{"id":304564,"date":"2017-06-26T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2017-06-26T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/your-kids-arent-your-report-card\/"},"modified":"2017-06-26T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2017-06-26T15:00:00","slug":"your-kids-arent-your-report-card","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/your-kids-arent-your-report-card\/","title":{"rendered":"Your Kids Aren&#8217;t Your Report Card"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Melissa Spoelstra reminds parents they are not their children&#8217;s report card, and if they measure their parenting by their children&#8217;s behavior it will lead to disappointment and discouragement.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2017-06-26.mp3","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:27:58","filesize":"25.61M","filesize_raw":"26851124","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2850,2806],"tags":[6268,6265,6267,4087,2209,6266],"podcast_series":[8218],"cwp_profile":[3092],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-304564","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-character-development","category-spiritual-development","tag-disciple-your-children","tag-discouragement","tag-lead-your-children","tag-mothers","tag-parenting","tag-worrying","podcast_series-total-family-makeover","cwp_profile-melissa-spoelstra","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/304564\/your-kids-arent-your-report-card","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/304564\/your-kids-arent-your-report-card","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"IysLuFL5tl\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/your-kids-arent-your-report-card\/\">Your Kids Aren&#8217;t Your Report Card<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/your-kids-arent-your-report-card\/embed\/#?secret=IysLuFL5tl\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Your Kids Aren&#8217;t Your Report Card&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"IysLuFL5tl\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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Melissa Spoelstra says, \u201cA lot of families don\u2019t\u2014and they have a lot of reasons why.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa:<\/strong> The pushback I hear from parents is\u2014\u201cYou know, we\u2019re so busy anyway. We\u2019re at soccer practice\u2014and we\u2019ve got gymnastics.\u201d They\u2019re running, running, running so hard. What I would say is, \u201cIt doesn\u2019t mean\u2014we\u2019re not talking about a three-hour program every week\u2014this is not rocket science. These are small posture changes that we can make. This is intentionality. This is a posture that says, \u201cPrayer is vital to my child\u2019s spiritual life\u2014not just today\u2014but for the rest of his life.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Monday, June 26<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. Okay, so, how can we be more purposeful and intentional about spiritual formation in our family\u2014especially in the summer? We\u2019re going to talk with Melissa Spoelstra about that today. Stay with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. Dennis? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Bob, have you ever thought of your kids being a report card? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>A report card? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>That your children are your report card\u2014that you\u2019re being graded on some kind of curve of how you\u2019re doing with your kids? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I don\u2019t like a report card where I\u2019m not in complete control of the outcome, you know? [Laughter] I want to be\u2014I want to be responsible for what I did, but I don\u2019t want to be\u2014I don\u2019t want the grade shifting because I had nothing to do with it; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, we have a mom who is a mom of four\u2014and only she could be courageous enough to write a book about\u2014<em>Total Family Makeover<\/em>\u2014discipling your kids. Melissa Spoelstra joins us on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Melissa, welcome to the broadcast. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Thanks so much\u2014my pleasure to be here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>She is married to her\u2014and I noticed she said this on the back of her book\u2014\u201cher pastor husband\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014Sean since 1995. They live\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Well, he is both\u2014he is my pastor and he is my husband. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>There you go. You\u2019re just honoring what\u2019s due there. So, explain what you mean as you start your book out talking about how your children are not your report card. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Melissa: <\/strong>I think as moms we often feel like\u2014\u201cWhat is our role? What are we doing, and what are other people thinking about it?\u201d It\u2019s hard. We measure ourselves all the time. I can think of a time going to pick up the twins when they were three years old from their classroom\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>They\u2019re now 16. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>They\u2019re now 16 so, this was long ago\u2014but I dropped them off and went and sat in the church service. They come and get me because I\u2019m one of the pastors\u2019 wives and say, \u201cHey, someone really got scratched bad in the three year old room.\u201d I\u2019m like\u2014\u201cDo we know who the scratcher is?\u201d They were like\u2014\u201cNo, I don\u2019t know, but we need to find this new family visiting.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>There\u2019s the scratchee and the scratcher. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>There\u2019s the scratchee and the scratcher. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, I say, \u201cYes, I actually met that visitor when I dropped my own girls off. So, I know who they are.\u201d I locate them, and I bring them back. I just have a pit in my stomach. Of course, we get there and yes, my child is the culprit. She wouldn\u2019t even\u2014I couldn\u2019t even get her to apologize. You know you do the thing where you\u2019re like\u2014\u201cNow say you\u2019re sorry.\u201d I just packed up my four kids and got in the car, and I just cried. I was like\u2014\u201cWhat are we doing wrong? We\u2019re doing something wrong here.\u201d\u00a0 I felt like I got an \u201cF\u201d at the top of my parenting page. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think\u2014before I had kids I thought, \u201cIf you just do X, Y, and Z\u2014you know you read all the parenting books and you do what they say\u2014then, it will produce obedient, kind, loving kids.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>That\u2019s what Bob was talking about. You\u2019re dealing with a commodity here that has its own will. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>A living organism. [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>There is no doubt about that! We shame ourselves and try to grade ourselves based on kids\u2019 behavior on any given moment\u2014but the opposite spectrum of that is the pride that can come. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI can think of another time when my son\u2014who is now 20\u2014was in third grade and for the entire school, they picked one student citizen of the year. They\u2014lo and behold\u2014they called my son\u2019s name. Afterwards, everyone is congratulating me\u2014\u201cOh my goodness!\u00a0 He\u2019s such a good boy,\u201d and \u201cOh, yes, he so deserved that award.\u201d\u00a0 I was flying high. I think social media has invited more of this because everybody is posting\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Oh, yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>\u2014\u201cMy kid won this award,\u201d and \u201cMy kid\u2026.\u201d We\u2019re scrolling through going\u2014\u201cWow, there are all the A parents, and I\u2019m sitting over here in the C-average section\u2014or maybe, in the F section.\u201d I believe that our kids are not our report card because God was the perfect parent. He\u2019s in the garden. He\u2019s got His kids. He did everything right\u2014and yet they still disobeyed\u2014they made some bad choices. I don\u2019t believe today God is in heaven\u2014or right here with us\u2014grading Himself based on whether you or I obey Him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo we can put that to rest and kind of take a big sigh of\u2014\u201cOkay, they\u2019re not my report card. I\u2019m not a terrible parent or a great parent based on whether my kids choose to follow God.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>But let\u2019s face it\u2014we are responsible for some of what goes on\u2014and, maybe not totally responsible\u2014but we do have some responsibility here; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>That\u2019s the question I began to ask myself. I\u2019m not responsible for the results\u2014but what am I then responsible for? What did God do\u2014what does He do? He pursues. He\u2019s very intentional. He\u2019s sacrificial to reveal Himself to us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo many times in Scripture, I find this little phrase, \u201cThen they will know I am the Lord.\u201d\u00a0 He says it over and over and over again whether it\u2019s\u2014\u201cI\u2019m giving them consequences, then they will know that I am the Lord.\u201d \u201cI\u2019m going to give them the land that they can go live in and then they will know that I am the Lord.\u201d\u00a0 We have this God who wants to be known\u2014and that following Him leads to life. How can I help my kids want to know and love Him? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo I looked at the life of Jesus. How did He\u2014with His disciples\u2014what were the intentional ways that He spread this? It wasn\u2019t very programmed\u2014is what we find as we read through the Gospel. I find kind of these two over-arching things that He did. First of all, He modeled it. He prayed\u2014He knew the Scriptures\u2014He did it for us\u2014He modeled it for us. Don\u2019t we know, with our kids, the whole\u2014\u201cDo what I say and not what I do?\u201d\u2014that stuff doesn\u2019t work. They do\u2014they parrot. I mean, we love these YouTube videos that go viral of these kids that are saying what they\u2019ve heard their parents say, you know? They\u2019ve got these big words. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI can think of our daughter Rachel\u2014barely had language, barely had words\u2014and coming in and stomping her foot and saying, \u201cThis is ridiculous.\u201d\u00a0 We\u2019re like\u2014\u201cWhere did she\u2014where did that come from?\u201d The very next day, my husband comes in and finds the mess of toys on the floor. Guess what he did? He stomped his foot and said, \u201cThis is ridiculous.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cThis is ridiculous.\u201d\u00a0 <br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Oh, that\u2019s where she got it! They\u2019re listening to how we talk about church. They\u2019re listening to how we talk about prayer. They\u2019re watching, and they\u2019re listening. This one key aspect is the modeling part. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, modeling is one aspect. What\u2019s the second? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>The second is training. You know Jesus\u2014yes, He went off by Himself and prayed\u2014but He also took some very intentional moments with His disciples to say, \u201cHey, this is how you should pray,\u201d\u00a0 \u201cThis is how you should rest,\u201d and gave them some very intentional guidance. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think about my son\u2014when he turned 16 and got his own car, we let him register it\u2014he paid for it. A year later, something came in the mail that he needed to renew the tags and I remember getting the piece of mail and laying it on his dresser and thinking, \u201cI need to talk to him about that.\u201d Then, I forgot about it. So, he comes in one day and he\u2019s gotten a ticket on his car, parked in front of our house. He\u2019s like\u2014\u201cWhat is this for? Can you get a ticket just for being parked in front of your own house?!\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI read it, and I go\u2014\u201cBabe, it says here your tags are expired.\u201d\u00a0 He\u2019s like\u2014\u201cWhat\u2019s a tag?\u201d I realized we modeled for years that you need to update and reregister your car, but we hadn\u2019t explained. We hadn\u2019t sat down\u2014and some of us, as moms\u2014we\u2019re praying, but our kids don\u2019t see it because maybe they\u2019re asleep or we\u2019re having that time reading and studying God\u2019s Word\u2014but it\u2019s after they\u2019ve gone to bed. So we need to take these moments to help them\u2014to train them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, the modeling and the training\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Those are the two. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014those are the two rails on which parenting runs. If we\u2019re doing those right\u2014to the best we can before God\u2014you\u2019re saying, \u201cWe\u2019re being faithful. Now, the results are in God\u2019s hands.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>I do. I believe that if we will live it and if we will train it then, that\u2019s all God asks of us. That\u2019s His calling for us to do\u2014it\u2019s what He did. When we do it\u2014in His strength, in His power, in His way\u2014it\u2019s not a one-size fits all, like\u2014\u201cThis is exactly the way you need to do it.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI couldn\u2019t stand when I\u2019d read parenting books that we\u2019re like\u2014\u201cYou have to sing hymns at the table,\u201d or \u201cYou have to do it this one certain way\u201d\u2014but we\u2019re so intentional about taking our kids to the doctor when they\u2019re sick, for physical health. We\u2019re so intentional with them socially\u2014making sure they\u2019re in the right friend group. We\u2019re so intentional with them intellectually\u2014getting them a tutor when they fall behind\u2014but when it comes to spiritually\u2014when it comes to knowing this God we love and serve, I think sometimes we feel ill-equipped.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe hope that\u2014\u201cOh, if I just drop them off at church,\u201d or \u201cMaybe, Grandma will teach them some of these things.\u201d Yet, I believe that God calls us to be the key disciplers in our homes to pass on\u2014this faith and this\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf we really believe this is the way that leads to life\u2014that this is the Savior of the world who gave His life for us and calls us to a mission, and we want to reproduce that across the whole globe, across the whole planet with this message of the Gospel\u2014wouldn\u2019t I want that for my kids more than anything else\u2014for them to know and love Him? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>What you are saying is absolutely imperative for parents to hear today. They\u2019ve lost sight of what is the North Star of being a parent. We\u2019re doing a great job getting them over to play gymnastics, soccer, football, piano, education\u2014spending the bucks there\u2014but we\u2019re missing the spiritual formation\u2014the spiritual training\u2014of our children. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI have to tell you\u2014Barbara and I are really concerned because we\u2019re seeing a generation of parents who don\u2019t know what they believe. You can\u2019t impart what you don\u2019t personally possess. In fact, I just want to authenticate what you\u2019ve just shared with our listeners\u2014that it\u2019s modeling and training\u2014because our listeners need to know, she got that out of Deuteronomy\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>I did. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014Chapter 6. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>I stole it right out of there. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Stole it right out of the Book. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You\u2019re not alone\u2014trust me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes, exactly. It says, \u201cYou shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words I\u2019m commanding you today shall be on your heart.\u201d\u00a0 So, parents\u2014first of all\u2014have got to have these words on their hearts. They have to get up in the morning and be thinking about how I am representing the King\u2014how I am modeling loving Christ for my children to see\u2014but also just in how I live. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, it goes on and talks about the training portion. It says, \u201cAnd these words that I am commanding you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, when you rise up.\u201d It\u2019s talking about a way of life training of your children\u2014teaching them how to think critically\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014as they face choices. They\u2019re going to face tens of thousands of choices in their lives. If you don\u2019t train them in how to make wise choices, the world will. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Oh, yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It will not be wise\u2014it\u2019ll be foolish. You\u2019re really talking about something here. If you miss this as a parent, you\u2019ve missed your purpose. You\u2019ve missed why God gave you children in the first place. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Absolutely. Some of the pushback that I sometimes hear in talking about these eight practical steps\u2014I call them spiritual rhythms\u2014these are the things\u2014because this came, for me, when I was at a conference, and the theme was \u201cRethink.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI spent the last day\u2014I didn\u2019t go to the sessions with my husband\u2014he likes to go to all the sessions. I stayed in the hotel room and I just said, \u201cGod, where are you calling me to rethink?\u201d\u00a0 It was in these areas\u2014I made the list of these eight areas of\u2014\u201cI want to make sure\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOur son was two years from graduation\u2014from high school, and I had that overwhelming sense of\u2014Have we done this thing? that you just talked about, Dennis. Have we taught him what it means to rest? What it means to be in God\u2019s Word? How desperately he needs a mentor?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe pushback that I hear from parents is\u2014\u201cYou know, we\u2019re so busy anyway\u2014we\u2019re at soccer practice and we\u2019re here\u2014and we\u2019ve got gymnastics\u201d\u2014they\u2019re running, running, running so hard. What I would say is, \u201cIt doesn\u2019t mean\u2014we\u2019re not talking about a three-hour program every week\u2014these are small posture changes that we can make five minutes at bedtime when they\u2019re vulnerable.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSome of the things that we\u2019ve done are to say\u2014we would hear over and over again for prayer at bedtime, \u201cGod, thank You for this wonderful day and I just hope we\u2019ll have a wonderful day tomorrow. Amen.\u201d\u00a0 After hearing that night after night, I realized, \u201cYou know, Jesus took some time to train some of these elements of prayer. You start with adoration, then you confess.\u201d\u00a0 We had some fun with that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI mean made a list of the things we think are awesome about God and put them up on the wall in a little cheap, plastic frame. This is not rocket science\u2014this is intentionality. This is a posture that says, \u201cPrayer is vital to my child\u2019s spiritual life\u2014not just today, but for the rest of his life.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>What you are training them for is real life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You don\u2019t know how soon that may visit them. You had twins and when your twins turned 12, your daughter came down with a strange disease and that demanded a response from her. Explain what happened. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>She began to lose her hair to autoimmune disease called alopecia. It started in just little pieces\u2014hair on the pillow every morning, hair in the drain of the tub, hair on the brush\u2014and much grief. It was a grieving process for her, and she knows and loves God. So she began to pray, and I believe that she had a mistaken misconception about prayer. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tUp to this point, we\u2019d seen God answer all kinds of prayer\u2014\u201cMake my boo-boo better.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cHeal me of this.\u201d \u201cHelp our family have everything it needs.\u201d She had always seen all of her needs being met. This was her first \u201cNo\u201d from God. The more she prayed, the more her hair fell out\u2014eventually, her eyelashes, her eyebrows\u2014all of it. So, she had to learn to persist in prayer when God is silent. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs a mom, that puts me in a position of\u2014\u201cWhat am I going to do?\u201d I held her and said, \u201cI don\u2019t understand either, but I know this\u2014I know that God is good. I know that He is a rewarder of those who seek Him. I know that His eyes are roaming to and fro throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are completely His. These things I know.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You genuinely believed God was ruling in the affairs that were taking place in this young daughter\u2019s life and you used that to comfort her. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, you were quoting Scripture to her\u2014you were sharing with her what God\u2019s promises are from His Word. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>There was a time when\u2014because we did seek a counselor\u2014she was sad. I didn\u2019t know how to walk her through this. I knew that I needed help\u2014I need a mentor\u2014mentoring is Scriptural. It\u2019s Elijah and Elisha. It\u2019s Paul and Timothy. It\u2019s Mary and Elizabeth. We sometimes don\u2019t know what to do\u2014and we need to ask someone else for help. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the things that her counselor had her doing was writing out her feelings in a journal\u2014all of the stuff, all of the darkness, all of the reality, and acknowledging that. I was looking in there reading some of the darkness, and I realized one piece of this is missing. You look at the prophet Jeremiah. He said, \u201cEverything I\u2019ve longed for from the Lord is lost.\u201d He lamented. He said, \u201cI wish I\u2019d died in my mother\u2019s womb.\u201d But right at the edge of every one of those real, authentic\u2014lamentations, really\u2014he always then goes and rehearses the attributes of God. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, the passage that says, \u201cThe steadfast love of the Lord never ceases. His mercies never come to an end. They are new every morning,\u201d we always quote that one\u2014put it on a meme, embroider it on something. No one quotes the few ones before it that says, \u201cEverything that I longed for from the Lord was lost.\u201d\u00a0 So, he pours it out, but then rehearses the attributes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, I began to write those verses\u2014encouraging verses\u2014about God\u2019s character on index cards and just slide them under her pillow. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You\u2019ve illustrated in this story three things that are in your book that you have both modeled and trained your daughter in. You\u2019ve talked about prayer and offering instruction in prayer. You\u2019ve talked about God\u2019s Word and finding your hope and your confidence in God\u2019s Word. And you\u2019ve talked about mentors, and the need for mentors. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYour daughter saw you praying. She heard you praying because you prayed with her\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014on this situation. She knew that you were finding your hope and strength in God\u2019s Word because that\u2019s what you were writing on those note cards and putting under her pillow. She knew that when you needed help, you went and found help. Did you do training in that process too\u2014to teach her how to pray and how to find her hope in God\u2019s Word or in a season like this\u2014do you just model and try not to do too much training and instruction? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>I would say in that season, if we read anything, we read a lot of Psalms\u2014there\u2019s a lot of comfort there\u2014and there wasn\u2019t a lot of instruction during those times; but there certainly have been after and before. That\u2019s a challenge for parents\u2014especially when your kid is suffering from something difficult of when to apply grace and overlook and love covers and when to address issues. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think there is danger on both sides and to walk that line\u2014praise God we have the Holy Spirit\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>\u2014who leads and guides us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I want to ask you one other thing because I was really fascinated by the way you were explaining instruction in the area of prayer and having something in the room that lists the attributes of God. So, at bedtime, you can say, \u201cOkay, which three are you going to pick from tonight that are going to be in your prayer?\u201d\u00a0 Were there other practical things like that, that you did\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014to help your kids learn how to pray? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Absolutely. I grew up learning how to pray with A.C.T.S\u2014the acronym ACTS. After adoration, we move to confession\u2014this is an interesting thing. We\u2019re like\u2014\u201cOkay, now is the time to tell something you\u2019re sorry for.\u201d The first night we did it, they said, \u201cWell, I just can\u2019t really think,\u201d I\u2019m sitting there, as mom going, \u201cWell, there was that time\u2014\u201cI can think of 40 right off the top of my head. \u201cThere\u2019s that time that you hit your sister.\u201d They were like, \u201cOh, yes\u2014God, I\u2019m sorry!\u201d They want to confess. They need a little confession coach to help them\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>\u2014because children are naturally self-centered. My husband says, \u201cSinner married sinner, and we had some \u2018sinnerlings\u2019. They came by it honestly.\u201d So, our job is to help them recognize that and learn to confess it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThankfulness\u2014kids are great about thankfulness. They know to be thankful for things\u2014but we tried to push them out beyond just my teddy bear, my dinner, my room. What about clean water? Helping them understand that most of the globe doesn\u2019t have that clean water. What about family and our church and some of these other things they take for granted? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, for the last part, which is supplication\u2014which is a big word that means asking for things\u2014and I stole this from a friend. It\u2019s not mine. It\u2019s Monday, missionaries; Tuesday, teachers; Wednesday, widows and orphans; Thursday, those who don\u2019t know Jesus; and Friday, friends and family. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo now\u2014if I lay in bed with my daughter and pray, she\u2019ll go, \u201cWhat\u2019s today? It\u2019s Wednesday\u2014widows and orphans. We\u2019re going to pray for the kids we support in Guatemala and Grandma and a few ladies at church.\u201d That\u2019s not the only way to pray, but let\u2019s be as intentional in instructing them in the ways of the Lord as we are in planning their next birthday party or our next vacation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Let me just go over the acronym for those who aren\u2019t familiar with it: Adoration\u2014offering praise to God. Confession\u2014agreeing with God that what you\u2019ve done is wrong and verbalizing that. Thanksgiving\u2014is expressing your gratitude to God for the blessings that we experience. Then Supplication\u2014is asking God for whatever is on your heart to ask Him for. That\u2019s a pretty good pattern for people to follow\u2014and a good pattern to teach your children as you\u2019re teaching them how to pray. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You had helped Abigail, your daughter, develop a strong, spiritual foundation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s what Jesus talked about as He summarized the Sermon on the Mount. He basically talked about a builder who was intentional and one who wasn\u2019t. The one who wasn\u2019t, built his house on the sand. He refused to obey what Christ said. As a result, when the storms came, when the floods hit, the winds blew, the house fell because there was no foundation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut the one who had been intentional\u2014that\u2019s really set up by a parent, a mom and a dad, who intentionally helps their son\u2014their daughter\u2014begin to build a foundation on his or her life\u2014so <em>when<\/em> the floods come, <em>when<\/em> the winds blow\u2014not <em>if<\/em>\u2014you\u2019ll be able to handle it\u2014and the house will stand because it\u2019s been built upon obedience to the truth over time. That means even a 12 year old can begin to process a tragedy\u2014a loss in her life\u2014she can begin to think Biblically about that. She won\u2019t do it perfectly\u2014we as adults don\u2019t do it perfectly\u2014but she can begin to process that appropriately, and she can grow spiritually as a result. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know the rest of the story hasn\u2019t been told about your daughter, but you have to wonder if God doesn\u2019t have a special spot in God\u2019s work for your daughter. You\u2019ll be surprised I think, at how He uses her for His purposes long haul. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You know for a child to respond to hurt and to pain in a healthy way\u2014for any of us to do it for that matter\u2014that doesn\u2019t happen by accident. It happens because there has been some intentionality\u2014either on the child\u2019s part or on the part of Mom and Dad\u2014to make spiritual formation an issue in the family to build some spiritual disciplines and habits into the cycle of life in a family. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s really what you\u2019re trying to call parents to\u2014and equip them to be able to do more effectively in your book, <em>Total Family Makeover<\/em> which is a book, by the way\u2014that we\u2019ve got in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. Listeners can go online at FamilyLifeToday.com to order a copy, or they can call 1-800-FL-TODAY. Again, the title of the book is <em>Total Family Makeover<\/em> by Melissa Spoelstra. Order online at FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014or call 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY\u201d and we\u2019ll get a copy sent to you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re talking about developing patterns and habits in a time of the year when we pretty much get rid of patterns and habits. I mean summertime is that kick-back, relaxed, no-two-days-look-alike kind of thing\u2014especially when the kids are out of school and you\u2019re into a summer rhythm. I was going to say, \u201cA summer routine,\u201d but there is no such thing as a summer routine. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the reasons we know this is because\u2014we have a lot of listeners who\u2014a part of their routine is to support the ministry of FamilyLife financially\u2014and yet, during the summer, folks slip out of that routine. So, let me just remind those of you who are regular financial givers to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>\u2014If you\u2019ve slipped out of the routine we want to again say, \u201cThank you for your support,\u201d and remind you that we still need it during the summer months. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019ve never contributed to the work of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, we are listener supported. Without your contributions, this program couldn\u2019t continue on this local radio station\u2014or for that matter, online or on our app\u2014or any of the ways that the program is now heard by listeners all around the world. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, would you consider making a donation today? It\u2019s easy to do. 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Spoelstra reminds parents they are not their children's report card, and if they measure their parenting by their children's behavior it will lead to disappointment and discouragement.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2017-06-26.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Does your family spend time together each week purposefully, intentionally, pursuing some kind of spiritual growth or spiritual disciplines? Melissa Spoelstra says, \u201cA lot of families don\u2019t\u2014and they have a lot of reasons why.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa:<\/strong> The pushback I hear from parents is\u2014\u201cYou know, we\u2019re so busy anyway. We\u2019re at soccer practice\u2014and we\u2019ve got gymnastics.\u201d They\u2019re running, running, running so hard. What I would say is, \u201cIt doesn\u2019t mean\u2014we\u2019re not talking about a three-hour program every week\u2014this is not rocket science. These are small posture changes that we can make. This is intentionality. This is a posture that says, \u201cPrayer is vital to my child\u2019s spiritual life\u2014not just today\u2014but for the rest of his life.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Monday, June 26<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. Okay, so, how can we be more purposeful and intentional about spiritual formation in our family\u2014especially in the summer? We\u2019re going to talk with Melissa Spoelstra about that today. Stay with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. Dennis? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Bob, have you ever thought of your kids being a report card? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>A report card? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>That your children are your report card\u2014that you\u2019re being graded on some kind of curve of how you\u2019re doing with your kids? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I don\u2019t like a report card where I\u2019m not in complete control of the outcome, you know? [Laughter] I want to be\u2014I want to be responsible for what I did, but I don\u2019t want to be\u2014I don\u2019t want the grade shifting because I had nothing to do with it; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, we have a mom who is a mom of four\u2014and only she could be courageous enough to write a book about\u2014<em>Total Family Makeover<\/em>\u2014discipling your kids. Melissa Spoelstra joins us on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Melissa, welcome to the broadcast. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Thanks so much\u2014my pleasure to be here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>She is married to her\u2014and I noticed she said this on the back of her book\u2014\u201cher pastor husband\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014Sean since 1995. They live\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Well, he is both\u2014he is my pastor and he is my husband. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>There you go. You\u2019re just honoring what\u2019s due there. So, explain what you mean as you start your book out talking about how your children are not your report card. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Melissa: <\/strong>I think as moms we often feel like\u2014\u201cWhat is our role? What are we doing, and what are other people thinking about it?\u201d It\u2019s hard. We measure ourselves all the time. I can think of a time going to pick up the twins when they were three years old from their classroom\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>They\u2019re now 16. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>They\u2019re now 16 so, this was long ago\u2014but I dropped them off and went and sat in the church service. They come and get me because I\u2019m one of the pastors\u2019 wives and say, \u201cHey, someone really got scratched bad in the three year old room.\u201d I\u2019m like\u2014\u201cDo we know who the scratcher is?\u201d They were like\u2014\u201cNo, I don\u2019t know, but we need to find this new family visiting.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>There\u2019s the scratchee and the scratcher. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>There\u2019s the scratchee and the scratcher. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, I say, \u201cYes, I actually met that visitor when I dropped my own girls off. So, I know who they are.\u201d I locate them, and I bring them back. I just have a pit in my stomach. Of course, we get there and yes, my child is the culprit. She wouldn\u2019t even\u2014I couldn\u2019t even get her to apologize. You know you do the thing where you\u2019re like\u2014\u201cNow say you\u2019re sorry.\u201d I just packed up my four kids and got in the car, and I just cried. I was like\u2014\u201cWhat are we doing wrong? We\u2019re doing something wrong here.\u201d\u00a0 I felt like I got an \u201cF\u201d at the top of my parenting page. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think\u2014before I had kids I thought, \u201cIf you just do X, Y, and Z\u2014you know you read all the parenting books and you do what they say\u2014then, it will produce obedient, kind, loving kids.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>That\u2019s what Bob was talking about. You\u2019re dealing with a commodity here that has its own will. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>A living organism. [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>There is no doubt about that! We shame ourselves and try to grade ourselves based on kids\u2019 behavior on any given moment\u2014but the opposite spectrum of that is the pride that can come. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI can think of another time when my son\u2014who is now 20\u2014was in third grade and for the entire school, they picked one student citizen of the year. They\u2014lo and behold\u2014they called my son\u2019s name. Afterwards, everyone is congratulating me\u2014\u201cOh my goodness!\u00a0 He\u2019s such a good boy,\u201d and \u201cOh, yes, he so deserved that award.\u201d\u00a0 I was flying high. I think social media has invited more of this because everybody is posting\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Oh, yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>\u2014\u201cMy kid won this award,\u201d and \u201cMy kid\u2026.\u201d We\u2019re scrolling through going\u2014\u201cWow, there are all the A parents, and I\u2019m sitting over here in the C-average section\u2014or maybe, in the F section.\u201d I believe that our kids are not our report card because God was the perfect parent. He\u2019s in the garden. He\u2019s got His kids. He did everything right\u2014and yet they still disobeyed\u2014they made some bad choices. I don\u2019t believe today God is in heaven\u2014or right here with us\u2014grading Himself based on whether you or I obey Him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo we can put that to rest and kind of take a big sigh of\u2014\u201cOkay, they\u2019re not my report card. I\u2019m not a terrible parent or a great parent based on whether my kids choose to follow God.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>But let\u2019s face it\u2014we are responsible for some of what goes on\u2014and, maybe not totally responsible\u2014but we do have some responsibility here; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>That\u2019s the question I began to ask myself. I\u2019m not responsible for the results\u2014but what am I then responsible for? What did God do\u2014what does He do? He pursues. He\u2019s very intentional. He\u2019s sacrificial to reveal Himself to us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo many times in Scripture, I find this little phrase, \u201cThen they will know I am the Lord.\u201d\u00a0 He says it over and over and over again whether it\u2019s\u2014\u201cI\u2019m giving them consequences, then they will know that I am the Lord.\u201d \u201cI\u2019m going to give them the land that they can go live in and then they will know that I am the Lord.\u201d\u00a0 We have this God who wants to be known\u2014and that following Him leads to life. How can I help my kids want to know and love Him? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo I looked at the life of Jesus. How did He\u2014with His disciples\u2014what were the intentional ways that He spread this? It wasn\u2019t very programmed\u2014is what we find as we read through the Gospel. I find kind of these two over-arching things that He did. First of all, He modeled it. He prayed\u2014He knew the Scriptures\u2014He did it for us\u2014He modeled it for us. Don\u2019t we know, with our kids, the whole\u2014\u201cDo what I say and not what I do?\u201d\u2014that stuff doesn\u2019t work. They do\u2014they parrot. I mean, we love these YouTube videos that go viral of these kids that are saying what they\u2019ve heard their parents say, you know? They\u2019ve got these big words. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI can think of our daughter Rachel\u2014barely had language, barely had words\u2014and coming in and stomping her foot and saying, \u201cThis is ridiculous.\u201d\u00a0 We\u2019re like\u2014\u201cWhere did she\u2014where did that come from?\u201d The very next day, my husband comes in and finds the mess of toys on the floor. Guess what he did? He stomped his foot and said, \u201cThis is ridiculous.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cThis is ridiculous.\u201d\u00a0 <br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Oh, that\u2019s where she got it! They\u2019re listening to how we talk about church. They\u2019re listening to how we talk about prayer. They\u2019re watching, and they\u2019re listening. This one key aspect is the modeling part. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, modeling is one aspect. What\u2019s the second? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>The second is training. You know Jesus\u2014yes, He went off by Himself and prayed\u2014but He also took some very intentional moments with His disciples to say, \u201cHey, this is how you should pray,\u201d\u00a0 \u201cThis is how you should rest,\u201d and gave them some very intentional guidance. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think about my son\u2014when he turned 16 and got his own car, we let him register it\u2014he paid for it. A year later, something came in the mail that he needed to renew the tags and I remember getting the piece of mail and laying it on his dresser and thinking, \u201cI need to talk to him about that.\u201d Then, I forgot about it. So, he comes in one day and he\u2019s gotten a ticket on his car, parked in front of our house. He\u2019s like\u2014\u201cWhat is this for? Can you get a ticket just for being parked in front of your own house?!\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI read it, and I go\u2014\u201cBabe, it says here your tags are expired.\u201d\u00a0 He\u2019s like\u2014\u201cWhat\u2019s a tag?\u201d I realized we modeled for years that you need to update and reregister your car, but we hadn\u2019t explained. We hadn\u2019t sat down\u2014and some of us, as moms\u2014we\u2019re praying, but our kids don\u2019t see it because maybe they\u2019re asleep or we\u2019re having that time reading and studying God\u2019s Word\u2014but it\u2019s after they\u2019ve gone to bed. So we need to take these moments to help them\u2014to train them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, the modeling and the training\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Those are the two. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014those are the two rails on which parenting runs. If we\u2019re doing those right\u2014to the best we can before God\u2014you\u2019re saying, \u201cWe\u2019re being faithful. Now, the results are in God\u2019s hands.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>I do. I believe that if we will live it and if we will train it then, that\u2019s all God asks of us. That\u2019s His calling for us to do\u2014it\u2019s what He did. When we do it\u2014in His strength, in His power, in His way\u2014it\u2019s not a one-size fits all, like\u2014\u201cThis is exactly the way you need to do it.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI couldn\u2019t stand when I\u2019d read parenting books that we\u2019re like\u2014\u201cYou have to sing hymns at the table,\u201d or \u201cYou have to do it this one certain way\u201d\u2014but we\u2019re so intentional about taking our kids to the doctor when they\u2019re sick, for physical health. We\u2019re so intentional with them socially\u2014making sure they\u2019re in the right friend group. We\u2019re so intentional with them intellectually\u2014getting them a tutor when they fall behind\u2014but when it comes to spiritually\u2014when it comes to knowing this God we love and serve, I think sometimes we feel ill-equipped.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe hope that\u2014\u201cOh, if I just drop them off at church,\u201d or \u201cMaybe, Grandma will teach them some of these things.\u201d Yet, I believe that God calls us to be the key disciplers in our homes to pass on\u2014this faith and this\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf we really believe this is the way that leads to life\u2014that this is the Savior of the world who gave His life for us and calls us to a mission, and we want to reproduce that across the whole globe, across the whole planet with this message of the Gospel\u2014wouldn\u2019t I want that for my kids more than anything else\u2014for them to know and love Him? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>What you are saying is absolutely imperative for parents to hear today. They\u2019ve lost sight of what is the North Star of being a parent. We\u2019re doing a great job getting them over to play gymnastics, soccer, football, piano, education\u2014spending the bucks there\u2014but we\u2019re missing the spiritual formation\u2014the spiritual training\u2014of our children. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI have to tell you\u2014Barbara and I are really concerned because we\u2019re seeing a generation of parents who don\u2019t know what they believe. You can\u2019t impart what you don\u2019t personally possess. In fact, I just want to authenticate what you\u2019ve just shared with our listeners\u2014that it\u2019s modeling and training\u2014because our listeners need to know, she got that out of Deuteronomy\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>I did. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014Chapter 6. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>I stole it right out of there. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Stole it right out of the Book. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You\u2019re not alone\u2014trust me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes, exactly. It says, \u201cYou shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words I\u2019m commanding you today shall be on your heart.\u201d\u00a0 So, parents\u2014first of all\u2014have got to have these words on their hearts. They have to get up in the morning and be thinking about how I am representing the King\u2014how I am modeling loving Christ for my children to see\u2014but also just in how I live. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, it goes on and talks about the training portion. It says, \u201cAnd these words that I am commanding you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, when you rise up.\u201d It\u2019s talking about a way of life training of your children\u2014teaching them how to think critically\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014as they face choices. They\u2019re going to face tens of thousands of choices in their lives. If you don\u2019t train them in how to make wise choices, the world will. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Oh, yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It will not be wise\u2014it\u2019ll be foolish. You\u2019re really talking about something here. If you miss this as a parent, you\u2019ve missed your purpose. You\u2019ve missed why God gave you children in the first place. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Absolutely. Some of the pushback that I sometimes hear in talking about these eight practical steps\u2014I call them spiritual rhythms\u2014these are the things\u2014because this came, for me, when I was at a conference, and the theme was \u201cRethink.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI spent the last day\u2014I didn\u2019t go to the sessions with my husband\u2014he likes to go to all the sessions. I stayed in the hotel room and I just said, \u201cGod, where are you calling me to rethink?\u201d\u00a0 It was in these areas\u2014I made the list of these eight areas of\u2014\u201cI want to make sure\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOur son was two years from graduation\u2014from high school, and I had that overwhelming sense of\u2014Have we done this thing? that you just talked about, Dennis. Have we taught him what it means to rest? What it means to be in God\u2019s Word? How desperately he needs a mentor?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe pushback that I hear from parents is\u2014\u201cYou know, we\u2019re so busy anyway\u2014we\u2019re at soccer practice and we\u2019re here\u2014and we\u2019ve got gymnastics\u201d\u2014they\u2019re running, running, running so hard. What I would say is, \u201cIt doesn\u2019t mean\u2014we\u2019re not talking about a three-hour program every week\u2014these are small posture changes that we can make five minutes at bedtime when they\u2019re vulnerable.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSome of the things that we\u2019ve done are to say\u2014we would hear over and over again for prayer at bedtime, \u201cGod, thank You for this wonderful day and I just hope we\u2019ll have a wonderful day tomorrow. Amen.\u201d\u00a0 After hearing that night after night, I realized, \u201cYou know, Jesus took some time to train some of these elements of prayer. You start with adoration, then you confess.\u201d\u00a0 We had some fun with that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI mean made a list of the things we think are awesome about God and put them up on the wall in a little cheap, plastic frame. This is not rocket science\u2014this is intentionality. This is a posture that says, \u201cPrayer is vital to my child\u2019s spiritual life\u2014not just today, but for the rest of his life.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>What you are training them for is real life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You don\u2019t know how soon that may visit them. You had twins and when your twins turned 12, your daughter came down with a strange disease and that demanded a response from her. Explain what happened. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>She began to lose her hair to autoimmune disease called alopecia. It started in just little pieces\u2014hair on the pillow every morning, hair in the drain of the tub, hair on the brush\u2014and much grief. It was a grieving process for her, and she knows and loves God. So she began to pray, and I believe that she had a mistaken misconception about prayer. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tUp to this point, we\u2019d seen God answer all kinds of prayer\u2014\u201cMake my boo-boo better.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cHeal me of this.\u201d \u201cHelp our family have everything it needs.\u201d She had always seen all of her needs being met. This was her first \u201cNo\u201d from God. The more she prayed, the more her hair fell out\u2014eventually, her eyelashes, her eyebrows\u2014all of it. So, she had to learn to persist in prayer when God is silent. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs a mom, that puts me in a position of\u2014\u201cWhat am I going to do?\u201d I held her and said, \u201cI don\u2019t understand either, but I know this\u2014I know that God is good. I know that He is a rewarder of those who seek Him. I know that His eyes are roaming to and fro throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are completely His. These things I know.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You genuinely believed God was ruling in the affairs that were taking place in this young daughter\u2019s life and you used that to comfort her. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, you were quoting Scripture to her\u2014you were sharing with her what God\u2019s promises are from His Word. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>There was a time when\u2014because we did seek a counselor\u2014she was sad. I didn\u2019t know how to walk her through this. I knew that I needed help\u2014I need a mentor\u2014mentoring is Scriptural. It\u2019s Elijah and Elisha. It\u2019s Paul and Timothy. It\u2019s Mary and Elizabeth. We sometimes don\u2019t know what to do\u2014and we need to ask someone else for help. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the things that her counselor had her doing was writing out her feelings in a journal\u2014all of the stuff, all of the darkness, all of the reality, and acknowledging that. I was looking in there reading some of the darkness, and I realized one piece of this is missing. You look at the prophet Jeremiah. He said, \u201cEverything I\u2019ve longed for from the Lord is lost.\u201d He lamented. He said, \u201cI wish I\u2019d died in my mother\u2019s womb.\u201d But right at the edge of every one of those real, authentic\u2014lamentations, really\u2014he always then goes and rehearses the attributes of God. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, the passage that says, \u201cThe steadfast love of the Lord never ceases. His mercies never come to an end. They are new every morning,\u201d we always quote that one\u2014put it on a meme, embroider it on something. No one quotes the few ones before it that says, \u201cEverything that I longed for from the Lord was lost.\u201d\u00a0 So, he pours it out, but then rehearses the attributes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, I began to write those verses\u2014encouraging verses\u2014about God\u2019s character on index cards and just slide them under her pillow. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You\u2019ve illustrated in this story three things that are in your book that you have both modeled and trained your daughter in. You\u2019ve talked about prayer and offering instruction in prayer. You\u2019ve talked about God\u2019s Word and finding your hope and your confidence in God\u2019s Word. And you\u2019ve talked about mentors, and the need for mentors. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYour daughter saw you praying. She heard you praying because you prayed with her\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014on this situation. She knew that you were finding your hope and strength in God\u2019s Word because that\u2019s what you were writing on those note cards and putting under her pillow. She knew that when you needed help, you went and found help. Did you do training in that process too\u2014to teach her how to pray and how to find her hope in God\u2019s Word or in a season like this\u2014do you just model and try not to do too much training and instruction? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>I would say in that season, if we read anything, we read a lot of Psalms\u2014there\u2019s a lot of comfort there\u2014and there wasn\u2019t a lot of instruction during those times; but there certainly have been after and before. That\u2019s a challenge for parents\u2014especially when your kid is suffering from something difficult of when to apply grace and overlook and love covers and when to address issues. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think there is danger on both sides and to walk that line\u2014praise God we have the Holy Spirit\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>\u2014who leads and guides us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I want to ask you one other thing because I was really fascinated by the way you were explaining instruction in the area of prayer and having something in the room that lists the attributes of God. So, at bedtime, you can say, \u201cOkay, which three are you going to pick from tonight that are going to be in your prayer?\u201d\u00a0 Were there other practical things like that, that you did\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014to help your kids learn how to pray? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>Absolutely. I grew up learning how to pray with A.C.T.S\u2014the acronym ACTS. After adoration, we move to confession\u2014this is an interesting thing. We\u2019re like\u2014\u201cOkay, now is the time to tell something you\u2019re sorry for.\u201d The first night we did it, they said, \u201cWell, I just can\u2019t really think,\u201d I\u2019m sitting there, as mom going, \u201cWell, there was that time\u2014\u201cI can think of 40 right off the top of my head. \u201cThere\u2019s that time that you hit your sister.\u201d They were like, \u201cOh, yes\u2014God, I\u2019m sorry!\u201d They want to confess. They need a little confession coach to help them\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Melissa: <\/strong>\u2014because children are naturally self-centered. My husband says, \u201cSinner married sinner, and we had some \u2018sinnerlings\u2019. They came by it honestly.\u201d So, our job is to help them recognize that and learn to confess it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThankfulness\u2014kids are great about thankfulness. They know to be thankful for things\u2014but we tried to push them out beyond just my teddy bear, my dinner, my room. What about clean water? Helping them understand that most of the globe doesn\u2019t have that clean water. What about family and our church and some of these other things they take for granted? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, for the last part, which is supplication\u2014which is a big word that means asking for things\u2014and I stole this from a friend. It\u2019s not mine. It\u2019s Monday, missionaries; Tuesday, teachers; Wednesday, widows and orphans; Thursday, those who don\u2019t know Jesus; and Friday, friends and family. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo now\u2014if I lay in bed with my daughter and pray, she\u2019ll go, \u201cWhat\u2019s today? It\u2019s Wednesday\u2014widows and orphans. We\u2019re going to pray for the kids we support in Guatemala and Grandma and a few ladies at church.\u201d That\u2019s not the only way to pray, but let\u2019s be as intentional in instructing them in the ways of the Lord as we are in planning their next birthday party or our next vacation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Let me just go over the acronym for those who aren\u2019t familiar with it: Adoration\u2014offering praise to God. Confession\u2014agreeing with God that what you\u2019ve done is wrong and verbalizing that. Thanksgiving\u2014is expressing your gratitude to God for the blessings that we experience. Then Supplication\u2014is asking God for whatever is on your heart to ask Him for. That\u2019s a pretty good pattern for people to follow\u2014and a good pattern to teach your children as you\u2019re teaching them how to pray. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You had helped Abigail, your daughter, develop a strong, spiritual foundation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s what Jesus talked about as He summarized the Sermon on the Mount. He basically talked about a builder who was intentional and one who wasn\u2019t. The one who wasn\u2019t, built his house on the sand. He refused to obey what Christ said. As a result, when the storms came, when the floods hit, the winds blew, the house fell because there was no foundation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut the one who had been intentional\u2014that\u2019s really set up by a parent, a mom and a dad, who intentionally helps their son\u2014their daughter\u2014begin to build a foundation on his or her life\u2014so <em>when<\/em> the floods come, <em>when<\/em> the winds blow\u2014not <em>if<\/em>\u2014you\u2019ll be able to handle it\u2014and the house will stand because it\u2019s been built upon obedience to the truth over time. That means even a 12 year old can begin to process a tragedy\u2014a loss in her life\u2014she can begin to think Biblically about that. She won\u2019t do it perfectly\u2014we as adults don\u2019t do it perfectly\u2014but she can begin to process that appropriately, and she can grow spiritually as a result. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know the rest of the story hasn\u2019t been told about your daughter, but you have to wonder if God doesn\u2019t have a special spot in God\u2019s work for your daughter. You\u2019ll be surprised I think, at how He uses her for His purposes long haul. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You know for a child to respond to hurt and to pain in a healthy way\u2014for any of us to do it for that matter\u2014that doesn\u2019t happen by accident. It happens because there has been some intentionality\u2014either on the child\u2019s part or on the part of Mom and Dad\u2014to make spiritual formation an issue in the family to build some spiritual disciplines and habits into the cycle of life in a family. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s really what you\u2019re trying to call parents to\u2014and equip them to be able to do more effectively in your book, <em>Total Family Makeover<\/em> which is a book, by the way\u2014that we\u2019ve got in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. Listeners can go online at FamilyLifeToday.com to order a copy, or they can call 1-800-FL-TODAY. Again, the title of the book is <em>Total Family Makeover<\/em> by Melissa Spoelstra. Order online at FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014or call 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY\u201d and we\u2019ll get a copy sent to you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re talking about developing patterns and habits in a time of the year when we pretty much get rid of patterns and habits. I mean summertime is that kick-back, relaxed, no-two-days-look-alike kind of thing\u2014especially when the kids are out of school and you\u2019re into a summer rhythm. I was going to say, \u201cA summer routine,\u201d but there is no such thing as a summer routine. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the reasons we know this is because\u2014we have a lot of listeners who\u2014a part of their routine is to support the ministry of FamilyLife financially\u2014and yet, during the summer, folks slip out of that routine. So, let me just remind those of you who are regular financial givers to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>\u2014If you\u2019ve slipped out of the routine we want to again say, \u201cThank you for your support,\u201d and remind you that we still need it during the summer months. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019ve never contributed to the work of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, we are listener supported. Without your contributions, this program couldn\u2019t continue on this local radio station\u2014or for that matter, online or on our app\u2014or any of the ways that the program is now heard by listeners all around the world. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, would you consider making a donation today? It\u2019s easy to do. You can go to FamilyLifeToday.com and donate online or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY to donate; or you can mail your donation to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> at Box 7111, Little Rock, Arkansas; our zip code is 72223. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we want to talk about how important it is for our kids\u2014and, again, for that matter, for us\u2014to have people in their lives or in our lives who can help us get pointed in the right direction spiritually. We\u2019ll talk about the power a mentor can have in your child\u2019s life and in your own life tomorrow. Hope you can tune in for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. 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