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Because if God is there in the little moments, they are supremely important.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2017-03-06.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>According to author and speaker, Paul David Tripp, marriages that thrive are marriages where husbands and wives <em>do<\/em> sweat the little stuff.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong> I would like you to do something, right in this moment\u2014I would like you to pretend that you\u2019re sitting with me in front of a flat screen television and we are watching together the little moments of your marriage. What would I see? What would I <em>hear<\/em>? The character of marriage isn\u2019t set in three or four big moments. The character of marriage is set in 10,000 little moments of your marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Monday, March 6<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey. I'm Bob Lepine. If we could see all the little moments of your marriage, what kind of picture would that paint for us about how you love each other? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re going to hear more about that today. Stay with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us on the Monday edition. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Are you still rockin\u2019?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Don\u2019t you wish there was a boat big enough that we could get all of our listeners on <em>one big huge <\/em>cruise ship and just go do a cruise with everybody?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> One point six million listeners\u2014[Laughter] \u2014on a boat? I think it would sink!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That would be a big\u2014it would be a big boat!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> If <em>anyone<\/em> could do it\u2014Tim Bell, who headed up this year\u2019s cruise\u2014Tim could make it happen!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Tim, the cruise director.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Tim, go get that ship built. [Laughter] In five years, we\u2019ll have 1.6 million. Only thing is\u2014we\u2019re growing\u2014so you better make it for 2 million.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> The thing is\u2014it\u2019s just such a great week to be with everybody on the boat\u2014kind of all pulling in the same direction \/ all like-minded when it comes to marriage, and family, and Jesus. I can\u2019t think of a better week for couples than a week on the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage cruise. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I would meet people who had never been on a cruise before. I\u2019d say, \u201cI just want you to know\u2014I feel sorry for you.\u201d They\u2019d look at me, \u201cWhy is that?\u201d And I said: \u201cBecause what other cruise you <em>ever<\/em> go on is going to be downhill from here. You are onboard the most well-organized Christian cruise with great teaching, great music, ballroom dancing, comedians\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Movies under the stars.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> On and on it goes, Bob! I\u2019m just telling you\u2014if there\u2019s a better one, I don\u2019t know what it would be.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> The reason we\u2019re talking about this is because it was just two or three weeks ago that we were on the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise\u2014Valentine\u2019s week. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe had 2,600 of our closest friends who joined us for the week.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And they still <em>were<\/em> at the end!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Here\u2019s the thing\u2014we asked the folks onboard if they wanted to join us again next year\u2014we\u2019re 60 percent sold out for next year. We thought, \u201cWe better get to our listeners soon and let them know: \u2018If they\u2019d like to be a part of the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise in 2018, you better get in touch with us quick,\u2019\u201d because we\u2019re headed to some beautiful ports. We\u2019re going to be in the Dominican Republic \/ we\u2019re going to be in Grand Turk and Half Moon Cay in the Bahamas\u2014got a great lineup of speakers \/ a great line up of musicians who are going to join us\u2014and it\u2019s a day longer next year than it was\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Six full nights.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014this year.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That\u2019s exactly right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So we\u2019ll leave on Sunday morning\u2014get back on Saturday morning. The cruise is starting to fill up. We wanted to just make you aware this is going to be happening. If you sign up between now and March 20<sup>th<\/sup>\u2014that\u2019s when the early-bird rate goes away\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014so if you want to take advantage of the best pricing available, now is the time to sign up. We do make it easy for folks who get in touch with us early to get onboard the cruise because it really is a great getaway for couples. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> If you want a little taste of what you\u2019ll receive on the cruise, let me introduce you to one of the speakers this year\u2014Paul David Tripp, who\u2019s a pastor, author, and international conference speaker. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob, you mentioned, earlier, you saw him all around the ship\u2014he was having a blast with his wife Luella onboard. The audience thoroughly <em>loved<\/em> his message.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> He spent time on Thursday night talking about what is at the root of every marriage problem that every couple has. By the end of the evening, everybody was going: \u201cThat\u2019s right! That\u2019s the problem.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Recorded Message]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong> Since this is the <em>Love Like You Mean It <\/em>cruise, I need to talk to you about the first time that I told Luella that I loved her. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe met in college\u2014I was standing behind Luella in the college lunch line. For me, it was love at first sight \/ for Luella, it was first sight. [Laughter] After several months of dating, I decided that I was deeply, madly in love with her. I was shopping for that moment when I would look into her eyes and say those deeply romantic words. I thought I\u2019d hear birds sing \/ violins play. Well, that evening came\u2014it seemed like the right moment. I looked into Luella\u2019s eyes\u2014I said, \u201cLuella, I love you.\u201d She said: \u201cYou what?! You <em>love<\/em> me? What do you know about love? Don\u2019t ever say that to me again!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI heard birds dying!\u2014[Laughter]\u2014violins breaking! She was really quite right. I was the deeply mature age of 17\u2014knew little about love.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to talk to you this evening about why marriage is such a struggle. Don\u2019t look at me like you don\u2019t know what I\u2019m talking about. Why is it that this person\u2014that once just brought such joy to my heart \/ when I would hear their voice on the phone, my heart would lift\u2014is able to draw such irritation out of me?\u2014is able to pull such hurt out of me? Why is it that we go through these awkward moments and disagreements? Why is all of that stuff going on? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHappy news this evening is you don\u2019t have to wonder about that, because the Bible is <em>very<\/em> clear about why marriage is a struggle\u2014and <em>very<\/em> clear about where <em>help<\/em> is to be found. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMaybe the best way to launch our journey together is to talk a little bit about my marriage. Luella and I have been married now for 45 years. [Applause] That, in itself, is an argument for grace. I know you\u2019re looking at me and thinking, \u201cThis man is way too young to be married this long.\u201d [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLuella and I, throughout our marriage, have struggled with this one particular issue\u2014well, it\u2019s really been my struggle\u2014it\u2019s the issue of time. Some of you can relate to this. Luella was raised in Cuba. She has sort of an <em>island<\/em> and a <em>Latin<\/em> view of time. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter] She lives on a bit of a <em>vibe<\/em>\u2014you know, if we agree on a certain hour\u2014for Luella, it\u2019s a rough estimate. [Laughter] I was raised by a man who thought the soul litmus test or the value of a human being was punctuality: \u201cIf you\u2019re on time, you can live!\u201d [Laughter] So we\u2019ve struggled with this issue.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe point of this story is\u2014Easter morning\u2014our children were still home at this point. If you have multiple children, you know that even Sunday morning is not a relaxed time\u2014we\u2019re stuffing children in vans, saying: \u201cShut up! We\u2019re going to worship.\u201d [Laughter] We call that preparing our hearts for worship. [Laughter] It was Easter morning. Our church decided\u2014for reasons I don\u2019t really understand\u2014to have a full breakfast <em>before<\/em> the service on Sunday morning. What that has to do with the resurrection of Jesus, no one knows; but it was a tradition.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong> \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, I woke up with feelings of futility; because I knew that that meant we had to leave an hour-and-a-half early. About time to go, I go into the bathroom\u2014Luella\u2019s standing there and our, then, nine-year-old son. I could tell by the way she was dressed that she wasn\u2019t near being ready. I began to say helpful things to her\u2014[Laughter] \u2014like: informing her it was not an Easter <em>dinner <\/em>\/ it was an Easter breakfast\u2014she found that helpful. [Laughter] That\u2019s a lie! Telling her a couple of our children are already in the car, waiting\u2014like <em>usual<\/em>. Reminded her that I was an elder in the church and my arrival before the ham and eggs was very important to <em>my<\/em> ministry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAbout then, our nine-year-old son said, \u201cDaddy, may I say something?\u201d I should have said, \u201cNo.\u201d He looked at me <em>very<\/em> seriously\u2014he said, \u201cDaddy, do you really think this is the way a Christian man should be talking to his wife?\u201d [Gasps] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI said, \u201cWhat do you think?\u201d\u2014trying to escape the conviction. This little boy looked at me, without hesitation, and said: \u201cDaddy, it doesn\u2019t make any difference what I think. What does <em>God<\/em> think?\u201d I walk out of the bathroom, being duly corrected. I get to the threshold of the door; and I hear this little voice behind me, saying, \u201cDaddy, may I say something else?\u201d [Laughter] I\u2019m thinking: \u201cNo, no! Please don\u2019t!\u201d He said, \u201cDad, what I <em>mean<\/em> is: \u2018What does the Bible say about it?\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI went into my bedroom. These two thoughts hit me right away: First, my pride reared up. I want to be a hero to my son\u2014it was embarrassing that he saw through that moment and saw the tension his mom was feeling. That didn\u2019t last very long. I want you to hear what I\u2019m about to say\u2014I immediately thought, \u201cHow could it possibly be that God would love me this much that He would have one twit of care about this minor little moment in the Tripp bathroom?\u201d It wasn\u2019t just a Paul and Luella moment\u2014God was in that moment. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, think about this\u2014this is <em>one<\/em> moment on <em>one<\/em> morning, in <em>one<\/em> room, in <em>one<\/em> house on <em>one<\/em> street, in <em>one<\/em> neighborhood, in <em>one<\/em> city, in <em>one<\/em> state, in <em>one<\/em> nation, on <em>one<\/em> continent, in <em>one<\/em> hemisphere, in <em>one<\/em> globe in the universe; and <em>God<\/em> is in that moment. That is <em>love<\/em> of such magnificence\u2014I can\u2019t wrap my brain around it! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, brothers and sisters\u2014I think this is exactly what gets us in trouble. A husband will say something nasty to his wife in a little moment of life but he\u2019ll walk away from it \/ backing away from it, saying: \u201cIt was just a little moment. She knows I love her.\u201d A wife will lash out in bitterness that she\u2019s carried for six months, but it\u2019s in a little moment\u2014she\u2019ll say: \u201cIt\u2019s just a little moment. He <em>knows<\/em> that I love him.\u201d Listen, the little moments of your marriage are profoundly important\u2014<em>precisely<\/em> because they\u2019re the little moments. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf God doesn\u2019t rule the little moments of your marriage, He doesn\u2019t rule you; because that\u2019s the address where your marriage lives. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI have little interest in talking to you this evening about the great big moments of your marriage, because that\u2019s not where your marriage lives. The character of a marriage isn\u2019t set in three or four big moments. The character of marriage is set in 10,000 little moments of everyday life. I would like you to do something, right in this moment\u2014I would like you to pretend that you\u2019re sitting with me in front of a flat screen television and we\u2019re watching, together, the little moments of your marriage: \u201cWhat would I see? What would I <em>hear<\/em>? What is happening in the little moments of your marriage?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI have great <em>enthusiasm<\/em> for shining the searching light of the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ on the <em>little<\/em> moments of your marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019d like you to turn in your Bibles, if you would, or get out your iPhone<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> or your iPad<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>\u2014or what other weird, sad, off-brand you\u2019re carrying\u2014Laughter] \u2014to 2 Corinthians, \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tChapter 5. Now, I want to say something about the Bible that will be our guide, because I think this is important to say. I don\u2019t know if you\u2019ve noticed this or not, but your Bible isn\u2019t arranged by topic. That frustrates some of you\u2014you wish it was arranged by topic, and you wish that you had little tabs on the end of the page to give you \/ send you to your topic of interest. The Bible isn\u2019t arranged by topic\u2014because of divine editorial error\u2014but because of divine <em>intention<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe Bible is essentially a grand redemptive story. Maybe the better way to say it is: The Bible is a theologically-annotated story. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s a story with God\u2019s essential explanations and applications. So that means that, if you want to understand marriage, you can\u2019t just run to the passages that mention the word, \u201cmarriage\u201d; because that\u2019s not the way the Bible works. To the degree that every passage tells me about things about God, and things about myself, and things about life in this fallen world, and things about the disaster of sin, and things about the operation of grace\u2014to that degree, every passage tells me about something \/ everything in my life. That\u2019s how the Bible works.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to take you to a passage that\u2014I think you cannot understand the struggle of marriage without this passage. Yet, I think that it\u2019s familiar to us \/ we\u2019ve read it many times; but we hadn\u2019t been hit with its <em>dramatic, relational import<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me begin reading just two verses\u20142 Corinthians, Chapter 5:14-15: \u201cFor the love of Christ controls us, because we have concluded this, that one has died for all, therefore all have died; and He died for all, that those who live might no longer live for themselves, but for Him who for their sake died and was raised.\u201d Verse 15 says this: \u201cHe died for all.\u201d Now, listen <em>very carefully<\/em>: \u201cthat those who live should no longer live for\u201d\u2014what\u2019s it say?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Audience:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cthemselves.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong> In that phrase, \u201c<em>should no longer live for themselves<\/em>,\u201d Paul identifies something <em>deep<\/em> <em>inside<\/em> of every heart in this room, something deep inside of every couple who\u2019s ever been married, and something deep inside of every human being that has ever lived. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat is the <em>reason <\/em>for the chaos of <em>every<\/em> relationship that\u2019s ever existed in just a few words. It\u2019s dramatically profound! It\u2019s gloriously eloquent\u2014Jesus <em>came<\/em> so that those who <em>live<\/em> should no longer live for themselves! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s what sin does for us\u2014sin causes me to be <em>way<\/em> too self-absorbed, <em>way<\/em> too self-oriented, <em>way<\/em> too self-possessed. Sin causes me to stick myself in the center of my universe and make it all about me. Sin causes me to shrink the field of my concern down to the claustrophobic confines of my wants, my needs, my feelings.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSin really does make it all about me\u2014my wants, my feelings, my needs, my happiness, my plan. Paul says sin is fundamentally \u201cme-istic\u201d\u2014it\u2019s not a word\u2014I made it up. [Laughter] \u201cI want,\u201d \u201cI want,\u201d \u201cI want,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s why you have never, ever had one single relationship in your life that hasn\u2019t disappointed you\u2014other than your relationship with God\u2014because there\u2019s something inside of us that pushes against all the things that are necessary to make love work\u2014to make unity work, to make understanding work, to make romance work. Paul names it\u2014it\u2019s the selfishness of sin.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to live with a wife who says to me every day: \u201cOf course Paul, I agree with you.\u201d [Laughter]\u00a0 I\u2019ve lived with the glory that is you.\u201d [Laughter] I want to live in a world where chocolate is always at ready reach\u2014just coat the world in it so I can take a bite. I want children who say, \u201cYes, father, I will forthwith go and obey because you, sir, are wise.\u201d [Laughter] I want neighbors who move into the neighborhood just because I\u2019m there. [Laughter] I want to drive on roads paid for by other citizens who choose not to use them. [Laughter]\u00a0 \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d\u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d\u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAre you uncomfortable yet? [Laughter] \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \u201cI want\u2026\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWelcome to the selfishness of sin. It takes the beauty and the brightness of marriage and makes it dark; because\u2014when I\u2019m driven, the core of what motivates me is what I want\u2014what I say I need \/ what I <em>feel<\/em> when I\u2019m in the middle of my universe. My marriage is driven by law: \u201cYou do what I want,\u201d \u201cYou do what makes me happy,\u201d \u201cYou sign on for my plan, and I will be nice to you; but you get in the way of my plan, and I will strike back at you in some way. I will punish you in some way.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat a <em>horrible<\/em> way to live\u2014it\u2019s a marriage of human rules and human judgment. No wonder the joy is out of your marriage. No wonder the tenderness is out of your marriage. No wonder the happiness is out of your marriage. Listen\u2014that doesn\u2019t happen to us\u2014<em>we do that to us!<\/em> You\u2019ll never, ever move beyond that unless you <em>own<\/em> that\u2019s inside of you\u2014unless you <em>own: \u201cWe do that to us.\u201d<\/em> \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, notice the logic here\u2014Paul is actually arguing that the DNA of sin is selfishness. That\u2019s what sin is about\u2014sin is <em>always<\/em> putting <em>you<\/em> in the middle of your universe; it\u2019s <em>you<\/em> writing <em>your<\/em> rules; it\u2019s <em>you<\/em> demanding <em>your<\/em> way. Now, you sort of know this. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHusbands, when you\u2019re up in your wife\u2019s face and saying something nasty to her, you\u2019re not doing that because you\u2019re ignorant of the fact that\u2019s wrong. If you\u2019re a Christian man, you know that that\u2019s wrong. You\u2019re doing that, at that moment, because you don\u2019t give a rip that it\u2019s wrong\u2014because there\u2019s something that you want and, at that moment, you will rise up and do what is wrong in the eyes of God; because there\u2019s something you want from that woman\u2014selfishness of sin.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWife, when you set your heart on something and you won\u2019t let it go\u2014you beat on that man every day\u2014day after day, after day, after day\u2014until he\u2019s beaten down. You don\u2019t do that because you\u2019re ignorant of the fact that that\u2019s wrong. You do that because, at that point, you don\u2019t <em>care<\/em> that it\u2019s wrong. You\u2019ve put yourself in the middle of the universe and you\u2019re saying, \u201cI will get from this man what I want, no matter what,\u201d\u2014selfishness of sin.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s the DNA of sin. You don\u2019t sin out of love for someone else \/ you don\u2019t sin out of love for God. You put yourself in the middle of the world and you say: \u201cI am the lord. I will have what I want,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s sin.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We\u2019ve been listening to the first part of a message from Paul David Tripp. This is a message he presented just a few weeks ago onboard the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise as we were together with 2,600 folks, who were all there\u2014they were there to relax, to have fun, and to listen to great music, and to see some great ports\u2014but they were also there because they want their marriage to be as good as it can be.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> As I was walking off the ship Bob, a young man came up to me\u2014probably, in his mid-30s\u2014and he said: \u201cI just got to tell you\u2014we came to this event\u2014we were not in the game. I\u2019m so sad we haven\u2019t been in the game.\u201d I said: \u201cBut look! You\u2019re in it now!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u201cYou\u2019re going to move from the bleachers onto the field and get in the real game!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe got a grin that broke out across his face and you could tell <em>he got it<\/em>\u2014that marriages were put here by God, not for our happiness, but to make a statement to the world of who God is and what His love and forgiveness are like. It\u2019s a great privilege to represent Him on planet earth.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We had such a great time with our listeners onboard the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise this year that we just want to make sure as many listeners as possible can join us next year. We expect that this cruise is going to sell out early. We\u2019re going to the Dominican Republic, Grand Turk and Half Moon Cay in the Bahamas. We are more than 60 percent sold out right now. If you are interested in being on the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriagecruise, go to FamilyLifeToday.com and get more information; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY for more information. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe early bird rate ends on March 20<sup>th<\/sup>, and we expect to have a limited number of cabins available after that time. Get in touch with us now if you\u2019d like to attend next year\u2014online at FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014or call 1-800-FL-TODAY and be part of the <em>Love Like You Mean It <\/em>marriage cruise in 2018.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we\u2019re going to hear the conclusion of Paul David Tripp\u2019s message on the biggest obstacle in your marriage. 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