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One of the things he does is to grant divorce decrees, somewhat regularly; but before a couple can get divorced in Judge Philpot\u2019s court, they have to testify that their marriage is, in fact, irretrievably broken. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>In that special, irretrievably-broken hearing\u2014I call it an IBH\u2014I have a little form that both parties have filled out: \u201cWould they be open to some kind of process that would open the possibility of reconciliation?\u201d The little speech I give everybody at these hearings, I\u2019ve discovered, is <em>very<\/em> effective. I tell everybody: \u201cDivorce, the way it is normally done, is like an Autobahn in Germany, which is a high-speed situation with no speed limits and no off ramps. All I\u2019m doing, with your divorce, is taking it through the neighborhood.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Thursday, November 17<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. We\u2019ll talk today with Judge Tim Philpot about how, as a follower of Christ, he tries to bring hope and healing to a family court. Stay with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. Dennis\u2014\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u201cHere comes the Judge.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Oh, I <em>knew<\/em>\u2014you were just <em>waiting<\/em>. [Laughter] You were waiting for the opportunity\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I beat you to it!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014to deliver an old Flip Wilson line. [Laughter] Most of our listeners don\u2019t even know who Flip Wilson is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>No; they don\u2019t. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Back in the \u201860s, \u201cHere comes the Judge,\u201d was a big deal; wasn\u2019t it?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It was a big deal. We have Tim Philpot with us, who is a judge in Lexington, Kentucky. Tim\u2014welcome back to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Thank you, Dennis. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Judge, you have served in circuit court in Lexington, Kentucky\u2014in the family court\u2014for 12 years. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019ve, undoubtedly, had days, feeling like you\u2019ve been in a war zone and, probably, have some stories that stand out as remarkable stories over the last dozen years. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, he tells some of those stories, Bob, in his book, <em>Judge Z: Irretrievably Broken<\/em>. It\u2019s a story about, really, what\u2019s happened to marriage in America. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>It\u2019s a work of fiction based on a lot of truth; right?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Yes, it\u2019s all fiction; but I have been there for\u2014this is my 13<sup>th<\/sup> year. The social sciences say that the family court judges are only supposed to last seven years, and I can feel that. I mean, actually, for the last several years\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Why is that?\u00a0 <br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Well, it is\u2014there is a high burnout rate. Every day is stressful. Family court is just\u2014it\u2019s just full of stress. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I would think there would come a point, where you\u2019d just kind of have to put up a shell in front of you, given the amount of human trauma and tragedy you face on a daily basis. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Totally true. Everybody asks me if the stories in my book true. I say, \u201cNo, they are not; because I\u2019ve watered them all down.\u201d\u00a0 It\u2019s much softer than reality. I\u2019m even finding myself with tears many days. I didn\u2019t think that would happen, but it\u2019s happening more often this year than it did the first year. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Why?\u00a0 <br><br><strong>Tim: <\/strong>I think I\u2019m more sensitive to the children, frankly. I dedicated my book to the children of irretrievably-broken marriages. I wasn\u2019t even thinking about the little kids that are still going through it right now. I actually was thinking about some 40-year-olds, who I know, who are the children of irretrievably-broken marriages\u2014moms and dads that gave up too quickly \/ moms and dads who had a consumer mentality about marriage\u2014the kids would just need to get along and figure out how to survive the divorce. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI don\u2019t know\u2014when I was first a judge, I did all of this, and I just didn\u2019t think about it very much. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think, for some reason, I\u2019ve begun to think about it more. Part of that is because I have had this sort of a new, spiritual experience for myself in the last five years. I\u2019ve become more attuned, I think, to the heart of God for all of this. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Talk about the title of the book and where that came from and\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Sure. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014and why that\u2019s so significant. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Well, the word, \u201clawyer,\u201d is only mentioned one time in most versions of the Bible. It\u2019s in Titus 3:13: \u201cDo everything you can to help Zenas the lawyer\u2026\u201d\u00a0 A few years ago, I started a little project called the Zenas Project. It was a group of about 12 lawyers that got together\u2014we got together once a month for half a day. Our group was discovering whether it was possible to be a Christian lawyer. It was life transforming for all 12 of us that did it. It was just fantastic. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tA lot of what I\u2019m trying to do in my book is to be pedagogical\u2014that\u2019s a big word. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m proud that I know the meaning of that word. [Laughter]\u00a0 Pedagogical just means teaching. I\u2019m trying to teach a lot of things in this novel. It\u2019s not just a feel good, read it, and put it on the shelf novel. I\u2019m trying to teach a lot of things. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI wanted to teach people what Zenas\u2014about this word, Zenas. I wanted to teach people the word, \u201cBeulah,\u201d the judge\u2019s mother in the book, who is kind of the hero. Her name is Beulah, which is an old\u2014you\u2019ve got to be pretty old to remember what that means\u2014but generally speaking, people think of Beulah and connect it with Beulah Land and some of the old songs. It has this idea that Beulah Land is heaven\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>\u2014is kind of what we think. Well, Beulah Land is not heaven. It comes from <em>Pilgrim\u2019s Progress<\/em>. John Bunyan said that Christian, when he\u2019s on his way to the Celestial City\u2014he was almost there\u2014and he got to the river, which is Death, in crossing over into heaven; but the land right before the river is called Beulah Land in <em>Pilgrim\u2019s Progress<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBeulah Land is this wonderful place, where the birds are singing and the sun is shining; and it\u2019s just heavenly. It smells wonderfully \/ it\u2019s like heaven\u2014you can see heaven from Beulah Land. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>But you\u2019re not there?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>But you\u2019re not there!\u00a0 But the word, Beulah, found in Isaiah 62\u2014only found one time in the Bible\u2014the word, \u201cBeulah,\u201d means married. It\u2019s the greatest metaphor that I have found for talking about what marriage is supposed to be. Marriage is supposed to be something you go through to get to heaven. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, for me, I\u2019ve been married almost 45 years. I think I can truthfully say, \u201cI\u2019m not sure I could have gotten to this point in my life, spiritually\u2014I\u2019m not sure\u2014I don\u2019t think I could know God hardly at all if it was not for the fact that I am married.\u201d\u00a0 I mean, Sue is the one that has kind of kept me on the straight and narrow in many ways\u2014mostly because she\u2019s the only one that will tell me the truth. Everybody else, all day long, is patting me on the back, telling me what a great judge I am or what a great sermon that was. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe only person that will tell me the truth is Sue. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI have to be careful about this; because I don\u2019t want to make people that are single sad, and I don\u2019t want people that are divorced to feel guilty; but there is a truth that marriage is intended to help us to know God. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It\u2019s redemptive. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>It is redemptive; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And in your story, Beulah is the 80-year-old mother of Judge Z. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Correct. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>She\u2019s kind of the Job\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014who kind of comes and brings wisdom to the judge \/ to bring perspective to him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Exactly. The book kind of ends with the judge living in Beulah Land, if you want to call it that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>But let me go back to irretrievably broken\u2014because how does that fit into the story?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>It fits in because the other thing I\u2019ve been hoping to teach people are those two words. In all 50 states in America, we\u2019ve had no-fault divorce for about 40 years now. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe only questions that have to be answered in a divorce case are\u2014there are two questions\u2014one: \u201cIs your marriage irretrievably broken?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cYes.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You ask that of the husband and of the wife. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Correct\u2014they both need to say that. Actually, the way it has worked out is\u2014only one of them needs to say that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Really?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Yes; yes. The way that it works in reality is\u2014that the second party, who may not believe that, really has virtually no standing to even contest that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, I\u2019m changing the way that I do my divorces in <em>this<\/em> year\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; I want you to share a little bit about that, because I thought this was shrewd. I told Bob\u2014I said, \u201cWe\u2019re getting ready to interview a fox on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u201d\u00a0 [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>I\u2019m slowing down the process. But the second question is: \u201cIs there any reasonable prospect of reconciliation?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cNo.\u201d\u00a0 There is a hearing that lasts about five seconds\u2014they say, \u201cYes,\u201d \/ they say, \u201cNo.\u201d\u00a0 I\u2019ve started slowing the process down; because I, now, at least, say, \u201cWhy?\u201d\u2014I say, \u201cTell me why.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI have a special hearing in all of my divorce cases involving children\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014only with children. In that special irretrievably-broken hearing\u2014I call it an IBH\u2014I ask those two questions. I then say, \u201cWhy?\u201d\u00a0 I have a little form that both parties have filled out that tells me: \u201cAre they sure about this?\u201d and \u201cWould they be open to some kind of a process that would open the possibility of reconciliation?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe little speech I give everybody at these hearings, I\u2019ve discovered, is <em>very<\/em> effective. I tell everybody: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDivorce, the way it is normally done, is like an Autobahn in Germany, which is a high-speed situation, with no speed limits and no off ramps. All I\u2019m doing with your divorce is taking it through the neighborhood. In the neighborhood, there are a couple of speed bumps. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the speed bumps is this hearing we\u2019re having right here. I know you didn\u2019t expect to have to have this hearing; but we\u2019re having a special little 15-minute hearing, just to make sure that you know what you\u2019re doing. I\u2019m doing this because you have three children. It\u2019s just a speed bump to make sure you know what you\u2019re doing.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And is the second speed bump the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaway that FamilyLife has?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>It will be in the future. [Laughter]\u00a0 Why not?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>The reason it\u2019s not right now is you haven\u2019t been in 20 years. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>That\u2019s right. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And you are in trouble, even before we came in the studio!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>If I could get somebody to comp my weekend, we might pull that off. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It\u2019s done, Judge. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Okay; there you go!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Bob is going to do that. [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>I tell everybody: \u201cI\u2019m taking you through the neighborhood, and there\u2019s a speed bump. There\u2019s also a sign in the neighborhood that says, \u2018Beware! Children at Play.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 When I say, \u201cBeware! Children at Play,\u201d almost every time, somebody cries. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I\u2019ve decided that one reason we\u2019ve sped up divorce in America is that we don\u2019t like tears \/ we don\u2019t like people crying. You remember: \u201cThere ain\u2019t no cryin\u2019 in baseball,\u201d\u2014I remember that line from a movie. \u201cWell, there\u2019s no crying in family court,\u201d\u2014judges don\u2019t like it, lawyers don\u2019t like it, moms and dads don\u2019t like it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cKeep the blinders on and just keep moving.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>\u201cKeep the blinders on.\u201d\u00a0 It\u2019s almost like when you\u2019re getting married. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s like: \u201cOkay; I\u2019m having some doubts here, but the invitations have been sent out. The dresses have been purchased. We\u2019ve got to just keep moving.\u201d\u00a0 And the divorces turn out to be the same way. I\u2019m trying to slow down the divorce process. I don\u2019t know that I\u2019m going to save any marriages; but it\u2019s the old star fish thing; you know?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Have you seen anybody in this process pull back, and reconsider, and go\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Really?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Yes; absolutely. People are slowing down, thinking\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You ask them, \u201cWhy?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>It\u2019s usually the same\u2014it\u2019s what I call all the soft reasons for divorce. You know, in the old days, historically, you had to have some really <em>hard<\/em> reasons for divorce\u2014\u00a0 <br><br><strong>Bob: <\/strong>Evidence of adultery. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>\u2014adultery, abuse, serious issues. I don\u2019t even have these hearings, in fact, if there are allegations of domestic violence\u2014you just can\u2019t do that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>I\u2019m only doing this in what I call the routine, every day divorce. But the typical answer are things like: \u201cWe\u2019ve grown apart.\u201d\u00a0 My favorite one is\u2014these people will say\u2014and it\u2019s funny to me a little bit, because I\u2019ve been doing this for so long\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014but they\u2019ll just say, \u201cWe have differences.\u201d\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI go: \u201cWell, look,\u201d\u2014I have my 93-year-old mentor \/ Dr. Dennis Kinlaw is my mentor. He\u2019s written a lot on this whole subject of family. His best definition\u2014he is a theologian that reads his Bible in Hebrew every day\u2014his best definition of marriage is that it\u2019s a union of differences. I love to talk to people that way\u2014I\u2019ll say: \u201cWell, hey, pal, I know you have differences. That\u2019s why you got married in the first place. My friend says that marriage is a union of differences. So, if your only problem is you are different than your wife, you probably need a little better of an answer than that.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tUsually, when I say that, they come up with a better answer; you know?\u00a0 It\u2019s like: \u201cWell, okay; Judge, now, that you mention it\u2026\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>You get into some details, at some point; but there are many people that have just let their marriage fall apart over nothing. Those are the saddest cases. I have often said: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cIt\u2019s not the case of abuse and horrible stuff that make me the saddest in divorce court \/ in family court . The cases that make me personally the saddest are the ones where there\u2019s really, truthfully no reason for it. They\u2019ve just given up for no reason at all.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I want to go back to Bob\u2019s question about what it means to be irretrievably broken. You tell the story of a Chinese couple, who came into your back room\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014to have this conversation with you. Unpack that story, because that really explains kind of where this book came from in many regards. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Yes; I told the story in the book, as a Chinese couple; but it was actually a story that has happened many times with many different kinds of couples. I say to the husband\u2014and I\u2019ll say to the husband in this case: \u201cIs your marriage irretrievably broken?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cYes.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cIs there any reasonable prospect of reconciliation?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cNo.\u201d\u00a0 And you turn to the other side; and you say, \u201cDo you agree?\u201d\u00a0 And this case, I turn to the wife. She was silent\u2014she looked across the table at her husband. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe got a Kleenex<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> out and dabbed some tears away from her eyes. Then, she literally turned to the judge\u2014and this is a true story\u2014she turned to the judge, which was me \/ I had been a judge for almost ten years. She says: \u201cIrretrievably broken?\u00a0 What does that mean?\u201d\u00a0 And the judge, who\u2019d been judge for ten years\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>As in <em>you<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>\u2014the stupid judge had no answer!\u00a0 He goes, \u201cI don\u2019t really have any idea what the means.\u201d\u00a0 So, I finally thought through this a little bit more. I tell everybody at these IBHs\u2014I say, \u201cI have to decide that your marriage is irretrievably broken.\u201d\u00a0 And I say: \u201cThose are three really strong words: Marriage\u2014this is not just a little get together. I agree that it\u2019s probably broken, because you\u2019re sitting here; but the marriage has to be <em>irretrievably<\/em> broken. That\u2019s a strong word, and it\u2019s a word in the statutes in all 50 states.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI call the irretrievably word\u2014the example of that is: I play golf. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf I hit my ball in the woods and lose it, it\u2019s probably going to be found by somebody \/ it\u2019s not irretrievably lost. But if I\u2019m playing at Pebble Beach and I hook it into the ocean\u2014the Pacific Ocean\u2014it\u2019s probably irretrievably lost. I get that. [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOr if I have a glass and I drop it, and it smashes into smithereens, it\u2019s <em>irretrievably<\/em> broken. But if I trip and fall down some steps and break my leg, my orthopedist tells me that, when it grows back, it will be stronger than ever. It\u2019s broken, but it\u2019s not <em>irretrievably<\/em> broken. A lot of marriages are broken, but they\u2019re not irretrievably broken\u2014they\u2019ve never even tried a counselor. They just don\u2019t know what they don\u2019t know. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think my job, as a judge, is to take those words <em>seriously<\/em>. For 12 years, I did not take them seriously. <em>Very<\/em> few judges in America take those words seriously: \u201cA marriage has to be irretrievably broken.\u201d I think, especially when there are children involved\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014and you know the social science about how much better children do in a married home, with mom and dad, both, being there\u2014it\u2019s our obligation to, at least, slow the process down so that both parties have time to think through what they are doing. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I\u2019m guessing there are a lot of divorce attorneys in Kentucky, who are saying, \u201cStay out of Judge Philpot\u2019s court if you can.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>I think that\u2019s true. Nobody said anything to my face; but, yes, the rumors are that some people are upset about it. But a lot of people are very happy about it too. This book has been a greater joy for me than I ever dreamed, because I get texts and emails <em>every<\/em> day from somebody saying: \u201cWow! I learned something here that\u2019s going to save my marriage,\u201d or \u201cIt has changed my life.\u201d\u00a0 I\u2019m getting a lot of that, which has been\u2014that helps me overcome the criticism. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You know, I just think of what you just illustrated around being irretrievably broken and why that\u2014well, we haven\u2019t bothered to look up the definition of what that means\u2014why you, as a judge, didn\u2019t for ten years. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>A part of it is we have not visited the head waters of how a marriage starts, which is a covenant. In the Bible, it was a sacred covenant between three, not between two. It was a man, and a woman, and their God making a pledge and a promise to go a lifetime together\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Yes; exactly. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014and not quit. Now, marriage is <em>hard<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>It is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I\u2019ve been married 44 years now, and I\u2019m going to promise you something\u2014there have been moments when it was <em>really<\/em>, really hard. I would like to have been somewhere else; you know?\u00a0 [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Exactly; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>But it\u2019s the promise that has kept us together. Somebody may say, \u201cWell, that\u2019s kind of shallow.\u201d\u00a0 And I go, \u201cNo; it isn\u2019t.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>No; not at all. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Commitment and covenant-keeping love is not shallow. Comment on that, if you would. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Yes; I will. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt points up that civil marriage\u2014and what we do here in terms of the legal part of it\u2014it\u2019s a covenant, if you want to call it that, between man and woman or, now, two men and two women. By the way, there is no reason it won\u2019t go to three men and three women. There are already thruples being married\u2014if you\u2019re not aware of that. There is no logical reason for it not to go to that. If you can go to same-sex marriage, you can <em>easily<\/em> go to three people being in a marriage. But for right now, it\u2019s two people and the government\u2014the third party is the government. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn the marriage that we\u2019re talking about, it\u2019s a covenant between a man, a woman, and God. So, essentially, the government has replaced God in a lot of the marriages. The covenant concept is best understood, by me, in a word that I learned in researching this book. It\u2019s a Hebrew word\u2014it came from my friend, Dr. Kinlaw, and Dr. Oswalt\u2014who are Hebrew professors. It\u2019s the word, <em>hesed<\/em>\u2014H-E-S-E-D. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s really the best word for the love of God that\u2019s found in the Old Testament. It\u2019s such a great word that we can\u2019t even really define it in English. It just means it\u2019s a love that never goes away. It\u2019s a steadfast love\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>A steadfast love that endures forever. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>\u2014that endures forever. It doesn\u2019t matter what he\u2019s done \/ it doesn\u2019t matter what she\u2019s done: \u201cI\u2019m going to love this person forever and ever and ever,\u201d and it is never going away. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat word has become very precious to me, and it basically means covenant. I know, in Arkansas, you have covenant marriage, I think. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>We do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>I remember you and Governor Huckabee did something about that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>We travelled around the state, just promoting marriage\u2014but, specifically, \u201cup your game\u201d from just a regular marriage to the high-octane covenant marriage\u2014that means it\u2019s a whole lot more difficult to get out of. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>That\u2019s right; that\u2019s exactly right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And what I\u2019d say to the listeners right now, as you\u2019ve listened to the judge\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014maybe, there are some listeners who need to pull off the freeway \/ they need to go through a neighborhood, hit a speed bump, and look at the sign that says, \u201cChildren at Play\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Amen. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014who are innocent. They aren\u2019t the cause of the divorce, but they are going to think they are. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Just slow down, pull off into a cul-de-sac, and call a time-out. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Maybe, get this book and take a look at real life and where it all ends up in family court; but also, pull out <em>the<\/em> Book\u2014the best-seller of all time\u2014he Bible. Then, find a way to get your marriage to the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Amen. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014or get a friend\u2019s marriage to the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>. I\u2019m telling you\u2014there are too many marriages\u2014and that\u2019s what you\u2019re really illustrating in the book\u2014there are too many of them that are ending too quickly \/ too impulsively. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThey\u2019re <em>not<\/em> attempting to really find out what\u2019s behind those two words: irretrievably broken. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Amen. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, if a judge asks you, \u201cIs your marriage irretrievably broken?\u201d you better be able to say, \u201cYou know, we\u2019ve done everything we know how to do.\u201d\u00a0 And if you haven\u2019t been to a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>, you haven\u2019t done everything you know how to do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>Amen. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; and if you come, and it doesn\u2019t help, and you want your registration fee back, we\u2019ll give you that registration fee back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>There you go\u2014I love it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, there\u2019s no financial risk, in terms of the registration fee, at that point. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim: <\/strong>One of the things I say to people is: \u201cYou want to be able to say to your children, when they are 25 years old, \u2018Honey, we did everything we could to save the marriage.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 Most people have not\u2014it\u2019s just that simple. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I\u2019m going to be spending this weekend in Philadelphia, speaking at a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> getaway to hundreds of couples. I know we\u2019ve got about a dozen getaways happening <em>this<\/em> weekend. If listeners would like to join us in Philadelphia or in any of a number of locations around the country this weekend, this is a great weekend to get away and invest in your marriage relationship. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGo to FamilyLifeToday.com for more information about where the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> is being held this weekend. And if you\u2019re in the Philadelphia area, I hope you\u2019ll come out and join us\u2014love to spend to the weekend with you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, our website is FamilyLifeToday.com. There\u2019s information about Tim Philpot\u2019s book, <em>Irretrievably Broken<\/em>, on our website. You can order copies of the book from us online; or you can call if you have any questions about the getaway, or if you want to call to order a copy of <em>Judge Z: Irretrievably Broken<\/em> by Tim Philpot. Our toll-free number is 1-800-FL-TODAY. Again, you can order online at FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have some friends, who have been to a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> getaway, who are celebrating their 32<sup>nd<\/sup> anniversary today. Jan and Randy Rock live in Edwardsville, Illinois\u2014just across the river from St. Louis. It was 1984 when they first became husband and wife. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe wanted to say, \u201cHappy anniversary!\u201d to the Rocks as they celebrate today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOur goal, here at FamilyLife, is to help more couples celebrate more anniversaries, year-in and year-out. We want to effectively develop godly marriages and families. Godly marriages and families change the world, one home at a time. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we appreciate those of you who partner with us so that, together, we can help strengthen marriages and families. Just know that every donation we receive here, at FamilyLife, is being plowed into ministry to marriages and families all around the world. We are grateful for your partnership with us in this endeavor. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you can make a donation today, we\u2019d love to say, \u201cThank you,\u201d by sending you a resource that we have put together so that parents and grandparents can help their children\u2014particularly their younger children\u2014understand more about who Jesus is during the Christmas season. 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