{"id":302539,"date":"2012-06-12T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2012-06-12T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/becoming-gods-man\/"},"modified":"2012-06-12T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2012-06-12T15:00:00","slug":"becoming-gods-man","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/becoming-gods-man\/","title":{"rendered":"Becoming God&#8217;s Man"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When was the last time you and your missus had a date?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2012-06-12.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"22.43M","filesize_raw":"23521729","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2901],"tags":[5214,4213],"podcast_series":[7879],"cwp_profile":[3253],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-302539","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-husbands","tag-dating-your-spouse","tag-love","podcast_series-date-your-wife","cwp_profile-justin-buzzard","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/302539\/becoming-gods-man","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/302539\/becoming-gods-man","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"5HHqjAKfXY\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/becoming-gods-man\/\">Becoming God&#8217;s Man<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/becoming-gods-man\/embed\/#?secret=5HHqjAKfXY\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Becoming God&#8217;s Man&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"5HHqjAKfXY\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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date?","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2012-06-12.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Justin Buzzard believes that men need to take dating seriously, both before marriage and after marriage.\u00a0 His conviction in this area came when he was in college and frustrated by how dating was occurring on his college campus.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 We were on a run, my buddy, Andy and I.\u00a0 By mile two of the run, we had gotten so frustrated, talking about the conditions of things at our campus, that we said, \u201cHey, let\u2019s start \u2018The Dating Revolution\u2019 at our campus.\u00a0 It starts with us.\u201d\u00a0 This is what we\u2019re going to do: We\u2019re going to start asking girls on dates.\u00a0 We came up with a motto that we chose; and we would believe this motto, whether it was true or not.\u00a0 Our motto was, \u201cWomen want to be with us.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat day, started asking\u2014we went to the dining commons at our school, asked two ladies out\u2014did a double date.\u00a0 Then, it kind of picked up in our campus.\u00a0 There are people married today, as a result of that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday, June 12<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 Justin Buzzard\u2019s passion for dating well is something that has carried over into his relationship with his wife.\u00a0 We\u2019ll talk more about that today.\u00a0 Stay tuned.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us.\u00a0 I\u2019m just curious as you think about dates you and Barbara have been on over the years of marriage\u2014almost 40 years of marriage now; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Have most of those dates been spectacular and glorious, or have most of those dates been \u201cokay\u201d, or have some of them been not so great?\u00a0 [Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I mean kind of\u2014give me the percentages.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, yes, and yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 But give me the percentage.\u00a0 What percentage\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oh, I can\u2019t\u2014I can\u2019t do that because that means I\u2019d have to review all of them.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 In a general sense\u2014\u201cspectacular\u201d\u2014is that 50 percent of your dates were spectacular?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 No, no, no.\u00a0 Spectacular is 5 to 10 percent.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 How many have been, \u201cThat was okay\u201d?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, I wouldn\u2019t put them in the \u201cokay\u201d range.\u00a0 I wouldn\u2019t drop down from \u201cspectacular\u201d to \u201cokay\u201d.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Okay, spectacular\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 So, you\u2019re moving from an \u201cA\u201d to a \u201cC\u201d.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Okay, we\u2019ll go to a \u201cB\u201d.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Go to a \u201cB\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201cThat was pretty good.\u00a0 That was nice.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Forty percent.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Forty percent were nice.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 How many were the, \u201cThat was okay\u201d?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Probably, 20 percent.\u00a0 Then, the rest would be in the lower range.\u00a0 There would be 5 to 10 percent that didn\u2019t turn out because we got into something mildly disagreeing or perhaps, well, vigorously\u2014shall we say vigorously.\u00a0 It was usually around our children\u2014raising the children\u2014and issues surrounding them.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 But this was a pattern that you pursued\u2014and still pursue\u2014spending time with Barbara, intentionally\u2014taking her out on dates\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oh, yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014something you\u2019ve done\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oh, yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014all 40 of those years.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 What one of the spectacular dates for Barbara is the two of us leaving our cell phones and going for a ride.\u00a0 We drive out in the country and just enjoy our conversation, the beauty of the hillside.\u00a0 We may get out\u2014take a walk.\u00a0 We may stop at a roadside park, sit, and chat for a while.\u00a0 There may be silence.\u00a0 There may be all kinds of conversation; but it\u2019s getting away from the distractions that surround our homes, our family, and that distract us from our relationship.\u00a0 That\u2019s been the big winner for her.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think that\u2019s also a big winner for our guest on the broadcast today, Justin Buzzard, who joins us again.\u00a0 Justin, welcome back.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Thank you, guys.\u00a0 Good to be here.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 He\u2019s written a book called <em>Date Your Wife<\/em>.\u00a0 He is a pastor of a brand-new church in the San Jos\u00e9 area called Garden City Church.\u00a0 It\u2019s located in downtown San Jos\u00e9.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Correct.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Is that right?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 So, you\u2019re right in the middle of where they\u2019re inventing all of those chips and\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014all that\u2019s taking place.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 We\u2019re right there in the heart of Silicon Valley.\u00a0 The people in our church are working for <em>Google<\/em><em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup><\/em>, and <em>Apple<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, and all the places you hear about all the time.\u00a0 It\u2019s fun.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, he and Taylor just stepped out in faith to do that not too many months ago.\u00a0 They\u2019ve been married for seven years, have three sons.\u00a0 You\u2019re all about calling men to pursue their wives\u2014not only to get a wife\u2014but after they\u2019re married, to pursue them relationally, spiritually, emotionally.\u00a0 Go after your wife\u2014never stop dating them.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, that\u2019s a call that God places on a husband.\u00a0 I think that most men think that the mission sort of stopped once they secured their wife, once they got married.\u00a0 I want men to know that the real adventure begins once you\u2019re married and once you continue forward.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You said you wrote this book because you were angry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 As you look at the condition of marriages, your assessment is that, \u201cIf there is something wrong in the marriage, we\u2019ve got to talk to the guy.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, yes.\u00a0 I think that if you want to change a marriage, you need to change the man.\u00a0 I think that the man is either the worst thing that\u2019s ever happened to his marriage or the best thing that\u2019s ever happened to his marriage.\u00a0 I think that the secret to seeing change happen in marriages\u2014this isn\u2019t to say there aren\u2019t major things that need to take place in a wife\u2019s life\u2014but I think God\u2019s put the man in the position to lead the marriage, to be responsible for what\u2019s going on in the marriage, before God.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Okay, now, look, I read the mail that comes in here.\u00a0 I know what\u2019s coming because of what you just said.\u00a0 \u201cHere\u2019s another one of those shows where they\u2019re bashing men.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cIt\u2019s another man-bashing show.\u00a0 Why do you guys always say it\u2019s the guy?\u00a0 I mean, I\u2019m a godly guy.\u00a0 I\u2019m trying to do my job; and my wife\u2014you just don\u2019t know my wife.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 Well, that\u2019s\u2014here\u2019s the deal.\u00a0 With <em>Date Your Wife<\/em>, the worst thing that could happen is a guy reads this book and says, \u201cOkay, I\u2019m just going to try harder\u2014date my wife; and then, everything is going to work out.\u00a0 If it doesn\u2019t work out, this book didn\u2019t work.\u201d\u00a0 That\u2019s not the message of <em>Date Your Wife<\/em>, and anyone who really reads the book will see that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI don\u2019t want men just to try hard.\u00a0 That\u2019s\u2014most guys are struggling in dating their wives, and they think the answer is, \u201cJust try harder.\u201d\u00a0 The answer is, \u201cJesus\u201d.\u00a0 The answer is that a man needs to come to a fresh awareness of who Jesus is and what Jesus has done.\u00a0 What Jesus does is Jesus makes men new.\u00a0 Jesus makes husbands new.\u00a0 He makes married men new.\u00a0 Because marriage\u2014again, it exposes the best and worst about us.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs you move through a marriage and as you learn more about\u2014nothing has shown me my sin like marriage.\u00a0 As I\u2019ve been married to Taylor, now for eight years, I have come\u2014I used to think I was a pretty good guy.\u00a0 Then, I got married and realized, \u201cMan, I\u2019m a jerk.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You\u2019ve got some work to do.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201cI\u2019m a big jerk.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Then, you had children\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Then, I have kids.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014and that really\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 Then, the third kid came, and I realized, \u201cI\u2019m a big jerk.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0 So, I\u2019ve realized how selfish I am.\u00a0 I\u2019ve seen the idols in my life like never before, the sin in my life like never before; and Jesus has become bigger to me, like never before in marriage.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think guys always get talked to about responsibility.\u00a0 Men are always getting talked to about responsibility.\u00a0 Everyone knows we have a major manhood problem in our country, and what\u2019s always talked about is responsibility.\u00a0 Men are not manning-up.\u00a0 Men are not taking responsibility.\u00a0 I think the issue is\u2014I think it\u2019s a power issue.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMen think that their calling, as men\u2014they think they\u2019re supposed to do it in their own power.\u00a0 They think they\u2019re supposed to do it in their own strength, and that\u2019s never what we were meant to do.\u00a0 When God created the first husband in the Garden, he was meant to love, and lead, and care for his wife through the power that God provides.\u00a0 Most men are trying to do this, disconnected from the power of Jesus, disconnected from the power of forgiveness, disconnected from the power of the Holy Spirit at work in their lives.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, what I want Jesus to do is\u2014I want Jesus to use this book to make men new so that a whole new trajectory begins to happen in marriages.\u00a0 Men begin to lay down their lives, they begin to exercise servant-leadership in their marriages, and they see that dating their wife as something that Jesus will empower them to do, in a whole new way.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Before you and I came into the studio, we were chatting for a few moments.\u00a0 I told you I had read your book and that it really was the Christian life, disguised as a dating manual\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, exactly.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014for men.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 What you\u2019ve got in here is a fresh approach to how a man can be God\u2019s man.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 And the power issue, as you put it, is yielding to the Holy Spirit, Who is to be our power.\u00a0 In Acts, Chapter 1, verse 8, Jesus said, \u201cWhen you receive the Holy Spirit\u201d\u2014when the Holy Ghost\u2014\u201chas come upon you, you will be my witnesses.\u201d\u00a0 He talked about, not only locally, but the surrounding area, and to the uttermost parts of the world.\u00a0 What God came to do was change men\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014and fill them with the Holy Spirit.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 So, yes, they can proclaim the Gospel around the world; but I think, first, loving their wives as Christ loved the church, raising their children and not provoking them to anger.\u00a0 How else do you do that but by walking in the power of the Holy Spirit and being obedient to the Scriptures?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 But I\u2019m back to the guy, who is listening to this, and he\u2019s saying, \u201cOkay, I\u2019m trying to be the good guy.\u00a0 My wife just hooked up with another guy.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201cSo, you\u2019re telling me I\u2019m the problem?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 I would say\u2014I mean, you want to take everything on a case-by-case basis, and know the context, and know the story; but I would say that that man has not yet seen the full extent of his sin, of his role in the marriage, and of his responsibility, before God, to care for his wife.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI tell the story, in the book, of a friend of mine who called me late one night and told me all about this affair that had just taken place in his marriage.\u00a0 He\u2019d just found out that his wife had been having an affair with someone who was fairly close to them, and he was devastated.\u00a0 He asked, \u201cHey, can I come and just spend the weekend with you?\u201d\u00a0 He drove over and spent the weekend with me.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI watched a miracle take place in that man\u2019s life.\u00a0 Here\u2019s a guy that\u2019d been married ten years, had three kids.\u00a0 He\u2019s just found out that his wife, for the past five months, has been sleeping with another man.\u00a0 His heart had just been ripped out of his chest.\u00a0 I sat with him as he just wept and wept that weekend; but as we talked about the story of their marriage, as we talked about the Scriptures, as we talked about Jesus and the power of forgiveness, I watched transformation happen in that guy.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe became\u2014this wasn\u2019t anything I did.\u00a0 This was something God did in his heart\u2014he became convicted over how he had been operating in his marriage for the past ten years.\u00a0 He was still horribly grieved over his wife\u2019s sin, and it was her sin.\u00a0 She\u2019s responsible, before God, for that and has since repented of that; but he became aware of the true story of his marriage.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe saw that his story really was Adam\u2019s story, in the Garden, where Eve was sinning there in the Garden; but Adam was right there, and Adam didn\u2019t step in, and Adam didn\u2019t do anything.\u00a0 He saw that, for ten years in his marriage, he\u2019d been away at work, had not been home, had not been loving his wife.\u00a0 He thought he was doing a good job because he had kept his vows.\u00a0 He saw his vows as, \u201cWell, I didn\u2019t go anywhere.\u00a0 I stayed here.\u00a0 I\u2019ve remained committed.\u00a0 I\u2019m a faithful husband;\u201d but he hadn\u2019t been loving his wife.\u00a0 He hadn\u2019t been caring well for his wife.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 To that point, you talk about a man\u2019s responsibility is to cultivate\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014and guard his wife.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Exactly.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You actually used a story about your dad\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That is really a great story.\u00a0 Back to your point, Bob\u2014I\u2019ve read the book\u2014he doesn\u2019t bash men in here.\u00a0 He calls them up.\u00a0 He puts his arm around them; and Justin says, \u201cYou know what?\u00a0 You, as God\u2019s man, were made, for this moment, to love your wife.\u201d\u00a0 He doesn\u2019t absolve a woman who\u2019s in adultery or who has done something wrong from her responsibility.\u00a0 He\u2019s just calling men to be men.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Finish the story for me.\u00a0 What happened with your buddy when he got convicted?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, he got convicted, and he went home.\u00a0 Things began to change\u2014really hard work, really hard work; but he began to repent before God and before his wife of how he had been a bad leader in his marriage.\u00a0 He began to repent of how he hadn\u2019t been the husband that God had called him to be, and things began to change.\u00a0 They were separated at that time; but after a few months of the two of them talking and working through things, they came back together.\u00a0\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI have a Christmas card, in our house, that we\u2019ve saved from the most recent Christmas\u2014that shows him, and his wife, and their kids back together, after being back together now for a year.\u00a0 The tagline on the Christmas card is, \u201cIt\u2019s good to be together.\u201d\u00a0 This marriage that was headed for a divorce\u2014he had so many people in his life tell him, \u201cHey, you have grounds for divorce.\u00a0 You should head towards divorce,\u201d but we just saw the power of the Gospel work in his heart and in his wife\u2019s heart.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 It\u2019s a tough place for a guy to come to a point where he would say, \u201cHere\u2019s what my wife did, but I own some of that.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I mean it\u2019s kind of like, \u201cOkay, I may own some of it; but my part has got to be little because she did the big sin.\u00a0 I\u2019ve just done some little stuff.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 Well, I think the Gospel is what can free up a man to do that because when a man really begins to understand what Jesus has accomplished there at the Cross\u2014that we were so lost, so broken, so sinful that Jesus had to come and die for us\u2014yet, so loved that Jesus came\u2014the Son of God, came to die for us.\u00a0 When that reality starts to really work in a man\u2019s heart, in a man\u2019s brain, in his worldview, I think, all of a sudden, he can begin to take on responsibility for sin in a fresh new way.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBecause in most marriages, we know how it works\u2014a man wants to take as little credit as possible for sin\u2014for the wrong doing\u2014but when the Gospel begins to really take over a man\u2019s heart, he sees, \u201cMan, I\u2019m so bad Jesus had to die for me.\u00a0 There\u2019s a lot more that I can own in my marriage.\u00a0 There\u2019s a lot more I can take responsibility for.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Sometimes, God will use circumstances like an affair to get your attention\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014as a man.\u00a0 On other occasions, He may use illness.\u00a0 You tell a story about your dad\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014and how he went through a similar process, even though he was a good man\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014good father\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014good husband.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 He really had lost sight of the goal of being God\u2019s man.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 He had\u2014I mean, my dad and mom met\u2014they met on a blind date.\u00a0 They went out for pizza and, then, they went dancing.\u00a0 Then, two months later, my dad proposed.\u00a0 Then, two months after that, they were married.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Wow!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 That was fast.\u00a0 Well, my dad\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This kind of runs in the Buzzard family; doesn\u2019t it?\u00a0 (Laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, I think that\u2019s where I get it.\u00a0 My dad was\u2014he was Mr. Romance.\u00a0 My mom still tells stories about those dates, during that quick four-month period; but they got married.\u00a0 Pretty soon into the marriage, they had me; then, they had my younger brother.\u00a0 My dad started a business.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy dad was a truck driver at a trucking company.\u00a0 Our home was robbed when I was little\u2014when I was two\u2014and my dad was mad.\u00a0 So, he started learning about security systems, and how to install alarm systems, and started up his own alarm company in the area; but what happened in starting a business and taking on kids, my dad just got really focused on his work.\u00a0 That kind of became big in his life.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, my dad was always there.\u00a0 He was in the home.\u00a0 He was a good provider, but he wasn\u2019t dating his wife.\u00a0 He wasn\u2019t actively pursuing his wife, chasing her, cultivating the relationship, cultivating the romance.\u00a0 It was as though that mission had sort of been accomplished and, \u201cNow, I\u2019m moving on to mission number two, my work.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAbout ten years ago, out of the blue, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer\u2014very advanced breast cancer.\u00a0 I saw my dad transform.\u00a0 That\u2019s where I would trace my dad\u2019s conversion to.\u00a0 I saw transformation start to happen in him.\u00a0 He started taking mom out dancing again.\u00a0 I mean, things changed.\u00a0 He started pursuing her, leading her, spending time with her, in a whole different way.\u00a0 My brother and I saw that.\u00a0 It was incredible.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, yes, sometimes, God uses these hard circumstances in our life to do something that we could have never expected.\u00a0 That was probably an answer to a prayer requests my mom had been praying for years; but through her own cancer, their marriage took off in new ways.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 He came to faith in Christ\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, came to faith in Christ.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014even though he\u2019d been in church\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014faithful?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Faithful.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 What did it take?\u00a0 Was it that he came to grips with the reality he truly was broken\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 I think\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014and he needed a Redeemer?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, I think circumstances in his life that were outside of his control and that were scary came to bear on his life.\u00a0 I trace his conversion there.\u00a0 He and I haven\u2019t talked about that.\u00a0 He and I haven\u2019t talked in detail about that, but I would trace it there.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, he\u2019s probably going to be listening to this broadcast.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Hi, Dad.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 How would you say your dad has changed in these past ten years as a man\u2014maybe as a husband, and as a father, but as God\u2019s man?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Jesus is at the center of his life.\u00a0 He understands grace, understands that his sins are forgiven.\u00a0 He\u2019s a man whose life is led by grace.\u00a0 He\u2019s laying down his life for others in a whole new way.\u00a0 Always had been an incredible provider\u2014He is not just providing for his family now\u2014he\u2019s pastoring his family now, which is a whole new dynamic.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I think it\u2019s important to say there are a lot of guys who are in churches, and are faithful, and are doing the thing; but you\u2019re saying your dad was there, but it hadn\u2019t sunk in yet.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Hadn\u2019t sunk in, yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 So, the guy who\u2019s listening\u2014and I don\u2019t know how many of those guys are flipping over to listen to Christian radio\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014but the guy who\u2019s listening to this station right now, how does he know the difference between somebody who is going through the motions and somebody who\u2019s really caught the disease?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, tell him to ask his wife, ask his kids, ask those around him; but\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Ask them what?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Ask them, \u201cWhat do you think about me as a man?\u00a0 How am I doing as a husband?\u00a0 What do you think about my relationship with Jesus?\u00a0 Is it alive?\u201d\u00a0 So, have them get feedback from those around him, but this isn\u2019t anything a man can force.\u00a0 I don\u2019t think a man can force these changes in his life.\u00a0 Being born again is a miracle that only God does.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think even guys who maybe have been in the church for a long time, have been going through a lot of the Christian motions for a long time\u2014there are a lot of men like that who aren\u2019t saved, who haven\u2019t been transformed.\u00a0 I think that sometimes God just brings circumstances into their life, that are totally outside of their control, that blindsides them, and humbles them radically, and that makes them see their need for a Savior.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 It could even be listening to somebody on a radio program talk about his dad that could be the eye-opening experience; couldn\u2019t it?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, it could be; and death comes before life.\u00a0 The cross comes before resurrection.\u00a0 Sometimes, when you think, men\u2014sometimes, when you think God is killing you because all these horrible circumstances are coming, he\u2019s actually saving you.\u00a0 He\u2019s putting to death certain things in your life.\u00a0 He might be putting to death the \u201cold you\u201d in order to bring to life the \u201cnew you\u201d because that\u2019s what Jesus does.\u00a0 Jesus makes men new.\u00a0 He doesn\u2019t just come and make men better and do a little bit of moral improvement in their life.\u00a0 He wants to put to death the \u201cold man\u201d and bring to life the \u201cnew man\u201d.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 So, to that man who\u2019s listening to you right now going, \u201cThat\u2019s me\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201cWhat must I do to come to know Jesus Christ the way you\u2019re talking about?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 Well, that\u2019s what the Philippian jailer asks in Acts, Chapter 16.\u00a0 He says, \u201cWhat must I do to be saved?\u201d\u00a0 He asked the Apostle Paul that question.\u00a0 What he says is, \u201cBelieve on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you\u2019ll be saved.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s what you must do.\u00a0 You must see your sin, and that you\u2019re a sinner, and that you stand under the wrath of a Holy God.\u00a0 You must repent of your sin, and you must place your faith in Jesus, Who lived for you, died for you, rose again for you, and forgives you for all your sin\u2014Who makes you perfectly righteous, in the sight of God, Who gives you a whole new identity, Who fills you with the Holy Spirit and makes you into a new man.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn short, repent of your sin, believe in Jesus Christ, and believe in the Gospel.\u00a0 Get some good people around you, connect to a local church that preaches the Gospel, get some older men in your life, who you respect, to begin discipling you.\u00a0 If you are a married man, start loving your wife with the love of Jesus Christ.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 There\u2019s a difference between believing in God and believing in Jesus, intellectually, and going, \u201cYes, I agree with all of that\u201d\u2014affirming that\u2014and believing it, experientially, where you go, \u201cI know that\u2019s true about <em>me<\/em>.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201cI know this is\u201d\u2014it\u2019s not just, \u201cWell, yes, I\u2019m a sinner.\u00a0 I believe that,\u201d in the head.\u00a0 It is going, \u201cNo, I see it.\u00a0 I feel it.\u00a0 I know it;\u201d right?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Exactly.\u00a0 Yes, where I am, in Silicon Valley, there are like four Christians.\u00a0 So, this is the message we\u2019re getting out there, and it\u2019s not been heard in a big way.\u00a0 So, we\u2019re seeing Jesus really transform lives out there, really transform men.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 This belief we\u2019re talking about is a commitment and surrender.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 It says to Jesus Christ, \u201cYou be the King of my life, my Master.\u00a0 I will become your slave.\u00a0 You make me the kind of man you want me to be.\u201d\u00a0 Obviously, you\u2019re talking about redemption, forgiveness of sin.\u00a0 I\u2019ll tell you what\u2014the Bible is full of all kinds of promises to that person who\u2019s made that commitment to Jesus Christ.\u00a0 What I would encourage the person who\u2019s listening to us today\u2014whether male or female\u2014take Jesus Christ at His Word.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Amen.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 If you answer His knock, He will come in.\u00a0 He will have a relationship with you.\u00a0 He\u2019ll forgive you.\u00a0 He\u2019ll write your name in the Book of Life.\u00a0 You\u2019ll be forgiven.\u00a0 You\u2019ll be called a child of God.\u00a0 Again, there are all these benefits that we have as followers of Christ that you need to know about because you have a new identity.\u00a0 You are a new creation.\u00a0 It really is back to what you talk about in your book.\u00a0 If you want to change a marriage, change a man.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You don\u2019t say it, but you can also change a woman.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Justin:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, absolutely.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019ll happen, too.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 There is a link we have on our website, at FamilyLifeToday.com, called \u201cTwo Ways to Live\u201d.\u00a0 I think it maps out pretty clearly what the options are for us.\u00a0 We\u2019re either going to live a self-directed life or a God-centered life.\u00a0 The question is, \u201cWhich road are you on?\u00a0 Which path are you walking?\u201d\u00a0 This link helps you figure that out and helps you understand how you get on the right path, if you\u2019re on the wrong path.\u00a0 <br><br>We think there is a right path and a wrong path.\u00a0 It\u2019s not like two options, and it doesn\u2019t matter which one you\u2019re on.\u00a0 There\u2019s a wrong road to be on; there\u2019s a right road to be on.\u00a0 Go to FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 Click on that link and ask yourself the question, \u201cAm I on the right path?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cWhich way am I living?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cAm I living the right way?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, our website is FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 Click the link that says, \u201cTwo Ways to Live\u201d, for more information; and look for information about Justin Buzzard\u2019s book, <em>Date Your Wife<\/em>.\u00a0 We\u2019ve got that in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center, as well\u2014great book.\u00a0 You can order a copy from us, online, or when you call 1-800-FL-TODAY, 1-800-358-6329.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, don\u2019t forget we have an event coming up on Saturday, August 4<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 It\u2019s the Stepping Up National Men\u2019s Simulcast.\u00a0 It takes place in Chicago, but it\u2019s actually taking place in churches, all across the country\u2014originates in Chicago, and it\u2019s being simulcast in a lot of locations.\u00a0 There is still time for you to sign up for your church to be a location.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019d like more information about how to do that, go to FamilyLifeToday.com and click the link for the Stepping Up National Men\u2019s Simulcast.\u00a0 It\u2019d be great to have your church, as a location, hosting this event on Saturday, August 4<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 It\u2019s a rally cry for men in your community and in our nation to step up and be men.\u00a0 Dennis Rainey is going to be speaking\u2014Robert Lewis, Crawford Loritts, Pastor James MacDonald.\u00a0 Again, go to FamilyLifeToday.com for more information; or call, toll-free, 1-800-358-6329.\u00a0 That\u2019s 1-800- \u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then, the word, \u201cTODAY\u201d.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOf course, for those of you who have not yet received a copy of Dennis Rainey\u2019s book, <em>Stepping Up<\/em>\u2014or maybe you\u2019ve received a copy, but you\u2019ve thought, \u201cI need to get a copy of this for my son, or for my dad, or for another man you know.\u201d\u00a0 This week, we\u2019re making copies of this book available to anyone who helps support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> with a donation.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you go to FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014click on the link that says, \u201cI CARE\u201d, make an online donation\u2014we\u2019ll automatically send you a copy of Dennis Rainey\u2019s book, <em>Stepping Up:<\/em><em>\u00a0 <\/em><em>A Call to Courageous Manhood<\/em>.\u00a0 If you make your donation by phone, at 1-800-FL-TODAY, just ask for a copy of the book when you call.\u00a0 Let me just say how important it is for us to hear from you.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re listener-supported.\u00a0 The cost for producing and syndicating this program is covered by listeners, like you.\u00a0 So, if you appreciate what we\u2019re all about here, at FamilyLife, as we seek to make every home a godly home, we\u2019d love to have you join with us and partner as a financial contributor.\u00a0 Make your donation, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800- \u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY\u201d.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBe sure to join us again tomorrow.\u00a0 Justin Buzzard is going to be back here with us.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to be talking about how when a man thinks about Jesus\u2014about Who He is and about what He\u2019s done\u2014how that has an impact on his marriage relationship.\u00a0 Justin will explain why that is and how that works, tomorrow.\u00a0 I hope you can be here for that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp for today.\u00a0 Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you.\u00a0 However, there is a cost to produce them for our website.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would you consider <a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/donate\">donating today<\/a> to help defray 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