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Michelle Anthony talks about six different dysfunctional parenting styles moms and dads often default to, like micromanaging or being critical.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2015-08-21.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You\u2019ve heard about the helicopter parent\u2014right?\u2014the micromanager. Is that you?\u00a0 Here\u2019s Michelle Anthony. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Michelle: <\/strong>What\u2019s interesting about the micromanaging parent\u2014the one who has to be in control\u2014if you stop and think about it, the things that matter most to us in our lives are completely out of our control. So, what we do is\u2014we create an illusion by micromanaging the smaller things\u2014to think that: \u201cIn the abundance of a lot of things, I\u2019m actually in control.\u201d\u00a0 When really the important and the big things\u2014we\u2019re not. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Friday, August 21<sup>st<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. There are some parenting strategies that work pretty well and others that don\u2019t work very well at all. We\u2019ll talk about how you can grow a spiritually-healthy family today. Stay tuned. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us on the Friday edition. You think you and Barbara were ever helicopter parents?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I think with six kids\u2014I think it\u2019s impossible. I think you\u2019d have a split personality if you tried ever. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>What about\u2014there is also the tiger mom. Do you know what the tiger mom is?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I have heard of that one. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That driver parent, who is trying to make every child into a perfect child. I guess with six you can\u2019t\u2014you\u2019ve got to abandon that hope too. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I don\u2019t know, though, if you\u2019ve got a couple of hard-driving parents\u2014which Barbara and I were\u2014we might have erred on that side a bit; but we were aware that we were like that. So, we really asked God, \u201cHelp us, and save us from our own weaknesses here.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>We\u2019ve got an author of an excellent book called <em>Becoming a Spiritually Healthy Family<\/em>. Michelle Anthony joins us again on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Welcome back, Michelle. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Thank you. Thank you for having me back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Michelle has been married to her husband Michael for 27 years. They have two children\u2014live in Colorado Springs. She does work for David C. Cook in their curriculum division. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd Michelle, I want to go back to the question, \u201cWhat does a spiritually healthy family look like?\u201d because I think your little synopsis of that is really\u2014well, how shall I say it?\u2014healthy. [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014helpful. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Helpful and healthy. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Well, it\u2019s a word picture. I like to envision things rather than big lists of to-do\u2019s and to-don\u2019ts. It\u2019s to envision a director\u2019s chair in my home. Then, at any moment, to say: \u201cGod, are You writing this script?\u00a0 Are You calling the shots?\u00a0 Are You allowed to be First-in-charge?\u00a0 Or am I picking up that script and deleting lines and adding scenes because I think I should have more or better?\u201d\u00a0 Whoever is sitting in that chair is a really good gauge of whether we are dysfunctional any day or we\u2019re spiritually healthy. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, is it possible to be a spiritually healthy family if you\u2019re a helicopter parent, or a tiger mom, or some of these labels we hear about in the culture?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Michelle: <\/strong>I think on any given day, I can be any of those things. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>In fact, this book could be an autobiography because, on any given day\u2014if I just sit in that chair for a day\u2014then, yes, I can be those things. Spiritual health is not something you undo in a moment. That\u2019s the grace of the good news of the gospel. So, if I eat something terrible today, I don\u2019t all of a sudden become instantly unhealthy; right?\u2014it was a bad day. We have to give kindness and grace to ourselves\u2014as parents, we are really tough on each other and ourselves. So, no, I can be spiritually healthy and have a helicopter day. I can be spiritually healthy and have a micromanaging day, but I need to recognize it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You talk about six different dysfunctional parenting styles. I do think you are right. I think we can all suffer from all six of these; but just a high-fly-by real quickly\u2014the double-minded parent, who is trying to please everybody; the \u201cI can\u2019t say, \u2018No,\u2019\u201d parent, who is kind of the people-pleaser \/ wants to please the child\u2014that\u2019s a mistake\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014the driver parent \/ that\u2019s the tiger. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes, that\u2019s the tiger mom\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014the driver. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Oh, yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And what\u2019s the core problem there with a driver parent?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Well, I\u2019m measuring my success by how much I can accomplish or gain. I\u2019m not really\u2014I don\u2019t have a good sense of my identity, that\u2019s grounded in Christ, that\u2019s outside of those things that I do. It\u2019s really\u2014I\u2019m defining myself by who I am \/ by what I do\u2014and not who I am in Christ. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, the driver parent is not so much driving the child as driving herself or himself?\u00a0 <br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Well, they are. They do that; and then, by extension\u2014because your children are extensions of you\u2014you will also drive them, and drive them crazy, probably, in the midst of it; right?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And how does a child feel in the midst of that?\u00a0 Do they feel like they are being driven, literally, off a cliff?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>You know, I think, as children, they manifest signs of this; but they probably don\u2019t know it until later. But what happens\u2014my husband was the product of a driver dad. What happens is\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014then you are constantly seeking that. You\u2019re constantly going after for the next thing that you can accomplish, and it\u2019s never satisfying. It\u2019s this well that you never get to the bottom of, and it just deteriorates your identity. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>There is also the absentee parent; the micromanaging parent; and then, you mention the criticizing parent. Let\u2019s talk about that one for a moment. I think parents are there\u2014obviously, they are trying to help a child grow up. They are trying to correct bad behaviors. It\u2019s hard not to fall into this one and be critical of a child because they get a \u201cC\u201d instead of a \u201cB\u201d or an \u201cA.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Right. And so much of our parenting is to correct. So, it is easy, as you say, to fall into criticizing. Oftentimes, people can be criticizing their child; and they really have it from a place of love in their life. They are saying: \u201cWell, man, if I don\u2019t point this out in my child\u2019s life, somebody else will. Wouldn\u2019t they rather it come from me?\u201d or \u201cI want my child to strive for more.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s the tone and the delivery of these words. You know, it\u2019s the <em>how<\/em> these are delivered. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe Bible tells us in Proverbs 18:21 that death and life are in the power of the tongue. Our words have the power to bless or to curse. We have to be asking ourselves, as a parent: \u201cAre these words to bless my child?\u201d or \u201cAm I just frustrated and angry, and I\u2019m just fed up, and these words will really be a curse to my child?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You talk in your book about different ways we can bless our child. I really think these are good. If you would, just give us a quick illustration of each of these. The first one is admiration. How do you show that to your children?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>A blessing of admiration is to affirm something about who they are\u2014not necessarily their looks or what they do\u2014but who they are: \u201cWow, you are a good listener,\u201d\u2014\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014I am admiring that in you. We pull something out, and we bless them. We can also do the curse side of that and say, \u201cMy child is shy.\u201d\u00a0 Do you see the difference?\u00a0 One is sort of negative; and one is: \u201cOh, but my child\u2019s a really good listener. That\u2019s why they stand back a little bit.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, say things that build up rather than tear down. The next one is affirmation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>This could be \u201cI see God giving you His heart for those in need.\u201d\u00a0 I am pulling out something that\u2014maybe, this child is generous. Maybe, this child is the first person to give half of their banana when a child doesn\u2019t have food\u2014or whatever it is\u2014and we affirm that in them. So, now, we are identifying them with that so that the next time there is a need, they begin to build that identity. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I think, as parents, we forget that our tongues can either be an icepick that chips away at them or a paint brush that puts a few brush strokes of color on the canvas to help the child realize who he or she is. I think it\u2019s tough to be a kid today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Boy. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I think the demands are off the charts. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>It really is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And as parents, we need to be building them up. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, you admire \/ you affirm. You also talk about appreciation. How is appreciation different than admiring or affirming?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Michelle: <\/strong>It\u2019s an expression of gratitude. We are going to give that appreciation to God but through that child. So, you can say, \u201cThank you for helping me,\u201d of course\u2014but \u201cI give thanks to God for providing for us, and you were a part of that.\u201d\u00a0 So, we always want to go back to God because, otherwise, it becomes pressure on the child to consistently be that way. \u201cWhat happens the day I eat my whole banana, and I didn\u2019t share?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle<\/strong>: \u201cSo, now, am I not a giving child?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen we used to affirm our children or show appreciation, we would say, \u201cI see God doing this through you.\u201d\u00a0 The pressure is on God\u2014a perfect God. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I heard somebody talk, one time, about noticing evidences of grace in somebody\u2019s life and being able to say: \u201cYou know, what I\u2019ve seen in you\u2014that God\u2019s doing\u2026.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cYou know, I\u2019ve just watched as\u2026.\u201d\u00a0 That changes the whole dynamic rather than saying, \u201cYou\u2019re such a great kid.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Boy. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>It really is saying, \u201cIt\u2019s really great to see how God is at work in you.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Or \u201cGod has given you a clever mind, and you\u2019re using that in the area of math or science,\u201d\u2014but God has given you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes, just remind them of their giftedness\u2014how God made them. This last one, I think, is really good. I wouldn\u2019t have listed this, but I understand what you are talking about here. You bless them by using the concept of anticipation. It\u2019s the concept of hope; isn\u2019t it?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Yes. This is my favorite one. When my children would go to school, I would say something about them to bless them; but then, to help them anticipate how God might work in their life that day. So, \u201cYou\u2019re going to bring a lot of people joy today with your loving and caring ways.\u201d\u00a0 And then, be on the lookout for how you bring joy to someone. Then, at dinner, we can ask them\u2014\u201cHow did you bring joy to someone?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And that can be anticipation for today\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014but you can also be casting a vision that\u2019s longer than that. It can be a: \u201cYou know, God is going to do great things in your life as you grow up,\u201d \u201cThis year is going to be a great year for you.\u201d\u00a0 It\u2019s that kind of blessing and vision casting that\u2019s\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>That\u2019s right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014powerful; isn\u2019t it?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>That\u2019s right. And Moses did it to the people. In Number 6:22-26, we have this beautiful blessing of anticipation that he gave them. He said: \u201cMay the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord make His face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. May the Lord lift up His countenance upon you and give you peace as you go.\u201d\u00a0 So, this is a life one\u2014as you are speaking of. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And it doesn\u2019t stop. I just want our listeners to know\u2014who are in the throes of raising their children today\u2014you\u2019re thinking the needs for these kinds of blessings will end as they go away to their own homes. I\u2019m not raising children today\u2014I am blessing my adult children, who are between the ages of 30 and 40. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Yes, you are. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And I wrote an email this morning to one of them, who will remain anonymous. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just wrote this child and I said: \u201cYou\u2019ve got a big idea here. I just love how you are giving life to it, and how you are leading it, and how you are giving shape to it. Keep going.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Yes. They eat that up. When we bless our children\u2014we have adult children too\u2014they don\u2019t break gaze with our eyes. You know they\u2019re eating it up\u2014sometimes, tears come to their eyes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe power of our words, as parents\u2014I mean, if I were to ask you to think of something negative or positive that your parents said to you, when you were young, you could probably recall it right away. That negative one is right there, and it stings; but the blessing one is right there, and we remember it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Your husband grew up with a dad who was not an affirmer with his words; was he?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>No, I think he was a driving parent\u2014he was critical. My husband never heard those words, \u201cI love you,\u201d until the deathbed\u2014just moments before. So, I am grateful for that; but he spent his whole life, as a son, looking for that blessing. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI call it \u201cthe father\u2019s nod.\u201d\u00a0 We all need that moment where Dad looks at us\u2014he kind of gives that nod and says: \u201cYou have what it takes to be a man in this world. You have been gifted to steward the things that God has given you, and you will do so with success.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd without the father\u2019s nod\u2014and then, his father passed when he was 20\u2014he speaks about how he\u2019s been on a journey, throughout his career and in his relationships, constantly looking and serving: \u201cWho will give me that nod?\u201d and it\u2019s exhausting\u2014it really is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut what God redeems is that\u2014when we had our son, my husband was intent\u2014because he had received the Father\u2019s nod from his Heavenly Father, he could now pass that on, even though it hadn\u2019t been given to him. And he was intent on making sure our son knew that he had been given that nod from his dad.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And there is an illustration in your book about a sailing experience that your husband and your son\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014had together that is classic. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>It\u2019s a story I love because we were all sailing for the day. We had taken our 16-year-old son and his girlfriend, at the time. We got caught in some very rough waters with some very strong wind. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHaving been the mom\u2014raising these two kids together, when there was a crisis, my husband and I would pitch in together\u2014and we would solve it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn this moment, when we hit the crisis, which was that our sails \/ both of our sails failed\u2014which means that, when we were pulling them in, they rolled up tightly on the bow of the ship. We could not pull them in, which meant we were going to go in the direction that the wind was blowing, which was out to sea further. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tInstead of my husband turning to me and saying, \u201cMichelle, we need to fix this problem,\u201d he turned intuitively to my 16-year-old son and said, \u201cBrendan, I need you to go out to the bow of the ship and unfurl the sail.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI watched him go out. There was just water coming over the bow\u2014the wind was blowing. The mom in me is thinking, \u201cThis is unsafe!\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Of course. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>\u201cHe\u2019s going to get hurt.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Of course. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>\u201cSomething terrible is going to happen.\u201d\u00a0 But I felt God\u2019s Spirit, just saying, \u201cYou just be quiet and sit where you are sitting.\u201d\u00a0 And my son\u2014I watched his muscles rippling as he hand-pulled these sails\u2014which we couldn\u2019t do with the mechanism\u2014hand-pull it on the ropes. His hands were bleeding, but he unfurled both of those sails. We were back on course, and we were able to get safe into the harbor. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLater, that week, I was telling this story to a male friend of mine at work. I said, \u201cCan you imagine what a man my son felt like in front of his girlfriend?\u201d\u00a0 He stopped me and he said, \u201cNo, he felt like a man in front of his father.\u201d\u00a0 I hadn\u2019t considered it that way. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was as if, when my husband told my son, \u201cGood job,\u201d and he didn\u2019t baby the bloody hands or any of that\u2014he just said: \u201cYou did good. You helped save our family today,\u201d\u2014that he was passing on that blessing of that father\u2019s nod to him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I\u2019m just wondering if there is a relationship between the critical parent\u2014that we are talking about here\u2014and the other one that you\u2019ve got in your book\u2014the micromanaging parent\u2014because it does seem like there is some overlap. The micromanagers and the criticizers may\u2014if they are not the same person, they come from the same genus and the same species; don\u2019t you think?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Well, you know, the micromanaging\u2014a lot of the time\u2014these are the parents who\u2014they just want to be in control; do you know?\u00a0 A criticizing parent wants to control with our mouth. A micromanager\u2014\u201cI\u2019m going to control with my mouth, my hands, the car, the house\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Everything there is\u2014yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>\u201cI\u2019m going to control everything.\u201d\u00a0 What\u2019s alluring about it is that\u2014 for the\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014for the first year or two\u2014we can control. We begin to think,\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>\u2014\u201cOh, I\u2019m in charge\u201d; but when we start raising our children through adolescence or even early elementary\u2014elementary and adolescence\u2014we begin to realize that we can\u2019t. That\u2019s when we usually insert <em>more<\/em> control. That\u2019s the problem\u2014we think, \u201cWell, now, I need to be more in control,\u201d and that usually leads to certain rebellion. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd what\u2019s interesting about the micromanaging parent\u2014the one who has to be in control\u2014if you stop and think about it, the things that matter most to us in our lives are completely out of our control. Whether or not I am able to get pregnant, whether or not my children or my parents get divorced, whether or not the stock market will crash today or war will break out in my country, whether or not someone I love will get cancer and die, whether or not I will lose my job\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014I mean, we can go on and on\u2014but the things that are most important in our life, we can\u2019t control. Only God can. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat we do is\u2014we create an illusion by micromanaging the smaller things to think that: \u201cIn the abundance of a lot of things, I am actually in control.\u201d\u00a0 When, really, in the important and the big things, we are not. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>There is one last dysfunctional style of parenting\u2014it\u2019s the absentee parent. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>An absentee parent is someone who is just that\u2014they are absent from the scene. Sometimes, this is because they are off working long hours to provide for their family\u2014what they think their family really wants. But when you ask adult children: \u201cWould you rather have had that new iPhone<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>?\u2014or that new iPad<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>?\u2014or toy?\u2014or whatever?\u201d or \u201cWould you have rather had your dad around?\u201d One hundred percent of the time, people will choose their dad. You know, it\u2019s an illusion that our kids want all that stuff. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSometimes, parents are absent because they are out pursuing, maybe, some younger years that they feel like they didn\u2019t have; and they are partying. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThey are off in inappropriate relationships. They are doing their own thing. Then, sometimes, parents are absent when they are physically in the house and their hours are there; but they are <em>emotionally<\/em>-absent. That\u2019s a really painful thing for children too. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>There are a lot of ways we can be absent. I think for this person\u2014or for the person who is married to someone like this\u2014we have to get on something that\u2019s meaningful <em>together. <\/em>I encourage families to write a mission statement together: \u201cWhat is something that we can pursue together\u2014that we are going to agree to, as a family?\u201d\u00a0 God put this person, this person, this person together in this family, at this time in history, for a mission. In that unique combination of those people, He wants to accomplish something\u2014discover that, and to discern that, and then to write that together. We can hold each other accountable to it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf somebody is spending too many hours off set, or if they are not engaging in the right kind of conversations or intimacy levels that they need to, this kind of keeps us back on track. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You know, you would think, leading a marriage and family ministry\u2014that someone, like me, would not suffer from being an absentee parent\u2014but even the ministry can compete with your children as you\u2019re raising them. There were situations where Barbara would kind of wave a white flag, going: \u201cTime out. You need to stop. You need to listen. We\u2019ve often wondered how far we can go; and we\u2019ve found out: \u2018This is too far. This is too fast. Slow down.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And at that point, the absentee parent has to be teachable. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>The one who is doing the correcting has to do it in such a way that makes it probable and profitable\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Yes; right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014for the other person to listen. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>And the mission statement was sort of good for us because we had this thing that we agreed and kind of all signed off on. So, we could call each other back. There were different seasons for my husband and I\u2014both being in ministry. I think I did it poorly, at times\u2014that\u2019s the shouting\/screaming, \u201cYou\u2019re never here!\u201d You know, \u201cBlah, blah, blah,\u201d\u2014that never accomplishes anything. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You did that?!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Once\u2014just one time. [Laughter]\u00a0 Don\u2019t interview my husband. [Laughter]\u00a0 No, but then, there were the times, Dennis, that this was more appropriate: \u201cI know your heart is to serve the Lord in our family, and the needs that you are meeting are so great. But I wonder, if this weekend, we could just spend some time together; and you could just really invest in our children and listen to them.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think that little word of affirmation\u2014to affirm the heart, which is: \u201cI want to serve the Lord,\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019re working so many hours at the office because you are providing for us.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>There you go. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>\u201cThank you for doing that.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>I wish I would have learned that earlier, but those were good words of wisdom. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; and you\u2019ve got a lot of advice\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014not only here, on the radio, as we\u2019ve talked\u2014but much more in your book, <em>Becoming a Spiritually Healthy Family<\/em>. I just want to say: \u201cThanks for joining us on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Hope you\u2019ll keep up the work of challenging moms and dads of building a godly legacy for the next generation.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michelle: <\/strong>Well, thank you. I appreciate it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I think our listeners would find it interesting to just look at those six dysfunctional styles and just ask, \u201cAre any of these true about me?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u201cIs it me, Lord?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes, that\u2019s right: \u201cCould you mean me?\u201d\u00a0 We\u2019ve got copies of Michelle\u2019s book, <em>Becoming a Spiritually Healthy Family<\/em>, in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. Go, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com. Click the link in the upper left-hand corner of the screen that says, \u201cGO DEEPER.\u201d Look for Michelle\u2019s book, <em>Becoming a Spiritually Healthy Family<\/em>. Again, the website: FamilyLifeToday.com. Click the link in the upper left-hand corner of the screen that says, \u201cGO DEEPER.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOrder a copy of the book. Or call 1-800-FL-TODAY, and you can order a copy of the book over the phone\u20141-800-358-6329. That\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then, the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBy the way, while you are on our website, at FamilyLifeToday.com, when you click that link that says, \u201cGO DEEPER,\u201d you\u2019ll see information about the upcoming FamilyLife 30-Day Oneness Prayer Challenge. This is going to start in September. We\u2019re going to be encouraging you, coaching you, prompting you every day to pray together, as a husband and as a wife. All you have to do is sign up\u2014this is free. Just go to FamilyLifeToday.com. Click the link in the upper left-hand corner of the screen that says, \u201cGO DEEPER.\u201d Look for the 30-Day Oneness Prayer Challenge. Sign up so that you\u2019ll be ready to go in September when we kick this off on Tuesday, September 1<sup>st<\/sup>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFinally, we want to ask you to consider, today, helping us with a yearend contribution to support <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. I know it\u2019s the middle of August\u2014it\u2019s not the end of the year\u2014but for FamilyLife, we are about to wrap up our fiscal year. We are hoping that, when we get to September 1<sup>st<\/sup>, FamilyLife will be in a solid, stable financial situation. As you know, summertime always makes that a challenge for us. So, we thought we would ask you to consider making a special gift to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you are able to do that today, we\u2019d like to say, \u201cThank you,\u201d by sending a copy of Dennis and Barbara Rainey\u2019s book, <em>Two Hearts Praying as One<\/em>. That will help you get ready for the upcoming 30-Day Prayer Challenge. You can make your donation, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com. Click the link in the upper right-hand corner of the screen that says, \u201cI CARE.\u201d\u00a0 Or call 1-800-FL-TODAY. Make your donation over the phone. Or you can mail your donation to us at <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, PO Box 7111, Little Rock, AR. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOur zip code is 72223. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd with that, we\u2019ve got to wrap things up for this week. Thanks for being with us. Hope you have a great weekend. Hope you and your family are able to worship together in church this weekend. And I hope you can join us back on Monday when we\u2019re going to start talking about prayer\u2014what it is to have a life where prayer is an integral part. Paul Miller is going to join us. Hope you can join us as well. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. 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