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It switches somewhere, along the line\u2014to becoming a control issue, to becoming a management issue, to becoming a critical issue\u2014where I am being his <em>mother<\/em> and not his helper. I\u2019m being his parent and not his partner.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think that is the lesson\u2014it\u2019s that we, as women \/ we, as wives, need to be aware and to recognize when it does and to say: \u201cOh yeah! I need to be his friend. We\u2019re peers, we\u2019re equals, we\u2019re teammates; and we can work this out together,\u201d rather than it\u2014letting it become this great obstacle.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Wednesday, February 17<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. How can a wife be a helper to her husband? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re going to explore that today with Barbara Rainey. Stay tuned.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. I had somebody share something with me a long time ago. I always thought this was interesting\u2014they were talking about the ministry of the Holy Spirit in our life. They were saying that the word for the Holy Spirit in the Bible is the word, <em>Paraclete<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>What they said was: \u201cThere\u2019s a difference between a <em>paraclete<\/em> and a parasite. A parasite is something that attaches itself to you and just sucks the life out of you.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u201cA <em>paraclete<\/em> is something that attaches itself to you and pours life into you.\u201d I mean, that\u2019s always stuck with me. I\u2019ve thought, \u201cThat\u2019s not only true of our relationship with the Holy Spirit\u2014He does attach Himself to us and pours life into us\u2014but <em>all<\/em> of our relationships tend to be parasite or <em>paraclete<\/em> relationships\u201d; don\u2019t you think?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> They do. It\u2019s interesting\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014that in the Scripture, God refers to Himself as our Helper. I think the Holy Spirit is our Helper.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> He comforts us \/ He gives us the power to live the Christian life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Jesus said, \u201cI will send another Helper,\u201d\u2014indicating that He had been the Helper. So Helper really\u2014God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit\u2014are all identified as \u201cHelper.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That\u2019s right; but if you go all the way back to the beginning of the Bible, the first use of the word, \u201chelper,\u201d is not referring to God but referring to the woman that God made for man.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I know, for Barbara, who joins us again on <em>FamilyLife Today\u2014<\/em>Barbara, welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Thank you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> She\u2019s written a book that is\u2014was first written for our daughters, as they married, and our daughters-in-law as they married our sons. One of the first sections of the book talks about the role of being a helper. You believe that\u2019s important; don\u2019t you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara: <\/strong>I do. I think that we have come to think of helper in a more negative sense\u2014\u2014more as a servant. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYet, when you go back to the very beginning\u2014as you were just talking about a minute ago\u2014and realize that God used that term to describe the woman \/ to describe Eve when He made her. He called her helper <em>before<\/em> the whole thing broke down and fell apart in the Garden. It wasn\u2019t Plan B\u2014it wasn\u2019t: \u201cOh, well; now, that you\u2019ve made mistakes, and I\u2019m kicking you out of the Garden, and you\u2019re going to have to start living in a different place\u2014<em>now<\/em>, you have to be the helper,\u201d\u2014it was helper from the very beginning. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf we really focus on that, and think about that, it means that I was made, as a female, to be a helper\u2014I was built for that, I was fashioned for that, I was designed for that. It\u2019s not a second thought \/ it\u2019s not Plan B\u2014it\u2019s not an afterthought. It\u2019s intuitive in who I am, as a female, to be helper in the same way that God is helper to us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You say, in the book\u2014when you got married, you say, \u201cI was eager to begin being my husband\u2019s helper; but beyond cooking for him and doing our laundry, I honestly had no idea what the concept \/ the assignment really meant.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I think there are a lot of women who, when they hear the term, \u201chelper,\u201d\u2014they think, \u201cWhat is it if it\u2019s not cooking, cleaning, and laundry?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Those things are a part of what each individual couple works out\u2014who does the cooking \/ who does the laundry. All of that is a creative blend of the two that are in the marriage unit. And often\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Who does the cooking at your house? I\u2019m just curious\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Well, you know, right now, he does! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> But for the past 35 years, she did! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You\u2019ve given\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So I\u2019ve got\u2014I\u2019ve got a long time\u2014[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> I delegated! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014I\u2019ve got a long time to catch up in this deal.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes; yes. We have traded places on that one; but the point is\u2014is that, oftentimes and through the centuries, most women have done those tasks in the marriage relationship. That isn\u2019t really what helper is all about. Helper is <em>far<\/em> <em>greater<\/em> than that\u2014it\u2019s me completing my husband. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s me\u2014and who I am, and the way God made me, as a woman and as an individual\u2014completing him, making him better than he is on his own or making him more complete \/ more fulfilled. It\u2019s me helping him, though the years, become all God intended for him to be. It\u2019s far more of a person-building \/ it\u2019s far more of a relationship-building concept than it is just tasks around the house, which is what we\u2019ve relegated it to.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>The phrase I used\u2014the <em>paraclete\u2014<\/em>to attach yourself to him and pour life into him.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> There really is something that a wife can\u2014she can pour life into her husband; can\u2019t she?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Oh, absolutely. That\u2019s why I have written about it in this section\u2014about the example that the Holy Spirit is to us because the Holy Spirit does give us life. I think, in ways that we, as women, don\u2019t realize\u2014we give life to our husbands. I think the analogies between the two are great.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You\u2019re not saying your role is to be the Holy Spirit to your husband.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> No. [Laughter] I am not to be the Holy Spirit, and convict him of sin, any more than he is to be Jesus Christ for me. But we model\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But you can learn; yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> \u2014he models and imitates what Christ did in His sacrifice\u2014and I can model my helping and being a helper after what the Holy Spirit does for us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Before we talk about what it means to truly be the helper, one of the things you believe strongly that it\u2019s <em>not<\/em>\u2014is it\u2019s <em>not<\/em> being your husband\u2019s mother.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Explain what you mean by that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara: <\/strong>I think what happens is\u2014when we women have children and we become, not just wife, but wife <em>and<\/em> mother\u2014there are a lot of things that we do, as mother, that are helping tasks. We\u2019re constantly helping our children get dressed, we\u2019re helping learn to tie their shoes, we help them learn to read, we help them with their homework, we help them get dressed, we help them in relationship issues when they\u2019ve got friends and they\u2019ve got problems in elementary school, junior high, and high school. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong> \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are very much a helper with our children, but it\u2019s an authoritative kind of helper. I\u2019m the one in charge, and my child is to follow me. What happens so often in marriage is\u2014that we wives forget sometimes to switch from being helper as mother to being helper as wife\u2014and they\u2019re very different. I\u2019m not an authority with my husband \/ I\u2019m not his teacher. For me to help him as if I am his teacher and he is to be my pupil\u2014that\u2019s backwards \/ that\u2019s wrong. That\u2019s not the kind of relationship that I\u2019m supposed to have with him as a helper.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And you\u2019re supposed to be able to switch gears on the fly on that kind of a deal?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes, I think so; but that\u2019s where it gets tricky. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So what does it look like if it\u2019s not the kind of helper you would be with a kindergartener or a seventh grader? How is it different?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> It\u2019s different because I have a peer-relationship with my husband\u2014we are equals. I am not a peer with my child\u2014I\u2019m an authority with my child. That\u2019s the fundamental difference. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor instance, Dennis and I had a conversation not too long ago. I don\u2019t know if you\u2019ll remember this\u2014but we recently remodeled our living room. We got our couch recovered\u2014because the kids are gone, we got it recovered in a very light color fabric, which I would have <em>never<\/em> done when we were raising kids. Now, that it\u2019s just the two of us\u2014we can handle this.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNot long after we had finished the remodeling, we had gotten the couch back from being reupholstered. We were eating, and Dennis wanted to eat in the living room. He plopped down on the couch\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I know where this is going. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> \u2014with his plate.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Never happened at your place; has it Bob?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> It wasn\u2019t spaghetti; was it? I hope it wasn\u2019t spaghetti.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> No, it wasn\u2019t spaghetti\u2014I don\u2019t know what it was. As we sat there, I\u2019m thinking: \u201cThis isn\u2019t going to work. This isn\u2019t what I had in mind. I don\u2019t think this is a really good place to be eating our dinner.\u201d We began\u2014we had a conversation; and I said, \u201cWhat would you think about always eating over there at the table?\u201d He said, \u201cI really would like to eat and watch TV some.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnyway, the point is that we talked through: \u201cWhere would be an acceptable place for him to eat, in the living room, where he could watch TV\u2014watch a football game on Saturday afternoon.\u201d We decided the couch is not where he would eat. He would eat over there in the chair\u2014it\u2019s on a part of the carpet that doesn\u2019t stain as easily as the part in front of the couch does.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Actually, what she encouraged me to do is run\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara: <\/strong>So are you saying you don\u2019t remember it this way?\u00a0[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014run an extension cord outside and eat it in a lawn chair in front of the TV in the yard. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara: <\/strong>Where there is a hose! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You didn\u2019t put a bib on him or [Laughter] say, \u201cYou sit in this chair.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We were just talking about being a mother; were we not?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> That\u2019s right; we were!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s what\u2014so this is an illustration of how you help your husband? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Well, it\u2019s an illustration of how I\u2014yes, how I help him [Laughter] eat like an adult\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>We worked it out.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> We did!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>We worked it out, and it is okay. I do think the point is\u2014if you listen carefully to the illustration Barbara gave, we had a discussion.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> \u2014as peers. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI wasn\u2019t telling you that you couldn\u2019t eat on the couch\u2014I said: \u201cWould you be willing to eat over there?\u201d \/ \u201cCould we work out a compromise?\u201d was the gist of the conversation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> What I\u2019d want a man to hear in the midst of this is that he has a very important assignment\u2014to respect his wife, and her opinion, and her values, and what she\u2019s about at that point\u2014not just do what he wants to do. Philippians 2\u2014we\u2019ve quoted that many times, here on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>: \u201c\u2026not merely looking out for your own interests but for the interests of others.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> These little confrontations we\u2019re talking about here are a clash of values. They don\u2019t have to turn out and become where the wife ends up being the <em>mother<\/em> of the husband.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You tell about, how in your marriage\u2014when you are travelling, back in the days before cell phones\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014you used to <em>mother<\/em> your husband in the airport?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes. You know what\u2019s interesting about this dilemma for women is\u2014I don\u2019t think we start out with that kind of an attitude. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think we genuinely\/sincerely want to help. It just sort of evolves into a more parental attitude without even trying.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor instance, in the airport, when we used to travel before cell phones, Dennis would always want to make good use of his time. He\u2019d walk across the area to another gate\u2014wherever there happened to be a pay phone\u2014and he would start making phone calls. I would sit in the waiting area and watch as every last passenger boarded the plane. They were about to close the door, and he was still on the phone.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tInitially, I remember thinking: \u201cHe must not know that they\u2019re boarding the plane. He must have not been paying attention.\u201d I would get up and go over, and motion at the gate, and motion at my watch. He\u2019d go, \u201cI know; I know.\u201d He\u2019d get off the phone, and we\u2019d get on the plane. Then the next time I would do the same thing. After a while, I started to become irritated because I thought, \u201cI have to remind him all the time.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> How many flights have we missed?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Well, that\u2019s the point!\u00a0 We <em>never<\/em> missed a flight because you were on the phone! [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut initially, I genuinely thought he didn\u2019t know what time it was and that he didn\u2019t\u2014he was so engaged in the phone call that he didn\u2019t realize they were boarding. I wanted to help so that we didn\u2019t miss the flight. Over time, it became more of a parental attitude on my part.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I was going to say\u2014I was going to say that\u2014parental.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> It really was because I thought: \u2018What\u2019s the deal? Why can\u2019t he get off the phone, and we can board with everybody else?\u201d Then I started becoming critical.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo my point is\u2014is that I think what we struggle with, as wives, is not necessarily starting out with a condescending attitude or a parental attitude. We really, genuinely want to help from our hearts; but it just sort of goes downhill sometimes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Let me take that, as an illustration though, and just ask this question: \u201cHow can a wife, in a situation like that, be a true helper?\u201d The point here is\u2014you\u2019re not going to answer that question in the heat of the moment. You do it some other time when you\u2019re not travelling. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe wife just simply says to her husband, \u201cWhen everybody\u2019s boarding, what would you like me to do?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Exactly\u2014which is what I finally did.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u201cWould you like me to come over and let you know, or am I to just trust you with that?\u201d At that point\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014it is two peers respecting each other\u2014and the husband feeling like he\u2019s being trusted. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>He may\u2014as I did\u2014he may want her help.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Okay? That\u2019s good! You\u2019re working as teammates at that point. I think, at critical times like this\u2014we allow these little rough spots like this to become major disagreements\u2014at which we have a big argument and it ends up ruining the trip.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> As I read through this part of the book, I have to confess to you that I think one of the challenges that I think a lot of wives \/ a lot of women struggle with is the issue of control.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara: <\/strong>Yes; definitely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u201cI want to be in control of my environment. I feel safer if I\u2019m in control of things.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> No question; no question. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So this impulse to want to be a helper\u2014sometimes is not, \u201cI want to help my husband,\u201d\u2014it\u2019s: \u201cI want to manage my husband\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cand control my husband because I feel more comfortable.\u201d You\u2019re waving and saying, \u201cEverybody else is boarding,\u201d\u2014not because you\u2019re trying to help him\u2014but because you\u2019re getting nervous, and you\u2019d like to get on the plane.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And he needs to hurry up and get on there with you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> No question.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> It\u2019s not helping\u2014it\u2019s controlling. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong>And that\u2019s why I\u2019m saying it\u2019s a difficult thing because I think, in most women\u2019s hearts, we do start out\u2014in the early years, especially\u2014genuinely wanting to help. It switches somewhere, along the line\u2014to becoming a control issue, to becoming a management issue, to becoming a critical issue\u2014where I am being his <em>mother<\/em> and not his helper. I\u2019m being his parent and not his partner.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think that is the lesson is that we, as women \/ we, as wives, need to be aware\u2014that that shift happens\u2014and to recognize when it does and to say: \u201cOh yeah; I\u2019m being his mother, not his partner. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cI need to be his friend\u2014we\u2019re peers, we\u2019re equals, we\u2019re teammates\u2014and we can work this out together rather than letting it become this great obstacle.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So for wives\u2014as they look at the subject of being a helper to their husbands\u2014here\u2019s the question I would encourage every wife to ask her husband: \u201cSweetheart, how can I be a better, customized helper to you?\u201d because I really believe, Bob, if we could somehow zoom back and look at an individual marriage through God\u2019s eyes\u2014I believe He\u2019s made the husband and the wife for one another. He made them with differences\u2014with unique strengths, and abilities, and weaknesses\u2014so they need each other and so they complement each other. I think many couples can live a lifetime and never ever understand how the wife\u2014 specifically: \u201cIn what areas \/ how can she be a customized helper for her husband?\u201d\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014and then take good notes at what he says.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Well, and that\u2019s what I\u2014one of the points that I really am hoping will come across in this book to my daughters\u2014I want them to see the beauty that God has made in marriage\u2014that the way I help my husband is different than the way Mary Ann helps you, Bob\u2014\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> \u2014different than the way my daughters will help their husbands because my husband needs something different than you would need. That\u2019s the <em>wonderful<\/em> thing about marriage. God gave us very <em>few<\/em> <em>rules<\/em> for marriage\u2014He gave us some guidelines to run on \/ some very specific things in Scripture\u2014but He didn\u2019t give us a hundred things to do in marriage. He gave us <em>very<\/em> <em>few<\/em>. Within that wonderful definition of marriage that we get out of Scripture, there is endless ability to be creative because we are two unique people. God wants us to design a unique relationship between the two of us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Okay; I\u2019ve got two questions. The first is: \u201cThere are some wives who are hearing this and going, \u2018Well shouldn\u2019t this thing work both ways? I mean, why am I the helper? Shouldn\u2019t he be the helper to me too? Aren\u2019t we supposed to help one another?\u2019\u201d You\u2019re talking about teammates\u2014so you\u2019re the helper, but he\u2019s the helper too; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes; I think Dennis should answer that, but I think the real bottom line is\u2014is that God has called men to serve. In that serving\u2014of the husband serving the wife\u2014that\u2019s how he helps. He\u2019s not given the title of helper, but he\u2019s given the title of servant-leader. That\u2019s how he would help his wife.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes, I think Barbara mentioned the key term there\u2014servant-leader. A husband is given the title, in Ephesians 5, \u201chead,\u201d\u2014he is the authority. The buck does stop with him. He has responsibility to deny himself, to love his wife as Christ loved the church, and to be\u2014as Barbara said\u2014a servant-leader of her and meeting her needs.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI don\u2019t think a husband\u2014in the sense of what we\u2019re talking about a wife being a helper\u2014is to be his wife\u2019s helper. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think he\u2019s to be\u2014the servant, the lover, the leader, the nourisher, the cherisher of her soul, and to look out for her best interest, and her horizons, and maximize her life\u2014but he\u2019s got a different assignment\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014with her than she has with him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, in fact, I was meeting with a group of guys recently. We were talking about this designation of servant-leader. We all kind of agreed that maybe it would be better to refer to husbands as shepherd-leaders than servant-leaders because the servant idea can\u2014can almost make it sound like: \u201cAs long as your wife\u2019s happy, you\u2019re doing what you need to do.\u201d That\u2019s the trap I fell in, for years\u2014was to think, \u2018As long as Mary Ann\u2019s happy\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cthen I\u2019m\u2014I\u2019m being what God wants me to be.\u201d It\u2019s not necessarily her momentary happiness that I should be focused on\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s not.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014it\u2019s the shepherding and leading of her\u2014wisely, gently, carefully, feeding, guiding, caring for her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014protecting.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s right. So it was a\u2014it was a helpful metaphor\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014to say: \u201cA man should be a shepherd-leader and a wife should respond and should help in that process.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy other question, though, for you is for the wife who would say: \u201cIf I went to my husband and said, \u2018How would you like me to be your customized helper?\u2019 he would say, \u2018Get off my back and leave me alone! Just let me do what I want to do.\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> But that\u2019s not a good answer.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So does she tell him that?!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Well, I think she frames the question a little differently. I think she says, in a particular situation\u2014like, when Dennis and I were travelling, I could have said to him, \u201cIs there anything I can do to help you so that we can get on our flight on time?\u201d rather than some generic question that he might not be able to put words to. It\u2019d be much better if she said, \u201cHow can I help you when we are\u2026\u201d or \u201c\u2026when this situation happens?\u201d or \u201cHow can I encourage you when you\u2019ve had a bad day at work?\u201d If she will be specific, then she might get a more specific answer that would be easier for her to perhaps know what to do with.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But if he says, \u201cJust leave me alone,\u201d how does she respond to that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> I think she needs to say: \u201cWhat do you mean by leave you alone? What do you want me to back off on?\u201d I think\u2014if she really, genuinely wants to be a better helper\u2014then she needs to ask some follow-up questions \/ find out: \u201cWhat does he mean by that?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I think, over a lifetime together, this is a great question to interact about. In fact, we\u2019d been married for 38 years before the thought ever occurred to me. I was talking to Barbara about her book\u2014just to explore a little bit: \u201cWhat have we learned in our marriage about how you are a great helper to me?\u201d One of the areas she is\u2014is she\u2019s a wise counsellor. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> She gives me the perspective that I most count on for my life, from a human perspective. Now, I go to the Bible for my guidance and to guide in prayer; but she\u2019s my closest friend\u2014knows me well, looking out for my best interest in multiple ways. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI go to her for her advice, her counsel, and her perspective. She is a <em>great<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: \u2014<\/strong>helper in that area. I think, for a man, if he can just pull back and ask\u2014if you\u2019ve been married 10 years: \u201cHow is your wife a great helper to you? How do you see her having been designed by God to help you?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnother way for Barbara is\u2014and I told her this\u2014she brings great beauty to my life. She\u2019s an artist\u2014she likes design \/ she notices things <em>years<\/em> before I do. [Laughter] Then she points them out and I enjoy them. Because of her in my life\u2014not only is she beautiful\u2014but she brings beauty to my life and an appreciation for the aesthetics that God has created.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> She keeps the sofa looking beautiful, too, by assigning you a place to sit. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Now Bob, I didn\u2019t <em>assign<\/em> now\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014in the yard! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> \u2014we agreed!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014in the garage, with the hose! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> The thing is\u2014this is a part of the reality of marriage that you guys have, after more than 40 years of being together\u2014you\u2019ve figured out how to make all of this work. Barbara\u2014now for you to be speaking into the lives of younger women \/ younger wives\u2014I\u2019m really excited about the book that is now available: <em>Letters to My Daughters: The Art of Being a Wife<\/em> by Barbara Rainey. You can go online at FamilyLifeToday.com in order to request a copy of the book, or you can call us at 1-800-FL-TODAY. Again, the title is <em>Letters to My Daughters<\/em> by Barbara Rainey. Order, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call us at 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBy the way, I should have you give the shout-out today to some friends of ours, Keith and Mary Kirkland, celebrating their 15<sup>th<\/sup> wedding anniversary today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThey live in Montgomery, Alabama\u2014listen to WLBF. Mary is a <em>big<\/em> fan of the resources you\u2019ve created for homes in the Ever Thine Home collection. They\u2019ve got the Easter banner, they\u2019ve got Adorenaments, they\u2019ve got your \u201cBehold the Lamb\u201d resource\u2014I mean, she\u2019s got a bunch of stuff in her home, and they\u2019re friends of this ministry. They\u2019ve helped support the work that <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is doing. If it weren\u2019t for friends, like the Kirklands, <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> couldn\u2019t do all that we do. We\u2019re listener-supported, and your donations make this ministry possible. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDuring this month, we are hoping that God would raise up, from among our listeners, 20 new families in every state\u2014who would be brand-new Legacy Partners\u2014monthly donors, supporting the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. We\u2019d like to ask you to consider being one of the families in your state helping to keep <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> on the air in this community. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can become a Legacy Partner by going to FamilyLifeToday.com. Click the link that says, \u201cDONATE,\u201d\u2014the information\u2019s available there\u2014or call 1-800- FL-TODAY and say, \u201cI want to become a Legacy Partner.\u201d We hope to hear from you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe hope you can join us back tomorrow when we\u2019re going to talk about what\u2019s at the heart of being a godly woman. Priscilla Shirer is going to join us, and we\u2019ll talk about a godly woman\u2019s priorities tomorrow. Hope you can be here for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. 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