{"id":304192,"date":"2016-10-04T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2016-10-04T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/why-are-you-single\/"},"modified":"2016-10-04T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2016-10-04T15:00:00","slug":"why-are-you-single","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/why-are-you-single\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Are You Single?"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Lisa Anderson talks candidly about the reasons some singles find themselves spouse-less.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2016-10-04.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"26.68M","filesize_raw":"27980750","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2867,2848],"tags":[6084,4018,4520,2926],"podcast_series":[7244],"cwp_profile":[3155],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-304192","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-church-involvement","category-cultural-issues","tag-cultural-landscape","tag-dating","tag-finding-community","tag-singles","podcast_series-the-dating-manifesto","cwp_profile-lisa-anderson","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/304192\/why-are-you-single","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/304192\/why-are-you-single","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"1WFQzrP6TF\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/why-are-you-single\/\">Why Are You Single?<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/why-are-you-single\/embed\/#?secret=1WFQzrP6TF\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Why Are You Single?&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"1WFQzrP6TF\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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She met my dad in college, stalked him at a few basketball games, went to a senior banquet, and got married. She is like: \u201cLisa, why are you doing personality tests on these guys?\u00a0 Why are you, like, stalking them online?\u201d\u00a0 It was so much simpler then, and I think some of that needs to come back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday, October 4<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. There are some right ways and some wrong ways to live as a single or to pursue one another as possible marriage partners. We\u2019ll spend time talking about that today with Lisa Anderson. Stay tuned. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. I want to ask our guest the first question today\u2014can I do that? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I mean\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Let me just introduce her. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Introduce her and do all of that, but I\u2019ve got a hardball\/fastball question I want to ask. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, I was going to ask her my favorite question, but I\u2019m kind of curious\u2014you\u2019ve never pounded the table quite like that. Lisa needs to put on her bulletproof vest. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLisa Anderson joins us from Focus on the Family<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. She is the author of a new book called <em>The Dating Manifesto: A Drama-Free Plan for Pursuing Marriage with Purpose<\/em>. She gives leadership to the young adult ministry at Focus; also, hosts a radio and podcast called <em>The Boundless Show<\/em>. So, fire away, Bob. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Alright; so, I think you can handle this\u2014by the way, welcome back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Oh, she can handle it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Thank you\u2014great to be back. Well, I\u2019ll see if it\u2019s great to be back after your question. [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Okay; here\u2019s the question\u2014you have celebrated your 30<sup>th<\/sup> birthday; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Correct. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That was a couple years back since you did that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>It was; yes. <br><br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Bob\/ Bob\u2014be careful, Bob. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Be kind \/ be kind. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And you\u2019re single and never married?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Correct. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And you\u2019ve had a desire to be married?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Correct. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Whose fault is it that you are not married?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa:<\/strong> [Laughter] It\u2019s a few people\u2019s fault\u2014I like to say. In fact, I\u2019m going to spread the blame here. I only half-jokingly tell people that I blame my 20s on myself, I blame my 30s on men, and now, I just crossed the 40 mark\u2014so, I\u2019m going to start blaming God. That\u2019s my story that I\u2019m sticking to. [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, it\u2019s funny; because I did not think about singleness until I turned 30. That was because I was like, \u201cThe last thing I\u2019m ever going to have to grapple with is singleness in my 30s,\u201d\u2014I <em>assumed<\/em> that I would be married in my 20s. I even went and paid for a Christian university education that basically netted me nothing in the marriage department\u2014\u201cThank you, Trinity International University!\u201d [Laughter]\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014assuming that I would\u2014Trinity has a <em>seminary<\/em> attached to it\u2014you would think I would find someone!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Oh!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014if you\u2019ve got undergrad and graduate. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>No; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>A whole building full of guys!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>There is a cornucopia of opportunities there, and that did not work out for me. So, I think \/ I say to myself\u2014it\u2019s interesting because I think of my 20s and I realize\u2014and that\u2019s what a lot of this book is about\u2014addressing the missteps that I made and saying to myself, \u201cOkay, there are a lot of things that I could have done differently in my 20s.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, by the time I moved into my 30s, you are very much\u2014not to make this seem too formulaic\u2014but you are dealing with a numbers game at that point because people have gotten married \/ people have dropped off the radar. You know, as a\u2014I remember hearing the illustration one time about the subway keeps coming. Gradually, fewer and fewer people get off the train\u2014and those are the people that you can have a conversation with\u2014so, it becomes a numbers game. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs you move into your 30s and beyond, you start seeing, as well, people who are afraid of marriage, people who have not gotten married for a certain reason, people are now married and divorced and wanting to remarry, people who have accumulated a <em>significant<\/em> amount of baggage in relationships and stuff, and people who quite frankly are just\u2014as I like to say\u2014single for a reason and not just a season. [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes?\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>There are\u2014now, I\u2019m not going to name any names, maybe; but you know, maybe, off the air. [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, we\u2019ll post a list on our website. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>It\u2019s tricky. Yes; exactly. We\u2019ll make that an added feature. [Laughter] But no; it\u2019s just true. But what I\u2019ve had to realize\u2014and did kind of, as working through this and prior to writing the book, is that I have to look back and realize\u2014that in the midst of all the craziness, my own mistakes, others mistakes, the culture\u2014I mean, I grew up in a generation birthed out of Roe v. Wade. We don\u2019t even know how many people in my generation were <em>aborted<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>\u2014and are no longer obviously potential marriage matches. We have a small generation as a result. So, when you\u2019ve walked through singleness for a couple decades and you desire marriage, it is an exhausting place to be in. You feel like you\u2019re talking to a God who is not listening to you \/ who doesn\u2019t care. You can get very frustrated. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, I\u2019ve had women, especially, ask me: \u201cLisa, am I making marriage an idol?\u00a0 Am I praying too much for it?\u00a0 Why am I still praying?\u2014because\u00a0 God knows I want to be married. So, why don\u2019t I just stop praying for a while?\u201d\u00a0 I would never say stop praying; but I think sometimes, maybe, you need to turn your attention or ask God to grow you in another area or ask Him to just bring some joy into your heart for something else\u2014for an area of ministry\u2014because you can feel like, all of a sudden, it becomes work\u2014like: \u201cI\u2019m working at this. I\u2019m trying. I\u2019m doing. Why isn\u2019t God <em>delivering<\/em> in return for my faithful service?\u201d or \u201c\u2026for my purity?\u201d or \u201c\u2026for my\u2026?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSometimes, we need to take a break. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAt the same time, I would never encourage a single person to give up entirely because, first of all, we don\u2019t know what God\u2019s doing behind the scenes. We don\u2019t know what His story is. We can totally rest. I mean, my one great comfort is that I serve a God who is both completely sovereign and completely good. It doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s all tied up with a bow. I think we are living in a culture where there is tons of brokenness. I think we have a lot of people in protracted singleness because of the fact that we have great cultural sin that\u2019s birthed out\u2014there are a number of different factors that have played into that. But at the same time, God still can work in our own stories in a way that glorifies Him in the end. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>We are talking with Lisa Anderson. She has written a book called <em>The Dating Manifesto<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd I\u2019m just sitting here, thinking, as we\u2019re talking to you, Lisa\u2014that it was 20 years ago that we had a 19-year-old Joshua Harris sitting where you are sitting, talking about the book that he\u2019d just written called <em>I Kissed Dating Goodbye<\/em>, which you probably were reading about the time that it came out. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGiven that book and the impact that it had on Christian thinking about dating 20 years ago, and for the last couple of decades, what do you like about what he was saying and advocating and what would you take exception to at this point?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Yes. It\u2019s funny, because our audience\u2014they\u2019ll mention <em>I Kissed Dating Goodbye<\/em> as something that either\u2014that book impacted a generation of Christian singles for a number of reasons. Let me tell you what they are. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne thing that I think Joshua Harris did super well in that\u2014that hadn\u2019t been done before\u2014was to raise the idea of dating biblically and intentionally. Now, he called it courtship basically, and that was the model. It was kind of mind-blowing for some folks, but this idea that dating has an actual purpose. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s not just pizza nights, and hanging out randomly, and using people for their time, their companionship, or more; but it, actually, is a precursor to marriage. It has a very honorable and process-oriented direction in how you approach it. I think that\u2019s something that he kind of brought to the forefront and was like: \u201cWhoa!\u00a0 Okay, so, if I\u2019m going to date someone, I actually need to be thinking about marriage. I need to be thinking that this is serious, that this is a life in my hands \/ that this has implications.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I think was problematic with it\u2014and what I hear from our audience, especially the men\u2014is it put an unrest in people\u2019s souls of, \u201cI\u2019m afraid to pursue anything with this person if I\u2019m not moderately or more-so confident that I could marry this person.\u201d\u00a0 It took away that kind of carefree nature of dating which is\u2014it kind of sounds like I\u2019m talking about polar opposites here\u2014I am.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s kind of a little crazy-making, but\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You\u2019re just describing a guy feeling like he has to be all-in from the beginning. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Exactly. And so, with a generation of men who didn\u2019t know how to relate to women, basically, on any level, all of a sudden, they are supposed to be basically betrothed to them or\u2014you know\u2014be\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; before you go to Starbucks<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, you better have a ring. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>\u2014be ready to commit to them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And before they learn how to relate to a young lady. I tried to marry a young lady before I dated Barbara, and I learned a <em>ton<\/em> through her rejection. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Yes; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You with me?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Yes. It really\u2014it paralyzed a bunch of people to think that: \u201cWhat if I haven\u2019t made the right choice?\u00a0 What if I\u2019m going to start moving in seriously with this person \/ committing to them, but I don\u2019t really know what I\u2019m doing. I read this book\u2014so, I should know what I\u2019m doing.\u201d\u00a0 As a result, we have a generation of guys that kind of sat on their hands, because they were afraid to take action. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, describe dating <em>death<\/em>. You have a good section of your book that deals with this. Where is it coming from?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIs it people being afraid of commitment?\u00a0 <br><br><strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Yes; it is in many ways. It\u2019s basically\u2014it can come down to a few different things. It\u2019s over-thinking the dating process in one way. It\u2019s putting too many parameters on the dating process\u2014either based on what you feel it should look like because, again, we have taken a lot of stuff from Hollywood \/ we\u2019ve taken a lot of stuff from our own family\u2019s story\u2014and what we think is right and wrong about that. It\u2019s kind of that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI kind of begin the illustration by talking about jumping out of a plane and pulling the rip cord. Eventually, you have to do something\u2014you have to take that first step. I think so often\u2014we were just talking about Joshua Harris\u2014it was this bunch of guys that amassed a bunch of books, would sit around in small groups, talk about all these things\u2014you know: \u201cWhat does this look like?\u00a0 What if I do this?\u00a0 What if I\u2026\u201d\u2014and then, no one is asking anyone out. We\u2019re not <em>applying<\/em> any of the principles that we claim we have or that we\u2019ve learned. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think it always comes down to \/ you have to, then, take that next step. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou have to trust God. You have to move forward. Otherwise, you are going to be involved in a massive stall-out that really is\u2014you\u2019re going to be dead on arrival. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Okay; so, I started out kind of throwing you a fastball. I\u2019m going to throw you another one. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Okay. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob: <\/strong>When was the last time a guy asked you out?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Let\u2019s see\u2014probably\u2014hmm\u2014if you count\u2014are we counting an online ask-out?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Sure. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Because I get\u2014okay\u2014then, I would say a couple of months ago. So, this is a little tricky; because now, I\u2019m in a position where I host a show for singles. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>So, I get some of these awkward\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I bet you do\u2014yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>\u2014like: \u201cHey.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cHey; I just sense a connection just listening to you on the radio tonight.\u201d\u00a0 <br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>\u201cI sense a connection, but I\u2019m in the Netherlands,\u201d\u2014so there are those. [Laughter]\u00a0 And then, are the guys\u2014and this is to our <em>previous<\/em> point, when we were talking about ages, and risks, and stuff like that. I get asked out by, like, college-aged guys, which I think\u2014I should feel good about myself about that; right?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I think you should. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Okay; well, I do. [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Okay. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>But it\u2019s, again, they are just kind of like, \u201cHey! Well, I\u2019ll ask Lisa out,\u201d\u2014whatever. But no; I will do\u2014I mean, I have done that. I would much prefer to meet guys, whether through work or through my church or whatever, but I\u2019ve done, definitely, the coffee date, where it has been someone like, \u201cI\u2019m travelling on business, and I\u2019m in town.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Okay. Have you kind of cleared out all the single men in Colorado Springs; and now, they have to be travelling through for coffee?\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Well, let\u2019s just say that I dated a guy in Colorado Springs, who eventually became a clown. [Laughter] I feel like I can move on. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Here\u2019s what I was going for on this question. If a guy comes up to you and says, \u201cHey, you want to get coffee?\u201d and you\u2019re thinking to yourself: \u201cI don\u2019t know if I do. Honestly, I don\u2019t know you that well. You look okay, but you\u2019re not Robert Redford\u201d\u2014I guess \/ who would it be?\u2014Brad Pitt \/ well, we don\u2019t want to go there\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014\u201cYou\u2019re not a 10.\u201d\u00a0 [Laughter] How do you decide what to say in that moment, when the guy says, \u201cYou want to get coffee?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Yes. I would say there are still sometimes where I\u2019m kind of like so taken aback; and I\u2019m usually not at a loss for words, as you can well believe. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>We\u2019ve noticed; yes. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>I would say, in my best moment, I would probably say, \u201cYes.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf I\u2014now\u2014and I would say it\u2019s probably less common just for the random person that I don\u2019t know too well to ask me out. Where it gets trickier is when it is someone that has been in, say, my community at church or something like that. They are someone that I <em>know<\/em>\u2014based on experience\u2014that I wouldn\u2019t be interested in, or I\u2019ve just observed them, or whatever. But then, I kind of feel\u2014it\u2019s weird; because then\u2014I\u2019m here talking about dating and how we should all be open\u2014so, I\u2019m like, \u201cOkay.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, when you turn a guy down, how do you do that?\u00a0 And why do you do that?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Yes. So, I would say, \u201cWomen, be careful about turning a guy down.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFirst of all\u2014and I tell women this\u2014I say: \u201cYou don\u2019t have to go out with any guy that you are <em>clearly<\/em> uncomfortable around; that you are <em>flat-out<\/em> unattracted to; that you have issues with based on his reputation, or his character, or whatever. But I would always err on the side of giving guys a chance. There is\u2014it is just coffee \/ it is just lunch. There is nothing wrong with this. No one is signing their name with someone else. No one is picking out China\u2014or you <em>shouldn\u2019t<\/em> be,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s a problem, because ladies are doing that too much\u2014\u201cSo, keep it casual. And if anything, you could get a good acquaintance out of it \/ a good friendship.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think that\u2019s where we all need to just simmer down and be normal about this. It\u2019s where my mom, you know, again\u2014bring my mom into the picture\u2014my mom got married in the \u201850s. She met my dad in college, stalked him at few basketball games, went to his senior banquet, and got married.\u201d\u00a0 She is like, \u201cLisa, why is this like a full-on algorithm?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cThis is not that hard!\u201d\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Exactly! \u201cI mean, why are you doing personality tests on these guys?\u00a0 Why are you, like, stalking them online?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd it\u2019s just\u2014it was so much simpler then, and I think some of that needs to come back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, we should be able to just go out for coffee. That said\u2014I think, if you\u2019re going to turn a guy down, you should just say: \u201cThank you so much. I\u2019m just not interested.\u201d\u00a0 It could be\u2014you could give the guy a specific reason or whatever; but just be kind \/ but be <em>direct<\/em>. Don\u2019t beat around the bush. Don\u2019t say: \u201cI would rather just be friends,\u201d \u201cI would rather\u2026\u201d\u2014guys like to be told straight up. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And what you\u2019re talking about here is how risky it is for a guy to ask a woman out. I recently spoke at Liberty University to the first-ever, all-male convocation at the school. I told those guys\u2014I said, \u201cIf you want something that isn\u2019t risky, play a video game.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u201cBut if you want something <em>dangerous<\/em>, develop a relationship with a woman\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014\u201cand <em>risk<\/em> the relationship.\u201d\u00a0 It seems like one of the ways guys mitigate against the risk is by\u2014what we used to call, when I was a single guy\u2014which is: \u201cShe\u2019s just my sister.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cShe\u2019s my sister-in-Christ \/ my friend; and we\u2019re just hanging out together. We\u2019re just being organic together\u201d; you know?\u00a0 [Laughter] You know what I\u2019m talking about!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Why is everyone trying to be organic?\u00a0 That just drives me nuts!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; exactly. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Yes; I mean, it\u2019s so true\u2014or they do what I call the junior high reconnaissance\u2014and that\u2019s like: \u201cI\u2019m going to ask my friend to ask his friend to ask his friend if he\u2019ll ask her if, maybe, she likes me.\u201d\u00a0 That\u2019s like when you pass notes in junior high, and you figure\u2014it\u2019s ridiculous!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI mean, go and do\u2014<em>both<\/em> men and women\u2014you are going to be rejected. Guys, you\u2019re going to be rejected; because you\u2019re going to ask, and you\u2019re going to be turned down. Women, you will not be asked. We need to realize that is true; and everyone, it is their prerogative. No one is obligated to ask people out. No one is obligated to say, \u201cYes.\u201d Just understand that from the get-go, and you\u2019ll probably be starting off in a better position. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And you\u2019ve seen the TV commercial, where the couple is ending the date. The woman says something about \u201cTalk to you tomorrow?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe pauses; and he says, \u201cI\u2019m going to send you a vague text in the next couple of days.\u201d\u00a0 She says, \u201cOh, so, we\u2019re never going to see each other again.\u201d\u00a0 He goes, \u201cYes, probably.\u201d\u00a0 And they leave. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you\u2019ve had that first coffee\u2014or, maybe, even the second date\u2014and you go, \u201cNo; this just isn\u2019t working,\u201d\u2014whether it\u2019s the guy or the girl\u2014how do you say that without crushing somebody?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Yes. I actually, in the book, write out a sentence for women to say to men because women are <em>so terrible<\/em> at this. Ladies, you\u2019re <em>terrible<\/em>\u2014[Laughter]\u2014I\u2019m just going to tell you right now!\u00a0 We are terrible because we are always trying to preserve a guy\u2019s feelings. We\u2019re always trying to make it seem like we\u2019re not the bad guy. We\u2019re always\u2014it will hurt; okay?\u00a0 That\u2019s just a fact. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou need to just flat out say: \u201cYou know what?\u00a0 I just thank you for giving me your time. I\u2019m so honored that you asked me out. I don\u2019t see this going anywhere, but I just really appreciate the time that you invested in me and the time we had to get to know one another.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, if there is room for\u2014if you are going to be in this person\u2019s sphere\u2014for example, they are in your Sunday school at church \/ they are\u2014make sure you\u2019re not burning bridges. Just be like, \u201cHonestly, I\u2019m looking forward to seeing you in class on Sunday,\u201d or whatever. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe should be able to date in a way where no one has to leave churches or small groups as a result of a break-up. This is where it has become\u2014we\u2019ve moved into relationships where ending them becomes like a divorce\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>\u2014because we have become so\u2014whether it\u2019s emotionally- or sexually-invested or we are now just embroiled in their personal lives. That is\u2014the place for that is marriage\u2014it is not in the dating process. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe need to realize that this is an exploratory thing, where either person can get out and just allow it to be that. That\u2019s why I\u2019m a big fan of bringing other mentors and counselors into the process as well. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Are you thinking of people \/ singles you know, who you want to give this book to?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I am!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I\u2019ve got a list of them! [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And I\u2019m thinking, for singles\u2014this would make a great Bible study discussion group just to get together and hammer on it a bit and talk about it, as men and women together,\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014or as a group of guys or as a group of women. I don\u2019t think it really matters. They just need to be interacting and being honest about how they relate to what she\u2019s talked about. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, I\u2019m going to switch subjects on you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Okay. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And I\u2019ve thought about this three times in the interview. Bob\u2019s fired you two zingers. I\u2019m going to kind of set a volleyball up over the net\u2014about a foot above it\u2014and allow you to spike it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Okay. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, you\u2019ve talked about your mom\u2014how she, now, is in some of the early to mid stages of Alzheimer\u2019s. She\u2019s been a sweet lady in your life. One of my favorite things to do, here on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, is to ask the guest to seat their mother across the table and to give her a verbal tribute\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014just to honor her for the powerful impact she\u2019s had in your life. Can you do that?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You take a minute and think about what you want to say. In the meantime, I\u2019ll let our listeners know how they can get your book, <em>The Dating Manifesto<\/em>, which is a book that I\u2019m going to be sharing with a number of my single friends. I think you\u2019ve done a great job with this book. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can go online at FamilyLifeToday.com to request a copy. Order it from us, again, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call to order at 1-800-FL-TODAY\u20141-800-358-6329. That\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\u00a0 By the way, we\u2019ve got a link on our website at FamilyLifeToday.com to Lisa\u2019s website. So, if you\u2019d like to follow her blog and see what she\u2019s writing and talking about these days, just go to FamilyLifeToday.com and look for the link. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAlso, Dennis, let me say a quick, \u201cHappy anniversary!\u201d today to Everett and Kathy Nelson from Stafford, Virginia. The Nelsons are celebrating 41 years of marriage <em>today<\/em>. They listen to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> on WAVA in Washington, DC. And they\u2019re also supporters of this ministry. We appreciate those of you who partner with us to make <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> possible\u2014folks like the Nelsons. Thank you for standing with us and for your support. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, let me just say to those of you, who are regular listeners\u2014but who have never made a donation: \u201cWe\u2019d love to have you join the team.\u201d\u00a0 If you can make a donation today, we would like to send you, as a thank-you gift, a resource that Barbara Rainey has recently created. It\u2019s a banner that you can hang in your home that declares that your home is an embassy of the kingdom of heaven. That\u2019s our gift to you when you make a donation at FamilyLifeToday.com or when you call 1-800-FL-TODAY to make a donation; or you can mail your donation to us at <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> at PO box 7111, Little Rock, AR; our zip code is 72223. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAlright; time is up. Dennis\u2014\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And we\u2019ve been talking to Lisa Anderson. She\u2019s been put on the hot seat here on a number of occasions. She\u2019s probably never going to come back to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> again until all the people on the\u2014[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>She\u2019s staying out of Arkansas altogether. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014on the Front Range stop listening to the broadcast out of Arkansas. I challenged you to think about giving a tribute to your mom. The way you do it is\u2014just speak directly to her, first-person. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Lisa: <\/strong>Alright. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, Mom, I love you. You know that you called me your \u201cBonus.\u201d\u00a0 You did not expect me to be born\u2014you were not planning for me\u2014but you have told me that you are very glad that I was born, even though I was a challenging, challenging kid. I don\u2019t even think you read <em>The Strong-Willed Child<\/em> before I came along or even after. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut you\u2014as I talk about singleness and as I talk about my story\u2014and you know I\u2019ve talked to you about this\u2014you are the one who, in my life, has walked through it with me the most. You have been there through most of the seasons. You have shared my story. You\u2019ve shared my tears. You\u2019ve shared my happiness. You\u2019ve shared my successes; and you have prayed for me every day of my life in a way that has encouraged me, has strengthened me, and has challenged me. When I went through a period of rebellion in high school and beyond, you cared for me. You confronted me on a number of things, and you walked with me and stuck with me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd Mom, you have been an example of resilience. You have been hurt by people. You have been hurt even by people in the church and beyond. You always told me, as did Dad, to not judge Christ by Christians; because Jesus never fails and to know that He\u2019s the one thing that I can always trust in and believe in. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just thank you for your legacy \/ for the heritage of faith you gave me and the other kids\u2014and for what you\u2019ve done\u2014not only in the church and in ministry, as a missionary \/ as a pastor\u2019s wife, but then, moving into the corporate world and choosing to represent Christ there, and being a light in the public square, and to always encourage me to speak up for my faith and \u201c\u2026not be ashamed of the gospel because it is the power of salvation for everyone who believes\u2026[Romans 1:16].\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, Mom, I love you. Thank you so much. I\u2019m so glad you\u2019re now living with me, and we\u2019re able to walk through your final years together. I just love you so much. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong><em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas. Help for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would you consider <a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/donate\">donating today<\/a> to help defray the costs?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tCopyright <sup>\u00a9<\/sup> 2016 FamilyLife. 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