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it is halftime here at the Family Bowl, and I want to tell you folks the first half of this game has not been pretty.\u00a0 Not only have the children taken a commanding lead against the parents, but in addition to scoring more points, they actually went to the parents\u2019 sideline, roped them, gagged them, and tied them up during the first half of play.\u00a0 The parents were rendered completely ineffective.\u00a0 The question is, \u201cCan anything happen to turn this parent team around?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to tell you folks\u2014this halftime is going to be critical, but they\u2019ve got one of the best men on the sidelines to help them out.\u00a0 That\u2019s Coach Steve Farrar.\u00a0 Steve is the author of bestselling books like <em>Point Man <\/em>and <em>Anchor Man<\/em>.\u00a0 If anyone can get the moms and dads back into the game, it\u2019s Coach Farrar.\u00a0 Let\u2019s go down on the field and talk to our on-the-spot announcer, Dennis Rainey.\u00a0 Dennis?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 Well, thank you, Mr. Announcer Bob.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Dennis, are you there?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I\u2019m here, and don\u2019t give up\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Push it?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014your day job.\u00a0 No, keep\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Give that man a valium.\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 But you know, we are here in the locker room.\u00a0 We\u2019ve created a locker room for all the dads, or would-be dads, in the listening audience.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You need a little marching band music in the background here?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Hey, play a little of that back there.\u00a0 Can you use the fight school from Arkansas?\u00a0 I just happen to like it.\u00a0 I\u2019m sorry\u2014not Notre Dame, Bob.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Pig Sooie.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Anyway, we are here in the locker room with all the assistant coaches\u2014with the head coach of the Family Team, Steve Farrar.\u00a0 What better head coach to have?\u00a0 This is, as you mentioned Bob, the author of <em>Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family;<\/em> <em>Standing Tall: How a Man Can Protect His Family<\/em>; <em>Finishing Strong: Going the Distance for Your Family<\/em>, and his latest book, <em>Anchor Man<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSteve is the father of three, the husband of one, and lives near Denton, Texas, where he has been getting all kinds of coaching tips over the past few years.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, that\u2019s right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 We\u2019re glad just to have you here in the locker room with all these assistant coaches.\u00a0 Of course, for the purposes of this illustration, that\u2019s the fathers or guys who\u2019d like to be a father some day.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Steve, in your book, you got 50 coaching tips for dads.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know\u2014halftime only lasts a little more than 20 minutes\u2014just like <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 I want to give you a tough assignment.\u00a0 I want to see how many of these coaching tips you can drill into the assistant coaches.\u00a0 They\u2019ve got their notebooks open, they\u2019ve got their pencils in their hand, they\u2019re behind\u2014their children are winning.\u00a0 Help us!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, Dennis, I\u2019ve got 50 coaching tips in this book.\u00a0 I literally went out in the backyard, sat down at the patio table, and I just started writing.\u00a0 So, these are all over the map.\u00a0 Some of these apply to guys with young kids, some of these apply to the guys with teenagers; but they apply to all of us, in a certain sense.\u00a0 They are very practical, but we\u2019re going to be all over the map here.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That just took you 45 seconds.\u00a0 It\u2019s a little sweaty-smelling in here.\u00a0 The chalk board is\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Get to the tips, coach.\u00a0 Get to the tips.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014empty.\u00a0 They\u2019re losing the game.\u00a0 It\u2019s halftime.\u00a0 The kids are ahead.\u00a0 Get with it, Coach Farrar.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201cAlright you, idiots, listen up!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, you even\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You\u2019ve been in a locker room; haven\u2019t you?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014You even look a little bit like Vince Lombardi.\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Thank you.\u00a0 Thanks so much.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 What\u2019s the first tip?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 The first tip:\u00a0 \u201cCoach them how to pray.\u201d\u00a0 They need to know how to talk to the Lord.\u00a0 That\u2019s why, if you\u2019ve got little kids, you need to be at home to put them to bed\u2014to pray with them.\u00a0 Turn off that TV and go upstairs and pray with them\u2014that game you\u2019re watching, unless it\u2019s a World Series<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> game\u2014and then, bring them down to watch it with you.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Seriously, get upstairs and pray with those kids.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know what?\u00a0 I have had to learn, in that regard, if all you do is pray at bedtime and meal time, that\u2019s what the kids think prayer is about\u2014\u201cTime to go to bed;\u201d \u201cTime to eat.\u201d\u00a0 You\u2019ve got to teach your kids how to prayer in the middle of life\u2019s circumstances; don\u2019t you?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Absolutely, Bob.\u00a0 I think bedtime is a set time.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, Deuteronomy 6 talks about when you rise up, when you sit down\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014lie down.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014lie down, all that stuff.\u00a0 I think there are set times, but it\u2019s also a relationship\u2014in the car, anytime.\u00a0 \u201cLet\u2019s pray about this right here.\u201d\u00a0 Good point.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Good idea.\u00a0 Teach them to pray.\u00a0 That\u2019s tip one.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 The other thing is\u2014I would say, \u201cCoach them that the Bible is the most important book, in the world; and it\u2019s very wise to read it every day.\u201d\u00a0 If they have a dad that does that, you\u2019re going to give them such a head start in life.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy dad is 75 years old.\u00a0 I haven\u2019t talked with him today.\u00a0 I\u2019ll guarantee you my dad got up at 5:30 this morning, went downstairs, turned on the coffee maker, went over, got his <em>Thompson Chain Reference Bible<\/em>, got his coffee, went upstairs, spent the first hour this morning in the Word and prayer.\u00a0 My dad prayed for me this morning\u2014I\u2019ll guarantee you.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Hang on.\u00a0 I want to test that guarantee out.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You\u2019re going to call him?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, we\u2019ll call your dad; and let\u2019s just see.\u00a0 We\u2019ll test that guarantee.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 What\u2019s\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Call him.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 What\u2019s your dad\u2019s name?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Jim Farrar.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Jim Farrar.\u00a0 [Phone ringing]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Hello.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Hey, Dad.\u00a0 How you doing?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Hey, fine.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Hey, Dad, I\u2019m here in Little Rock with Dennis Rainey.\u00a0 You remember Dennis?\u00a0 You\u2019ve met Dennis.\u00a0 <br><br><strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Sure.\u00a0 Sure.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Hi, this is Dennis.\u00a0 How are you doing, Jim?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 I\u2019m doing great.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 We\u2019re actually trying to check the veracity of your son, Steve, and his truthfulness.\u00a0 We want to ask you, \u201cWhere were you this morning at 5:30?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, I was on my way\u2014I\u2019d just got up, and I was going out to teach a Bible study.\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 If you weren\u2019t, Dad\u2014normally, like tomorrow, what would you be doing about that time?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, I\u2019d be in here looking over the Bible and seeing what was set up for today\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Okay.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014and communicating.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Alright.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Spending a little time in the Word?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Sure.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Would you spend some time in prayer?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Sure.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Would you include your son it that?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Always.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I think your prayers are being answered, Jim.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, I\u2019m sure they are.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Really, we were talking; and I said, \u201cHey, I haven\u2019t talked to Dad today, but I\u2019ll tell you how he started his morning.\u00a0 He started his morning around 5:30\u20145:45 and gets the coffee going and gets in the Word.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Dennis said, \u201cLet\u2019s call him.\u201d\u00a0 So, I\u2019m sure glad you did that.\u00a0 Way to hum!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Way to go!\u00a0 How long have you been doing this, Jim?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oh, man.\u00a0 You know, I couldn\u2019t tell you.\u00a0 I really don\u2019t\u2014I mean\u2014it\u2019s been years and years.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 It wasn\u2019t last week you started doing this.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 No, absolutely not.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 It\u2019s been at least 45 years\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014because I remember as a little boy waking up early and seeing.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 It\u2019s been many, many years, Dennis.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, you get into it\u2014and that\u2019s what you do.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s what dads do.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s what dads do.\u00a0 You know, you\u2019ve been an encouragement to a lot of dads, here on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 I want to thank you for being with us.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, hey, I\u2019m glad to do it; and hey, keep up the good work.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Hey, when you pray for Steve, pray for Bob and me; will you?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Sure will.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Alright, bye; bye.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 See you guys.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Bye, bye, Dad.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Bye.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Doesn\u2019t get any better that; does it, Bob?\u00a0 <br><br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, I\u2019m just sitting here thinking, \u201cHe\u2019s an anchor man\u201d; isn\u2019t he?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, he is.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, he really is.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 He is one of those spiritual heroes that you, as his son, and that your sons can look toward and can be the model that\u2019s holding your family from drifting.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, a few years ago, I think it was Josh who\u2014it was Saturday.\u00a0 He woke up early, and I was downstairs and reading the Word.\u00a0 He came in and he said, \u201cDad, what are you doing?\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cI\u2019m just reading the Word.\u201d\u00a0 He\u2019s kind of waking up.\u00a0 A few minutes later, he said, \u201cHey, Dad, you ever read the Bible all the way through.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cYes.\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cYou have?!\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cYes.\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cHow many times have you done that?\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cI don\u2019t know\u2014eight, nine, ten times.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe couldn\u2019t believe\u2014he was\u2014he said, \u201cYou\u2019ve read the whole\u201d\u2014I said, \u201cYes, well, it\u2019s no big deal.\u00a0 You just read \u201cx\u201d amount of pages every day, and you get through it.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cYou\u2019ll do that when you\u2019re a dad.\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cI will?\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cOh, yes.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cThat\u2019s what Farrar guys do.\u00a0 That\u2019s what we have to do.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSee, that\u2019s just\u2014it\u2019s what Dennis was talking about earlier.\u00a0 It\u2019s passing on the baton.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 The playbook for life\u2014the one that tells you how to make the right choice when you come to the fork in the road.\u00a0 Tell me a better book than the Bible.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u00a0It\u2019s the bestseller of all time, and it needs to be consulted on a daily basis.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Alright, prayer and the Bible\u2014what\u2019s next?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Next time you go to buy a car, take your older kid with you.\u00a0 Show them how to buy a car.\u00a0 Show them how to negotiate.\u00a0 When my dad went to buy a Volkswagen<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> for me, he took me with him.\u00a0 It saved me thousands of dollars over the years.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know\u2014I\u2019ve done that.\u00a0 I\u2019ve taken my kids.\u00a0 I make them go barefoot, in hopes that the salesman will take a little sympathy on me; but it is good to have that.\u00a0 I talked with a young woman one time\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You actually take them down to that section of town where you buy cars, Bob?\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I talked to a young lady one time who bought her first car.\u00a0 She walked onto the car lot.\u00a0 She found one she liked.\u00a0 She didn\u2019t test drive it, and she paid sticker-price.\u00a0 She said, \u201cI had no idea you were supposed to negotiate.\u201d\u00a0 You know that\u2014that salesman walked back in and said, \u201cI just got one.\u201d\u00a0 Man!\u00a0 So, that\u2019s great wisdom.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You know what that is?\u00a0 That is practical Christianity.\u00a0 The most spiritual things in the world are the most practical things in the world.\u00a0 That\u2019s coaching\u2014that\u2019s mentoring.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 There are some of our listeners that blinked because you had prayer, the Bible, and purchasing a car; but I\u2019m glad you had something that\u2019s that practical there because that is a part of being a dad.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 I think when we\u2014finances are an issue in life.\u00a0 I don\u2019t know about the listeners, but I\u2019ll tell you what.\u00a0 Before I purchase a car, I pray.\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 I\u2019m not kidding\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014because it\u2019s a spiritual decision.\u00a0 So, it\u2019s\u2014anyway\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Okay, what\u2019s the next one?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Coach your kids how to use the library.\u00a0 A couple years ago, a next-door neighbor, who is a hockey coach for the Dallas Stars, gave me two tickets to the game.\u00a0 The only one at home was Josh.\u00a0 I said, \u201cJosh, let\u2019s go to the game.\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cDad, I\u2019ve got to do this research paper.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cA research paper?\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cYes.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cWhat do you got to do?\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cI\u2019ve got to have five references for a bibliography.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cIt\u2019s six o\u2019clock.\u00a0 Let\u2019s go to the library.\u00a0 I\u2019ll show you how to do that in 15 minutes.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe went over to the library.\u00a0 I showed him how you do it.\u00a0 I showed him the card catalogue.\u00a0 We did 15 minutes.\u00a0 We went to the hockey game\u2014had a great time, but you know what?\u00a0 That\u2019s something, as a dad, I can do.\u00a0 It\u2019s not for the teacher.\u00a0 It\u2019s something I can do.\u00a0 I showed him a few shortcuts.\u00a0 It was a great time.\u00a0 It\u2019s real life.\u00a0 You\u2019ve got to learn how to do that on a bibliography at some point in your life.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, you can also warn them about the sections of the library that contain periodicals or magazines they not ought to be in, as well.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, and that you start, obviously, real early.\u00a0 Let me tell you a quick story, Dennis.\u00a0 You just triggered on that issue right there\u2014my son John is 17.\u00a0 When we lived here in Little Rock, he was seven years old.\u00a0 We had a conversation, one night in his bedroom, about pornography.\u00a0 He was seven years old.\u00a0 I said, \u201cJohn, someday, you are going to be walking with a friend.\u00a0 You are going to see a magazine in a trash can or your buddy is going to say at school, \u2018Hey, come here to my locker.\u00a0 I want to show you something.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAbout two years ago, John said to me one night\u2014he said, \u201cHey, Dad, it happened\u2014what you told me was going to happen.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cWhat did I tell you was going to happen?\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cYou remember back in Little Rock when you told me that I\u2019d be at school and some guy would say, \u2018Hey, come over to my locker.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cDad, it happened.\u201d\u00a0 I went over there.\u00a0 Some guy said, \u201cHey, John, come here.\u201d\u00a0 A bunch of guys\u2014\u201cDad, they were looking at this pornographic magazine.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe said\u2014I said, \u201cWell, what did you do?\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cWell, I did what you told me to do.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cWhat did I tell you to do?\u201d\u2014not in those terms exactly.\u00a0 He said, \u201cDad, I looked at it.\u00a0 I realized what it was, and I looked at those guys.\u00a0 I just said, \u2018You guys don\u2019t need that stuff;\u2019 and I turned around, and I walked away.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou start early.\u00a0 It\u2019s amazing what they pick up.\u00a0 See, that\u2019s coaching.\u00a0 That\u2019s\u2014vision is understanding your kids are going to encounter certain circumstances.\u00a0 Good coaches prepare your players in advance\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014before the circumstance occurs.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You\u2019re adjusting to the other team\u2019s offense so you can play a wise defense.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 There you go.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 What\u2019s the next coaching tip?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 The next coaching tip\u2014if you\u2019ve got boys, teach them how to stand up to a bully and defend themselves.\u00a0 I\u2019ll tell you why this is important.\u00a0 Twenty-five years ago, Francis Schaeffer said, \u201cAmerica is a post-Christian society.\u201d\u00a0 America, now, is an anti-Christian society.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to need some leaders who know how to stand up for the truth, who know how to stand alone, and know how to take the heat.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf we don\u2019t teach boys early-on to stand up and defend themselves\u2014not to be trouble-makers, not to start fights, but to defend themselves and defend what\u2019s right\u2014we\u2019re not going to have any Christian leaders.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I like this next one, Steve.\u00a0 You talk about coaching your sons that men\u2014real men\u2014protect women.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 It\u2019s such a sexist thing; isn\u2019t it, Dennis?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Isn\u2019t it?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 But I\u2019ll tell you what.\u00a0 It\u2019s true.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You don\u2019t train your daughters to protect men.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 No.\u00a0 I\u2019m sure somebody somewhere is doing that because our culture has gotten so messed, you know?\u00a0 But God has created men to be protectors.\u00a0 He\u2019s created men to put themselves on the line and take a stand, and protect a wife, and to protect a child.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Otherwise, why does God create men to have 50 percent more upper body strength than He creates women to have?\u00a0 I mean, it\u2019s built into the biology.\u00a0 It\u2019s the way we\u2019re made.\u00a0 We\u2019re taller.\u00a0 We\u2019re bigger.\u00a0 We\u2019ve got more muscle mass.\u00a0 God did that for a reason.\u00a0 It defines your masculinity, and there is a purpose in it.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 When Ashley was a senior in high school, she had a job at a pizza parlor.\u00a0 One night, we allowed her to work late.\u00a0 It was a weekend night, was midnight; and without us prompting, our son, Benjamin\u2014he offered to go pick Ashley up at midnight\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014to walk her out to her car.\u00a0 You know, that young man caught the picture\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, he did.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014that, as a man, he\u2019s there to protect women\u2014and specifically, his sisters.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s right.\u00a0 Blessed will be the young lady that marries him because that\u2019s been instilled in him.\u00a0 You know, again, our culture is so fouled up.\u00a0 We mock this idea, but it\u2019s how God has created\u2014it\u2019s His natural order.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>Another coaching tip, \u201cCoach them about money.\u201d\u00a0 Money is an amazingly practical, spiritual issue.\u00a0 At least, 10 percent to the Lord, 10 percent to savings, live off the rest.\u00a0 While they are under your roof, they can take 10 percent for spending money and bank the other 70 percent.\u00a0 Teach them early about money.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\u00a0 You know, coaching is a good metaphor here because you have to coach over, and over, and over again, in some areas.\u00a0 This is one of these areas where we\u2019ve found the coach has got to have all kinds of locker-room talks with the family, if you are going to win in this area.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 It\u2019s a tough area.\u00a0 That\u2019s the thing about parenting.\u00a0 To me, fathering is coaching.\u00a0 Good coaches\u2014they emphasize.\u00a0 They will tell you once.\u00a0 They will tell you twice.\u00a0 The message is always there.\u00a0 Consistency in the message\u2014and eventually, they will pick it up.\u00a0 It might take\u2014I was going to say it might take\u2014it will take 18 years for them to learn some of these lessons.\u00a0 That\u2019s why we keep going back to them.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 It really ties into the next coaching tip.\u00a0 One of the ways you reinforce the value of money is by helping them think about purchases; right?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, and we have a rule with our kids\u2014and a rule in our house\u2014before we make a major purchase\u2014I\u2019m talking about anything over $100, $200, $300\u2014\u201cLet\u2019s think about this for 24 hours.\u00a0 Let\u2019s just ponder it.\u00a0 Let\u2019s talk about it.\u201d Now, if I don\u2019t do that, they\u2019re not going to do.\u00a0 Again, it\u2019s something that can save them a lot of hurt and a lot of money, down the road.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You might think that\u2019s just about buying stuff.\u00a0 It\u2019s really about testing our impulses\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014denying our impulses, because I\u2019ve done it.\u00a0 I\u2019ve bought stuff that I just had to have\u2014that six months later, is up on the shelf, gathering dust.\u00a0 I thought, \u201cI thought this was going to make me happy;\u201d and it didn\u2019t.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That is a great assignment for a dad right here.\u00a0 Here\u2019s another one; and yet, I can see a coach, back here to my left, raising his hand, \u201cWhat do you mean, Steve, on this next coaching tip:\u00a0 \u2018Teach them to dribble with their left hand\u2019?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 When you get little guys or little girls that love sports\u2014love basketball\u2014you know what?\u00a0 We can all dribble with our right hand; but when you are playing basketball, the guy guarding you, in two minutes, is going to figure out you can only go to your right.\u00a0 Good basketball players can go right or they can go left.\u00a0 So, you know what?\u00a0 Teach them how to dribble with their left hand4.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI used to play a game with our guys when they were little.\u00a0 \u201cHey, if you\u201d\u2014we\u2019d play basketball\u2014\u201cIf you make a basket, you get a point; but if you dribble with your left hand three times, I\u2019ll give you three points.\u201d\u00a0 It\u2019s just developing a skill that doesn\u2019t come naturally.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 We have moved from that.\u00a0 We\u2019ve done that, but we\u2019re on to how to throw a spiral at this point.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Same thing.\u00a0 See\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I haven\u2019t figured it out yet.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 See, again, we\u2014you know, when I was a kid, we didn\u2019t start little league or organized ball until maybe 11 or 12.\u00a0 Now, they start at five, six.\u00a0 A lot of dads, unless a dad is coaching, get taken out of the equation.\u00a0 These are things that dads can do and take advantage of the time.\u00a0\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, if you\u2019re going to the store\u2014if you\u2019re going to Ace Hardware<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, hey, take them with you:\u00a0 \u201cWho wants to go to the store?\u201d because you never know when the teachable moments are going to come up.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 We\u2019ve talked about dads and sons.\u00a0 Give us a coaching tip for dads and daughters.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Let your daughters know that there are two kinds of beauty.\u00a0 There\u2019s the inside, and there\u2019s the outside.\u00a0 The inside is much more important to you than the outside.\u00a0 You can say something like this to your daughter, \u201cSweetheart, you know what?\u00a0 I\u2019m so proud of you because you\u2019re like Mommy.\u00a0 You\u2019re not only pretty on the outside; but let me tell you what\u2019s great about you.\u00a0 You\u2019re pretty on the inside.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTell your little girls.\u00a0 Some of the most beautiful women, in the world, have been married six, seven, eight times.\u00a0 Why have they been married so many times?\u00a0 Because all they have is the outer beauty; but, see, you want to develop the inner beauty.\u00a0 If they hear that from their daddies, early-on\u2014let me tell you another thing, guys.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLittle girls who hear this from their daddies\u2014they are going to know that you think they are important.\u00a0 You\u2019re going to fill their emotional tank.\u00a0 They\u2019re going to know that they\u2019re valuable.\u00a0 If you treat them as though they are valuable, when they get in their teenage years, they won\u2019t act cheap.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know what else?\u00a0 When they\u2019re in their teenage years and they become a beautiful young lady, you don\u2019t just compliment them on their exterior beauty for how attractive they look.\u00a0 You also compliment them for their character, their right choices, their wisdom\u2014that they are exhibiting in living life.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat\u2019s that I hear?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Coach, the team\u2019s got to be back out on the field, here, in just a couple of minutes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oh, my goodness, the game\u2019s about to start, Steve.\u00a0 We\u2019ve only gotten through a dozen of these things.\u00a0 Can you give us a couple more?\u00a0 These assistant coaches\u2014well, they are desperate.\u00a0 I can see it in their eyes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Dennis, I think it\u2019s critical to coach them to respect and obey authority\u2014that means parents, it means teachers, it means police officers.\u00a0 So, when you\u2019re speeding to church on Sunday morning and you get pulled over\u2014this has happened to me\u2014[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Why is it so many of our best illustrations come out of our failures, Steve?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 What else does God have to work with?\u00a0 I don\u2019t have anything else to offer God.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, the New Testament\u2019s written about guys who failed, you know?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I\u2019ll tell you.\u00a0 You talk about pictures that are indelibly stamped in your children\u2019s minds.\u00a0 When the red lights are in the back of the car, their video camera is on, and they are taping that incident.\u00a0 They know exactly what\u2019s going on.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 That police officer has authority over me, according to the Word of God.\u00a0 Even if I\u2019m upset, I need to be polite.\u00a0 I need to be a gentleman.\u00a0 I don\u2019t lose my temper because I\u2019m modeling.\u00a0 There\u2019s one more on this because, you see, kids are going to grow up.\u00a0 If they don\u2019t learn to submit and respect authority in the home, then, they\u2019re going to have all kinds of trouble for the rest of their life.\u00a0 It has to begin at home.\u00a0 If a child can\u2019t learn to submit to the authority of his mother, how in the world will they ever submit to the authority of Jesus Christ?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019d throw one other thing in here for dads.\u00a0 Never, ever, ever put up with disrespect towards your wife\u2014never!\u00a0 That\u2019s a non-negotiable.\u00a0 \u201cIn this house, she is honored; she is respected.\u201d\u00a0 Then, you\u2019ll raise boys that will respect women.\u00a0 You will raise daughters that intuitively understand their mother is to be respected, and they are to be respected because you set the standard.\u00a0 You didn\u2019t lower the standard.\u00a0 You raised the standard.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, and I think we need to\u2014again, just say all of these things are not going to change the heart of your child\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong>\u00a0 Sure.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014but these are the kinds of character development issues\u2014that if they\u2019re in place when God does change the heart of the child and bring your child to faith\u2014then, it\u2019s a whole lot easier for that son or daughter to walk worthy of the calling that they\u2019ve been called to.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf it\u2019s not in place and God does a work in your child\u2019s life, then, there\u2019s a lot of ground that has to be made up; but we want to make sure we don\u2019t think that character development is the same as spiritual transformation\u2014because you can get a lot of well- mannered hypocrites.\u00a0 That\u2019s not what we\u2019re aiming for.\u00a0 You don\u2019t want moral kids who are not spiritually-transformed.\u00a0 You want spiritually-transformed kids who have had some character development, along the way.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, as a dad, as you are working on these things, you also have to be faithful in prayer, in reading the Scriptures to your kids, making sure they are exposed to the Gospel on a regular basis, and ask God to do that transforming work in your child\u2019s heart.\u00a0 That\u2019s really a part of the whole thesis of the book, <em>Anchor Man<\/em>, which we\u2019ve got available in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center.\u00a0 If our listeners are interested, they can go to FamilyLifeToday.com and order, online, from us a copy of Steve Farrar\u2019s book, <em>Anchor Man<\/em>.\u00a0 The subtitle is <em>How a Father Can Anchor His Family in Christ for the Next 100 Years<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 If you\u2019d like to order from us by telephone, call 1-800-FL-TODAY and ask about the book, <em>Anchor Man<\/em>.\u00a0 Again, the toll-free number is 1-800-358-6329.\u00a0 That\u2019s 1-800- \u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then, the word, \u201cTODAY\u201d.\u00a0 Ask about the book, <em>Anchor Man<\/em>, when you call us.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, I also want to remind our listeners about an event that is taking place, not this Saturday, but a week from Saturday.\u00a0 That is August, the fourth.\u00a0 It\u2019s actually happening in Chicago; but it\u2019s being simulcast in churches all around the country.\u00a0 This is the Stepping Up<sup>\u2122<\/sup> National Men\u2019s Simulcast:\u00a0 James MacDonald, Crawford Loritts, Robert Lewis, and Dennis Rainey\u2014all speaking and calling men to embrace biblical manhood.\u00a0 We\u2019ve got a lot of churches that are signed up to host this event.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, if you go to FamilyLifeToday.com, you can find the location of a church, near you, that\u2019s going to be a host church for this event.\u00a0 If you don\u2019t see a host church location near you, there\u2019s still time for your church to become a host church if you\u2019d like to host this National Men\u2019s Simulcast.\u00a0 It happens Saturday morning, August 4<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 Again, go to FamilyLifeToday.com for more information about the National Men\u2019s Simulcast.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor those of you who can help us with a gift this month to defray the cost of producing and syndicating this daily radio program, we\u2019d like to send you, as a thank-you gift, a copy of two CD\u2019s\u2014one from Dennis Rainey and one from Barbara Rainey.\u00a0 The CD from Dennis has a message for men about what it looks like for a man to step up, and the CD from Barbara is for wives about how a wife can help a husband step up and be the man that God has called him to be.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>Those two CD\u2019s are our thank-you gift this month when you help support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 So, make a donation online at FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014click the button that says, \u201cI CARE\u201d.\u00a0 When you make your online donation, we\u2019ll send you a copy of the CD\u2019s; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY.\u00a0 Make a donation over the phone and just ask for the CD\u2019s on <em>Stepping Up<\/em>.\u00a0 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