{"id":302512,"date":"2012-04-26T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2012-04-26T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/co-parenting-visitation\/"},"modified":"2012-04-26T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2012-04-26T15:00:00","slug":"co-parenting-visitation","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/co-parenting-visitation\/","title":{"rendered":"Co-Parenting:  Visitation"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Parenting is difficult enough when it&#8217;s your own kids, but throw someone else&#8217;s into the mix and you may have problems.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2012-04-26.mp3","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"24.74M","filesize_raw":"25938140","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2888,2894,2858],"tags":[2585,4033,5208],"podcast_series":[7397],"cwp_profile":[3300],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-302512","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-multiple-home-realities","category-stepfamily-living","category-stepparenting-skills","tag-blended-family","tag-divorce","tag-stepparenting","podcast_series-your-stepfamily-standing-strong","cwp_profile-ron-deal","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/302512\/co-parenting-visitation","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/302512\/co-parenting-visitation","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"Az9yy2hJTs\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/co-parenting-visitation\/\">Co-Parenting:  Visitation<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/co-parenting-visitation\/embed\/#?secret=Az9yy2hJTs\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Co-Parenting:  Visitation&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"Az9yy2hJTs\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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kids.\u00a0 You know, when I attack your father, living in another home\u2014parents need to understand that kid carries that pain because, \u201cI\u2019m half of Dad.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Thursday, April 26<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 Our host is the President of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 What can a husband and wife do to help children in a stepfamily navigate turbulent emotional waters?\u00a0\u00a0 Stay tuned.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us on the Thursday edition.\u00a0 I have never forgotten a friend of mine.\u00a0 I will call her \"Beth\".\u00a0\u00a0 She had been married, had a son\u2014the marriage had not lasted.\u00a0 She had been a single parent for a number of years.\u00a0 Then, she met a guy.\u00a0 This guy was\u2014well, he was wonderful.\u00a0 I was a little suspicious, frankly, of just how wonderful he was.\u00a0 I thought, \"She's been pretty lonely for a long time.\"\u00a0 Not only that, but she wanted to have another baby; and she wasn't getting younger.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, the two of them got married.\u00a0 I'll never forget\u2014it didn't take long for her to arrive at work one day, and Beth said to me\u2014she didn't look good.\u00a0 I said, \"Are you okay?\"\u00a0 She said, \"Well, we had a pretty serious disagreement this morning.\"\u00a0 I said, \"What was it about?\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe went on to explain that her new husband had tried to tell her son a few things that he needed to do and had started shouting at him.\u00a0 She said, \"I got in the middle, between the two of them.\u00a0 I said, \u2018You're not going to talk to my son this way.\u2019\"\u00a0 The whole thing just kind of crumbled into everybody going in their own direction, and nobody feeling good about the situation.\u00a0 I thought, \"This couple needs someone who can sit down with them and say, 'You have got to start learning some new skills if you're going to make this thing work.'\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 At our FamilyLife marriage conference, we focus in on giving people biblical skills in knowing how to build a marriage and a family.\u00a0 One of the fastest-growing segments that are attending our FamilyLife marriage conference are those who are stepfamilies\u2014those who find themselves in remarriage situations.\u00a0 I'll tell you\u2014they're eager, Bob, for those skill sets because they've been in the real-life settings where they're afraid that they may again experience the heartache of divorce.\u00a0 Not all, but many who are in stepfamilies, come about it through that route\u2014some through the death of a spouse.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAll this week\u2014we've uncovered a resource that we wanted to bring to our listeners.\u00a0 We\u2019re really thrilled to do so because of the specialized needs of stepfamilies.\u00a0 Today, we want to focus on the subject that you brought up, Bob\u2014the subject of step-parenting and how that works its way out in this new family formation.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRon Deal joins us for a fourth day.\u00a0 Ron, it's been a treat to have you on the broadcast this week and glad to have you on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Thank you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Ron is a minister, a counselor, and a speaker on the subject of stepfamilies, all across the country\u2014has a seminar that he does.\u00a0 Ron, one of the areas that you find the most relevant, as you teach on this subject, is this one right here.\u00a0 In fact, you break down parenting into three areas:\u00a0 parenting, step-parenting, and co-parenting.\u00a0 Now, you've got to help me, what's a co-parent?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 It's complicated; isn't it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 It is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Co-parents are ex-spouses or the biological parents of the children.\u00a0 In other words, if there has been a divorce situation, the children are moving back and forth between two homes.\u00a0 You are no longer married to your former spouse.\u00a0 If you were never married, you're not in that situation with them; but you do have an ongoing parenting relationship with them.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe way we like to say it is there's no such thing as ex-parents.\u00a0 There are only ex-spouses.\u00a0 So, you're forever tied through the children.\u00a0 You have to work together; otherwise, the children can divide and conquer as they move back and forth between homes\u2014just like they could within your home.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, and I don't know in what order we want to go through parenting\u2014step-parenting or co-parenting\u2014but as you've addressed the co-parenting issue right here\u2014we get letters all the time, Dennis, from people who say, \"Here is my situation.\u00a0 I've come to Christ.\u00a0 We're trying to raise our children in a godly, Christian environment.\u00a0 We've got rules and things that our kids can't do; and then, they go visit Mom or Dad on the weekend.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201cHe's living with a girlfriend\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201cThey're watching R-rated movies\u201d\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014\u201cdrinking, doing drugs\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014\u201clanguage\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 It's one of the most frustrating issues that I find, whether we're talking about people that are still in single-parent years or whether they're in stepfamilies.\u00a0 The other household has a tremendous influence on the kids; and they ask the question, \"What can we do about it?\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere is my answer\u2014first, and foremost, please accept and acknowledge that you do not control what goes on in that other home.\u00a0 The reason I say that is because, under the guise of being concerned, there's a lot of ex-spouses that are still trying to control their ex-.\u00a0 They're still trying to tell them what to do, and they've been divorced for years.\u00a0 You've got to understand that divorce means you lose your right to influence the other person.\u00a0 That's one of the unfortunate results of divorce.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes; but I can hear a single-parent mom or a woman who is in a stepfamily, right now, going, \"But you do not know what my son is walking off into with his stepdad.\u00a0 You're not telling me to just let him go off into that situation.\u00a0 God's given me responsibility to protect him from evil.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, let's assume, and let's say, first of all, we're not talking about abuse situations.\u00a0 We're not talking about extreme situations, where they're walking into abuse.\u00a0 In non-abuse situations\u2014what I'm trying to say is, \u201cIt's important for the children to keep their relationships alive with the biological parents, even if\u2014and this is so difficult\u2014but even if there is a negative influence.\u201d\u00a0 What you've got to do is\u2014you've got to influence your kids towards Christ when they are in your home and do everything you can to influence them while they are in your home.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Let's say you've got an 11-year-old or a 12-year-old who is going over to Dad's.\u00a0 Dad gives him a lot of freedom\u2014no restrictions\u2014lets him play Nintendo<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> all weekend long, if he wants to.\u00a0 Back home, he can only play for half an hour a day; and that's after his homework is done.\u00a0 All of a sudden, it's regulated.\u00a0 She's thinking, \"He's going to hit 13 or 14.\u00a0 He's going to say, 'I want to go live with Dad.'\"\u00a0 How does she protect herself from that reality and keep him from wandering off to a full-time situation with Dad?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, first of all, she can't keep him.\u00a0 I'm sorry.\u00a0 I hate to say it, but you lose control of certain things when children are moving back and forth in different homes.\u00a0 What she needs to try to do is\u2014she needs to try to influence her children.\u00a0\u00a0 She should not come down to Dad's level.\u00a0 I think that's a big mistake that people make.\u00a0 \"Maybe, I need to lower my standards.\u00a0 Maybe, I need to be more fun.\u00a0 Maybe, we need to spend more money on the kids,\u201d so that they\u2014in effect\u2014we're competing for their loyalty; and, \u201cSomehow I can keep them in the fold that way.\"\u00a0 It doesn't work.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tKids grow to respect parents who maintain their boundaries.\u00a0 Over time, kids will probably try out the values of the other home, at some point in time.\u00a0 Sometimes they don't; but if they do, you know, that's a prodigal time.\u00a0 It's very, very difficult; and you've got to continue to pray for your kids.\u00a0 But most of the time, in the long run, they have a tendency to come back to where the stability is\u2014back to where truth is.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, in that situation, the verses I'm about to read here are very difficult to choke down; but it's the truth of God's Word.\u00a0 Peter writes in 1 Peter, Chapter 3, verse 9, \"...not returning evil for evil or insult for insult but giving a blessing instead.\"\u00a0 It goes on to talk about, in the next few verses, of \"refraining your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking guile.\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf I were in that situation, the hardest thing for me to do would be to remain silent about the former spouse.\u00a0 It would be so easy to take them on\u2014to get so angry at the disrespect for your own belief and your faith.\u00a0 Then, in addition to that, there's the context out of which the divorce occurred.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 The truth is the truth; but when it comes to, \"If I can shove this truth down your throat and make you choose this over your biological parent,\" it's a losing game.\u00a0 That is just something parents need to understand.\u00a0 They need to influence, they need to teach, they need to train, but they cannot force loyalties.\u00a0 It just doesn't work.\u00a0 It backfires every time.\u00a0 So, in effect, you're giving the kids the opportunity to choose truth.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 So, what do you do, then, as you talk about your ex-spouse to his son or to her daughter?\u00a0 You may find yourself wanting to, at one level say, \u201cYou know, there were legitimate reasons why Mom and Dad are no longer together.\u201d\u00a0 You don\u2019t want to defame or slander the other person; but if you make it sound like, \u201cYour Dad really is a wonderful guy,\u201d there\u2019s going to be a child there going, \u201cWell, so how come the two of you aren\u2019t together anymore?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, I think you can talk about the truth of what happened.\u00a0 As children grow, you can give them more and more information about the past and what the relationships are.\u00a0 I think we can really be honest with our kids.\u00a0 I think parents really underestimate the ability of their children to handle the truth; but we do need to be respectful as we present that truth.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe minute you\u2014the fine line is, \u201cWill you turn to criticism when it becomes a personal attack?\u201d\u00a0 That\u2019s when it really begins to weigh heavy on the kids.\u00a0 Parents don\u2019t understand that either.\u00a0 When I attack your father, living in another home\u2014parents need to understand that kid carries that pain because, \u201cI\u2019m half of Dad.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, as you were talking, it's occurred to me that we've focused on the co-parent\u2014who is the renegade, who is the evil co-parent, who is trying to pollute the soul of a son or a daughter.\u00a0 I would think the vast majority of those who are co-parents, even coming out of a divorce, are those who are cooperating co-parents who want to do what's right by the son or the daughter.\u00a0 What are some principles of working with a co-parent who really would like to see that young lad or that young lady become all that God intended?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0The goal in co-parenting is to contain whatever hostility or conflict exists\u2014to contain that\u2014so that, \u201cWe can work together, as a team, on behalf of our children.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You\u2019re speaking about the divorce at this point.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Exactly.\u00a0 What we\u2019re saying is, \u201cThe marriage is over, but the parenting continues.\u00a0 So, how do we do parenting?\u00a0 How are we going to do it effectively for our kids?\u201d\u00a0 A couple of ideas\u2014one thing would be to meet on a regular basis.\u00a0 Some co-parents can stand to do that once a month\u2014some can do it every week; but I think twice a month, once a month\u2014have a business meeting.\u00a0 Sit down at the table, or do it on the phone, or do it by e-mail, if you really are not able to talk to one another in a healthy way.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are lots of co-parents who can sit down at a table and say, \"Here is what's going on with Susie.\u00a0 School is going like this, and we're struggling with this subject.\u00a0 The teachers are telling me that she probably ought to work a little bit more at home.\u00a0 We're trying to do this in our home.\u00a0 What do you think you might be able to do in your home?\"\u00a0 The two are cooperating on behalf of the children.\u00a0 It's really a very nice situation when that occurs.\u00a0 The term that we like to use is \u201ccooperative colleagues\u201d.\u00a0 \u201cWe\u2019re still cooperating for these kids.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBy the way, rules don\u2019t have to be the same.\u00a0 You know, my parents have been missionaries to Kenya every year for the last 15 years.\u00a0 They get on a plane, they fly to Kenya, and they get off the plane.\u00a0 The customs, and rituals, and traditions are entirely different.\u00a0 You drive on the left side of the road, for crying out loud!\u00a0 I got to go over there 15 years ago, and it takes a little getting used to.\u00a0 But then you come back to the United States, you have to switch back.\u00a0 My dad came back one year and started driving on the left side of the road in Oklahoma City and couldn\u2019t figure out why the traffic was honking.\u00a0 Then, he figured out, \u201cI\u2019m the idiot.\u00a0 I have to switch back.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, kids are moving back and forth between homes.\u00a0 Even though the rituals are different, the rules are different, the customs are different, it has a different personality to this home compared to the other home\u2014they can make the switch.\u00a0 There\u2019s always an adjustment period; but if the rules are consistent, kids can do really well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, there is something you touched on, and I want to put a double underline and an exclamation point beside.\u00a0 That's where the wife is dealing with her former husband.\u00a0 There is cause there for her to have been offended or the cause of the divorce left a reproach, where she needs to forgive him; and he needs to forgive her.\u00a0 She's not responsible for his lack of forgiveness of her, but she is responsible for her lack of forgiveness of her former spouse.\u00a0 If they're going to get together, whether by email, by phone, or in person, they're going to have to have a civil relationship where all the accounts have been settled.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0And her children need her to forgive.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Bingo!\u00a0 If she hasn't forgiven, I promise you, her children and, as far as that goes, her stepchildren will know that she has bitterness or a lack of a forgiving heart.\u00a0 It's very important, I think, in the process of setting up this relationship with a co-parent, to make sure, as far as it depends upon you, \u201cto be at peace with all men.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, if that person won't forgive you, refuses to forgive you, refuses to settle the account\u2014then, that's their responsibility.\u00a0 But you need to pursue that and seek to make sure that forgiveness has been requested and sought.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I have to ask you\u2014I don't know how often this happens\u2014but let's say you've arranged for one of these monthly business meetings\u2014that you talked about.\u00a0 About the third time you show up for one of these\u2014and you sit down across the table from your former wife, your former husband, and you look up\u2014and she's really looking pretty today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 Hmm, yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And you start to talk about some things related to your son, and you're both so proud of him.\u00a0 Something happened in school and, all of a sudden, there's a stirring.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 And especially if things aren't going so well back at the ranch with\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014with your new wife.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 I think that's fairly common\u2014to have leftover feelings of fondness and love for the person that you're sitting across the table with.\u00a0 The thing that people have to remember is that the marriage is over.\u00a0 We do not cross into personal territory with one another anymore.\u00a0 It's done.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat is so important because when your ex-spouse calls and says, \"You know, the screen door on the back is kind of off.\u00a0 The kids are going in and out.\u00a0 Could you come over and fix it?\"\u00a0 I've had a lot of new wives call and say, \"My husband keeps going over and taking care of her tasks at the house with his ex-spouse.\u00a0 Should he be doing that?\"\u00a0 The answer is absolutely, \u201cNo!\u00a0 That is not a parent issue.\u201d\u00a0 If it's a parent issue, then you do everything you can to cooperate with that ex-; but if it is a marital issue, a romance issue, or a help issue\u2014no, that's personal. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou say\u2014you quietly and politely say to your ex-, \"I'm sorry.\u00a0 I appreciate the invitation.\u00a0 I know I've done some of those things for you in the past.\u00a0 I don't think it is right for me to do that anymore.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I've counseled people in that situation.\u00a0 I think it's very important to have some clear boundaries in place.\u00a0 I wouldn\u2019t want to encourage two former spouses to meet, alone together, to talk about the needs of their children.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oftentimes this happens on the phone.\u00a0 Really, that's one of the best ways of doing it because it helps to just keep that boundary where it needs to be.\u00a0 You can do a lot of business on the phone.\u00a0 I'm amazed at how many co-parents can do good business over e-mail, but you can get it done.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, speaking of healthy relationships, let's talk about one other dimension of the co-parent\u2014and that's the grandparents.\u00a0 You know, I get into this thing\u2014and it\u2019s like the stepfamily\u2014it is a bowl of spaghetti!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 It\u2019s complicated.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 It is incredible!\u00a0 What encouragement would you give to a biological parent in dealing with the co-parent and their grandparents?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 One of the six possible grandparents the child has now; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 I guess we should call them ex-grandparents, or ex-in-laws maybe would be the way to say it.\u00a0 Bonds for children are very, very important.\u00a0 Anything you can do to set aside your personal needs and wants\u2014remember\u2014the phrase I like to use is, \"It's all about the children.\"\u00a0 What you want doesn\u2019t matter anymore.\u00a0 If it\u2019s good for them to be with your ex-spouse\u2019s parents\u2014their grandparents\u2014then you make the time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Okay.\u00a0 What if it\u2019s not good for them to be with them?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, again, it\u2019s kind of the same situation as dealing with the ex-spouse\u2019s home.\u00a0 You try to influence the kids when they\u2019re in your home.\u00a0 You really don\u2019t have any control over how much time they spend with their grandparents.\u00a0 They can go over to Dad\u2019s house, and Dad can just drop them off at the grandparents\u2019 house, which happens pretty frequently.\u00a0 You wish they were with their father, but they\u2019re not.\u00a0 They\u2019re with his parents.\u00a0 You don\u2019t have any control over that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, I can hear a mom saying, \u201cYes, I do have control over taking them directly to the grandparents\u2019 house.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, that\u2019s true.\u00a0 That would be an issue that you would have to talk to your ex-spouse about.\u00a0 Most of the recourse that biological parents have regarding the children and what's going on in the other homes or with grandparents, comes down to that co-parent relationship.\u00a0 That's why it's so important to get to a place where you're trying to work together.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, some of the other terms we use for ex-spouses are \"angry associates\" and \"fiery foes\".\u00a0 They argue, and they're conflictual all the time.\u00a0 If that's the kind of relationship you have with them, then how are you going to have any influence over what goes on in the other home?\u00a0 You won't.\u00a0 That's why it behooves us to set aside our personal agendas, to work on forgiveness, to resolve our personal emotional issues so that we can find a way to do the best business with that person we can.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, Ron, you have done a wonderful job here, with Bob and me firing hardballs at you.\u00a0 I feel like Bob and I have become a duo Chris Matthews on NBC\u2019s <em>Hardball <\/em>here.\u00a0 But as you were talking\u2014I just, in my gut\u2014I feel like we have just finished the fourth program of a giant apologetic\u2014a giant defense\u2014for why you need to make your marriage work.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt's why Malachi, Chapter 2, verse16, is true, \"For I hate divorce.\"\u00a0 Now, we've said on the broadcast, on numerous occasions, \u201cA stepfamily is not only forged by divorce; there is the death of a spouse.\u00a0 There is also the birth of a child out of wedlock; but many stepfamilies today are being formed out of a divorce.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 We've also said many times that verse does not say, \"I hate divorcees,\" or, \"I hate stepfamilies.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right; and we have tremendous compassion\u2014I think that's what these broadcasts are all about.\u00a0 But as I listen to the complexities\u2014if you are the person, listening to this broadcast right now, who has been thinking, even beginning to cultivate the thought of divorcing your spouse\u2014find a way to make your marriage work!\u00a0 Think about what you are going to create.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we've made it clear God visits people in their stepfamily.\u00a0 I mean, He delights in broken situations\u2014of redeeming people's lives\u2014but you know what?\u00a0 He doesn't want you to enter into those broken situations.\u00a0 He wants you to take the marriage you are in today and make it work.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 That's exactly right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And I think the message that we\u2019ve tried to make clear here on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is that the Gospel is powerful to make whatever your situation is work.\u00a0 Two people, who will go before God and humbly submit themselves to Him and to His Word\u2014there\u2019s hope for reconciliation\u2014whether it\u2019s a first marriage, second marriage, or third marriage.\u00a0 Whatever situation you\u2019re in, God can do that kind of a redeeming work.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRon, I know your desire to help stepfamilies\u2014writing the book, <em>The Smart Stepfamily;<\/em> the DVD series that\u2019s for small groups; the book, <em>The Smart Stepdad; <\/em>you co-wrote a book called <em>The Smart Stepmom<\/em>; and you\u2019ve got other resources.\u00a0 Your desire here is to help couples find the help and hope that they need so that the marriage they\u2019re in is the marriage that they\u2019ll be in for the rest of their lives.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s one of the reasons that we\u2019re excited, here at FamilyLife, that Ron is now a part of the team\u2014that The Smart Stepfamily work that he\u2019s been doing for years is now a part of what FamilyLife is doing.\u00a0 In fact, we had a meeting, not long ago, to brainstorm new resources and new strategies for how we can help strengthen folks who are in a remarriage situation\u2014how we can apply the Gospel in those situations and those settings.\u00a0 We\u2019ll have more to say about that in the months to come.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn the meantime, if folks are interested in the books that you\u2019ve written or some of the articles that we have on our website at FamilyLifeToday.com, go online and you can order resources from us; or look through the extensive list of articles that Ron has written\u2014that we\u2019ve got posted.\u00a0 Again, our website is FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0\u00a0 You can also call if you\u2019d like more information about the resources we have: 1-800-FL-TODAY is the number\u20141-800-358-6329; that\u2019s 1-800 \u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY\u201d. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we need to say a quick word of thanks to those of you who support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today.<\/em><em>\u00a0 <\/em>As we work to try to develop new resources and strategies for step-families, your donations in support of this ministry, not only go to help cover the production and syndication costs for this radio program and keeping things posted on the web, but you also help us be able to think in some new directions.\u00a0 We appreciate that financial support.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis week, if you can make a donation of any amount, we would love to send you a copy of Dennis Rainey\u2019s brand-new book, <em>Aggressive Girls, Clueless Boys: 7 Conversations You Must Have With Your Son<\/em>.\u00a0 In addition to that, we\u2019d like to send you a copy of Dennis\u2019 book, <em>Interviewing Your Daughter\u2019s Date\u2014<\/em>both of these books designed to help you as your children go through their teenage years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTo make a donation online, go to FamilyLifeToday.com, click the button that says, \u201cI Care\u201d, and fill out the online donation form.\u00a0 Or if it\u2019s easier, just call 1-800-FL-TODAY.\u00a0 Make a donation over the phone; and when you do, say, \u201cI\u2019d like those books they were talking about on the radio\u2014the ones about teenagers.\u201d\u00a0 We\u2019ll be happy to send those out to you.\u00a0 Again, we appreciate your partnership with us and your support of this ministry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd, tomorrow, we\u2019re going to continue our conversation with Ron Deal.\u00a0 We\u2019re talking all this week about stepfamilies.\u00a0 Hope you can tune in tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On 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What can a husband and wife do to help children in a stepfamily navigate turbulent emotional waters?\u00a0\u00a0 Stay tuned.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us on the Thursday edition.\u00a0 I have never forgotten a friend of mine.\u00a0 I will call her \"Beth\".\u00a0\u00a0 She had been married, had a son\u2014the marriage had not lasted.\u00a0 She had been a single parent for a number of years.\u00a0 Then, she met a guy.\u00a0 This guy was\u2014well, he was wonderful.\u00a0 I was a little suspicious, frankly, of just how wonderful he was.\u00a0 I thought, \"She's been pretty lonely for a long time.\"\u00a0 Not only that, but she wanted to have another baby; and she wasn't getting younger.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, the two of them got married.\u00a0 I'll never forget\u2014it didn't take long for her to arrive at work one day, and Beth said to me\u2014she didn't look good.\u00a0 I said, \"Are you 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attending our FamilyLife marriage conference are those who are stepfamilies\u2014those who find themselves in remarriage situations.\u00a0 I'll tell you\u2014they're eager, Bob, for those skill sets because they've been in the real-life settings where they're afraid that they may again experience the heartache of divorce.\u00a0 Not all, but many who are in stepfamilies, come about it through that route\u2014some through the death of a spouse.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAll this week\u2014we've uncovered a resource that we wanted to bring to our listeners.\u00a0 We\u2019re really thrilled to do so because of the specialized needs of stepfamilies.\u00a0 Today, we want to focus on the subject that you brought up, Bob\u2014the subject of step-parenting and how that works its way out in this new family formation.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRon Deal joins us for a fourth day.\u00a0 Ron, it's been a treat to have you on the broadcast this week and glad to have you on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Thank you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Ron is a minister, a counselor, and a speaker on the subject of stepfamilies, all across the country\u2014has a seminar that he does.\u00a0 Ron, one of the areas that you find the most relevant, as you teach on this subject, is this one right here.\u00a0 In fact, you break down parenting into three areas:\u00a0 parenting, step-parenting, and co-parenting.\u00a0 Now, you've got to help me, what's a co-parent?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 It's complicated; isn't it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 It is. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Co-parents are ex-spouses or the biological parents of the children.\u00a0 In other words, if there has been a divorce situation, the children are moving back and forth between two homes.\u00a0 You are no longer married to your former spouse.\u00a0 If you were never married, you're not in that situation with them; but you do have an ongoing parenting relationship with them.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe way we like to say it is there's no such thing as ex-parents.\u00a0 There are only ex-spouses.\u00a0 So, you're forever tied through the children.\u00a0 You have to work together; otherwise, the children can divide and conquer as they move back and forth between homes\u2014just like they could within your home.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, and I don't know in what order we want to go through parenting\u2014step-parenting or co-parenting\u2014but as you've addressed the co-parenting issue right here\u2014we get letters all the time, Dennis, from people who say, \"Here is my situation.\u00a0 I've come to Christ.\u00a0 We're trying to raise our children in a godly, Christian environment.\u00a0 We've got rules and things that our kids can't do; and then, they go visit Mom or Dad on the weekend.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201cHe's living with a girlfriend\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201cThey're watching R-rated movies\u201d\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014\u201cdrinking, doing drugs\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014\u201clanguage\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 It's one of the most frustrating issues that I find, whether we're talking about people that are still in single-parent years or whether they're in stepfamilies.\u00a0 The other household has a tremendous influence on the kids; and they ask the question, \"What can we do about it?\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere is my answer\u2014first, and foremost, please accept and acknowledge that you do not control what goes on in that other home.\u00a0 The reason I say that is because, under the guise of being concerned, there's a lot of ex-spouses that are still trying to control their ex-.\u00a0 They're still trying to tell them what to do, and they've been divorced for years.\u00a0 You've got to understand that divorce means you lose your right to influence the other person.\u00a0 That's one of the unfortunate results of divorce.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes; but I can hear a single-parent mom or a woman who is in a stepfamily, right now, going, \"But you do not know what my son is walking off into with his stepdad.\u00a0 You're not telling me to just let him go off into that situation.\u00a0 God's given me responsibility to protect him from evil.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, let's assume, and let's say, first of all, we're not talking about abuse situations.\u00a0 We're not talking about extreme situations, where they're walking into abuse.\u00a0 In non-abuse situations\u2014what I'm trying to say is, \u201cIt's important for the children to keep their relationships alive with the biological parents, even if\u2014and this is so difficult\u2014but even if there is a negative influence.\u201d\u00a0 What you've got to do is\u2014you've got to influence your kids towards Christ when they are in your home and do everything you can to influence them while they are in your home.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Let's say you've got an 11-year-old or a 12-year-old who is going over to Dad's.\u00a0 Dad gives him a lot of freedom\u2014no restrictions\u2014lets him play Nintendo<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> all weekend long, if he wants to.\u00a0 Back home, he can only play for half an hour a day; and that's after his homework is done.\u00a0 All of a sudden, it's regulated.\u00a0 She's thinking, \"He's going to hit 13 or 14.\u00a0 He's going to say, 'I want to go live with Dad.'\"\u00a0 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so angry at the disrespect for your own belief and your faith.\u00a0 Then, in addition to that, there's the context out of which the divorce occurred.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 The truth is the truth; but when it comes to, \"If I can shove this truth down your throat and make you choose this over your biological parent,\" it's a losing game.\u00a0 That is just something parents need to understand.\u00a0 They need to influence, they need to teach, they need to train, but they cannot force loyalties.\u00a0 It just doesn't work.\u00a0 It backfires every time.\u00a0 So, in effect, you're giving the kids the opportunity to choose truth.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 So, what do you do, then, as you talk about your ex-spouse to his son or to her daughter?\u00a0 You may find yourself wanting to, at one level say, \u201cYou know, there were legitimate reasons why Mom and Dad are no longer together.\u201d\u00a0 You don\u2019t want to defame or slander the other person; but if you make it sound like, \u201cYour Dad really is a wonderful guy,\u201d there\u2019s going to be a child there going, \u201cWell, so how come the two of you aren\u2019t together anymore?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, I think you can talk about the truth of what happened.\u00a0 As children grow, you can give them more and more information about the past and what the relationships are.\u00a0 I think we can really be honest with our kids.\u00a0 I think parents really underestimate the ability of their children to handle the truth; but we do need to be respectful as we present that truth.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe minute you\u2014the fine line is, \u201cWill you turn to criticism when it becomes a personal attack?\u201d\u00a0 That\u2019s when it really begins to weigh heavy on the kids.\u00a0 Parents don\u2019t understand that either.\u00a0 When I attack your father, living in another home\u2014parents need to understand that kid carries that pain because, \u201cI\u2019m half of Dad.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, as you were talking, it's occurred to me that we've focused on the co-parent\u2014who is the renegade, who is the evil co-parent, who is trying to pollute the soul of a son or a daughter.\u00a0 I would think the vast majority of those who are co-parents, even coming out of a divorce, are those who are cooperating co-parents who want to do what's right by the son or the daughter.\u00a0 What are some principles of working with a co-parent who really would like to see that young lad or that young lady become all that God intended?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0The goal in co-parenting is to contain whatever hostility or conflict exists\u2014to contain that\u2014so that, \u201cWe can work together, as a team, on behalf of our children.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You\u2019re speaking about the divorce at this point.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Exactly.\u00a0 What we\u2019re saying is, \u201cThe marriage is over, but the parenting continues.\u00a0 So, how do we do parenting?\u00a0 How are we going to do it effectively for our kids?\u201d\u00a0 A couple of ideas\u2014one thing would be to meet on a regular basis.\u00a0 Some co-parents can stand to do that once a month\u2014some can do it every week; but I think twice a month, once a month\u2014have a business meeting.\u00a0 Sit down at the table, or do it on the phone, or do it by e-mail, if you really are not able to talk to one another in a healthy way.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are lots of co-parents who can sit down at a table and say, \"Here is what's going on with Susie.\u00a0 School is going like this, and we're struggling with this subject.\u00a0 The teachers are telling me that she probably ought to work a little bit more at home.\u00a0 We're trying to do this in our home.\u00a0 What do you think you might be able to do in your home?\"\u00a0 The two are cooperating on behalf of the children.\u00a0 It's really a very nice situation when that occurs.\u00a0 The term that we like to use is \u201ccooperative colleagues\u201d.\u00a0 \u201cWe\u2019re still cooperating for these kids.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBy the way, rules don\u2019t have to be the same.\u00a0 You know, my parents have been missionaries to Kenya every year for the last 15 years.\u00a0 They get on a plane, they fly to Kenya, and they get off the plane.\u00a0 The customs, and rituals, and traditions are entirely different.\u00a0 You drive on the left side of the road, for crying out loud!\u00a0 I got to go over there 15 years ago, and it takes a little getting used to.\u00a0 But then you come back to the United States, you have to switch back.\u00a0 My dad came back one year and started driving on the left side of the road in Oklahoma City and couldn\u2019t figure out why the traffic was honking.\u00a0 Then, he figured out, \u201cI\u2019m the idiot.\u00a0 I have to switch back.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, kids are moving back and forth between homes.\u00a0 Even though the rituals are different, the rules are different, the customs are different, it has a different personality to this home compared to the other home\u2014they can make the switch.\u00a0 There\u2019s always an adjustment period; but if the rules are consistent, kids can do really well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, there is something you touched on, and I want to put a double underline and an exclamation point beside.\u00a0 That's where the wife is dealing with her former husband.\u00a0 There is cause there for her to have been offended or the cause of the divorce left a reproach, where she needs to forgive him; and he needs to forgive her.\u00a0 She's not responsible for his lack of forgiveness of her, but she is responsible for her lack of forgiveness of her former spouse.\u00a0 If they're going to get together, whether by email, by phone, or in person, they're going to have to have a civil relationship where all the accounts have been settled.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0And her children need her to forgive.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Bingo!\u00a0 If she hasn't forgiven, I promise you, her children and, as far as that goes, her stepchildren will know that she has bitterness or a lack of a forgiving heart.\u00a0 It's very important, I think, in the process of setting up this relationship with a co-parent, to make sure, as far as it depends upon you, \u201cto be at peace with all men.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, if that person won't forgive you, refuses to forgive you, refuses to settle the account\u2014then, that's their responsibility.\u00a0 But you need to pursue that and seek to make sure that forgiveness has been requested and sought.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I have to ask you\u2014I don't know how often this happens\u2014but let's say you've arranged for one of these monthly business meetings\u2014that you talked about.\u00a0 About the third time you show up for one of these\u2014and you sit down across the table from your former wife, your former husband, and you look up\u2014and she's really looking pretty today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 Hmm, yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And you start to talk about some things related to your son, and you're both so proud of him.\u00a0 Something happened in school and, all of a sudden, there's a stirring.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 And especially if things aren't going so well back at the ranch with\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014with your new wife.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 I think that's fairly common\u2014to have leftover feelings of fondness and love for the person that you're sitting across the table with.\u00a0 The thing that people have to remember is that the marriage is over.\u00a0 We do not cross into personal territory with one another anymore.\u00a0 It's done.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat is so important because when your ex-spouse calls and says, \"You know, the screen door on the back is kind of off.\u00a0 The kids are going in and out.\u00a0 Could you come over and fix it?\"\u00a0 I've had a lot of new wives call and say, \"My husband keeps going over and taking care of her tasks at the house with his ex-spouse.\u00a0 Should he be doing that?\"\u00a0 The answer is absolutely, \u201cNo!\u00a0 That is not a parent issue.\u201d\u00a0 If it's a parent issue, then you do everything you can to cooperate with that ex-; but if it is a marital issue, a romance issue, or a help issue\u2014no, that's personal. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou say\u2014you quietly and politely say to your ex-, \"I'm sorry.\u00a0 I appreciate the invitation.\u00a0 I know I've done some of those things for you in the past.\u00a0 I don't think it is right for me to do that anymore.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I've counseled people in that situation.\u00a0 I think it's very important to have some clear boundaries in place.\u00a0 I wouldn\u2019t want to encourage two former spouses to meet, alone together, to talk about the needs of their children.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oftentimes this happens on the phone.\u00a0 Really, that's one of the best ways of doing it because it helps to just keep that boundary where it needs to be.\u00a0 You can do a lot of business on the phone.\u00a0 I'm amazed at how many co-parents can do good business over e-mail, but you can get it done.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, speaking of healthy relationships, let's talk about one other dimension of the co-parent\u2014and that's the grandparents.\u00a0 You know, I get into this thing\u2014and it\u2019s like the stepfamily\u2014it is a bowl of spaghetti!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 It\u2019s complicated.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 It is incredible!\u00a0 What encouragement would you give to a biological parent in dealing with the co-parent and their grandparents?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 One of the six possible grandparents the child has now; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 I guess we should call them ex-grandparents, or ex-in-laws maybe would be the way to say it.\u00a0 Bonds for children are very, very important.\u00a0 Anything you can do to set aside your personal needs and wants\u2014remember\u2014the phrase I like to use is, \"It's all about the children.\"\u00a0 What you want doesn\u2019t matter anymore.\u00a0 If it\u2019s good for them to be with your ex-spouse\u2019s parents\u2014their grandparents\u2014then you make the time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Okay.\u00a0 What if it\u2019s not good for them to be with them?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, again, it\u2019s kind of the same situation as dealing with the ex-spouse\u2019s home.\u00a0 You try to influence the kids when they\u2019re in your home.\u00a0 You really don\u2019t have any control over how much time they spend with their grandparents.\u00a0 They can go over to Dad\u2019s house, and Dad can just drop them off at the grandparents\u2019 house, which happens pretty frequently.\u00a0 You wish they were with their father, but they\u2019re not.\u00a0 They\u2019re with his parents.\u00a0 You don\u2019t have any control over that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, I can hear a mom saying, \u201cYes, I do have control over taking them directly to the grandparents\u2019 house.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, that\u2019s true.\u00a0 That would be an issue that you would have to talk to your ex-spouse about.\u00a0 Most of the recourse that biological parents have regarding the children and what's going on in the other homes or with grandparents, comes down to that co-parent relationship.\u00a0 That's why it's so important to get to a place where you're trying to work together.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, some of the other terms we use for ex-spouses are \"angry associates\" and \"fiery foes\".\u00a0 They argue, and they're conflictual all the time.\u00a0 If that's the kind of relationship you have with them, then how are you going to have any influence over what goes on in the other home?\u00a0 You won't.\u00a0 That's why it behooves us to set aside our personal agendas, to work on forgiveness, to resolve our personal emotional issues so that we can find a way to do the best business with that person we can.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, Ron, you have done a wonderful job here, with Bob and me firing hardballs at you.\u00a0 I feel like Bob and I have become a duo Chris Matthews on NBC\u2019s <em>Hardball <\/em>here.\u00a0 But as you were talking\u2014I just, in my gut\u2014I feel like we have just finished the fourth program of a giant apologetic\u2014a giant defense\u2014for why you need to make your marriage work.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt's why Malachi, Chapter 2, verse16, is true, \"For I hate divorce.\"\u00a0 Now, we've said on the broadcast, on numerous occasions, \u201cA stepfamily is not only forged by divorce; there is the death of a spouse.\u00a0 There is also the birth of a child out of wedlock; but many stepfamilies today are being formed out of a divorce.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 We've also said many times that verse does not say, \"I hate divorcees,\" or, \"I hate stepfamilies.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right; and we have tremendous compassion\u2014I think that's what these broadcasts are all about.\u00a0 But as I listen to the complexities\u2014if you are the person, listening to this broadcast right now, who has been thinking, even beginning to cultivate the thought of divorcing your spouse\u2014find a way to make your marriage work!\u00a0 Think about what you are going to create.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we've made it clear God visits people in their stepfamily.\u00a0 I mean, He delights in broken situations\u2014of redeeming people's lives\u2014but you know what?\u00a0 He doesn't want you to enter into those broken situations.\u00a0 He wants you to take the marriage you are in today and make it work.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong>\u00a0 That's exactly right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And I think the message that we\u2019ve tried to make clear here on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is that the Gospel is powerful to make whatever your situation is work.\u00a0 Two people, who will go before God and humbly submit themselves to Him and to His Word\u2014there\u2019s hope for reconciliation\u2014whether it\u2019s a first marriage, second marriage, or third marriage.\u00a0 Whatever situation you\u2019re in, God can do that kind of a redeeming work.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRon, I know your desire to help stepfamilies\u2014writing the book, <em>The Smart Stepfamily;<\/em> the DVD series that\u2019s for small groups; the book, <em>The Smart Stepdad; <\/em>you co-wrote a book called <em>The Smart Stepmom<\/em>; and you\u2019ve got other resources.\u00a0 Your desire here is to help couples find the help and hope that they need so that the marriage they\u2019re in is the marriage that they\u2019ll be in for the rest of their lives.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s one of the reasons that we\u2019re excited, here at FamilyLife, that Ron is now a part of the team\u2014that The Smart Stepfamily work that he\u2019s been doing for years is now a part of what FamilyLife is doing.\u00a0 In fact, we had a meeting, not long ago, to brainstorm new resources and new strategies for how we can help strengthen folks who are in a remarriage situation\u2014how we can apply the Gospel in those situations and those settings.\u00a0 We\u2019ll have more to say about that in the months to come.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn the meantime, if folks are interested in the books that you\u2019ve written or some of the articles that we have on our website at FamilyLifeToday.com, go online and you can order resources from us; or look through the extensive list of articles that Ron has written\u2014that we\u2019ve got posted.\u00a0 Again, our website is FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0\u00a0 You can also call if you\u2019d like more information about the resources we have: 1-800-FL-TODAY is the number\u20141-800-358-6329; that\u2019s 1-800 \u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY\u201d. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we need to say a quick word of thanks to those of you who support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today.<\/em><em>\u00a0 <\/em>As we work to try to develop new resources and strategies for step-families, your donations in support of this ministry, not only go to help cover the production and syndication costs for this radio program and keeping things posted on the web, but you also help us be able to think in some new directions.\u00a0 We appreciate that financial support.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis week, if you can make a donation of any amount, we would love to send you a copy of Dennis Rainey\u2019s brand-new book, <em>Aggressive Girls, Clueless Boys: 7 Conversations You Must Have With Your Son<\/em>.\u00a0 In addition to that, we\u2019d like to send you a copy of Dennis\u2019 book, <em>Interviewing Your Daughter\u2019s Date\u2014<\/em>both of these books designed to help you as your children go through their teenage years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTo make a donation online, go to FamilyLifeToday.com, click the button that says, \u201cI Care\u201d, and fill out the online donation form.\u00a0 Or if it\u2019s easier, just call 1-800-FL-TODAY.\u00a0 Make a donation over the phone; and when you do, say, \u201cI\u2019d like those books they were talking about on the radio\u2014the ones about teenagers.\u201d\u00a0 We\u2019ll be happy to send those out to you.\u00a0 Again, we appreciate your partnership with us and your support of this ministry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd, tomorrow, we\u2019re going to 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