{"id":303025,"date":"2014-04-24T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2014-04-24T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/are-you-ready-for-marriage\/"},"modified":"2014-04-24T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2014-04-24T15:00:00","slug":"are-you-ready-for-marriage","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/are-you-ready-for-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Ready for Marriage?"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bill and Pam Farrel encourage couples to walk in faith, not fear, towards marriage, but not without asking some strategic, thought-provoking questions to their romantic interest first.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2014-04-24.mp3","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"28.32M","filesize_raw":"29697105","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2817,2807],"tags":[4086,4955],"podcast_series":[8007],"cwp_profile":[3230],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-303025","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-choosing-a-spouse","category-engagements-and-weddings","tag-commitment","tag-preparing-for-marriage","podcast_series-before-you-marry-questions","cwp_profile-bill-and-pam-farrel","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/303025\/are-you-ready-for-marriage","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/303025\/are-you-ready-for-marriage","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"o2jFccEMZV\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/are-you-ready-for-marriage\/\">Are You Ready for Marriage?<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/are-you-ready-for-marriage\/embed\/#?secret=o2jFccEMZV\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Are You Ready for Marriage?&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"o2jFccEMZV\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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Pam Farrel understands why.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>The same summer that I was dating Bill, and deciding whether to marry, my parents were actually getting a divorce. It was vital that I dealt with: \u201cWhat do I even feel about marriage, and can it really last? Is it possible to have a love that lasts?\u201d I really was at a place I needed to hear: \u201cWhat does the Word of God say? What\u2019s the truth, and how can I build a strong foundation?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Thursday, April 24<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. We\u2019re going to spend some time today examining some of the questions that couples, who are dating, ought to be asking one another before they decide to say, \u201cI do.\u201d Stay tuned.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. Okay, so I have to tell you about these two couples\u2014two young couples that I\u2019ve been in contact with recently. The first young couple came up\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Married?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, the first couple came up, Sunday morning after church. She was flashing the ring; okay?\u2014so, brand-new engaged couples.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Got it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>We visited a little bit. We talked about their pre-marital\u2014they\u2019re going to a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> to get ready for their marriage. We told them, \u201cHave a short engagement.\u201d You know\u2014we just coached them on some of this stuff, but they\u2019re both so excited. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen that afternoon, I had a conversation with a husband, who\u2014Mary Ann and I were at their wedding\u2014they\u2019ve been married for about five years. They\u2019re not in a happy place in their marriage; okay? They\u2019re in conflict\u2014they\u2019re struggling. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI thought to myself, \u201cWhat can I say to the first couple, that I met this morning, with the engagement ring, so that, five years from now, they\u2019re not the second couple?\u201d I wish there was some magic thing, you know, that you say, and it would all be taken care of; but it\u2019s not that simple.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, by sending them to the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>, that\u2019s a good start\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014because there\u2019s a series of preparing-for-marriage break-out sessions that are really going to help them prepare for marriage to avoid where the other couple ended up. But there\u2019s also some questions that you could ask that couple\u2014who are just starting out their engagement\u2014that I think would be very appropriate. It\u2019s a book called <em>The Before-You-Marry Book of Questions<\/em>, written by Bill and Pam Farrel, who join us on the broadcast. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBill, Pam, welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Hi, it\u2019s great to be with you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Thanks. It is great being here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It\u2019s been a long time since you guys have been on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>It\u2019s been awhile.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Yes; too long because we sure value you all and your great ministry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, we appreciate you guys. You guys give leadership to a couple of organizations\u2014Love-Wise and Farrel Communications. You\u2019re speaking, and teaching, and writing books, all over the country. You\u2019ve been married since 1979\u2014have three adult children \/ three grandchildren. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou wrote this book to prepare couples who are getting ready to start the most important human commitment two people ever make to one another. You talk about how couples need to be prepared for love. We\u2019re really not ready for this thing called \u201cmarriage\u201d when we get engaged; are we?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>And you know, so much of what we share with other people comes out of our personal experience. I remember when Pam and I\u2014we met each other \/ we fell in love. We both came from homes that should never be repeated. So, the only thing I knew when we got married was: \u201cI love Jesus with all my heart. We love each other desperately, and we <em>really<\/em> don\u2019t know what we\u2019re doing.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Out of desperation, I used to take us to church. We would stand in the back, waiting for couples to come in and sit down. I would scan the crowd, looking for couples that looked like they still liked each other. We would go sit right behind them. During the greeting time they had to meet us. As they met us I would look at the guy and say: \u201cNow, you look like you\u2019re in love with her. Is this thing real?\u201d Of course, he said, \u201cWell, yes.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>He\u2019s at church\u2014he has to say that. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Then I would ask: \u201cWell, how did you do it? What are the things you do to keep this thing going?\u201d Well, because it\u2019s the greeting time at church, they don\u2019t have time to answer it there. So that usually led to an invite to lunch after church. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAt lunch, we got them to disciple us in how relationships really work. I\u2019d ask him questions: \u201cWhat do you say to your wife, on a regular basis, that works? What have you done that you would never do again? How do you treat her in a way that makes her glad she\u2019s married to you?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You were married, back in 1979. You have kind of a Campus Crusade for Christ<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, currently known as Cru<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Right; right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014kind of a story there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Yes. It connects back to you, actually. One of the reasons that we\u2019re so excited about <em>The<\/em> <em>Before-You-Marry Book of Questions<\/em> is\u2014I took a summer off of our dating, where we didn\u2019t write and we didn\u2019t speak\u2014we just wanted\u2014it was back before texting, and email, and Twitter<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, and all those things\u2014\u201cWe just want God to speak to our hearts.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI went to the Institute of Biblical Studies. There was this young, vibrant teacher. He was talking about marriage; and he kept talking about this beautiful woman, named Barbara, that he was married to and these cute kids. I\u2019m like, \u201cThat\u2019s the kind of marriage I want!\u201d Every day\u2014listening to, yes, Dennis Rainey\u2014I got some good training before I came back and Bill got down on one knee and said, \u201cHey, will you marry me?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>So, I was praying you\u2019d do a good job, Dennis. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It was kind of a marriage preparation course; wasn\u2019t it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>It was! It was terrific\u2014wish that everybody could have that kind of information, and now they can.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>But you know what\u2019s great about your story is\u2014two things\u2014first of all, you both loved Jesus; but you both recognized, \u201cWe\u2019re not sure what we\u2019re doing.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBecause I think there are a lot of people who: \u201cWe love Jesus. We figure that\u2019s going to take care of everything.\u201d You need more than just, \u201cWe both love Jesus,\u201d to make a marriage work; don\u2019t you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Well, most of the people I meet still think it\u2019s magic\u2014that if your heart\u2019s with the Lord and you love this person\u2014it\u2019s all just going to work out. We don\u2019t approach anything else in life that way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s right.<br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>You know\u2014I meet men, all the time, that\u2014they love their cars! That doesn\u2019t mean they think it is magic\u2014that it\u2019s just going to run. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>And yet, we somehow think, in relationships, it\u2019s going to work that way\u2014and the disappointment that sets in when I think: \u201cOh, it\u2019s not working out. Maybe I didn\u2019t meet the right person.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. Bill, how does answering the questions that you two have put together in your book really help a couple move toward marriage\u2014dealing with their fears and also getting on the same page, as they look toward beginning their lifetimes together?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Well, as couples, work through questions that are in this book and other questions related to relationships\u2014every time you get an answer, your confidence level goes up. I like to compare it to\u2014we live near a number of military bases, down where we are in San Diego\u2014and I tell men all the time: \u201cIf I took you down to the Marine Corps air station, stuck you in a jet, and told you to \u2018Fly this thing,\u2019\u2014well, if you don\u2019t know <em>how<\/em> to fly it, I\u2019m going to get some really strange reactions from you. You\u2019re probably going to cry, you\u2019re going to yell, scream \/ get angry\u2014but if you go to training, and you learn how to fly that jet, you get to go for the ride of your life.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>That\u2019s the way marriage is\u2014that when you get training \/ when you learn how this thing works\u2014and I honestly believe the missing question is \u201cHow?\u201d The first time I was told, \u201cYou should listen to your wife,\u201d my reaction was: \u201cI agree! How do I do that?\u201d When I was told: \u201cI should be committed for life,\u201d\u2014what I thought that meant was, \u201cYou need to be committed to be miserable with somebody for the rest of your life,\u201d because that\u2019s what I saw in my home.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>\u201cI want something better than that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>The thing I <em>admire <\/em>about my parents is\u2014they have a simple sense of integrity, that: \u201cWe said this was for life. We meant it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I was frustrated with my parents about was that they didn\u2019t commit to a quality relationship. So, I thought commitment meant you just kind of put up with each other and you\u2019re miserable. But then I started learning that: \u201cNo, you can actually learn how to make decisions well together. You can learn to set priorities together. You can pray for one another. You can share your struggles with each other. You can share your victories with each other\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>\u2014\u201clearn to romance well.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>\u201cAnd you can grow personally together so that, five years from now, you\u2019re stronger than you were when you started; and ten years from now, you\u2019re stronger than five years into it. It can be this great journey. All of a sudden, it became attractive. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So Pam, Dennis started off by asking the question that you start off with in the book: \u201cAre you ready for love?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>How does a young couple\u2014the couple that I met in church, on Sunday, with the ring\u2014how do they answer that question? How can they figure out, \u201cAre we ready for this?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>You know, one of the things we wanted to do in <em>The<\/em> <em>Before-You-Marry Book of Questions<\/em> was to make it natural. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, we\u2019ve always wanted to write a pre-marital, pre-engagement, dating kind of book. When our own children started dating and started getting serious\u2014we started: \u201cWell, you might want to take this test together,\u201d and, \u201cYou might want to have this kind of a date,\u201d and, \u201cYou might want this kind of an experience.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe thought, \u201cMaybe we should put it all in one place.\u201d So, we had \u201cDates to Decide\u201d in there because there are just certain dates that you should always go on\u2014like, you know\u2014take the person that you think you\u2019re in love with to church. See where your faith is\u2014if it\u2019s similar and if you\u2019re growing well together. Take them home to meet Mom and Dad, you know, because it\u2019s really two families that marry. And borrow the whiniest kid that you know, all day, and take him to the zoo\u2014[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam:<\/strong> \u2014see how they might parent. Or the Home Depot<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> Day\u2014and go to the department store and hang wallpaper together. If you can hang wallpaper and still be in love, you know, you might have what it takes. And the Third-World Date\u2014you know\u2014go on a mission trip and some place where you\u2019re not really showering regularly and things are kind of dusty and dirty. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you still like that person when they have bad hair, you might have what it takes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, we made it kind of a fun \/ interactive. Every few pages, you stop and you dialogue. There\u2019s \u201chis\u201d and \u201chers\u201d worksheets. There are questions, and there are dates to decide, and there are coffee-cup activities. We tried to make it as interactive as possible because we really think that\u2019s how people date. They date very organically, but they want some kind of path to follow and some kind of wisdom to listen to so they can avoid mistakes. Most people don\u2019t like pain; so, \u201cWhat can you do to help me not hurt my heart?\u201d is what they\u2019re looking for.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>What I\u2019ve discovered is\u2014people are asking questions, but they don\u2019t have permission to ask the strategic questions. So, we\u2019re asking questions like: \u201cAm I attracted to this person?\u201d\u2014which we hope you are. We hope you\u2014if you\u2019re going to think about getting married to somebody, we hope you\u2019re attracted to that person and think that they\u2019re stunning.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>But, there are some other strategic questions we need to ask. For instance, \u201cDo you have the ability to be curious about each other?\u201d I\u2019m amazed at how many men I meet that actually think they understand the woman that they\u2019re with. What I have found\u2014we\u2019re 34 years into marriage; and I\u2019m still on this curiosity journey\u2014trying to learn how Pam\u2019s wired, and how Pam approaches life, and how she processes the information. When I stop being curious, I start getting demanding. So: \u201cDo we have the ability to be curious?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAlso, if men are asking, \u201cAm I attracted to somebody who shares my purpose in life?\u201d If I look back and say, \u201cThe thing we did right\u2014is the one question I knew to ask is: \u2018Is Pam committed to ministry?\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>\u201cAre we going in the same direction together?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>I didn\u2019t realize, back then, how strategic it was; but I knew\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Oh, absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>\u2014I knew God had put a desire in my heart to serve Him, professionally, for the rest of my life. I knew that if I didn\u2019t get attracted to somebody who shared that, it wouldn\u2019t work.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Over the years, I\u2019ve counseled a lot of young couples who are at the point of getting engaged. The guy had one mission and one direction\u2014one purpose in mind\u2014and the young lady had another. They weren\u2019t in the same direction. That\u2019s not going to make for oneness.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>That\u2019s going to begin the marriage with isolation and could ultimately end it five years later\u2014like Bob was talking about\u2014two people who are in a mess.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne thing I want you to comment on, in terms of questions to ask early-on, and that is: \u201cWhat do your parents say about this relationship?\u201d I think every couple, who are contemplating engagement \/ getting engaged, need to know what their mom and dad think\u2014truly, honestly\u2014about this relationship. How do you guys handle that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Well, especially, the healthier that mom and dad are. If they come from a strong, Christian home, and there\u2019s a good value system, that just makes sense\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014check in with your most important spiritual mentors. For Bill and I\u2014my mom was in such a broken place. My dad was an alcoholic. Bill\u2019s mom struggles with mental illness. We actually went to our spiritual mentors and said, \u201cWhat do you think?\u201d because they had strong marriages. They were in a place of strength and could speak into our life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSometimes, you have to go even\u2014not just to your family\u2014but aunts and uncles\u2014your extended family\u2014the people that are mentoring you \/ discipling you\u2014your pastor \/ your small-group leader. Really, you want a good sounding-board\u2014a lot of people speaking truth into your life, at this really important juncture, because who you marry\u2014if you come to know Jesus in a personal way, that is the number one decision in life\u2014and who you marry\u2014that\u2019s like number two! So, this is vital.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>And all of us are parents, here, at the table; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMost parents have their kids\u2019 best interests at heart. But I remember kind of a shocking experience I had. I was getting my hair cut, and we were talking. I was talking to the lady, who was cutting my hair. She mentioned that she had an arranged marriage. I looked at her and said, \u201cWell, that\u2019s really unusual in this culture.\u201d I said, \u201cDid it bother you or did it scare you that your parents were going to choose your spouse?\u201d She very sincerely said to me: \u201cOh, no, my parents love me. They would make a good choice for me.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt kind of hit a place in my heart, where I realized: \u201cYou know, as parents, we really do have our kids\u2019 best interests at heart. So, our opinion matters.\u201d It makes sense that those who are getting married would want to check in with their parents and say: \u201cDad, what do you think? Mom, what do you think?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>It also puts some responsibility on Mom and Dad: \u201cIs it my issue or is it their issue?\u201d\u2014because, sometimes, moms and dads just have a hard time letting go\u2014especially, if it\u2019s your firstborn. We have to reel it back and say, \u201cOkay, before You, God, what\u2019s going on here?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>There\u2019s a line in the wedding ceremony, where the pastor asks, \u201cWho gives this woman to be married to this man?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I think, frankly, it has kind of become this checklist deal\u2014where Dad makes the handoff, go sit down, and \u201cLet\u2019s get on with the marriage.\u201d It\u2019s more than just symbolic and a ritual.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It really needs to represent a father, and for that matter the mother, blessing the union of this woman, being given to this man\u2014and for that matter, the parents of the groom also blessing. My encouragement to any couple, who are in a serious relationship, don\u2019t engage your parents so late in the process that you can\u2019t hear what they say.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You really want to maintain a teachable spirit and make sure you truly do heed what they say and don\u2019t rush by it. But Pam, I really like what you said, \u201cIf you have parents who may be spiritually\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>\u2014-broken\u2014sometimes, it\u2019s just brokenness.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes. You know, it\u2019s just a tough situation. I do like your idea, though, of going to maybe some leaders in your church\u2014mentors\u2014people who have spiritual maturity. Don\u2019t go select someone who will tell you what you want to hear\u2014[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014\u201cOh, yes! You bet!\u201d You know, \u201cHave a good time.\u201d No, this is such a serious decision. You need someone who\u2019ll tell you what you <em>need<\/em> to hear.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Right. Exactly what Bob said: \u201cIf you do go ahead, these are the consequences of that choice,\u201d when the family of origin is not so excited about this relationship so that they give you the full picture.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Well, we recently had an experience with a young man, who was wondering, \u201cIs she the one?\u201d As part of his decision-making process, we encouraged: \u201cYou probably should go spend a weekend in her hometown so you can interact with her parents, and get a read on how the family operates, and how they\u2019re feeling about this relationship.\u201d\u00a0 He did, and he discovered that her family did not want her with him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was an eye-opening experience for him. He began this whole process of, \u201cDo I <em>really <\/em>want to force this?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>He started to do a different type of evaluation and realized, \u201cThis probably isn\u2019t going to work.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. I have a friend of mine who fell hard for a guy\u2014young lady\u2014fell hard for this guy. It was a whirlwind. They thought, \u201cThis thing\u2026\u201d\u2014I mean, it was jet-sledding. And then she went and met the family. Just spending the weekend with the family and seeing the family dynamic caused her to go, \u201cI\u2019m not so sure that this is the right direction.\u201d I do think that\u2019s an important factor that has to be a part of your pre-marital evaluation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Oh, exactly\u2014and looking at both of your families of origin: \u201cWhat are the strengths that we bring in? What are the weaknesses?\u2014things that we need to replace?\u201d\u2014and doing an honest evaluation of that family of origin.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you do that, the most important thing is that you do look honestly at your family because every family\u2019s imperfect. Where the rub comes, oftentimes, is when one person sees some unhealthy patterns in that family of origin but the person they\u2019re in love with is like: \u201cNo, no, no, no, no. I don\u2019t want to know. Don\u2019t tell me.\u201d\u2014you know?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>That relationship\u2019s going to stall-out because we both have to deal with all of our stuff, honestly, and decide, \u201cWhat kind of a <em>new<\/em> family are we going to develop?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>I remember when Genesis 2:24 really came alive for me, where it says, \u201cFor this reason a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.\u201d When I realized that\u2014when that was written, it wasn\u2019t really a physical leaving. Most people stayed around and worked with Dad. They continued to work the farm. What it really was\u2014was an evaluation: \u201cWhat are the things in my family that are worth hanging onto because I have instincts in those areas?\u201d It was really big for me because, you know, I grew up in this home where some of the stuff I was taught was worth repeating; but a lot of what I learned at home wasn\u2019t. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI would go to conferences and hear about family legacy, and the importance of family, and how three and four generations\u2014it reaches deep. I had mixed reactions to that. I was like: \u201cWell, that\u2019s good for some stuff. I hope this other stuff doesn\u2019t have so much horsepower behind it that I can\u2019t undo it.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>When I realized that it\u2019s the evaluation process of saying, \u201cThe good things in my family I\u2019m keeping because I have instincts for those.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Keeping and honoring.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>\u201cI\u2019m going to honor the legacy of my family by identifying the unhealthy things and replacing them with better.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And if you\u2019re going to leave a great legacy, really, you have to prepare. Preparing for marriage is, I think, one of the most important training projects we can ever undergo\u2014whether it\u2019s a couple like Bob talked to, who just got engaged and were contemplating their lives together. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFrankly, a book like yours\u2014coupled with a weekend experience like the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>\u2014I think is really needed for couples today to really overcome some of the obstacles \/ some of the baggage, some of the stuff from the past of their own families of origin, maybe some of their fears\u2014and go do the very best thing you could possibly do for your future marriage. Or, if you\u2019re already married\u2014and maybe you\u2019d like to make a good marriage better or take a marriage that\u2019s struggling\u2014like Bob talked about earlier, who\u2019d been married for five years\u2014the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> is a great way for couples to invest in that relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>When I mentioned to this engaged couple that I thought they should go to a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>, they were kind of like, \u201cYou mean, before we\u2019re married, we should go?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Oh, that\u2019s the best investment you could make.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I explained to them that when the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> first got started, it was exclusively for engaged couples. It was only later that the married folks said, \u201cCan we come and listen to what you\u2019re telling the pre-married folks?\u201d And we still have breakouts for engaged couples at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can find out more about upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> events when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn the upper left-hand corner of the website, there\u2019s a box that says, \u201cGo Deeper.\u201d You click on that box. There\u2019s information about the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>. There\u2019s information about Bill and Pam Farrel\u2019s book, <em>The<\/em> <em>Before-You-Marry Book of Questions<\/em>, which would be a great book for every engaged couple to go through together\u2014to talk through the questions that Bill and Pam outline in the book. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHave I told you what Mary Ann and I are doing? We\u2019re getting together, right now, with a couple who are getting married in September. Here\u2019s what we\u2019re doing\u2014we\u2019re going through <em>The Art of Marriage<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> small group study with this couple. That\u2019s what we\u2019re using for their pre-marital preparation. Mary Ann and I get together with this other couple. We get out our workbooks. We watch the video for the evening, and then we have a great conversation around what we\u2019ve watched in the video. It\u2019s really going well! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt does not have to count as official marriage counseling because you may know a young couple who is already getting official marriage counseling; but you could take a young couple through this material, either as part of their pre-marital preparation or, if they\u2019ve just gotten married, invite them over to the house and watch Session 1 of the small group study for <em>The Art of Marriage<\/em>. Take this newly-married couple through <em>The Art of Marriage <\/em>material.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can find out more, again, at FamilyLifeToday.com when you click the button in the upper left-hand corner that says, \u201cGo Deeper.\u201d I should just mention here\u2014this week, we have a special offer for anyone who would like to take\u2014well, if you\u2019d like to take yourself and four other couples through <em>The Art of Marriage<\/em> small group material, when you buy the kit\u2014that has the DVDs in it and has workbooks\u2014FamilyLife is going to spring for workbooks for two of the couples you take through the material. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou buy the kit, and we\u2019ll cover the cost of workbooks for two couples. We\u2019re trying to do this just to encourage folks, during the summer, to get together with your small group and go through this material; or get a group of young couples together during the summer\u2014go through the material with them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFind out more when you go, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com. Click the button in the upper left-hand corner that says, \u201cGo Deeper.\u201d The information about <em>The Art of Marriage<\/em> small group material is available there, along with Bill and Pam Farrel\u2019s book, and the information on the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me wrap up here with a quick word of thanks to the folks who help support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. This month, when you make a donation to support the ministry, we\u2019d like to send you, as a thank-you gift, a set of three prayer cards designed to help you pray more effectively for the members of your family. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can go to FamilyLifeToday.com. Click the button that says, \u201cI Care,\u201d in the upper right-hand corner. Make an online donation. We\u2019ll get those prayer cards to you. Or call 1-800-FL-TODAY. You can make a donation over the phone, and ask for the prayer cards when you make that donation. Or mail your request for the prayer cards, along with a donation, to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> at P O Box 7111, Little Rock, AR. The zip code is 72223.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we hope you can join us back tomorrow as we continue to look at the subjects that ought to be explored before a young man and a young woman say, \u201cI do.\u201d For that matter, before any man and any woman say, \u201cI do,\u201d these are the kinds of conversations you ought to be having. I hope you can tune in tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. See you back tomorrow for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp for today. 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Pam Farrel understands why.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>The same summer that I was dating Bill, and deciding whether to marry, my parents were actually getting a divorce. It was vital that I dealt with: \u201cWhat do I even feel about marriage, and can it really last? Is it possible to have a love that lasts?\u201d I really was at a place I needed to hear: \u201cWhat does the Word of God say? What\u2019s the truth, and how can I build a strong foundation?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Thursday, April 24<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. We\u2019re going to spend some time today examining some of the questions that couples, who are dating, ought to be asking one another before they decide to say, \u201cI do.\u201d Stay tuned.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. Okay, so I have to tell you about these two couples\u2014two young couples that I\u2019ve been in contact with recently. The first young couple came up\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Married?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, the first couple came up, Sunday morning after church. She was flashing the ring; okay?\u2014so, brand-new engaged couples.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Got it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>We visited a little bit. We talked about their pre-marital\u2014they\u2019re going to a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> to get ready for their marriage. We told them, \u201cHave a short engagement.\u201d You know\u2014we just coached them on some of this stuff, but they\u2019re both so excited. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen that afternoon, I had a conversation with a husband, who\u2014Mary Ann and I were at their wedding\u2014they\u2019ve been married for about five years. They\u2019re not in a happy place in their marriage; okay? They\u2019re in conflict\u2014they\u2019re struggling. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI thought to myself, \u201cWhat can I say to the first couple, that I met this morning, with the engagement ring, so that, five years from now, they\u2019re not the second couple?\u201d I wish there was some magic thing, you know, that you say, and it would all be taken care of; but it\u2019s not that simple.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, by sending them to the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>, that\u2019s a good start\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014because there\u2019s a series of preparing-for-marriage break-out sessions that are really going to help them prepare for marriage to avoid where the other couple ended up. But there\u2019s also some questions that you could ask that couple\u2014who are just starting out their engagement\u2014that I think would be very appropriate. It\u2019s a book called <em>The Before-You-Marry Book of Questions<\/em>, written by Bill and Pam Farrel, who join us on the broadcast. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBill, Pam, welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Hi, it\u2019s great to be with you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Thanks. It is great being here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It\u2019s been a long time since you guys have been on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>It\u2019s been awhile.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Yes; too long because we sure value you all and your great ministry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, we appreciate you guys. You guys give leadership to a couple of organizations\u2014Love-Wise and Farrel Communications. You\u2019re speaking, and teaching, and writing books, all over the country. You\u2019ve been married since 1979\u2014have three adult children \/ three grandchildren. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou wrote this book to prepare couples who are getting ready to start the most important human commitment two people ever make to one another. You talk about how couples need to be prepared for love. We\u2019re really not ready for this thing called \u201cmarriage\u201d when we get engaged; are we?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>And you know, so much of what we share with other people comes out of our personal experience. I remember when Pam and I\u2014we met each other \/ we fell in love. We both came from homes that should never be repeated. So, the only thing I knew when we got married was: \u201cI love Jesus with all my heart. We love each other desperately, and we <em>really<\/em> don\u2019t know what we\u2019re doing.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Out of desperation, I used to take us to church. We would stand in the back, waiting for couples to come in and sit down. I would scan the crowd, looking for couples that looked like they still liked each other. We would go sit right behind them. During the greeting time they had to meet us. As they met us I would look at the guy and say: \u201cNow, you look like you\u2019re in love with her. Is this thing real?\u201d Of course, he said, \u201cWell, yes.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>He\u2019s at church\u2014he has to say that. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Then I would ask: \u201cWell, how did you do it? What are the things you do to keep this thing going?\u201d Well, because it\u2019s the greeting time at church, they don\u2019t have time to answer it there. So that usually led to an invite to lunch after church. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAt lunch, we got them to disciple us in how relationships really work. I\u2019d ask him questions: \u201cWhat do you say to your wife, on a regular basis, that works? What have you done that you would never do again? How do you treat her in a way that makes her glad she\u2019s married to you?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You were married, back in 1979. You have kind of a Campus Crusade for Christ<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, currently known as Cru<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Right; right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014kind of a story there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Yes. It connects back to you, actually. One of the reasons that we\u2019re so excited about <em>The<\/em> <em>Before-You-Marry Book of Questions<\/em> is\u2014I took a summer off of our dating, where we didn\u2019t write and we didn\u2019t speak\u2014we just wanted\u2014it was back before texting, and email, and Twitter<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, and all those things\u2014\u201cWe just want God to speak to our hearts.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI went to the Institute of Biblical Studies. There was this young, vibrant teacher. He was talking about marriage; and he kept talking about this beautiful woman, named Barbara, that he was married to and these cute kids. I\u2019m like, \u201cThat\u2019s the kind of marriage I want!\u201d Every day\u2014listening to, yes, Dennis Rainey\u2014I got some good training before I came back and Bill got down on one knee and said, \u201cHey, will you marry me?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>So, I was praying you\u2019d do a good job, Dennis. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It was kind of a marriage preparation course; wasn\u2019t it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>It was! It was terrific\u2014wish that everybody could have that kind of information, and now they can.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>But you know what\u2019s great about your story is\u2014two things\u2014first of all, you both loved Jesus; but you both recognized, \u201cWe\u2019re not sure what we\u2019re doing.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBecause I think there are a lot of people who: \u201cWe love Jesus. We figure that\u2019s going to take care of everything.\u201d You need more than just, \u201cWe both love Jesus,\u201d to make a marriage work; don\u2019t you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Well, most of the people I meet still think it\u2019s magic\u2014that if your heart\u2019s with the Lord and you love this person\u2014it\u2019s all just going to work out. We don\u2019t approach anything else in life that way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s right.<br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>You know\u2014I meet men, all the time, that\u2014they love their cars! That doesn\u2019t mean they think it is magic\u2014that it\u2019s just going to run. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>And yet, we somehow think, in relationships, it\u2019s going to work that way\u2014and the disappointment that sets in when I think: \u201cOh, it\u2019s not working out. Maybe I didn\u2019t meet the right person.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. Bill, how does answering the questions that you two have put together in your book really help a couple move toward marriage\u2014dealing with their fears and also getting on the same page, as they look toward beginning their lifetimes together?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Well, as couples, work through questions that are in this book and other questions related to relationships\u2014every time you get an answer, your confidence level goes up. I like to compare it to\u2014we live near a number of military bases, down where we are in San Diego\u2014and I tell men all the time: \u201cIf I took you down to the Marine Corps air station, stuck you in a jet, and told you to \u2018Fly this thing,\u2019\u2014well, if you don\u2019t know <em>how<\/em> to fly it, I\u2019m going to get some really strange reactions from you. You\u2019re probably going to cry, you\u2019re going to yell, scream \/ get angry\u2014but if you go to training, and you learn how to fly that jet, you get to go for the ride of your life.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>That\u2019s the way marriage is\u2014that when you get training \/ when you learn how this thing works\u2014and I honestly believe the missing question is \u201cHow?\u201d The first time I was told, \u201cYou should listen to your wife,\u201d my reaction was: \u201cI agree! How do I do that?\u201d When I was told: \u201cI should be committed for life,\u201d\u2014what I thought that meant was, \u201cYou need to be committed to be miserable with somebody for the rest of your life,\u201d because that\u2019s what I saw in my home.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>\u201cI want something better than that.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>The thing I <em>admire <\/em>about my parents is\u2014they have a simple sense of integrity, that: \u201cWe said this was for life. We meant it.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I was frustrated with my parents about was that they didn\u2019t commit to a quality relationship. So, I thought commitment meant you just kind of put up with each other and you\u2019re miserable. But then I started learning that: \u201cNo, you can actually learn how to make decisions well together. You can learn to set priorities together. You can pray for one another. You can share your struggles with each other. You can share your victories with each other\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>\u2014\u201clearn to romance well.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>\u201cAnd you can grow personally together so that, five years from now, you\u2019re stronger than you were when you started; and ten years from now, you\u2019re stronger than five years into it. It can be this great journey. All of a sudden, it became attractive. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So Pam, Dennis started off by asking the question that you start off with in the book: \u201cAre you ready for love?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>How does a young couple\u2014the couple that I met in church, on Sunday, with the ring\u2014how do they answer that question? How can they figure out, \u201cAre we ready for this?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>You know, one of the things we wanted to do in <em>The<\/em> <em>Before-You-Marry Book of Questions<\/em> was to make it natural. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, we\u2019ve always wanted to write a pre-marital, pre-engagement, dating kind of book. When our own children started dating and started getting serious\u2014we started: \u201cWell, you might want to take this test together,\u201d and, \u201cYou might want to have this kind of a date,\u201d and, \u201cYou might want this kind of an experience.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe thought, \u201cMaybe we should put it all in one place.\u201d So, we had \u201cDates to Decide\u201d in there because there are just certain dates that you should always go on\u2014like, you know\u2014take the person that you think you\u2019re in love with to church. See where your faith is\u2014if it\u2019s similar and if you\u2019re growing well together. Take them home to meet Mom and Dad, you know, because it\u2019s really two families that marry. And borrow the whiniest kid that you know, all day, and take him to the zoo\u2014[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam:<\/strong> \u2014see how they might parent. Or the Home Depot<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> Day\u2014and go to the department store and hang wallpaper together. If you can hang wallpaper and still be in love, you know, you might have what it takes. And the Third-World Date\u2014you know\u2014go on a mission trip and some place where you\u2019re not really showering regularly and things are kind of dusty and dirty. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you still like that person when they have bad hair, you might have what it takes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, we made it kind of a fun \/ interactive. Every few pages, you stop and you dialogue. There\u2019s \u201chis\u201d and \u201chers\u201d worksheets. There are questions, and there are dates to decide, and there are coffee-cup activities. We tried to make it as interactive as possible because we really think that\u2019s how people date. They date very organically, but they want some kind of path to follow and some kind of wisdom to listen to so they can avoid mistakes. Most people don\u2019t like pain; so, \u201cWhat can you do to help me not hurt my heart?\u201d is what they\u2019re looking for.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>What I\u2019ve discovered is\u2014people are asking questions, but they don\u2019t have permission to ask the strategic questions. So, we\u2019re asking questions like: \u201cAm I attracted to this person?\u201d\u2014which we hope you are. We hope you\u2014if you\u2019re going to think about getting married to somebody, we hope you\u2019re attracted to that person and think that they\u2019re stunning.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>But, there are some other strategic questions we need to ask. For instance, \u201cDo you have the ability to be curious about each other?\u201d I\u2019m amazed at how many men I meet that actually think they understand the woman that they\u2019re with. What I have found\u2014we\u2019re 34 years into marriage; and I\u2019m still on this curiosity journey\u2014trying to learn how Pam\u2019s wired, and how Pam approaches life, and how she processes the information. When I stop being curious, I start getting demanding. So: \u201cDo we have the ability to be curious?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAlso, if men are asking, \u201cAm I attracted to somebody who shares my purpose in life?\u201d If I look back and say, \u201cThe thing we did right\u2014is the one question I knew to ask is: \u2018Is Pam committed to ministry?\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>\u201cAre we going in the same direction together?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>I didn\u2019t realize, back then, how strategic it was; but I knew\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Oh, absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>\u2014I knew God had put a desire in my heart to serve Him, professionally, for the rest of my life. I knew that if I didn\u2019t get attracted to somebody who shared that, it wouldn\u2019t work.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Over the years, I\u2019ve counseled a lot of young couples who are at the point of getting engaged. The guy had one mission and one direction\u2014one purpose in mind\u2014and the young lady had another. They weren\u2019t in the same direction. That\u2019s not going to make for oneness.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>That\u2019s going to begin the marriage with isolation and could ultimately end it five years later\u2014like Bob was talking about\u2014two people who are in a mess.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne thing I want you to comment on, in terms of questions to ask early-on, and that is: \u201cWhat do your parents say about this relationship?\u201d I think every couple, who are contemplating engagement \/ getting engaged, need to know what their mom and dad think\u2014truly, honestly\u2014about this relationship. How do you guys handle that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Well, especially, the healthier that mom and dad are. If they come from a strong, Christian home, and there\u2019s a good value system, that just makes sense\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014check in with your most important spiritual mentors. For Bill and I\u2014my mom was in such a broken place. My dad was an alcoholic. Bill\u2019s mom struggles with mental illness. We actually went to our spiritual mentors and said, \u201cWhat do you think?\u201d because they had strong marriages. They were in a place of strength and could speak into our life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSometimes, you have to go even\u2014not just to your family\u2014but aunts and uncles\u2014your extended family\u2014the people that are mentoring you \/ discipling you\u2014your pastor \/ your small-group leader. Really, you want a good sounding-board\u2014a lot of people speaking truth into your life, at this really important juncture, because who you marry\u2014if you come to know Jesus in a personal way, that is the number one decision in life\u2014and who you marry\u2014that\u2019s like number two! So, this is vital.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>And all of us are parents, here, at the table; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMost parents have their kids\u2019 best interests at heart. But I remember kind of a shocking experience I had. I was getting my hair cut, and we were talking. I was talking to the lady, who was cutting my hair. She mentioned that she had an arranged marriage. I looked at her and said, \u201cWell, that\u2019s really unusual in this culture.\u201d I said, \u201cDid it bother you or did it scare you that your parents were going to choose your spouse?\u201d She very sincerely said to me: \u201cOh, no, my parents love me. They would make a good choice for me.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt kind of hit a place in my heart, where I realized: \u201cYou know, as parents, we really do have our kids\u2019 best interests at heart. So, our opinion matters.\u201d It makes sense that those who are getting married would want to check in with their parents and say: \u201cDad, what do you think? Mom, what do you think?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>It also puts some responsibility on Mom and Dad: \u201cIs it my issue or is it their issue?\u201d\u2014because, sometimes, moms and dads just have a hard time letting go\u2014especially, if it\u2019s your firstborn. We have to reel it back and say, \u201cOkay, before You, God, what\u2019s going on here?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>There\u2019s a line in the wedding ceremony, where the pastor asks, \u201cWho gives this woman to be married to this man?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I think, frankly, it has kind of become this checklist deal\u2014where Dad makes the handoff, go sit down, and \u201cLet\u2019s get on with the marriage.\u201d It\u2019s more than just symbolic and a ritual.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It really needs to represent a father, and for that matter the mother, blessing the union of this woman, being given to this man\u2014and for that matter, the parents of the groom also blessing. My encouragement to any couple, who are in a serious relationship, don\u2019t engage your parents so late in the process that you can\u2019t hear what they say.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You really want to maintain a teachable spirit and make sure you truly do heed what they say and don\u2019t rush by it. But Pam, I really like what you said, \u201cIf you have parents who may be spiritually\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>\u2014-broken\u2014sometimes, it\u2019s just brokenness.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes. You know, it\u2019s just a tough situation. I do like your idea, though, of going to maybe some leaders in your church\u2014mentors\u2014people who have spiritual maturity. Don\u2019t go select someone who will tell you what you want to hear\u2014[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014\u201cOh, yes! You bet!\u201d You know, \u201cHave a good time.\u201d No, this is such a serious decision. You need someone who\u2019ll tell you what you <em>need<\/em> to hear.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Right. Exactly what Bob said: \u201cIf you do go ahead, these are the consequences of that choice,\u201d when the family of origin is not so excited about this relationship so that they give you the full picture.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>Well, we recently had an experience with a young man, who was wondering, \u201cIs she the one?\u201d As part of his decision-making process, we encouraged: \u201cYou probably should go spend a weekend in her hometown so you can interact with her parents, and get a read on how the family operates, and how they\u2019re feeling about this relationship.\u201d\u00a0 He did, and he discovered that her family did not want her with him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was an eye-opening experience for him. He began this whole process of, \u201cDo I <em>really <\/em>want to force this?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>He started to do a different type of evaluation and realized, \u201cThis probably isn\u2019t going to work.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes. I have a friend of mine who fell hard for a guy\u2014young lady\u2014fell hard for this guy. It was a whirlwind. They thought, \u201cThis thing\u2026\u201d\u2014I mean, it was jet-sledding. And then she went and met the family. Just spending the weekend with the family and seeing the family dynamic caused her to go, \u201cI\u2019m not so sure that this is the right direction.\u201d I do think that\u2019s an important factor that has to be a part of your pre-marital evaluation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Oh, exactly\u2014and looking at both of your families of origin: \u201cWhat are the strengths that we bring in? What are the weaknesses?\u2014things that we need to replace?\u201d\u2014and doing an honest evaluation of that family of origin.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you do that, the most important thing is that you do look honestly at your family because every family\u2019s imperfect. Where the rub comes, oftentimes, is when one person sees some unhealthy patterns in that family of origin but the person they\u2019re in love with is like: \u201cNo, no, no, no, no. I don\u2019t want to know. Don\u2019t tell me.\u201d\u2014you know?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>That relationship\u2019s going to stall-out because we both have to deal with all of our stuff, honestly, and decide, \u201cWhat kind of a <em>new<\/em> family are we going to develop?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>I remember when Genesis 2:24 really came alive for me, where it says, \u201cFor this reason a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.\u201d When I realized that\u2014when that was written, it wasn\u2019t really a physical leaving. Most people stayed around and worked with Dad. They continued to work the farm. What it really was\u2014was an evaluation: \u201cWhat are the things in my family that are worth hanging onto because I have instincts in those areas?\u201d It was really big for me because, you know, I grew up in this home where some of the stuff I was taught was worth repeating; but a lot of what I learned at home wasn\u2019t. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI would go to conferences and hear about family legacy, and the importance of family, and how three and four generations\u2014it reaches deep. I had mixed reactions to that. I was like: \u201cWell, that\u2019s good for some stuff. I hope this other stuff doesn\u2019t have so much horsepower behind it that I can\u2019t undo it.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>When I realized that it\u2019s the evaluation process of saying, \u201cThe good things in my family I\u2019m keeping because I have instincts for those.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Keeping and honoring.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bill: <\/strong>\u201cI\u2019m going to honor the legacy of my family by identifying the unhealthy things and replacing them with better.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Pam: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And if you\u2019re going to leave a great legacy, really, you have to prepare. Preparing for marriage is, I think, one of the most important training projects we can ever undergo\u2014whether it\u2019s a couple like Bob talked to, who just got engaged and were contemplating their lives together. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFrankly, a book like yours\u2014coupled with a weekend experience like the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>\u2014I think is really needed for couples today to really overcome some of the obstacles \/ some of the baggage, some of the stuff from the past of their own families of origin, maybe some of their fears\u2014and go do the very best thing you could possibly do for your future marriage. Or, if you\u2019re already married\u2014and maybe you\u2019d like to make a good marriage better or take a marriage that\u2019s struggling\u2014like Bob talked about earlier, who\u2019d been married for five years\u2014the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> is a great way for couples to invest in that relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>When I mentioned to this engaged couple that I thought they should go to a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>, they were kind of like, \u201cYou mean, before we\u2019re married, we should go?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Oh, that\u2019s the best investment you could make.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I explained to them that when the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> first got started, it was exclusively for engaged couples. It was only later that the married folks said, \u201cCan we come and listen to what you\u2019re telling the pre-married folks?\u201d And we still have breakouts for engaged couples at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can find out more about upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> events when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn the upper left-hand corner of the website, there\u2019s a box that says, \u201cGo Deeper.\u201d You click on that box. There\u2019s information about the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>. There\u2019s information about Bill and Pam Farrel\u2019s book, <em>The<\/em> <em>Before-You-Marry Book of Questions<\/em>, which would be a great book for every engaged couple to go through together\u2014to talk through the questions that Bill and Pam outline in the book. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHave I told you what Mary Ann and I are doing? We\u2019re getting together, right now, with a couple who are getting married in September. Here\u2019s what we\u2019re doing\u2014we\u2019re going through <em>The Art of Marriage<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> small group study with this couple. That\u2019s what we\u2019re using for their pre-marital preparation. Mary Ann and I get together with this other couple. We get out our workbooks. We watch the video for the evening, and then we have a great conversation around what we\u2019ve watched in the video. It\u2019s really going well! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt does not have to count as official marriage counseling because you may know a young couple who is already getting official marriage counseling; but you could take a young couple through this material, either as part of their pre-marital preparation or, if they\u2019ve just gotten married, invite them over to the house and watch Session 1 of the small group study for <em>The Art of Marriage<\/em>. Take this newly-married couple through <em>The Art of Marriage <\/em>material.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can find out more, again, at FamilyLifeToday.com when you click the button in the upper left-hand corner that says, \u201cGo Deeper.\u201d I should just mention here\u2014this week, we have a special offer for anyone who would like to take\u2014well, if you\u2019d like to take yourself and four other couples through <em>The Art of Marriage<\/em> small group material, when you buy the kit\u2014that has the DVDs in it and has workbooks\u2014FamilyLife is going to spring for workbooks for two of the couples you take through the material. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou buy the kit, and we\u2019ll cover the cost of workbooks for two couples. We\u2019re trying to do this just to encourage folks, during the summer, to get together with your small group and go through this material; or get a group of young couples together during the summer\u2014go through the material with them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFind out more when you go, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com. Click the button in the upper left-hand corner that says, \u201cGo Deeper.\u201d The information about <em>The Art of Marriage<\/em> small group material is available there, along with Bill and Pam Farrel\u2019s book, and the information on the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me wrap up here with a quick word of thanks to the folks who help support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. This month, when you make a donation to support the ministry, we\u2019d like to send you, as a thank-you gift, a set of three prayer cards designed to help you pray more effectively for the members of your family. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can go to FamilyLifeToday.com. Click the button that says, \u201cI Care,\u201d in the upper right-hand corner. Make an online donation. We\u2019ll get those prayer cards to you. Or call 1-800-FL-TODAY. You can make a donation over the phone, and ask for the prayer cards when you make that donation. Or mail your request for the prayer cards, along with a donation, to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> at P O Box 7111, Little Rock, AR. The zip code is 72223.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we hope you can join us back tomorrow as we continue to look at the subjects that ought to be explored before a young man and a young woman say, \u201cI do.\u201d For that matter, before any man and any woman say, \u201cI do,\u201d these are the kinds of conversations you ought to be having. I hope you can tune in tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. See you back tomorrow for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp for today. 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