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Elisa Morgan experienced a bit of that as she was raising her children. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> I would not let my husband help me. I thought I had to know how to do everything all by myself. I was the mom. I had been the \u201csavior\u201d of my family of origin, holding it all together. So, when my second family began to fall apart, I thought it was my job to fix it. My husband was awesome, but he also retreated because I kept pushing him further and further away.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Wednesday, November 19<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. How can husbands and wives come together \/ parent as a team and keep their marriage strong in the midst of challenges raising their children? We\u2019ll talk about that today. Stay tuned.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t,\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. I don\u2019t know if you realize this, but I have kind of a catalog I\u2019ve been keeping for a while of what I call \u201cRaineyisms\u201d\u2014you know?\u2014just things you repeat over and over again.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Thank you\u2014thank you for clearing this with me before we came on the air. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> There are more and more of these things you are repeating over and over again.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We\u2019re friends to the bitter end, and this could be the bitter end! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> One of the most recent \u201cRaineyisms\u201d that has started to emerge\u2014I\u2019ve heard you say this on several occasions\u2014is: \u201cEverybody has a context.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Oh, yes. Sometimes our paths cross with people\u2014we have no idea what\u2019s taking place in their lives. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have a guest with us, whom we have interviewed, here on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>,before\u2014Elisa Morgan\u2014back when she was the CEO of MOPS International. I told you, before we came in here, that I really appreciated your book because a lot of people look at Christian leaders\u2014and you and I know this to be true\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014just because you\u2019ve got a title or because you\u2019re having an impact in someone\u2019s life\u2014whether you\u2019re a pastor \/ whether you\u2019re a teacher\u2014regardless of your place\u2014if you\u2019ve got this spot where you\u2019re kind of up in front of people, people tend to put this idealistic expectation over the top of you, like: \u201cOh\u2014Elisa Morgan!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u201cShe and her husband Evan they\u2019ve been married 35 years. They\u2019ve got the <em>perfect <\/em>marriage\u2014the <em>perfect family<\/em>.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, in fact, it occurs to me that the last time we were interviewing you\u2014you and you friend, Carol Kuykendall\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Right!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014we were interviewing both of you on a book called <em>Give Them Wings<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014and all of this was going on at your house\u2014the stuff we\u2019re talking about this week.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> It was probably beginning.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You were at the beginning or in the middle of all of this.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes\u2014and, add to that\u2014Carol is my children\u2019s godmother. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, how did you\u2014as somebody who\u2014you have a teenage daughter who gets pregnant out of wedlock and then is in an abusive relationship with somebody she\u2019s not married to\u2014all kinds of things going on\u2014a son who has an addiction \/ alcoholism becomes a factor for him\u2014how did you deal with that as the head of MOPS? Did you have to pull back and say: \u201cHow much do I share? Who do I tell?\u201d How did you manage it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes, this was delicate. I want to be really clear that this was an evolving family matter. We had one step, and then the next step, and the next\u2014and more and more things were being revealed and more and more things happened. What began as one issue kind of snowballed into many issues. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe very first\u2014when my daughter first became pregnant, I went straight to the board and talked to the board chair about it. I talked to our senior leadership about it and revealed it there. We were very clear\u2014and then, of course\u2014with our pastor, and my husband, as well with personal friends. We were very clear that our story wasn\u2019t just <em>our<\/em> story. It was also our children\u2019s developing story. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> To that point, you have their permission to tell <em>your <\/em>story.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> I do have their permission <em>now<\/em>, but I waited probably 10 to 15 years to talk about this more broadly. Number one\u2014because they were still <em>living<\/em> their stories. Number two\u2014because it was <em>their <\/em>stories\u2014they were being formed. And, then, number three\u2014because it wasn\u2019t just me, you know, in this whole situation. So, I waited a long time. They have signed off on telling\u2014my telling my story\u2014it is <em>my <\/em>story\u2014it\u2019s Elisa\u2019s. It\u2019s not my daughter\u2019s \/ it\u2019s not my son\u2019s \/ it\u2019s not even my husband\u2019s. It\u2019s <em>my<\/em> story and how I experienced it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> And, you know, during this season, I was terrified of what I\u2014the word that I heard in my heart of \u201cdisfavor.\u201d I was so terrified that everybody was just going to be like: \u201cYuck! You did all of this! You must be such a loser person.\u201d I felt so disqualified. I was afraid I would bring disqualification to the ministries that I touched\u2014to the lives that I was with.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo you know what has been an amazing result of being honest in this book,<em> The Beauty of Broken, s<\/em>ubtitled, <em>There\u2019s No Such Thing as a Perfect Family: My Story and Likely Yours Too<\/em>? The response that I\u2019ve heard is \u201crelief.\u201d People come to me; and they go, \u201cI\u2019m not the only one. Thank you for telling your story.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Sure\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> \u201cIt gives me so much hope. I thought I was the only one.\u201d I don\u2019t care if I\u2019m at a fundraiser, in a church with four services, or I am in a women\u2019s conference, or I\u2019m sitting across the table with a business associate\u2014as we tell our stories, there is great community in the body of Christ to know that we\u2019re not the only ones. It\u2019s okay to suffer within the body and that you\u2019re not just somehow thrown out and thrown away.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI should tell you this story\u2014early on, in this journey, God used this metaphor. I was at home, resting\u2014it had been a busy weekend. I was actually taking care of my grandson, at that time, who was about two-and-a-half years old. He and his mom lived with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis was my daughter\u2019s second pregnancy. She was working, and it was my responsibility to take care of him. He went down for a nap, and I thought that sounded like a great idea. [Laughter] It was an old word, but I gave into it. I started to fall asleep. Just as I nodded off, I heard this <em>eruption<\/em> through our house\u2014this <em>crash<\/em> through our house. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI didn\u2019t know what on earth had happened. I started walking through my home, looking into the entry way \/ into the living room. Then I went into the dining room. As soon as my foot hit the carpet, I realized that this three-shelf unit hutch that had hung on the wall and had housed my grandmother\u2019s antique china collection had lost its grip on the wall. It had fallen and had taken with it the entire contents.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was so devastated! I leaned down to pick it up, and every single plate was broken. These were plates that my grandmother had purchased for me in little tour buses with other white-haired ladies all around Europe, you know, and brought them back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThey were the one thing I wanted to inherit. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd this was a season that I felt like everything was falling off of the walls in my life\u2014 my son \/ my daughter\u2014so many situations. I was struggling through issues heavy at MOPS and feeling so alone; and now, this mess on my floor! I felt like all I could do was just sweep it up and take it to the trash. In the years since, God has shown me that that\u2019s not what He does when things break in our lives. He bends down\u2014and instead of throwing it all away\u2014He picks up one piece at a time and thinks, \u201cWhat can I do with this?\u201d That\u2019s what He\u2019s been doing in my life in the decades since\u2014is redeeming, reclaiming, reforming broken\u2014into things of beauty.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And you said something that I really want to highlight here. You don\u2019t have to be a CEO of a ministry like MOPS to feel like you have to hide something. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think you can be going to church and feel like you can\u2019t come clean\u2014you can\u2019t let anybody in\u2014because you can\u2019t afford to let anybody know that this is happening in your marriage \/ with your\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> I\u2019m afraid we actually teach that. I\u2019m afraid that\u2019s the mythology that we propagate. It is like: \u201cDon\u2019t share here. In here, you\u2019d better be good,\u201d when the opposite is true.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Oh, yes! And that\u2019s what I want to underline here. It doesn\u2019t mean you need to go to the pulpit and tell everybody everything that\u2019s taking place, but there does need to be a few\u2014a significant few\u2014who can shoulder the load with you. I would call them \u201cburden bearers.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It\u2019s Galatians, Chapter 6: \u201cBearing with one another.\u201d It\u2019s sharing the load with someone who\u2019s going through a desperate time. You undoubtedly had some friends that you let into your life, at that point. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> I couldn\u2019t have survived\u2014that\u2019s right! I couldn\u2019t have survived without that\u2014prayer warriors\u2014a group of women, older than me by ten years\u2014eight of them. I joke that it took eight women to mother me because I needed extra help.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then, different prayer partners\u2014yes, we could not have made it through. And there\u2019s great wisdom in putting duct tape on your mouth during seasons of intense suffering. There\u2019s great wisdom in stepping back as God leads. I used to beg God, \u201cIf I quit, would Satan leave my children alone?\u201d He pretty much said, \u201cNo.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tActually, in talking to the board and the chair of MOPS International, I offered to resign multiple times, feeling like such a disqualified mess. Truly, I remember them saying: \u201cWhy would we want you to step down when, now, you know even more about moms of preschoolers? There\u2019s another one, and she lives under your roof!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI began to gradually see that those things that we think disqualify us\u2014when put in God\u2019s hands\u2014actually can further qualify us for His work.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I just want to put another double underline underneath another statement you made. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd that\u2019s that we kind of encourage people not to be <em>real<\/em> at church. Bob knows I\u2019ve shared this story on <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>probably a half-dozen times: When our kids were teenagers, I took one of them with a friend, who was an alcoholic, to an AA meeting. There were like 300 people there\u2014they were wearing three-piece suits to having come off the street, living underneath a railroad trestle. There were all of these people coming together\u2014they were hugging each other and: \u201cYou\u2019re back! You\u2019re still here! You\u2019re still in the battle! Way to go!\u201d And I thought, \u201cThat\u2019s church!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u201cThat\u2019s church!\u201d It\u2019s people who are honest at the point of being incredibly raw, who are attempting to love them in their brokenness and call them out of it to a better life. Frankly, our church needs to be that kind of place where\u2014maybe not where you tell everybody everything but some people\u2014there\u2019s somebody in your life who knows what\u2019s going on in your marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019re not hiding it because, as long as you hide it, I think you give the enemy far more power in your life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, I love what I\u2019ve heard Pastor Matt Chandler say about this. He says, at his church, \u201cIt\u2019s okay not to be okay. It\u2019s just not okay to stay there.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And that\u2019s the message. I remember\u2014when we were raising our teenagers\u2014the nights that we would drive away to our small group meeting with our church folks. We\u2019d be on the way there thinking, \u201cWe have juvenile delinquents at home and the police are just going to come and shut us down, at some point.\u201d [Laughter] We would go to the small group. We\u2019d drive back from the small group, having shared a little of our burden, and having other parents say, \u201cLet me tell you what we\u2019re going through.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And just having other people who are in the same battle with you\u2014there was something about that that caused you to go: \u201cOkay, we can make this because we\u2019re not alone. We\u2019re not isolated in all of this.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Elisa, I have to ask you\u2014in the midst of everything that was taking place with your daughter \/ with your son\u2014Barbara and I have been through, not the same thing, but similar; okay? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> What was taking place in your marriage with Evan? How did this impact your marriage?\u2014because it does <em>dramatically<\/em> have an impact on that marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> It does. And, specifically, you know, my daughter becomes pregnant, as a teenager; and the baby comes dramatically in a crisis way, early. She eventually relinquishes and then she has another baby. She\u2019s in an accident and crazy things happen there. My son begins to lose himself in alcohol. These things just start to amass. I have a gay brother\u2014my dearest friend in the world. How do we figure these things out together?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDuring this season\u2014we talked in an earlier broadcast\u2014that I became the \u201chero\u201d in my family of origin. That\u2019s from the Adult Child of Alcoholic system. I was over responsible\u2014I\u2019ll put it that way\u2014I just took charge of everything. Well, that pattern emerged again during all of these family crises. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs I was writing this book, I knew I had messed up with some stuff\u2014but, as I was writing this book\u2014 actually, I was writing the chapter on our marriage\u2014I realized, for the first time\u2014and this is how life is, guys. You know, we don\u2019t get it all figured out in ten minutes and then it\u2019s done! We are evolving all the time in our relationship with Jesus, as He shows us more and more about ourselves, and we bring those things to Him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI began to realize, just in writing that chapter, that I would not <em>let <\/em>my husband help me. I thought I had to know how to do everything all by myself. I was the mom. I had been the \u201csavior\u201d of my family of origin\u2014holding it all together. So, when my second family began to fall apart, I thought it was my job to fix it. My husband was awesome, but he also retreated because I kept pushing him further and further away.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was when my daughter had this first child, who had emergency needs and someone had to go with that baby to a NICU\u2014a neonatal intensive care unit across town. Someone had to stay with our daughter, who had emergency surgery. We had to divide\u2014my husband went with this new little baby, and I stayed with my daughter. I could not have even survived that night without him. I began to see how much I needed him and how powerfully strong he was\u2014in a different way. I knew it, but I began to see it in a different way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So, to that husband\u2014who has a wife who won\u2019t let him help shoulder the load\u2014what would you say to him? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> [Laughter] Don\u2019t push her too hard. [Laughter] She doesn\u2019t value that! [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Elisa doesn\u2019t have fangs; but it was close, at that point! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Oh, love her! Love her, love her, love her\u2014and stay. Find a crack and get in it, and stay in that crack. As you\u2019re in that crack, with your presence and your love, more space will be made for you to be even more present with more love. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Just kind of make your way into the relationship. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Don\u2019t let her push you out\u2014keep pushing you out. She doesn\u2019t necessarily know what\u2019s best for her right now.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Were the trials bringing about isolation? Were the two of you living as strangers at some level in your home or not?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> No, I don\u2019t think so. Evan and I have always been uberly communicative. We both were in full-time ministry. We thrive in that, and we have always shared our work together. So, we stayed very much communicative\u2014it\u2019s just I thought I could shoulder everything on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s interesting\u2014one Christian writer talks about a habit in World War II, where Japanese soldiers had a really difficult time being reconnected to their society after they had served. The Japanese government came up with a retirement ceremony for the soldiers\u2014to discharge their loyal soldier and then become regular human beings again.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI kind of had to do that to myself\u2014you know, this in-charge special Elisa \/ the survivor Elisa\u2014I had to discharge her and say: \u201cYou\u2019ve done a <em>super<\/em> job surviving your family of origin. Great job, Elisa! Now, you don\u2019t need that defense anymore. You can lay that down. Bottom line\u2014let God love you and let the people He has placed in your life love you and share the load with you.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We\u2019ve talked this week with you about your family of origin\u2014that broken family\u2014and we\u2019ve talked with you about your broken family that you write about in the book as well. We haven\u2019t really talked about how your relationship with your mom ended because you talked about how your dad announced a divorce when you were five years old\u2014he went his way\/remarried. Your mom didn\u2019t. She got off into alcoholism. Although she did provide for her family, it was a tough go of it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHow did your relationship with her turn out, and how did her life end?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> My mom was diagnosed with cancer when I was in my early 30s. It was during a season when I was working very hard to understand who I was, separate from her. You know, as we said, I was over functional\u2014I was codependent\u2014to use that term. I lived in Denver \/ she lived in Texas. There was good distance there; but I was actually in counseling and working on how to understand my separation from her, as a woman.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was difficult, then, when she would call and need me because she was very codependent with me. That dance continued in our lives; but when she got terminally ill, I flew down to be with her. We each arrived to her death bed\u2014first, my brother got there, who is younger than me. He shared that he had a really significant time with her, and she had said that she loved him. It was really dear.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI arrived next. I sat on her bed. I told her that I loved her, and we had some time. Then my older sister, who had really left the second she could from our home to take care of herself\u2014her own needs \/ my sister\u2019s needs\u2014she came back. My mom had really waited for her because the relationship had been broken. My mom took her in her arms and told my sister that she loved her, and it was beautiful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tActually, in the next days\u2014just a couple of days that she remained\u2014we saw her reach out to Jesus at her bedside as she saw Him there really being present with her. We knew that she actually did give her life into Jesus in her last minutes. What I want to say is that my mom died over 20 years ago. It is just now, as I continue to work on understanding what God wants to show me through this\u2014and I think it\u2019s important for us to understand that our parents may be dead\u2014but they still teach us, and God still uses them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was wondering, \u201cWhy have I never felt loved by my mom?\u201d I kept processing this. I went back to that death bed scene that I just described\u2014my brother being there, me being there, then my sister. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI realized, she told my brother that she loved him. She told my sister that she loved her. <em>I<\/em> told my mother that <em>I<\/em> loved her\u2014she didn\u2019t tell me. I thought, \u201cWhy?!\u201d I\u2019ve just turned that, and turned that, and turned that in my mind. I began to realize, \u201cI don\u2019t think she told me because I don\u2019t think I would let her.\u201d I think I was still in that in-charge mode of \u201cI\u2019m not going to let you hurt me.\u201d I think my mom was either sick enough, or tired enough, or <em>smart<\/em> enough to know that I couldn\u2019t receive that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat God is doing in my <em>own<\/em> development is\u2014He\u2019s changing the way I look at how He loves me. I think it\u2019s Henri Nouwen, who wrote in his book, <em>The Return of the Prodigal Son, <\/em>that he spent all of his life trying to know God, and to find God, and to love God. He realized that he was doing it upside down\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014that what God really desires is for <em>us<\/em> to let God know <em>us<\/em>\u2014for <em>us <\/em>to let God find <em>us<\/em> \/ for <em>us<\/em> to let God love <em>us<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI thought to myself: \u201cThat\u2019s what I was doing with my mom\u2014I push her away. How am I pushing God away because of what I assume?\u201d God loves me! Maybe the way I love Him back is to let Him! I continue to embrace this beauty of broken. The further I go into understanding the broken, the more I see of the beauty. God <em>loves<\/em> broken people! He reclaims and reforms us. He uses broken people.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> What you just painted is really a beautiful picture there. You made the statement, earlier, that God uses our parents to teach us lessons, even as we become adults. I think there may be one additional lesson your mom may want to teach you. I don\u2019t know if you know this or not, but I have written a book called <em>The Forgotten Commandment<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s about the fifth commandment of the Ten Commandments\u2014that talks about honoring your mother and your father. I want Bob to tell folks how they can get a copy of your book. At the end of the broadcast, I want to come back. I can\u2019t do this in reality\u2014but what I would like to do is seat your mom across from the table and give you a chance to give her a verbal tribute.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> That\u2019s beautiful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Would you do that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> I would.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We do have copies of your book, <em>The Beauty of Broken, <\/em>in our <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>Resource Center. I\u2019d encourage our listeners to go to FamilyLifeToday.com. Click the link in the upper left-hand corner of the screen that says, \u201cGO DEEPER.\u201d You can order a copy of Elisa\u2019s book from us, online. Again, FamilyLifeToday.com is the website. Click the \u201cGO DEEPER\u201d link when you\u2019re on our website; or simply call 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd, real quickly, let me say a word of thanks to those folks who made today\u2019s program possible\u2014it\u2019s our Legacy Partners\u2014those of you who give on a monthly basis to help support this program\u2014and those of you who pitch in, from time to time, to help with the financial costs of this ministry \/ help to cover the cost of producing and syndicating this daily radio program. We appreciate your support and couldn\u2019t do what we do without you. 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Dennis\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Well, I want to say, \u201cThanks,\u201d to Elisa Morgan, who has written <em>The Beauty of Broken. <\/em>Before Bob shared about how to get a copy of your book, I told you I was going to come back and wanted to really challenge you to give your mom a verbal tribute that honored her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> How much time do I have? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, now\u2014again, the context\u2014this is your alcoholic mom.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes; but she\u2019s more than that\u2014yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Who, in your years, growing up with her, there was more challenge than blessing; wasn\u2019t there?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> It felt that way. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, if she were here, and you were going to honor her, what would you say to her?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> I would say, \u201cPaige,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s her name\u2014\u201cI love you. I understand that you did what you could. That is not a settling kind of a statement\u2014that is an honoring statement. There were many days you got up when you would rather not have gotten up. You went to work when you would rather not have gone to work. You did crazy, wonderful, creative things like prepare for Christmases for us and other holidays. You taught us to be adventurous, and loving, and non-judgmental. But, mainly, what I want to say to you is, \u2018Thank you for loving me.\u2019 I\u2019m sorry for the times I made it hard for you to love me. I receive your love. I\u2019m really glad you\u2019re with Jesus, and I look forward to being with you in eternity.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. 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Elisa Morgan experienced a bit of that as she was raising her children. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> I would not let my husband help me. I thought I had to know how to do everything all by myself. I was the mom. I had been the \u201csavior\u201d of my family of origin, holding it all together. So, when my second family began to fall apart, I thought it was my job to fix it. My husband was awesome, but he also retreated because I kept pushing him further and further away.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Wednesday, November 19<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine. How can husbands and wives come together \/ parent as a team and keep their marriage strong in the midst of challenges raising their children? We\u2019ll talk about that today. 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They\u2019ve got the <em>perfect <\/em>marriage\u2014the <em>perfect family<\/em>.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, in fact, it occurs to me that the last time we were interviewing you\u2014you and you friend, Carol Kuykendall\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Right!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014we were interviewing both of you on a book called <em>Give Them Wings<\/em>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014and all of this was going on at your house\u2014the stuff we\u2019re talking about this week.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> It was probably beginning.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You were at the beginning or in the middle of all of this.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes\u2014and, add to that\u2014Carol is my children\u2019s godmother. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, how did you\u2014as somebody who\u2014you have a teenage daughter who gets pregnant out of wedlock and then is in an abusive relationship with somebody she\u2019s not married to\u2014all kinds of things going on\u2014a son who has an addiction \/ alcoholism becomes a factor for him\u2014how did you deal with that as the head of MOPS? Did you have to pull back and say: \u201cHow much do I share? Who do I tell?\u201d How did you manage it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes, this was delicate. I want to be really clear that this was an evolving family matter. We had one step, and then the next step, and the next\u2014and more and more things were being revealed and more and more things happened. What began as one issue kind of snowballed into many issues. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe very first\u2014when my daughter first became pregnant, I went straight to the board and talked to the board chair about it. I talked to our senior leadership about it and revealed it there. We were very clear\u2014and then, of course\u2014with our pastor, and my husband, as well with personal friends. We were very clear that our story wasn\u2019t just <em>our<\/em> story. It was also our children\u2019s developing story. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> To that point, you have their permission to tell <em>your <\/em>story.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> I do have their permission <em>now<\/em>, but I waited probably 10 to 15 years to talk about this more broadly. Number one\u2014because they were still <em>living<\/em> their stories. Number two\u2014because it was <em>their <\/em>stories\u2014they were being formed. And, then, number three\u2014because it wasn\u2019t just me, you know, in this whole situation. So, I waited a long time. They have signed off on telling\u2014my telling my story\u2014it is <em>my <\/em>story\u2014it\u2019s Elisa\u2019s. It\u2019s not my daughter\u2019s \/ it\u2019s not my son\u2019s \/ it\u2019s not even my husband\u2019s. It\u2019s <em>my<\/em> story and how I experienced it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> And, you know, during this season, I was terrified of what I\u2014the word that I heard in my heart of \u201cdisfavor.\u201d I was so terrified that everybody was just going to be like: \u201cYuck! You did all of this! You must be such a loser person.\u201d I felt so disqualified. I was afraid I would bring disqualification to the ministries that I touched\u2014to the lives that I was with.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo you know what has been an amazing result of being honest in this book,<em> The Beauty of Broken, s<\/em>ubtitled, <em>There\u2019s No Such Thing as a Perfect Family: My Story and Likely Yours Too<\/em>? The response that I\u2019ve heard is \u201crelief.\u201d People come to me; and they go, \u201cI\u2019m not the only one. Thank you for telling your story.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Sure\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> \u201cIt gives me so much hope. I thought I was the only one.\u201d I don\u2019t care if I\u2019m at a fundraiser, in a church with four services, or I am in a women\u2019s conference, or I\u2019m sitting across the table with a business associate\u2014as we tell our stories, there is great community in the body of Christ to know that we\u2019re not the only ones. It\u2019s okay to suffer within the body and that you\u2019re not just somehow thrown out and thrown away.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI should tell you this story\u2014early on, in this journey, God used this metaphor. I was at home, resting\u2014it had been a busy weekend. I was actually taking care of my grandson, at that time, who was about two-and-a-half years old. He and his mom lived with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis was my daughter\u2019s second pregnancy. She was working, and it was my responsibility to take care of him. He went down for a nap, and I thought that sounded like a great idea. [Laughter] It was an old word, but I gave into it. I started to fall asleep. Just as I nodded off, I heard this <em>eruption<\/em> through our house\u2014this <em>crash<\/em> through our house. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI didn\u2019t know what on earth had happened. I started walking through my home, looking into the entry way \/ into the living room. Then I went into the dining room. As soon as my foot hit the carpet, I realized that this three-shelf unit hutch that had hung on the wall and had housed my grandmother\u2019s antique china collection had lost its grip on the wall. It had fallen and had taken with it the entire contents.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was so devastated! I leaned down to pick it up, and every single plate was broken. These were plates that my grandmother had purchased for me in little tour buses with other white-haired ladies all around Europe, you know, and brought them back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThey were the one thing I wanted to inherit. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd this was a season that I felt like everything was falling off of the walls in my life\u2014 my son \/ my daughter\u2014so many situations. I was struggling through issues heavy at MOPS and feeling so alone; and now, this mess on my floor! I felt like all I could do was just sweep it up and take it to the trash. In the years since, God has shown me that that\u2019s not what He does when things break in our lives. He bends down\u2014and instead of throwing it all away\u2014He picks up one piece at a time and thinks, \u201cWhat can I do with this?\u201d That\u2019s what He\u2019s been doing in my life in the decades since\u2014is redeeming, reclaiming, reforming broken\u2014into things of beauty.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And you said something that I really want to highlight here. You don\u2019t have to be a CEO of a ministry like MOPS to feel like you have to hide something. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think you can be going to church and feel like you can\u2019t come clean\u2014you can\u2019t let anybody in\u2014because you can\u2019t afford to let anybody know that this is happening in your marriage \/ with your\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> I\u2019m afraid we actually teach that. I\u2019m afraid that\u2019s the mythology that we propagate. It is like: \u201cDon\u2019t share here. In here, you\u2019d better be good,\u201d when the opposite is true.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Oh, yes! And that\u2019s what I want to underline here. It doesn\u2019t mean you need to go to the pulpit and tell everybody everything that\u2019s taking place, but there does need to be a few\u2014a significant few\u2014who can shoulder the load with you. I would call them \u201cburden bearers.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It\u2019s Galatians, Chapter 6: \u201cBearing with one another.\u201d It\u2019s sharing the load with someone who\u2019s going through a desperate time. You undoubtedly had some friends that you let into your life, at that point. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> I couldn\u2019t have survived\u2014that\u2019s right! I couldn\u2019t have survived without that\u2014prayer warriors\u2014a group of women, older than me by ten years\u2014eight of them. I joke that it took eight women to mother me because I needed extra help.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then, different prayer partners\u2014yes, we could not have made it through. And there\u2019s great wisdom in putting duct tape on your mouth during seasons of intense suffering. There\u2019s great wisdom in stepping back as God leads. I used to beg God, \u201cIf I quit, would Satan leave my children alone?\u201d He pretty much said, \u201cNo.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tActually, in talking to the board and the chair of MOPS International, I offered to resign multiple times, feeling like such a disqualified mess. Truly, I remember them saying: \u201cWhy would we want you to step down when, now, you know even more about moms of preschoolers? There\u2019s another one, and she lives under your roof!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI began to gradually see that those things that we think disqualify us\u2014when put in God\u2019s hands\u2014actually can further qualify us for His work.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I just want to put another double underline underneath another statement you made. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd that\u2019s that we kind of encourage people not to be <em>real<\/em> at church. Bob knows I\u2019ve shared this story on <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>probably a half-dozen times: When our kids were teenagers, I took one of them with a friend, who was an alcoholic, to an AA meeting. There were like 300 people there\u2014they were wearing three-piece suits to having come off the street, living underneath a railroad trestle. There were all of these people coming together\u2014they were hugging each other and: \u201cYou\u2019re back! You\u2019re still here! You\u2019re still in the battle! Way to go!\u201d And I thought, \u201cThat\u2019s church!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u201cThat\u2019s church!\u201d It\u2019s people who are honest at the point of being incredibly raw, who are attempting to love them in their brokenness and call them out of it to a better life. Frankly, our church needs to be that kind of place where\u2014maybe not where you tell everybody everything but some people\u2014there\u2019s somebody in your life who knows what\u2019s going on in your marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019re not hiding it because, as long as you hide it, I think you give the enemy far more power in your life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, I love what I\u2019ve heard Pastor Matt Chandler say about this. He says, at his church, \u201cIt\u2019s okay not to be okay. It\u2019s just not okay to stay there.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And that\u2019s the message. I remember\u2014when we were raising our teenagers\u2014the nights that we would drive away to our small group meeting with our church folks. We\u2019d be on the way there thinking, \u201cWe have juvenile delinquents at home and the police are just going to come and shut us down, at some point.\u201d [Laughter] We would go to the small group. We\u2019d drive back from the small group, having shared a little of our burden, and having other parents say, \u201cLet me tell you what we\u2019re going through.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And just having other people who are in the same battle with you\u2014there was something about that that caused you to go: \u201cOkay, we can make this because we\u2019re not alone. We\u2019re not isolated in all of this.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Elisa, I have to ask you\u2014in the midst of everything that was taking place with your daughter \/ with your son\u2014Barbara and I have been through, not the same thing, but similar; okay? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> What was taking place in your marriage with Evan? How did this impact your marriage?\u2014because it does <em>dramatically<\/em> have an impact on that marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> It does. And, specifically, you know, my daughter becomes pregnant, as a teenager; and the baby comes dramatically in a crisis way, early. She eventually relinquishes and then she has another baby. She\u2019s in an accident and crazy things happen there. My son begins to lose himself in alcohol. These things just start to amass. I have a gay brother\u2014my dearest friend in the world. How do we figure these things out together?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDuring this season\u2014we talked in an earlier broadcast\u2014that I became the \u201chero\u201d in my family of origin. That\u2019s from the Adult Child of Alcoholic system. I was over responsible\u2014I\u2019ll put it that way\u2014I just took charge of everything. Well, that pattern emerged again during all of these family crises. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs I was writing this book, I knew I had messed up with some stuff\u2014but, as I was writing this book\u2014 actually, I was writing the chapter on our marriage\u2014I realized, for the first time\u2014and this is how life is, guys. You know, we don\u2019t get it all figured out in ten minutes and then it\u2019s done! We are evolving all the time in our relationship with Jesus, as He shows us more and more about ourselves, and we bring those things to Him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI began to realize, just in writing that chapter, that I would not <em>let <\/em>my husband help me. I thought I had to know how to do everything all by myself. I was the mom. I had been the \u201csavior\u201d of my family of origin\u2014holding it all together. So, when my second family began to fall apart, I thought it was my job to fix it. My husband was awesome, but he also retreated because I kept pushing him further and further away.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was when my daughter had this first child, who had emergency needs and someone had to go with that baby to a NICU\u2014a neonatal intensive care unit across town. Someone had to stay with our daughter, who had emergency surgery. We had to divide\u2014my husband went with this new little baby, and I stayed with my daughter. I could not have even survived that night without him. I began to see how much I needed him and how powerfully strong he was\u2014in a different way. I knew it, but I began to see it in a different way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So, to that husband\u2014who has a wife who won\u2019t let him help shoulder the load\u2014what would you say to him? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> [Laughter] Don\u2019t push her too hard. [Laughter] She doesn\u2019t value that! [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Elisa doesn\u2019t have fangs; but it was close, at that point! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Oh, love her! Love her, love her, love her\u2014and stay. Find a crack and get in it, and stay in that crack. As you\u2019re in that crack, with your presence and your love, more space will be made for you to be even more present with more love. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Just kind of make your way into the relationship. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Don\u2019t let her push you out\u2014keep pushing you out. She doesn\u2019t necessarily know what\u2019s best for her right now.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Were the trials bringing about isolation? Were the two of you living as strangers at some level in your home or not?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> No, I don\u2019t think so. Evan and I have always been uberly communicative. We both were in full-time ministry. We thrive in that, and we have always shared our work together. So, we stayed very much communicative\u2014it\u2019s just I thought I could shoulder everything on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s interesting\u2014one Christian writer talks about a habit in World War II, where Japanese soldiers had a really difficult time being reconnected to their society after they had served. The Japanese government came up with a retirement ceremony for the soldiers\u2014to discharge their loyal soldier and then become regular human beings again.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI kind of had to do that to myself\u2014you know, this in-charge special Elisa \/ the survivor Elisa\u2014I had to discharge her and say: \u201cYou\u2019ve done a <em>super<\/em> job surviving your family of origin. Great job, Elisa! Now, you don\u2019t need that defense anymore. You can lay that down. Bottom line\u2014let God love you and let the people He has placed in your life love you and share the load with you.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We\u2019ve talked this week with you about your family of origin\u2014that broken family\u2014and we\u2019ve talked with you about your broken family that you write about in the book as well. We haven\u2019t really talked about how your relationship with your mom ended because you talked about how your dad announced a divorce when you were five years old\u2014he went his way\/remarried. Your mom didn\u2019t. She got off into alcoholism. Although she did provide for her family, it was a tough go of it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHow did your relationship with her turn out, and how did her life end?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> My mom was diagnosed with cancer when I was in my early 30s. It was during a season when I was working very hard to understand who I was, separate from her. You know, as we said, I was over functional\u2014I was codependent\u2014to use that term. I lived in Denver \/ she lived in Texas. There was good distance there; but I was actually in counseling and working on how to understand my separation from her, as a woman.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was difficult, then, when she would call and need me because she was very codependent with me. That dance continued in our lives; but when she got terminally ill, I flew down to be with her. We each arrived to her death bed\u2014first, my brother got there, who is younger than me. He shared that he had a really significant time with her, and she had said that she loved him. It was really dear.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI arrived next. I sat on her bed. I told her that I loved her, and we had some time. Then my older sister, who had really left the second she could from our home to take care of herself\u2014her own needs \/ my sister\u2019s needs\u2014she came back. My mom had really waited for her because the relationship had been broken. My mom took her in her arms and told my sister that she loved her, and it was beautiful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tActually, in the next days\u2014just a couple of days that she remained\u2014we saw her reach out to Jesus at her bedside as she saw Him there really being present with her. We knew that she actually did give her life into Jesus in her last minutes. What I want to say is that my mom died over 20 years ago. It is just now, as I continue to work on understanding what God wants to show me through this\u2014and I think it\u2019s important for us to understand that our parents may be dead\u2014but they still teach us, and God still uses them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was wondering, \u201cWhy have I never felt loved by my mom?\u201d I kept processing this. I went back to that death bed scene that I just described\u2014my brother being there, me being there, then my sister. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI realized, she told my brother that she loved him. She told my sister that she loved her. <em>I<\/em> told my mother that <em>I<\/em> loved her\u2014she didn\u2019t tell me. I thought, \u201cWhy?!\u201d I\u2019ve just turned that, and turned that, and turned that in my mind. I began to realize, \u201cI don\u2019t think she told me because I don\u2019t think I would let her.\u201d I think I was still in that in-charge mode of \u201cI\u2019m not going to let you hurt me.\u201d I think my mom was either sick enough, or tired enough, or <em>smart<\/em> enough to know that I couldn\u2019t receive that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat God is doing in my <em>own<\/em> development is\u2014He\u2019s changing the way I look at how He loves me. I think it\u2019s Henri Nouwen, who wrote in his book, <em>The Return of the Prodigal Son, <\/em>that he spent all of his life trying to know God, and to find God, and to love God. He realized that he was doing it upside down\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014that what God really desires is for <em>us<\/em> to let God know <em>us<\/em>\u2014for <em>us <\/em>to let God find <em>us<\/em> \/ for <em>us<\/em> to let God love <em>us<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI thought to myself: \u201cThat\u2019s what I was doing with my mom\u2014I push her away. How am I pushing God away because of what I assume?\u201d God loves me! Maybe the way I love Him back is to let Him! I continue to embrace this beauty of broken. The further I go into understanding the broken, the more I see of the beauty. God <em>loves<\/em> broken people! He reclaims and reforms us. He uses broken people.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> What you just painted is really a beautiful picture there. You made the statement, earlier, that God uses our parents to teach us lessons, even as we become adults. I think there may be one additional lesson your mom may want to teach you. I don\u2019t know if you know this or not, but I have written a book called <em>The Forgotten Commandment<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s about the fifth commandment of the Ten Commandments\u2014that talks about honoring your mother and your father. I want Bob to tell folks how they can get a copy of your book. At the end of the broadcast, I want to come back. I can\u2019t do this in reality\u2014but what I would like to do is seat your mom across from the table and give you a chance to give her a verbal tribute.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> That\u2019s beautiful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Would you do that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> I would.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We do have copies of your book, <em>The Beauty of Broken, <\/em>in our <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>Resource Center. I\u2019d encourage our listeners to go to FamilyLifeToday.com. Click the link in the upper left-hand corner of the screen that says, \u201cGO DEEPER.\u201d You can order a copy of Elisa\u2019s book from us, online. Again, FamilyLifeToday.com is the website. Click the \u201cGO DEEPER\u201d link when you\u2019re on our website; or simply call 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd, real quickly, let me say a word of thanks to those folks who made today\u2019s program possible\u2014it\u2019s our Legacy Partners\u2014those of you who give on a monthly basis to help support this program\u2014and those of you who pitch in, from time to time, to help with the financial costs of this ministry \/ help to cover the cost of producing and syndicating this daily radio program. We appreciate your support and couldn\u2019t do what we do without you. We\u2019re grateful for your partnership.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tToday, if you can help with a donation, we\u2019d like to say, \u201cThank you,\u201d by sending you a resource that Barbara Rainey has put together. It\u2019s called \u201cUntie Your Story.\u201d It\u2019s designed for use at a family dinner table to help you ask one another some questions that you might not normally ask one another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can go to FamilyLifeToday.com and click the link in the upper right-hand corner of the screen that says, \u201cI Care,\u201d to make an online donation; or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY and make your donation over the phone. Of course, you can mail a donation to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Our mailing address is PO Box 7111, Little Rock, AR. Our zip code is 72223. Dennis\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Well, I want to say, \u201cThanks,\u201d to Elisa Morgan, who has written <em>The Beauty of Broken. <\/em>Before Bob shared about how to get a copy of your book, I told you I was going to come back and wanted to really challenge you to give your mom a verbal tribute that honored her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> How much time do I have? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, now\u2014again, the context\u2014this is your alcoholic mom.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> Yes; but she\u2019s more than that\u2014yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Who, in your years, growing up with her, there was more challenge than blessing; wasn\u2019t there?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> It felt that way. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, if she were here, and you were going to honor her, what would you say to her?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Elisa:<\/strong> I would say, \u201cPaige,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s her name\u2014\u201cI love you. I understand that you did what you could. That is not a settling kind of a statement\u2014that is an honoring statement. There were many days you got up when you would rather not have gotten up. You went to work when you would rather not have gone to work. You did crazy, wonderful, creative things like prepare for Christmases for us and other holidays. You taught us to be adventurous, and loving, and non-judgmental. But, mainly, what I want to say to you is, \u2018Thank you for loving me.\u2019 I\u2019m sorry for the times I made it hard for you to love me. I receive your love. I\u2019m really glad you\u2019re with Jesus, and I look forward to being with you in eternity.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. 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