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Jon Gauger posed that question to some top Christian leaders: Kay Arthur, Michael Easley, Michael Card, and others.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2016-12-05.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You\u2019re familiar with the popular question that asks, \u201cIf you could have dinner with anybody you\u2019d want, who would you include at the table?\u201d Well, author, Jon Gauger, decided he would do his own variation of that intimate dinner party.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: We talked to about 28 or 29 fairly well-known Christian leaders\u2014and began asking myself, before it ever started: \u201cI wonder about these people\u2014whose sermons we hear on the radio, whose books we read, whose music we listen to\u2014\u2018Do they have the same struggles that I have? Do they have the same regrets? Did they make the same kind of mistakes? And what do they do with those?\u2019\u201d I think anybody, who\u2019s honest, has got regrets\u2014I\u2019ve got mine\u2014but what do we do with those, as followers of Jesus? What do we do with them?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Monday, December 5<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. Today, all of us get to imagine that we're at Jon Gauger\u2019s dinner party. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe'll get to hear how Christian leaders he talked to answered some pretty interesting questions. Stay with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. You know, the great thing about my job is that I don't have to have any answers. I just have to ask good questions. That's <em>all<\/em> I have to do\u2014find smart people and ask good questions.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: And any listener who\u2019s listened to this broadcast knows that is <em>not<\/em> true. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: Well, you know this\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: You do enjoy asking a great question, but you also enjoy asking the question and answering it yourself. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: I don't mind doing that. [Laughter] You have found\u2014and I've learned this from you\u2014you and Barbara wrote a book, years ago, called <em>The Good Questions Book<\/em>. You have found there is great power in the right question.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: Yes; Howard Hendricks, who was a mentor of mine, described great questions as crowbars that could dislodge great memories \/ profound statements from the human heart. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYes; I like having a dinner table meeting and just tossing out a question like this that I'm going to ask our guest, even before I introduce him.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: You're going to ask him a tough question?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: I'm going to ask him my favorite question. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Okay.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Some of our listeners already know what that is. So, Jon, out of everything you've done in all your life, what would you say is the most courageous thing you have ever done? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: You know, I would say that God has placed in my heart a care for lost people. I think about them \/ they weigh on my heart\u2014this is just the way God has built me. I've had some great mentors. Having said that though, I have to confess that a number of times, when I have tried to\u2014step up\/reach out\u2014share my faith verbally with someone, that has taken courage, especially in a number of different situations. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0It continues to take courage, but I think God has called me to that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: You know, that is interesting that you answered that way. You are in good company\u2014the Commander of the International Space Station, who was interviewed here, on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, Commander Butch Wilmore, was asked the same question. Now, here's a guy who has strapped on a rocket, and who knows how many hundreds of tons of solid fuel, and been slung into outer space.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: He's gone faster than the three of us combined have ever gone.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: He's had like 700 landings on aircraft carriers; okay? His answer was the same as yours\u2014was: \u201cSharing my faith in Jesus Christ with another person.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: I think you may want to save Dennis' question for Volume Two of your book. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marty<\/strong>: That's right. We didn\u2019t get to Dennis. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: You just finished work on a book, where you took a bunch of great questions and sat down with a bunch of well-known people. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou had the opportunity to just ask them some of your favorite questions; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: Yes; about 28\/29 reasonably well-known Christian leaders\u2014and began asking myself, before it ever started: \u201cI wonder about these people\u2014whose sermons we hear on the radio, whose books we read, whose music we listen to: \u2018Do they have the same struggles that I have? Do they have the same regrets? Did they make the same kind of mistakes?\u2019 and \u2018What do they do with those?\u2019\u201d And that kind of spawned the idea of this little book, <em>If I Could Do it All Over Again.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: Well, some of our listeners recognized Jon Gauger\u2019s voice, who is heard on Moody Radio on a regular basis. He and his wife Diana have been married since 1983. They have two adult children and five grandchildren. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOut of all these questions that you asked, I'm going to ask you one.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: Alright; go for it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: What's your favorite question?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0<strong>Jon<\/strong>: Without a doubt, the <em>reason<\/em> to read this book is the chapter called \u201cWhatDo I Do with My Regrets?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I think anybody, who is honest, has got regrets. I've got mine, you know; but what do we do with those, as followers of Jesus?\u00a0 What do we do with them?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: You asked three regret-related questions in the book. You started with \u201cWhat is something you regret?\u201d And then you asked, \u201cWhy is it we can't do better?\u201d And then, \u201cWhat do we do with our regret? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet's start at the beginning, with the things that people regretted. One of the people that you talked to was Steve Brown\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: \u2014who is heard on <em>Key Life<\/em> radio\u2014pastor \/ seminary prof in Florida. You asked him for his regret. Actually, with all of these, you taped the answers.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: Let's hear what Steve Brown said is his greatest regret.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve Brown<\/strong>: [Recording] Oh, there are so many things that I wish I had done differently. I wish I had loved more. I wish I hadn't been so angry. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI wish I had been kinder and more merciful. But that's all forgiven \/ it's all covered\u2014I'm clothed in the righteousness of Christ. If I had it to do over again, I probably wouldn't even do it any better.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: You know, Steve Brown is going to get to grace pretty quickly. I mean, he'll talk about regrets; but he's going to make a beeline straight to grace anytime he gets a question like that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou asked the same question of Kay Arthur, from Precept Ministry. Here is what she shared.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Kay<\/strong>: [Recording] First of all, you\u2019re talking to a woman that was religious, that was married, that was divorced, that was immoral, and that was saved. You're talking to a woman\u2014and I'd just be very blunt about it\u2014her son saw her be immoral \/ I mean, my oldest son. You're talking to a woman that has dealt with a lot of pain. But you know, one of the things that I've learned is\u2014I\u2019m not to live with \"If onlys.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI cannot change the past, but I can change the future. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI cannot recover anything from the past \/ God can redeem it. My job is to know my God. I would tell those people: \u201cYou know, if you are putting your head on the pillow, and living with those doubts, and you haven\u2019t been in the Word of God\u2014I'm not talking about a verse from a devotional\u2014I'm talking about <em>knowing<\/em> \/ I mean, <em>knowing<\/em> the Old Testament \/ <em>knowing<\/em> God. Paul says, \u2018Forgetting those things that are behind, I press forward toward the prize of the high calling in Christ Jesus.\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: Jon, if that's your favorite question, what is your favorite answer? Which one gave the answer that you just resonated with the most?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth said, \"We have to preach the gospel to ourselves.\u201d She says, \u201cIn the end, the sum total of my life will be Jesus Christ and His righteousness.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat just lifted such a huge burden off of me\u2014this idea of trying to be more, and do more, and sin less and love more, and\u2026.\u2014Jesus Christ and His righteousness\u2014that's the sum total of my life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: You asked two people. You asked Michael W. Smith and Pastor Michael Easley, the former President of Moody Bible Institute, you asked them both about regrets from their past, and their answers were similar.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael: <\/strong>[Recording] Yes; probably the drugs. I've written books about it\u2014so it\u2019s no secret, you know. From \u201875 to \u201879\u2014just fell off the cliff. I am very fortunate that I didn't die\u2014just stupid \/ just bad, bad choices. I look back on it, and it is sort of surreal; because it\u2019s not who I am \/ that's not what I was destined to be. I got caught in a trap, and it almost cost me my life; you know? Yes; if anything, I think that's the one phase of my life that I sit there and just go, \u201cWhat was I thinking?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThank God for the rescue and thank God for a praying mama and daddy, who knew exactly what I was doing, but just stayed on their knees for me. If I could go back and redo that chapter, that's what I'd love to change.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: What would you say, Jon, to a person who goes: \u201cThat's me right now. That may have been Michael W. Smith, back in the late 1970s; but its 2016, and it\u2019s me.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: I would say to you, listener, the same thing I said to a 97-year-old World War 2 pilot, who confessed to me <em>enormous<\/em> regret over an affair he\u2019d had, having left his wife. I said to him, \u201cLook, the Bible says, \u2018All have sinned and fallen short of God's glory,\u2019\u2014and the reality is this\u2014\u2018If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And he said then, \u201cYes; but you don't understand what I've done!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cWell, the Word says as far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us. We can't get our answers from ourselves, our culture, our books, or our self-help rack\u2014it has got to come from the Word of God.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: I think that is great counsel. I know Michael Easley has a similar story.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael <\/strong>[Recording]: Before I came to Christ, I was stupid\u2014I was licentious, I used drugs, I did about anything you could do. Even after I came to Christ\u2014the shame, and the guilt, and the regret of those\u2014you know, I watch young teenage kids today\u2014what they post \/ the pictures what they do\u2014they are over-sexualized \/ they use drugs like we use soft drinks. I don\u2019t think people understand the haunting shadows of that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know that I am forgiven \/ I know I\u2019m cleansed\u2014I know I am seen through the work of Jesus Christ\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0\u2014but if I could go back and talk to that stupid teenage kid and say: \u201cDon't be licentious. Don't do drugs. Don't make these stupid choices you make.\u201d The shame and the guilt of those\u2014they can stir up real quickly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: I'm thinking of a friend, whom I have spent a lot of time with over the years. One of the greatest regrets of his life was pornography\u2014I mean, he was off in it deeply\u2014and impacted his marriage \/ thought life. You could just see the pain on his face as he expressed that. There is a cost, unfortunately, to those things which we regret; isn't there, Jon?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: Yes; a high cost, and that price weighs heavily over a long period of time. I referenced this 97-year-old man\u2014this was an affair he had had more than half a century ago\u2014and yet it nearly brought him to tears.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: You spent some time as you talked with all of these folks, exploring why it is we have regrets. The reason is because we are all prone to disobedience, to selfishness, to going our own way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: \u201cThere is none righteous, no not one.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: That's right. And you ask Steve Brown, \"Why is it we don't do better than we do?\u201d\u00a0 He got right to the point.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve<\/strong>: [Recording] Because we like to sin. And we like to sin because of what Adam and Eve did and because of the fall. We wouldn't sin if we didn't like it. We make choices, and it\u2019s the reason for the cross. If we could do better, God would have sent us a really nice book and said: \u201cHere's the book. Just go to it.\u201d Obviously, our problem was a lot bigger than that; and so He sent His Son to die on the cross in our place. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And you know something? You can tell how big a problem is by what it takes to fix it. In our case, it took the blood of God's own Son\u2014so we must have a bigger problem than, \u201cDo better,\u201d\u2014a much bigger problem than \u201cDo better,\u201d given the sacrifice of Christ.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: As he was talking, I couldn\u2019t help but think of Isaiah 53:6, speaking of going our own way and what it cost God. Isaiah said: \u201cAll we like sheep have gone astray. We have turned everyone to his own way,\u201d\u2014now, look at what it cost God\u2014\u201cAnd the Lord has laid on Him\u201d\u2014that's Christ\u2014\u201cthe iniquity of us all.\u201d That\u2019s the amazing thing\u2014that God recognizes we're broken, but He provides redemption\/forgiveness. He wants to reach down and pull us out of the gutter and set our feet on the Rock.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0<strong>Bob<\/strong>: And of course, that gets right to the heart of how we deal with regrets. One of the questions you asked people was: \u201cWe've all got regrets \/ we know where it comes from. Now, what do we do with it?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: And Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth had a pretty good answer to your question.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nancy: <\/strong>[Recording]You know, when those regrets do weigh heavily on us, as they do for all of us at times, I think the first thing we have to do is thank God for grace. Go back to the cross. Preach the gospel to ourselves and realize: \u201cI am not the Christ. I am a <em>sinner<\/em> who needs a savior, and thank God I have a Savior. I thank God that He has not dealt with me according to my sins or as I deserve.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy dad\u2014when he was asked how he was doing\u2014his standard answer was, \u201cBetter than I deserve.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHow I thank God for His mercy \/ His grace in my life\u2014and that at every point of my failure\u2014my lack of discipline in so many areas of my life, my habits that I wish were different, bad habits that I've let grow up over my lifetime and good habits that I haven't developed like I wish I had\u2014in all of that, I take who I am\u2014with my failures, and faults, and flaws, and sins, and weaknesses\u2014and I take it to Him. I take it to the cross, and I give thanks that He took all my sin on Himself. He has clothed me in His righteousness and that the sum total of my life will not be about how well I performed, or how well I lived up to my goals, or how successfully I overcame my you know bad habits, or sinful patterns. When it\u2019s said and done, the sum total will be Christ, my righteousness. He took my sin\u2014He who had no sin\u2014He took that on Himself, and He's clothed me in His righteousness. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat is the <em>only<\/em> basis that I will ever be able to stand before God and not be ashamed\u2014and say: \u201cIt\u2019s all because of Jesus\u2014it's all because of what He did.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tEvery day, I have to preach that gospel back to myself and live in the constant conscious awareness that Christ is my life \/ He is my righteousness. He is my only hope in life and in death.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: I think the fascinating thing about her answer is she doesn't do what most of us are prone to do, which is find somebody who is worse than we are and compare ourselves with them\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: \u2014you know what I mean?\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: Sure.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: \u2014to make us feel better about ourselves, because we can find somebody who is worse off.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: Instead, she goes to the perfect One\u2014the One who is righteous \/ who is the Judge\u2014but the One who, in the midst of His perfection, offers absolute forgiveness, absolute mercy and grace for whatever you have done.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: It sounded a lot like good news to me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: Awful good news. That clip that we just played sends shivers down my spine.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: Yes. You also asked singer\/songwriter, Michael Card, the same question. We should listen to what he shared, because this is great.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael<\/strong>: [Recording] Yes; that's easy. I think we offer those things up as an act of worship. In Psalm 51, David said, \u201cIt's not the blood of bulls and goats You want.\u201d What He wants is a broken spirit and a contrite heart. I think part of being contrite and part of being broken is acknowledging how much you\u2019ve messed up. Oddly enough, I think the biblical solution is\u2014you turn around and you say: \u201cOkay; Lord, I am going to offer up this confusion. I'm going to offer up this, because this is basically all I've got to give.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, the thing that hurts you the most can be the most precious thing that you have to offer sometimes. Yes; I think that's what I do with my regrets\u2014I give them to the Lord\u2014say, \"Here, You are worthy to receive these things.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe cool thing is\u2014He does stuff with it \/ He does good things with it. The worst thing to do is to hold onto it. There's a book called <em>Sacrament of the Present Moment<\/em>. The idea in the book is\u2014Satan doesn\u2019t want you in the present, because that is the only place that you can meet with God is the present. So he brings you and drags you into the past with your regrets and he drags you into the future with fear\u2014and so that\u2019s kind of what I'm pointing at: You have these regrets from the past. Satan doesn't want you in the present\u2014he wants you in the past, feeling guilty for the things you've done. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat's why I say you take those things\u2014you know, obviously, you repent \/ you confess those things; but then you offer then up. I think that\u2014I think David, in Psalm 51, he realizes that all he's got is all God ever wanted\u2014his broken spirit and his contrite heart. I mean, that's basically all that any of us have, you know, to offer\u2014is our foolishness. But God takes those things, amazingly, and does stuff with them\u2014because He uses pain \/ He uses suffering to save the world\u2014so that even that suffering, that has come and gone\u2014I think he uses.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jon<\/strong>: Guys, I'm a photographer and love to take pictures. We were out on a hike in North Carolina this summer, busy taking pictures. I'm busy looking at those pictures, like we like to do\u2014not watching where I ought to be going. All kinds of roots and trees in this path that we're going\u2014because I'm so busy looking at the past\u2014I was literally tripped up by those roots \/ landed on the ground\u2014almost ruined the camera. Isn't that an image though for how we sometimes go through life\u2014looking at the past \/ messing up the future\u2014as Michael Card suggested.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>: And there are a lot of listeners who will identify with this passage from Isaiah\u2014it says: \u201cThey shall build up the ancient ruins. They shall raise up the former devastations. They shall repair the ruined cities, the devastations of many generations.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are listeners, right now, who look back on their family history. There's all kinds of issues\u2014divorce; maybe, there's murder; perhaps sexual abuse\u2014you name it. I mean, I'm always astounded when I get with a group of people and you can peel away the veneer that, unfortunately, too many of us bring forward in our relationships. You get to know them and you go, \"Here\u2019s a married couple, who are battling for their marriage; but between them, in their families, they have 13 divorces.\u201d Literally, it\u2019s what Isaiah's talking about\u2014that God will repair the ruins of generations that have been passed on. You can <em>stop<\/em> it\u2014you can stop the devastation with your life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob<\/strong>: You know, these three chapters in your book, where you talk about things that people regret, and why it is we don\u2019t do better, and what to do with our regret\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014I think, as people hear the comments of folks like Tim Keller and Josh McDowell, and Joe Stowell, and Tony Evans, Gary Chapman\u2014people we've heard from today\u2014Steve Brown, and Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, and Kay Arthur\u2014I think their insights on this subject are going to be healing for a lot of people. I'd just encourage folks: \u201cGet a copy of the book that Jon has put together\u2014called <em>If I Could Do It All Over Again<\/em>\u2014Christian leaders sharing some of the most important lessons of their lives.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGo to FamilyLifeToday.com to order a copy of this book. This may be one you want to get multiple copies of and share with others at Christmas. Again the book is called <em>If I Could Do It All Over Again<\/em>. You can order from us at FamilyLifeToday.com, or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY to order. Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com; and our toll-free number is 1-800-358-6329\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u20141-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, \u201cHappy anniversary!\u201d today to Jon and Debbie Hailey\u2014who live in Fairhope, Alabama\u201435 years, as husband and wife, being celebrated today. \u201cCongratulations!\u201d to the Hailey's and to any of you who might be celebrating your anniversary today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFamilyLife is all about anniversaries. We exist to provide practical biblical help and hope for marriages and families so that more marriages go the distance. And we want to thank those of you who share our passion to see marriages strengthened and families thriving all around the world. Your donations to this ministry go directly toward providing help and hope to couples and families. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd here, as we head to the end of the year, your donations carry a little extra weight with them. We've got a matching-gift opportunity that\u2019s been made available to us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have a matching-gift monitor this year\u2014our friend, Michelle Hill, who\u2019s keeping tabs on how the matching gift is doing each day. Michelle, welcome.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Thank you, Bob, and I\u2019ve got an update on our matching gift opportunity to share with our listeners\u2026the matching gift fund that\u2019s been made available to us here at FamilyLife is a fund of one and a quarter million dollars, and as of today folks have contributed two hundred twenty one thousand, six hundred sixty four dollars toward the match, and we\u2019re excited about that!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And our listeners need to keep in mind, when they make a donation this year, their donation is going to be tripled\u2014for every dollar they give, we get two dollars released from the matching fund. We hope you will consider making a yearend contribution and having that contribution tripled. Go to FamilyLifeToday.com to donate online; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to donate over the phone. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOr you can mail your donation to <em>FamilyLifeToday<\/em>, at PO Box 7111, Little Rock, AR; our zip code is 72223.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTomorrow, we\u2019re gong to continue to hear from Christian leaders as they answered some challenging and provocative questions. Jon Gauger will be back with us. Hope you can be back as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. We will see you back tomorrow for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\tHelp for today. 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