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Roesner tells how God grew her relationship with her husband as she learned about respect and submission.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2017-09-04.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Monday, September 4<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey; and I'm Bob Lepine. We\u2019ll hear from Nina Roesner today about how God got her attention that night at small group and what she did about it. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I\u2019ve got a question for you, Bob. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes. When you and Mary Ann\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You know\u2014I don\u2019t like when you interrupt at the beginning of the program.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You don\u2019t?! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I\u2019m supposed to start the program, and you interrupt me; and I don\u2019t like that!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Well, a little respect gets tough. [Laughter] You take me to places\u2014all over the place!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So what\u2019s your\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I\u2019m wondering where you\u2019re going. So, occasionally, it\u2019s good\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Turnabout is okay; alright.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014to throw you a curve, as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> What\u2019s your question?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So, when you and Mary Ann married, how in touch were you, as a young man, for your need to be respected by Mary Ann?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I knew it profoundly, but I could not have articulated it well. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> [Laughter] That is such a lame answer.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Every guy knows, deep in his core, that he\u2019s longing for respect\u2014it is bone deep! But I could not have put the words to it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; and neither could I. Here\u2019s kind of the kicker of the reason I asked you the question: if <em>you<\/em> weren\u2019t in touch with <em>your<\/em> need to be respected,\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014if we could have interviewed Mary Ann, do you think <em>she<\/em> would have understood that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I think, again, internally, she knew, kind of, the power of respect; but I don\u2019t think she knew about the importance of it. You know, we talk about this at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaway. We talk with couples about a husband\u2019s responsibility in marriage and about a wife\u2019s responsibility in marriage. This is something that, I think, is eye-opening for a lot of the couples who attend our getaways.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd one of the reasons I bring that up is because, this week and next week, we are encouraging <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>listeners to make plans to attend a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> getaway this fall. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re going to be in dozens of cities all across the country between now and the first weekend in December. If you sign up to attend a getaway, this week or next week, you can save 50 percent off the regular registration fee. We know that it takes 100 percent to make a marriage work, but right now it only takes 50 percent for you to go to a getaway.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can sign up, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com. All of the information about the getaways\u2014locations and dates\u2014you\u2019ll find it there. Again, go to FamilyLifeToday.com and click the link for the getaway. Or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY to get the information or to sign up over the phone. You\u2019ll need to use the code: \u201cSAVE50\u201d when you sign up for the getaway in order to qualify for this special offer; and it\u2019s good for the next two weeks. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, go online to FamilyLifeToday.com now to find out more about the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway and get signed up for one of our getaways this fall. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, I\u2019m going to be at the getaway in Parsippany, New Jersey, later in November. I hope our listeners in the New York City area will come on out and spend the weekend with us in Parsippany. And I hope all of our listeners will make plans to be at an upcoming fall <em>Weekend<\/em> <em>to<\/em> <em>Remember<\/em> marriage getaway.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Well, we\u2019ve got a guest here, who\u2019s been watching us go back and forth, wondering, \u201cAre these guys for real? [Laughter] Are they about to have blows?\u201d [Laughter] Nina Roesner joins us on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Nina, we just have a good time here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We do respect one another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We do respect each other. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes; that\u2019s obvious in the way that you play together. [Laughter] That\u2019s awesome! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Nina has written a book called <em>The Respect Dare<\/em>. She gives leadership to a ministry called Greater Impact and lives with her husband and their three children near Cincinnati. They\u2019ve been married since 1991.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I just have to find out, as we start, did you call Alex and Stephen Kendrick and say: \u201cLook, I\u2019m thinking about writing this book called <em>The Respect Dare<\/em>. Is that okay?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes; I tried like six times to get hold of them, actually! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And then you just said, \u201cOkay; I\u2019m going to write it anyway.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes; pretty much. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Because our listeners are familiar with <em>The Love Dare<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Of course.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014the book they wrote, which is in the movie, <em>Fireproof.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019ve flipped that whole idea on its side; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes. I actually wrote <em>The Respect Dare <\/em>before I read <em>The Love Dare.<\/em> I knew of its existence, obviously, because of the movie; but I didn\u2019t want to be a copycat. I just did what I felt God was leading me to do when I wrote the book.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So take us back to when you dated. Bob and I heard this story, just a few moments ago, before we came into the studio. Share with our listeners, kind of, your history\u2014not only with Jim but, also, FamilyLife.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Well, it\u2019s just such a privilege to be here today because of that history. My walk as a Christian <em>began<\/em> with FamilyLife ministry. I was dating a wonderful man named Jim.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe had a boss who is now a state representative, or a senator, or something.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis guy was asking him all of these questions about his faith: \u201cWhy are you dating?\u201d and \u201cWhat\u2019s the purpose of marriage?\u201d which was kind of freaking him out; because he wasn\u2019t even talking about marrying me at that point. It got him asking himself some questions about where he was at with the Lord. He started asking me some questions. I had absolutely no relationship; I didn\u2019t even really know if I believed in God\u2014I never <em>thought<\/em> about it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAfter a number of conversations, it became very clear that Jim was not going to ask me to marry him unless I was a Christian. So, he started taking me to churches. I still didn\u2019t really get it. We ended up deciding we were going to get married. He really should not have asked me to marry him. We both know that now, but we were pursuing the marriage thing. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAt a FamilyLife marriage conference\u2014we went as pre-marrieds\u2014we went through the whole conference. I accepted Christ at the conference. I started pursuing my relationship with Christ. Jim and I were married for, probably, about four years. Like I said, he shouldn\u2019t have married me because I didn\u2019t want children\u2014probably, some of the few things you should work out ahead of time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You were a career woman at the time?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> I really was\u2014very much so. I had no intentions of giving that up to stay home and wipe noses\u2014I thought that was terrible. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was at another FamilyLife ministry <em>Weekend to Remember,<\/em> because we kept going back every couple of years; and I felt seriously convicted by God that this was just a wonderful opportunity. We have three wonderful children now\u2014it really is a privilege! The respect piece has played into the relationships with my boys too. That whole teenage rebellion thing\u2014we haven\u2019t had to suffer through all of that. We\u2019ve got these fabulous relationships with our kids. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just really appreciate the opportunity to even just be here today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I want to take you back to your marriage to Jim. You mention in your book\u2014<em>The Respect Dare<\/em>\u2014that things weren\u2019t quite going like you expected them to. Was there a dark moment that ultimately got your attention?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> You know, we were sitting around at small group one night; and we were talking about our marriages. We\u2019d been studying marriage, and somebody came up with this bright idea to rate our marriages on a scale of 1 to 10. My heart starts to pound; and I was just going, \u201cI don\u2019t want to do this!\u201d They came around the room, and they get to me. I said, \u201cI\u2019ll take a pass.\u201d Of course, everybody was just <em>really<\/em> interested in my response at that point. They pressed me for an answer; and I said, \u201cI\u2019m going to give it a 2.\u201d Jim looked at me, and I don\u2019t think I\u2019ve ever seen him look as hurt as he did at that moment.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Now, you\u2014here\u2019s a couple of Christians, both followers of Christ\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Right; right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014you\u2019re going to church.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Did you have a family started at that point?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Why was your marriage a \u201c2\u201d?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> I wasn\u2019t happy. I didn\u2019t feel loved by my husband. He loved me, but I didn\u2019t receive that in a healthy way. I didn\u2019t perceive his love. I was very self-focused. Even as a Christian, I was not very mature as a Christian. I was very selfish in the way that I viewed relationships. I had bought the lie of the world that marriage is to make us happy. Instead of giving myself in my marriage, I was really trying to receive and focus on, you know, the \u201chappily ever after\u201d\u2014that kind of Prince Charming kind of stuff. Being a career person, I knew what made me feel happy at work. I expected to feel that way in my marriage, and I wasn\u2019t getting that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So what was it like after that small group meeting, or did the small group meeting kind of evolve into, \u201cWhat\u2019s going on with Jim and Nina?\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Or the drive home\u2014was it an interesting drive home?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> It was really just a very painful thing. There was dead silence [in the group], because nobody knows what to do with <em>that<\/em>. Then, he looked at me and he goes, \u201cWell, I guess we have a problem, because I would give us a 10.\u201d Everybody laughed, and then we moved on to the next couple.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Did you talk about it afterwards? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes. He said: \u201cWhy is this a 2? Why are you so unhappy? I\u2019m doing this, this, and this.\u201d In his mind, he was doing all the right things. I could see that he was doing all of those things, but I just didn\u2019t feel loved. There was so much I just didn\u2019t know\u2014first, as a believer, and about having a relationship with God. I was wrapping my identity up in my <em>husband<\/em> and our relationship. I had some very worldly lies that I fully embraced in my thinking that skewed my understanding of what a healthy marriage, that\u2019s fulfilling and glorifying to God, really looked like.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Things like\u2014what kind of lies?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Like: \u201cI\u2019m a second-class citizen if I do something for him and he doesn\u2019t thank me,\u201d or that \u201cI\u2019m really a servant, and that\u2019s a lesser status position.\u201d I didn\u2019t understand having a servant\u2019s heart, and what a <em>fulfilling<\/em> role that is. I didn\u2019t get that. I wasn\u2019t very mature in that regard.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That kind of explains why this book you\u2019ve written begins, in Chapter 1\u2014the first day of the 40-day challenge\u2014around expectations.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You had to realign your expectations around what was true.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So what ultimately got you on the right path?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> God drug me, kicking and screaming, through a study on respect and submission. It seemed everywhere I went\u2014and this was probably five or six years after that particular small group experience. I was just reading, and everywhere I would go, there would be something on this. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI had come to the point where I had a strong enough relationship with God that, in my heart, I just wanted to live my life for Him. I yearned to delight Him. I just wanted to be with Him all of the time. I had what I call the \u201cElijah moment,\u201d where I said: \u201cSend me\u2014I\u2019ll go. I\u2019ll do anything You want me to do.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe first place He wanted to grow me was in my relationship with my husband. What happened was\u2014I was crawling around on the floor one Christmas, picking up Christmas wrapping paper\u2014you know, we had little kids. Jim is sitting there, reading the newspaper\u2014that\u2019s all he\u2019s doing. I didn\u2019t know that men are different than women. I, still, after so many years of marriage, expected him to just <em>know <\/em>that I needed help at that time. Instead of being the mature woman, and asking for what I needed, I just seethed quietly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was angry, and I started to cry. I am sniffing \/ I am on my hands and knees\u2014I\u2019m picking up from Christmas\u2014you know, the little pieces that are left over after. He bends his paper back, and looks at me, and goes, \u201cIs everything okay?\u201d I\u2019m sniffing and I\u2019m thinking, \u201cIf you don\u2019t know, I\u2019m not going to tell you!\u201d I just couldn\u2019t even answer him\u2014I was just so upset. I ended up leaving the room after I finished. I went upstairs. He has no clue what\u2019s going on with me. I was praying, and God was impressing on me that I was the one that needed to change \/ that I was the one that had the issue.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt wasn\u2019t that he didn\u2019t love me. It was: <em>I<\/em> needed to be more mature in Christ, and <em>I <\/em>needed to learn what respect really looked like\u2014not just respect for my husband\u2014but respect for <em>God<\/em> and respect for <em>myself<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You know, there are women who hear you tell the story you just told and they go: \u201cI think you came to the wrong conclusion, sister!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u201cBecause you\u2019re crawling on the floor, picking up the wrapping paper. He\u2019s over in the easy chair, reading the newspaper. You go upstairs and go, \u2018This issue is me\u2019?!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, what do you say to that woman?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Well, I spent a lot of years thinking like <em>that<\/em>. The problem is that that doesn\u2019t solve anything\u2014it makes things worse. What I\u2019ve learned <em>now<\/em>\u2014if I were to replay that whole scenario\u2014I would say to my husband, \u201cHey, Baby, will you help me clean this up?\u201d because I know that men are different. They don\u2019t even <em>see<\/em> half the things that we see, physically. So, I wouldn\u2019t <em>expect<\/em> him to even (a) care that there was stuff on the floor and (b) know that I needed help or wanted him to be part of doing something about that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI would just be a grown-up and respectfully say, \u201cHey, can we do this now?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You know, as a man, I might look at the paper and I\u2019d go, \u201cYou know, if we get that cleaned up by the end of the day\u2026\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> A man just thinks about it totally differently. It\u2019s a woman\u2019s domain\u2014the home\u2014how clean it is. What you\u2019re talking about is expecting your husband to be a mind-reader\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Exactly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014when we, as men\u2014we\u2019re not really good at that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes; and it\u2019s one of the lies of the world. I used to teach classes on \u201cManagement by Mind-Reading\u201d\u2014making fun of that phrase and saying: \u201cNo; you need to articulate what you want. Be clear in your communication.\u201d But in my marriage, for some reason, I forgot that that also applies there. I mean, it\u2019s very simple.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And being able to make the request without attaching a lot of emotional baggage to the statement.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Exactly; exactly. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> There\u2019s a way to make the statement: \u201cHey, Sweetie, could you help out with the dishes?\u201d or \u201c\u2026putting the kids to bed tonight? I\u2019m just dead on my feet.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Or it can come with a threat \/ it can come with anger. It can come with, again, all kinds of emotion.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> When you were a young bride and you would read things in the Bible about \u201crespect your husband\u201d or \u201cWives, submit to your husbands,\u201d did it just cause your back to stiffen?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Back-stiffening and hair standing up on the back of my neck; yes; yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Nobody likes to read\u2014I mean, I can understand that\u2014something that says, \u201cSubmit yourself\u201d to anybody. That never feels good. Although, the Scripture tells us that we\u2019re all to submit to authorities; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I have to submit \/ you have to submit\u2014we submit in an authority structure\u2014but there\u2019s something about telling a wife to submit to her husband that is particularly onerous. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes; you know, we live in a culture that communicates that, if we do so, we\u2019re being abused, and we\u2019re subservient, and we\u2019re really maids. Really, the actual living out of respect and submission, in a marriage, is not anything like what the culture would have you believe it looks like.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So, at what point did the concept of your husband\u2019s need for respect finally dawn upon you and, ultimately, result in a book here, called <em>The Respect Dare<\/em>? <em>\u00a0<\/em>I mean, think about where we are right now in the story; and you\u2019ve come a <em>long<\/em> way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Oh, my word! The Lord\u2019s done a <em>huge<\/em> work in my life. The place where the book actually came about was years later, where I had seen that these things actually can have a positive impact on your relationship with your husband. I knew, back then, that God wanted me to do this. It was in His Word\u2014I was called to obey that \/ I wanted to obey it\u2014and I had to trust Him with it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo I decided that I was going to run a social experiment in my home with my husband. I was going to do everything I could do to respect him. I started asking him questions: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cDoes this feel like respect to you?\u201d or \u201cI see that you\u2019re upset. How did I just upset you? Did I disrespect you in some way?\u201d We were on the freeway one time, and we were headed to an appointment. We were late. He was in the far left lane. He was driving like crazy, so we can get there. Our exit is coming up. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI had been reading gobs of books. I was reading everything I could get my hands on about how to be a respectful wife. There wasn\u2019t a lot out there\u2014but what there was\u2014I was reading. It said: \u201cYou never correct or criticize your husband\u2019s driving. If he\u2019s going to make the wrong turn, you just let him. You let God deal with the outcome of that.\u201d So I\u2019m going: \u201cOkay; I just read that, but we\u2019re going to miss our exit. We\u2019re late for the appointment.\u201d I am struggling with all of this\u2014so I just said, \u201cBaby, would it be disrespectful of me to let you know that that\u2019s our exit?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe crosses three lanes of traffic and pulls up to the stop light. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe looks at me and he says, \u201cWhat are you reading <em>now<\/em>?\u201d [Laughter] I told him; and he said: \u201cYou know, if you\u2019d said: \u2018I can\u2019t believe that you\u2019re driving like this! You <em>never<\/em> do this right!\u2019 If you had criticized me or been condescending\u2014yes, that would have been disrespectful. But for you <em>not<\/em> to say something to me and to allow me to fail\u2014you are <em>not<\/em> being my friend. You are not helping me get this right.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> I had this \u201cAha\u201d moment, where I went: \u201cOkay; it\u2019s going to be different for every man, a little bit. I just need to talk to him and involve him in the process.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And tone and attitude are\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Amen!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014those are bigger issues than the information. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Exactly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s what your story points out. He didn\u2019t mind you saying, \u201cSweetheart, that\u2019s our exit.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> What he would have minded is if it were like, \u201cYou <em>never<\/em>\u2026! You <em>always<\/em>\u2026!\u201d\u2014that kind of thing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u201cYou\u2019re about to miss the exit <em>again!!<\/em>\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u201cYou bonehead!\u201d\u2014right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u201cWe\u2019re going to be late!\u201d\u2014et cetera; yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, the thing I want our listeners to hear\u2014number one\u2014is a man may not be in touch with his own need for respect and certainly may not be able to articulate what it looks like\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014especially early in the marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But it\u2019s there!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It is there. It is real.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And then, the second thing for just the wives to hear\u2014for single women, as far as that goes\u2014there is a tremendous need for a woman to understand how this does help a man\u2019s soul. This is profoundly powerful\u2014to respect him and to find out\u2014almost becoming a student of your husband\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014or of men\u2014to say, \u201cWhat communicates respect to them?\u201d Now, a single woman is not commanded to respect her friend, as a man, the same way that a wife is; but, nonetheless, she should become a student of how to do this.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to refer everyone, if you haven\u2019t read this passage recently\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014I would call this a nuclear passage \/ it\u2019s just <em>packed<\/em> with all kinds of energy\u2014Ephesians 5:33: \u201cHowever, let each one of you love his wife as himself.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We could spend a lot of time on that; couldn\u2019t we?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So, there\u2019s the wife\u2019s need to be loved.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u201cAnd let the wife see that she respects her husband.\u201d So, there\u2019s the husband\u2019s assignment to love and the wife\u2019s mandate to respect her husband\u2014and to find out how to do that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And your illustration of driving down the road\u2014just disarming the statement\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014by saying, \u201cWould it be disrespectful if I communicated that you\u2019re about to drive by where we need to turn off here?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That\u2019s brilliant! I mean, it absolutely\u2014for most men\u2014it is going to be able to be received a whole lot more easily. Now, there may be a husband who is so sensitive to the issue\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014that you may need to be careful, even with that statement.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> And one of the things that I found that I could do\u2014I just ask a lot of questions. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nina:<\/strong> Just getting information\u2014it\u2019s possible I\u2019m wrong. That\u2019s one of those things, too, that\u2019s very respectful\u2014is softening whatever you\u2019re going to say with: \u201cYou know, I might be wrong here, but I think that may be our exit,\u201d or whatever it is.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes. You know, I\u2019m concerned a little bit that there may be some listeners, who hear this conversation and think: \u201cIt sounds like you\u2019re saying a wife is supposed to coddle her husband and treat him with kid gloves. Always make sure you\u2019re saying the right thing.\u201d But what we\u2019re really talking about here is how we love one another. Husbands need to grow in that area \/ wives need to grow\u2014we all need to do a better job of showing love and respect to one another in a marriage relationship. That\u2019s what you\u2019re encouraging wives to do in the book that you\u2019ve written called <em>The Respect Dare:<\/em> <em>40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband through the Practice of Respect in Your Marriage Relationship.<\/em> \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019ve got copies of Nina\u2019s book, <em>The Respect Dare, <\/em>in our <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>Resource Center. You can order it from us, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to order. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd don\u2019t forget, when you go to the website, get more information about the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways that we\u2019re going to be hosting this fall in cities all across the country. If you sign up this week or next week, and you identify yourself as a <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>listener, you\u2019ll save 50 percent off the regular registration fee. We know it takes 100 percent to make a marriage work; but right now, it only takes 50 percent for you to go to a getaway.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, again, sign up, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014use the promo code: \u201cSAVE50\u201d when you sign up\u2014that\u2019s \u201cSAVE5-0\u201d\u2014and you\u2019ll qualify for the special registration rate. Or you can call to register: 1-800-358-6329\u20141-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe do hope you\u2019ll plan to attend an upcoming getaway. These really are <em>great<\/em> events for husbands and wives.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we want to talk about how a wife\u2019s respect for her husband \/ her demonstration of respect can actually cause him to open up and to become more transparent. It leads to a deeper level of intimacy in a marriage relationship. We\u2019ll talk more about that tomorrow. I hope you can be here for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas; A Cru<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> Ministry. Help for today. 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