{"id":304722,"date":"2017-10-12T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2017-10-12T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/complement-and-respect\/"},"modified":"2017-10-12T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2017-10-12T15:00:00","slug":"complement-and-respect","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/complement-and-respect\/","title":{"rendered":"Complement and Respect"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Trent and Andrea Griffith describe how God created wives to complement their husbands.\u00a0One way wives do this is\u00a0by showing respect.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2017-10-12.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:28:02","filesize":"25.67M","filesize_raw":"26912288","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2088,2831],"tags":[4330,4022,5716],"podcast_series":[8240],"cwp_profile":[8804],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-304722","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-romance-and-sex","category-wives","tag-respect","tag-wives","tag-wives-respect-your-husbands","podcast_series-how-to-respect-your-husband","cwp_profile-trent-and-andrea-griffith","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/304722\/complement-and-respect","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/304722\/complement-and-respect","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"hlRQouak3H\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/complement-and-respect\/\">Complement and Respect<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/complement-and-respect\/embed\/#?secret=hlRQouak3H\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Complement and Respect&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"hlRQouak3H\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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Trent Griffith says a lot of women simply read right past it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Trent: <\/strong>Did you know you could read the Bible, from cover to cover\u2014you will <em>never<\/em> find a command that says, \u201cWives, love your husbands\u201d?\u2014it\u2019s not there. Now, it\u2019s implied for sure; but you don\u2019t find this exhortation\u2014this charge \/ this command: \u201cLove your husbands.\u201d\u00a0 The question is \u201cWhy?\u201d\u00a0 I believe it\u2019s because the number one need of your husband is <em>not<\/em> love. What you will find over and over in Scripture is this command: \u201cWives, respect your husbands.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Thursday, October 12<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. What is the Bible saying when it calls on a wife to respect her husband?\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014and even as importantly, what is it not saying?\u00a0 We\u2019ll hear today from Trent and Andrea Griffith. Stay tuned. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. This is culturally-risky territory we\u2019re wandering off into today; don\u2019t you think?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I want to tell you something\u2014I think if wives grasp the importance and the power of communicating respect to their husbands, they would be <em>amazed<\/em> at how they might see their husband be transformed into more of what they <em>wish<\/em> he would become. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014and more of who God created them to be; right?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Exactly. I think the easiest thing in a marriage, Bob, is to spot the weaknesses in your spouse; and, certainly, women can see through men pretty clearly. And there is a lot about men that\u2019s not worthy of respect; but the command of Scripture to women in Ephesians, Chapter 5, makes it real clear: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0\u201cWives, respect your husbands.\u201d\u00a0 That means to hold them in esteem, and value them, and communicate that value with their words, their attitudes, their actions. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we\u2019re going to hear from a couple of <em>great<\/em> young communicators today, Bob, who are on our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup><\/em> marriage getaway speaker team\u2014Trent and Andrea Griffith. Trent is the pastor of Harvest Bible Chapel in Granger, Indiana\u2014I\u2019ve not been there; but I\u2019ve been close, Bob. They\u2019re a great couple\u2014they\u2019re fun\/lively\u2014and they have a lot to say on this subject that, I think, our audience needs to hear. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>They tackle the subject of how a wife can show respect to her husband. I should mention\u2014Trent also did a message on how a husband should love his wife \/ it\u2019s a great message as well\u2014but we\u2019re going to hear from Trent and Andrea today as they unpack this idea of how a wife can honor and respect her husband. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere\u2019s Pastor Trent Griffith. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Recorded Message]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Trent: <\/strong>Ephesians 5:33 is our summary verse; and it says this: \u201cHowever, let each one of you\u201d\u2014that particular you is [addressed] to husbands \/ you, husbands\u2014\u201clet each one of you [husbands] love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember\u2014a couple of weeks ago, we had a plant up here. We kind of hypothetically talked about that husband that says, \u201cYou know, my marriage is dead.\u201d\u00a0 Well, the question is: \u201cDid you water it?\u00a0 Did you <em>feed<\/em> it?\u2014because it needs some things from you.\u201d\u00a0 What did we say the number one need of a wife was?\u2014what was it, guys?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Audience: <\/strong>Love. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Trent: <\/strong>Love. So, you\u2019ve got to constantly be loving your wife. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, ladies, as we turn our attention to you this morning, here is something that may surprise you. In the span of eight verses in Ephesians, Chapter 5, God tells husbands to love their wives three different times: \u201cHusbands, love your wives,\u201d \u201cHusbands, love your wives,\u201d \u201cHusbands, love your wives.\u201d\u00a0 Ladies, why do you think God had to tell your husband three times in the span of eight verses to love <em>you<\/em>? Sometimes, we can be a little thickheaded. We have to be reminded \/ we have to be reminded over and over: \u201cOh, yes. Oh, yes. I\u2019ve got to love my wife.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDid you know that you can read the Bible from cover to cover\u2014you will <em>never<\/em> find a command that says, \u201cWives, love your husbands,\u201d?\u2014it\u2019s not there. Now, it\u2019s implied for sure. Titus, Chapter 2, says that older women are to teach the younger women to be lovers of their husbands. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, of course, you are to love your [husbands]; but you don\u2019t find this exhortation\u2014this charge \/ this command: \u201cLove your husbands.\u201d\u00a0 The question is \u201cWhy?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI believe it\u2019s because the number-one need of your husband is <em>not<\/em> love. What you will find over and over in Scripture is this command: \u201cWives, respect your husbands.\u201d\u00a0 Why is that?\u00a0 It\u2019s because the number-one need of your husband is <em>respect<\/em>; and when <em>he<\/em> senses you respect him, <em>he<\/em> will understand he\u2019s loved. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you asked the wives in this room\u2014the wives that just stood: \u201cDo you love your husband?\u201d most of them would say: \u201cYes; I love!\u2014the knucklehead.\u201d Wives have a natural ability to love a needy person\u2014God built that into you; okay? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut wives have to be urged, and encouraged, and reminded, and charged with this command: \u201cRespect him.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd you say, \u201cI would respect him if he was <em>respectable<\/em>.\u201d Listen, if he was respectable, <em>you<\/em> wouldn\u2019t need the command. In the same way that, if you were always loveable, your husband wouldn\u2019t need the command to love you. [Laughter]\u00a0 We get the commands because there are times when wives are not loveable and husbands are not respectable\u2014get it?\u00a0 That\u2019s why God puts the command there. So, we\u2019re going to study how to do that today; okay?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPoint number one is this: \u201cWife, complement your husband.\u201d\u00a0 Now, be careful how you spell that as you fill in the blank. That is a complement with an <em>e<\/em>, not a compliment with an <em>i<\/em>. It doesn\u2019t mean you are supposed to say: \u201cYour biceps are so huge!\u201d and \u201cI love the way you change the oil in the car.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, we don\u2019t mind that kind of compliment, ladies\u2014we could use more of that, probably\u2014but that\u2019s not what we\u2019re saying. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis word, complement, is like the word you used in your geometry class in high school. Do you remember complementary angles?\u00a0 It means to fill-in\u2014to complete \/ to complement in a way that you bring something to your husband he doesn\u2019t have. It means to play a team role well; and we\u2019re going to see that, here, in verse 22. So, look back up at Ephesians 5:22\u2014let\u2019s start in verse 21. We\u2019ve looked at this several times; but it says, \u201cSubmitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo you remember a few weeks ago when we talked about that message, \u201cHow to be a Winner Every Day\u201d?\u00a0 One of the things that winners do is\u2014they fill their relationships with submission. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat means that we come alongside each other \/ we come up under one another\u2014we support; we cheer on; we say: \u201cI want to be on the team. I don\u2019t even have to call the plays. I just want to\u2014I believe in you, and I want to go the same direction that you\u2019re going in. I want to help you get there.\u201d\u00a0 We fill our relationships with submission\u2014that\u2019s verse 21. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, when we get to verse 22, it is specifically targeting wives. So, he says, \u201cWives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord.\u201d\u00a0 Now, ladies, aren\u2019t you grateful for that little three-letter word there\u2014own husbands?\u00a0 Isn\u2019t it great you don\u2019t have to submit to everybody\u2019s husband?\u00a0 There\u2019s just one, and God\u2019s command is not that all women submit to all men. God\u2019s command is that, if you\u2019re a wife, you have one husband and that is the husband you are to submit to. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou say, \u201cWell, I don\u2019t like that.\u201d\u00a0 Well, then, you shouldn\u2019t have gotten married. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou didn\u2019t have to get married; but if you are married, and you are a wife, and you\u2019re a Christian, this is a requirement\u2014it\u2019s not an option. So, he says in verse 23\/24: \u201cThe husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, His body, and is Himself its Savior.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHusbands have a role to play\u2014we are to <em>lead<\/em>. We are the leaders in the relationships; we are the initiators of the relationship. We\u2019re the risk-taskers. We\u2019re the ones that say: \u201cFollow me. I know the way. I\u2019m going this way. Everybody come with me.\u201d\u00a0 That\u2019s the job of the husband. Verse 24: \u201cNow, as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in every way in everything to their husbands.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, this is your favorite word, ladies, I know, in the whole Bible. If you think it\u2019s hard to listen to, just imagine how hard it is for me, as a man, to actually have to give you some instruction today. It\u2019s like walking through a minefield. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou may actually witness me blow myself up, right here, on the platform; okay? Now, in order to <em>prevent<\/em> that, I am going to need some help. I\u2019m actually going to ask a wife that, at times, has to deal with a disrespect\u2014a needy husband\u2014to come up here and help me. Andrea, my wife\u2014would you please come up here and help me from stepping on a landmine?\u00a0 [Applause]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, as we get into this, there\u2014it\u2019s important that we understand what submission is not and what submission is. First of all, understand this: \u201cSubmission is not a statement of <em>value<\/em>.\u201d\u00a0 Men and women have equal <em>value<\/em> before the Lord. God\u2019s statement of submission is a statement of <em>function<\/em> and <em>role<\/em>, not of value; okay?\u00a0 God has a different function \/ a different use for a husband than He has for a wife. When we both play our role well, we both win. So, it\u2019s a statement of function, not of value. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSecondly, submission is <em>not<\/em> just a woman\u2019s issue. <em>Everybody<\/em> has to submit to authority. Your husband submits to the authority of God, and God is his Head; and he has to submit to an employer. The reason why this is hard\u2014is not because you are a woman\u2014it\u2019s because we don\u2019t like to be told what to do. We don\u2019t like to bring ourselves up under somebody else\u2019s leadership. So, it\u2019s <em>hard<\/em> for all of us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAlso, understand this: \u201cSubmission is <em>not<\/em> enabling sinful activity in your husband.\u201d\u00a0 It\u2019s not blind obedience to sinful activity. We have to obey God rather than man; and when one authority conflicts with another authority, which one do you obey?\u00a0 The higher authority; right?\u00a0 You have a higher authority than your husband. So, ladies, if you\u2019re in a relationship, where your husband is abusive or if he\u2019s asking you to do something that is clearly sin, you don\u2019t submit to that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, the question is: \u201cWhat is submission?\u201d\u00a0 Let\u2019s give it some meaning here. It simply means to give up control \/ it means to yield. It means to use all of your creativity, and your intelligence, and your intuition to come up under and to <em>support<\/em> the direction that your husband is leading. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tProbably, the <em>best<\/em> description of this that I\u2019ve ever heard\u2014I can\u2019t improve on it\u2014comes from John Piper\u2014no surprise. Here\u2019s what John Piper says about this idea of submission: \u201cSubmission is the divine calling of a wife to honor and affirm her husband\u2019s leadership and to help to carry it through according to her gifts. It is the disposition to follow a husband\u2019s authority and inclination to yield to his leadership.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>I love these words: calling, disposition, inclination. Then, he says: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cIt\u2019s an attitude that says, \u2018I delight for you to take the initiative in our family. I\u2019m glad when you take responsibility for things and to lead with love. I don\u2019t flourish in the relationship when you are passive and I have to make sure the family works without you.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, men, ladies have a hard job. Now, we talked about how they\u2019ve got a hard job, and we can make their job easier by <em>loving<\/em> and leading the way God\u2019s called us to lead. Ladies, you have a hard job. We admit: \u201cThis is hard.\u201d\u00a0 Yet, by doing this, you can make your husband\u2019s job easier\u2014to love and to lead\u2014when he senses that he has your respect. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrea: <\/strong>Now, I remember one time when I was just <em>not<\/em> getting this. We were living in Buchanan, and I was homeschooling our kids. Every night after dinner, Trent would say, \u201cHey, let\u2019s go take a walk!\u201d Every night, I was like: \u201cNo; I have dinner dishes to do. We\u2019ve got to get stuff ready for tomorrow.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI had my own agenda, my own plan, my own way that I was going. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFinally, one night, he just stopped\u2014he took me by the shoulders and he said, \u201cAndrea, I am <em>trying<\/em> to lead you.\u201d\u00a0 All of a sudden, I <em>saw<\/em> it. I thought: \u201cWhy do I always have to have a better idea?\u201d or \u201cI can\u2019t get off my own agenda\u201d?\u00a0 So, I was like: \u201cOkay; you know what?\u00a0 Those dinner dishes can wait. Let\u2019s go take a walk.\u201d We just started taking a walk after dinner. You know what?\u2014I <em>love<\/em> being outside. I really needed to be with my husband, because I was only being with kids all the time. So, <em>following<\/em> his leadership was of great benefit to <em>me<\/em>. When I came back to do the dinner dishes, it was a lot more fun; because I had connected with my husband. I\u2019ve found that to be true so many times in submission. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor me\u2014though I never would have said this going into marriage\u2014submission has become kind of an <em>adventure<\/em>; because I have one way and then Trent says, \u201cWell, why don\u2019t we do it this way?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s a way I\u2019ve never thought of \/ I get a new perspective. I get out of my box \/ I get out of my comfort zone\u2014and it is <em>fun<\/em>, and there\u2019s adventure there. There\u2019s also protection when he is saying, \u201cDon\u2019t do things.\u201d\u00a0 There has been a lot of <em>wisdom<\/em> as I\u2019ve just said, \u201cYou know, I\u2019m just going to step back; because he\u2019s not in on this.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo many times, we think submission is a statement of <em>value<\/em>. It\u2019s not a statement of value\u2014it\u2019s a statement of role \/ of function as we come alongside and help our husbands to be all that they were created to be as they lead our families. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Trent: <\/strong>So: \u201cWife, complement your husband.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSecondly: \u201cWife, respect your husband.\u201d\u00a0 So, what does this word, respect, mean?\u00a0 Let\u2019s give it some definition here\u2014some short phrases here: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt means to esteem, to regard, to value, to look up to, to admire, to heed, to notice, to consider, to recognize, to defer to, to honor, to be kind to, to spare, to take into account, to uphold, to appreciate. All of those aspects of respect are there. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>Now, ladies, please understand how God has wired your husband. Almost every husband\u2014almost every wife would appreciate their husband taking leadership; but you fail to understand what fuels his leadership. Listen, <em>respect<\/em> is <em>rocket fuel<\/em> to leadership. If a husband doesn\u2019t sense that he has respect from his wife, ladies, your husband will lose motivation to lead; and he will fade into the background. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you start picking up all of the leadership responsibility, your husband will be glad to let you have it; but if you will respect him, encourage him, and inspire him, and motivate him, he will pick up that God-given role and love and lead the way God has called him to. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrea: <\/strong>You may be like me. I found that I had a respect for Trent\u2014like I had this <em>feeling<\/em> of respect\u2014but there was this gap in me feeling it and him hearing it from me. There was this huge communication gap. I didn\u2019t know how to tell him, and he wasn\u2019t hearing the ways I was trying to tell him. So, one day, I just asked him\u2014I just said, \u201cHow do you <em>hear<\/em> respect from me?\u201d\u00a0 I was so surprised at his answer. It had nothing to do with the way I was trying to communicate it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLadies, that would be something I would encourage you to do\u2014just ask your husband, \u201cHow do you <em>hear<\/em> respect from me?\u201d\u00a0 When they tell you, just listen. Don\u2019t be defensive. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf that goes well, then, go to the next question and say, \u201cHow am I communicating disrespect to you?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, again, we\u2019ve been listening to the first part of a message from our friends, Trent and Andrea Griffith, talking about how a wife can demonstrate respect for her husband. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I feed off of Barbara\u2019s respect for me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; [Trent] called it, \u201cRocket fuel.\u201d\u00a0 It really is; isn\u2019t it?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It is\u2014it feeds the soul. Every man needs a woman in his life, besides his mom, who would believe in him, and expect the best of him, and cheer him on. I don\u2019t think it means that a woman is less of a person for respecting her husband. It\u2019s really, in my opinion, a very noble assignment and one that takes, I think, some skill and prayer and asking God to show you to catch your husband doing things right, where you can show him respect. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is one of the subjects that gets addressed at our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways. It happens on Sunday morning\u2014while the men are hearing straight-talk about their assignment, as husbands and as fathers\u2014the wives get an extended period of time where it\u2019s just the women. There is conversation about what it is we\u2019re to do and to be, as wives and as moms. Folks, who have attended the getaway, tell us, Dennis, Sunday morning is really a highlight of the weekend for them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Most of us do not understand how to be a wife or how to be a husband in the assignment that God has given us. There\u2019s really nothing in life that would prepare you, other than your family of origin; and in many cases, the model that was presented there was not a biblical one. Unless you\u2019ve been discipled and mentored by a godly woman, how is a wife going to figure out, \u201cWhat does it look like to truly respect my husband?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think these kind of discussions\u2014like we\u2019re having, here, on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014are really important to, I think, equip wives to be who they are supposed to be so the men will be able to lead, and serve well, and love well in their assignment. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I\u2019ve talked to a lot of men\u2014and a lot of wives, for that matter\u2014who have said the time together at a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway was transformative in our marriage. In fact, you and I were talking to a couple, this week, who said they were at a low point\u2014they were separated. God used a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> as a turning point for them; and, now, more than 20 years later, they are thriving. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>They are, and they are impacting other marriages. You left out a detail or two, Bob. You spoke at the conference where their marriage was saved, 20 years ago. Now, here they are\u2014business owners, impacting other people\u2019s lives. They just left to go on a mission trip to Africa. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just think, when all is well at home, you can do a lot of stuff in the world to make an impact for Jesus Christ; but when all isn\u2019t well at home\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014when you two aren\u2019t clicking\u2014likewise, I think we\u2019re rendered far less useful in the Kingdom\u2019s work when we\u2019re not clicking with our spouse. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; the reality is that most of the people who are coming to a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> are in a pretty good place in their marriage. They would score their marriage above 70 percent; but those folks still need an adjustment \/ a tune-up, because it\u2019s easy to slip out of tune in your marriage. That\u2019s what we try to provide at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>\u2014an opportunity for you to reexamine, recalibrate, get your minds set in the right direction, and then begin to live that out in your marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, I\u2019d just encourage our listeners to find out more about the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com; or call if you have any questions: 1-800-FL-TODAY. We\u2019d love to have you join us at an upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway. They really are a <em>great<\/em> weekend away for a husband and a wife. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd if this respect issue is something that, as a wife, you\u2019re struggling with in your marriage, our friend, Nina Roesner, has written a book called <em>The Respect Dare<\/em>. It\u2019s a 40-day journey to cultivate respect for your husband. We have copies of that book available in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You might check that out, online, as well. The book is called <em>The Respect Dare<\/em>, and the website is FamilyLifeToday.com; or again, call 1-800-358-6329\u20141-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, ultimately, when we think about these issues, we want to make sure that we are thinking biblically\u2014not just pragmatically \/ not just what works out best in your home\u2014but instead: \u201cHow has God designed us to function in this life\u2014in our marriage \/ in our family?\u201d and \u201cHow can we live according to His design and, in the process, bring glory to Him and to His design?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s what <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is all about\u2014we want to provide practical biblical help and hope for marriages and families. We want to see marriages and families aligned with God\u2019s purposes for His creation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we appreciate those of you who share that vision with us\u2014those of you who have helped us expand and reach more people with God\u2019s blueprints for marriage and family. Thanks to those of you, especially, who are monthly Legacy Partners in support of this ministry. Your financial support is what makes <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> possible, and we\u2019re grateful to be partnered with you in this endeavor. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019ve never made a donation\u2014a longtime listener but you\u2019ve never donated\u2014today would be a good day to go online and make a donation. It\u2019s easy to do. Our website, again, is FamilyLifeToday.com. You can call to donate if that\u2019s easier: 1-800-FL-TODAY; or if you\u2019d like to mail your donation, our mailing address is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> at PO Box 7111, Little Rock, AR; and our zip code is 72223.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we\u2019re going to hear Part Two of Trent and Andrea Griffith\u2019s message on wives respecting husbands. We\u2019ll hear about the mindset shift that Andrea had to make in order to be in the right place in her marriage. I hope you can tune in for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. 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