{"id":304164,"date":"2016-09-09T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2016-09-09T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/speak-solve-seek\/"},"modified":"2016-09-09T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2016-09-09T15:00:00","slug":"speak-solve-seek","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/speak-solve-seek\/","title":{"rendered":"Speak, Solve, Seek"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dave and Ann Wilson talk about how unresolved conflict builds bigger walls within a marriage, and they share the most important key for building stronger relationships.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2016-09-09.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"23.1M","filesize_raw":"24219976","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2902],"tags":[4544,4543,6069,6070],"podcast_series":[8161],"cwp_profile":[3554,3295],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-304164","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-resolving-conflict","tag-conflict-in-marriage","tag-conflict-resolution","tag-improve-your-relationship","tag-unresolved-conflict","podcast_series-successfully-managing-conflict-in-marriage","cwp_profile-ann-wilson","cwp_profile-dave-wilson","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/304164\/speak-solve-seek","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/304164\/speak-solve-seek","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"OWZGuQ70E4\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/speak-solve-seek\/\">Speak, Solve, Seek<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/speak-solve-seek\/embed\/#?secret=OWZGuQ70E4\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Speak, Solve, Seek&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"OWZGuQ70E4\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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Pastor Dave Wilson says that\u2019s not the case\u2014you\u2019ve got a great Helper.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> The King of the universe lives right here! When you surrender, He takes up residence in this temple and He says: \u201cYou want help? You want to resolve conflict? You want to get the forgiveness over years and layers of hurt? I can do that! You don\u2019t have a chance unless you surrender.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Friday, September 9<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. There is no conflict in marriage so great that two people, with knees bowed, can\u2019t get to peace. We\u2019ll explore that today. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us on the Friday edition. I know that sometimes couples can get locked up in conflict that just feels so significant that they lose hope and think, \u201cThere\u2019s no way to get to a place where we love each other again.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And it\u2019s why, Bob, at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaway, we train both pre-marrieds\u2014those who are contemplating marriage or who are already engaged\u2014and married folks in the biblical basics of communication and conflict resolution. There\u2019s not a person listening to this broadcast who doesn\u2019t need to be fully trained and equipped, because you are going to have a lot of conflict over the duration of your marriage relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We\u2019re going to provide some of that training today as we listen to Part Three of a message from Dave and Ann Wilson, speaking on how to resolve conflict in marriage. Dave is one of the pastors at Kensington Community Church in suburban Detroit. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe and Ann have spoken for more than two decades at our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways. They understand what the Bible has to say about this. I\u2019ve heard them speak about this at <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> getaways\u2014it\u2019s <em>so<\/em> helpful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It is. Dave and Ann are just a sampling of the type of speakers you\u2019re going to hear. We\u2019ve got some of the finest communicators in America. If you\u2019re looking for a fun, entertaining, romantic, and practically, one of the most biblical-equipping weekends you could ever have, as a married couple, the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> is it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This week and next week, when you register, you\u2019re able to take advantage of a special offer we\u2019re making, where you pay for yourself and your spouse comes free. You save 50 percent off the registration rate. You have to sign up this week or next week, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com. If you have any questions, call 1-800-FL-TODAY; or you can sign up over the phone if you\u2019d like. Then plan to join us at one of our upcoming getaways. I think we\u2019ve got 40 of them happening this fall?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; and we\u2019ve got some great locations: Phoenix, Arizona \/ there\u2019s a great one there; Monterey, California \/ now, there\u2019s a romantic location; Sacramento; San Diego; there are a couple in Estes Park; Del Ray Beach, down in south Florida; Destin, up in north Florida; Fort Meyers; Jacksonville; Tampa; Cedar Rapids; Coeur d\u2019Alene, Idaho--we\u2019ve got a couple there\u2014<em>that<\/em> is really a cool location; Louisville; Chesapeake Bay; St. Louis; Parsippany; Dayton, Ohio; Portland; Philadelphia; Pittsburgh; Charleston, South Carolina;\u00a0 Sioux Falls; Chattanooga; Dallas is going to be held in Las Colinas at the Omni Mandalay Hotel \/ great location; San Antonio \/ of course, the river walk is there; South Padre Island; Williamsburg. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOh, I\u2019m telling you, Bob\u2014there are some great locations. People ought to come! One last one\u2014in Bellingham, Washington\u2014come join us for a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I\u2019ll be at the conference in Philadelphia. I would love to see you if you\u2019re in that area, or if you want to travel to that area. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00 <\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSome couples do make this a real getaway, and they\u2019ll travel for half a day or a day to come and join us at one of these getaways. Find out more, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY,\u201d to experience a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAlright; here is Part Three of Dave and Ann Wilson\u2019s message on resolving conflict. They begin with a little bit of a summary of what they\u2019ve already talked about in this message.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Recorded Message]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> We said there are six: \u201cShut Up and Listen\u201d to what\u2019s really going on; \u201cSoft Answer\u201d\u2014the more mature one is saying, \u201cGod, give me the power to de-escalate right now,\u201d and He will \/ He\u2019ll meet you right there. Watch how this whole conflict changes when you respond gently. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, the third one is: \u201cSpeak Truth\u201d \/ \u201cSpeak the Truth\u201d in love. Paul wrote this letter to this church in Ephesus. The first three chapters\u2014theology \/ belief: \u201cWho\u2019s God? Who am I?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, Chapters 4, 5, 6\u2014he says: \u201cOkay; what does this mean? How do you live this out?\u201d So there is all of this practical stuff. One of the things he says is: \u201cInstead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of Him who is the Head that is Christ.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHave you <em>ever<\/em> connected your maturity in Christ to speaking the truth in love? It\u2019s like he\u2019s saying: \u201cDo you want to grow up? Speak the truth in love in your marriage \/ in your community.\u201d Also, when you hear me say, \u2018\u201dSpeak the truth,\u201d also write this down\u2014\u201c<em>Hear<\/em> the truth in love,\u201d\u2014it\u2019s both sides.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNot only am I the one who is going to speak it\u2014because some of us: \u201cMan! I love speaking the truth in love. I\u2019m wired to do that. God gifted me! I can walk up to bystanders and tell them what\u2019s wrong with their life.\u201d That\u2019s not what we\u2019re talking about. It\u2019s \u201cspeak the truth,\u201d\u2014packaged in love\u2014both sides.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And I think that\u2019s <em>so<\/em> important\u2014the packaging part\u2014because I\u2019m all about, \u201cLet me tell you what I think\u201d; but what I\u2019ve learned over years of maturing is that I need to ask\u2014take what I think to God first.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And let God package it in a way that, when I present it, it\u2019s palatable so that Dave <em>receives<\/em> it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOtherwise, it\u2019s me and my agenda. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor some of you, you are good at speaking the truth. Others of you are so loving that you avoid conflict, because that doesn\u2019t feel loving and you don\u2019t like it. For you, I would say, \u201cSpeak the truth.\u201d It\u2019s so important for our relationships for truth to be spoken; because if it\u2019s not\u2014and you keep stuffing it down\u2014what is\u2014a root of bitterness starts and resentment starts. Then, there\u2019s just this poison in your relationship, and it\u2019s hard to get out of what happens as we give in to that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I honestly believe, and we\u2019ve heard this all week, that one of the purposes of marriage, by God\u2019s design, is to sharpen one another to become like Christ. The best person to sharpen you\u2014because she knows you and you know her so well\u2014is your spouse.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe did this series at our church this last year where we\u2019re working on a book called <em>Vertical Marriage<\/em>. When you get your life, vertically, from Christ, how does it affect your marriage? So the vertical mission of marriage is to shine so the world can see Who Jesus is, sharpen one another to become like Christ, and raise up soldiers for the battle\u2014that\u2019s a whole other thing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs I listen to Ann speak the truth to me, guess what\u2019s happening? She\u2019s making me better. Now, here\u2019s my tendency\u2014get defensive. We all do that\u2014we don\u2019t want to really hear it. No; we need to get gentle and say: \u201cI <em>need <\/em>to hear this. God is going to use her to sharpen me.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSeveral years ago, she said to me on a Sunday night\u2014I had preached all weekend \/ was exhausted and crawling in bed\u2014we were just about to go to sleep. She said, \u201cHey, you know, I sort of long\u201d\u2014no; not sort of \/ you said\u2014\u201cI <em>long<\/em> for you to be, in our home, the spiritual leader you are in our church.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I don\u2019t know if I packaged that real well. I\u2019m sorry!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> She said it really gently; but when it came out, it finally hit me\u2014it was like: \u201cWait, wait, wait! She just said I\u2019m not a spiritual leader at home like I am at church.\u201d I thought I was the man\u2019s man of all men; you know? And I said: \u201cWhat!? What did you say?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe goes: \u201cWell, at church, you\u2019re like this <em>strong<\/em> leader. You lead us, as a community, and you pray like a warrior; and at home, you\u2019re just sort of passive.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was like: \u201cWow! I thought we were going to make love and go to sleep. I guess that ain\u2019t happening!\u201d [Laughter] You know? And I\u2019m not kidding\u2014I got real defensive. I was like, \u201cWhat are you talking about?! I lead here.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe was great \/ she said it very gently; but what I heard, when I finally\u2014it took me a day\u2014I woke up the next morning, and I went to God with it. I said, \u201cIs that true?\u201d And God was like: \u201cYep. You lead with <em>strength<\/em> at your church. The men see you strong \/ the congregation does. Your wife doesn\u2019t see that kind of strength in your home.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI realized, right then and there, before God: \u201cShe\u2019s right. God just used her to sharpen me.\u201d Here\u2019s how it came down: \u201cStep up!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> And you did!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It was that simple\u2014it was like: \u201cGod, I need to step up! She is right.\u201d It was like I was leaving God\u2014that was my job; you know?\u2014so I left God there, and I came home, and just wanted to relax. Guess what? I don\u2019t get that privilege, and none of you do either. You are called to <em>lead<\/em> your family. Men and women, <em>lead<\/em> with strength. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo it changed me because she spoke the truth gently. I shut up and listened\u2014soft words, spoken in truth, changed our life. I\u2019m not saying that now I\u2019m unbelievable.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> You are!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> She wants to pray every night before we go to sleep. You know what I <em>usually<\/em> did? \u201cGo ahead.\u201d [Snoring sounds] I did! It just passively: \u201cI love it that you pray! Go ahead,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s not leadership! Pray! Lead her! So, I\u2019m the guy; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> You are.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> So we\u2019re praying together. It was just amazing how that changed our life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOkay; we\u2019ve got to fly! We\u2019ve got to fly! Our clock\u2019s already done. Here we go!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe fourth one is: \u201cSolve or Go to Sleep.\u201d Here\u2019s what I mean. When you\u2019re in the middle of a conflict, if that baby can be solved today, go for it! Many of them can\u2014if you exercise these principles, they can be solved; but sometimes, you\u2019re getting there and you need a timeout. Sometimes, it\u2019s okay to sleep on it\u2014not a week!\u2014not a month! That\u2019s what a lot of couples do\u2014just drop it and never pick it up again.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> We just say 24 hours. Sometimes, you need that time to process and to cool down. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes. So, how do we solve it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Well, let me give you an example for what I did. This was years ago when our oldest was 13. We got in a fight before school \/ we argued. I got really mad \/ he was mad. I kind of took away his privileges for the week. I got in the car with him, taking him to school, and I cooled down. I said: \u201cCJ, I\u2019m really sorry. I blew up. I wasn\u2019t really mad about you. I was mad about something else. I want you to forgive me. Please forgive me.\u201d And I said, \u201cWhat are you feeling about this?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe was looking out the front window, and he said nothing. I said: \u201cNow, talk to me. Don\u2019t\u2014let\u2019s resolve this! Let\u2019s talk about it,\u201d\u2014nothing. We got to the school. I said, \u201cDon\u2019t get out of the car until we talk about this.\u201d He looked at me, opened the car door, and got out. Now, I was hot! And now I was like, \u201cWhat do I do?\u201d In line, the people were honking their horn like, \u201cGet her going!\u201d I\u2019m going home \/ I am trying to figure out: \u201cWhat should I do? What should I do?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhy is it sometimes we try to figure it out before we go to God? Why don\u2019t we go to God first, and ask Him? So I did. James 1 says, \u201cIf any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives\u201d\u2014what\u2019s the word?\u2014\u201c<em>generously<\/em>.\u201d So I am like: \u201cJesus, I need You! I don\u2019t know what I\u2019m doing! I need Your help.\u201d He gave me this picture. I went home and drew the picture of what He gave me in my mind. I put it on CJ\u2019s desk, where he studies every night.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo CJ came home, looked at his desk, and came down with this paper. He is like, \u201cMom, is this your attempt at being an artist?\u201d I said: \u201cWell, actually, that is what happened. That\u2019s me; and that\u2019s you. We had a fight this morning. I\u2019m calling our fight like a brick. The brick is in our lives now. It\u2019s in between us.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe said, \u201cMom! I\u2019m not even mad that we had a fight.\u201d I said, \u201cI\u2019m not either, but the brick is still there; because that problem \/ the fight is unresolved. So the question is: \u201cWill we get rid of the brick in our lives?\u201d He said, \u201cI don\u2019t even know what you\u2019re talking about.\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo I said, \u201cCJ, Dad and I travel around the country; and we see marriages that are broken, where people have had a fight and they don\u2019t know how to resolve it. They have another fight \/ it makes another brick; they don\u2019t resolve it. And pretty soon\u201d\u2014and I took my pencil and I drew all of these bricks until there was a wall between the couple. I said, \u201cSo many people can\u2019t even talk, or communicate, or like each other because they have so many unresolved issues\u2014it\u2019s a wall between them, and they can\u2019t even talk. I don\u2019t want that with you. I don\u2019t want you to take that into your marriage when you get married someday. I want you to know how to fight and to have a resolution to every single argument.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe goes, \u201cSo what do we do?\u201d Honestly, I kind of went through these things that we are talking about. I said, \u201cI am really sorry.\u201d He apologized, and we prayed. I took my pencil, and I erased all of the bricks. I said, \u201cI hope that you and I will always be able to talk, and I hope that we will <em>never<\/em> have bricks in our relationship; because for Dad and me\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014\u201cCJ, we <em>don\u2019t<\/em>\u2014and it takes <em>hard work <\/em>to get rid of the bricks in your life.\u201d For us \/ for our family\u2014to watch him now, as a married man, with his wife\u2014he\u2019s amazing! He\u2019s really amazing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; I tell you\u2014some of you have walls. What I would encourage you to do, as we break here in a few minutes\u2014you have to start with one brick. One at a time, you take it to God \/ you say, \u201cGod, help us.\u201d You start to talk. Some of you just need to talk tonight about one brick. When you get through that one, maybe there\u2019s another one. Maybe, there\u2019s a real wall. You\u2019re going to have to get to the next \u201cS\u201d at some point\u2014and they [Ann and CJ] did\u2014\u201cSeek Forgiveness.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI would actually say, \u201cSeek or grant...\u201d Sometimes, you\u2019re the offender. You need to go and ask for forgiveness and say, \u201cI\u2019m sorry.\u201d That takes humility. Sometimes, you\u2019ve been the one hurt, and you need to grant forgiveness. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI became a man at age 32, and it was the year I forgave my dad. I had never forgiven him, and I had held it for years. The day I said, \u201cI\u2019m going to forgive my dad,\u201d I thought it would take a week\u2014it took four years. God took me through a process. I remember reading a quote that said, \u201cWhen you forgive someone, you set a prisoner free, only to discover you\u2019re the prisoner.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI realized that year, when I forgave my dad\u2014and, by the way, he didn\u2019t receive it \/ he said, \u201cWhat for?\u201d\u2014that it has nothing to do with them \/ it\u2019s all about you. I became a man. I tell the men of my church, \u201cI became a man at 32.\u201d It doesn\u2019t matter how old you are\u2014it starts when you seek and grant forgiveness. So we don\u2019t need to say anything about that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe last one is this, and I think it\u2019s the <em>most<\/em> important. It\u2019s the plus one\u2014and it\u2019s \u201cSurrender\u201d\u2014to whom?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Jesus.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Jesus \/ \u201cSurrender to Jesus.\u201d You try any of this \/ any of this without Jesus\u2014good luck! It will not work! It does not work. If you take the Word of God and try to apply it, it does not work without the power of God.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> You literally need the power of God. How do you access the power of God? You surrender. Some of you have never surrendered. I know you listen to Christian radio, and you probably listen to Christian music, and probably drink milk from a Christian cow [Laughter]; but you\u2019ve never surrendered to Jesus!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSome of you need to surrender tonight! It is like: \u201cI am surrendering! I\u2019m putting up the white flag and saying: \u2018It doesn\u2019t matter what I want anymore. It\u2019s not about me; it\u2019s about us \/ it\u2019s about a legacy.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And the only way that happens is when I surrender to Jesus. Think about this\u2014I was looking out my window today, looking at that ocean\u2014 like: \u201cOh, my gosh! The God of the universe, who made that ocean and is in control of the universe, lives right here!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> The King!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> The King of the universe lives right here! When you surrender, He takes up residence in this temple and He says: \u201cYou want help? You want to resolve conflict? You want to get the forgiveness over years and layers of hurt? I can do that! You don\u2019t have a chance unless you surrender.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy son preached a couple of weeks ago. He\u2019s 24 years old, and we sat there,\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014crying!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \u2014like: \u201cWhat is going on!? God is <em>working<\/em> in our son to teach us!\u201d He was teaching on Saul, the one who killed Christians after the resurrection, who met Jesus on the Damascus Road and became Paul \/ the Apostle Paul. That\u2019s one of the reasons we\u2019re here today\u2014his life was radically changed because he surrendered to Jesus and everything changed.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tCody said this\u2014and we were just sitting there, like: \u201cWow! That is a true statement!\u201d\u2014he said, \u201cPaul had one encounter with Jesus\u2014changed his whole life.\u201d He goes, \u201cHere\u2019s what you need to know\u2014you are one encounter with Jesus away from a new marriage. You are one encounter with Jesus away from a radical life change and a radical legacy change.\u201d [Applause]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo here\u2019s how we want to end. We didn\u2019t get the chance to do this in the last session\u2014it will only take three minutes. Here\u2019s what we want to do\u2014we want to pray for you. Now, the action step is going to be this: I hope you go tonight, and before you crawl in your bed, I hope you hit your knees, and you surrender or maybe re-surrender. You\u2019ve watched our video from <em>The Art of Marriage<\/em>. We had to re-surrender on our 10-year anniversary\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014one of the darkest moments in our life and the <em>greatest<\/em> moment because, together, we went to our knees and said: \u201cI repent. I surrender.\u201d I hope that\u2019s what you do. If you can\u2019t do it together, one of you do it; and ask God to do a miracle.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut here\u2019s what we want to pray. If you\u2019ve been married five years or less, stand up. I want to see who they are. Stand up. We want to <em>celebrate<\/em> these newlyweds; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes! [Applause]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Look at that! They\u2019re awesome. [Applause] Pray for them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Okay.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> We\u2019re going to pray for you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> We\u2019re going to pray for you guys: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFather, God, thank You for these couples. God, they\u2019ve been married a short time, but I know that they are going to have an incredible impact. We ask, God, that You would protect them from Satan\u2019s strategy of destroying their marriage. We pray that You would give them wisdom and a love that surpasses all understanding \/ that You would guard them and protect them from the evil one who only wants to kill, steal, and destroy. I pray they would have a legacy that lasts for generation after generation, God.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Alright; please sit down. Six years to twenty\u2014stand up real quick. Look at this! [Applause]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Whoa!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJesus, I pray for these couples \/ I pray for these families. They probably never even get to talk to one another\u2014they\u2019ve got young kids, probably. So God, I pray for energy; I pray for wisdom; I pray for power. Lord, I pray for surrender. Some of them are in a <em>critical<\/em> stage of their marriage, trying to decide if they should keep going. God, I pray that You would touch them even tonight. In Jesus\u2019 name; amen.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAlright; last category: twenty years or more\u2014stand up. These are the Legacy Builders.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes! [Applause]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Awesome; awesome! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFather, God, thank You for 20-plus years and more. I pray for 30, 40, 50, 60\u2014that they would never quit until the day they die\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014that they would fulfill their marriage vows \/ leave a legacy. God\u2014that they would turn over an incredible legacy to the next generation and beyond that the kingdom of God would advance through them and through their legacy. In the name of Jesus we pray; amen.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Amen. Thanks, you guys. [Applause]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Amen. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDon\u2019t you love these guys? [Applause] Great!! Okay; so you said something\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> I don\u2019t want you to ask a hard question, Bob.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I won\u2019t. I love the brick\u2014I love the picture. So many couples think, \u201cIf I\u2019m not mad anymore, it\u2019s over.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And the brick is a great picture of you can say\u2014like your son said\u2014\u201cI\u2019ve forgotten that. I\u2019m not mad about it.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u201cI\u2019m not mad about it.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> If you haven\u2019t resolved it, it\u2019s still there until it\u2019s resolved; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> And here\u2019s one of the things we say: \u201cIf you\u2019re in a conflict\u2014and some other conflict is coming up that you thought you resolved\u2014you didn\u2019t resolve it. If it\u2019s coming back into this one, guess what? It\u2019s still there. You\u2019ve got to go back.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And when you get into the next conflict, all of those bricks come back out.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Yes! Yes; that\u2019s what I was going to say. They\u2019re just kind of all stuffed down there\u2014they\u2019re hidden. But now, we bring them all up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOkay; so if a couple\u2014you have two couples\u2014one couple\u2019s over here and they say: \u201cHere\u2019s how we do it. When we fight, it\u2019s <em>loud<\/em>. It\u2019s at each other\u2014we\u2019re saying things we shouldn\u2019t be saying to one another.\u201d Here\u2019s this couple over here\u2014they say: \u201cWhen we fight, we get snotty and silent. It\u2019s just kind of like, \u2019Okay.\u2019 We just abide in silence.\u201d Is there one that\u2019s better than the other?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> It\u2019s a good question. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Is loud better than silent? Is silent better than loud? What\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> I think they can both be deadly; because over here, the people that are using their words to hurt one another, those really don\u2019t go away. You know, those are things that we hold onto \/ we stuff those down then. So we say: \u201cDon\u2019t say things that are going to hurt the other person. Don\u2019t use your words as weapons.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut these people over here, you never know what\u2019s going on in here too [pointing to brain or heart].\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Like, to take every thought captive is really important. So I think both can be dangerous. This one\u2014the volatile\u2014they\u2019re getting it out, but I think this one can be deadly too. What do you think?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, I think\u2014[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> She does that to me, too, Bob!! [Applause]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Ha-ha!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I think you\u2019re exactly right!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Good answer.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; that is a good answer. No; I think some people who do the silent thing <em>feel<\/em> like it\u2019s more spiritual than the loud thing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Yes; right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Oh, that\u2019s a great point. And sometimes that bitterness\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> Oh, you know it!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> \u2014can seep in and poison.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> This is toxic!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; that\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> No; \u201cI\u2019m not shaking your hand, Bob, I\u2019m pushing it down.\u201d If you push it down, and you\u2019re silent, silent, silent\u2014for days or weeks\u2014it\u2019s <em>toxic<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dave:<\/strong> It\u2019s going to come out one way or another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Somewhere.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This was so good! Wasn\u2019t this good tonight? [Applause] Thank you, guys!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ann:<\/strong> Thank you. [Applause]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> A little interaction there with our friends, Dave and Ann Wilson, as they were talking about resolving conflict at a recent FamilyLife event. And it was helpful. I think the folks who were there, not only were challenged, but motivated to want to make their marriage better.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I think there are a lot of things you can learn as long as you\u2019re laughing as you learn it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe audience, as you could tell at the end, absolutely, thoroughly enjoyed Dave and Ann. That\u2019s what people can expect, Bob, when they go to a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>. They\u2019re going to get practical biblical help around communication; resolving conflict; sex; around the roles of a husband and a wife; how you can lock arms, as moms and dads, in raising the next generation. It\u2019s a practical conference, a helpful conference, and a hope-filled conference for every couple.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And I often ask couples, at the end of a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>, \u201cHow was it different than you thought it would be?\u201d And the thing that I hear most often is people just saying: \u201cIt was more fun. It was just more refreshing than I expected it to be.\u201d I think a lot of folks hear about a weekend conference and they think, \u201cOh, man!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u201cLectures.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u201cNo fun.\u201d Well, I\u2019m going to tell you\u2014we train our speakers. They\u2019re already great speakers to begin with; but by the time you\u2019re finished with the conference, I think it\u2019s going to be, truly, a weekend to remember.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, and right now is the best time for folks to sign up to attend an upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> getaway; because when you register this week or next week, you pay the regular price for yourself, and your spouse comes free. It\u2019s a buy one\/get one free opportunity. It\u2019s only good through the end of next week; so take advantage of the offer. Go online\u2014find out when a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> is coming to a city, either near where you live or a city you\u2019d like to visit this fall, and then plan to join us for a fun, romantic getaway at one of our upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, register now; and you pay the regular rate for yourself and your spouse comes free. Register, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call to register. If you have any questions\u20141-800-FL-TODAY is our number\u20141-800-358-6329. That\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd with that, we\u2019ve got to wrap things up for this week. Thanks for being with us. I hope you have a great weekend. I hope you and your family are able to worship together in your local church this weekend. Then join us back on Monday. We\u2019re going to hear from Gary Thomas. He has got some thoughts for us on what couples who thrive in marriage all the way to the finish line\u2014what they are doing \/ what we can learn from them. We\u2019ll hear his message Monday. I hope you can be here for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\tHelp for today. 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