{"id":304995,"date":"2019-05-03T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2019-05-03T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/being-your-mans-cheerleader\/"},"modified":"2019-05-03T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2019-05-03T15:00:00","slug":"being-your-mans-cheerleader","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/being-your-mans-cheerleader\/","title":{"rendered":"Being Your Man&#8217;s Cheerleader"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>guest: Brian Tome | Series: The Five Marks of a Man | Pastor Brian Tome, author of &#8220;Five Marks of a Man,&#8221; talks to wives about the importance of encouraging their husbands. He also reminds men of their calling to lay down their lives for their wives. Tome shares what he&#8217;s done to nurture and love his wife, and tells women what affirmation does for a man.<\/p>\n<p>Show Notes and Resources<\/p>\n<p> \tFind resources at https:\/\/shop.familylife.com\/.<br \/>\n \tHelp FamilyLife\u00ae continue to produce our radio and podcast programs by\u00a0visiting https:\/\/donate.familylife.com\/legacy-partner\/.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Pastor Brian Tome talks to wives about the importance of encouraging their husbands. 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Here\u2019s Pastor Brian Tome.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Stereotypical masculinity is part of the problem. We shouldn\u2019t be focusing on the veneer of the chosen pursuits or hobbies of a specific man. This is a character discussion. It\u2019s a worldview discussion. It\u2019s an aspiration for your life discussion\u2014not whether or not you want to wear flannel or cotton.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Friday, May 3<sup>rd<\/sup>. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. What should we think about when we think about manliness and masculinity? We\u2019ll spend some time with Pastor Brian Tome talking about that today. Stay with us.\n\nAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. So, have you just, all week, kind of been going\u2014\u201cYes! Yes! Yes! Say more\u201d? Have you had that going on inside of you?\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I don\u2019t sound that bad when I do it, Bob; but yes, I\u2019ve been sort of testosteroned up and excited to bring this topic into the listeners ears. This is an important, critical topic\u2014I\u2019m talking about boys becoming men.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We\u2019ve got Brian Tome joining us this week to talk about that subject. He\u2019s written a book called <em>The Five Marks of a Man<\/em>. Brian, welcome back.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Thank you, Bob. It\u2019s an honor to be here.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Brian is the pastor at Crossroads Church in Cincinnati, Ohio, with 14 campuses and a lot of ministry going on in Ohio\u2014a lot of ministry. In fact, you alluded to this already this week. Ministry to homeless folks, ministry to poor\u2014you do some stuff with community outreach at Thanksgiving that\u2019s pretty remarkable.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Yes, I think we had 100,000 meals this last year that we were able to feed people with. We believe that the church needs to be a blessing. By the way, we\u2019re not just in Cincinnati. We\u2019re in Lexington, in Dayton, in Columbus, and making some in roads into Indiana. So, it\u2019s kind of a national movement right now that we\u2019re trying to just see what God wants to do.\n\nWe believe that we are here to be a blessing. Genesis 12:2\u2014the original call to Abraham was: \u201cThrough you, all people will be blessed.\u201d So, I believe every local church should be a blessing and be perceived to be a blessing by everybody in their community.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I\u2019m just curious, Ann. Does it make you nervous at all when guys like your husband and Brian get together, and they start to resonate with what we\u2019ve been talking about? Does a part of that scare you a little bit?\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Honestly, I love it. I\u2019ve raised three sons, and the men are looking for role models. They are looking for answers. They are looking for hope. They\u2019re looking for inspiration. So, I kind of sit back here and applaud.\n\nI think what other women feel, though, is: \u201cI wish\u2014I wish my husband was like that,\u201d \u201cI wish my husband had some vision,\u201d \u201cI wish my husband was doing more with the kids,\u201d \u201cI wish. I wish\u201d; and we don\u2019t know what to do with those wishes. Like, if we say, \u201cHey, maybe, you could\u2026,\u201d that feels disrespectful for a man. So, I think a lot of women\u2014we\u2019ve almost done more harm because they feel like\u2014our men can feel like failures.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But what about the wife who is married to a guy who doesn\u2019t go bow hunting and ride motorcycles but the guy who likes to come home and read a book or\u2014you know, he\u2019s\u2014\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Finger-paint. [Laughter]\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> No, no, I\u2019m serious. Being a man is not about hunting. There are incredibly masculine, manly men who finger-paint and do caravans. It\u2019s a bummer that this discussion\u2014\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> \u2014is just only happening on that level on the surface veneer of what\u2019s classical man.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Okay.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; like an artist.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Absolutely.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, totally.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> The men who built the temple were artistic men that were gifted by God, and they were manly men, I\u2019m sure.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But if a guy is quiet and mild-mannered and, maybe, a little introverted and wife goes\u2014\u201cI wish he were a little more [grunting] than he is\u201d\u2014what should she do with that?\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think if she married that man, then she probably was attracted to him; you know? He\u2019s more introverted and quiet. That doesn\u2019t mean that he can\u2019t lead, he can\u2019t love God, and he can\u2019t lead as a man in their home. So, I just think it\u2019s a perspective.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> The five marks that you talk about in the book, <em>The Five Marks of a Man<\/em>\u2014a man having a vision instead of living day to day\u2014you can be a quiet guy and still have a vision; right?\n\n<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Absolutely right.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> A guy who is a team player and not trying to be the MVP\u2014you can be a quiet guy and still be a team player.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> It happens all the time.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> A guy who is working and not playing \/ a guy who takes life seriously instead of saying, \u201cIt\u2019s all about my pleasure,\u201d again, that can be a quiet guy.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Completely.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> A guy who has the courage to take a minority position and say, \u201cI\u2019m going to stand here even if the culture is going another direction\u201d\u2014again, that can be a strong and quiet man.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Yes; some of the most vociferous people are just articulating what the masses are saying; but they are trying to say it in a much more loud and offensive way.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> A guy who is a protector and not a predator\u2014again, that can be a guy who is a strong and, yet, quiet guy. So, we\u2019re not talking about stereotypical masculinity as we talk about the five marks of a man. We\u2019re talking about something that\u2019s anchored in how God\u2019s made us.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Stereotypical masculinity is part of the problem. We shouldn\u2019t be focusing on the veneer of the chosen pursuits or hobbies of a specific man. This is a character discussion. It\u2019s a worldview discussion. It\u2019s an aspiration for your life discussion\u2014not whether or not you want to wear flannel or cotton.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Let me ask you about this idea that a man is a team player instead of wanting to be the MVP because the guy who is the MVP\u2014whoever gets it in the NBA this year \/ whoever is the MVP in the NFL\u2014I mean we look at those guys and go\u2014\u201cThat\u2019s a man right there.\u201d\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Yes; that\u2019s a man right there; but if they\u2019re the MVP, they\u2019re probably elevating their team. It\u2019s not that you can\u2019t be an MVP. It\u2019s not that you can\u2019t be a leader in your field. It\u2019s the going into it you want to have a team attitude.\n\nClassic example is: \u201cHow many kids in youth football were amazing quarterbacks and went on to be amazing quarterbacks but they were stuck on the O-line because they were the largest kid there?\u201d If their dad had his wits about him, he said, \u201cSon, you\u2019re going to play line. You\u2019re eight years old right now. You\u2019re going to play line. We\u2019ll figure that out later.\u201d That\u2019s a team attitude versus\u2014\u201cNo, my son is not going to be here unless he\u2019s handling the ball.\u201d It\u2019s a team attitude.\n\nHow our churches are run\u2014we have to say, \u201cWait, am I operating this model where there\u2019s supposedly one guy who goes up in the mountain and he hears from God and then comes down and says, \u2018This is what the Lord has said\u2019? Or am I operating a team-context where God is speaking to a bunch of people, and I\u2019ve got to lead through that maze?\u201d\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You\u2019ve been a part of teams pretty much all of your life.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> As you listen to this, you understand that there\u2019s a differentiation between a guy who comes to the team sport and says, \u201cI want the ball. I want it to be about me,\u201d and somebody else who says, \u201cWe\u2019ve got something bigger going on here.\u201d\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It\u2019s funny. We\u2019re talking about a quarterback and MVP, and I was both of those\u2014you know\u2014high school \/ college\u2014the whole thing\u2014MVP at both places; but here is the thing. When I was that guy, it was about me. I was a boy. I didn\u2019t know that at the time, and it wasn\u2019t until I understood what a man was\u2014sort of similar journey to Brian\u2019s\u2014from Scripture that reshifted my whole focus.\n\nIt\u2019s never about me. It\u2019s about us. It\u2019s actually, as a man\u2014and that\u2019s one of your big marks\u2014is: \u201cI need to be a team player which means I need men in my life, I need to be active in their lives, and I need them active in my life.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> The most important team we\u2019re ever going to be on is our marriage.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Why do marriages go down? It\u2019s always because one or both people think they are the most valuable person. Marriage isn\u2019t a 50 \/ 50 thing. It\u2019s a 100 \/ 100 thing. As men, we\u2019ve got to\u2014I think my Bible still says, \u201cLay down your life for your wife as Christ died for the church.\u201d Why would you do that? It\u2019s a team move. It\u2019s a team move. When you choose to not have the final word in the argument, that\u2019s a team move.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Brian, you started this huge church. It\u2019s a megachurch. How did that affect your marriage; and how, now, do you keep your marriage a priority?\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Yes; the truth is: It affected us very intensely and very negatively. Very intensely, possibly, because\u2014you know we never doubt that God is using us in our marriage; and we have great people around us; and drinking from the well of something that\u2019s big and growing; and I\u2019m at the center of it; and all of these people like what I said, and let\u2019s see\u2014\u201cHow many people like the comment I just tweeted about?\u201d There is a constant, constant draw.\n\nSo, for many people in my position, the discussion we have with our wives is\u2014be real honest about it\u2014our wives become the mistress, and our church becomes the lover because we\u2019re getting most of our validation through what we\u2019re doing at church.\n\nSo, I understand the guy in business or the guy who starts his own business and his whole manhood is tied up in the success, and he can\u2019t get away from it because I\u2019m ashamed to say, \u201cI\u2019ve done the same thing in the spiritual endeavor that I\u2019m in\u201d; but the wise thing we have is that when I do mess up, there\u2019s a place of grace to come back to.\n\nSo, if you look at the 22 years that Lib and I have been at the post, there is probably been\u2014oh, I don\u2019t know\u2014three eras in those 22 years that were probably like\u2014\u201cDanger, Will Robinson! Things are really, really not good here.\u201d Fortunately, we\u2019ve been able to pull back, and part of how we\u2019ve done that is the team that is surrounding us.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; talk about that. I was thinking, \u201cThere has to be men in your life, as you are a team player, that have helped you in your marriage and your life. How do they help? How do they speak into you? What role do they play?\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Well, first of all, they\u2019ve got to know. We tend to not tell people what\u2019s going on.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> You have to get to a place where you\u2019re okay looking weak because the things that we talk about that are not going well, we\u2019re always going to look weak; but if you don\u2019t look weak and you don\u2019t admit that you are weak and talk about the thing that you\u2019re struggling with, you can\u2019t get help from other people\u2014whatever that thing is.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I love that you are saying that because Dave has always said that to me. He said, \u201cWith your group of girlfriends \/ your friends \/ your close friends, you can tell them I\u2019m an idiot because it\u2019s true. So, feel the freedom to tell anything about me that you want and about us.\u201d I think there are a lot of people in ministry that are afraid to do that because they are afraid of what people will think.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You\u2019ve got a reputation you\u2019ve got to\u2014\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Exactly; withhold.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014you\u2019ve got to protect.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Well, let\u2019s not forget here that men in America are at a massive deficit because we don\u2019t have this modeled anywhere. Women have it modeled for them what it looks like to go to lunch \/ what it looks like to talk with their friends. Male circles in America\u2014we <em>never<\/em> saw our dad do it. I never saw my dad with a friend.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> I never saw my dad take a weekend away with buddies. So, it wasn\u2019t in the culture ethos. By the way, this is not a man-thing. This is an American man-thing. When I go over to other countries\u2014whether it be India\u2014men are literally hanging all over each other, hugging each other, sitting on each other\u2019s laps. Here we can\u2019t do that because it\u2019s\u2014ooh, it sends the wrong message. We have everything, culturally, going against us to help us as men understand what intimacy is with men. So, we\u2019re generation scratch. We\u2019re trying to figure it out right now because we haven\u2019t seen it before.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, let me jump back into the question Dave was asking about those two or three times in your marriage when somebody had to throw the flag and say, \u201cTime out. There\u2019s a penalty going on here.\u201d How did your wife get your attention to the fact that this was serious?\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Well, one, it\u2019s in the book. I came across email communication of a guy who was hitting on her. That situation\u2014by the way, when that happens, you recognize that it\u2019s probably because there is an emotional and, perhaps, physical things that I\u2019m not meeting in her that are making her vulnerable. That\u2019s a tough pill to swallow. That\u2019s a really, really tough pill to swallow. You\u2019ve got to help put that together in your own mind and having other guys lean into. So, sometimes, you bump up into a crisis.\n\nSometimes, you just look in your wife\u2019s eyes, and you realize, \u201cShe\u2019s not all there. She\u2019s really not.\u201d\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> So, when that happens, what have you done?\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Well, you\u2019ve got to step back and just do a life rewrite. So, we\u2019re actually in one of those right now. We\u2014I said three eras. We\u2019re right now in third of those of three eras. Actually, we\u2019re doing really well right now. We\u2019ve made a lot, a lot of ground here over the last portion of time; but you say, \u201cDate nights\u201d\u2014those are going to be religious. Thursday nights\u2014those are going to be\u2014we are going to do date nights. You also say, \u201cOkay, if we are hurting here, I\u2019m going to spend a lot of money on this.\u201d\n\nIt\u2019s amazing\u2014one of our kids comes into drug rehab. We find all kinds of money to throw at the drug rehab; or if something else happens, we find money; but when it comes to investing in our marriage, we tend to not find money for that. We just took a weekend trip to New York City, and it was very, very expensive. That\u2019s not the first place where I would put my recreational dollars. I\u2019d put it someplace else; but that\u2019s where she wanted to go. It afforded us amazing, amazing conversation; but it would not have happened if we had not invested in it.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Let me just say to that\u2014investing in counseling. I mean I know people will think, \u201cWait, the pastor of the church\u2014he and his wife are going to counseling. What\u2019s wrong?\u201d Well, what\u2019s wrong is your trying to keep your marriage where it needs to be, and marriages get out of alignment. Your car gets out of alignment. You take it in and say, \u201cHey, this needs to be fixed.\u201d Nobody goes\u2014\u201cSo, what\u2019s wrong? Your car got out of alignment.\u201d Cars get out of alignment.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Everything does.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s right.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I mean our lives do, and I can\u2019t tell you\u2014Bob, you know this. Brian, I\u2019m sure you do as well. The number of times I\u2019ve spoken at a marriage conference\u2014<em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>\u2014and a couple will come up, and they\u2019re loving the weekend. God\u2019s doing something in their marriage, and I\u2019ll say, \u201cHow many have you been to?\u201d \u201cOh, we haven\u2019t ever been away in our entire marriage like this.\u201d I\u2019m like\u2014\u201cWell, how long have you been married?\u201d \u201c25 years.\u201d\n\nI literally look at them and go\u2014\u201cThat\u2019s wrong; you know?\u201d They get offended. I\u2019m like\u2014\u201cYou need to do this! You haven\u2019t been away from your kids in 20 years?!\u201d They\u2019re just\u2014\u201cYes.\u201d \u201cWhy?\u201d It\u2019s not\u2014\u201cIt cost money.\u201d\n\nBy the way, I\u2019d say to the men out there, you do this. Don\u2019t just wait for your wife to make this happen. You take a manhood position and say, \u201cHoney, I\u2019m taking you away. I know you don\u2019t even want to go. We can\u2019t leave the kids. I\u2019ve got the sitters. I\u2019ve got it all set up. We\u2019re going because I want to pour into our marriage.\u201d Would a wife go nuts on that? Yes; she\u2019d jump upside down.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Let\u2019s say a woman longs for all of this. She longs for her husband to lead, to love, to serve, to\u2014all of that. She\u2019s like\u2014\u201cYes; yes.\u201d Give her some tips of what she can do to motivate her husband. Can she, or is that just something she just needs to pray about?\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Men ultimately have to have a burn inside of them that makes them want to improve and go further. We can\u2019t give them that burn. We can\u2019t give women that burn. We all have to have that burn. If he does have a burn to go forward and if you as a woman \/ as a wife want to prod him along in that journey, there has to be such a thick bedrock foundation of him resting secure in that you are a hyper-fan of his\u2014just a fan of his. He\u2019s got to just know that\u2014\u201cSun-up \/ sun-down, my wife is a fan of mine. She loves me.\u201d\n\nI think this is why. Ephesians says, \u201cWives, respect your husbands.\u201d Husbands have to feel like their wife respects them. So, if that coaching is coming out of a sense of disrespect, he\u2019s never going to hear it.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We have a mutual friend, Robyn Mckelvy, who speaks at our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways with her husband Ray. You guys remember this. In the <em>Art of Marriage<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> video series\u2014\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014she says, \u201cWhen she was in high school, she was a cheerleader.\u201d She said, \u201cOut team was a terrible team.\u201d She said, \u201cThey\u2019d be down my four touchdowns in the fourth quarter.\u201d She said, \u201cYou know what we were doing? We were still on the sidelines going\u2014\u2018You can do it! You\u2019ve got it\u2019\u201d\u2014doing the whole dance and cheering them on\u2014\u201cThe game is lost, and we\u2019re still cheering them on.\u201d\n\nShe said, \u201cI realized when I got married, I took off my wedding dress, and I put on a cheerleader uniform. My job in my marriage and in my family is to cheer the team on even when they\u2019re losing\u2014to say, \u2018You can do it. You\u2019ve got it. Come on!\u2019\u201d\n\nA cheerleader can\u2019t control how the team plays, and wife can\u2019t control what her husband does; but there is something about hearing somebody on the sidelines cheering for you that causes you to play a little harder.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> This is an across gender expectation. Men should be doing the same thing for their wives.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s right.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I love it.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> We, women, don\u2019t realize the power and influence we have over men. That\u2019s a big, powerful influence.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, this has been helpful, I think, for all of us\u2014for the guys who have been listening and the wives who have been listening\u2014to just pull back and reflect on the fact that there is something good about men being men and about men stepping into and embracing and aspiring to godly masculinity.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I would add this: One of the first things a boy and a man has to do to know what a man is, is they have to have a vision of it. What does it look like? That\u2019s what this book gives you. It, literally, gives you a vision: This is what a man is. Now, I can pursue that.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Brian, thanks for writing the book. Thanks for being here.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> My pleasure. Thanks for having me.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> The book is called <em>Five Marks of a Man: Finding Your Path to Courageous Manhood<\/em>. We\u2019ve got copies in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You can order the book from us online or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to order. You may want to go through this book with other guys.\n\nGet a group together and go through it over the summer; or maybe, get other dads and\u2014if you\u2019ve got teenage sons, get dads and sons together\u2014high school age \/ college age sons. Plan ten nights this summer when you and your son and his friends and their dads all get together; go through a session a night in the ten-session <em>Stepping Up<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> video series that we\u2019ve created.\n\nThis is a great way for fathers and sons to interact about what it means to take responsibility \/ to step away from passivity \/ to step out of boyhood and to step into manhood\u2014a great summertime activity for dads and sons.\n\nOrder a copy of the <em>Stepping Up<\/em> video series when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to request a copy. Again, you can find information about the <em>Stepping Up<\/em> series or Brian Tome\u2019s book, <em>The Five Marks of a Man<\/em>, when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com. Order from us online, or call to order at 1-800-358-6329. That\u2019s 1-800- \u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\nYou know, as we\u2019ve heard Brian talk today about manhood, I was taping a podcast recently with a friend of mine; and he asked me about the subject of toxic masculinity\u2014\u201cAnd what would you say about toxic masculinity?\u201d I said, \u201cThe problem is not toxic masculinity. It\u2019s toxic humanity because whether we are men or women we can certainly display the wrong way to do things \/ the sinful way to do things in both our manhood and our womanhood.\u201d\n\nWe\u2019ve got the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> David Robbins here with us, and you\u2019ve made this observation. I\u2019ve heard you make this observation before about manhood and the fact that we need to be conforming our masculinity to what the Bible says.\n\n<strong>David:<\/strong> Yes. I mean the Son of God came, and we have a great model in Jesus. Here\u2019s the thing. We\u2019re not talking about this topic because wives and mothers are irrelevant or because men\u2019s roles are more important than women\u2019s. I mean, far from it.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\n<strong>David:<\/strong> We\u2019re talking about manhood because the cultural stereotypes of men bear almost no resemblance to the biblical picture of what manhood is.\n\nAt FamilyLife, we aren\u2019t interested in helping men fit into the molds of culture and what culture says being a man is about. We are passionate about helping men live out the values of manhood seen in the Scriptures.\n\nJesus doesn\u2019t fit many of our cultural stereotypes of masculinity; and yet, He showed a strength of purpose, of humility, and a commitment to the good of others that caused people to be drawn to Him and even flock to Him\u2014both men and women. Let\u2019s not forget that He repelled those who were threatened by purpose, humility, and kindness.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\n<strong>David:<\/strong> Jesus is the kind of man we need, personally, to get out of any of our toxic and sinful behaviors; and He is the kind of man we are hoping to help develop and model men after for the good of every family.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, as we said today, He created us male and female, and we need to embrace that and, then, live it out to the glory of God.\n\nSo, thank you for that, David.\n\nThis, by the way, is one of the things we are going to be talking to husbands about this weekend at our three <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways taking place in Atlanta, Georgia; Austin, Texas; and Reston, Virginia. Would you pray for the couples who will be in attendance; and Sunday morning, when we get the guys together and talk with them about being husbands, about being dads, and about being godly men? Just pray for the husbands and the wives who will a part of the getaway this weekend.\n\nIf you\u2019d like more information about upcoming getaways, you can go to FamilyLifeToday.com.\n\nThanks to those of you who make this daily radio program and these getaways and all that we do here at FamilyLife possible. When you donate to support this ministry, you are making it possible for more people, more regularly find practical, biblical help and hope for their marriages and for their families.\n\nDuring the month of May, we\u2019ve had some friends of the ministry who have offered to match every donation we receive dollar for dollar up to a total of 550,000 dollars. It\u2019s a very generous matching gift opportunity, and we hope to take full advantage of it.\n\nTo do that, we\u2019d like to ask those of you who are regular listeners to consider\u2014either making a one-time contribution, and that donation will be matched dollar for dollar; or consider becoming a Legacy Partner. A monthly Legacy Partner\u2014every donation you make over the next 12 months will be matched dollar for dollar until we have depleted that matching gift fund of 550,000 dollars.\n\nIn addition, as a new Legacy Partner, you will receive a certificate that entitles you as a couple or a couple you know to attend an upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway as our guests. It\u2019s our way of saying, \u201cThank you for your ongoing support of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u201d\n\nYou can donate or become a Legacy Partner online at FamilyLifeToday.com or call\u2014if you have any questions or if you\u2019d like to sign up or donate by phone, call 1-800-FL-TODAY. Thanks in advance for your support, and we hope you have a great weekend.\n\nI hope you and your family are able to worship together in your local church this weekend, and I hope you can join us on Monday. We\u2019re going to talk with Catherine Parks about the difference between superficial relationships and real relationships. How can we go deeper in our relationships with one another\u2014in marriage, outside of marriage, with our friends? How do we have stronger, deeper relationships? We\u2019ll talk about that Monday. Hope you can be with us for that.\n\nI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\n\n<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru<sup>\u00ae <\/sup>Ministry. Help for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\n<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\nWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. 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Brian Tome talks to wives about the importance of encouraging their husbands. He also reminds men of their calling to lay down their lives for their wives.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2019-05-03.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>When you think about what it is that makes a man a man, is your thinking shaped more by the culture or by what the Bible teaches? Here\u2019s Pastor Brian Tome.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Stereotypical masculinity is part of the problem. We shouldn\u2019t be focusing on the veneer of the chosen pursuits or hobbies of a specific man. This is a character discussion. It\u2019s a worldview discussion. It\u2019s an aspiration for your life discussion\u2014not whether or not you want to wear flannel or cotton.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Friday, May 3<sup>rd<\/sup>. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. What should we think about when we think about manliness and masculinity? We\u2019ll spend some time with Pastor Brian Tome talking about that today. Stay with us.\n\nAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. So, have you just, all week, kind of been going\u2014\u201cYes! Yes! Yes! Say more\u201d? Have you had that going on inside of you?\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I don\u2019t sound that bad when I do it, Bob; but yes, I\u2019ve been sort of testosteroned up and excited to bring this topic into the listeners ears. This is an important, critical topic\u2014I\u2019m talking about boys becoming men.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We\u2019ve got Brian Tome joining us this week to talk about that subject. He\u2019s written a book called <em>The Five Marks of a Man<\/em>. Brian, welcome back.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Thank you, Bob. It\u2019s an honor to be here.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Brian is the pastor at Crossroads Church in Cincinnati, Ohio, with 14 campuses and a lot of ministry going on in Ohio\u2014a lot of ministry. In fact, you alluded to this already this week. Ministry to homeless folks, ministry to poor\u2014you do some stuff with community outreach at Thanksgiving that\u2019s pretty remarkable.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Yes, I think we had 100,000 meals this last year that we were able to feed people with. We believe that the church needs to be a blessing. By the way, we\u2019re not just in Cincinnati. We\u2019re in Lexington, in Dayton, in Columbus, and making some in roads into Indiana. So, it\u2019s kind of a national movement right now that we\u2019re trying to just see what God wants to do.\n\nWe believe that we are here to be a blessing. Genesis 12:2\u2014the original call to Abraham was: \u201cThrough you, all people will be blessed.\u201d So, I believe every local church should be a blessing and be perceived to be a blessing by everybody in their community.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I\u2019m just curious, Ann. Does it make you nervous at all when guys like your husband and Brian get together, and they start to resonate with what we\u2019ve been talking about? Does a part of that scare you a little bit?\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Honestly, I love it. I\u2019ve raised three sons, and the men are looking for role models. They are looking for answers. They are looking for hope. They\u2019re looking for inspiration. So, I kind of sit back here and applaud.\n\nI think what other women feel, though, is: \u201cI wish\u2014I wish my husband was like that,\u201d \u201cI wish my husband had some vision,\u201d \u201cI wish my husband was doing more with the kids,\u201d \u201cI wish. I wish\u201d; and we don\u2019t know what to do with those wishes. Like, if we say, \u201cHey, maybe, you could\u2026,\u201d that feels disrespectful for a man. So, I think a lot of women\u2014we\u2019ve almost done more harm because they feel like\u2014our men can feel like failures.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But what about the wife who is married to a guy who doesn\u2019t go bow hunting and ride motorcycles but the guy who likes to come home and read a book or\u2014you know, he\u2019s\u2014\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Finger-paint. [Laughter]\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> No, no, I\u2019m serious. Being a man is not about hunting. There are incredibly masculine, manly men who finger-paint and do caravans. It\u2019s a bummer that this discussion\u2014\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> \u2014is just only happening on that level on the surface veneer of what\u2019s classical man.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Okay.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes; like an artist.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Absolutely.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, totally.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> The men who built the temple were artistic men that were gifted by God, and they were manly men, I\u2019m sure.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But if a guy is quiet and mild-mannered and, maybe, a little introverted and wife goes\u2014\u201cI wish he were a little more [grunting] than he is\u201d\u2014what should she do with that?\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think if she married that man, then she probably was attracted to him; you know? He\u2019s more introverted and quiet. That doesn\u2019t mean that he can\u2019t lead, he can\u2019t love God, and he can\u2019t lead as a man in their home. So, I just think it\u2019s a perspective.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> The five marks that you talk about in the book, <em>The Five Marks of a Man<\/em>\u2014a man having a vision instead of living day to day\u2014you can be a quiet guy and still have a vision; right?\n\n<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Absolutely right.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> A guy who is a team player and not trying to be the MVP\u2014you can be a quiet guy and still be a team player.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> It happens all the time.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> A guy who is working and not playing \/ a guy who takes life seriously instead of saying, \u201cIt\u2019s all about my pleasure,\u201d again, that can be a quiet guy.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Completely.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> A guy who has the courage to take a minority position and say, \u201cI\u2019m going to stand here even if the culture is going another direction\u201d\u2014again, that can be a strong and quiet man.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Yes; some of the most vociferous people are just articulating what the masses are saying; but they are trying to say it in a much more loud and offensive way.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> A guy who is a protector and not a predator\u2014again, that can be a guy who is a strong and, yet, quiet guy. So, we\u2019re not talking about stereotypical masculinity as we talk about the five marks of a man. We\u2019re talking about something that\u2019s anchored in how God\u2019s made us.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Stereotypical masculinity is part of the problem. We shouldn\u2019t be focusing on the veneer of the chosen pursuits or hobbies of a specific man. This is a character discussion. It\u2019s a worldview discussion. It\u2019s an aspiration for your life discussion\u2014not whether or not you want to wear flannel or cotton.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Let me ask you about this idea that a man is a team player instead of wanting to be the MVP because the guy who is the MVP\u2014whoever gets it in the NBA this year \/ whoever is the MVP in the NFL\u2014I mean we look at those guys and go\u2014\u201cThat\u2019s a man right there.\u201d\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Yes; that\u2019s a man right there; but if they\u2019re the MVP, they\u2019re probably elevating their team. It\u2019s not that you can\u2019t be an MVP. It\u2019s not that you can\u2019t be a leader in your field. It\u2019s the going into it you want to have a team attitude.\n\nClassic example is: \u201cHow many kids in youth football were amazing quarterbacks and went on to be amazing quarterbacks but they were stuck on the O-line because they were the largest kid there?\u201d If their dad had his wits about him, he said, \u201cSon, you\u2019re going to play line. You\u2019re eight years old right now. You\u2019re going to play line. We\u2019ll figure that out later.\u201d That\u2019s a team attitude versus\u2014\u201cNo, my son is not going to be here unless he\u2019s handling the ball.\u201d It\u2019s a team attitude.\n\nHow our churches are run\u2014we have to say, \u201cWait, am I operating this model where there\u2019s supposedly one guy who goes up in the mountain and he hears from God and then comes down and says, \u2018This is what the Lord has said\u2019? Or am I operating a team-context where God is speaking to a bunch of people, and I\u2019ve got to lead through that maze?\u201d\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You\u2019ve been a part of teams pretty much all of your life.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> As you listen to this, you understand that there\u2019s a differentiation between a guy who comes to the team sport and says, \u201cI want the ball. I want it to be about me,\u201d and somebody else who says, \u201cWe\u2019ve got something bigger going on here.\u201d\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It\u2019s funny. We\u2019re talking about a quarterback and MVP, and I was both of those\u2014you know\u2014high school \/ college\u2014the whole thing\u2014MVP at both places; but here is the thing. When I was that guy, it was about me. I was a boy. I didn\u2019t know that at the time, and it wasn\u2019t until I understood what a man was\u2014sort of similar journey to Brian\u2019s\u2014from Scripture that reshifted my whole focus.\n\nIt\u2019s never about me. It\u2019s about us. It\u2019s actually, as a man\u2014and that\u2019s one of your big marks\u2014is: \u201cI need to be a team player which means I need men in my life, I need to be active in their lives, and I need them active in my life.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> The most important team we\u2019re ever going to be on is our marriage.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Why do marriages go down? It\u2019s always because one or both people think they are the most valuable person. Marriage isn\u2019t a 50 \/ 50 thing. It\u2019s a 100 \/ 100 thing. As men, we\u2019ve got to\u2014I think my Bible still says, \u201cLay down your life for your wife as Christ died for the church.\u201d Why would you do that? It\u2019s a team move. It\u2019s a team move. When you choose to not have the final word in the argument, that\u2019s a team move.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Brian, you started this huge church. It\u2019s a megachurch. How did that affect your marriage; and how, now, do you keep your marriage a priority?\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Yes; the truth is: It affected us very intensely and very negatively. Very intensely, possibly, because\u2014you know we never doubt that God is using us in our marriage; and we have great people around us; and drinking from the well of something that\u2019s big and growing; and I\u2019m at the center of it; and all of these people like what I said, and let\u2019s see\u2014\u201cHow many people like the comment I just tweeted about?\u201d There is a constant, constant draw.\n\nSo, for many people in my position, the discussion we have with our wives is\u2014be real honest about it\u2014our wives become the mistress, and our church becomes the lover because we\u2019re getting most of our validation through what we\u2019re doing at church.\n\nSo, I understand the guy in business or the guy who starts his own business and his whole manhood is tied up in the success, and he can\u2019t get away from it because I\u2019m ashamed to say, \u201cI\u2019ve done the same thing in the spiritual endeavor that I\u2019m in\u201d; but the wise thing we have is that when I do mess up, there\u2019s a place of grace to come back to.\n\nSo, if you look at the 22 years that Lib and I have been at the post, there is probably been\u2014oh, I don\u2019t know\u2014three eras in those 22 years that were probably like\u2014\u201cDanger, Will Robinson! Things are really, really not good here.\u201d Fortunately, we\u2019ve been able to pull back, and part of how we\u2019ve done that is the team that is surrounding us.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; talk about that. I was thinking, \u201cThere has to be men in your life, as you are a team player, that have helped you in your marriage and your life. How do they help? How do they speak into you? What role do they play?\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Well, first of all, they\u2019ve got to know. We tend to not tell people what\u2019s going on.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> You have to get to a place where you\u2019re okay looking weak because the things that we talk about that are not going well, we\u2019re always going to look weak; but if you don\u2019t look weak and you don\u2019t admit that you are weak and talk about the thing that you\u2019re struggling with, you can\u2019t get help from other people\u2014whatever that thing is.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I love that you are saying that because Dave has always said that to me. He said, \u201cWith your group of girlfriends \/ your friends \/ your close friends, you can tell them I\u2019m an idiot because it\u2019s true. So, feel the freedom to tell anything about me that you want and about us.\u201d I think there are a lot of people in ministry that are afraid to do that because they are afraid of what people will think.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You\u2019ve got a reputation you\u2019ve got to\u2014\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Exactly; withhold.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014you\u2019ve got to protect.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Well, let\u2019s not forget here that men in America are at a massive deficit because we don\u2019t have this modeled anywhere. Women have it modeled for them what it looks like to go to lunch \/ what it looks like to talk with their friends. Male circles in America\u2014we <em>never<\/em> saw our dad do it. I never saw my dad with a friend.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> I never saw my dad take a weekend away with buddies. So, it wasn\u2019t in the culture ethos. By the way, this is not a man-thing. This is an American man-thing. When I go over to other countries\u2014whether it be India\u2014men are literally hanging all over each other, hugging each other, sitting on each other\u2019s laps. Here we can\u2019t do that because it\u2019s\u2014ooh, it sends the wrong message. We have everything, culturally, going against us to help us as men understand what intimacy is with men. So, we\u2019re generation scratch. We\u2019re trying to figure it out right now because we haven\u2019t seen it before.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, let me jump back into the question Dave was asking about those two or three times in your marriage when somebody had to throw the flag and say, \u201cTime out. There\u2019s a penalty going on here.\u201d How did your wife get your attention to the fact that this was serious?\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Well, one, it\u2019s in the book. I came across email communication of a guy who was hitting on her. That situation\u2014by the way, when that happens, you recognize that it\u2019s probably because there is an emotional and, perhaps, physical things that I\u2019m not meeting in her that are making her vulnerable. That\u2019s a tough pill to swallow. That\u2019s a really, really tough pill to swallow. You\u2019ve got to help put that together in your own mind and having other guys lean into. So, sometimes, you bump up into a crisis.\n\nSometimes, you just look in your wife\u2019s eyes, and you realize, \u201cShe\u2019s not all there. She\u2019s really not.\u201d\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> So, when that happens, what have you done?\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Well, you\u2019ve got to step back and just do a life rewrite. So, we\u2019re actually in one of those right now. We\u2014I said three eras. We\u2019re right now in third of those of three eras. Actually, we\u2019re doing really well right now. We\u2019ve made a lot, a lot of ground here over the last portion of time; but you say, \u201cDate nights\u201d\u2014those are going to be religious. Thursday nights\u2014those are going to be\u2014we are going to do date nights. You also say, \u201cOkay, if we are hurting here, I\u2019m going to spend a lot of money on this.\u201d\n\nIt\u2019s amazing\u2014one of our kids comes into drug rehab. We find all kinds of money to throw at the drug rehab; or if something else happens, we find money; but when it comes to investing in our marriage, we tend to not find money for that. We just took a weekend trip to New York City, and it was very, very expensive. That\u2019s not the first place where I would put my recreational dollars. I\u2019d put it someplace else; but that\u2019s where she wanted to go. It afforded us amazing, amazing conversation; but it would not have happened if we had not invested in it.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Let me just say to that\u2014investing in counseling. I mean I know people will think, \u201cWait, the pastor of the church\u2014he and his wife are going to counseling. What\u2019s wrong?\u201d Well, what\u2019s wrong is your trying to keep your marriage where it needs to be, and marriages get out of alignment. Your car gets out of alignment. You take it in and say, \u201cHey, this needs to be fixed.\u201d Nobody goes\u2014\u201cSo, what\u2019s wrong? Your car got out of alignment.\u201d Cars get out of alignment.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Everything does.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s right.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I mean our lives do, and I can\u2019t tell you\u2014Bob, you know this. Brian, I\u2019m sure you do as well. The number of times I\u2019ve spoken at a marriage conference\u2014<em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>\u2014and a couple will come up, and they\u2019re loving the weekend. God\u2019s doing something in their marriage, and I\u2019ll say, \u201cHow many have you been to?\u201d \u201cOh, we haven\u2019t ever been away in our entire marriage like this.\u201d I\u2019m like\u2014\u201cWell, how long have you been married?\u201d \u201c25 years.\u201d\n\nI literally look at them and go\u2014\u201cThat\u2019s wrong; you know?\u201d They get offended. I\u2019m like\u2014\u201cYou need to do this! You haven\u2019t been away from your kids in 20 years?!\u201d They\u2019re just\u2014\u201cYes.\u201d \u201cWhy?\u201d It\u2019s not\u2014\u201cIt cost money.\u201d\n\nBy the way, I\u2019d say to the men out there, you do this. Don\u2019t just wait for your wife to make this happen. You take a manhood position and say, \u201cHoney, I\u2019m taking you away. I know you don\u2019t even want to go. We can\u2019t leave the kids. I\u2019ve got the sitters. I\u2019ve got it all set up. We\u2019re going because I want to pour into our marriage.\u201d Would a wife go nuts on that? Yes; she\u2019d jump upside down.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Let\u2019s say a woman longs for all of this. She longs for her husband to lead, to love, to serve, to\u2014all of that. She\u2019s like\u2014\u201cYes; yes.\u201d Give her some tips of what she can do to motivate her husband. Can she, or is that just something she just needs to pray about?\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> Men ultimately have to have a burn inside of them that makes them want to improve and go further. We can\u2019t give them that burn. We can\u2019t give women that burn. We all have to have that burn. If he does have a burn to go forward and if you as a woman \/ as a wife want to prod him along in that journey, there has to be such a thick bedrock foundation of him resting secure in that you are a hyper-fan of his\u2014just a fan of his. He\u2019s got to just know that\u2014\u201cSun-up \/ sun-down, my wife is a fan of mine. She loves me.\u201d\n\nI think this is why. Ephesians says, \u201cWives, respect your husbands.\u201d Husbands have to feel like their wife respects them. So, if that coaching is coming out of a sense of disrespect, he\u2019s never going to hear it.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We have a mutual friend, Robyn Mckelvy, who speaks at our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways with her husband Ray. You guys remember this. In the <em>Art of Marriage<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> video series\u2014\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Right.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014she says, \u201cWhen she was in high school, she was a cheerleader.\u201d She said, \u201cOut team was a terrible team.\u201d She said, \u201cThey\u2019d be down my four touchdowns in the fourth quarter.\u201d She said, \u201cYou know what we were doing? We were still on the sidelines going\u2014\u2018You can do it! You\u2019ve got it\u2019\u201d\u2014doing the whole dance and cheering them on\u2014\u201cThe game is lost, and we\u2019re still cheering them on.\u201d\n\nShe said, \u201cI realized when I got married, I took off my wedding dress, and I put on a cheerleader uniform. My job in my marriage and in my family is to cheer the team on even when they\u2019re losing\u2014to say, \u2018You can do it. You\u2019ve got it. Come on!\u2019\u201d\n\nA cheerleader can\u2019t control how the team plays, and wife can\u2019t control what her husband does; but there is something about hearing somebody on the sidelines cheering for you that causes you to play a little harder.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> This is an across gender expectation. Men should be doing the same thing for their wives.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s right.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I love it.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\n<strong>Ann:<\/strong> We, women, don\u2019t realize the power and influence we have over men. That\u2019s a big, powerful influence.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, this has been helpful, I think, for all of us\u2014for the guys who have been listening and the wives who have been listening\u2014to just pull back and reflect on the fact that there is something good about men being men and about men stepping into and embracing and aspiring to godly masculinity.\n\n<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I would add this: One of the first things a boy and a man has to do to know what a man is, is they have to have a vision of it. What does it look like? That\u2019s what this book gives you. It, literally, gives you a vision: This is what a man is. Now, I can pursue that.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Brian, thanks for writing the book. Thanks for being here.\n\n<strong>Brian:<\/strong> My pleasure. Thanks for having me.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> The book is called <em>Five Marks of a Man: Finding Your Path to Courageous Manhood<\/em>. We\u2019ve got copies in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You can order the book from us online or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to order. You may want to go through this book with other guys.\n\nGet a group together and go through it over the summer; or maybe, get other dads and\u2014if you\u2019ve got teenage sons, get dads and sons together\u2014high school age \/ college age sons. Plan ten nights this summer when you and your son and his friends and their dads all get together; go through a session a night in the ten-session <em>Stepping Up<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> video series that we\u2019ve created.\n\nThis is a great way for fathers and sons to interact about what it means to take responsibility \/ to step away from passivity \/ to step out of boyhood and to step into manhood\u2014a great summertime activity for dads and sons.\n\nOrder a copy of the <em>Stepping Up<\/em> video series when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to request a copy. Again, you can find information about the <em>Stepping Up<\/em> series or Brian Tome\u2019s book, <em>The Five Marks of a Man<\/em>, when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com. Order from us online, or call to order at 1-800-358-6329. That\u2019s 1-800- \u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\nYou know, as we\u2019ve heard Brian talk today about manhood, I was taping a podcast recently with a friend of mine; and he asked me about the subject of toxic masculinity\u2014\u201cAnd what would you say about toxic masculinity?\u201d I said, \u201cThe problem is not toxic masculinity. It\u2019s toxic humanity because whether we are men or women we can certainly display the wrong way to do things \/ the sinful way to do things in both our manhood and our womanhood.\u201d\n\nWe\u2019ve got the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> David Robbins here with us, and you\u2019ve made this observation. I\u2019ve heard you make this observation before about manhood and the fact that we need to be conforming our masculinity to what the Bible says.\n\n<strong>David:<\/strong> Yes. I mean the Son of God came, and we have a great model in Jesus. Here\u2019s the thing. We\u2019re not talking about this topic because wives and mothers are irrelevant or because men\u2019s roles are more important than women\u2019s. I mean, far from it.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\n<strong>David:<\/strong> We\u2019re talking about manhood because the cultural stereotypes of men bear almost no resemblance to the biblical picture of what manhood is.\n\nAt FamilyLife, we aren\u2019t interested in helping men fit into the molds of culture and what culture says being a man is about. We are passionate about helping men live out the values of manhood seen in the Scriptures.\n\nJesus doesn\u2019t fit many of our cultural stereotypes of masculinity; and yet, He showed a strength of purpose, of humility, and a commitment to the good of others that caused people to be drawn to Him and even flock to Him\u2014both men and women. Let\u2019s not forget that He repelled those who were threatened by purpose, humility, and kindness.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\n<strong>David:<\/strong> Jesus is the kind of man we need, personally, to get out of any of our toxic and sinful behaviors; and He is the kind of man we are hoping to help develop and model men after for the good of every family.\n\n<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, as we said today, He created us male and female, and we need to embrace that and, then, live it out to the glory of God.\n\nSo, thank you for that, David.\n\nThis, by the way, is one of the things we are going to be talking to husbands about this weekend at our three <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways taking place in Atlanta, Georgia; Austin, Texas; and Reston, Virginia. Would you pray for the couples who will be in attendance; and Sunday morning, when we get the guys together and talk with them about being husbands, about being dads, and about being godly men? Just pray for the husbands and the wives who will a part of the getaway this weekend.\n\nIf you\u2019d like more information about upcoming getaways, you can go to FamilyLifeToday.com.\n\nThanks to those of you who make this daily radio program and these getaways and all that we do here at FamilyLife possible. When you donate to support this ministry, you are making it possible for more people, more regularly find practical, biblical help and hope for their marriages and for their families.\n\nDuring the month of May, we\u2019ve had some friends of the ministry who have offered to match every donation we receive dollar for dollar up to a total of 550,000 dollars. It\u2019s a very generous matching gift opportunity, and we hope to take full advantage of it.\n\nTo do that, we\u2019d like to ask those of you who are regular listeners to consider\u2014either making a one-time contribution, and that donation will be matched dollar for dollar; or consider becoming a Legacy Partner. A monthly Legacy Partner\u2014every donation you make over the next 12 months will be matched dollar for dollar until we have depleted that matching gift fund of 550,000 dollars.\n\nIn addition, as a new Legacy Partner, you will receive a certificate that entitles you as a couple or a couple you know to attend an upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway as our guests. It\u2019s our way of saying, \u201cThank you for your ongoing support of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u201d\n\nYou can donate or become a Legacy Partner online at FamilyLifeToday.com or call\u2014if you have any questions or if you\u2019d like to sign up or donate by phone, call 1-800-FL-TODAY. Thanks in advance for your support, and we hope you have a great weekend.\n\nI hope you and your family are able to worship together in your local church this weekend, and I hope you can join us on Monday. We\u2019re going to talk with Catherine Parks about the difference between superficial relationships and real relationships. How can we go deeper in our relationships with one another\u2014in marriage, outside of marriage, with our friends? How do we have stronger, deeper relationships? We\u2019ll talk about that Monday. Hope you can be with us for that.\n\nI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\n\n<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru<sup>\u00ae <\/sup>Ministry. Help for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\n<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\nWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. 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