{"id":302682,"date":"2013-02-12T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2013-02-12T17:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/purifying-the-marriage-bed\/"},"modified":"2013-02-12T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2013-02-12T17:00:00","slug":"purifying-the-marriage-bed","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/purifying-the-marriage-bed\/","title":{"rendered":"Purifying the Marriage Bed"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dr. Russell Moore discusses maintaining marital fidelity.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2013-02-12.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"23.67M","filesize_raw":"24823201","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2088],"tags":[2320,4714,2991],"podcast_series":[7928],"cwp_profile":[9177],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-302682","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-romance-and-sex","tag-purity","tag-romance","tag-sex","podcast_series-moral-purity-in-marriage","cwp_profile-russell-moore","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/302682\/purifying-the-marriage-bed","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/302682\/purifying-the-marriage-bed","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"mSdid51tAA\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/purifying-the-marriage-bed\/\">Purifying the Marriage Bed<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/purifying-the-marriage-bed\/embed\/#?secret=mSdid51tAA\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Purifying the Marriage Bed&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"mSdid51tAA\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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fidelity.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2013-02-12.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 When the Bible gives instruction on singleness, and marriage, and sexual purity, it\u2019s not simply providing some kind of pragmatic advice.\u00a0 Here\u2019s Dr. Russell Moore with an example.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Russell:<\/strong>\u00a0 It is better to marry than to burn with passion.\u00a0 Why is that the case?\u00a0 It is not simply because fornication will do bad things to you later on\u2014although, it will.\u00a0 It is because God has revealed, \u201cFornicators will not inherit the Kingdom of God.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday, February 12<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine.\u00a0 There is a connection between your relationship with God, the condition of your soul, and your sexual purity.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to talk about that today.\u00a0 Stay tuned.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us on the Tuesday edition.\u00a0 You just spent the weekend at one of our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup><\/em> marriage getaways, up in Washington, DC.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I\u2019m telling you\u2014that is\u2014if that doesn\u2019t light your fire, your wood\u2019s wet.\u00a0 I met tons of listeners from the DC area\u2014lots of young couples, coming to the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>, up there.\u00a0 What a treat to spend the weekend with those folks\u2014hopefully, encouraged them\u2014as they build their marriages, their families, and their legacies.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I\u2019m going to be out in Hershey, this weekend, at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> at the Hershey Lodge.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 It\u2019s not too late for folks to go hear Bob speak and get a little chocolate\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014while there\u2014a little romance, on the side, there.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And you know, I was thinking about the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> because when my daughter and son-in-law went\u2014and they were engaged, at the time.\u00a0 They went to the engaged sessions because there are breakout sessions for the engaged couples.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Did you speak?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I did not speak.\u00a0 No, I was not going to have them come to one where I was speaking.\u00a0 Forget that!\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 But one of the things we challenged the engaged couples to is a commitment to purity in their relationship, prior to marriage.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And my daughter came home; and she said, \u201cI\u2019ve got a little problem with your purity covenant, that you had at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>.\u201d\u00a0 I thought\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Really?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014\u201cUh-oh!\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cWhat\u2019s the problem?\u201d\u00a0 She said, \u201cYou\u2019re having us sign something where we pledge that we will remain pure before marriage.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cYes.\u201d\u00a0 She said, \u201cWhat about remaining pure after marriage?\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cTouch\u00e9!\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That is a good question.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 That is a good question.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s a great question.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 She said, \u201cWe should want to remain pure, not just before we get married, but throughout our lifetime.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 If you are looking for a great wedding gift to give a young couple, who are getting married in the coming months, the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> gift certificate\u2014I\u2019m telling you.\u00a0 We give a lot of wedding gifts to a lot of couples.\u00a0 I think it\u2019s the best thing we give them.\u00a0 Why?\u2014because it\u2019s going to help them turn their marriage license into a real marriage.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd today, we\u2019re going to hear a message by Dr. Russell Moore, who is the Dean of the School of Theology at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.\u00a0 I always liked that \u201cThe\u201d\u2014The Southern Baptist\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Like, The Ohio State University.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Exactly.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Exactly\u2014in Louisville, Kentucky.\u00a0 Russell is a good friend.\u00a0 He\u2019s a funny speaker.\u00a0 I want our audience to really listen as he shares some of the counsel he gives an engaged couple, who comes to him for marriage preparation counsel.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And this is Part Two of a message that he presented to the student body at Southern Seminary, in Louisville, back in August.\u00a0 It\u2019s a message on purity in marriage\u2014keeping your marriage, sexually pure.\u00a0 And here, with Part Two of that message, is Dr. Russell Moore.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Recorded message]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Russell:<\/strong>\u00a0 Sometimes, people get their ideas about marriage from watching films and watching movies.\u00a0 That\u2019s a really dangerous thing to do because of the films they choose.\u00a0 They want to watch <em>The Notebook.<\/em><em>\u00a0 <\/em>[Laughter]\u00a0 If you want to see a realistic movie portrayal of what it means to\u2014Ephesians 5\u2014\u201cFight for your wife and your marriage\u201d \u2014don\u2019t watch some promiscuous idolater, and don\u2019t watch some sappy romance\u2014watch an old werewolf movie.\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 What happens in the werewolf movies?\u00a0 The guy knows that he has been bitten by a werewolf, and he knows that the moon is going to be full.\u00a0 He\u2019s watching the shadows go back and back, from the moon.\u00a0 He says to his friends:\u00a0 \u201cI want you to chain me in the basement as long as the moon is full.\u00a0 I don\u2019t care how I beg you.\u00a0 I don\u2019t care how I plead with you.\u00a0 I don\u2019t care what I promise you.\u00a0 Don\u2019t let me out of the basement, as long as the moon is full.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat is <em>exactly<\/em> what it means to crucify yourself, sexually, when it comes to temptation.\u00a0 You must know yourself enough to know, \u201cWhere are those soft points of vulnerability that the satanic powers are going to be able to tap at, and to check, and to move towards?\u201d because you can be certain that these invisible beings are watching what turns your head.\u00a0 They are watching what gets your attention.\u00a0 They are seeing the desires of your heart.\u00a0 As long as those desires of your heart are not conformed into the image of Christ, they will see to it that you will get what you want.\u00a0 A faithful husband and a faithful wife are Christians, who are struggling, and fighting, and crucifying the flesh\u2014not only as individuals\u2014but as a couple.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn premarital counseling\u2014with every couple that I marry\u2014one of the exercises that I have them do is to write an essay that they will read to the other one:\u00a0 \u201cIf I were to have an affair, here is how I would do it.\u201d\u00a0 You can lie in that.\u00a0 You don\u2019t know everything about yourself in that; but sitting there and saying:\u00a0 \u201cWhat is the kind of situation\u2014where would I be vulnerable to adultery\u2014and what kinds of things ought you to ask about if you start to see those things showing up in my life?\u00a0 What is the way that I typically cover over sin?\u00a0 What is the way that I typically justify sin to myself?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs a couple, you are not, as Paul says, ignorant of Satan\u2019s designs.\u00a0 You know what the satanic powers do to human beings, generally; and then, you know what the satanic powers do, specifically with you.\u00a0 The other member of that couple is able to be watching and praying with you\u2014as seeing where all of those internal and external threats are starting to come in.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tEarly on, in ministry\u2014serving a church\u2014we had a young woman, who would come up after every sermon.\u00a0 She would say, \u201cAh, Brother Moore\u2014that was just amazing!\u00a0 I\u2019ve got some questions to ask you, from Habakkuk.\u201d\u00a0 Then, she would stand and ask questions.\u00a0 Maria said to me, in the car, on the way home, \u201cShe\u2019s after you!\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cYou\u2019re crazy!\u00a0 You are crazy!\u00a0 I look like a cricket.\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 She\u2019s not after me.\u00a0 Secondly, she\u2019s just this godly, truth-seeking woman.\u00a0 She\u2019s just intensely passionate about Habakkuk.\u201d\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 Maria said:\u00a0 \u201cWell, I don\u2019t know about all that, but I know women.\u00a0 I know how women act, and she is after you.\u201d\u00a0 She was not threatened by that.\u00a0 She didn\u2019t nag or berate me about that.\u00a0 She just made sure that, every time that woman approached, she was right there with me.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat woman came and sat down one time\u2014next to me, on the pew, before service started\u2014to ask me a Habakkuk question.\u00a0 Next thing I know, here comes Maria.\u00a0 She just squeezes herself right down between us, reaches up and kisses me on the cheek, and just starts rubbing my back, while I explain the eschatology of Habakkuk.\u00a0 [Clapping]\u00a0 What that is\u2014is a warrior princess for Christ\u2014in her marriage.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you wives are going to work, with your husbands, toward godliness, you cannot be threatened by the idea that your husband is going to feel some attraction for some other woman.\u00a0 If your husband tells you that he has never had any attraction to anybody else but you, he is a liar!\u00a0 Don\u2019t be threatened, wives, when your husband sits down and says to you:\u00a0 \u201cI believe that I may be vulnerable.\u00a0 I find myself noticing So-and-so when she walks in the room,\u201d or, \u201cI find myself just spiritually dry, and joyless, and bored right now.\u00a0 I\u2019m afraid that\u2019s an inroad to Satan.\u00a0 Help me to crucify the flesh.\u201d\u00a0 That\u2019s a blessing from God!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSecondly, there\u2019s the issue of fornication.\u00a0 One of my missions in life\u2014one of them is to get rid of those little, plastic, Chiclets\u2014Lord\u2019s Supper communion tablets\u2014that we have been giving out for years and years.\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 But the other is to eradicate, from the Christian grammar, the words, \u201cpremarital sex\u201d.\u00a0 There is no such thing as premarital sex!\u00a0 The Scripture uses a specific word for this immorality.\u00a0 That word is a word that sounds so antiquated and church lady-ish that we feel awkward even using it\u2014fornication and fornicator\u2014but when you use the language of premarital sex, you\u2019re not just updating your vocabulary\u2014you are changing the notion of something that, in and of itself, is intrinsically evil\u2014to something that is simply a matter of timing.\u00a0 That is <em>not <\/em>what the Scripture is talking about when it talks about the sin of fornication.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are some ways in which fornication mimics the conjugal union of sex; but when you have two, who are joining themselves together, outside of that lifelong covenant, you are picturing something other than the Gospel of Jesus Christ.\u00a0 The fornication is not simply something that is timed badly.\u00a0 The fornication is a spiritual act that is joining you and attaching you, in some mystical way, to another person, in a way that communicates a Christ who is not faithful to His bride.\u00a0 That is not just immoral.\u00a0 That is blasphemy!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the significant issues that we face in our churches is that we have an entire generation of young people who are able to cover over and to callous their consciences by being technical virgins\u2014by justifying, to themselves, acts of rebellion against God as somehow being acceptable and somehow being justifiable in a way that, not only stores up sin, but also <em>devastates<\/em> the functioning Christian conscience.\u00a0 Often, even those teenagers and young single adults in our churches, who are remaining faithful in sexual purity, are doing so more out of risk-avoidance than out of a commitment to the Gospel of Jesus Christ.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPaul says, \u201cIf you cannot handle yourself and keep yourself under control, marry.\u00a0 It is better to marry than to burn with passion.\u201d\u00a0 Why is that the case?\u00a0 It is not simply because fornication will do bad things to you later on\u2014although, it will.\u00a0 It is because God has revealed, \u201cFornicators will not inherit the Kingdom of God.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, one of the problems that we have in our church, and possibly even in your marriage, is that we do not really believe that.\u00a0 We do not really see the spiritual war that is going on, at this point, because we assume:\u00a0 \u201cIt\u2019s premarital sex.\u00a0 So, once the marriage takes place, the issue is now resolved.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cDo you not know,\u201d First Corinthians says, \u201cthat fornicators will not inherit the Kingdom of God?\u00a0 Such were some of you; but you were washed.\u201d\u00a0 You were justified.\u00a0 You were sanctified.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSome of you\u2014in your marriages, right now\u2014are experiencing deadness, and mistrust, and conflict because you, husbands, led that woman into fornication.\u00a0 You have never gotten to the point of repentance before God for evil.\u00a0 Every act of hiddenness that you took to manage your own image and to cover over your sin, you will be able to do, just as easily, again, with some other woman.\u00a0 \u201cShe\u2019s the love of my life!\u201d\u00a0 You\u2019ll feel that way about somebody else, one day.\u00a0 \u201cWe were just so carried away!\u201d\u00a0 You\u2019ll be carried away again, one day.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tUntil you get to the point\u2014specifically, men\u2014where you, as a former fornicator, get on your knees with your wife and say:\u00a0 \u201cI am guilty of not protecting you, of not exercising godly headship over you, of not loving you as Christ loved the Church.\u00a0 I repent before God, and I repent to you,\u201d you will never understand what the Scripture is talking about when it says:\u00a0 \u201cYou were washed.\u00a0 You were freed.\u201d\u00a0 The problem is\u2014we assume that, because the issue is in the past, that the issue is over; but as Alice von Hildebrand put it so poignantly one time, \u201cNothing drives two people further apart than sinning together.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYour wife, men, may not trust you right now because she knows her parents couldn\u2019t trust you then.\u00a0 Until that is dealt with\u2014with the kind of heart that cries out, \u201cLord, have mercy, and free me, and wash me,\u201d you will never find the kind of spiritual power and freedom in your marriage that you so desperately need.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, that is a strong word from Dr. Russell Moore at Southern Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky, talking about the need for repentance over sexual sin in a marriage relationship.\u00a0 It\u2019s hard to do.\u00a0 It\u2019s hard to own up to.\u00a0 It\u2019s hard to want to go back into issues that have been there in the past\u2014maybe, premarital issues you\u2019d kind of like to just forget it and get on with marriage\u2014but these are things that have to be addressed, head-on, and have to be dealt with.\u00a0 They can\u2019t just be shoveled over with a load of dirt.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, in Genesis, Chapter 2, it talks about a man and his wife both being naked and unashamed.\u00a0 The idea there is without disguise, without covering, without hiding.\u00a0 I don\u2019t think you are ever going to experience the intimacy that God designed for your marriage if there\u2019s something you\u2019re hiding from your spouse or something that, maybe, together that you did that you need to go back and say, \u201cI need you to forgive me for some of my actions,\u201d\u2014perhaps, as you mentioned, Bob\u2014perhaps, when you dated or, perhaps, later on in your marriage.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think true authenticity\u2014true honesty\u2014can be used by God to bring healing in a marriage relationship; especially, if you both know how to forgive.\u00a0 Here\u2019s the thing.\u00a0 Some folks don\u2019t know how to do that.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve not been to a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway, I\u2019d encourage you to come because one of the components of the weekend is a really important section of the conference that will equip you to know how to put issues like this behind you, and to truly give up the right to punish another person, and to be reconciled, and to move forward with vision\u2014with oneness\u2014and to know how to handle temptations, when they come your way, in the future.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, again, we\u2019ve got a number of <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways going to be taking place, throughout the country, this spring.\u00a0 In fact, you were just in Washington, DC, at the Gaylord National Hotel, at a great <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> there, with hundreds of folks, from all around the area.\u00a0 We\u2019ve got hundreds joining us, this weekend, in Hershey, Pennsylvania, and in other locations\u2014I\u00a0 just mentioned Hershey because Mary Ann and I are going to be there for the <em>Weekend to Remember <\/em>this weekend\u2014and then, through the spring, <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> events will take place in cities, all across the country.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, if you\u2019d like to sign up for a getaway weekend for you and your spouse\u2014a little preventative maintenance for your marriage\u2014a fun, romantic getaway\u2014go to FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 Click on the link for the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>.\u00a0 There is more information about when an event is coming to a city near where you live.\u00a0 Again, our website is FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere is also information there about Dennis and Barbara Rainey\u2019s book, <em>Rekindling the Romance<\/em>, where you address the issue of purity in marriage\u2014from both a husband and a wife\u2019s perspective\u2014Barbara writing to wives, and you writing to the husbands.\u00a0 Again, go, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call us, toll-free, at 1-800-FL-TODAY for more information about the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> or about Dennis and Barbara Rainey\u2019s book, <em>Rekindling the Romance<\/em>.\u00a0 The toll-free number, 1-800-FL-TODAY\u2014you\u2019ll find us, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, I mentioned the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>\u2014I was speaking at one of these events a while back.\u00a0 We addressed the issue of sexual intimacy in marriage, at a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>, in what I think is a both candid and appropriate way of addressing this subject.\u00a0 We have the message that I presented at that <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> available on audio CD.\u00a0 It talks about some of the challenges that couples face in marriage that can threaten their sexual oneness in marriage, and it also talks about what are the essential ingredients for marital intimacy to thrive.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re making that CD available, this week, when you make a donation to support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Go to FamilyLifeToday.com to make an online donation to help underwrite the costs of producing and syndicating this program.\u00a0 Click the button that says, \u201cI CARE\u201d, on the website.\u00a0 That will take you right to the area where you can make an online donation; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to make a donation over the phone.\u00a0 Ask for the CD about marital intimacy when you get in touch with us.\u00a0 We just want you to know we appreciate your support.\u00a0 We appreciate you being partners with us in this ministry.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we want to encourage you to be back with us again tomorrow.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to hear from Dr. Russell Moore on the issue of pornography in marriage and what that is doing to undermine marital purity.\u00a0 I hope you can be here for that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We will see you back tomorrow for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp for today.\u00a0 Hope for 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