{"id":304784,"date":"2017-11-29T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2017-11-29T17:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/how-to-make-disturb-and-keep-the-peace\/"},"modified":"2017-11-29T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2017-11-29T17:00:00","slug":"how-to-make-disturb-and-keep-the-peace","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/how-to-make-disturb-and-keep-the-peace\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Make, Disturb, and Keep the Peace"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>guest: Lou Priolo | Series: Resolving Conflict | Sometimes the way to peace is through conflict. Christian counselor Lou Priolo encourages listeners not to shy away from conflict, but to face it head on, knowing that&#8217;s the only way we can finally gain resolution and peace. Lou gives examples from his own marriage on how his wife sometimes gently confronts him. 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Here\u2019s Lou Priolo.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> In a Christian marriage, we have the responsibility, not only to commend and praise each other, but we overlook as much as we can: \u201cIt is the glory of man to overlook a transgression,\u201d \u201cLove covers a multitude of sin.\u201d But when our spouse continually struggles with an issue that the Bible identifies as sin\u2014our believing spouse\u2014we have a responsibility to go to that person and to try to help her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> So, yes; in our home, there is ongoing confrontation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Wednesday, November 29<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. There are times when confrontation needs to occur in a marriage. When it happens in your marriage, does it go well?\u2014or does it go sideways? We\u2019ll talk more about that today. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today. <\/em>Thanks for joining us on the Wednesday edition. I have to tell you that I smiled when I saw a copy of the book we\u2019re going to be talking about today and the author who wrote it. The book is called <em>Resolving Conflict. <\/em>The subtitle is <em>How to Make, Disturb, and Keep Peace. <\/em>I thought: \u201cWhy would you put <em>Disturb<\/em> in there? Who\u2019s going, \u2018I want to disturb the peace in my relationships\u2019?!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Well, you know why; because we\u2019ve interviewed this guy before. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLou Priolo joins us again on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Welcome back to the torture chamber!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Thank you. It\u2019s so good to be here!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You like to disturb other people. We like to disturb guests. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> You do! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You know, Bob stole my line! I\u2019m going to ask you about the <em>Disturb Peace<\/em> in just a second; but I want our listeners\u2014at least, the few of them who don\u2019t know you\u2014to know who you are. He is the President of Competent to Counsel International. He and his wife Kim have been married since 1987; they have two daughters.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd I wanted to ask you this question: Why the <em>Disturb<\/em> word?\u2014<em>How to Make, Disturb, and Keep Peace<\/em>\u2014with a book that is about resolving conflict? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Simply because, sometimes, there can be no peace without conflict. There are several portions of Scripture that tell us that, as Christians, we have to initiate a course of <em>action<\/em> to confront someone \/ to convict someone. As a result of that, there may be a conflict.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe Bible is filled with examples of conflict\u2014different kinds of conflict. So conflict is something that we, as Christians, ought to not shy away from and ought to understand the different components of it so that we might learn how to respond as the Scriptures say we should to the different types of conflict.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But nobody wants conflict. I mean, nobody is saying: \u201cBoy, I hope I get into a nice fight with my spouse today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cI hope that I can mess up a relationship.\u201d We all want the peace; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> But peace is not only the antithesis of war\u2014it\u2019s the <em>result<\/em> of war. Guys, I\u2019m a counselor\u2014I\u2019m a Biblical counselor. A big part of my job is confronting people\u2014it is <em>convicting<\/em> people of their sin. Sometimes, I don\u2019t want to do it! But there\u2019s this little plaque\u2014it\u2019s an imaginary plaque that sits on the wall between the two chairs in front of my desk. It\u2019s a quote from Proverbs\u2014and the proverb says, \u201cHe who reproves a man will afterwards\u201d\u2014not <em>during<\/em> but <em>afterwards<\/em>\u2014\u201cfind more favor than he who flatters with his lips.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd so, it\u2019s my <em>conscience<\/em> that drives me \/ it\u2019s my <em>conscience<\/em>, because the Scriptures say it\u2019s my job to confront a brother who is caught in a transgression. The Bible gives me all of these instructions that require me to take a course of action\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014in this circumstance and in that circumstance\u2014to do what could result in a conflict. And I <em>cannot<\/em> shy away from that because: \u201cThere is no fear in love,\u201d \u201cPerfect love casts out fear.\u201d If I love my Lord, and if I love the person I\u2019m ministering to, then I\u2019ve got to be willing to overcome my fear and to tell the person the truth in as loving of a way as I possibly can.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And so how has Kim disturbed you? [Laughter] I just\u2014I want to cut to the chase here. Your wife is married to a counselor. She knows these principles\u2014you\u2019ve undoubtedly shared a few of them with her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> He\u2019s learned a few of them from her, I think!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right! So give us an illustration of how your wife has disturbed <em>you<\/em> that has resulted in peace.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> In a Christian marriage, we have the responsibility, not only to commend and praise each other, but we overlook as much as we can: \u201cIt is the glory of man to overlook a transgression,\u201d \u201cLove covers a multitude of sin.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut when our spouse continually struggles with an issue that the Bible identifies as sin\u2014our believing spouse\u2014we have a responsibility to go to that person and to try to help her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou: <\/strong>So, yes; in our home, there is ongoing confrontation; but yet, you have to remember that there are a lot of different ways that people can be confronted\u2014or convicted is really the word in Matthew 18.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> In fact, that\u2019s the word used in 2 Timothy 3:16: \u201cAll Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for teaching, for <em>conviction<\/em>, for correction, and for training in righteousness.\u201d So conviction is something that the Scriptures do, and convicting is a verb in several instances in the New Testament. It\u2019s something that, not only the Bible does \/ it\u2019s something, not only that the Spirit does; but it\u2019s something that one Christian is to do\u2014in the verbal sense of the word, as a verb\u2014to another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was the first year of our marriage, and I had gotten into the habit of staying up and watching television late at night. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tKim comes\u2014I had my nice little \u201cman cave\u201d in this particular house that we had. [Laughter] So she came in one night, and she says, \u201cLou, don\u2019t you think you should come to bed?\u201d I said: \u201cAh, I\u2019m not tired! You go to bed; I\u2019ll be in there in a few minutes.\u201d She said to me: \u201cLou, this is like the third or fourth night you\u2019ve been staying up\u2014like close to midnight \/ past midnight. Don\u2019t you think, for the sake of your counselees, that you ought to get some sleep? Are you really going to be alert enough tomorrow? Shouldn\u2019t you come to bed?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI knew she was right\u2014so I said to her, \u201cIt\u2019s not a sin for me to watch television.\u201d [Laughter] At which point, she said to me, \u201cWell, Lou, how about if we call Pastor Ed tomorrow?\u2014our pastor\u2014and let\u2019s ask <em>him<\/em> if he thinks what you\u2019ve been doing this week is a sin.\u201d I said, \u201cI\u2019ll be right there!\u201d [Laughter] Well, that was the first year of our marriage. You know, we\u2019ve learned how to perfect things and smooth things out as the years go by. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe fact is\u2014it really all depends on how you respond to it\u2014that\u2019s really the thing. If you respond in pride and defensiveness, it\u2019s not going to go well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> But if you learn how to respond in humility\u2014and that the <em>big <\/em>thing about convicting people, who are fellow believers, is you\u2019ve <em>got to <\/em>use the Scriptures. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, you guys know me pretty well; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> I\u2019m pretty verbal. I have a pretty good handle on the Bible. I\u2019m kind of opinionated.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> I could be like the locomotive going down the track at 200 miles per hour.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right; 250; yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Right; and my wife can stop me on a dime. She just opens the Bible and points, basically; because most of the time, I like to argue. I would be very willing to argue with her; but most of the time, I\u2019m not willing to argue with God! So she brings the Scriptures to bear on the issues in my life. Most of the time, even though I may not like it, in a relatively short period of time, I\u2019m going to confess\u2014I\u2019m going to say, \u201cYou\u2019re right,\u201d because the Scriptures are really what the Spirit uses to convict us of our sin.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> But, Lou, there are a number of our listeners, who know there\u2019s something wrong in how they\u2019re relating to their spouse, or how their spouse is relating to them, and they don\u2019t know the chapter and verse that your wife does\u2014they don\u2019t know where to point. They\u2019re just wondering, \u201cHow do I do this thing called marriage and family?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob, I\u2019m reminded, at this point, about the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> There\u2019s a session we give, Lou, in the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>\u2014I\u2019m sure you\u2019re familiar with it\u2014it is on resolving conflict. It\u2019s one of my favorite talks to give. I\u2019m now giving it with Barbara, which creates conflict in preparation to give the message on resolving conflict. [Laughter] In fact, we were in Atlanta, and it was a sold-out crowd of like 1,100 people. Barbara and I were having a conflict <em>seconds<\/em> before the sound came on and the lights came on. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Of course!!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We were <em>live<\/em> with the teaching from the Holy Book, the Bible, and we were up there trying to resolve something. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI am having to whisper to her, \u201cWill you forgive me?\u201d [Laughter] I mean, yes!\u2014I mean, this is real stuff we\u2019re talking about here!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Right. So, for the issue about knowing the Scriptures\u2014it\u2019s not usually necessary to know the reference or even the whole verse. Most of the time, if you can identify the other person\u2019s sin in biblical terms\u2014Kim may say to me, \u201cLou, don\u2019t you think that\u2019s selfish?\u201d or \u201c\u2026that was inconsiderate?\u201d or \u201c\u2026that was harsh or unkind?\u201d All she really needs to do\u2014because I know the Scripture\u2014is to use the Scriptural term for what I\u2019m doing wrong; and that usually, with me, will get the job done.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, the other side of the coin is\u2014we all have patterns and habits of sin. So, if your children or spouse have a particular sin into which they constantly struggle, you may have to do a little work to find a few passages of Scripture; but the fact of the matter is\u2014it\u2019s worth it, because the Scriptures are really what the Spirit is going to use to bring conviction.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You\u2019re talking about \u201cSpeaking the truth in love,\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014which is also a Scripture.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> But it\u2019s not always the attitude we have when we speak the truth to our spouse or to our children.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, in fact, there are some people who are really good at the truth side \/ not so good at the love side. So, when it comes to speaking the truth in love, which is the default for you? Do you tend to be too loving or too truthful?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou: <\/strong>\u00a0Oh! Too truthful! [Laughter] Yes, my flesh just pops out; you know?\u2014to which I\u2019ve had to learn how to ameliorate, biblically\u2014by really marinating my mind in the truth of God\u2019s Word, and having a wife and two daughters who, when I step over the line, will call me on it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; and you don\u2019t want anybody to back off from speaking the truth. Some people will say, \u201cWell, I\u2019ll just lie,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s not the right response to it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou do have to figure out how to speak the truth with kindness, with gentleness, with compassion, with love; right?\u2014with the other person\u2019s best interest at heart.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Right. There\u2019s a chapter in the book called \u201cYou Put the Words Right into My Mouth.\u201d It talks about how we can, as Christians, sort of help each other. It\u2019s sort of a counseling technique I used with my counselees, even before I was married. Maybe two counselees would be talking to each other. One of them would flub a line\u2014one of them would say something inappropriate or unbiblical. I would just say: \u201cWhoa! Sally, can you think of a more gracious way to say that?\u201d or \u201cGeorge, could you say that again without the sarcasm?\u201d or \u201cMary, would you be able to restate that so it sounds like a question rather than an accusation?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo this is something I sort of imported into the marriage when we were first married. Kim might say something to me: \u201cLou, the garbage has been here for two weeks! Will you please take it out?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen I would take the essence of what she said and sort of give it back to her\u2014sort of as a re-do\u2014sort of like a director, you know, directing an actor to re-do a flubbed line. \u201cSweetheart, it would mean so much to me if you would take the garbage out!\u201d [Speaking with a sweet voice] Then she would say it back to me, usually with her teeth gritted: \u201cSweetheart, it would <em>really <\/em>mean a lot to me if you would take the garbage out.\u201d [Laughter] And then I would respond: \u201cOh, it would be my <em>pleasure<\/em> to take the garbage out for such a lovely and kind woman as you!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> At which point, I would say, \u201cCould you restate that with a little less sarcasm in your voice?\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Yes! [Laughter] So then, we rocked along this way for\u2014I don\u2019t know\u2014maybe a year; and then, one day, it happened. I came home from work: \u201cYou spent <em>how much <\/em>for that!? \u201cWhat were you thinking?! I thought we agreed not to spend more than $25 on unbudgeted items unless we agreed together on it! Sweetheart, didn\u2019t we agree not to spend more than $25 on unbudgeted items without consulting the other person first?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t13:00\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cYes, Lou; but if you remember, we also agreed that: \u2018If we saw something that was on sale, and it was not in the budget, we could purchase it, subject to the other person\u2019s approval; and we could bring it back if the other person did not approve.\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThrough the years, we learned how to respond to each other and sort of talk to each other without stepping on the land mines in the other person\u2019s mind\u2014just simply by rehearsing new and different ways to communicate. The biblical basis for this is found in the book of Proverbs: \u201cThe heart of the righteous studies how to answer.\u201d Sometimes, we have to think ahead about how to answer!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob: Can I just ask you about the other side of speaking the truth in love?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLou: Sure.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob: Because we tend to look at those people, who are truth-tellers without love, and we go, \u201cYou see, they\u2019re the bad people.\u201d And we look at the people, who are loving and kind and gracious\u2014but who aren\u2019t speaking the truth\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLou: Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014and we give them a pass, because they\u2019re <em>acting<\/em> nice. It\u2019s no less sinful to mask the truth with some kind of false sentiment than it is to blurt it out with no love; is it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Right; the consequences are different, but there are consequences for both. But, again, I think, as I said before, this has to be driven by our conscience. Our conscience has to tell us we must be loving; our conscience has to tell us we must speak the truth. Depending on the context \/ depending on the person with whom we are speaking, we must <em>learn<\/em> the skill of communicating in such a way that it is loving and truthful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe Bible has <em>so much<\/em> to say about communication\u2014most people would be <em>amazed<\/em>! And so, as Christians, we ought to be <em>the<\/em> most effective communicators in the world; because the Scriptures are <em>filled <\/em>with all kinds of verses on communication! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s very important that we develop the skill of communicating as we are maturing in our relationship with our children, with our wife, with the people with whom we have to do life on a regular basis. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And that means, sometimes, having to speak the truth, even when we know that\u2019s going to be disruptive or it\u2019s going to be disturbing to the other person\u2014we do it kindly and graciously\u2014rather than being afraid. I think there are some husbands or wives, who get paralyzed by: \u201cI don\u2019t want to say anything, because I know it\u2019s going to upset,\u201d \u201c\u2026I know it\u2019s going to cause conflict,\u201d\u2014they just keep silent, when keeping silent is sinful in that situation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u00a0Well, they may be in a marriage relationship with a volcano. Nobody enjoys attempting to speak the truth in love and having lava splashed on them when you attempt to disturb them and you attempt to resolve a conflict. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSpeak to the person Bob was referring to earlier, who just retreats \/ who just says: \u201cYou know, it\u2019s easiest not to disturb here. It\u2019s just going to cause an eruption\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cand more lava and more hurt.\u201d What should that person do?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Yes; there\u2019s so much I can say. In a half-hour program, it\u2019s just very difficult. There\u2019s an <em>entire<\/em> chapter in the book\u2014it\u2019s called \u201cLove Communicates.\u201d Basically, the chapter talks about the selfish nature of not communicating. If God says: \u201cIn this circumstance and that circumstance, you have a responsibility to open up your mouth and to speak the truth in love,\u201d and you don\u2019t do it, then, generally speaking, that\u2019s a sin. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI say \u201cgenerally speaking\u201d because, as you said, there are extenuating factors\u2014maybe you\u2019re married to somebody who really has a serious anger problem\u2014but, again, there are issues <em>there<\/em> that the Bible addresses to teach you how you can work in that kind of situation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor example, where is it written that Matthew 18 does not apply to husbands and wives? Matthew 18 says: \u201cIf your brother sins, you convict him. If he listens to you, then you\u2019ve won your brother. If he doesn\u2019t listen to you, you bring one or two other people in in hopes of persuading him that he\u2019s sinning. If he will not hear you, then you tell it to the church.\u201d So, it basically says that you get other people involved. Well, if you\u2019re dealing with two people, who are professing believers and they\u2019re going to a Bible-believing church\u2014they\u2019re members of a Bible-believing church \/ a church where they had to, arguably, give their testimony to someone\u2014then, if a husband and wife <em>cannot<\/em> get a conflict resolved, they need to go outside the marriage and bring somebody else in.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cIs it true,\u201d\u2014Paul says to the Corinthians\u2014\u201cthere is not one wise man among you who shall be able to judge between brothers?\u201d Well, why doesn\u2019t that apply in any way to a husband and wife?\u2014I think it does!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; there are those who are listening\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014in fact, I can imagine a man, who may struggle with being more of a dictator\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014and may not struggle with it, but may just <em>be <\/em>one; okay?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Right; right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> He hears you say that and says: \u201cThat really helps! That helps me a bunch in my marriage! I know what I\u2019m going to do with my wife.\u201d You\u2019re not suggesting, now, that men use this as a club with their wives; or for that matter, a wife with a husband. You\u2019re talking about someone who is wanting to offer reconciliation and redemption to the other person\u2014you\u2019re talking about peace being achieved\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Right; sure.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014not further inflammation here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Yes; I mean, this is not the first tool you\u2019re going to take out of your toolbox or probably the second or the third; but the fact of the matter is\u2014at some point, if you\u2019re married to a believer and the believer is not willing to hear you, then there is the requirement, really, in most cases, that you get someone else in.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, again, it doesn\u2019t have to be as draconian as it sounds; for example, another situation: Kim might say to me: \u201cLou, I think that decision is\u201d\u2014maybe she would say\u2014\u201cselfish,\u201d\u2014or some other term. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cBefore you finalize that decision, would you please go talk to Brother So-and-so?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tA husband may say to his wife: \u201cHoney, before you do that, why don\u2019t you call Sister So-and-so? Tell her what\u2019s going on.\u201d You know, this is presumably like a Titus 2 woman in the church: \u201cWhy don\u2019t you tell Sister So-and-so what I said, and how you responded, and ask her if she thinks that that response was in line with the meek and the quiet spirit that the Bible says a wife should have toward her husband?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s not like I\u2019m going to just grab you by the neck and drag you before the elders. It\u2019s really a matter of understanding that, at some point\u2014not necessarily the first or second time things fail\u2014but at some point\u2014and you\u2019re going to, arguably, agree ahead of time that, \u201cIf we can\u2019t get a conflict resolved, we\u2019re going to go outside the marriage to get some help.\u201d Maybe you\u2019ll even have prearranged and pre-agreed-upon people\u2014you know, maybe for finances, you\u2019re going to go to Brother So-and-so; or for communication, you\u2019re going to go to Sister So-and-so\u2014but to have this prearranged and pre-agreed-upon set of people\u2014that, if you need help outside of yourselves \/ outside of the marriage, you can pick up the phone and call for some help.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s really the spirit of what I\u2019m talking about\u2014not that we\u2019re going to drag somebody, you know, before the court.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And I\u2019ll use an illustration. I just got off the phone with a young lady, who has been dealing with her husband\u2019s drinking. It\u2019s severe\u2014it\u2019s destroying her, as a woman, wife, and a mother. She has confronted him before; he hasn\u2019t listened. We talked about gathering some wise counsel around her\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014and build some boundaries and know how to, ultimately, save this marriage from utter destruction and to save his life from utter destruction.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Right; right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So we\u2019re talking about building a plan here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That does involve other people to help protect you in the midst of something that is severe.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lou:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> There are things that are going to destroy you, your children, your family, your marriage. At that point, you need to take appropriate measures to preserve that which is important to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; here\u2019s what you\u2019ve got to recognize. When you\u2019re going to step in and work to resolve conflict in a marriage \/ in a relationship, you\u2019re stepping into a territory that has all kinds of land mines buried all over the place. Unless you\u2019ve got some skill \/ unless you\u2019ve learned how to navigate this terrain, you can wind up doing damage rather than bringing healing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat Lou\u2019s done, in the book that he\u2019s written, which is called <em>Resolving Conflict: How to Make, Disturb, and Keep the Peace<\/em>, is\u2014he has charted that territory for us so that we can step in, and we can avoid those land mines, and we can get to peace. I would encourage listeners\u2014get a copy of the book. It\u2019s available from us, here, at <em>FamilyLife Today. <\/em>You can order, easily, online at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to donate. Again, our website\u2014FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe book is called <em>Resolving Conflict <\/em>by Lou Priolo. Or you can order by calling 1-800-358-6329\u20141-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, this issue\u2014I heard somebody say this, years ago\u2014\u201cIf couples can learn how to resolve conflict effectively, it\u2019s the single most important skill you can develop in a marriage relationship that keeps your marriage bond strong.\u201d I mean, think about it!\u2014if you know how to forgive \/ if you know how to resolve conflict, you can experience the repair work of the Holy Spirit; and you can continue to thrive in marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s why subjects like this are so important. It\u2019s what we\u2019re all about, here, at FamilyLife\u2014helping to effectively develop godly marriages and families. We believe godly marriages and families can change the world. And, do you know what? We\u2019ve got a lot of listeners who agree with us. 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You can donate, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY to donate. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can also mail your donation to <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>at PO Box 7111, Little Rock, AR; and our zip code is 72223. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we\u2019re going to continue to talk about how we can resolve conflict and how we can make sure we don\u2019t allow a root of bitterness to grow in our own heart. Lou Priolo will be back with us again tomorrow. I hope you can be here as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. 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