{"id":304710,"date":"2017-10-04T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2017-10-04T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/getting-unstuck\/"},"modified":"2017-10-04T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2017-10-04T15:00:00","slug":"getting-unstuck","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/getting-unstuck\/","title":{"rendered":"Getting Unstuck"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ted Cunningham shares some sound advice for getting your marriage out of the doldrums and back on the happy track.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2017-10-04.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:24:55","filesize":"22.82M","filesize_raw":"23923316","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2082,2810,2862],"tags":[6329,6330,6325,4213,2877,4612,6328],"podcast_series":[8046],"cwp_profile":[9366],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-304710","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-communication","category-growing-spiritually","category-understanding-differences","tag-doldrums","tag-filling-your-love-tank","tag-fun-loving","tag-love","tag-marriage","tag-mundane","tag-rut","podcast_series-fun-loving-you","cwp_profile-ted-cunningham","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/304710\/getting-unstuck","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/304710\/getting-unstuck","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"SQfaOP8xrj\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/getting-unstuck\/\">Getting Unstuck<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/getting-unstuck\/embed\/#?secret=SQfaOP8xrj\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Getting Unstuck&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"SQfaOP8xrj\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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Here\u2019s Ted Cunningham.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> I encourage couples to do this all the time\u2014point to one another and just simply say the words: \u201cYou\u2019re fired. You\u2019re fired! You are no longer the source of my life. You will no longer be the one I look to as my source.\u201d So, start by defining\u2014for a lot of \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tguys\u2014it may be their job; it may be the bank; it may be, you know, their identity and what they do\u2014it\u2019s a spouse; it\u2019s a child. Unplugging from them is the first place to start before you can plug into the true and only source.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Wednesday, October 4<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. For your relationship with your spouse to be all that God wants it to be, your relationship with God needs to be all that He intends for <em>it<\/em> to be. We\u2019ll talk about that today. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us on the Wednesday edition. I remember you talking once about a nautical phenomenon that was related to marriage. Do you know what I\u2019m talking about? I\u2019m talking about the doldrums. Explain to our listeners about the doldrums.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> The doldrums is a spot near the equator. I\u2019ve actually read books about this, and I\u2019ve actually lost weight reading books that have talked about how hot it can be near the equator in the doldrums. [Laughter] Sailing vessels feared this; because they could sail right into the doldrums, where there was no wind for weeks\/months\u2014you would run out of supplies. It could literally sap the life out of you. It was a place where, weather-wise, they couldn\u2019t predict it \/ anticipate it; but they knew it was there. It can kill sailors; and in marriage, it can kill a relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You\u2019re just dead in the water, literally, because you\u2019re not going anywhere.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We get in ruts. There\u2019s another illustration\u2014we get in a rut and we don\u2019t know how to get out, and so we\u2019re in the marital doldrums. Every couple needs to avoid them. When you find yourself in them, you\u2019ve got to get a plan to get out. Our guest today has written a book to help you do just that. It\u2019s called <em>Fun Loving You: Enjoying Your Marriage in the Midst of the Grind<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTed Cunningham\u2014we\u2019ve really enjoyed having you on the broadcast. Welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Thank you for having me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Ted is a pastor in Branson, Missouri. He and his wife have two children, and they both met one another at Liberty University. They\u2019ve been married since 1996. Your marriage had to sail into the doldrums at some point over these years. Do you remember a time when you were there?\u2014the grind got to you where, you know, you were in need of finding somebody to pull you out?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Yes; I use the illustration of a love jug. That\u2019s an Ozarkian illustration. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI do; I picture my heart like a love jug. This is Proverbs 4:23: \u201cAbove all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.\u201d When you\u2019re connected to your spouse, as the source of life\u2014waiting for them to fill you up \/ waiting for them to give you what you think you need\u2014it becomes a toxic poison and a reservoir that <em>no one<\/em> wants to drink out of. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI even keep, now, a love jug\u2014it\u2019s just like a clear banquet jug\u2014underneath our counter at home to teach this to our kids.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> What\u2019s a banquet jug?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Just like a water jug, you know, that you would see at a banquet\u2014that they refill glasses with. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Okay.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> I just like to keep that\u2014so, when I pull it out, I\u2019ll ask the kids, \u201cWhat is it?\u201d They\u2019ll say, \u201cIt\u2019s the love jug.\u201d I\u2019ll say, \u201cWhat does it represent?\u201d They\u2019ll say, \u201cIt represents the heart.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cWho is responsible for your love jug?\u201d \u201cI am responsible for my love jug.\u201d \u201cHow much are you responsible?\u201d They say, \u201c100 percent.\u201d Then, I love to fill up the water. You know, I grab the hose from the sink, and I\u2019ll fill it up all the way; because our goal is to be as full of God\u2019s love as possible, so you have something to give other people.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tEarly in marriage\u2014and, again, I keep going back to that early first seven years\u2014you\u2019re not connected to the true and only source. You <em>know<\/em> the true and only source of life is\u2014it is 1 John: \u201cGod is love. We know and rely on the love Jesus has for us. We love because He first loved us.\u201d Really, we\u2019re not practicing that; because I\u2019m waiting on my spouse to give me something. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I love to do is fill that jug up with water. Then, I go to the cupboard; and I just put out a bunch of glasses on the breakfast bar or on the kitchen table. We do this a lot in our home\u2014whenever I sense co-dependency coming into my marriage or into our home\u2014co-dependency is just that excessive emotional reliance on another person. I start filling up all the other little jugs out of my love jug. I have one for Amy; I have one for Corinne; one for Carson; one for my parents. I have a little shot glass for my mother-in-law. [Laughter] I have coffee cups for members of the church. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe whole point is that I get down to just an inch or two of water in the love jug. I put this almost-empty love jug on the counter; and I tell the kids: \u201cYour dad\u2019s, sitting around, waiting for all of these other people I\u2019ve poured into to pour back into me\u2014that\u2019s co-dependency. That\u2019s waiting on <em>them<\/em>. They\u2019re not my source of life.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI say: \u201cI love you guys, but you\u2019re all limited supplies. You\u2019re <em>very<\/em> limited supplies.\u201d I remind them of the day we got that dreaded news\u2014I don\u2019t know if you remember waking up to this horrible news that Twinkies went bankrupt.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Oh, yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Do you remember that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That was a bad day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> It was a dark day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; it was.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> It was a dark day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You couldn\u2019t fry them or anything. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> We do that in the Ozarks too.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We do! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> But I remember just hearing the news that we wouldn\u2019t be able to get Twinkies anymore. What was my first reaction? \u2014desperation!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> \u201cI\u2019ve got to get to the store!!\u201d I hadn\u2019t had a Twinkie in 20 years; but my first thought was: \u201cOhhh! We need a Twinkie!\u201d That\u2019s what happens with limited supplies\u2014you live in desperation. I don\u2019t want to be <em>desperate<\/em> with people \/ I want to <em>serve<\/em> people. I want to pour into other people with <em>zero expectation<\/em> of them pouring back into me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen your marriage gets stuck in the grind\u2014when <em>you<\/em> get stuck in the grind\u2014you sit around with an empty love jug, waiting for everyone and everything to give you some form of happiness, some form of pleasure, some way to find fulfillment. It\u2019s just not where you\u2019re going to find it\u2014they\u2019re all very limited supplies. I want to be connected to the true and only source of life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs Pastor Andy Stanley says: \u201cMy job is not to fill you up. My job is to empty myself.\u201d I want to empty myself into my marriage and into my children. I don\u2019t want to place them in the grind\u2014they\u2019re not the grind\u2014they\u2019re relationships that God has given me to go through the grind <em>with<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But the way you empty yourself without getting empty is by making sure you are continually being refilled from the Source; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Connected to the Source. We love the verse: \u201cI am the Way and the Truth and the Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.\u201d We use that verse to speak of evangelism and to speak of the exclusivity of Christ, but we forget it\u2019s our way to <em>stay<\/em> connected to the Father. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJesus is God\u2019s love language. Gary Chapman has talked about love languages for years\u2014the way we give and receive love. Jesus is the way God gives and receives love. So, I have to know His Words\u2014I obey His Words; I keep His commands; I stay connected to His Word\u2014He is the Source. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI have something to give, because He is unlimited. He is <em>unlimited<\/em>; and I can pour, pour, pour, pour, [and] pour. If you meet someone who\u2019s toxic, they are someone who is connected to the wrong source\u2014they\u2019re living on empty and they\u2019re drinking this\u2014I call unresolved anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick. They\u2019ve been in the grind for <em>so long<\/em>\u2014connected to the wrong source for <em>so long<\/em>\u2014that every person in their life is one more thing to take something out of them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So, you\u2019re talking about how to defeat the grind \/ to keep the grind from just chewing you up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Absolutely!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Practically, how do you stay connected to Jesus Christ? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re talking, right now, to business guys, who are frantic in the midst of pursuing a career; moms, who are running errands with kids\u2014relentless errands\u2014maybe, they\u2019re trying to work as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> They\u2019re feeling empty, and they\u2019re feeling stuck in the grind.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And marriage is not a source of joy. It\u2019s just something they\u2019re hanging on to.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Well, because\u2014and I\u2019ll go to the mom for just a second. The mom has been told that\u2019s what good moms do\u2014they live on empty: \u201cDrain yourself. Give everything to the kids. Just wipe yourself out.\u201d But it\u2019s <em>always<\/em> in the best interest of your spouse \/ your children\u2014everyone in your life\u2014for you to be as full as possible. It\u2019s in the best interest of everyone!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think\u2014where the business guy, listening, goes: \u201cOkay; I know! He\u2019s going to tell me to pray \/ read my Bible.\u201d The problem is\u2014there\u2019s something you have to do before that, and that is unplug. Like, I mean, make the decision. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> We talk a lot about making decisions. Again, that doesn\u2019t flow from chemistry or compatibility\u2014that flows from your character. You have to <em>make<\/em> the decision and look to your wife\u2014I encourage couples to do this all the time\u2014point to one another and just simply say the words: \u201cYou\u2019re fired. You\u2019re fired! You are no longer the source of my life. You will no longer be the one I look to as my source.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tStart by defining\u2014for a lot of guys, it may be their job; it may be the bank; it may be, you know, their identity and what they do; it\u2019s a spouse; it\u2019s a child. Unplugging from them is the first place to start before you can plug into the true and only Source.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And, then, when you do plug into the Source, practically, how do you do that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> I have to make sure that, before I leave the house every day, I\u2019m full. Before I begin interacting with people each day, I want to <em>know<\/em> and be reminded of the true and only Source. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJesus said this in John 14: \u201cIf you love Me, you\u2019ll keep My commandments.\u201d You can\u2019t keep His commandments unless you <em>know<\/em> His commandments\u2014so, you have to stay connected to His Word as well. He says, \u201cMy Father will love you, and we will come and make our home with you.\u201d So, to stay connected to Jesus keeps you connected to God. To stay connected to Jesus, you stay connected to His words. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, to <em>know<\/em> the words of Christ \/ to <em>meditate<\/em> upon the words of Christ\u2014to understand He is your Source\u2014the earlier the better\u2014on the drive to work, before work, at work, all throughout the day. If you can\u2019t be reading, you\u2019re meditating \/ you\u2019re thinking upon the Word, connected to the only Source.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd this is what we do with our kids; right? This is why we do devotions, as a family. You want them to understand the love jug principle. You send them to school, or you send them to work, or you send them to the sporting event, understanding: \u201cYour coach isn\u2019t your source. The other players aren\u2019t your source. The sport isn\u2019t your source. Jesus is your Source, so let\u2019s send you out of this home as full as possible.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I like what you\u2019re saying there. And later on, in John 14, it says\u2014these are Christ\u2019s words He\u2019s speaking here: \u201cWhoever has My commandments and keeps them, He it is who loves Me. And he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him.\u201d And this is the part I really like here\u2014it says, \u201cAnd I will manifest myself to Him.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> God\u2014Almighty God\u2014will manifest Himself to you. I\u2019m going to tell you\u2014that\u2019s what fills the jug.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> When you\u2019ve met God\u2014when you\u2019re seeing Him at work in your life, in your soul, in your marriage, in your family\u2014and it doesn\u2019t always \/ it\u2019s not always visible\u2014but when you\u2019ve encountered Christ, you can see the springs of life flowing from your heart.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Yes; and I think that\u2019s why we <em>start<\/em> with unplugging, because I think we\u2019re so crowded today \/ we have so many voices. There are a lot of voices we need to turn off \/ we need to mute altogether and turn up some voices.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen someone comes to me and says: \u201cPastor, why do I not feel connected to God? Why do I feel like my prayer time is wasted time? Why do I feel like I come on Sunday and I get a little charge; but, man, by Monday, I\u2019m just\u2014there\u2019s nothing.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, again, I can tell you to pray; I can tell you to study; I can tell you to go to a Bible study; but it is a daily, hourly, minute-by-minute understanding of who the Source is and knowing who the Source is, and removing the distractions and unplugging from people, places, and things as the distractions. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I want to illustrate this. Barbara\u2019s been struggling with some back pain. This morning, a friend sent her a verse, which Barbara read to me. So this is how we started our day, to your point\u2014it\u2019s Psalm 68, verse 19: \u201cBlessed be the Lord who daily bears us up, who daily carries our burdens,\u201d\u2014with us \/ for us. He reminded us of that this morning. Now, that\u2019s a great way to start your day! I was facing some burdens \/ Barbara was facing some as well. We were reminded, by Scripture, of the truth that this life is not all about us. It\u2019s about someone else\u2019s glory, not ours. It\u2019s not about our happiness, but it\u2019s about what He\u2019s up to both in us and through us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, I came to work this morning, saying, \u201cOkay; God, help me know how to be used by You in the lives of those I touch today.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So it sounds like what we\u2019re saying here is: \u201cIf your marriage is in the doldrums\u2014if it\u2019s stuck in a rut \/ if you\u2019re just kind of getting through it\u2014it sounds like we\u2019re saying: \u2018You need to examine your relationship with Jesus first. To get your marriage better, you\u2019ve got to ask the question, \u201cHow\u2019s your relationship with Jesus?\u201d\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m thinking about a pastor in <em>The Art of Marriage<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> video series that we put together, who is talking about conflict with his wife, at year ten, in their marriage. He said: \u201cI realized that, if I was going to get my relationship with her right, I had to get my relationship with God right. The problem with my relationship with her was my relationship with God was out of whack.\u201d Is that where you start if your marriage is languishing?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> One hundred percent. Again, it\u2019s this idea of unplugging. When I\u2019m plugged in to Amy as the source of my life, however she wakes up \/ however her day goes, so goes my day. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tParents have this same problem; right? We have the problem, as a parent\u2014we\u2019ve fallen for this faulty input-output theory of parenting. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> We believe that whatever we put into our child is what we\u2019re going to get out of our child. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That\u2019s dangerous, right there!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> That\u2019s just not true! So: \u201cYou\u2019re only as happy as your most miserable child,\u201d\u2014as the old saying goes. You\u2019re going: \u201cNo, no, no!\u201d You unplug; because: \u201cI don\u2019t want to raise co-dependent children.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> I don\u2019t want my children being raised to think: \u201cMy joy in life flows from how well Mom and Dad are doing,\u201d \u201cMy joy in life flows from how well my brother \/ my sister are doing.\u201d No; your joy in life is from the Lord.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So what do you do if you are finding your joy in life in the Lord and your spouse isn\u2019t?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Okay; well, a couple of things happen. When your marriage gets stuck in the grind, we always start, number one, with unplugging from the spouse as the source of life; because right behind that is examining your heart and the condition of your heart\u2014because there are only two conditions of your heart\u2014right?\u2014it\u2019s either open or closed; okay?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tA co-dependent person has a closed heart; right?\u2014they\u2019re connected to the wrong source. The only way that they\u2019re going to receive something from you is if it brings happiness to them; or they\u2019re going to blame you if it brings, you know, any criticism, or toxicity, or negativity toward them. You have to ask the question, first and foremost: \u201cIs my heart open to receiving from the only Source of life?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know this sounds simple, but you only have one heart. When you close your heart, you automatically isolate from other people; because you don\u2019t want to hear it. You don\u2019t want the back-up singers coming into your life or into your marriage, who are going to speak truth into your life and who are going to encourage you. I tell folks in our church, all of the time, \u201cWhen you have a closed heart, connected to the wrong source, and you\u2019re isolating from biblical community, this is the time you need to plug in to biblical community.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> You know, I have fun with this\u2014I\u2019ll say, \u201cWe need to go to the older generations.\u201d You know, in our church\u2014we\u2019re a multi-generational church. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI tell the moms: \u201cYou know, some of the moms\u2014right now, you have anti-bacterial product hanging all over your purse. You need to go to the grandma in this church, who raised their kids, and when they picked up a cigarette butt and chewed on it, it didn\u2019t bug them. [Laughter] Their kids lived\u2014the same person who allowed their kids to go on vacation and sleep in the back window of the car, you know, while you strap your kids in like they\u2019re going to outer space.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> You know, there are some things you need to be reminded of\u2014because Scott Stanley from the University of Denver\u2014he puts it this way: \u201cEverybody falls in love with the front end of the puppy.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> You think about that. Every single person I know has a back-end marriage story. They have a difficult, painful story that they can tell you: \u201cHere\u2019s how we weathered it.\u201d So, you can\u2019t isolate from others when your marriage is stuck in the grind. Press into the biblical community, not as a form of co-dependency, but as someone who can call you out on a closed heart and a wrong source.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Your book is a great exhortation to get right with God and to find your love jug filled up with the right stuff, by the Holy Spirit, coming from the Scriptures; okay? But that\u2019s <em>not<\/em> all your book is about. You fill it with practical questions that are meant to <em>dislodge<\/em> a couple from the grind, in the midst of the doldrums, and help them experience joy, happiness, and encouragement in the midst of even some tough stuff.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat would you begin to share with a couple, who is listening to us right now, and they\u2019re saying: \u201cOkay; I think we\u2019re okay on our hearts being filled up with Christ. We struggle with that, but we\u2019re okay there.\u201d But their marriage has lost the zest\u2014the grind has ground it out of their relationship. What would you say to them?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> We talk a lot in the book about dating. Again, you said the practical part of helping them get out of that rut and the doldrums. One couple in our church wrote me a letter\u2014they said, \u201cWe went on the \u2018laugh date,\u2019\u201d\u2014it\u2019s 52 questions. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe started getting the couples in our church to really get passionate about dating again. So, if you go to our church website, it gives you ten date ideas just to get your dating idea muscle going in figuring that out; but then, we have you download 52 questions.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI got a letter from a lady in our church, and she said, \u201cWe were on the \u2018laugh date.\u2019\u201d All those questions and conversation starters are meant to do is get couples engaging in conversation to bring about laughter\u2014there\u2019s nothing <em>deep<\/em> \/ there\u2019s nothing ultra-spiritual\u2014it\u2019s just: \u201cI\u2019m going to ask you a question. Give me the answer, and we\u2019re going to laugh.\u201d Well, they started to be a disruption in this restaurant. They were laughing so much, and out of control at times, that the waitress had to say: \u201cHey, listen. I just need you guys to\u2026\u201d I mean, think about that! [Laughter] I would <em>love <\/em>to hear a story that Dennis and Barbara Rainey were kicked out of a restaurant because they were laughing too much.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> I mean, that\u2019s a great story!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> By the way, let me just say, quickly\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> They have been kicked out of a restaurant. No; I\u2019m joking. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We\u2019ve got a link on our website at FamilyLifeToday.com to the \u201claugh date\u201d and all of the dates you\u2019re talking about on your website. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Okay.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, if our listeners are interested, they can come to FamilyLifeToday.com; and we\u2019ll take them right there. They can tap into what you\u2019re doing there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> Yes. The waitress comes over and asks, \u201cWhat is going on over here?!\u201d The lady started to explain to the waitress what was going on. The waitress sits down next to them in the booth to engage now in this conversation and says, \u201cI think my husband and I would really enjoy something like that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe <em>never<\/em> put these dates out there for outreach or for evangelism\u2014that was never our goal. It was just to get the couples in our church engaging one another with laughter, with play, with fun, with adventure \/ dreaming and all of that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe said: \u201cTed, I reached into my purse, and I had two other dates. So, I had another 104 questions that I handed her and said, \u2018I can print out more when I get home.\u2019 I told her where to get it.\u201d She said, \u201cThe waitress left our table on top of the world, totally excited and ready to do it\u201d; because laughter is contagious.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It is.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ted:<\/strong> So, when you see a couple in love and enjoying life together\u2014whatever age or season of life\u2014I encourage you to <em>engage<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPress in and ask, \u201cWhat in the world is going on?\u201d\u2014like I did with that couple in the Tough Mudder, or a senior couple in Branson, or a couple on a laugh date. I think we can start something that really helps couples break out of the stuck-ness they\u2019re in\u2014in the grind.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I think couples are looking for <em>hope<\/em>. They\u2019re looking for practical help, which is what you provide in that. I just want to encourage them to get a copy\u2014maybe a copy for a friend\u2014of <em>Fun Loving You<\/em>. It\u2019s a great book. It is filled with practical, as well as the core, bedrock, spiritual issues that help set people up to do what\u2019s right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI really appreciate you being on the broadcast today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere is something else they can do too. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; you are talking about a getaway; right?\u2014going to a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaway; right? I mean, this is a way that a lot of couples have told us they\u2019ve injected a little fun, a little romance, [and] a little time away together\u2014that\u2019s <em>refreshment<\/em> for a marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat can bring some life back into a marriage that has gotten routine. And all of us have those seasons in our marriage, where we\u2019re so busy with other things that we miss each other. So, two-and-a-half days, where the two of you are away and you\u2019re focused on one another\u2014that\u2019s a great refresher for any marriage relationship. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re right in the middle of our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway season. In fact, this weekend, we were in Augusta, Georgia; and we\u2019ve got events taking place all around the country throughout October and November and into December. You can find out when a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> is coming to a city near where you live. Simply go to FamilyLifeToday.com for the information or call 1-800-FL-TODAY. We can answer any questions you\u2019ve got about the getaway.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe also want to recommend you get a copy of Ted Cunningham\u2019s book, <em>Fun Loving You. <\/em>It\u2019s available from our <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>Resource Center as well. You can order from us, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOr you can call 1-800-358-6329 to order. Again, that\u2019s 1-800-FL-TODAY\u2014the website to order is FamilyLifeToday.com.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, here at FamilyLife, we believe there are a lot of pressing issues in our culture today\u2014a lot of issues that need to be addressed\u2014but if we could focus on only one issue, that would have the biggest impact on everything else, we believe that focus would be on our marriages and on raising our kids. We believe that our mission to effectively develop godly families is what can change the world. That\u2019s why, every day, on this program, or at our events, or through the resources we have available, or with what\u2019s available online at FamilyLifeToday.com, all of it has as its fundamental purpose a desire to effectively develop godly marriages and families. That\u2019s our mission, here, at FamilyLife.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we appreciate those of you who provide the fuel to make that mission happen more often in more places with more people. Every time you make a donation to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, it\u2019s like you\u2019re buying a tank of gas so that <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>can go a little further. In fact, when you make a donation to <em>FamilyLife Today, <\/em>you enable us to reach tens of thousands of people all around the world with practical biblical help for marriages and families.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re grateful to be partners together in this endeavor. In fact, we\u2019d love to send you a copy of Dennis Rainey\u2019s brand-new book, which is called <em>Choosing a Life that Matters. <\/em>The book is our thank-you gift for a donation of any amount. You can donate, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY to make a donation and request Dennis\u2019s new book. Or, if you\u2019d prefer, you can mail your donation to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> at PO Box 7111, Little Rock, AR; our zip code is 72223. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, ask for Dennis Rainey\u2019s new book, <em>Choosing a Life that Matters<\/em>; and we\u2019re happy to send a copy to you. Thanks again for your partnership with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we hope you can be back with us again tomorrow. We\u2019re going to talk about what moms and dads can do to help their sons thrive\u2014what you can do with a young son to help him experience all that God wants for him to experience. Barrett and Jenifer Johnson will be here tomorrow, and we\u2019ll talk with them about that. I hope you can be back with us as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. We\u2019ll see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would you consider <a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/donate\">donating today<\/a> to help defray the costs?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tCopyright <sup>\u00a9<\/sup> 2017 FamilyLife. 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