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Andrea Griffith remembers when she had to readjust her thinking about her husband Trent. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrea:<\/strong> I was telling the Lord all the ways I was disappointed in Trent\u2014I was like: \u201cI need this,\u201d and \u201cI wish he was doing that.\u201d I just had my list! The Lord just spoke so clearly to my heart; and He said, \u201cAndrea, do you even notice what he <em>does <\/em>do for you?\u201d I thought, \u201cUh, no; because I\u2019m so busy noticing what he\u2019s not doing.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Friday, October 13<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. Do you need to reset your thinking about your spouse? We\u2019ll explore that subject today. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us on the Friday edition. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp a listener understand the difference in a marriage between when a husband feels respected by his wife and when he feels disrespected by his wife. What kind of a difference does that make?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I feel like\u2014when a man\u2019s not respected by his wife, it\u2019s like his legs get cut out from under him\u2014he has a hard time standing \/ a hard time feeling like he\u2019s being who he was created to be. He doesn\u2019t achieve what his wife wants or needs him to be. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think a lot of marriages, Bob, are a dance of two people trying to get one another to meet each other\u2019s needs. It would go a whole lot better if we stopped picking at the other person and finding out how they\u2019re stepping on our toes as we dance; and, instead, find things that they\u2019re doing right \/ that they\u2019re fulfilling. Come alongside your spouse, and give them a hug! Give them a wink of the eye and say: \u201cYou\u2019re really doing a good job with our kids,\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019re doing a good job loving me. Thank you for helping with the dishes last night.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI mean, catch your spouse doing something right, and find a way to communicate that you respect them and appreciate them for who they are and for what they do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think we need to be prodded, exhorted, encouraged, equipped, [and] trained. That\u2019s what we do, Bob, at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaway. We take a couple of hours to speak to the wives and the husbands around their responsibilities to be a wife or to be a husband in the marriage relationship, without their spouse listening. It\u2019s actually kind of fun, because it\u2019s driving the women crazy\u2014that they\u2019re in another room, and they hear the men laugh or roar\u2014[Laughter]\u2014and they\u2019re going, \u201cWhat\u2019s he hearing?!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u201cWhat did they say?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u201cWhat\u2019s happening over there?\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI don\u2019t think the men are wondering what the women are hearing. I do think the wives are wondering what\u2019s going on. And what they\u2019re looking for is for their husband to be <em>worthy<\/em> of respect and worthy to be built up. I think that\u2019s a challenge for most men.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, we\u2019re going to hear today from one of the couples who speak at our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways: Trent and Andrea Griffith. Trent and Andrea are from Granger, Indiana. He pastors Harvest Bible Chapel in Granger. We\u2019re going to hear Part Two of a message that they gave at the church where he\u2019s the pastor\u2014a message on the need for wives to show respect to their husbands. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI heard this\u2014I thought, \u201cThis is just good, solid, practical biblical wisdom for husbands and wives to listen to. So, let\u2019s listen\u2014here\u2019s Part Two of Trent and Andrea Griffith\u2019s message on how a wife can respect her husband.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Recorded Message]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Trent:<\/strong> Let\u2019s get real practical here. What are some ways that a husband <em>feels <\/em>respect? We\u2019ll put them in five words, all starting with the letter \u201cA.\u201d The first one is this: \u201cHe needs your Acceptance.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat means, ladies, you have to accept him the way he <em>is<\/em>, and trust God to change him into what he\u2019s supposed to be. Ladies, if you try to change your husband, it will actually have the opposite effect\u2014it will drive him away from you. You need to accept him the way that he is, and then trust God to change him into what he needs to be.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrea:<\/strong> I remember one morning I was up, and I was just having my time with the Lord. I found this verse\u2014it\u2019s Psalm 90, verse 14\u2014it says, \u201cOh, satisfy us early with Your steadfast love, that we may rejoice and be glad all of our days.\u201d And I <em>love <\/em>this verse! This verse has become one of my mainstay verses; because there is no way that I can do the next five things that we\u2019re going to tell you to do\u2014and there\u2019s no way that <em>you<\/em> can do the next five things that we\u2019re going to tell you to do\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014unless we are going to God to get <em>all<\/em> of the fullness that we need \/ that we are being <em>satisfied<\/em> with <em>His<\/em> steadfast love! I can look to God to meet my needs\u2014to have His love satisfy my heart\u2014so that I\u2019m able to give acceptance \/ I\u2019m able to give respect. It\u2019s the <em>only<\/em> way any of us can do it; because we\u2019re broken, and we\u2019re fallen, and we\u2019re selfish. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat same morning, when God gave me that verse, I was telling the Lord all the ways I was disappointed in Trent\u2014I was like: \u201cI need this,\u201d and \u201cI wish he was doing that.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0 I just had my list! The Lord just spoke so clearly to my heart; and He said, \u201cAndrea, do you even notice what he <em>does <\/em>do for you?\u201d I thought, \u201cUh, no; because I\u2019m so busy noticing what he\u2019s not doing.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, I just started making a list\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014like I literally put lists in the back of my journals of qualities, and characteristics, and things and ways that I see strengths in my husband and in my kids. I didn\u2019t even realize this; but what started to happen, over time, is I started noticing him for who he <em>was<\/em>\u2014who God already created him to be\u2014and respecting and admiring <em>that<\/em> instead of being so focused on what <em>I<\/em> wanted him to be and what image <em>I<\/em> wanted to create him in. It was just all because the Lord said, \u201cYou be filled up with Me; and then, you\u2019re able to accept this person in your life.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Trent:<\/strong> The second thing is your assistance: \u201cYour husband needs your Assistance.\u201d He feels respected when you <em>assist<\/em> him. This is built-in, again, to the heart of every man. In Genesis, Chapter 2, we read: \u201cIt is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper fit for him.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou may read that, ladies, and you say: \u201cIs that all I am?\u2014is a helper!? I mean\u2026\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo you know, in Scripture, if you were to do a word study of that word, help\u2014if it\u2019s not referring to a wife being the helper to her husband, do you know who it\u2019s referring to? It\u2019s referring to God being the helper to His people. If God was not afraid or ashamed to label himself as a helper, why are you resisting that label for yourself? It is an <em>honor<\/em> to help, to complement, to fill in the gaps when a man needs help. There are all kinds of ways. So many men feel like the one that God has given them to help them is helping everybody else, and he\u2019s number 27 on your \u201cTo Do\u201d list. So, if he\u2019s going to feel respected, he has to be the number-one priority in your list of responsibilities to help.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe know that there are young kids, and we know that there are career opportunities, and we know that the church needs help; but the number-one person that you are to help is your husband. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrea:<\/strong> And that\u2019s hard, because we have a <em>million<\/em> things pulling at us all of the time. So, for me, I just had to go to Trent and ask the question again: \u201cHow can I help you? What would you <em>like<\/em> me to do for you that I\u2019m not doing? What does that look like for you?\u201d because I was running around, trying to make his favorite meal, iron his clothes, and all of this stuff. That\u2019s not what he really wanted for me to do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHis answer\u2014I\u2019ll never forget his answer to me! He just said: \u201cAndrea, if you could just be happy. If, when I come home, the house is happy \/ that you\u2019re emotionally stable\u2014I just want you to keep <em>you<\/em>. If you can keep you, I\u2019m a happy man.\u201d I thought: \u201cAlright! That\u2019s a lot easier than I thought about what you were wanting from me!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, again, ask your husband! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s not going to be the same answer that my husband has; but ask him, because, women, we\u2019re the heart of the home. What our attitude is\u2014it is catching!\u2014our kids catch it \/ our husbands catch it. We want to make sure it\u2019s joyful, and fun, and life-giving in our homes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Trent:<\/strong> \u201cYour husband needs your Admiration,\u201d \/ \u201cHe needs your Admiration.\u201d I have a friend\u2014he\u2019s a pastor in the Detroit area. He was a college football player at Ball State; he made Hall of Fame status at Ball State. Dave is married to Ann. He told Ann one day\u2014he was actually telling a group of women, while Anne was listening\u2014that when he would score touchdowns, the crowd would cheer \/ when he would run out of the tunnel, the crowd would cheer! He would spend hours in front of this crowd, and they would cheer and applaud. He was honored and admired, and he would sign autographs. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, he would walk into his house; and all he would hear was: \u201cBoo! Boooooo!\u201d\u2014coming from his wife. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s not the place where he wanted to spend time anymore. It\u2019s easier to spend time where you\u2019re admired and respected. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo often, there\u2019s a cheerleader in there somewhere; but you\u2019re blinded by all of the needs in his life. He <em>needs<\/em> to know that you admire him. Inside the heart of your husband, ladies, is a ten-year-old little boy, who is always asking the question: \u201cDo you believe in me? Do you think I can do it? I don\u2019t think I can! Does anybody believe that I can do this?\u201d If you can answer that question in the affirmative, it will cheer him on. He\u2019ll feel your admiration, and he\u2019ll feel respect.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrea:<\/strong> We were speaking at a marriage conference, and I had a lady come up to me. She just wouldn\u2019t even take a breath\u2014just [listing] all of the negative things about her husband. She just went on and on and on! Finally, I just interrupted her and I said: \u201cHey, is there <em>anything<\/em> positive? Can you just tell me <em>one<\/em> positive quality about your husband?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe looked at me \/ she said, \u201cWell, I would if he had any.\u201d I said: \u201cSo you\u2019re telling me that you married a man with <em>no<\/em> positive qualities? What does that say about <em>you<\/em>?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere\u2019s the reality\u2014he has the positive qualities!\u2014remember them? They\u2019ve just become so commonplace that we don\u2019t see them anymore. We need to get [them] back out and look at the positive qualities that our husband gifted us with: \u201cIt is a <em>privilege<\/em> to be married! I <em>get <\/em>to be married to this man!\u201d Does he know I feel that way? We need to be speaking about the positive.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Trent:<\/strong> Five ways a husband feels respected: your Acceptance, your Assistance, your Admiration, and your Adaptability. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWilliam Harley has done a lot of research on marriage\u2014husbands and wives. He wanted to find out: \u201cWhat are the top needs of a husband and a wife?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe number-two need that he discovered in his research that a husband needs is something he labeled \u201crecreational companionship.\u201d Guys just want to have fun, apparently. They want to play, and they want a playmate. They want somebody to be alongside of them as they do adventurous things\u2014and take risks, and scrape their knee, and get up and move forward. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn thinking about that, Andrea and I were talking with Andrea\u2019s grandparents in Alabama. They have interesting names in Alabama\u2014Gam-papa and Gam-mama were married for over 60 years. Late in their life, we were having lunch with them one day. Andrea asked them this question: \u201cWhat has been the secret to the longevity in your relationship?\u201d And, without batting an eye, Gam-mama said, \u201cPlaying golf.\u201d (I thought I might get an \u201cAmen!\u201d out of a man there, somewhere along the line.) [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow listen, it was <em>not<\/em> because Gam-mama liked playing golf\u2014she didn\u2019t pick up a golf club until she was 60 years old. Gam-mama didn\u2019t play golf because she liked golf. Gam-mama played golf because she liked Gam-papa, and Gam-papa liked Gam-mama playing golf. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, recreational companionship\u2014maybe not your favorite thing\u2014but you can adapt. You can be a part of something he enjoys, and it communicates respect to a husband.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrea:<\/strong> And I\u2019d also say: \u201cDon\u2019t stop growing\u2014like, as a woman, don\u2019t stop growing, as a person.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen Trent and I got married, I was 24 years old. I look back\u2014I was very selfish \/ I was very immature. Hopefully, after 22 years of marriage\u2014hopefully, I\u2019ve grown! Hopefully, he sees a person who has matured in the Lord, and there\u2019s beauty there and there is strength there. Hopefully, we have 22 more years; and I\u2019ll look back at this point and say: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cAh! There\u2019s been so much more growth!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI don\u2019t know what that looks like for you\u2014maybe that means reading a book on marriage every year \/ reading a book on parenting every year. But for sure, I know that means getting in the presence of the Lord. Second Corinthians talks about that we are \u201cchanged from one degree of glory to another as we behold Jesus.\u201d That has <em>got<\/em> to be our number-one pursuit, because that is when we are changed. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe need to know our areas where we need growth. Do you know what? If I\u2019m so focused on my areas where I need to grow, it helps me to not be so focused on his.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Trent:<\/strong> \u201cHe also needs your Availability,\u201d \/ \u201c\u2026your Availability.\u201d Men and women have these different needs for levels of intimacy. For a wife\u2014she has this need, husbands, for emotional intimacy \/ to be <em>emotionally<\/em> connected to you. She doesn\u2019t feel close \/ she feels like there\u2019s distance unless there\u2019s emotional intimacy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLadies, please hear me! Your husband has the <em>same<\/em> need for physical intimacy that you have for emotional intimacy. He doesn\u2019t feel close to you \/ he doesn\u2019t feel respected without <em>physical<\/em> intimacy. And ladies, if you are married to a Christian, Christ has made claims\u2014not only on his life\u2014Christ has made claims on his sexuality and given him boundaries in which he is to practice his sexuality. It\u2019s <em>hard<\/em>, and the world is doing everything it can to get him to play outside of those boundaries, sexually. They will mock him if he tries. The question you need to ask yourself is this: \u201cHow can I help him stay in the boundaries?\u201d Your <em>availability<\/em> communicates respect.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAbout five years ago was the last time I preached this particular passage of Scripture here. I remember, as I was preaching to women about submission, there was a guy I\u2019d never seen before\u2014came in the door of the gym. He didn\u2019t come and sit down. He just stood along the back wall throughout the whole message. I was like\u2014in my heart, I was like: \u201cSorry, dude! This was not the message you needed to hear. Come back another Sunday, and it will apply to you.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI noticed he left right as I was closing the message. I thought: \u201cI\u2019ll never see that guy again! Surely he\u2019s not going to come back after he heard that message on submission to wives.\u201d But then, on Tuesday afternoon, I got an email from this guy. This is what he said\u2014he said: \u201cI was <em>so<\/em> convicted by the message. As a matter of fact, I had to leave early because I was bursting into tears. I drove home with tears running down my eyes,\u201d\u2014he said\u2014\u201cbecause I realized I wasn\u2019t the kind of man that my wife could submit to. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cI\u2019ve been passive and uninvolved.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe said he drove home\u2014he went to their liquor cabinet, poured out all of the liquor into the sink and drained it all out. He was [writing] to ask for help. I said, \u201cCan you meet me at Chili\u2019s on Tuesday?\u201d We did. We met at Chili\u2019s and, over chips and salsa, he prayed to receive Christ\u2014gave his life to Christ \/ gave his family to Christ. He said: \u201cI\u2019m going to salvage my marriage. I\u2019m going to go home and love and lead my wife.\u201d Before we went home, he said: \u201cLet\u2019s stop by the Christian book store. We don\u2019t have Bibles.\u201d He bought seven Bibles. He went home\u2014passed them all out. He said, \u201cOpen your Bibles to John, Chapter 3,\u201d and he led them through John, Chapter 3. It\u2019s the only passage he knew, because that\u2019s what we talked about at Chili\u2019s!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHusbands, your wife has a hard job! You can make it easier by loving her, and leading her, and being vertically submitted to <em>Christ<\/em>. As she follows your leadership, it will make it much easier for her to submit to you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo you understand what we\u2019re saying here? Without your love, husbands, she reacts without respect. Ladies, without your respect, he reacts without love. That is <em>not <\/em>a fun home to live in! If you want a fun home to live in, do this: \u201cHusbands, it is your <em>love<\/em> that inspires her respect. It is your respect, ladies, that <em>inspires<\/em> his love. Now, you get more love inspiring your respect, and more respect inspiring his love. That\u2019s a great place to live!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo the question is: \u201cWho moves first?\u201d\u2014answer: \u201cIt doesn\u2019t matter! It just gets everything going in the right direction.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, again, we\u2019ve been listening today to Trent and Andrea Griffith, talking about wives respecting their husbands. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we need to be clear: \u201cThere\u2019s an assignment for husbands as well\u2014to sacrificially love and lead their wives.\u201d I heard somebody say, not long ago, \u201cYou know, the husband\u2014his job in a marriage is to die; so he\u2019s got the harder assignment in the midst of all of that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> There are some women who would take issue with that!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> He needs to live up to his end of the bargain, but wives need to be instructed, as well, about what it is that God calls them to do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; and I just want to kind of put a double underline [under] a couple of these. First of all, they mentioned admiration. I would just say to the wives, who are listening: \u201cWhen\u2019s the last time you praised your husband to his face?\u201d\u2014you just said, \u201cYou know, I noticed when you did such-and-such. That was really cool!\u201d Just express admiration. Admiration is a <em>powerful<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Feeling admired by your wife is\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Oh, yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s a good feeling; isn\u2019t it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Because she knows you the best!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And there\u2019s another double underline. I want to talk about availability. It\u2019s important to that relationship for two to become one. A woman, who is truly available to her husband, is incredibly powerful in his life\u2014again, to offer respect, admiration, [and] appreciation. And, then, maybe, telling him that he\u2019s a good lover. Those words will be soaked up by your husband. He\u2019s probably going to wonder what you\u2019re up to, but you don\u2019t have to tell him you heard it on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I\u2019m imagining some husbands, right now, who are getting ready to call home and say, \u201cHoney, you ought to listen to today\u2019s <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Oh, yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Alright? \u201cIt\u2019s just a good program. Tune in and listen to it today.\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; I don\u2019t know if that\u2019s going to result in much! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014not work well for you? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I don\u2019t think that will result in a point before midnight\u2014that needs to be cashed in on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, I\u2019ll tell you what would result in a point\u2014and that is for a husband to say, \u201cYou know what would be a good idea for us?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I know! Take them to the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s what I\u2019m thinking! Go to FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014find out more about when a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> is coming to a city near where you live; or pick a location that would be a fun location for a getaway this fall, and plan for the two of you to have a weekend away together. Find out more about the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com. You can register, online, or call if you have any questions: 1-800-FL-TODAY is the number\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-358-6329 \/ 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me also mention the book, <em>The Respect Dare, <\/em>written by our friend, Nina Roesner. This is a book that is a challenge for all wives. It\u2019s a 40-day journey that helps you on the path to cultivating godly respect for your husband\u2014that\u2019s a big part of marriage! Find out more about <em>The<\/em> <em>Respect Dare <\/em>when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com. Order online or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to order.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, one of the things about programs like we\u2019ve aired today is we\u2019ll often hear from listeners, who\u2019ll say, \u201cHow come you were picking on the women?\u201d And then, when we talk to the guys, we hear from guys, who say, \u201cHow come you never talk to the women about their responsibilities?\u201d Well, we try to make sure that we are addressing the challenges that face husbands <em>and<\/em> wives. We try to be balanced in talking about the issues that all of us have to deal with in a marriage; because, as we all know, it takes two to tango and it takes two to untangle. <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is here to provide you with practical biblical help and hope <em>daily<\/em> so that, daily, you can be readjusting your relationship; because, let\u2019s face it\u2014daily, our relationships could use some adjustment; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we\u2019re grateful for those of you who see the value of this program, not just for yourself, but for your community and for our world. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYour investment in the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> keeps this program on the air on your local station\u2014but also enables this program to be heard by more and more people\u2014more and more husbands and wives \/ more and more younger couples, who are tuning in. You\u2019re helping them understand the fundamentals of marriage and family. Thank you for helping to accelerate this ministry every time you make a donation. We\u2019re grateful!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019re a long-time listener\u2014you\u2019ve never donated to the ministry\u2014today would be a great day for you to go to FamilyLifeToday.com and make a donation\u2014whatever you\u2019re able to afford\u2014every donation helps. If you prefer, you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY to donate; or mail your donation to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> at PO Box 7111, Little Rock, AR; the zip code is 72223. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd, with that, we hope you have a great weekend! I hope you and your family are able to worship together in your local church this weekend, and I hope you can join us back on Monday. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSara Hagerty is going to be here. 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