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and when life gets hard, marriage gets hard.\u00a0 Here\u2019s Dennis Rainey.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I\u2019ll quote a little girl who was sitting on her grandpa\u2019s lap.\u00a0 She looked at her grandpa and she said, \u201cGrandpa, life is like licking honey off a thorn.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong>\u00a0 You just tend to think, \u201cWell, it\u2019s not going to be me.\u00a0 It\u2019ll be somebody else.\u00a0 It\u2019s not going to be me,\u201d but there we were.\u00a0 It was the two of us, and we had just gotten that bad news.\u00a0 It was a storm.\u00a0 It just came, flying at us and knocked us flat.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Song:\u00a0 <em>Let the Wind Blow<\/em>]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>There\u2019s a storm on the horizon,<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Oh, let the wind blow.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday, March 6<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 Our host is the President of FamilyLife\u00ae, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 When there are storms on the horizon, what can you do to make sure your marriage stands strong?\u00a0 We\u2019ll hear from Dennis and Barbara Rainey about that today.\u00a0\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Let the wind blow.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Upon the solid rock of God I stand,<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Oh, let the wind blow.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us on the Tuesday edition.\u00a0 Thought it was interesting, when we were together about a month ago on the FamilyLife <em>Love Like You Mean It\u00ae<\/em> marriage cruise\u2014this was our second year to do the cruise.\u00a0 Again, it was sold out this year.\u00a0 We had a thousand couples joining us\u2014had the whole ship to ourselves.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It is one of the best things that we do here at FamilyLife.\u00a0 There\u2019s no question about it\u2014the entertainment, the content, the opportunity for engaging with folks in ministry, and finding out how you can plug in, as well as just leaving there with a better relationship with God and your spouse.\u00a0 It really is a home run.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Here is what I thought was interesting.\u00a0 You think of going off on kind of a cruise vacation with couples\u2014it\u2019s a marriage cruise.\u00a0 You\u2019ve got the whole boat to yourself, and we have devotions each morning.\u00a0 Folks will crowd into the theatre for morning devotions.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>You and Barbara spoke one morning; and I thought, \u201cYou tackled a subject, in the middle of the cruise, that was kind of a sobering subject.\u201d\u00a0 You think of a cruise\u2014you think, \u201cWell, it\u2019s just going to be fun and lighthearted;\u201d but you guys went deep that morning.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 We talked about some of the storms in our marriage that have occurred and how a marriage has to be built upon Jesus Christ and obedience to Him.\u00a0 I don\u2019t have a solution for how a marriage can go the distance otherwise.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 The interesting thing to me is how much powerful ministry happens onboard the <em>Love Like You Mean It Cruise<\/em>.\u00a0 Again, I think a lot of people think, \u201cWell, that would be a fun vacation, we\u2019d get to hear some good messages, and it would be nice;\u201d but we see God at work in the lives of a lot of couples who join us on this cruise.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 It\u2019s more than a vacation, Bob.\u00a0 Certainly, it is some time away from work, phone calls and e-mail, and all the hassles of bills and everyday life; but it is an intensely spiritual time\u2014a time of equipping, encouraging, putting our arms around people and saying, \u201cYou know what?\u00a0 You\u2019re not the only couple who\u2019s faced difficulty in your marriage and in your family.\u00a0 You can do this thing.\u00a0 You can do this thing called marriage and family.\u00a0 God\u2019s Word speaks to how you do it, and we\u2019re going to help you by equipping you with the biblical blueprints to know how to make your marriage go the distance.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Because the cruise has sold out each of the last two years and because we are on our way already to starting to sell out the 2013 cruise, Valentine\u2019s week of 2013, I went to our team.\u00a0 I said, \u201cI want to make sure our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners get a chance to sign up and to join us.\u00a0 Is there any kind of incentive we could provide for them to do that?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe team put together a special offer.\u00a0 You can go to FamilyLifeToday.com for more information about what\u2019s involved in that special offer.\u00a0 We\u2019ve already got lined up, for the cruise this year, Sara Groves, and Denver &amp; the Mile High Orchestra.\u00a0 Anthony Evans is going to join us.\u00a0 Priscilla Shirer is going to be on the cruise with us.\u00a0 Voddie Baucham is going to be back again.\u00a0 You and I are both going to be there.\u00a0 Barbara is going to be along, as well.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\u00a0 <br><br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 So, go to FamilyLifeToday.com for more information about how you can be a part of the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> Valentine\u2019s week cruise in 2013.\u00a0 The special offer is good this week and next week only.\u00a0 Again, go to FamilyLifeToday.com for more information about how to join us on the cruise.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe wanted to share with our listeners the Tuesday morning devotional that you and Barbara provided onboard the ship where you shared a little bit about\u2014I hate to use this word\u2014some of the rough seas that a marriage will pass through and how you weather the storms in marriage.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>There is thunder in the heavens,<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Oh, let the wind blow.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Recorded message]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 The more of life Barbara and I have shared together and the more we experience what God is up to in our lives, the more I believe life is anchored in this illustration that Jesus uses at the end of the Sermon on the Mount.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMatthew, Chapter 7, verse 24, \u201cEveryone, then, who hears these words of mine and does them, will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock.\u00a0 The rain fell, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; but it did not fall because it had been founded on the rock.\u201d\u00a0 Jesus said, \u201cEveryone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand.\u00a0 The rain fell, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house; and it fell, and great was the fall of it.\u201d\u00a0 Two houses\u2014similar storms\u2014two outcomes.\u00a0 The difference is in how two people who build a house relate to their God.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019ve had a few storms in our lives in our almost 40 years of marriage; and specifically, some storms this past year.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong>\u00a0 Back in early April of 2011, I went in for my annual mammogram.\u00a0 As I went in, I remember thinking, \u201cWhy am I doing this every year?\u00a0 It just seems so silly,\u201d but I went ahead and went because I had my appointment and everything was all scheduled.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI went ahead and did it.\u00a0 About a week later, Dennis and I were on a trip out-of-state; and my phone rang.\u00a0 I picked up the phone, and it was the radiologist\u2014I think is who reads it\u2014and he gave us the bad news that I had breast cancer.\u00a0 It was just\u2014it was one of those moments when you just\u2014my stomach just went through the floor, and both\u2014I looked at Dennis, and we just\u2014your heart just sinks.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tStorms are unexpected.\u00a0 They don\u2019t come with a lot of warning.\u00a0 I had a few days to anticipate that perhaps it could be bad news, but there isn\u2019t any history in our family.\u00a0 You just tend to think, \u201cWell, it\u2019s not going to be me.\u00a0 It\u2019ll be somebody else.\u00a0 It\u2019s not going to be me,\u201d but there we were.\u00a0 It was the two of us, and we had just gotten that bad news.\u00a0 It was a storm.\u00a0 It just came, flying at us and knocked us flat.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>For the next few days and weeks, we were trying to figure out, \u201cWhat do we do?\u201d\u00a0 We were getting information and all of that.\u00a0 About a week or two later, I think it was, we were in a surgeon\u2019s office, talking about all of our different options.\u00a0 He was drawing images on paper and saying, \u201cYou can do this, this, or this.\u00a0 If you do this, here are the results.\u00a0 If you do choice two and choice three\u201d\u2014anyway, all of this stuff.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you\u2019re in the middle of something like that, your head is just spinning, anyway.\u00a0 It is hard to process all the information that is coming at you, and you need to process it; but it\u2019s a part of the storm.\u00a0 The winds were blowing and swirling around us.\u00a0 We got as much information as we could both process and left.\u00a0 As we drove home, it was very, very cloudy.\u00a0 It was very windy; and he was saying, \u201cWe need to listen to the radio because this is looking really, really bad.\u201d\u00a0 This was late April, now.\u00a0 We pulled in our driveway, parked the car, and ran in the kitchen.\u00a0 He flipped on the TV to watch the radar.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You have to know this about me.\u00a0 I grew up in Southwest Missouri, and I spent a good bit of my childhood in a cellar.\u00a0 (Laughter)\u00a0 I can still remember the musty smell of potatoes and sitting among the green beans in this cellar that was just across the driveway in our next door neighbor\u2019s house.\u00a0 I\u2019m watching the news, and I\u2019m pacing in front of our windows.\u00a0 <br><br>We have a big plate glass window that overlooks\u2014we actually look west.\u00a0 The weatherman said on the TV, \u201cThere is a storm on the ground\u201d\u2014a tornado on the ground.\u00a0 I plotted the course, and I looked at it.\u00a0 I go, \u201cThat\u2019s headed right for us.\u201d\u00a0 Barbara kind of made fun of me\u2014she just kind of made fun of me.\u00a0 She said, \u201cYou\u2019re making much ado about nothing.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, I was in the kitchen because by the time all this had happened, it was nearly seven o\u2019clock.\u00a0 We were both starving.\u00a0 My mind, naturally, was thinking about other things; and I\u2019m trying to scrounge up some food.\u00a0 I thought, \u201cHe\u2019s just worrying about nothing.\u00a0 I mean, it\u2019s just not going to be that big a deal.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I said, \u201cWell, it may be nothing; but here\u2019s what we\u2019re going to do if that storm ends up coming our way.\u00a0 We\u2019re jumping in Santa\u2019s workshop.\u201d\u00a0 Now, Santa\u2019s workshop is a place we affectionately call this\u2014under the stairs where Barbara would hide all the presents before Christmas.\u00a0 It\u2019s the safest place in the house.\u00a0 We don\u2019t have a basement.\u00a0 In fact, our house kind of sits on a ridge; and it kind of feels like it\u2019s a golf ball on a tee.\u00a0 (Laughter)\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m watching; and I\u2019m watching this cloud get lower, and lower, and lower because you can see like 15 miles up this lake.\u00a0 You can just see it coming.\u00a0 Finally, I move from in front of the plate glass window, which was really a smart idea, near Santa\u2019s workshop.\u00a0 The trees\u2014and these are massive pines that are this big\u2014they used to be.\u00a0 They were going like this in the wind.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFinally, when one got about at this angle, I grabbed Barbara\u2019s arm and I pulled her in the workshop with me.\u00a0 We slammed the door.\u00a0 We\u2019re in the total dark.\u00a0 There was no sound.\u00a0 They always talk about the sound of a tornado hitting\u2014there was no sound, but we were there in the dark.\u00a0 Couldn\u2019t have been in there for more than 45 seconds\u201460 seconds\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong>\u00a0 No more.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You could tell that it was okay to open the door.\u00a0 We open the door, and two distinct sensations completely washed over me.\u00a0 One\u2014was the house was infused with the smell of freshly-cut pine.\u00a0 (Laughter)\u00a0 It just pushed the smell of pine into our house.\u00a0 In fact, blew dust out of the walls.\u00a0 We went around and cleaned up dust that came out of the walls.\u00a0 The other sensation was looking out our plate glass window\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong>\u00a0 Trying to look out windows.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014because there were pine trees laying in front of our window on top of our deck, on top of our roof.\u00a0 Twenty-seven trees were uprooted; and we walk around and all we can go is, \u201cWow!\u00a0 We\u2019re alive!\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 There we were as a couple surveying the storm damage from two issues\u2014her breast cancer\u2014or actually <em>our<\/em> breast cancer and\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong>\u00a0 The tornado.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014the tornado that hit our home.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe just want to share with you five take-a-ways, five lessons that we\u2019ve gained from having been through a few storms in our marriage\u2014and I know some of you are in some storms right now because that\u2019s the first lesson that we\u2019ve learned.\u00a0 Scripture forecasts storm warnings for all of us.\u00a0 There are storms on the ground.\u00a0 They are headed toward your marriage, and it\u2019s not a matter of <em>if <\/em>your home will be hit but <em>when<\/em> your home will be hit.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn our 40 years\u2014almost 40 years of marriage\u2014both of my parents have died. Barbara nearly died on four different occasions with a rapid heart rate of over 300 beats a minute.\u00a0 We had short paychecks.\u00a0 We had a son who was diagnosed with a rare form of Muscular Dystrophy and lost his ability to run\u2014was an athlete.\u00a0 We had a child who was a prodigal for a number of years.\u00a0 You know, storms have taken their toll, and storms have hit our home repeatedly; but I like to think of Jesus and what He said here.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe talks about responding to the storms with faith and obedience.\u00a0 The storms will hit.\u00a0 The question isn\u2019t <em>why<\/em> the storm has hit.\u00a0 The question is, \u201c<em>How<\/em> will you respond?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong>\u00a0 Number two:\u00a0 The storms provide an opportunity to prove your commitment.\u00a0 Storms\u2014the tornado that we went through tested the foundation of our house.\u00a0 It did not fall, and the storms will do the same in your marriage.\u00a0 Storms are there to test the commitment of your marriage, the strength of your faith in the power of God to hold you together.\u00a0 It shows what you\u2019re house was built on.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Storms give you an opportunity to give proof of the promise you two made to one another.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>Number three:\u00a0 There are two ways to handle storms.\u00a0 You can either handle the storms together as a couple, or you can handle them and suffer separately.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong>\u00a0 The thing about suffering or going through a hard time of any kind, that I think is so important to understand in a marriage, is that we handle these things very differently.\u00a0 I handle it differently because I\u2019m a woman than he does because he\u2019s a man.\u00a0 I also handle it differently because of the way I\u2019m wired psychologically as an individual than the way he handles it and the way he is wired and the way he just handles life.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think what trips up so many couples is we expect our partner\u2014we expect our spouse to handle it the way we do or, to at a minimum, to understand the way I feel; but that doesn\u2019t happen automatically.\u00a0 It only happens with conversation.\u00a0 There\u2019s a verse in Galatians that talks about bearing one another\u2019s burdens.\u00a0 I think that\u2019s the essence of what it is when you go through storms and trials.\u00a0 I need to listen and to help him bear his burdens and his difficulties, and I need him to do the same for me.\u00a0 Have compassion on one another, bear one another\u2019s burdens, and allow each other freedom to process at your own pace and in your own way.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Again, guys, you\u2019ve got to resist the urge to try to fix it.\u00a0 There are going to be some storms that you go through that are not going to be fixable.\u00a0 Cancer is one of them.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Barbara:<\/strong>\u00a0 Number four is that storms result in storm damage.\u00a0 That was really evident with the tornado because we, not only had 27 or more trees laying everywhere, our deck was demolished, and our fence was demolished.\u00a0 Uprooted trees pulled up the sidewalk and pulled up grass and just\u2014I mean it was\u2014the house miraculously was intact, but everything around the house was a disaster.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat damage had to be cleaned up, and it didn\u2019t take\u2014I mean, it wasn\u2019t done overnight.\u00a0 We had a bunch of guys come out on Saturday, after the storm on Monday.\u00a0 For probably about eight hours, we had ten men with chainsaws going.\u00a0 The key to this thing, that we\u2019ve learned, is that there is damage.\u00a0 I think we underestimate the impact of the damage that comes, <em>but<\/em> the benefit on the other side of working through all of that\u2014we have a lot more sunlight in our yard because we don\u2019t have as many trees!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe point is that we see the light more clearly, and I think in the storm that Dennis and I went through\u2014or are still probably going through, in some ways with my breast cancer, is that we see God more clearly because the storms clear out things that we think are fine.\u00a0 God wants to move things around so that we can see Him more clearly.\u00a0 So, address the damage that comes from the storms in your life.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 One other thing.\u00a0 Just as we had some guys with chainsaws come and clear out the trees, we also had some friends who came and put their arms around us and processed this, as we went through it.\u00a0 One caution here, as a couple.\u00a0 When you do begin to deal with the damage of the storm, don\u2019t go through it alone.\u00a0 The body of Christ exists to come alongside you\u2014and back to the verse Barbara quoted in Galatians 6\u2014they come alongside you to \u201cbear your burden.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNumber five:\u00a0 Storms are purposeful.\u00a0 Romans 8:28\u2014it\u2019s easy to quote that verse\u2014\u201cAll things work together for good to those who love God and are called according to His purpose.\u201d\u00a0 Do you believe that?\u00a0 It\u2019s hard to believe it in the midst of the storm, but storms can\u2014as Barbara said\u2014increase the sunlight.\u00a0 They can also\u2014storms clean out the dead wood.\u00a0 There can be increased fruit bearing, can deepen friendships; and in the process of storms, I think we can get to know God.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn Job, Chapter 42, it summarizes the end of Job\u2019s life.\u00a0 Basically, he says\u2014and this my paraphrase\u2014he said, \u201cOnce I spoke of You and kind of thought of You; but as a result of everything I\u2019ve been through, now, I know You.\u00a0 Now, I experience You.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe storms that we go through\u2014if you respond according to what Jesus said back in Matthew, Chapter 7, in faith and obedience, will put you in touch with Him, and you\u2019ll learn a side to God where you\u2019ll fall more and more in love with Him.\u00a0 I think one of the purposes of storms in life\u2014as we look back over our lives and there\u2019s a bunch of storms we didn\u2019t list here\u2014storms wean us from this world.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThey remind us that this is great here\u2014I mean the Caribbean blue, the beauty of God\u2019s creation, at night the stars without any ambient light of the city around\u2014it\u2019s spectacular, but you and I were just made for here for a moment.\u00a0 He went to prepare a place for us so that we could be there also.\u00a0 Those storms are preparing for us an opportunity to suffer in faith and obedience, follow Jesus Christ, and ultimately, build your house on the rock.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want Barbara to pray for you, but I just want to read this again because you and I do not know what the next phone call brings.\u00a0 We don\u2019t know what the next doctor\u2019s report will be\u2014perhaps, in the midst of troubling economic times, some challenges financially\u2014but Jesus\u2019 words, a <em>summary<\/em> of the greatest sermon He ever gave said this: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cEveryone, then, who hears these words of mine and does them, will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock.\u00a0 The rain fell, the floods came, the winds blew and beat on that house; but it did not fall because it had been founded on the rock.\u00a0 Everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand.\u00a0 The rain fell, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house; and it fell, and great was its fall.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBe a house builder on the rock.\u00a0 Don\u2019t wait for the storm to hit to build your home; build on the rock today, so when the storms hit, they will reveal what kind of foundation you have established.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Song:\u00a0 <em>Ready for the Storm<\/em>]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Oh I am ready for the storm<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Yes sir ready<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>I am ready for the storm<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Ready for the storm<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 [Studio] We have been listening to Dennis and Barbara Rainey sharing about some of the storms in marriage.\u00a0 The good news is, as you were sharing it, we had calm seas and blue skies.\u00a0 We had great weather this year onboard the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise.\u00a0 This was just a couple of weeks ago as we were gathered with about a thousand couples who joined us.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe ship was completely full, and I know you talked to a lot of folks that morning who said, \u201cWe\u2019ve had some\u201d\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014\u201cissues of our own that we\u2019ve had to lean on each other and lean on the Lord for.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 After one of the sessions, one couple came up, Brian and Cindy Kelley.\u00a0 They said, \u201cWould you honor our parents?\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cWell, what\u2019s up?\u201d\u00a0 They said, \u201cWell, both my wife\u2019s parents and my parents are here on the cruise.\u00a0 They\u2019re both celebrating 50 years of marriage.\u00a0 They both got married on the same day in the same year, \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t50 years ago.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Wow.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 A lot of people come to the <em>Love Like You Mean It Cruise<\/em> to celebrate a significant milestone anniversary.\u00a0 For Bob and Geri Kelley from Chapman, Nebraska, and Clarence and Marsha Sorenfeld from Loup City, Nebraska\u2014I don\u2019t know where either one of those communities are\u2014congratulations for 50 years of marriage <em>and<\/em> for celebrating your anniversary with us on the <em>Love Like You Mean It Cruise<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I don\u2019t know if there was snow on the ground in Nebraska when the families left to come down and join us\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know there was.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014in Miami.\u00a0 It was interesting how many folks had come from some pretty cold climates.\u00a0 We had a great week weather-wise, a great line-up of speakers, and some great music.\u00a0 We\u2019re making plans for 2013 already.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou and Barbara are going to be on the cruise.\u00a0 Mary Ann and I are going to be on.\u00a0 Voddie Baucham is going to join us again.\u00a0 Dr. Eric Mason will be with us.\u00a0 We\u2019ve got Sara Groves lined up\u2014Anthony Evans, Priscilla Shirer.\u00a0 Ron Deal is going to be there to do a break-out for blended couples, couples who are in a blended marriage.\u00a0 It\u2019s a great line-up, and it\u2019s a great event.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019d love to have you be a part the 2013 <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise when it sets sail from Miami.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to Key West and Cozumel before we come back home.\u00a0 You can get more information about how you can be a part of the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 Just click on the link you see for the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise.\u00a0 Again, the website is FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs I mentioned, our team has put together a special offer, for this week and next week, for <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners.\u00a0 If you want to take advantage of that special offer\u2014save a little money\u2014go to FamilyLifeToday.com today and get all the information about how you can be a part of the cruise in 2013.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, I want to encourage you to be back with us tomorrow.\u00a0 We are going to hear what Voddie Baucham had to share Wednesday morning on the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> marriage cruise.\u00a0 He did devotions for everybody onboard and talked about forgiveness.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to hear his message tomorrow.\u00a0 Hope you can tune in for that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp for today.\u00a0 Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a9Song:\u00a0\u00a0 <em>Let the Wind Blow<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Artist:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 The Imperials\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Album:\u00a0 <em>Let the Wind Blow<\/em>\u00a0\u2117 1985, Word, Incorporated\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a9Song:\u00a0 <em>Ready for the Storm<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Artist:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Rich 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