{"id":304562,"date":"2017-06-23T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2017-06-23T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/romance-like-it-used-to-be\/"},"modified":"2017-06-23T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2017-06-23T15:00:00","slug":"romance-like-it-used-to-be","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/romance-like-it-used-to-be\/","title":{"rendered":"Romance Like It Used to Be"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Becky Thompson encourages wives to keep the romantic fires burning in their marriages through 21 days of rediscovery.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2017-06-23.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:26:05","filesize":"23.89M","filesize_raw":"25045899","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2838,2088,2831],"tags":[6264,2699,2877,4051,4714,4022],"podcast_series":[8217],"cwp_profile":[3316],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-304562","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mothers","category-romance-and-sex","category-wives","tag-challenge","tag-forgiveness","tag-marriage","tag-resolving-conflict","tag-romance","tag-wives","podcast_series-love-unending","cwp_profile-becky-thompson","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/304562\/romance-like-it-used-to-be","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/304562\/romance-like-it-used-to-be","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"HrD7e2Z3eu\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/romance-like-it-used-to-be\/\">Romance Like It Used to Be<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/romance-like-it-used-to-be\/embed\/#?secret=HrD7e2Z3eu\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Romance Like It Used to Be&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"HrD7e2Z3eu\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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I\u2019m not, and I feel like there\u2019s something wrong with me.\u201d I honestly thought maybe I just needed a hormone replacement or something like that. I thought maybe there\u2019s something like, \u201cWhat can you give me that will help my heart?\u201d I remember she took off her glasses and tucked them into her hair and she put her hand on my knee, leaning forward, and she said, \u201cSweetheart, you\u2019re just tired.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Friday, June 23rd. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, I know a lot of moms are nodding their heads, going, \u201cExactly. That\u2019s exactly how I feel.\u201d So what do you do if that\u2019s you? We\u2019ll talk today with Becky Thompson about that; stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong> \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, we\u2019ve been trying to provide for wives today a plan. This is actually for wives and moms; a plan for getting your marriage out of the fridge, putting it back on the stove, heating it back up again to where it\u2019s at an edible temperature, and bringing some...\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Sizzle.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Bringing some sizzle back into your priority relationship, which ought to be your marriage relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Especially moms with young kids.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I\u2019m just wondering whether the principles that are in here, this 21-day plan that\u2019s been laid out by our guest, I wonder if this is author-tested or not, if she\u2019s done the 21-day challenge.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That\u2019s a good question. Let\u2019s ask her. So, Becky Thompson, author of <em>Love Unending<\/em>, have you taken the 21-day challenge for your own marriage with your husband Jared?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHold your right hand up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere\u2019s the Bible right here; just put your hand on the Bible, right there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHave you done it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>I have, and I\u2019ve done it again and I\u2019ve done it again and I\u2019ve done it again.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Does he recognize when you\u2019re doing this? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> You know, the good thing about this 21-day challenge is that hopefully your spouse picks up on it. Hopefully your spouse starts to notice the little changes that you\u2019re making. But you know, by the second or third time through this, it\u2019s sort of become a lifestyle, which is my hope for every person that reads the book, is that it becomes a lifestyle, and that all the days blend together and that you just sort of catch yourself doing these little things that you did one at a time all at once.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Explain for listeners what it is you\u2019re trying to help a mom with, what you\u2019re coaching her with in this book.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>When we become a mom, it\u2019s really hard to remember how to be a wife, practically. What does that really look like, to be wife when we\u2019re busy being a mom? How do we continue to stay intentional and invested with our spouse when the demands of the day pile up? Twenty-one days of rediscovering your marriage in the midst of motherhood is exactly what it is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt is walking her back to the very beginning of what it looked like when she first fell in love with her husband. What were some of the things that she did? You know, how did she speak to him? How did she engage with him? It\u2019s funny, because these aren\u2019t new things.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> This isn\u2019t anything new I\u2019m teaching her. I\u2019m just reminding her of who she used to be and showing her, strategically, how to continue to be that version of her, in motherhood.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, there\u2019s one thing we haven\u2019t talked about in terms of a wife connecting with her husband and putting him first in marriage, and it\u2019s\u2014I want to be discreet here, but this would be something that during the dating years it would be hard for her to restrain herself. This would be something that during her honeymoon she would be finding great delight in, hopefully.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And this is something that after you\u2019ve been a mom for a few years has moved down the priority list to about number 57, and all of a sudden something that used to be appealing and attractive\u2014talking about marital intimacy\u2014is something that\u2019s last on your list of things you\u2019re looking forward to.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> Exactly. And so, you know, when children come along we remake the marriage bed, and I mean that in every way. Sometimes we\u2019re sharing our bed with children. Sometimes, you know, we have kids that crawl into bed with us. We have babies that take us away from the bed at night. We have exhaustive schedules. We are pulled in every direction to complete capacity, and then we still have to turn back toward our spouse at the end of the day and say, \u201cI want to connect with you.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat does that really look like after kids come along?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I had a mom one time say\u2014excuse me for interrupting on this\u2014but she said, \u201cIt was our romance that gave us kids, and then our kids took our romance.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> That\u2019s exactly right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It happens.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And so you have to be intentional, and you\u2019re talking about day 16: \u201cConnect intimately.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>How did you do that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> Being intimate with our spouse actually begins before we hit the bedroom, before we\u2019re ever alone with them, intimacy begins. You know, it happens through kind conversation. It happens through intentional listening. It happens on all the other days that lead up to day 16\u2014making space for our spouse, maybe even just touching purposely.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, day three is actually \u201cTouch purposefully.\u201d When we\u2019re dating, we might have just reached out and held our husband\u2019s hands, or our boyfriend\u2019s hands, however that looked, because we just wanted them to know that we saw them, that they were in the room, and we wanted to connect with them physically. But when we don\u2019t connect physically\u2014as a mom I need space sometimes. \u201cEverybody just sit on the floor in your chairs.\u201d As a nursing mom or a mom with little ones always in her arms, I need my own personal space. I need to remember that \u201cme\u201d is sometimes alone.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut then, I also have to willingly invite my husband back into my personal space and gauge him physically in some way; holding his hand, putting my hand on his back, acknowledging his presence in the room\u2014before we ever go to bed at night. Before intimacy is ever a thought, it begins throughout the day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And let me just stop you there, because a lot of moms in the middle of the day who might be thinking, \u201cOkay. Should I try to get ready for tonight?\u201d And everything inside of them is saying, \u201cNo; sleep tonight.\u00a0 Just sleep is what you need. You need sleep tonight.\u201d So they go, \u201cOkay, I\u2019ll sleep tonight.\u201d And then the next day it\u2019s the same cycle.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>Mm-hmm.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Pretty soon, there\u2019s never a day when it\u2019s a priority\u2014if you just keep thinking to yourself, \u201cI\u2019ll wait till I can kind of bring the mood on,\u201d it\u2019s not going to come for you as a mom unless you make it a discipline.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>Sometimes, you know, especially with little kids, going to bed is exhausting. The actual act of putting children to bed is exhausting.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> By the time everybody\u2019s off-duty and the house is picked up and you\u2019ve fallen into your own bed, it almost seems like a gift to your spouse to leave them alone.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Mm-hmm.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> When we first fall in love and we\u2019re newly married, it is like the pinnacle of our love, shown in those intimate moments. It\u2019s everything that we couldn\u2019t do all day that now we can do because we\u2019re alone together.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut this is where falling toward each other has to be the new way we fall at the end of the day. We have to fall into each other. We have to fall toward each other, and not alone, not fall away.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You had a friend who looked in the eye after you had a couple of children. I don\u2019t know, was Cadence your last child that you had?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>Jackson\u2019s my youngest, but I think this happened after Cadence.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes, Cadence. She said, \u201cSo how are you really doing?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>Mm-hmm.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u00a0To which you said?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>I started to cry and I told her, \u201cI am not interested in being intimate. I\u2019m not, and I feel like there\u2019s something wrong with me.\u201d I honestly thought maybe I just needed medicine, like a hormone replacement or something like that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI thought maybe there\u2019s something like, \u201cWhat can you give me that will help my heart?\u201d I remember she took off her glasses and tucked them into her hair, and she put her hand on my knee, leaning forward, and she said, \u201cSweetheart, you\u2019re just tired.\u201d I fell apart at the reality that it was okay to feel that way. It was okay to be overwhelmed. It was okay to be exhausted and tired and not interested. But then what was I going to do about it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s one thing to have someone look you in the eye and say, \u201cHow you feel is permissible and understandable,\u201d and then it\u2019s another thing to leave that conversation and go out and say, \u201cOkay, but I can\u2019t stay here, so what are we going to do?\u201d That\u2019s where connecting intimately is one of the most important days of <em>Love Unending<\/em>. You know, intimacy after children doesn\u2019t look always like it does before children. Physically, sometimes it\u2019s just not possible. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are some ways that intimacy physically changes after kids and during child-bearing years, and so it\u2019s important that we give ourselves permission to let intimacy look differently.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Mm-hmm.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>It\u2019s important.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>It is exhausting to be a mom and to take care of the kids all day, and it\u2019s okay to be exhausted at the end of a day like that, but if you think, \u201cI\u2019m just\u2014this is a season,\u201d and that \u201cseason\u201d of exhaustion goes on for nine months, or then you have another kid and now it\u2019s 18 months, and\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> Exactly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>If that season is perpetual, your marriage is in danger, unless you\u2019re saying, \u201cI\u2019d better get some rest, some sleep, and we better be together as husband and wife.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> It\u2019s really easy to fall into these behaviors. It\u2019s really easy. It requires intentionality to step out and to course correct.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>And practically; and again, without getting into the inappropriate details, how did you break the cycle, to pull yourself back into an attractive situation with your husband?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> I had the first change in my perspective of it being required work, right? It couldn\u2019t just be one more thing on my to-do list.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>A duty.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> A duty.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>That really doesn\u2019t go over well\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>Start any sparks.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014with the hubby, either, by the way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> Mm-mm. No flames, no passion with, \u201cIt\u2019s the last thing on my to-do list, and now I\u2019m done for the day,\u201d you know.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>So, really, as a wife, it begins by making a space, if possible. Getting the kids to bed at a reasonable time, if it\u2019s possible. Creating space in the evening, in the morning, wherever you have your alone time, making the space, and that\u2019s where, you know, we go to into choosing wisely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBecause as moms, a lot of our choices are made for us. A lot of what we have to do during the day is predetermined by the ages of our children and their school schedules or their feeding schedules or their soccer practices. A lot of our time is prescheduled.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut the time that we do have that\u2019s alone, and maybe our time, when we\u2019re around our spouse we have to make sure that we\u2019re giving it to them, we\u2019re choosing to engage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo on the days of connecting intimately, whatever that looks like, it looks like finding the space\u2014looking for the space.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>There\u2019s one other thing I think we need to just make clear in here: it is okay for a wife to say, \u201cI\u2019m exhausted tonight.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And her husband should hear that and appreciate that and respect that, but if she\u2019s saying that every night\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>That\u2019s the issue.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s the problem. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, in those times when you\u2019ve said to your husband, \u201cOh, sweetheart, I\u2019m just beat,\u201d how have you said that in such a way not to just cause him to despair about the state of your marriage?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>You know, I think what you said is true, in that if it\u2019s every night it\u2019s an issue. So, I can\u2019t change my husband\u2019s feelings; I can\u2019t. I can\u2019t change really the wording or any of it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf a spouse has certain expectations that aren\u2019t being met, physically, emotionally, whatever that looks like, there\u2019s really not going to be necessarily a way to say something that\u2019s going to change what they were wanting to happen and the reality of what is going to happen. So what I can say\u2014what has worked in my own heart is just honesty and looking at the time. I mean, looking at how frequent it\u2019s happening; looking at how frequently this is taking place, and changing my own perspective of the situation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, like we said, if it\u2019s a duty it\u2019s an issue, if it\u2019s a heart thing and we want to invest, that\u2019s where it becomes different. Knowing that it\u2019s permissible to be tired and exhausted, that\u2019s fine. Knowing that we need a break, that\u2019s fine. Wanting to engage, wanting to come back and be intimate as we did in the beginning, these are all ways where we become more intentional and look and just make the perspective change of how things work, how they are.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>There\u2019s another day you talk about that is an important day. You felt like this was one of the important ones on the journey, and that is learning how to resolve conflict in a way that keeps the marriage intimate rather than driving a wedge between the two of you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> Exactly. Learning to fight fairly. You know, I think we keep lists, whether we admit it or not. We keep records of wrong, even though love specifically keeps no record of wrong. If we don\u2019t fight fairly, then in a moment when it should be just about the fact that our heart was hurt by whatever is just in front of us, by that one issue right in front of us, we end up bringing up the entire list and using it as a weapon, if we don\u2019t forgive completely. If we don\u2019t forgive our spouse, then we use those words as weapons.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Sometimes it can happen, or be initiated, by the smallest of things, and you tell the story on day 11 where you\u2019re talking about fighting fairly about getting in his truck with him and the seat belt\u2026?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> Yes. So, he actually pinched me with the seat belt buckling up, and this was when I used to ride right next to him in his pickup.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe had a bench seat in the front seat, and I couldn\u2019t even stand to be in my own chair; I needed to be right next to him. This was back when touch was important and I wanted to\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s sweet.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>Isn\u2019t that sweet?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I think that is sweet.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>It\u2019s sweet.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>He\u2019s a pipe-fitter in western Oklahoma\u2014you see a bench seat, cuddled up in the bench seat pickup. Absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You\u2019re out driving in western Oklahoma and you have to have a couple snuggling up in the bench seat pickup, you know it\u2019s the Thompson family.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> Exactly. So, I sat up next to him and he accidentally pinched me, and I said, \u201cOuch, that hurt!\u201d He said, \u201cWell, I didn\u2019t mean to do it.\u201d We\u2019re both laughing. And I said, \u201cWell, say you\u2019re sorry!\u201d He says, \u201cWell, you know I\u2019m sorry; why do I have to say it?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI wish that I could say this in a way that helps everybody know that we really were joking back and forth. There really was an honest time, but he wouldn\u2019t say it. He just\u2014he never would say it. He thought it was funny that I wanted him to do it, and he wouldn\u2019t do it. We were laughing, and I got mad.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>All of a sudden the mood changed.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>No, no! I wanted him to do it just because I had asked him\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> The clouds have rolled in.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>\u00a0Just because I had asked him to do it, and he wouldn\u2019t do it, just because I had asked him to do it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Hold it. I want to read to you what you wrote in your book.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky: <\/strong>Please read it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u00a0You said, \u201cThe longer it went on, the more it escalated. I wasn\u2019t upset that he pinched me, I wasn\u2019t even upset that he wouldn\u2019t say the words; I was mostly upset that he wouldn\u2019t do something just because I\u2019d asked him to do it.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You said this was a preview of the next ten years of your married life, \u201cI just didn\u2019t realize it then.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> I just didn\u2019t know that this was going to be a perfect representation of the next ten years of our marriage, where I would want him to do something just because I had asked him to do it, and he wouldn\u2019t all of the time. You know, as time goes on in relationships fights change. You know, it\u2019s not just about the buckling in the seat belt and the accidental pinch; it\u2019s deeper wounds. It\u2019s real heart issues. It\u2019s lack of trust or miscommunication, and things like that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have to make sure that we don\u2019t use our spouse\u2019s secret places that they\u2019ve shared with us in intimate times in complete disclosure, in moments of vulnerability, against them. We have to make sure that we don\u2019t use these moments as weapons.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn our relationship, it\u2019s not just about that list of things that are wrong. It\u2019s not just about the things that we\u2019re holding against them. It\u2019s about respecting and honoring and caring for the deep places that they have, that they have opened up to you. You know, how he feels about his dad, how he feels about his job, how he feels about who he is as a man, can never be something that I use against him if I want him to trust me enough to share those things with me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You said at the beginning that we all have lists; whether we want to or not, we keep a record of wrongs. So, do you have one right now? Do you have a list in your mind of things that your husband has done that you\u2019re kind of hanging onto in case you need to go pick something up in a fight?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> You know, the beauty of this process and the beauty of this book is that I have been able to recognize these things when they happen. You know, sometimes, whether you\u2019re a husband or a wife, you push things down rather pulling them up, and you don\u2019t realize it until it grows into something ugly. You don\u2019t realize that you\u2019ve made it go away, these feelings, by just shoving them down deeper until they fester. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo through this process I begin to recognize the little things and say, \u201cOkay. I have to let this be done. I have to forgive him quickly, I have to address it,\u201d or I know my fickle heart. I know how I\u2019m prone to work, but I know how God works and how God looks at us and how God\u2019s love is not, \u201cYou did this before. You always do this, child. You always do this.\u201d God doesn\u2019t say that about us, you know? He forgives us fully, completely, and entirely when we ask Him to. So, with my spouse, I have to extend that same kind of grace. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI have to let today be a fresh start, which is the beauty of love unending; every day being the first day you fell in love means there cannot be a yesterday full of offense.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>There\u2019s a proverb that says, \u201cIt is one\u2019s glory to overlook an offense.\u201d The reality is in marriage most of the offenses that we\u2019re going to commit against each other, we just need to overlook them. We just need to extend grace and say, \u201cI\u2019m going to forgive you, and I\u2019m not going to hold this against you,\u201d and maybe not even have a conversation about it. We\u2019re just saying this to ourselves. \u201cI know my wife didn\u2019t mean to do that and I\u2019m just going to let it go.\u201d That\u2019s what we do most of the time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are sometimes when we need to have a conversation about it. We need to sit down and we need to say, \u201cThis did hurt. You just need to be aware,\u201d and then seek and grant forgiveness in that situation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut the only way not to keep a record of wrongs\u2014and by the way, First Corinthians 13 says love does not keep a record of wrongs\u2014the only way not to do that is to either determine for yourself, \u201cI have let that go,\u201d or to go to your spouse and go through a process of seeking and granting forgiveness.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And really, that\u2019s the healthy side of a relationship, to ultimately say to your spouse, \u201cYou know, honey, I feel disrespected when you say that to me with that tone in your voice.\u201d I think some people don\u2019t realize how they are saying what they\u2019re saying.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> Exactly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Because a lot of communication is not just what you say, it\u2019s the facial expression, it\u2019s the tone of the voice, and it\u2019s habitual. As we talked about earlier, it\u2019s not something that marks the dating years, how we relate to each other, but it is something that begins to mark a marriage. I think these little things matter in a relationship, where you don\u2019t keep the list and where it has to be carbon-dated, find out how old it is and how long ago was it you were wounded, but keep the list clean, and ask your spouse to forgive you when you\u2019ve offended him or her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, a great question. I\u2019ve just started asking couples this question: when\u2019s the last time you asked your spouse to forgive you for something? Just think about that. Here\u2019s the thing: if you can\u2019t remember the last time you did, or you\u2019re saying, \u201cTherefore, for the past six months I haven\u2019t hurt my spouse through either the lack of paying attention or apathy or words I\u2019ve said or something I\u2019ve done to purposely hurt him or her,\u201d I think it\u2019s a healthy question to ask frequently.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnother question that\u2019s similar in our relationship with God: when\u2019s the last time you confessed a sin to God? Say, \u201cGod, I did that. I had that attitude. I was selfish. I\u2019ll name it. I\u2019ll confess it. Will You forgive me?\u201d That\u2019s really what you\u2019re calling wives to do here in your book, Becky, <em>Love Unending<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019re encouraging wives to be honest and never stop pursuing their husbands. You do that through your 21-day challenge, and I\u2019m glad that you\u2019ve come all the way from western Oklahoma. In fact, I was kind of hoping we could call him on his cell phone. A pipefitter\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>They don\u2019t have cell service out in that part of western Oklahoma.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> That\u2019s actually true! He wouldn\u2019t pick up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Thanks for joining us, and I hope you\u2019ll come back again sometime.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Becky:<\/strong> Thank you; I\u2019d be honored. Thanks.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Let me encourage our listeners to go to our website, FamilyLifeToday.com, so they can get a copy of your book, <em>Love Unending<\/em>. We have it in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center, and we would love to send you a copy. Again, the title of the book is <em>Love Unending<\/em> by Becky Thompson. The subtitle: <em>Rediscovering Your Marriage in the Midst of Motherhood.<\/em> You can order from us online at FamilyLifeToday.com, or call 1-800-FLTODAY to order. Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com; our toll-free number is 1-800-358-6329. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s 1-800- \u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know for a lot of families the summer is both a relaxing and a busy time of year. Sometimes there\u2019s travel involved, or the kids have a different schedule. You\u2019re going to ball games or to the pool or\u2026 Whatever you have going on this summer, one of the ways to take FamilyLife with you wherever you go is to download our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> app on your cell phone or on your iPad. That way you can listen to today\u2019s program anywhere you are, anytime it\u2019s convenient for you. And if you want to look back in the archives and listen to programs you may have missed from previous weeks, you can do that as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019ll find the FamilyLife app in the app store for your device, whether it\u2019s Android or IOS. You can just type FamilyLife as one word in the search bar, and we should come up first. Just download the app\u2014it\u2019s free\u2014and then you have instant access to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> wherever you are.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd can we give a shout-out to the folks who made that app possible? That would be those of you who are not only regular listeners to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, but legacy partners who support this ministry monthly or those of you who will from time to time make a contribution to help support what we\u2019re doing here at FamilyLife.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYour money is invested in new channels of distribution for this radio program, for articles we have online, for other content that we have here at FamilyLife. Thanks for helping us get it out to more people as you contribute to the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. And if you\u2019ve never contributed, today\u2019s a great day to make your first donation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can do that online at FamilyLifeToday.com, or call 1-800-FLTODAY to donate. Or you can mail a donation to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> at Box 7111, Little Rock, Arkansas. And our zip code is 72223.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd with that we have to wrap things up for this week. Thanks for being with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI hope you and your family are able to worship together in your local church this weekend, and I hope you can join us back on Monday. We\u2019re going to talk to a mom who recognized that her family needed a spiritual makeover; they just needed a little spiritual life injected back into the home, and find out what Melissa Spoelstra did to give her family that spiritual makeover. That comes up Monday; hope you can tune in for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. We will see you back on Monday for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas. A Cru ministry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t______________________________________________________________________________\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. 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