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For Rhonda Stoppe, it was how her husband prepared his breakfast every morning.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> He always thought he was doing me a <em>favor<\/em> by making the peanut butter toast on the counter so he didn\u2019t dirty a dish. I don\u2019t know why I did not see his obsession with peanut butter toast before we got married but\u2014I had this fetish with crumbs\u2014they just absolutely drive me crazy. [Laughter] I remember one day, I walked in the kitchen and the crumbs were all over. I just kind of gasped and he\u2019s like, \u201cWhat is wrong with you?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThose little things\u2014we assign motives to that; right? It\u2019s like: \u201cYou don\u2019t care what I do all day. Look at this!\u201d I come from marriages in my family that crumbled from those little roots of resentment that turned to bitterness that just tore down the foundation of a marriage\u2014so I knew that I needed help. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Wednesday, September 13<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey; and I'm Bob Lepine. What are the things your spouse is doing that are driving you crazy? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMaybe a better question is: \u201cWhat are the things <em>you\u2019re<\/em> doing that may be driving your <em>spouse<\/em> crazy?\u201d We\u2019ll talk about that today. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. You know, I think a lot of people\u2014when they\u2019re looking at challenges they\u2019re facing in their marriage relationship\u2014the biggest problem they have is trying to locate the <em>source<\/em> of the problem. Most people think it\u2019s somewhere outside rather than looking somewhere inside. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Like the mirror.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We\u2019ve got a guest, here on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, who has not only looked in the mirror but she\u2019s also looked at a sheet of paper and written some thoughts down about how a wife is to better love her husband. Rhonda Stoppe joins us on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Rhonda, welcome to the broadcast.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> Thanks. I\u2019m excited to be here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Rhonda and her husband Steve have been married since 1981; they have four grown children. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe is a speaker and author of several books. This latest book is <em>If My Husband Would Change, I\u2019d Be Happy<\/em>; and then it\u2019s subtitled, <em>(&amp; Other Myths Wives Believe)<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I almost scared her away from coming; because she tweeted that she was excited about coming, and then I tweeted back that we were going to pummel her with questions. She wanted to know if that was really a word and if we really did that in the studio. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Oh really?! Did he say that?!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> He said, \u201cpummel\u201d at about 11:45 your time. I was getting ready to go to bed and I go, \u201cOh, I\u2019m going to be pummeled in the morning!\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Wow! We found some fresh ways to, you know, offend our guests; but that\u2014that\u2019s\u2014that\u2019s a new one\u2014in advance! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> It was lighthearted, and I appreciate it. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You\u2019ve written a book here that\u2019s just\u2014a lighthearted book as well\u2014about wives and husbands\u2014and really, how wives can better love their husbands.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I think I have a suggestion that\u2014see if this qualifies as one of the ways a wife can love her husband. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf she takes the initiative and registers the two of them for a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaway; and she can tell him, \u201cI saved 50 percent by signing up this week.\u201d That would qualify\u2014don\u2019t you think?\u2014as a way of a wife demonstrating love for her husband?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI mention that, of course, because this is the last week that we\u2019ve got the opportunity for couples to save 50 percent on an upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway this fall. If you register this week and you use the promo code, \u201cSAVE50,\u201d you will save 50 percent off the regular registration fee; and you\u2019ll get a great weekend out of it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI would think, if you said to your husband, \u201cI thought it would be fun for us to have a getaway weekend where the two of us got away for a couple of days and went to a hotel\u2014and by the way\u2014I saved us 50 percent on the registration fee.\u201d I\u2019d think there would be a lot of husbands who would go, \u201cSounds like a deal to me!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFind out more about the special offer we\u2019re making this week for <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners\u2014go to FamilyLifeToday.com for the information. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can register online or you can find out dates and locations of upcoming getaways. Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com; or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY, and we\u2019ll answer any questions you have or get you registered for one of these upcoming events.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat is the end of the commercial. Excuse me\u2014we can get on with it here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Let\u2019s start with your love story with Steve. Just unpack how you guys met and how long it took him to pull the trigger.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> <em>FOREVER!<\/em> [Laughter] I am <em>crazy<\/em> in love with Steve Stoppe\u2014I am a Stoppe-stalker from <em>way back<\/em>. Steve had come home from Bible college to a church that I was actually going to a Christian school. All the young girls that were looking for a husband started dating him. I just\u2014honestly, the first time I talked to him, I walked away and I had that fleeting thought, \u201cI\u2019m going to marry him.\u201d I <em>never<\/em> thought that about anybody, and I was embarrassed that I even thought it\u2014I was 14! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Okay; hang on. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Fourteen?!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Bible college and 14.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> I know! I know! I didn\u2019t\u2014he didn\u2019t date me; he ran from me! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So what\u2019s the age difference?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> Six-and-a-half years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> If you had a daughter, who was 14, and she had a crush on a guy\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> That happened! Our youngest, Makayla\u2014I\u2019m going to tell your story \/ sorry, honey-girl. When she was, actually 13\/14, she met the man she\u2019s married to now. He was actually my older son, Brandon\u2019s, best friend, Estevan. She was crazy in love with this guy. I adore my son-in-law and I\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Well, you do <em>now<\/em>; but back then?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> I <em>always<\/em> did! My husband was the one that was going: \u201cUh-uh-uh! He can\u2019t know that she loves him at that age.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cBaby, I was 14; and I knew I was crazy about you.\u201d He goes, \u201cDon\u2019t tell her.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cShe knows our story!\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I just have to step in here, too; because I\u2019ll never forget my son\u2014his junior year in high school\u2014he came to me and he said, \u201cDad, I know what we\u2019ve talked about\u2014about dating\u2014and about the fact that you never marry the girl that you date in high school.\u201d He said: \u201cBut can I just ask this one girl out? Can I just ask her to an afternoon movie?\u201d I said, \u201cYou get her dad\u2019s okay, and you can go to an afternoon movie.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, they are, today, the parents of our granddaughter, Ivy. I\u2019ve had\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> Oh! We have an Ivy!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Do you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I\u2019ve had to eat my words that you never marry your high school sweetheart. I would still <em>tell<\/em> my son that, more times than not, you <em>don\u2019t<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut you just fell, head over heels, for him at 14; and it never let up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> I tell the story\u2014I hadn\u2019t seen him in a while. He drove this 1969 Mach 1 Shaker Hood\u2014it was awesome. We show up\u2014this was in Freemont, California\u2014I was a cheerleader for the Christian school I was at. We show up at this school. I see his midnight blue 1969 Mach 1: \u201cNo mistake! That\u2019s Steve Stoppe\u2019s car.\u201d I get that little pitter-patter like, \u201cI\u2019m going to see him! I haven\u2019t seen him in a while.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI walk in; and he runs up, and he does a layup. He was playing an alumni game for that high school he graduated from. We\u2014our eyes locked as he did the layup\u2014and you know, you walk right in the gym, face to face; and he kind of froze in time for a minute. My heart pitter-pattered; and he turned and ran back down the court. I\u2019m like: \u201cHe saw me! He\u2019s going to come talk\u2014he saw me.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAfter the game, he goes and showers and does whatever. I\u2019m getting ready\u2014I\u2019m in my cheerleading uniform, and I\u2019m getting ready for the game. I see him come out, and I\u2019m super-excited. He\u2019s <em>certainly<\/em> going to come over and say, \u201cHi,\u201d to me; and then, he walks out with a woman on his arm. I look at myself, in my little cheerleading uniform\u2014I\u2019m like, \u201cHe is never going to notice me\u2014I\u2019m a girl.\u201d He introduces this woman to all of the kids he went to high school with. I was just like, \u201cNah, he\u2019s never going to notice me.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> How long did it\u2014did he wait until he\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014until he noticed?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014until he noticed and asked you out? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> Well, he ran from me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Did he wait until you graduated from junior high? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> Absolutely! Absolutely! You know, it\u2019s funny; because we were just on a podcast called <em>Engaging Stories<\/em>. They were interviewing Steve and I and asking us: \u201cTell us your love story.\u201d It <em>evolved<\/em> over such a length of time. My sister was dating his brother; so we kind of all hung out in the same friendship group; and our families are friends. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember I was\u2014probably, around 16\u2014he and I were sitting in his Mach 1. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tA girl he had known in the past\u2014he had kind of gone to see again. I was like, \u201cIf I don\u2019t say something right now, I\u2019m going to lose this guy forever.\u201d So, I said, \u201cYou know,\u201d\u2014and I kind of waited and I said\u2014\u201cI kind of always thought that, maybe, one day, you and I end up together.\u201d Then, the man doesn\u2019t say a word. I\u2019m staring out the car \/ he\u2019s staring out the car\u2014we\u2019re sitting in the car, next to each other. Then, finally, he goes, \u201cYeah, me too.\u201d I was just like, \u201cOh!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, from that point on\u2014I wasn\u2019t allowed to date; so we just kind of hung out a lot. I\u2014like he and I say, \u201cWe don\u2019t even know when we started dating.\u201d We date now, a lot, just to make up for it; because we\u2019re not sure when the dating actually started. But, yes, he still takes my breath away. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Okay; so I have to just step in here and say, \u201cYou sound like the last person to write a book called <em>If My Husband Would Change, I\u2019d Be Happy<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> Okay! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014because he takes your breath away. You\u2019ve always been madly in love with him, since you were 14. He sounds like he\u2019s Mr. Perfect. Everybody\u2019s, who is listening, is going, \u201cIf I was married to him, too, <em>I\u2019d<\/em> be happy!\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> Okay! So, let\u2019s back up then. First of all\u2014after we got married, we took a month honeymoon. This wonderful man sold his Mach 1 so that we could have the money to go\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You know, you\u2019ve now mentioned the Mach 1 about four or five times.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> I know; oh, I know. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014with the Shaker Hood.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Was it Steve or\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> No; no\u2014it was his car. We sold it for three grand\u2014it\u2019s worth over a hundred grand now. I like to tell people he took me on a hundred thousand dollar honeymoon. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> There you go! There you go! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> We had so much fun! I had never been to a lot of places in the United States\u2014so we went to Mount Rushmore, Grand Canyon, [and] Yellowstone. One of the first stories I tell\u2014and if my husband could tell \/ I give <em>way<\/em> TMI about my and Steve\u2019s life\u2014when we were at Yellowstone\u2014I\u2019m sure most people know this, but I didn\u2019t\u2014that Old Faithful erupts at the same time every day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> So Steve had this amazing idea that we were going to hike up to the top of this vantage point to see it go off from where we were. I\u2019m like, \u201cAlright.\u201d We\u2019re hiking up to this place, where we\u2019re going to see Yellow\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014Old Faithful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> \u2014Old Faithful. I don\u2019t know why I can\u2019t think of that word. All of a sudden, after my morning coffee \/ a little exercise, my stomach starts making atrocious sounds. I\u2019m a 20-year-old blushing bride; and I\u2019m like, \u201cOkay; I\u2019m going to ignore it.\u201d Finally, I\u2019m: \u201cDude! If I don\u2019t make it back down to that bathroom, we\u2019re going to have our <em>own<\/em> Old Faithful right here.\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know this poor guy\u2014he, looking at this, where he could get up there to see\u2014we were almost there\u2014and he\u2019s looking down at the bathroom. We\u2014the park closed after that\u2014so he never got to see Old Faithful from that vantage point. We promised we\u2019d go back\u201435 years later, we have not ever been back. But I think that is when he realized that I was not Cinderella\u2014the princess he thought he married had some personal issues. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen we got home, we both went back to work, full-time. I remember the house\u2014what we used to do, when we were married\u2014is we lived in fixer-uppers. We lived in the Silicon Valley in San Francisco Bay area. Housings were <em>super<\/em> expensive. We would move into one and fix it up. The house that we just finished fixing up\u2014I remember I was in the kitchen, chiseling the ice out of the freezer\u2014the bacon. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs I\u2019m doing that, I\u2019m starting to resent: \u201cThis isn\u2019t <em>fun<\/em> anymore. We\u2019re not dating\u2014we\u2019re not having a good time.\u201d He\u2019s out in the garage\u2014I hear him laughing with his brother in the garage. They\u2019re putting brakes on the car or something. It was that little\u2014little resentment \/ that little root of bitterness that scared me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen\u2014the man loves peanut butter toast. I don\u2019t know why I did not see his obsession with peanut butter toast before we got married but\u2014he always thought he was doing me a <em>favor<\/em> by making the peanut butter toast on the counter so he didn\u2019t dirty a dish. I had this fetish with crumbs\u2014they just absolutely drive me crazy. [Laughter] I remember one day, I walked in the kitchen and the crumbs were all over. I just kind of gasped; and he\u2019s like, \u201cWhat is wrong with you?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThose little things\u2014we assign motives to that; right? It\u2019s like: \u201cYou don\u2019t care what I do all day. Look at this!\u201d I come from marriages in my family that crumbled from those little roots of resentment that turned to bitterness that just tore down the foundation of a marriage\u2014so I knew that I needed help.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI knew the wife that I wanted to be and I knew the wife that I could easily become. I looked around\u2014my husband and I worked with teenagers at the time. I looked at some of the marriages in our youth ministry\u2014the ones that you wanted to emulate. I just became friends with those older women. I <em>know<\/em> the relationships that I had with those Titus 2 women transformed the woman that I <em>would have<\/em> become\u2014but because of the direction that they sent me\u2014they were real \/ they were vulnerable with their successes and their failures. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s really the goal of <em>If My Husband Would Change<\/em>. It\u2019s written the way that I talk. I meet women all the time that say, \u201cOh, I\u2019m not a reader.\u201d I\u2019m like, \u201cWell, let\u2019s see\u2014you read Facebook<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> all day long; so you\u2019re a reader. We\u2019ve established that you\u2019re a reader.\u201d \u201cLet me write a book that\u2019s going to hang out with you\u2014that\u2019s going to feel more conversational\u2014that you\u2019re going to want to get the information that\u2019s in the book to apply it to help people build a no-regrets marriage.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You\u2019re really talking about something that, I think, is a missing ingredient in a lot of marriages as they start off; and that is to have some older men and women speaking to the couple just as they begin their marriage; because habits get formed early in the marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo you remember the first conversation you had with one of those Titus 2 women?\u2014just about something that Steve was doing that irritated you. Was it the bread crumbs?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014or the peanut butter that was smeared on the counter?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> No, no; it was not. Actually, the woman that I think that comes to mind, right off the bat, is my friend, Gail. What was interesting about these women when I reached out to them\u2014was that they invited me to a Bible study. I\u2019m like: \u201cNo, no, no; I don\u2019t need to study the Bible. I need help being a better wife.\u201d They said, \u201cJust join us.\u201d It was a study of Philippians\u2014it was a Precept study\u2014so it was five hours of homework a week.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> It was taking you deep.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> It was. I want those Jesus, God, Holy Spirit Bible studies\u2014I\u2019ve got all those Scriptures memorized from school\u2014I just want to fill it out\u2014I don\u2019t have time to do homework! But my friend, Gail\u2014she said: \u201cJust come to this class. By the time you\u2019re through the book of Philippians\u2014if it doesn\u2019t transform you\u2014I will never bother you again.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I found\u2014Romans 12\u2014that as we\u2019re not being conformed to this world \/ you know, watching TV shows about how to be a better wife or whatever\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014but \u201cbe transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good, acceptable, perfect will of God.\u201d <em>As<\/em> I was being washed with the water of the Word\u2014and it wasn\u2019t easy \/ it was a <em>lot<\/em> of time\u2014but as I started seeing my life through a biblical worldview \/ as I started being transformed with <em>truth<\/em>\u2014it changed the way I related to my husband. It changed that entitlement mentality\u2014or that idea that it\u2019s my husband\u2019s job to make me happy; and if he\u2019s not measuring up to my expectations, then he\u2019s letting me down.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Now, can I just say here?\u2014the book of Philippians says nothing specifically about marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But there\u2019s a lot in the book of Philippians that applies to marriage. I think that\u2019s an important point for listeners to grab onto; because we often think, \u201cThere are those marriage passages in the Bible, and that\u2019s where I need to go if I\u2019m having marriage issues.\u201d But a passage, like Philippians 2\u2014that says: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cDo nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility regard others as more important than yourself.\u201d That makes a lot of difference in a marriage if you start to apply that; doesn\u2019t it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> Absolutely! In fact, I <em>love<\/em> the book of Philippians so very much. I love, in Chapter 4, where he says: \u201cEuodia and Syntyche see to it that you agree in the Lord. And you, my true companion, help these women, who have labored side by side with me in the gospel, along with Clement, my fellow workers, whose names are in the book of life.\u201d <em>Immediately<\/em> he says: \u201cRejoice in the Lord always; again I say rejoice. Let your reasonableness be made known to all men. The Lord is at hand; be anxious for nothing, but in everything with prayer, supplication, thanksgiving let requests be made known to God.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe pick and choose those little verses out of Philippians, Chapter 4; but it\u2019s like Paul was saying that conflict between those women\u2014they needed somebody on the outside to come in and help them resolve it. Guess what? Conflict steals your joy. So, you fight for joy\u2014you \u201crejoice in the Lord always; <em>again<\/em>\u201d\u2014first he suggests it \/ then he <em>commands<\/em> it\u2014\u201cI say rejoice.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMarriage trouble in the church steals the joy of our marriages. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn 18 years of youth ministry, the number one thing that drove kids <em>away<\/em> from church was hypocrisy in the Christian homes. That\u2014my husband and I, for those 18 years\u2014you give us a kid whose parents are crack addicts and you say, \u201cHey, Jesus loves you.\u201d And they\u2019re like, \u201cHe loves <em>me<\/em>.\u201d You give me a kid, who\u2019s been raised in the church by apathetic, hypocritical, faking it\u2014you know, a lot of times, the marriages in the church\u2014they\u2019re <em>pretending<\/em> to be something that they\u2019re not\u2014the kids know. You say, \u201cHey, Jesus loves you.\u201d They go: \u201cYeah; yeah; yeah. I\u2019ve heard it my whole life.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBecause our marriage is a light to share the gospel\u2014and it begins in our homes\u2014there\u2019s no way around it. If we\u2019re not living in a manner worthy of our calling by <em>loving<\/em> our spouse with all of our being, our kids are <em>not<\/em> necessarily\u2014God can work in spite of us\u2014but they\u2019re not going to be drawn to Christ <em>because<\/em> of us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You mentioned something a little earlier that we ran past, Rhonda. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou mentioned something to the effect that you didn\u2019t have the picture-perfect Christian family that you grew up in to draw from as you became a young wife and mom. Unpack that a little bit\u2014of the model you were given or the bags that you brought into the marriage because of the home that you grew up in.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> My parents were saved, and they were believers; but they had come to Christ later in life. They had no mentors come alongside of them\u2014they had no one that stepped into their life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere is an example: my husband and I do a <em>No Regrets<\/em> marriage conference. We did one at the church in Patterson. We advertised it all over the radio. People from all over came; so it was a very anonymous event that you could be at. One of the couples that was there spent some time with our youth pastor and his wife afterward. She said something\u2014she said: \u201cMy husband and I are living with my in-laws. He\u2019s a pastor.\u201d They had four children\u2014they were living with them. She said, \u201cWe were on the verge of divorce a year ago, and my in-laws don\u2019t even know it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy <em>heart<\/em>, in the church, is to help couples build a <em>genuine<\/em> relationship\u2014that there\u2019s <em>genuine<\/em> love for one another so <em>that<\/em> there\u2019s not that pretense. I think there\u2019s a danger of everyone looking around and going, \u201cOh, everybody\u2019s happy, except us.\u201d The enemy likes to divide and conquer. If he can keep you thinking, you know, \u201cWe\u2019re the only ones,\u201d you\u2019re not going to say anything. What happens is\u2014it\u2019s just something that gets pushed under the rug until\u2014textbook: the kids grow up and then everybody parts ways; because \u201cWe stayed married for the sake of the kids.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat is my heart\u2014is to step into the marriages in church. Then, of course, my heart is evangelism; because we can give all the advice about marriage that we want to give; but if someone doesn\u2019t know Jesus as their Lord and Savior, then what\u2019s the point? The secret to really having a happy marriage is <em>not<\/em> in how well your husband measures up to your expectations; the <em>secret<\/em> is in how well you love God. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s really the <em>whole<\/em> premise of the entire book. Mark, Chapter 12\u2014the religious leaders of the day ask Jesus, you know: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cWhat\u2019s <em>protos<\/em>?\u201d\u2014\u201cWhat\u2019s the priority of life?\u201d Jesus didn\u2019t say: \u201cGo to church,\u201d \u201cLight a candle,\u201d \u201cChant a mantra,\u201d \u201cWork in the nursery,\u201d \u201cMake a crockpot of goodies for people.\u201d He said, \u201cThat you love the Lord your God with all of your being, with all of your heart,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s your emotions \/ your soul\u2014that\u2019s who you are\u2014your mind is your thoughts and your strength is with what you do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut what we do in Christian America?\u2014\u201cI love God with what I do,\u201d \u201cI\u2019m going to go do something to show the church and to show God how much I love Him.\u201d He\u2019s like: \u201cSlow down, Skippy. <em>Fall<\/em> in love with Me with your whole heart.\u201d How do we do that?\u2014back to what those Titus 2 women taught me. I <em>knew<\/em> the Bible \/ I went to Christian schools\u2014I <em>knew<\/em> Scripture. But every once in a while I\u2019d meet someone who <em>really<\/em> loved Jesus\u2014and I knew I didn\u2019t love Him like that\u2014because what\u2019s the second part of Jesus\u2019 command?\u2014\u201cthen you love your neighbor as yourself.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFalling in love with the Lord \/ falling in love with God with <em>all <\/em>of my being.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJesus said, \u201cMy yoke is easy; My burden is light.\u201d So if it\u2019s <em>hard<\/em> to love others\u2014beginning in your home\u2014if it\u2019s <em>hard<\/em> to love others, you have to step back and say: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0\u201cThere\u2019s something wrong in <em>my<\/em> walk.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy life verse\u2014Psalm 119:165: \u201cGreat peace have they that love thy law; and nothing shall offend them,\u201d or \u201c\u2026nothing shall cause them to stumble.\u201d That\u2019s my litmus test for how I\u2019m doing by being in love with God through His Word. If someone can offend me\u2014it doesn\u2019t mean people aren\u2019t offendable\u2014I\u2019m a pastor\u2019s wife, girlfriend! But it\u2019s choosing to say, \u201cI am not going to pick up that offense.\u201d But if I can\u2019t, then I have to step back and say: \u201cAm I being washed in the water of the Word? Am I letting the Word of God transform my thinking? Is it giving me the strength to take my thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ?\u201d If it\u2019s <em>not<\/em>, it\u2019s not <em>their<\/em> problem for offending me \/ it\u2019s <em>my<\/em> problem that I\u2019m not prepared. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat goes into our marriages. You know, if my husband: \u201cYou going to wear that today?\u201d It\u2019s like: \u201cWell, what do you mean by that?!\u201d If I pick up an offense\u2014yes; I can say, \u201cHey babe; can you not say it like that?\u201d\u2014and you want to have those conversations\u2014but am I <em>willing<\/em> to look at my own heart \/my own contributions to the marriage and say: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cI can\u2019t do a lot about what he just said; but if I\u2019m being offended, then I need to look at: \u2018Am I being washed with the water of the Word?\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I look at marriages today and I think, \u201cI don\u2019t know how two people, outside of having a relationship with Jesus Christ, can face their own self-centeredness and their spouse\u2019s selfishness and go the distance.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rhonda:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> There are so many conflicting messages in our culture today that says: \u201cTrade him in for a new one,\u201d \u201cFind a better one,\u201d \u201cYou can find another woman who\u2019d respect you more than <em>she<\/em> does.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> It\u2019s easier to shop for a new one today than ever before; because you\u2019ve got Facebook profiles \/ you\u2019ve got Tinder\u2014you can swipe to the right and see if the next one looks better than the last one. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; and you know Bob, we start the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway talking about the \u201cFive Threats to Oneness.\u201d Selfishness is one of those five threats. What you have to realize is: \u201cIf you get rid of this spouse and replace him or her with a newer one\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014a newer model or another one\u2014you\u2019re still going to have to deal with your own selfishness \/ her selfishness or <em>his<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think the only world religion that makes any sense is Christianity. It\u2019s a relationship with Jesus Christ; because He says, in order to do what Rhonda was talking about\u2014if you\u2019re going to love God\u2014you have to surrender. Love is surrender between a person and their God \/ it\u2019s a surrender of a person with another person in a marriage relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You mentioned the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway. I talked earlier about the special offer that we\u2019ve got going on this week\u2014in fact, it expires this weekend. If our listeners would like to attend one of these upcoming getaways\u2014we\u2019ve got more than four dozen of them happening across the country this fall\u2014you can sign up, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you sign up before the end of the weekend you will save 50 percent off the regular registration rate. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou need a promo code to do that\u2014it\u2019s \u201cSAVE50\u201d\u2014SAVE5-0. Again, sign up today or before the weekend is over; and you\u2019ll save 50 percent off the cost of a weekend getaway for you and your spouse\u2014two-and-a-half days where you can focus on one another and focus on your marriage \/ have a <em>great<\/em> time together. Find out more when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com. You can register online; or call if you have any questions or if you\u2019d like to register by phone. Our number is 1-800-FL-TODAY\u20141-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere\u2019s also information, online, about Rhonda Stoppe\u2019s book, <em>If My Husband Would Change, I\u2019d Be Happy<\/em> <em>(&amp; Other Myths Wives Believe)<\/em>. We have copies of that book in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You can order it from us, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to get your copy. Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOur phone number is 1-800-358-6329\u20141-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we want to talk more about some of the myths that wives have about what leads to happiness in marriage\u2014some of the expectations that get carried into a marriage. I think that\u2019s true for husbands <em>and<\/em> wives. We\u2019ll talk more about it tomorrow with our guest, Rhonda Stoppe. I hope you can be back with us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. 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