{"id":304088,"date":"2016-07-18T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2016-07-18T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/what-is-emotional-safety\/"},"modified":"2016-07-18T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2016-07-18T15:00:00","slug":"what-is-emotional-safety","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/what-is-emotional-safety\/","title":{"rendered":"What Is Emotional Safety?"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Joshua Straub recalls the day when he learned of his parents&#8217; separation, and tells how he learned to break those negative patterns in his own family.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2016-07-18.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"23.49M","filesize_raw":"24626912","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2809,2833,2806],"tags":[6043,4409,6044,4509],"podcast_series":[8153],"cwp_profile":[3112],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-304088","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-commitment","category-godly-legacy","category-spiritual-development","tag-breaking-the-cycle-of-divorce","tag-children-of-divorce","tag-living-in-two-homes","tag-step-parenting","podcast_series-rebuilding-a-safe-house","cwp_profile-joshua-straub","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/304088\/what-is-emotional-safety","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/304088\/what-is-emotional-safety","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"TEw6WnKx9K\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/what-is-emotional-safety\/\">What Is Emotional Safety?<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/what-is-emotional-safety\/embed\/#?secret=TEw6WnKx9K\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;What Is Emotional Safety?&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"TEw6WnKx9K\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! This file is auto-generated *\/\n!function(d,l){\"use strict\";l.querySelector&&d.addEventListener&&\"undefined\"!=typeof URL&&(d.wp=d.wp||{},d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage||(d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if((t||t.secret||t.message||t.value)&&!\/[^a-zA-Z0-9]\/.test(t.secret)){for(var s,r,n,a=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),o=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),c=new RegExp(\"^https?:$\",\"i\"),i=0;i<o.length;i++)o[i].style.display=\"none\";for(i=0;i<a.length;i++)s=a[i],e.source===s.contentWindow&&(s.removeAttribute(\"style\"),\"height\"===t.message?(1e3<(r=parseInt(t.value,10))?r=1e3:~~r<200&&(r=200),s.height=r):\"link\"===t.message&&(r=new URL(s.getAttribute(\"src\")),n=new URL(t.value),c.test(n.protocol))&&n.host===r.host&&l.activeElement===s&&(d.top.location.href=t.value))}},d.addEventListener(\"message\",d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\",function(){for(var e,t,s=l.querySelectorAll(\"iframe.wp-embedded-content\"),r=0;r<s.length;r++)(t=(e=s[r]).getAttribute(\"data-secret\"))||(t=Math.random().toString(36).substring(2,12),e.src+=\"#?secret=\"+t,e.setAttribute(\"data-secret\",t)),e.contentWindow.postMessage({message:\"ready\",secret:t},\"*\")},!1)))}(window,document);\n\/\/# sourceURL=https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-includes\/js\/wp-embed.min.js\n<\/script>\n"},"spectra_custom_meta":{"_wp_page_template":["default"],"transcript_url":["https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2016-07-18.pdf"],"audio_file":["https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2016-07-18.mp3"],"transcript_content":["<strong>Bob: <\/strong>When your child has been disrespectful or disobedient, do they know they still live in an emotionally safe place?\u00a0 Here\u2019s author and speaker, Joshua Straub. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>How I describe the posture of emotional safety is\u2014it\u2019s the ability to understand the underlying motivation of what\u2019s really going on within our children when they\u2019re emotionally distraught because everybody looks normal when things are going well. It\u2019s not until we hit stress or we\u2019re scared that we really see our true relationship styles come out. Our ability to be present with our kids in those moments matters. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Monday, July 18<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. We\u2019re going to talk today with Joshua Straub about what an emotionally safe home looks like and what we can do, as parents, to make sure our kids feel safe at home. Stay with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. I remember when we were raising our kids\u2014there were days that I would drive home; and I would be thinking to myself, \u201cI wonder what the temperature in our house is going to be when I get there?\u201d\u2014whether it\u2019s going to be comfortable or chilly because those were the two options\u2014it was either going to be comfortable or chilly. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And of course, you weren\u2019t talking about the\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014the physical temperature. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u201470 degrees. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I was talking about the emotional temperature. Then, I thought, \u201cAnd I wonder who is going to have his or her hand on the thermostat, adjusting that temperature?\u201d because, typically, if it was chilly, there was one person in the house who had driven the temperature down; and everybody else was just shivering. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You know, it\u2019s interesting that you would use that illustration. I just reflect back on my childhood, growing up. I don\u2019t ever recall every wondering what the temperature would be \/ it just was a good, safe, secure home\u2014which is what we\u2019re going to talk about.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>It was comfortable. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; it was an emotionally stable\u2014not that there weren\u2019t disagreements from time to time. My mom was a bit fiery, but my dad was a shock absorber. How my dad and mom made it\u2014I don\u2019t know\u2014but they were great people. They weren\u2019t perfect, but it was a safe house. That is the name of a brand-new book by our guest today. The book is <em>Safe House<\/em> by Dr. Joshua Straub. Josh, welcome to the broadcast. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Thank you so much for having me. It\u2019s an honor to be here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Josh is from Nash-Vegas. [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Not everybody likes that designation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I don\u2019t think they do\u2014married to Christi since 2010 \/ has two children\u2014a boy and a girl\u2014and you\u2019re about Liberty University. You\u2019ve got your PhD from Liberty University. Did you ever hear Dr. Falwell speak?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Oh, yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You\u2019re about to hear him again. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>[Impersonating Dr. Falwell] \u201cBecause he was training champions for Christ on Liberty Mountain.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cYou remember the days; don\u2019t you?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I do remember. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cThank you very much.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>He was such a personality\u2014he was amazing. I can remember being in a restaurant\u2014he was out with his wife one time \/ they were having dinner. We were there. He would just <em>lovingly<\/em> come over\u2014I remember him putting me in a head lock, and started rubbing my head, and just giving me a noogie, right there on the head. That\u2019s who he was\u2014he just loved people. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I think I\u2019ve eaten at his favorite restaurant over in Virginia where Liberty Mountain is located. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut you\u2019ve written a book here\u2014and I just want to cut to the chase and begin with your story because that\u2019s really where your heart for helping parents create homes that are emotionally safe for their children. You didn\u2019t grow up in an emotionally safe home either. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Up until I was ten years old, everything was safe \/ everything was awesome. We had been on a vacation to Wild Wood, New Jersey\u2014\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014it was a hot summer July day. I can remember I had 22,000 vision in both eyes. So, I could barely even see my alarm clock right up next to me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Really?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Yes. Oh, I was bad. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>At age ten?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>At age ten; yes\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Wow!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>\u2014I was bad. So\u2014but I remember this day like it was yesterday. I\u2019m lying there in bed, and all I\u2019m thinking about is going riding my bicycle down to the creek, and catching crawfish, and playing with snakes, and just doing things that ten-year-old boys do\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>\u2014on that hot summer day. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I remember my mom walking into the room, and my sister was crying behind her. My sister was about eight at the time. My mom sat down on the edge of my bed; and she said, \u201cJosh, your dad and I are separating today.\u201d\u00a0 This was on a Monday, right after we got back from vacation. She said, \u201cDo you want to go with me, or do you want to stay here with your dad?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Just like that?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Just like that. I had never heard them fight. I had never seen anything in the home. To me, I was raised in an emotionally safe home. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>No indication on the vacation that things were heading south?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Not from my perspective, as a kid; no. No. I can remember looking at the clock dimly through my squinted eyes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was 6:04 a.m. that morning\u2014way too early on a July morning for a ten year old. So, that\u2019s when I say, \u201cThe cracks in our walls of our home were exposed.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>At age ten, you\u2019re probably not even able to process what that means \/ what your mom is asking because all you\u2019ve known is what you said\u2014a safe, secure environment. Now, your mom is saying, \u201cDo you want to stay here, or do you want to go with me?\u201d\u00a0 And you had to be thinking, \u201cThis has got to be temporary; this isn\u2019t permanent.\u201d\u00a0 I mean, how do you process something like that at ten?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I can remember thinking that: \u201cIs this temporary, or is this permanent?\u00a0 What does this mean?\u00a0 What does this mean for my sister and me?\u201d\u2014that kind of thing. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFortunately, my mom ended up moving only within a bicycle drive for myself down the road. So, we chose to go back and forth every other week between my mom and my dad. As we were growing up, we\u2019d spend a week because I had a great relationship with both parents. There was nothing that was unsafe that I felt at the time. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, we loved our mom \/ we loved our dad. So, we ended up going back and forth every other week. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI actually didn\u2019t start seeing how that divorce took a toll on me until I was later on in my late teens\u2014when I first started to see it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>How did you get from one house to the other\u2014on your bike?\u00a0 Did your parents\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>We\u2019d just go back and forth with our parents dropping us off\u2014that kind of thing. Because they lived in the same school district\u2014so it didn\u2019t affect our school. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, you just\u2014for what?\u2014the next eight years did the back and forth with your parents?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Yes, until I left for college. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>When did you start to put the pieces together and figure out what it was that caused Mom and Dad to split?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I was in my graduate degree program \/ I was in my young 20\u2019s. I was in Alliance Theological Seminary \/ Nyack, New York. I had a great professor\u2014Dr. Ellison was teaching \u201cMarriage and Family.\u201d\u00a0 It was the second course I took for my graduate degree program. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the things he had us do\u2014is he had us put together what\u2019s called a genogram. Basically, a genogram is like a family tree, but what you do instead of just looking at your family tree is you look at patterns within the context of your family. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou look at, maybe: \u201cDid you come from a line of doctors?\u00a0 Did you come from a line of lawyers?\u201d\u2014whatever that looked like. You looked at jobs \/ you look at, perhaps, even personality traits within it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs I sat down and I did that genogram for the class, I looked at from my grandparents to my parents to my sister\u2014I looked at three generations. At that point, every single person, from grandparents on down, had been divorced at least once\u2014many of them twice. In some cases, I found out marriages that I didn\u2019t even know existed\u2014like my grandparents getting married, for instance, that didn\u2019t affect the genealogy of the family. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I found out deeper than that were personality traits that clashed and personality patterns within the context of the family. What I realized was\u2014I was picking up in my own dating relations, and that\u2019s when I started to see this and going: \u201cWhoa!\u00a0 I could potentially carry patterns into my own family if I don\u2019t see what\u2019s happening here.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is what Scripture speaks of when it talks about the sins of the father visiting future generations. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe unconsciously pick up what we\u2019ve seen modeled for us and carry that along without really spending a lot of time questioning it or thinking about it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And we\u2019re talking about the negative side, at this point. What about the spiritual dimension?\u00a0 Was there a positive side of your mom and dad\u2014as in the home they had raised you in?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Yes; I was raised in the church. I think one of the positive sides is that my parents never put my sister and me in the middle. My parents were fairly emotionally stable through it all. I mean, obviously, I can remember some conflict here and there and that kind of thing; but I think of Joseph\u2014what the enemy intended for evil \/ God turned to good. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy stepfather was one of the biggest influences in my Christian journey\u2014and definitely for my mom as well. So, there would be times that my father, my stepfather, and I would hang out together. I mean it sounds odd \/ it sounds really crazy. I mean, there was a point at which I felt like my parents went through a civil divorce\u2014until I realized how paradoxical that really is\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014until I really started to see how it impacted my own emotional and relational journey along the way. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, here you are\u2014being raised in a \u201cChristian home.\u201d\u00a0 When did your faith become your own?\u00a0 When did you truly make Jesus Christ your Lord, your Master, your Savior?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I always grew up in the church; but as I grew up into my teens, it was a nominal faith\u2014I was the goody two-shoes \/ I was the one who always followed the rules. When I hit my late teens, I was being mentored by a pastor who really was helping me go deeper into the Scriptures and relating it more to my everyday life. And that\u2019s when I really said: \u201cOkay, Lord; I\u2019m going to commit to serving You. I\u2019m not just going to live my life believing in You \/ I\u2019m going to live my life serving You.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Without a real faith \/ without a true commitment to Jesus Christ\u2014just working through something emotionally is not ultimately going to result in character development, spiritual growth, and allow you to come out the other side with a genuine grace for your parents in the midst of what they went through and an ability to love them and honor them, going forward. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>One of the things I did was\u2014I went to counseling, myself, to start resolving some of what I\u2019ve experienced\u2014some of these personality dynamics I was starting to see in my own life that I didn\u2019t want to carry into my family. I was a strong believer, but I still had some emotional things I needed to work through. So, I took two years off of dating relationships. I took two years where I just went to counseling and really focused on who I was\u2014I mean, that was the grace of God to have the opportunity to do that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, looking at this long history of broken relationships that is a part of your family, was that in the back of your mind as you were dating girls?\u00a0 Were you thinking: \u201cI wonder if I can form a relationship \/ I wonder if I can have a marriage that goes all the way to the finish line\u201d?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>No, I never wondered whether or not I could. I just wanted to make sure I did it right. I just wanted to make sure I was doing everything I could do to make sure that that was happening. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And what gave you the confidence that you were there when you proposed to your wife? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat made you think, \u201cI know I can do this\u201d?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; we\u2019ve had guests, here on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, who\u2019ve said: \u201cYou know, I look back over my family tree, and there is so much divorce in it. I thought, \u2018I\u2019m destined to do the same thing.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 What made you think you were going to be different\u2014back to Bob\u2019s question?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Again, you never say \u201cnever\u201d\u2014you know\u2014but I knew that\u2014if I stayed committed to Christ, and I stayed in my own faith relationship, and that if I led my family well in doing that, my chances were way better than not. Again, I grew up in a nominal Christian family\u2014where we went to church on Sunday \/ you said your prayer before bedtime\u2014but there wasn\u2019t a lot more than that. <br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI said: \u201cI\u2019m going to implement prayer throughout my life. I\u2019m going to implement prayer throughout my marriage. My wife and I are going to have a passion and a purpose in our marriage to lead others to Christ through our marriage \/ through our marital relationship; and we\u2019re going to carry that legacy on to our kids.\u201d\u00a0 And it was that intentionality\u2014I knew \/ we knew we wanted to be intentional with that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTruly, when I really realized that was when I met my wife, and I realized how <em>amazing<\/em> she was. She was above and beyond anything I could have asked or imagined in a wife. She truly embodies the Proverbs 31 wife. And part of that was me getting to know her, and getting to know her family, and the family she was raised in. She was raised in a very solid Christian home. She had that same commitment to Christ that I did, and we carried those same principles into our relationship. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I just want our listeners to hear what you just described because we have listeners, Bob\u2014you know\u2014you read the emails and the letters we get from those who write us\u2014who really come from some tough circumstances and who have been through a divorce, themselves, in a relationship. They are wondering if they can do it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHear what Josh is saying: \u201cWith a relationship and a commitment to Jesus Christ\u2014to be surrendered to Him\u2014that\u2019s where it all starts \/ that\u2019s where hope can begin. But if you haven\u2019t learned the spiritual disciple of yielding your will to Almighty God, I don\u2019t know how you\u2019d ever do it to another imperfect person.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. We\u2019re talking with Joshua Straub, who has written a book called <em>Safe House<\/em>. It\u2019s just occurring to me, as I\u2019m hearing you tell your story, that what you\u2019ve described is a safe home. You grew up in a safe home. If it wasn\u2019t for the divorce, it would have been a pretty good home. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That sounds so paradoxical. It\u2019s kind of like\u2014\u201cIf it wasn\u2019t for the divorce\u2026\u201d\u2014it\u2019s kind of like: \u201cIf I hadn\u2019t gotten food poisoning, it\u2019d been a great meal\u201d; you know?\u00a0 And I\u2019m not trying to make light of it, but it\u2019s like there was a bomb that went off in the middle of your childhood that made an otherwise safe childhood into something that left shrapnel. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I would say that, obviously\u2014and you guys know this\u2014that the divorce\u2014there were issues leading up to that divorce. I was just too young to see them\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>\u2014and my parents did a great job of shielding this. So, it wasn\u2019t like everything was hunky dory and perfect. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, when you talk about a safe house\u2014I just always remember a good childhood \/ I really do. I was very fortunate in that regard until that divorce. That\u2019s when I started to see the cracks, and that\u2019s when I started to experience\u2014and again, I\u2019m entering into my preteen years. So, I\u2019m entering into some pretty vulnerable years; and now, all of a sudden, I\u2019m living in two different homes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>We\u2019re talking all around the issue of emotional safety. It hits me\u2014we haven\u2019t really defined it. What\u2019s it look like?\u00a0 Now, obviously, emotional safety has to begin with a commitment to love\u2014a husband and a wife who make a covenant to each other to say: \u201cYou know what?\u00a0 This marriage is going the distance.\u201d\u00a0 But unpack the term, if you would, for us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>When my wife and I first became parents, we realized there were so many parenting strategies, and techniques, and books, and all of this out there. I think that\u2019s part of the marketing industry; right?\u2014create anxiety around something, and that\u2019s where you can sell products. I think the parenting industry is ripe with that because there is no greater role on earth that we have more shame and guilt around than being a parent. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You don\u2019t have to create anxiety. All you have to do is get handed the baby, and anxiety is right there with it; right?\u00a0 [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>That\u2019s exactly right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>So, I was just like, \u201cOkay; there has got to be a way to do this.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHaving counseled juvenile delinquents and troubled families for 15 years and doing my doctoral research, I realized that\u2014out of the counseling techniques I was using\u2014that attachment or the context of developing a secure attachment was important. When I started looking at all the research, I started to realize that every outcome that we are looking for within the context of our kids leads back to emotional safety. We can talk a little bit more about that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just define it this way: \u201cIt\u2019s the posture from which we parent, not the techniques, that matters most. There are billions of techniques out there\u2014ways that we can do this\u2014but at the end of the day, it\u2019s the posture from which we parent, not the techniques, that matters most.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Unpack that term, though, because posture\u2014are you talking about humility? \/ is it grace?\u2014just unpack it a bit. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m going to unpack it with you with an illustration. I had a family I was working with\u2014daughter was 14 years of age. The dad called me one day\u2014he said, \u201cJosh, my daughter just came in; and she said, \u2018Dad, I hate you!\u2019\u201d\u00a0 I said: \u201cWell, unpack that for me. Tell me what happened.\u201d\u00a0 He said that she\u2019d come in and she wanted to go to a Friday night football game\u2014she\u2019s 14 \/ she\u2019s in eighth grade\u2014she\u2019s not quite, yet, in high school. She wanted to go to a Friday night football game with her friends. Her dad said, \u201cNo.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe posture\u2014how I describe this is\u2014the posture of emotional safety does <em>not<\/em> look like this \/ it does <em>not<\/em> look like him holding his hands across his chest and just going, \u201cDon\u2019t be mad at me.\u201d\u00a0 That would be dismissing the emotion that\u2019s really going on within her. By the way, when our kids tell us they hate us, it\u2019s not really about us; you know?\u00a0 We can\u2019t take that personally because there is typically something going on underneath that\u2014I\u2019ll explain that here in a second\u2014that\u2019s really the issue. So, we don\u2019t dismiss that emotion. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>Another way is pointing your finger in her face and saying: \u201cGo to your room. I\u2019m taking your phone for a month; and no, you\u2019re not going and hanging out with your friends,\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014it\u2019s punishing that negative emotion. Another posture that we could end up using is minimizing it and just going: \u201cIt\u2019s just a Friday night football game. Who cares?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHow I describe the posture of emotional safety is the ability to get down on one knee\u2014if you can imagine yourself getting down on one knee\u2014arms stretched out, and saying, \u201cHoney, what is it about that Friday night football game that matters to you so much?\u201d\u00a0 I\u2019m not saying we don\u2019t deal with the disrespect and the way she treated him, but what I\u2019m saying is\u2014it is the ability to understand the underlying motivation of what\u2019s really going on within our children when they\u2019re emotionally distraught. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tEverybody looks normal when things are going well. It\u2019s not until we hit stress or duress or we\u2019re scared that we really see our true relationship styles come out. Our ability to be present with our kids in those moments matters. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat he found out about his daughter in that situation was that she had been rejected by a group of friends she had hung out with in the previous school year\u2014she\u2019d been rejected by them this whole school year. She would see them hanging out together on Instagram<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> and Facebook<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis was the first night they invited her to be a part of something; and her dad said, \u201cNo.\u201d\u00a0 She was feeling rejected; and her dad said, \u201cNo, you can\u2019t go be with your friends.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe way that I define emotional safety is the Golden Rule: Treat others as you want to be treated \/ \u201cDo unto others as you would have them do unto you.\u201d\u00a0 I replace the word, \u201cdo,\u201d with the word, \u201cunderstand.\u201d\u00a0 In order to be understood, we must first understand. I\u2019ll say that again: \u201cIn order to be understood, as parents, we must first understand.\u201d That\u2019s really the <em>core<\/em> of what\u2019s at the heart of being emotionally safe with our kids. Again, it\u2019s not that we don\u2019t address the disrespect; it\u2019s that we lead out with that sense of understanding what\u2019s really going on. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, did that dad reverse his decision based on that information; or did he say, \u201cWell, I understand that that\u2019s something that you really care about; but here\u2019s why\u2014\u201cYou\u2019re 14. I don\u2019t feel you should be out there on your own.\u201d\u00a0 Once she\u2019s pled her case and become emotionally transparent, you almost feel like, as a parent, \u201cNow, I have to give in because, if I don\u2019t, now, I\u2019m scarring her at a deeper level.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Yes. What he did in that particular case\u2014and I walked him through it\u2014was he allowed her to go to that Friday night football game; but it was with certain parameters\u2014she had to be home at a certain time; she had to keep in touch with him \/ check in with him; then, she also had\u2014and I don\u2019t even remember what they were\u2014but she had ramifications for treating him the way that she did and the disrespect. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Got it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>What I want our listeners to hear is\u2014this is not a formula\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014but there are some commitments that have to be made that create a safe house. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>First of all, you\u2014as a parent \/ both of you, ideally\u2014need to have a commitment to Jesus Christ and surrender to Him and what He wants you to do according to the Bible. Secondly, as you begin to live that out, you offer a commitment to love your child\u2014and that\u2019s that understanding portion you are talking about, where you listen beyond the emotions of the moment. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s hard for me to get beyond this, sometimes; but anger is almost always a secondary emotion. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>That\u2019s right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Something else has caused that anger to occur. If a parent can just not get into the mud puddle with their teenager\u2014instead, stay objective, if possible, and not take it personally that the child is attacking you\u2014and quiz and find out what\u2019s going on with the child, they can begin to address the root issue, like you talked about, and perhaps, even help the child begin to grow, spiritually, through that experience as well. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I was reading Proverbs 14 the other day. I\u2019m reading through a Bible, where I pray for my son; and I just write prayers in the side of it. I came through Proverbs 14\u2014in verse 29\u2014it is this exact principle that you are talking about: \u201cWhoever is slow to anger has great understanding.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy ability to put my own story together, growing up, really has an impact on how present I am with my kids when they\u2019re in emotional turmoil. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf I\u2019m flipping out, and I\u2019m getting angry, and I\u2019m acting out of that anger, I can\u2019t understand what\u2019s really going on in the heart of my child\u2014that\u2019s really the core of emotional safety. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You don\u2019t have to be spiritually perfect \/\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014emotionally perfect. You just need to be in process, and you need to make sure you are <em>growing<\/em> in your relationship with Jesus Christ. A part of that is getting in the Book\u2014the best-selling book in history\u2014the Bible. Another part is community at a local church \/ is relating to other people of faith, and getting honest, and getting real about your struggles, and maybe, rubbing shoulders with some other parents who have some of the same struggles. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; and I think if you grew up in a home that you\u2019d look back on today and say: \u201cIt was not an emotionally safe place to grow up \/ there were issues swirling around,\u201d it would do you good to get in a book like <em>Safe House<\/em> and get a picture of what emotional safety can look like in your home. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOf course, we\u2019ve got copies of Joshua Straub\u2019s book, <em>Safe House<\/em>, in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. Go online at FamilyLifeToday.com, and you can order a copy from us. Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to order\u20141-800-358-6329. That\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>We have got a pretty good anniversary to celebrate today\u201447 years married together \/ got married back in 1969\u2014I\u2019m talking about Ed and Cindy DeArman, who live in Trussville, Alabama. They listen to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> on WJLR. They\u2019ve been to the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. Forty-seven years\u2014that\u2019s pretty good. We just wanted to take a minute today and say, \u201cHappy anniversary!\u201d to the DeArmans, and just let you know how important we think anniversaries are, and how important we think it is to celebrate milestones like 47 years together. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re all about anniversaries, here at FamilyLife. We\u2019re the Proud Sponsor of Anniversaries<sup>\u2122<\/sup>; and we want to provide you, day in and day out, with the kind of practical biblical help and hope you need so that you can celebrate a whole lot more of them. That\u2019s our mission, here at FamilyLife: \u201cTo effectively develop godly marriages and families\u2014marriages and families who change the world, one home at a time.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re grateful for those of you who partner with us in making this mission happen. We\u2019re grateful for your financial support. If you\u2019d like to help with a donation today, we\u2019d <em>love<\/em> to hear from you. This is a particularly good time of year for you to help support this ministry as we often see a decline in donations in months like July. You can go online at FamilyLifeToday.com to contribute, or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY\u2014donate over the phone\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014or mail your donation to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> at PO Box 7111, Little Rock, AR; our zip code is 72223. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we want to talk about the need for kids to be able to explore their world, and yet, to have some appropriate boundaries around them. We\u2019re going to talk about how you can tell what\u2019s appropriate and what\u2019s not, as parents. Hope you can be back for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas. Help for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would you consider <a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/donate\">donating today<\/a> to help defray the costs?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tCopyright <sup>\u00a9<\/sup> 2016 FamilyLife. 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It\u2019s not until we hit stress or we\u2019re scared that we really see our true relationship styles come out. Our ability to be present with our kids in those moments matters. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Monday, July 18<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. We\u2019re going to talk today with Joshua Straub about what an emotionally safe home looks like and what we can do, as parents, to make sure our kids feel safe at home. Stay with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. I remember when we were raising our kids\u2014there were days that I would drive home; and I would be thinking to myself, \u201cI wonder what the temperature in our house is going to be when I get there?\u201d\u2014whether it\u2019s going to be comfortable or chilly because those were the two options\u2014it was either going to be comfortable or chilly. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And of course, you weren\u2019t talking about the\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014the physical temperature. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u201470 degrees. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I was talking about the emotional temperature. Then, I thought, \u201cAnd I wonder who is going to have his or her hand on the thermostat, adjusting that temperature?\u201d because, typically, if it was chilly, there was one person in the house who had driven the temperature down; and everybody else was just shivering. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You know, it\u2019s interesting that you would use that illustration. I just reflect back on my childhood, growing up. I don\u2019t ever recall every wondering what the temperature would be \/ it just was a good, safe, secure home\u2014which is what we\u2019re going to talk about.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>It was comfortable. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; it was an emotionally stable\u2014not that there weren\u2019t disagreements from time to time. My mom was a bit fiery, but my dad was a shock absorber. How my dad and mom made it\u2014I don\u2019t know\u2014but they were great people. They weren\u2019t perfect, but it was a safe house. That is the name of a brand-new book by our guest today. The book is <em>Safe House<\/em> by Dr. Joshua Straub. Josh, welcome to the broadcast. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Thank you so much for having me. It\u2019s an honor to be here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Josh is from Nash-Vegas. [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Not everybody likes that designation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I don\u2019t think they do\u2014married to Christi since 2010 \/ has two children\u2014a boy and a girl\u2014and you\u2019re about Liberty University. You\u2019ve got your PhD from Liberty University. Did you ever hear Dr. Falwell speak?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Oh, yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You\u2019re about to hear him again. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>[Impersonating Dr. Falwell] \u201cBecause he was training champions for Christ on Liberty Mountain.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cYou remember the days; don\u2019t you?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I do remember. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cThank you very much.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>He was such a personality\u2014he was amazing. I can remember being in a restaurant\u2014he was out with his wife one time \/ they were having dinner. We were there. He would just <em>lovingly<\/em> come over\u2014I remember him putting me in a head lock, and started rubbing my head, and just giving me a noogie, right there on the head. That\u2019s who he was\u2014he just loved people. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I think I\u2019ve eaten at his favorite restaurant over in Virginia where Liberty Mountain is located. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut you\u2019ve written a book here\u2014and I just want to cut to the chase and begin with your story because that\u2019s really where your heart for helping parents create homes that are emotionally safe for their children. You didn\u2019t grow up in an emotionally safe home either. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Up until I was ten years old, everything was safe \/ everything was awesome. We had been on a vacation to Wild Wood, New Jersey\u2014\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014it was a hot summer July day. I can remember I had 22,000 vision in both eyes. So, I could barely even see my alarm clock right up next to me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Really?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Yes. Oh, I was bad. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>At age ten?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>At age ten; yes\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Wow!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>\u2014I was bad. So\u2014but I remember this day like it was yesterday. I\u2019m lying there in bed, and all I\u2019m thinking about is going riding my bicycle down to the creek, and catching crawfish, and playing with snakes, and just doing things that ten-year-old boys do\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>\u2014on that hot summer day. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I remember my mom walking into the room, and my sister was crying behind her. My sister was about eight at the time. My mom sat down on the edge of my bed; and she said, \u201cJosh, your dad and I are separating today.\u201d\u00a0 This was on a Monday, right after we got back from vacation. She said, \u201cDo you want to go with me, or do you want to stay here with your dad?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Just like that?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Just like that. I had never heard them fight. I had never seen anything in the home. To me, I was raised in an emotionally safe home. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>No indication on the vacation that things were heading south?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Not from my perspective, as a kid; no. No. I can remember looking at the clock dimly through my squinted eyes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was 6:04 a.m. that morning\u2014way too early on a July morning for a ten year old. So, that\u2019s when I say, \u201cThe cracks in our walls of our home were exposed.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>At age ten, you\u2019re probably not even able to process what that means \/ what your mom is asking because all you\u2019ve known is what you said\u2014a safe, secure environment. Now, your mom is saying, \u201cDo you want to stay here, or do you want to go with me?\u201d\u00a0 And you had to be thinking, \u201cThis has got to be temporary; this isn\u2019t permanent.\u201d\u00a0 I mean, how do you process something like that at ten?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I can remember thinking that: \u201cIs this temporary, or is this permanent?\u00a0 What does this mean?\u00a0 What does this mean for my sister and me?\u201d\u2014that kind of thing. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFortunately, my mom ended up moving only within a bicycle drive for myself down the road. So, we chose to go back and forth every other week between my mom and my dad. As we were growing up, we\u2019d spend a week because I had a great relationship with both parents. There was nothing that was unsafe that I felt at the time. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, we loved our mom \/ we loved our dad. So, we ended up going back and forth every other week. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI actually didn\u2019t start seeing how that divorce took a toll on me until I was later on in my late teens\u2014when I first started to see it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>How did you get from one house to the other\u2014on your bike?\u00a0 Did your parents\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>We\u2019d just go back and forth with our parents dropping us off\u2014that kind of thing. Because they lived in the same school district\u2014so it didn\u2019t affect our school. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, you just\u2014for what?\u2014the next eight years did the back and forth with your parents?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Yes, until I left for college. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>When did you start to put the pieces together and figure out what it was that caused Mom and Dad to split?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I was in my graduate degree program \/ I was in my young 20\u2019s. I was in Alliance Theological Seminary \/ Nyack, New York. I had a great professor\u2014Dr. Ellison was teaching \u201cMarriage and Family.\u201d\u00a0 It was the second course I took for my graduate degree program. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the things he had us do\u2014is he had us put together what\u2019s called a genogram. Basically, a genogram is like a family tree, but what you do instead of just looking at your family tree is you look at patterns within the context of your family. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou look at, maybe: \u201cDid you come from a line of doctors?\u00a0 Did you come from a line of lawyers?\u201d\u2014whatever that looked like. You looked at jobs \/ you look at, perhaps, even personality traits within it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs I sat down and I did that genogram for the class, I looked at from my grandparents to my parents to my sister\u2014I looked at three generations. At that point, every single person, from grandparents on down, had been divorced at least once\u2014many of them twice. In some cases, I found out marriages that I didn\u2019t even know existed\u2014like my grandparents getting married, for instance, that didn\u2019t affect the genealogy of the family. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I found out deeper than that were personality traits that clashed and personality patterns within the context of the family. What I realized was\u2014I was picking up in my own dating relations, and that\u2019s when I started to see this and going: \u201cWhoa!\u00a0 I could potentially carry patterns into my own family if I don\u2019t see what\u2019s happening here.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is what Scripture speaks of when it talks about the sins of the father visiting future generations. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe unconsciously pick up what we\u2019ve seen modeled for us and carry that along without really spending a lot of time questioning it or thinking about it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And we\u2019re talking about the negative side, at this point. What about the spiritual dimension?\u00a0 Was there a positive side of your mom and dad\u2014as in the home they had raised you in?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Yes; I was raised in the church. I think one of the positive sides is that my parents never put my sister and me in the middle. My parents were fairly emotionally stable through it all. I mean, obviously, I can remember some conflict here and there and that kind of thing; but I think of Joseph\u2014what the enemy intended for evil \/ God turned to good. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy stepfather was one of the biggest influences in my Christian journey\u2014and definitely for my mom as well. So, there would be times that my father, my stepfather, and I would hang out together. I mean it sounds odd \/ it sounds really crazy. I mean, there was a point at which I felt like my parents went through a civil divorce\u2014until I realized how paradoxical that really is\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014until I really started to see how it impacted my own emotional and relational journey along the way. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, here you are\u2014being raised in a \u201cChristian home.\u201d\u00a0 When did your faith become your own?\u00a0 When did you truly make Jesus Christ your Lord, your Master, your Savior?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I always grew up in the church; but as I grew up into my teens, it was a nominal faith\u2014I was the goody two-shoes \/ I was the one who always followed the rules. When I hit my late teens, I was being mentored by a pastor who really was helping me go deeper into the Scriptures and relating it more to my everyday life. And that\u2019s when I really said: \u201cOkay, Lord; I\u2019m going to commit to serving You. I\u2019m not just going to live my life believing in You \/ I\u2019m going to live my life serving You.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Without a real faith \/ without a true commitment to Jesus Christ\u2014just working through something emotionally is not ultimately going to result in character development, spiritual growth, and allow you to come out the other side with a genuine grace for your parents in the midst of what they went through and an ability to love them and honor them, going forward. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>One of the things I did was\u2014I went to counseling, myself, to start resolving some of what I\u2019ve experienced\u2014some of these personality dynamics I was starting to see in my own life that I didn\u2019t want to carry into my family. I was a strong believer, but I still had some emotional things I needed to work through. So, I took two years off of dating relationships. I took two years where I just went to counseling and really focused on who I was\u2014I mean, that was the grace of God to have the opportunity to do that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, looking at this long history of broken relationships that is a part of your family, was that in the back of your mind as you were dating girls?\u00a0 Were you thinking: \u201cI wonder if I can form a relationship \/ I wonder if I can have a marriage that goes all the way to the finish line\u201d?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>No, I never wondered whether or not I could. I just wanted to make sure I did it right. I just wanted to make sure I was doing everything I could do to make sure that that was happening. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And what gave you the confidence that you were there when you proposed to your wife? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat made you think, \u201cI know I can do this\u201d?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; we\u2019ve had guests, here on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, who\u2019ve said: \u201cYou know, I look back over my family tree, and there is so much divorce in it. I thought, \u2018I\u2019m destined to do the same thing.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 What made you think you were going to be different\u2014back to Bob\u2019s question?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Again, you never say \u201cnever\u201d\u2014you know\u2014but I knew that\u2014if I stayed committed to Christ, and I stayed in my own faith relationship, and that if I led my family well in doing that, my chances were way better than not. Again, I grew up in a nominal Christian family\u2014where we went to church on Sunday \/ you said your prayer before bedtime\u2014but there wasn\u2019t a lot more than that. <br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI said: \u201cI\u2019m going to implement prayer throughout my life. I\u2019m going to implement prayer throughout my marriage. My wife and I are going to have a passion and a purpose in our marriage to lead others to Christ through our marriage \/ through our marital relationship; and we\u2019re going to carry that legacy on to our kids.\u201d\u00a0 And it was that intentionality\u2014I knew \/ we knew we wanted to be intentional with that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTruly, when I really realized that was when I met my wife, and I realized how <em>amazing<\/em> she was. She was above and beyond anything I could have asked or imagined in a wife. She truly embodies the Proverbs 31 wife. And part of that was me getting to know her, and getting to know her family, and the family she was raised in. She was raised in a very solid Christian home. She had that same commitment to Christ that I did, and we carried those same principles into our relationship. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I just want our listeners to hear what you just described because we have listeners, Bob\u2014you know\u2014you read the emails and the letters we get from those who write us\u2014who really come from some tough circumstances and who have been through a divorce, themselves, in a relationship. They are wondering if they can do it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHear what Josh is saying: \u201cWith a relationship and a commitment to Jesus Christ\u2014to be surrendered to Him\u2014that\u2019s where it all starts \/ that\u2019s where hope can begin. But if you haven\u2019t learned the spiritual disciple of yielding your will to Almighty God, I don\u2019t know how you\u2019d ever do it to another imperfect person.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. We\u2019re talking with Joshua Straub, who has written a book called <em>Safe House<\/em>. It\u2019s just occurring to me, as I\u2019m hearing you tell your story, that what you\u2019ve described is a safe home. You grew up in a safe home. If it wasn\u2019t for the divorce, it would have been a pretty good home. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That sounds so paradoxical. It\u2019s kind of like\u2014\u201cIf it wasn\u2019t for the divorce\u2026\u201d\u2014it\u2019s kind of like: \u201cIf I hadn\u2019t gotten food poisoning, it\u2019d been a great meal\u201d; you know?\u00a0 And I\u2019m not trying to make light of it, but it\u2019s like there was a bomb that went off in the middle of your childhood that made an otherwise safe childhood into something that left shrapnel. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I would say that, obviously\u2014and you guys know this\u2014that the divorce\u2014there were issues leading up to that divorce. I was just too young to see them\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>\u2014and my parents did a great job of shielding this. So, it wasn\u2019t like everything was hunky dory and perfect. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, when you talk about a safe house\u2014I just always remember a good childhood \/ I really do. I was very fortunate in that regard until that divorce. That\u2019s when I started to see the cracks, and that\u2019s when I started to experience\u2014and again, I\u2019m entering into my preteen years. So, I\u2019m entering into some pretty vulnerable years; and now, all of a sudden, I\u2019m living in two different homes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>We\u2019re talking all around the issue of emotional safety. It hits me\u2014we haven\u2019t really defined it. What\u2019s it look like?\u00a0 Now, obviously, emotional safety has to begin with a commitment to love\u2014a husband and a wife who make a covenant to each other to say: \u201cYou know what?\u00a0 This marriage is going the distance.\u201d\u00a0 But unpack the term, if you would, for us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>When my wife and I first became parents, we realized there were so many parenting strategies, and techniques, and books, and all of this out there. I think that\u2019s part of the marketing industry; right?\u2014create anxiety around something, and that\u2019s where you can sell products. I think the parenting industry is ripe with that because there is no greater role on earth that we have more shame and guilt around than being a parent. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You don\u2019t have to create anxiety. All you have to do is get handed the baby, and anxiety is right there with it; right?\u00a0 [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>That\u2019s exactly right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>So, I was just like, \u201cOkay; there has got to be a way to do this.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHaving counseled juvenile delinquents and troubled families for 15 years and doing my doctoral research, I realized that\u2014out of the counseling techniques I was using\u2014that attachment or the context of developing a secure attachment was important. When I started looking at all the research, I started to realize that every outcome that we are looking for within the context of our kids leads back to emotional safety. We can talk a little bit more about that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just define it this way: \u201cIt\u2019s the posture from which we parent, not the techniques, that matters most. There are billions of techniques out there\u2014ways that we can do this\u2014but at the end of the day, it\u2019s the posture from which we parent, not the techniques, that matters most.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Unpack that term, though, because posture\u2014are you talking about humility? \/ is it grace?\u2014just unpack it a bit. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m going to unpack it with you with an illustration. I had a family I was working with\u2014daughter was 14 years of age. The dad called me one day\u2014he said, \u201cJosh, my daughter just came in; and she said, \u2018Dad, I hate you!\u2019\u201d\u00a0 I said: \u201cWell, unpack that for me. Tell me what happened.\u201d\u00a0 He said that she\u2019d come in and she wanted to go to a Friday night football game\u2014she\u2019s 14 \/ she\u2019s in eighth grade\u2014she\u2019s not quite, yet, in high school. She wanted to go to a Friday night football game with her friends. Her dad said, \u201cNo.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe posture\u2014how I describe this is\u2014the posture of emotional safety does <em>not<\/em> look like this \/ it does <em>not<\/em> look like him holding his hands across his chest and just going, \u201cDon\u2019t be mad at me.\u201d\u00a0 That would be dismissing the emotion that\u2019s really going on within her. By the way, when our kids tell us they hate us, it\u2019s not really about us; you know?\u00a0 We can\u2019t take that personally because there is typically something going on underneath that\u2014I\u2019ll explain that here in a second\u2014that\u2019s really the issue. So, we don\u2019t dismiss that emotion. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>Another way is pointing your finger in her face and saying: \u201cGo to your room. I\u2019m taking your phone for a month; and no, you\u2019re not going and hanging out with your friends,\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014it\u2019s punishing that negative emotion. Another posture that we could end up using is minimizing it and just going: \u201cIt\u2019s just a Friday night football game. Who cares?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHow I describe the posture of emotional safety is the ability to get down on one knee\u2014if you can imagine yourself getting down on one knee\u2014arms stretched out, and saying, \u201cHoney, what is it about that Friday night football game that matters to you so much?\u201d\u00a0 I\u2019m not saying we don\u2019t deal with the disrespect and the way she treated him, but what I\u2019m saying is\u2014it is the ability to understand the underlying motivation of what\u2019s really going on within our children when they\u2019re emotionally distraught. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tEverybody looks normal when things are going well. It\u2019s not until we hit stress or duress or we\u2019re scared that we really see our true relationship styles come out. Our ability to be present with our kids in those moments matters. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat he found out about his daughter in that situation was that she had been rejected by a group of friends she had hung out with in the previous school year\u2014she\u2019d been rejected by them this whole school year. She would see them hanging out together on Instagram<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> and Facebook<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis was the first night they invited her to be a part of something; and her dad said, \u201cNo.\u201d\u00a0 She was feeling rejected; and her dad said, \u201cNo, you can\u2019t go be with your friends.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe way that I define emotional safety is the Golden Rule: Treat others as you want to be treated \/ \u201cDo unto others as you would have them do unto you.\u201d\u00a0 I replace the word, \u201cdo,\u201d with the word, \u201cunderstand.\u201d\u00a0 In order to be understood, we must first understand. I\u2019ll say that again: \u201cIn order to be understood, as parents, we must first understand.\u201d That\u2019s really the <em>core<\/em> of what\u2019s at the heart of being emotionally safe with our kids. Again, it\u2019s not that we don\u2019t address the disrespect; it\u2019s that we lead out with that sense of understanding what\u2019s really going on. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, did that dad reverse his decision based on that information; or did he say, \u201cWell, I understand that that\u2019s something that you really care about; but here\u2019s why\u2014\u201cYou\u2019re 14. I don\u2019t feel you should be out there on your own.\u201d\u00a0 Once she\u2019s pled her case and become emotionally transparent, you almost feel like, as a parent, \u201cNow, I have to give in because, if I don\u2019t, now, I\u2019m scarring her at a deeper level.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Yes. What he did in that particular case\u2014and I walked him through it\u2014was he allowed her to go to that Friday night football game; but it was with certain parameters\u2014she had to be home at a certain time; she had to keep in touch with him \/ check in with him; then, she also had\u2014and I don\u2019t even remember what they were\u2014but she had ramifications for treating him the way that she did and the disrespect. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Got it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>What I want our listeners to hear is\u2014this is not a formula\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014but there are some commitments that have to be made that create a safe house. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>First of all, you\u2014as a parent \/ both of you, ideally\u2014need to have a commitment to Jesus Christ and surrender to Him and what He wants you to do according to the Bible. Secondly, as you begin to live that out, you offer a commitment to love your child\u2014and that\u2019s that understanding portion you are talking about, where you listen beyond the emotions of the moment. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s hard for me to get beyond this, sometimes; but anger is almost always a secondary emotion. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>That\u2019s right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Something else has caused that anger to occur. If a parent can just not get into the mud puddle with their teenager\u2014instead, stay objective, if possible, and not take it personally that the child is attacking you\u2014and quiz and find out what\u2019s going on with the child, they can begin to address the root issue, like you talked about, and perhaps, even help the child begin to grow, spiritually, through that experience as well. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>I was reading Proverbs 14 the other day. I\u2019m reading through a Bible, where I pray for my son; and I just write prayers in the side of it. I came through Proverbs 14\u2014in verse 29\u2014it is this exact principle that you are talking about: \u201cWhoever is slow to anger has great understanding.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy ability to put my own story together, growing up, really has an impact on how present I am with my kids when they\u2019re in emotional turmoil. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf I\u2019m flipping out, and I\u2019m getting angry, and I\u2019m acting out of that anger, I can\u2019t understand what\u2019s really going on in the heart of my child\u2014that\u2019s really the core of emotional safety. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You don\u2019t have to be spiritually perfect \/\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Joshua: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014emotionally perfect. You just need to be in process, and you need to make sure you are <em>growing<\/em> in your relationship with Jesus Christ. A part of that is getting in the Book\u2014the best-selling book in history\u2014the Bible. Another part is community at a local church \/ is relating to other people of faith, and getting honest, and getting real about your struggles, and maybe, rubbing shoulders with some other parents who have some of the same struggles. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; and I think if you grew up in a home that you\u2019d look back on today and say: \u201cIt was not an emotionally safe place to grow up \/ there were issues swirling around,\u201d it would do you good to get in a book like <em>Safe House<\/em> and get a picture of what emotional safety can look like in your home. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOf course, we\u2019ve got copies of Joshua Straub\u2019s book, <em>Safe House<\/em>, in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. Go online at FamilyLifeToday.com, and you can order a copy from us. Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to order\u20141-800-358-6329. That\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>We have got a pretty good anniversary to celebrate today\u201447 years married together \/ got married back in 1969\u2014I\u2019m talking about Ed and Cindy DeArman, who live in Trussville, Alabama. They listen to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> on WJLR. They\u2019ve been to the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. Forty-seven years\u2014that\u2019s pretty good. We just wanted to take a minute today and say, \u201cHappy anniversary!\u201d to the DeArmans, and just let you know how important we think anniversaries are, and how important we think it is to celebrate milestones like 47 years together. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re all about anniversaries, here at FamilyLife. We\u2019re the Proud Sponsor of Anniversaries<sup>\u2122<\/sup>; and we want to provide you, day in and day out, with the kind of practical biblical help and hope you need so that you can celebrate a whole lot more of them. That\u2019s our mission, here at FamilyLife: \u201cTo effectively develop godly marriages and families\u2014marriages and families who change the world, one home at a time.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re grateful for those of you who partner with us in making this mission happen. 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