{"id":302681,"date":"2013-02-11T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2013-02-11T17:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/purity-not-just-for-the-unmarried\/"},"modified":"2013-02-11T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2013-02-11T17:00:00","slug":"purity-not-just-for-the-unmarried","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/purity-not-just-for-the-unmarried\/","title":{"rendered":"Purity: Not Just for the Unmarried"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dr. Russell Moore says you WILL encounter sexual temptation in your marriage.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2013-02-11.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"24.46M","filesize_raw":"25652364","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2088],"tags":[2320,4714,2991],"podcast_series":[7928],"cwp_profile":[9177],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-302681","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-romance-and-sex","tag-purity","tag-romance","tag-sex","podcast_series-moral-purity-in-marriage","cwp_profile-russell-moore","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/302681\/purity-not-just-for-the-unmarried","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/302681\/purity-not-just-for-the-unmarried","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"L3pM87qC8U\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/purity-not-just-for-the-unmarried\/\">Purity: Not Just for the Unmarried<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/purity-not-just-for-the-unmarried\/embed\/#?secret=L3pM87qC8U\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Purity: Not Just for the Unmarried&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"L3pM87qC8U\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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marriage.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2013-02-11.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 People don\u2019t just fall into a marital affair.\u00a0 Dr. Russell Moore says, \u201cThere is actually a diabolical plot that is unfolding as you engage in marital unfaithfulness.\u201d\u00a0 <br><br><strong>Russell:<\/strong>\u00a0 Sexual immorality is part of a conspiracy to work with you, in your sin, in order to trap you, like an animal, who is caught.\u00a0 Paul says, \u201cFlee from sexual immorality;\u201d and why is that the case?\u00a0 It\u2019s because this warning applies to <em>all<\/em> of the people of God.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Monday, February 11<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We hear a lot of talk today about sexual purity prior to marriage.\u00a0 What about sexual purity in marriage?\u00a0 We\u2019re going to hear about that today.\u00a0 Stay tuned.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us.\u00a0 And I want to say a very special happy birthday\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I\u2019ll take it!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014to my good friend, Crawford Loritts, who is celebrating his birthday today.\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 Isn\u2019t it?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You got me on that one!\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 Crawford and I have the same birthdays.\u00a0 He lives in Atlanta, Georgia.\u00a0 We always try to call each other before the other does.\u00a0 Of course, he gets up much earlier than I do because it\u2019s Eastern Time in Atlanta.\u00a0 You nailed me on that, Bob.\u00a0 You got me!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I just thought I\u2019d sneak that in there as you and Crawford both celebrate birthdays\u2014\u201cHappy birthday to both of you,\u201d is what I really wanted to say.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Thank you.\u00a0 Thank you very much.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, I was thinking about this being the Valentine\u2019s season.\u00a0 Everybody is thinking about romance.\u00a0 It just feels, to me\u2014like, in the culture anymore\u2014Valentine\u2019s Day has taken kind of a sad turn because romance, in our culture today, means sex.\u00a0 You stop, and you look at it\u2014we\u2019ve lost\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Married or unmarried.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, we\u2019ve lost the sense that romance is about fond affection for one another\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014and we\u2019ve just reduced it to\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Chivalry.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014the basics.\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know\u2014winning the hand of your bride, your wife.\u00a0 Yes, it\u2019s about competition.\u00a0 Just because you\u2019re married, doesn\u2019t mean the competition is over.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Folks need to get back to an understanding that romance is something\u2014well, we talked about it last week as we heard you and Barbara talking about romance, and passion, and how we express our affection for one another\u2014how we love one another.\u00a0 That is done in non-sexual ways.\u00a0\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut I was also thinking of a message that you and I heard back, a number of months ago, when Dr. Russell Moore, who is the Dean of the School of Theology at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky, was talking to students there about the dangers that married couples can get in when they find themselves tempted by sexual impurity in a marriage relationship.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 And although he is talking to a group of future pastors, he\u2019s talking to our listeners today because the temptations are very real, on a number of fronts.\u00a0 You just need to know\u2014as a listener, stay all the way to the end.\u00a0 This is a very entertaining message, especially, here at the season of Valentine\u2019s.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 It\u2019s entertaining; but it\u2019s also powerful, and one that I think every married couple needs to hear.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to hear it this week.\u00a0 In fact, we\u2019re going to hear Part One right now.\u00a0 Here is Russell Moore, who has just been introduced to the students by Dr. Randy Stinson, at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, with a message on moral purity from First Corinthians, Chapter 6.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Recorded message]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Russell:<\/strong>\u00a0 Dr. Stinson says he already commends everything I have to say.\u00a0 So, I\u2019ll say this to Dr. Stinson:\u00a0 \u201cWe, Moores, might be a little people; but we\u2019re fiery!\u00a0 I guarantee you\u2014if you get enough adrenaline in me, I can whip any man in this room!\u201d\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe moment when that adrenaline started to surge through me\u2014and what I believe was the highest level in my life\u2014and possibly at a toxic level\u2014happened at a <em>True Love Waits<\/em> retreat, sometime in the 1990s.\u00a0 I was serving as a youth pastor.\u00a0 I\u2019d been asked to speak at this event that was devoted to talking to teenagers about sexual purity and about saving themselves, sexually, for marriage.\u00a0 I had my youth group with me, as well; and I was here with a group of other youth groups.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was about to speak about sexual purity, and I was seated on the platform.\u00a0 They said, \u201cBefore you speak, we\u2019re going to have one of the teenagers stand up and give her testimony.\u201d\u00a0 So, she did\u2014girl named Laurie.\u00a0 She got up and said: \u201cSome of you, in this room, know that I had sex with Chad last year, right over there; and I\u2019ve repented of that.\u00a0 Some of you don\u2019t think I\u2019ve repented of that.\u00a0 Just because Chad was dating Tina when we got together, you can\u2019t judge me!\u00a0 You can\u2019t judge me!\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m sitting here, thinking, \u201cThis has suddenly turned into some type of a daytime talk show.\u201d\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 It went on, and on, and on.\u00a0 Then, I had to stand up and preach the Bible.\u00a0 As I was reading the text, I mistakenly thought to myself, \u201cWell, at least we have hit rock bottom;\u201d but, \u201cOh, no,\u201d because the next day was an event for guys only.\u00a0 The male teenagers were to come to this event.\u00a0 Laurie\u2019s dad, who was a leader in that church, was leading that event.\u00a0 He stood up and started talking to this group of mostly eighth-grade boys about sexual purity.\u00a0 He said: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs some of you heard last night, my daughter, Laurie, had sex with Chad over there.\u00a0 Chad, it was\u2014what November?\u2014October?\u00a0 It was October.\u00a0 They\u2019ve repented of that.\u00a0 I want to tell you something right now.\u00a0 You boys think that sex is so great.\u00a0 You think that sex is just so fantastic.\u00a0 It sure seems like it now, but just wait until you\u2019ve been married to the same woman for 30 years.\u00a0 It\u2019s the same thing\u2014day in and day out\u2014and night in and night out\u2014you won\u2019t think that sex is all that great then. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, the Lord has given me a gift that I\u2019m not sure is included in Ephesians, Chapter 4\u2014but I can read thought-balloons sometimes.\u00a0 As a former eighth-grade boy, I can especially read the thought-balloons, over all our eighth grade boys.\u00a0 It is, \u201cWell, if this is what we have waiting for us, then, let\u2019s just get while the getting is good.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe more he talked, the madder I became.\u00a0 The reason why is\u2014I\u2019ve reflected upon that man\u2019s attitude over the years\u2014it\u2019s not just that he\u2019s mistaken\u2014although he is\u2014it\u2019s that, at the core of what he was saying\u2014despite all his good intentions\u2014was something deeply and profoundly satanic.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you are going to be the kind of husband, or the kind of wife, who will maintain moral purity in your marriage, you must understand what it is that you are wrestling against.\u00a0 What you are wrestling against is not merely biology\u2014what you are wrestling against is not merely whatever circumstance you happen to be in your life, or in your ministry, or in your marriage\u2014what you are wrestling against is an ancient, spiritual battle that cuts to the very core of what the Gospel, itself, is about.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhatever sexual temptation will come into your marriage is not about you!\u00a0 It is about something that has been going on for millennia\u2014and something that was purposed and planned, in the mind of God, before the cosmos ever was.\u00a0 Your struggle and your battle is precisely what the serpent offers in the Garden, when he says to the woman\u2014simultaneously\u2014\u201cSee yourself as an animal.\u201d\u00a0 She\u2019s been given dominion\u2014the Bible says\u2014\u201cover all the beasts of the fields.\u201d Now, she is taking direction from a \u201cbeast of the fields.\u201d\u00a0 Also, \u201cSee yourself as a god.\u00a0 You can decide what is good and evil.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou will face this pull, throughout your marriage, because this is exactly what the Apostle Paul is talking about when he says the issue in sexual purity is not simply about self-control\u2014although it is about self-control.\u00a0 It is about a kind of self-control that is doing warfare against the temptation of Satan.\u00a0 You will face this pull and this devastating drive toward sexual temptation.\u00a0 I want us to deal with it, this morning, in several areas.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe first is in the most obvious area of adultery.\u00a0 Almost anybody in this room can look around and see the kind of carnage that takes place in the lives\u2014even of people that you know.\u00a0 Some of you have pastors who preach the Word of God to you or who baptized you, who were later destroyed in an adulterous affair.\u00a0 Some of you have friends that have started out in ministry with you, who have been destroyed by an adulterous affair.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJust this last year, I heard of a friend of mine, from years ago\u2014a man that I had studied for ministry with\u2014who was caught in an adulterous affair.\u00a0 The worst part about it was a mutual friend said:\u00a0 \u201cHe sat his children down.\u00a0 He said, \u2018I know this is wrong.\u00a0 I\u2019m leaving your mother for another woman.\u00a0 I know this is wrong, but God will forgive me because that\u2019s what God does.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 The mutual friend said what was most disturbing to him was hearing his children scream.\u00a0 I put down the phone and vomited out of anguish\u2014imagining myself, looking into the faces of my children and saying, \u201cEverything that you have ever known is being torn to shreds.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cI can\u2019t even imagine that!\u201d but then\u2014it hit me, \u201cTwo years ago, he couldn\u2019t have imagined it either.\u00a0 Two years ago, that scenario would have been just as shocking to him as it is to me, right now!\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s because sexual immorality is not something that suddenly happens to you.\u00a0 Sexual immorality is part of a conspiracy and a plot to work with you, in your sin, in order to\u2014as the Book of Proverbs says\u2014\u201c...trap you, like an animal, who is caught.\u201d\u00a0 Paul says, \u201cFlee from sexual immorality.\u00a0 Be warned about joining yourself in adultery,\u201d and why is that the case?\u00a0 It\u2019s because this warning applies to <em>all<\/em> of the people of God.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe typically think that sexual temptation and sexual opportunity happens to sexy people.\u00a0 You see love affairs on television and in the movies in which you have these magnetic, attractive people who lined up together in these affairs.\u00a0 That is not the way that it happens!\u00a0 The ugliest people I\u2019ve ever known have had affairs.\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 I have seen\u2014I can\u2019t tell you how many men who have left beautiful, godly wives for women that you would not even notice if you passed them in the hallway.\u00a0 This is not a matter of how sexy or how attractive someone is.\u00a0 The satanic powers are noticing <em>you<\/em>!\u00a0 They are watching <em>you<\/em>!\u00a0 That is especially the case for those of you who have stood up and said, \u201cI am pursuing God\u2019s call upon my life to stand, and to speak for Christ, in proclaiming the Oracles of God.\u201d\u00a0 They will do <em>anything<\/em> to see to it that the Gospel is discredited by your animalistic impulses.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMost people, who find themselves drawn into adultery, are not drawn into adultery because they are so oversexed.\u00a0 Most of them, instead, find themselves in that place because marriage is exactly what Dennis Rainey said, a few minutes ago\u2014a mission.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s an economy.\u00a0 It\u2019s an order that has been put together\u2014and it is <em>hard labor<\/em> together\u2014to bring forth the bread from the earth, and to be fruitful and multiply, and to raise up the next generation, and to get along with one another, through all of these sufferings and all of this strife.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMost of the ministers of the Gospel, that I know, who have wrecked themselves in affairs, have done so because this is a means, initially, of escape.\u00a0 They find themselves in a situation where talking to her or visiting with him has all of the vibe and the excitement of a high school romance.\u00a0 You don\u2019t have to worry about who\u2019s going to take the garbage out, and who\u2019s going to separate the recycling, and who\u2019s going to discipline the children.\u00a0 It simply is a means of flight from responsibility.\u00a0 It is a way for the ego to be gratified as someone starts to see himself or see herself as the object of attention.\u00a0\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut notice what the Apostle Paul says here.\u00a0 It is shockingly radical!\u00a0 The Apostle Paul says, \u201cYou belong to each other.\u201d\u00a0 He does not simply say, \u201cFlee adultery.\u201d\u00a0 He does not simply say, \u201cDon\u2019t be joined to a prostitute.\u201d\u00a0 He does not simply say, \u201cHey, it\u2019s okay to be married\u201d\u2014those of you who are wondering about that.\u00a0 He says something significant here.\u00a0 He says, \u201cHusbands, your body belongs to your wife; and wives, your body belongs to your husband.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo you <em>realize<\/em> what a shocking statement that is to be made in a patriarchal culture in which so many people in the pagan world see women as being simply a form of property of men?\u00a0 For Paul, not only to speak to the wives\u2014as Peter calls them, \u201cjoint heirs of the Gospel with you\u201d\u2014but to say, \u201cHusbands, your wife has authority over your body.\u00a0 You are one flesh.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>Sometimes, people get their ideas about marriage from watching films and watching movies.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Studio]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, we\u2019ve been listening here to the first part of a message from Dr. Russell Moore about purity in marriage.\u00a0 I think a lot of couples think to themselves, \u201cWell, once you\u2019re married, the purity issue goes away because, once you\u2019re married, it\u2019s the two of you and your sexual relationship is pure before the Lord,\u201d \u2014but there are ways for impurity to drift into a marriage relationship.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s right.\u00a0 And earlier, on the broadcast, I said, \u201cJust because you are married, doesn\u2019t mean you can stop competing for your spouse.\u201d\u00a0 You\u2019re competing for her heart\u2014for his heart.\u00a0 You\u2019re competing against all kinds of romantic urges\u2014whether it be pornography, whether it be the opposite sex, whether it be career or children.\u00a0 I mean, there are all kinds of things that can romance our hearts\u2014can take our hearts out of the marriage relationship.\u00a0 I think he is warning us today about\u2014especially, protecting your heart as wife\u2014as a husband\u2014against any chance of it being connected to someone of the opposite sex.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Any temptation\u2014romantically or sexually\u2014outside of marriage\u2014you\u2019re headed down a dangerous path, if you follow that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Romantic attractions don\u2019t start in bed.\u00a0 They start with an emotional connection\u2014maybe, even a spiritual connection.\u00a0 There are a lot of affairs that start in churches or in small group Bible studies.\u00a0 So, my advice to you is\u2014if there is any catalytic response, taking place with anyone, other than your spouse, extinguish it.\u00a0 Put it out!\u00a0 Turn your back on that other relationship.\u00a0 Don\u2019t add any fuel to the fire.\u00a0 Get out of there!\u00a0 Flee because it not only stands a chance of igniting into a bigger fire\u2014it can destroy your marriage, your family, and your legacy.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You address this in the book that you and Barbara wrote, <em>Rekindling the Romance<\/em>, where you talked about emotional affairs as the precursor of what, ultimately, blossoms into full-blown marital infidelity.\u00a0 I think one of the ways we guard ourselves against this kind of temptation is by being alert to these issues.\u00a0 I\u2019d encourage couples to read through the book, <em>Rekindling the Romance<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019d also encourage them to attend one our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup><\/em> marriage getaways.\u00a0 That\u2019s the kind of preventative maintenance couples need to protect their marriage.\u00a0 You need the time away together.\u00a0 You need to have your thinking saturated with what the Scriptures teach about the marriage relationship.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me encourage you to go to FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 There\u2019s information there about resources we have available\u2014Dennis and Barbara\u2019s book, <em>Rekindling the Romance<\/em>\u2014a great book, by C.J. Mahaney, called <em>Sex, Romance, and the Glory of God<\/em>\u2014and there is information about the upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway schedule for this spring.\u00a0 I\u2019m going to be speaking, this weekend, at the getaway in Hershey, Pennsylvania.\u00a0 You just got back from being at the getaway in Washington, DC, at the Gaylord National Hotel.\u00a0 We\u2019ve got getaways taking place, throughout the spring, in a variety of locations.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGo to FamilyLifeToday.com to order resources that can help you strengthen your marriage in this area or to find out more about a weekend getaway for you and your spouse.\u00a0 Again, our website is FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 You can also reach us by phone at 1-800-FL-TODAY.\u00a0 That\u2019s 1-800- \u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then, the word, \u201cTODAY\u201d.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, we address this subject of marital intimacy at our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways.\u00a0 In fact, I spoke on this at a getaway, a while back.\u00a0 We have available, this month, an audio CD of that presentation\u2014about an hour\u2019s worth of content\u2014on how you can make marital intimacy what God intends for it to be in a marriage relationship.\u00a0 That CD is our thank-you gift, this week, when you make a donation to help support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 We appreciate your support.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, the production and syndication costs for this program are covered by folks, like you, who make a donation, from time to time, or those of you who are Legacy Partners and support us on a monthly basis.\u00a0 We\u2019re grateful for that.\u00a0\u00a0 Again, we\u2019d like to say, \u201cThank you,\u201d this month, by sending you this audio CD on marital intimacy.\u00a0 Go online at FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 Click the button that says, \u201cI CARE\u201d, to make an online donation; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY and make a donation over the phone.\u00a0 Just mention that you\u2019d like the audio CD on marital intimacy.\u00a0 Again, we\u2019re happy to send it to you.\u00a0 And we just want to say:\u00a0 \u201cThanks for partnering with us\u2014for standing with us\u2014in the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 We appreciate you.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe hope you can join us back tomorrow as we\u2019re going to continue to hear from Dr. Russell Moore about the subject of purity in marriage:\u00a0 \u201cHow do we guard our marriages?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cHow do we keep our marriages pure from sexual temptation and sexual sin?\u201d\u00a0 We\u2019re going to hear about that tomorrow.\u00a0 Hope you can be back.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We will see you tomorrow for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp for today.\u00a0 Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you.\u00a0 However, there is a cost to produce them for our website.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would you consider <a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/donate\">donating today<\/a> to help defray the costs?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tCopyright <sup>\u00a9<\/sup> 2013 FamilyLife.\u00a0 All rights reserved.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/\">www.FamilyLife.com<\/a>\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\t1\n\t\t\t\t<\/p>","theme_header_position":"","post_header_is_sticky":"","is_header_overlay":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/podcast\/302681","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/podcast"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/podcast"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/91"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=302681"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/294104"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=302681"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=302681"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=302681"},{"taxonomy":"podcast_series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/podcast_series?post=302681"},{"taxonomy":"cwp_profile","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/cwp_profile?post=302681"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=302681"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}