{"id":304054,"date":"2016-06-23T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2016-06-23T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/when-expectations-collide-with-reality\/"},"modified":"2016-06-23T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2016-06-23T15:00:00","slug":"when-expectations-collide-with-reality","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/when-expectations-collide-with-reality\/","title":{"rendered":"When Expectations Collide With Reality"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sometimes marriage expectations collide head on with reality. 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Brian Goins and his wife, Jen, tell couples how to get their expectations in the bedroom down to reality.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2016-06-23.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Have you ever had times when, as husband and wife, you have just missed being together?\u00a0 Do you know what I mean?\u00a0 Brian and Jen Goins remember a time like that when they had to move back in, for a period, with her parents.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>We were sleeping, like, ten feet from where my parents were sleeping.\u00a0 The doors weren\u2019t hung yet; so there were curtains nailed to the wall as doors.\u00a0 Needless to say, not a lot of intimacy was happening.\u00a0 I was like, \u201cWhat are we going to do?\u201d\u00a0 He goes, \u201cLet\u2019s go camping.\u201d\u00a0 I thought: \u201cThat\u2019s a great idea!\u00a0 Let\u2019s go camping!\u201d\u00a0 I was like, \u201cWhere do you want to go?\u201d\u00a0 He goes, \u201cIn the front yard.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy mom comes out and she\u2019s like, \u201cWhat are you doing?!\u201d\u00a0 And Brian said, \u201cJen and I are going camping tonight.\u201d\u00a0 She said, \u201cWell, why are you going camping in the front yard?\u00a0 Why didn\u2019t you go like\u2014I mean, we live in Montana.\u201d Brian turned around and he said, \u201cBecause we have not camped in a really, really long time.\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Thursday, June 23<sup>rd<\/sup>.\u00a0 Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine.\u00a0 Brian and Jen Goins join us today to talk about God\u2019s design for marital camping.\u00a0 Stay tuned.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us on the Thursday edition. We\u2019re going to hear about one of the big three today\u2014one of the big three things that couples talk about when they\u2019re talking about where they are frustrated in their marriage.\u00a0 Couples who say, \u201cWe fight about money,\u201d or \u201cWe\u2019ve got arguments about the kids,\u201d or \u201cWe fight about sex,\u201d\u2014those are the three things that, as much as anything else, couples point to as areas of frustration in their marriage.\u00a0 Today\u2019s message is going to address one of those big three, head on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It\u2019s an honest discussion about\u2014well, the most intimate area of a marriage relationship and one that I think we need a biblical perspective as never before.\u00a0 A lot of people have never heard the Bible opened and spoken of freely about what it says about sexual pleasure and a husband and a wife becoming one.\u00a0 Well, you\u2019re about to hear it today.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian and Jen Goins are going to speak.\u00a0 They speak at our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaways.\u00a0 Brian is on the team, here at FamilyLife.\u00a0 He is the Senior Creative Director. I\u2019m excited about this optional seminar that we give our listeners a chance to tiptoe into and to benefit from, Bob, because all of our guests on the cruise get a chance to go to these optional seminars throughout the entire week on the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> cruise. How many optional opportunities are there, in terms of different groups\u2014men\u2019s, women\u2019s, panels?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, in the two days that we spend at sea, onboard the cruise, we\u2019ve got those days loaded up with options for folks to attend. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are different workshops and seminars going on throughout the day.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis one that you are going to hear today from Brian and Jen Goins was standing room only\u2014I mean, folks were standing around the back of the room. Nobody left because they wanted to hear what Brian and Jen had to say about how we deal with frustrations we sometimes face and the desire we both have to find joy and passion in our marital intimacy.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd let me quickly remind our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners that we are about sold out for next year\u2019s cruise.\u00a0 We\u2019ve got about 75 to 85 percent of our cabins booked; and if you are interested in attending, this is the week to sign up.\u00a0 Not only is it the right week because we are almost sold out, but rates are about to go up on cabins. So call 1-800-FL-TODAY if you want to find out more about the cruise, or go to our website at FamilyLifeToday.com; but maybe, wait until after you\u2019ve listened to what Brian and Jen are going to share with us in Part Two of today\u2019s message.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Recorded Message]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>Jen, why don\u2019t you read about the pleasure that the wife has with her husband\u2019s body?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>This is from Song of Solomon 5:10-16. It says this: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy beloved is dazzling and ruddy, outstanding among ten thousand.\u00a0 His head is like gold, pure gold; and his locks are like clusters of dates and black as a raven.\u00a0 His eyes are like doves, beside streams of water, bathed in milk, and reposed in their setting.\u00a0 His cheeks are like a bed of balsam, banks of sweet scented herbs; his lips are like lilies, dripping with liquid myrrh.\u00a0 His hands are rods of gold set with beryl; and his abdomen is carved ivory inlaid with sapphires.\u00a0 His legs are pillars of alabaster set on pedestals of pure gold; his appearance is like Lebanon, choice as the cedars.\u00a0 His mouth is full of sweetness. And he is wholly desirable.\u00a0 This is my beloved and this, my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>Eat your heart out. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAlright; on the flip side, ladies, if you\u2019re asking: \u201cDoes he cherish me?\u00a0 Am I valuable in his eyes?\u00a0 Am I beautiful?\u201d every man is asking the question: \u201cAm I strong?\u00a0 Am I strong?\u00a0 Am I respected?\u201d\u00a0 For a man, he feels loved by feeling respected.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat are some words that show how she is speaking to that love language even here in this ancient book?\u00a0 Yes; he\u2019s like\u2014what was that?\u2014\u201cpure gold.\u201d\u00a0 Yes; that his head is like pure gold\u2014he\u2019s valuable.\u00a0 Maybe, she\u2019s speaking even to the brain\u2014he just thinks well.\u00a0 What else?\u00a0 He\u2019s \u201coutstanding,\u201d and \u201camong ten thousand\u201d\u2014there probably weren\u2019t even ten thousand men in that day right then; but she\u2019s like: \u201cMan, of all these guys, you\u2019re far better than all these other smuts out there.\u00a0 You\u2019re the best guy that I know.\u201d Yes, his appearance is like Lebanon, choice as the cedars.\u00a0 He just stands tall among all the other men.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd incidentally, ladies, if you really want to see him feel respected, brag about your husband in front of other people. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019ll see his chest just puff up.\u00a0 Whereas, where you\u2019ll see it tear down is when you cut him to the flesh when you\u2019re sarcastic about him in front of others.\u00a0 And that is what sarcasm means\u2014cut to the flesh\u2014to make light of him in front of others. But man, when you brag about him\u2014she\u2019s doing it in front of the daughters of Jerusalem\u2014he is valuable and strong in her eyes.\u00a0 What else?\u00a0 \u201cCarved ivory\u201d: \u201cYou\u2019re still strong in my eyes.\u201d\u00a0 Anything else?\u2014\u201chis legs are like pillars.\u201d\u00a0 Man, he\u2019s got some thunder thighs going on right there.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cHe is wholly desirable\u201d: \u201cI want you, and I want to be wanted.\u201d\u00a0 And Jen is going to talk a little bit about what that means. When you want your husband, that really is soothing to him, and he feels respected and loved in that way.\u00a0 So, the questions, ladies, that you need to ask your husband is this: \u201cHoney, do you feel respected in my eyes?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cDo you feel strong in my eyes?\u00a0 And if not, how can I show you that respect?\u201d\u00a0 And guys, don\u2019t just give the answer, \u201cOh, you\u2019re doing fine.\u201d\u00a0 You need to share your heart when they ask that kind of question.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHusbands, you\u2019re asking the question: \u201cHoney, do you feel beautiful in my eyes?\u00a0 Do you feel cherished in my eyes?\u00a0 Do you feel valued?\u201d\u00a0 Ladies, you\u2019re asking the question: \u201cDo you feel respected in my eyes?\u00a0 Do you feel strong in my eyes?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>\u201cDo I make you feel strong?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>\u201cDo I make you feel strong?\u201d\u2014absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt is clear that God intended sex to be pleasurable for both the husband and the wife; but if these expectations aren\u2019t meeting reality, maybe, it\u2019s because we are operating by a different set of blueprints.\u00a0 If we keep operating by what the expectations of what the world is giving and thinking that we need to perform\u2014that we need to look a certain way\/act a certain way\u2014because, in the eyes of our culture, sex is an act.\u00a0 It\u2019s simply an act of love that is better experienced when you have better tips, and better techniques, and buffer bodies\u2014because it\u2019s all about an act and about performance.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat God is saying is: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cNo; it\u2019s an <em>expression<\/em> of love between two people that are in a covenant relationship that value each other, not because of what the world sees in them, but because of what He has put in them.\u201d\u00a0 So, here are some questions about how we can, maybe, try to get these sexpectations back down to reality.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFirst of all, it\u2019s obviously going by God\u2019s blueprint and valuing each other the way that we feel to be valuable. What are some other things we can do?\u00a0 First of all, do you calendar your companionship?\u00a0 \u201cYou mean schedule sex?!\u201d\u00a0 \u201cYes! Schedule sex.\u201d\u00a0 You get to a place\u2014especially, if you\u2019ve been down the procreation side\u2014where there is no time. I can tell what you value by what you cheer for, what you pay for, and what you sign up for.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, are you cheering for intimacy?\u00a0 Are you signing up for intimacy?\u00a0 Are you even paying?\u2014that sounds really weird\u2014like going on a date.\u00a0 That costs some money.\u00a0 Going on a cruise\u2014costs some money.\u00a0 You\u2019re here, <em>investing<\/em> in your intimacy.\u00a0 I can tell what you value by what you cheer for, what you pay for, what you sign up for.\u00a0 And where does intimacy fit in your relationship?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>If you have all expectation, and all frustration, but no reality, I would just ask, \u201cWhat\u2019s on your calendar?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, I wouldn\u2019t put on your calendar: \u201cSex, 2 o\u2019clock\u201d.\u00a0 You know, code it a little bit better\u2014you know, \u201cSailing\u201d or something like that.\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 \u201cWe\u2019re going sailing at 2 o\u2019clock in the afternoon. So, some time; but schedule it.\u00a0 That\u2019s not always easy.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>It\u2019s not.\u00a0 Another thing for a woman\u2014when you put sex on your calendar and you know\u2014and you can use code language.\u00a0 That\u2019s something that successful couples do\u2014is they use code language.\u00a0 Like, ours was \u201csailing\u201d for a while; but that\u2014for a woman\u2014you can prepare your mind.\u00a0 You can start thinking about it.\u00a0 You can start planning for it, and you can start praying for it.\u00a0 I know that sounds kind of silly; but just say: \u201cLord, today \/ I know tonight Brian and I are going to be together. I want it to be a great time for both of us.\u00a0 Would you, Lord, be there and help us and help me?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you are a woman who\u2014I know tons of women struggle in this area.\u00a0 Again, as we get older, and we go through different cycles of life, and we have children and stresses on us, it can be a difficult thing; but if we plan it, we can start thinkin about it, and we can start praying about it and preparing for it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt can make it a much better experience.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Another thing\u2014I remember the whole planning thing.\u00a0 I had done a bad job of that one time.\u00a0 We were five years into our marriage, and we had had our daughter.\u00a0 She was a couple of years old, and we were actually in between jobs.\u00a0 We really had no place to go.\u00a0 So, we lived\u2014we went and lived with my parents. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy parents were sort of in between homes.\u00a0 So, they were living in the basement of an unfinished home.\u00a0 Brian and I slept in one room, Brantley slept in another room, and my parents slept on mattresses in what was going to be the family basement room downstairs. We were sleeping like ten feet from where my parents were sleeping, and the doors weren\u2019t hung yet.\u00a0 So there were curtains nailed to the wall as doors.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNeedless to say, not a lot of intimacy was happening; and it was very frustrating for Brian.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was like: \u201cWell, it\u2019s just really hard because my parents are like right there, and the doors are curtains.\u00a0 We just can\u2019t do it.\u00a0 We just can\u2019t.\u201d\u00a0 So, I knew that Brian was getting very frustrated.\u00a0 He was like, \u201cWe have got to do something about this!\u201d\u00a0 I\u2019m like: \u201cWe do.\u00a0 Honey, I\u2019m so sorry.\u00a0 We have not calendared this.\u00a0 We have got to do something about this.\u201d\u00a0 We were really missing each other.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>So, I was like, \u201cWhat are we going to do?\u201d\u00a0 He goes, \u201cLet\u2019s go camping.\u201d\u00a0 I thought: \u201cThat\u2019s a great idea!\u00a0 Let\u2019s go camping!\u201d\u00a0 I was like, \u201cWhere do you want to go?\u201d\u00a0 He goes, \u201cIn the front yard.\u201d\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 I was like\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>Hey, they owned five acres.\u00a0 They had five acres; right?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 So, he runs and gets our tent. He sets up this little tent in the front yard of my parents\u2019 house.\u00a0 My mom comes out, and she\u2019s like, \u201cWhat are you doing?!\u201d\u00a0 And Brian said, \u201cJen and I are going camping tonight.\u201d\u00a0 She said, \u201cWhy are you going camping in the front yard?\u00a0 Why didn\u2019t you go like\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cI mean, we live in Montana.\u201d\u00a0 Brian turned around and said, \u201cBecause we have not camped in a really, really long time.\u201d\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 And my mom\u2014I think she got it! [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Calendaring your companionship is a good thing.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>It\u2019s something that needs to be done. Women also\u2014and men, I want you to listen to this phrase \/ this is true about men and women\u2014\u201cWomen ebb and flow\u2014sometimes, it\u2019s \u2018Yes\u2019; sometimes, it\u2019s \u2018No.\u2019\u00a0 Men are steady and strong\u2014they are always ready to get it on.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, men, for you, it\u2019s important to hear that, for a woman, it is ebb and flow\u2014sometimes, it\u2019s \u201cYes\u201d; sometimes, it\u2019s \u201cNo.\u201d\u00a0 It\u2019s not that we\u2019re saying \u201cNo,\u201d to you most of the time, as a man.\u00a0 Sometimes, our bodies are just going through our different cycles; or just as a woman, we are growing older\u2014or whatever it may be.\u00a0 We ebb and flow.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWomen\u2014what you need to learn from this is that\u2014this is such an important part of our man\u2019s life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s a part of how God made him\u2014to be an initiator, to be strong, to be a leader in the relationship, to have that sexual desire for his wife.\u00a0 That\u2019s how God made him.\u00a0 And if we are constantly saying, \u201cNo,\u201d\u2014if we are constantly rejecting him \/ if we\u2019re constantly acting like we\u2019re not interested at all\u2014it does hurt his very heart.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ve heard it said by Brian and other men that we\u2019ve talked to that, when a man and woman have sex together, it\u2019s like a medicine for his soul.\u00a0 It\u2019s like a natural antidepressant.\u00a0 It makes him feel respected and loved like nothing else does.\u00a0 It\u2019s a place where he can feel safe when the world is falling apart.\u00a0 It\u2019s a place where you can make him feel safe and loved.\u00a0 So, if we\u2019re always saying, \u201cNo,\u201d \/ if we\u2019re always acting like we\u2019re not interested, it can be a very devastating part of a man\u2019s life.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor both of us to understand that about each other and to realize what it means to our man, then, we can start preparing our minds\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014we can start praying about it.\u00a0 Sometimes, you act your way into a new kind of feeling.\u00a0 Sometimes, you have to start the motions, and your feelings will follow.\u00a0 I have found that to be true about myself\u2014that when I don\u2019t feel like it\u2014when I know it\u2019s the right thing to help my husband, to help our intimacy, to encourage him, and to give that medicine for his soul\u2014then, I start acting my way; and usually, the feelings follow.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>A lot of times, we talk about generalities. I know there are some couples in here, where you\u2019re\u2014as a wife, you\u2019re going: \u201cI wish my husband was interested.\u00a0 I would love for him to be, but he just hasn\u2019t been.\u201d\u00a0 I would ask this question: \u201cWhat\u2019s fueling your expectations?\u00a0 What\u2019s fueling your expectations?\u201d\u00a0 I could spend a whole session on this because the truth of the matter is a lot of the reasons why we have this going on is because we\u2019re fueling\u2014we\u2019re letting stuff get into our eyes and into our brain that just isn\u2019t reality.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPornography is a <em>huge<\/em> problem. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re actually doing a documentary on this for adolescents because science is now catching up to God\u2019s truth that there is something about\u2014that when you fuel your brain with that\u2014not only as the world\u2019s first visual drug now that the internet has made it completely accessible to everybody\u2014it\u2019s a drug because it taps into the same neurochemicals as cocaine and heroin do.\u00a0 When you look at it, it programs your brain to think that\u2019s what reality is \/ that\u2019s what reality should be.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, I think that\u2019s why Job 31:1 says, \u201cI\u2019ve made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully upon a woman.\u201d\u00a0 God puts that in His Word, not because He is the fun police, but because He knows exactly how you\u2019re most going to experience fun.\u00a0 And it\u2019s not <em>there<\/em> because the truth of the matter is\u2014what porn does\u2014it takes your expectation meter and puts it way over here.\u00a0 Then, when you finally become intimate with another person, you don\u2019t ever experience that and you get more frustration.\u00a0 So, it becomes a law of diminishing returns. And yet, we go there because we are frustrated, as men.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd it\u2019s not just men; right?\u00a0 It is women\u2014<em>Fifty Shades of Grey<\/em> \/ all the stuff that\u2019s out there\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014these shows \/ these TV things that we let come into our brain\u2014they are fueling these expectations that reality can\u2019t meet. \u201cThe enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy; but I\u2019ve come to give you life, and life more abundantly.\u201d\u00a0 Keep intimacy within the sexual relationship.\u00a0 So, what\u2019s fueling those expectations?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, thirdly, do you need help?\u00a0 Do you need help?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes, we feel like this is such an important part of a relationship that\u2014if you\u2019re here today, and you\u2019re listening to this, and you\u2019re really struggling\u2014you\u2019re not alone.\u00a0 Do not think that your struggle is weird or strange.\u00a0 We have spoken around the country, and we have heard a lot of different stories.\u00a0 Your struggle is not weird, and you\u2019re not alone.\u00a0 Because this part of your relationship is so important, <em>please<\/em> get help.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tObviously, we haven\u2019t even scratched the surface of so many different issues and different things you can do and different things; but you have the strength to do it. I always say to women\u2014and now, since we\u2019re\u2014I usually speak to just women, but since we\u2019re in a mixed group, get some different books or resources that can help you in this situation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, if that\u2019s not working or if you feel like you need to go to another step, meet with someone personally.\u00a0 Maybe, just talk about it with a close Christian friend or mentor.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd finally, if that\u2014if you still have, maybe, some deep issues\u2014I know there are issues of abuse, there are issues of past sexual partners, and all sorts of things.\u00a0 Maybe, it would be worth it for you to talk to a counselor\u2014someone who could really draw out some issues and help you with these things.\u00a0 So, get yourself some help.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe feel like this part of your relationship is something that really needs to be taken care of and fostered. It\u2019s an important thing for both a husband and a wife.\u00a0 So, if that\u2019s you today and today\u2019s the day you feel like: \u201cYou know what?\u00a0 I need to get some help,\u201d today could be your first step in talking to someone about that or looking into the resources that can help you.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 That\u2019s a great proverb that Jen read from.\u00a0 I think you can go and close it with that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Okay.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYes, it\u2019s Proverbs 24, verse 6.\u00a0 Can you put the light on it?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>Yes, I can.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Okay.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>Hold on.\u00a0 Here we go.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jen: <\/strong>\u201c\u2026for by wise guidance you can wage your war\u201d\u2014I love that.\u00a0 \u201c\u2026for by wise guidance you can wage your war\u201d\u2014your war against pornography, your war against past abuse, your war against sexual intimacy relationship that\u2019s not where you want it to be.\u00a0 \u201c\u2026for by wise guidance you can wage your war, and in abundance of counselors there is victory.\u201d\u00a0 There can be victory for you in this area, and with an abundance of counselors\u2014with all those resources I mentioned\u2014there can be victory in this area.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brian: <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 The last thing\u2014and I\u2019ll just mention it\u2014is not only did God create sex for procreation, for pleasure, but for proclamation of the gospel.\u00a0 In Ephesians 5, it says that the intimacy of oneness is really a physical picture of a spiritual reality\u2014that our oneness mirrors Christ loving the church.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>So, when you make love to one person for a lifetime, it is a physical reminder\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014God is watching you.\u00a0 I know that\u2019s kind of freaky.\u00a0 God is watching you, and He is celebrating your sex.\u00a0 He is cheering for your intimacy, and He doesn\u2019t just want it for a three-year life span.\u00a0 He wants you to love your spouse for a lifetime \/ that intimacy for a lifetime.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSure, it\u2019s going to change over time \/ it\u2019s going to alter.\u00a0 Your reality is going to shift and change, and some of you aren\u2019t in the best places right now.\u00a0 That\u2019s okay because here\u2019s the deal\u2014everybody looks good from a distance, but you want to be loved up close.\u00a0 You and I were <em>made<\/em> to be loved up close.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd when I love my wife \/ when my wife loves me in the most intimate of moments, it says to each other the gospel: \u201cI see you.\u00a0 I <em>know<\/em> you, and I want to pursue you.\u00a0 I see you in your weakness.\u00a0 I see you in your age.\u00a0 I see you in your inconsistencies.\u00a0 I see you in your failures.\u00a0 I see you in your sin, and I\u2019m willing to give myself to you.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe think that we can love someone \/ be fascinated with that person for 25 or 30 years\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014if we\u2019re expecting that person to love us, it\u2019s unrealistic; but if I change my thinking to start thinking that it\u2019s <em>my<\/em> joy to be able to love Jen for the rest of our lives and that intimacy is a way that I can pursue her needs and not just my needs, then, I\u2019m learning how to love someone the way that I want to be loved\u2014the way that God loves me.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim Keller said this about marriage\u2014he said, \u201cTo be loved but not known is comforting but superficial; to be known and not loved is our greatest fear.\u00a0 And we\u2019ve all felt that rejection\u2014somebody sees me, they know me, they leave me.\u00a0 But to be fully known and loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd when we are fully known, fully seen, and fully pursued consistently over time, it proclaims the gospel over, and over, and over again to each other\u2014that: \u201cI love you as you are, not as I would expect you to be because that\u2019s how God loves us.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, again today, we\u2019ve been listening to a message from Brian and Jen Goins talking about intimacy in marriage and, really, lifting our sights to the fact that this is much more than just about whether we had a pleasant experience being together as husband and wife.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes, it\u2019s the developing of a relationship over a long haul.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd Bob, where else can you spend almost six full days getting a biblical perspective of marriage, and God, and your relationship with your spouse, and be better equipped at the end of the time than on the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise?\u00a0 I just want to encourage people: \u201cGo to this thing!\u00a0 It really is a slam dunk.\u201d\u00a0 Have you got an anniversary that you need to celebrate early or late?\u00a0 Find a way to make it to this cruise\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014start saving now, if you have to, to make it work and join us.\u00a0 You will not be sorry that you did.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You left out the free ice cream.\u00a0 I mean, it\u2019s all that biblical teaching and all of that, but you can go get ice cream anytime you want\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Still working it off.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014and pizza anytime you want too.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I didn\u2019t get much of that, but I hit the ice cream machine.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I saw you trolling by.\u00a0 [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It\u2019s fun.\u00a0 It really is fun.\u00a0 And this year, we made custom flip flops\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>We did.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014for everybody.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>That was fun.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob: <\/strong>Still have mine in my closet.\u00a0 I haven\u2019t broken them out.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I don\u2019t have them in my closet.\u00a0 I\u2019m going to the beach later on this month.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I\u2019m going to break them out here in a little bit.\u00a0 I just haven\u2019t gotten them out of the closet yet.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI mentioned earlier that we\u2019re about to run out of cabin space for next year\u2019s cruise, and the prices go up at the end of the week.\u00a0 So, if you are interested in joining us on the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise, now is the time to get in touch with us.\u00a0 If you have any questions, call 1-800-FL-TODAY; or you can go online to FamilyLifeToday.com and plan to be with us as we set sail from New Orleans next February for the 2017 <em>Love Like You Mean It <\/em>marriage cruise.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, congratulations are in order today to Jim and Kimmie Jacobs, who live in Cary, North Carolina.\u00a0 The Jacobs are <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners, and today is their 26<sup>th<\/sup> wedding anniversary.\u00a0 At FamilyLife, we think anniversaries matter.\u00a0 We think your anniversary matters.\u00a0 And as the Proud Sponsor of Anniversaries<sup>\u2122<\/sup>, we wanted to wish the Jacobs a happy anniversary.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019d love to wish you a happy anniversary.\u00a0 You can get in touch with us and let us know when your anniversary is.\u00a0 We\u2019ll have some tips and ideas for you about how to make this a great anniversary celebration this year.\u00a0 Just go to FamilyLifeToday.com and leave us your anniversary if you\u2019d like to receive those tips.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then, thanks to those of you who support this ministry and help make all that we do, here at FamilyLife, possible.\u00a0 We\u2019re grateful for your financial support. Let me just say, \u201cHappy anniversary!\u201d in advance for whenever your anniversary is coming up this year: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cWay to go!\u00a0 Hang in there!\u00a0 Keep going.\u00a0 Way to keep your promises.\u00a0 Good job.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, I hope you can join us back tomorrow when Matt Hammitt is going to be here.\u00a0 Up until recently, Matt was the lead singer of the group Sanctus Real.\u00a0 He\u2019ll share why he and his wife Sarah made the decision for him to step away from the group and about how he is stepping up into a new role.\u00a0 We\u2019ll cover all of that tomorrow.\u00a0 Hope you can be with us for that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I\u2019m Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas.\u00a0 Help for today.\u00a0 Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you.\u00a0 However, there is a cost to produce them for our website.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would you consider <a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/donate\">donating today<\/a> to help defray the costs?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tCopyright <sup>\u00a9<\/sup> 2016 FamilyLife. 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