerpiece of what\u2019s supposed to be making your marriage work. When you\u2019re asking this question\/when you\u2019re saying to yourself, \u201cDoes my marriage spark joy in me?\u201d what you\u2019re really saying is: \u201cAm I happy?\u201d \u201cAm I satisfied?\u201d and who\u2019s at the center of <em>that<\/em> equation?\u2014you are!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you ask yourself: \u201cHow\u2019s my marriage doing? Does this marriage <em>please<\/em> me? Does this marriage make <em>me<\/em> happy?\u201d that\u2019s an okay question to be asking, because God did design marriage for there to be some level of mutual joy and happiness; but at the center of that question is <em>you<\/em>, and that\u2019s where the problem is. If success in marriage or anything is defined by whether it pleases <em>you<\/em> or makes you happy, there\u2019s a problem\u2014we call that being self-centered; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI came to realize, in the early stages of my marriage to Mary Ann\u2014I began to realize: \u201cHere\u2019s the problem with this. I was looking at Mary Ann, and she would spark joy in me. I would say, you know, \u2018I love you\u2019; and what I really meant was: \u2018I love feeling sparks of joy. As long as you keep providing sparks of joy, I love you\u2014not because of you\u2014but because of the joy sparks\u2019; right? It wasn\u2019t really about me loving her; it was about me loving <em>me<\/em>.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s really the observation I came away with. When I\u2019m saying, \u201cDoes my marriage please me?\u201d then that says, \u201cI love you as long as you please <em>me<\/em>.\u201d I realized, \u201cI love you,\u201d really means, \u201cI love <em>me<\/em>.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, listen to me here\u2014some of you have never moved out of this phase in your marriage. Some of you, the most dominant question you\u2019re asking in your marriage, day in and day out, is: \u201cAm I pleased with this marriage? Does this marriage make me happy?\u201d If that\u2019s the fundamental question that you\u2019re asking, you\u2019re trying to build your marriage on the wrong foundation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThree questions you can ask yourself, as we think about this Phase One of marriage: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNumber one: \u201cWhen you say, \u2018I love my spouse,\u2019 do you really mean, \u2018I love the sparks when he or she provides them\u2019? Is it really me I love, or is it this other person I love? Do I love what I <em>get<\/em> or do I love the person?\u201d\u2014that\u2019s question number one.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tQuestion number two: \u201cWhen I think about the health of our marriage, do I gravitate toward the question, \u2018How does this make me feel?\u2019 Do I think that a strong marriage is built on a foundation of dessert?\u2014right? Do I have the wrong foundation?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen the third question is\u2014keep in mind, sparks of joy are an important part of a marriage; they can\u2019t be the foundation\u2014but if your marriage hasn\u2019t sparked joy in awhile, ask yourself the question: \u201cWhat could we do that would bring some sparks of joy? What are some things that could bring that back into a marriage?\u201d\u2014because it needs to be a part of your marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere\u2019s the point: it needs to be a part; it can\u2019t be the foundation. You can\u2019t build on it; it has to be the <em>dessert<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOkay; so that brought me to Phase Two. I can\u2019t tell you the time or the place\u2014there wasn\u2019t a circumstance\u2014I don\u2019t have a story of when I woke up and realized, \u201cOh, I shouldn\u2019t be building my marriage on self-centered, self-feeling kinds of stuff.\u201d But I did start reading my Bible, and I started reading verses like this\u2014Philippians 2 says: \u201cDo nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others as more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.\u201d I read that and thought: \u201cOkay; if I apply that to marriage, then I should be considering Mary Ann as more important than me. I shouldn\u2019t just be looking out for my own interests; I should be looking out for <em>her<\/em> interests as well.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen I read in Romans 12, where it says, \u201cLove one another with brotherly affection; outdo one another in showing honor.\u201d \u201cOkay; my job is to <em>outdo<\/em> her in showing honor to her.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen I got to Ephesians 5\u2014and you know, guys, where it says, \u201cHusbands, love your wives as Christ loves the church and gave Himself up for her,\u201d\u2014and I thought: \u201cOkay; so I get the picture here. I\u2019m to <em>die<\/em> to self. I\u2019m not to be asking the question, \u2018Does this please me?\u2019 I should be asking the question: \u2018Does this please her?\u2019 \u2018Am I doing what God wants me to do for <em>her<\/em>?\u2019 \u2018Am I dying to self and living for <em>her<\/em>?\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis is Phase Two. I think of this as the Spouse-First Phase of a marriage relationship, where you start putting your spouse first. Hear me\u2014the Bible does speak to this\u2014it says you are supposed to honor one another; you are supposed to die to self; you are supposed to do nothing from selfishness\u2014so this is a part of what the Bible teaches; but it\u2019s not the whole truth. There\u2019s a problem in Phase Two, when you go from saying, \u201cAm I happy?\u201d to saying, \u201cIs my spouse happy?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, follow me here\u2014if you\u2019re in Phase One, and you keep asking, \u201cAm I happy?\u201d it\u2019s a good next step to get to a place, where you\u2019re saying, \u201cNo; I should be thinking about my spouse instead.\u201d That\u2019s <em>growth<\/em>; that <em>progress<\/em>\u2014you\u2019re moving in the right direction; you just haven\u2019t arrived when you get to Phase Two.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, we\u2019ve been listening to a message from the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise. It feels like we need cliffhanger music here; you know?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>I know.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cWill Bob make it to Phase Three? [Laughter] Does he find where he\u2019s supposed to get to in marriage?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think all of us can look back and say, \u201cYes; we started marriage with that kind of a self-focus.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>What percentage of people do you think start like that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Oh, it has to be in the 90s.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>That\u2019s what I\u2019m thinking\u201490 percent somewhere.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>Yes; it has to be. I remember\u2014it\u2019s sort of funny; long story short\u2014I ended up playing in a golf outing or a charity. I ended up with these three people that I didn\u2019t know; and two of them were married\u2014not to each other\u2014but their spouses were working the tournament. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLong story short, this lady comes up to me on the tenth hole and she says, \u201cJohn over here said that you\u2019re a marriage expert.\u201d I go, \u201cWhat are you talking about?\u201d \u201cI guess you speak about marriage, and you write and\u2026\u201d I go, \u201cI\u2019m not a marriage expert.\u201d She goes, \u201cAnyway, I have a question for you.\u201d She goes, \u201cI\u2019m in my second marriage.\u201d She goes, \u201cWhat\u2019s the problem with marriage?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, I\u2019m standing on this\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014the tenth hole.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>\u2014green; right? I don\u2019t know this lady. I have a minute to answer this question, maybe. I look at her and I go, \u201cWell, I can answer that with one word: \u2018selfishness.\u2019\u201d She looks at me and she goes: \u201cYou are <em>so<\/em> right! My first husband was <em>so<\/em> selfish!\u201d [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can\u2019t make this stuff up! I just looked at her and I go, \u201cI\u2019m not talking about your first husband.\u201d I took my finger and I said, \u201cI\u2019m talking about <em>you<\/em>,\u201d and then I turned the finger toward me and I said, \u201cI\u2019m talking about <em>me<\/em>.\u201d At that point, she was like, \u201cYou\u2019re selfish, too?\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cWe\u2019re <em>all<\/em> selfish, and we bring that into our marriage.\u201d That\u2019s what you were getting at!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave: <\/strong>I mean, that first phase is like\u2014you want to be selfless; but man, it\u2019s in there; and we\u2019re just selfish.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Well, what I\u2019m intrigued about is\u2014you say, \u201cTake the focus off of yourself and please your spouse.\u201d Most people would think: \u201cGoodness, just to do <em>that<\/em>, alone, is this feat,\u201d and \u201cNow, you\u2019re saying there\u2019s <em>more<\/em>.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; getting to Phase Two is a significant next step, like we said.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>But it\u2019s not the end of the journey. If you get stuck in Phase Two, there can be problems when you say, \u201cIt\u2019s all about my spouse,\u201d just like there are problems if you say, \u201cIt\u2019s all about me.\u201d We\u2019re going to hear more about that tomorrow. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe should mention, here, that the 2020 <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise, as we said earlier, is almost sold out. If you\u2019d like to join us, Valentine\u2019s week, February 11<sup>th<\/sup> through the 17<sup>th<\/sup>, find out more about the cruise when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com; call to register at 1-800-FL-TODAY. If you register this week, as a <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listener, you\u2019ll save $300 per couple off the cost of your cabin\/your stateroom; and there are some additional perks thrown in. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe expect the cruise will be completely sold out by the end of June, so this is our \u201cCountdown to Sellout.\u201d We\u2019d love to have you join us. Again, find out more when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com; or call if you have any questions about the cruise or if you\u2019re ready to register: 1-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-FL-TODAY. Get in touch with us and book your cabin for the 2020 <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> tenth anniversary cruise. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid Robbins, who\u2019s the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, is here with me. I know one of the things that excites you about this cruise is that couples, not only have a great time, but they <em>leave<\/em> the cruise with kind of a fresh wind in their sails to carry help and hope back to their friends and their neighbors.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>David: <\/strong>Yes; you get together for this long\u2014and God\u2019s working in your own marriage, and you\u2019re getting poured into, and when transformation happens\u2014you can\u2019t help but begin to let others know about the things that [you\u2019re] learning. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI <em>love<\/em> it when we get back stories and comments from people, who have gone on the cruise and they said, \u201cHey, I got off the boat; and I started sharing with my neighbors\u201d or \u201c\u2026my small group the things that they were learning.\u201d All of a sudden, it\u2019s birthed all sorts of conversations and impact that those couples have been having. We <em>love<\/em> seeing people go from isolation to impact.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; they leave the cruise and start <em>Art of Marriage<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> groups, or <em>Art of Parenting<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> groups, or they start recommending <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> podcasts to friends\u2014whatever it is. And all of that because they just had an amazing week, where God poured into them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, if you join us on the cruise this year, we\u2019d love to have you. Information\u2019s available at FamilyLifeToday.com. You can call to book your cabin at 1-800-FL-TODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we\u2019re going to hear about the ultimate destination we should be headed to in our marriage. If it\u2019s not all about pleasing <em>me<\/em> or all about pleasing <em>you<\/em>, what is it all about? We\u2019ll hear about that tomorrow. 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